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Hello and welcome to pickleball Therapy,
the podcast dedicated to

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your pickle improvement.

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Hope you're having a great week.

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Came back from July fourth up in New York.

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Got to check out some Major
League pickleball Action.

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It was very fun.

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Got to go see some art.
That was amazing.

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Obviously, the food, you're in New York.
What's up?

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It's a great place.

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But back in the saddle
this week with a podcast.

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I think you're really going to enjoy that
we're going to explore the root cause of

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what I think is a lot of what happens to
us on the pickleball court, and not just

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us, what happens to other players so we
can understand them better and have a

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little more empathy for
what's going on there.

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And then in the Riff, I am going to talk
about something that happened

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at Major League pickleball.

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It has to do with the distraction that
I saw take place early in the match.

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And just talk about distraction
in general with this as our story.

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That'll lock it down for us.

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Another housekeeping note,
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student or alumni, be on the look out.

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You're going to receive an email that's
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new program that we have on the TPS path.

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It's basically TPS 2.
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It's the next step in that process.

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So if you're ready for that and want to
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and you're going to get an email inviting
you to a session where I'm going to

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explain it to you and give you some
additional coaching content, some

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ways of thinking about the game,
really deep stuff, interesting stuff.

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We've been sharing it with some players
recently on one-on-ones

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and things like that.

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And I think it's really
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It's really helping them frame out the
sport in a more productive way that's

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going to help them with their continuing
development them in as pickleball players.

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And then the last piece of housekeeping
here that I have is about the book.

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I wanted to give you
an update on the book.

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So the team, Jeff, one of your fellow
players and listeners to the podcast and

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just friend of ours, is helping us
get this across the finish line.

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He and David and Michelle and Alan and the
whole team is in there

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working on it, Penny.

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And so we are making some really
good progress in the final steps.

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You would think the editing would be
quick on a book like this, but it's not.

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And I mean that in a very good way,
meaning the final product is going to be

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way better than the first and even second
draft because of the feedback of the the

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team able to really
flesh out some concepts a little bit

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better and present them in a way that's
really going to make that

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much more of a difference.

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We're still planning for a launch this
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of third quarter here.

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That's what we're hoping for.

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So be on the lookout for that, and I'll
keep on sharing you updates on that.

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All right, so let's talk about the root
cause of what I think is a lot of our

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difficulty sometimes, or our difficulty in
processing things on the court as well as

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our opponents and friends,
other players on the court.

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And that premise, or that root
cause, I should say, is insecurity.

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Plane and simple.
Just Security.

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And how it manifestsends, and
we're going to explore that.

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But when you think about...

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Let's talk first about us, right?

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When we miss a shot, when we pop the ball
up, when we miss a serve, when we

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think that we lost the game
for our partner, right?

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Things like that.

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Just think about that for a second, right?

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Why do we feel the way we feel then?

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Why do we react so negatively to what
is objectively not that big of a deal?

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When you miss a serve, is it great?
No.

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Do you want it?
No.

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Is it part of the deal?
Yes.

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Is it going to happen from
time to time to human beings?

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Yes.
Do the pros miss their serves?

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Yes.

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Objectively, it's just
not that big a deal.

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But why do we sometimes
feel so bad about it?

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Why do we feel like
the world's watching us?

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The cameras are on, the
spotlights are on us.

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Everybody's pointing or things like that.

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It's just insecurity.
It's our insecurity.

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Insecurity.

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We feel that our worth in that moment is
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shot or the outcome of that match.

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That's what says,
you are a worthwhile member of our

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group, or conversely, you're not.

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You missed the shot.

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You didn't perform, whatever it is.

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Insecurity.
And then also on how others behave.

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Excuse me for one second here.

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Apologies.

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Had a little bit of allergies,
you're kicking in a little bit.

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But think about your
opponents and your friends, right?

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When you have those situations
that escalate, an out call, right?

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An out call, a lot of times, it's
just insecurity by both sides.

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And what I mean by that is you hit
the ball, you think it was in, right?

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You think they called it out wrongly.

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But instead of just accepting the call and
moving on, It's now it becomes this

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personal debate between you and the other
player or them and you,

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whatever, whoever's debating it.

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And it then escalates.

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And I would submit to you, partly
because of insecurity, right?

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Because who cares?

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I just did a video breakdown, and I
wanted to try something different.

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So I did...
It's an unfiltered breakdown, literally.

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I put a match on that I played in,
but I played in a few weeks ago.

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I don't remember the details of it, and I
just analyzed it as I went, just cold, not

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studying it, cutting it,
things like that, right?

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Very raw.
I thought it was super cool.

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I think it came out really well.

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There's some really good
teaching points in it.

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But one of the things I noted in there was
Actually, it was back-to-back rallies

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where there was balls that were close.

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It could have been in,
could have been out.

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But I reminded the viewer there.

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I'm like, Guys, this is a wreck.

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We're hanging out, we're playing, we're
having fun with our friends, whatever.

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Move on.

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Just Give them the benefit of the doubt
and just move on, which

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is the rule anyway.
But just carry on.

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Let's go.

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You'll see if you watch the video on
Andrew Picker when it

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drops, that's what we did.

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There was a little bit of a couple of
players who were maybe not newer, but

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We want to play a little bit newer, so
maybe a little more, but

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we're just like, It's fine.
It's no big deal.

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Let's carry on.

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It's just a better way of addressing those
things and not letting them escalate.

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But when you look at...

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Another area that's very common is you
have the area of

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a player asking to play in another group.

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So you're out there, you're playing with
your friends and whatever, and then you

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have someone who you don't know or someone
from another court that you may know an

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acquaintance or someone you've seen comes
over and ask if they can join or if they

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can put their paddle down
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That interaction is just
boiling, it's simmering, I should

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say, simmering with insecurity there.

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So obviously, if you say, Yeah, of course.

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If you come in and join us, then that
insecurity is going to be fine

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because it's not triggered.

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But if you suggest that it's a closed
group, or if you suggest that for some

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reason no or whatever, the reaction is
probably not going to be a good reaction.

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And Why?
Why not?

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Insecurity.

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Also, whenever you have a debate or a
conversation about the way you play the

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game, meaning
someone on the court is doing something in

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a way that another player
doesn't think is how you do it.

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And so there's a suggestion.

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Let's assume the suggestion is absolutely
correct, 100% correct, and no question

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that it's incorrect, which
isn't often the case.

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But let's assume that that's
correct advice being given.

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A lot of times, the reaction to that
advice is driven by insecurity

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of the player receiving it.

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And listen, you don't have to
take advice from another player.

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You can say, I'm not interested.

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You don't have to receive it.
That's fine.

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If you have your reasons for
not receiving it, that's great.

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But if it's driven by insecurity, maybe
that's worth exploring some.

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Thinking about, maybe
it's just insecurity.

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And what's interesting is, insecurity
applies to both men and women.

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It's not specific to a group.

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But I do think that it
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It may be felt more by the female player.

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I'm not a female player, so I can't speak
to that, but just based on

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my observations anecdotally, whatever,
they may be more aware of it, I guess.

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Being not comfortable asking a thing or
feeling bad about

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themselves, about their play.

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I have had feedback like that, right?

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That leads me to this conclusion.

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But I will tell you that I think for male
players, the insecurity might actually be

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more of an impediment
because for male players, 10, in my

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experience anyway, what I've seen is not
to acknowledge the insecurity, not

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not deal with it head-on.

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So when you see a fight
on the courts, it's...

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I mean, women do fight on the courts.

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I'm not saying that
they're not fights, right?

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But who fights more on the court?

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And why, right?

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And I'm going to submit to you, I think
some of it anyway is insecurity, right?

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As a guy, we don't want to feel like
we're less than or we're being

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We're challenged or we're being...

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And that's also insecurity.

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It's an interesting concept.

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There's still something that I'm playing
around in my mind in terms of trying

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to articulate it and put it together.

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Not articulate it because I'm doing that
now, but put it together

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in a more cohesive manner.

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But I wanted to share with you because
what I've been seeing, I've been

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processing through that filter.

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Is that insecurity?
What about that one?

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What about that one?

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And a lot of times I'm finding the
answer is yes, or more likely, yes.

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And so what that helps
me then with is empathy.

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Because now, if I
see a behavior and I go, You know what?

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I can understand that behavior better
than I could have had I not processed it.

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Because if it's insecurity, then I'm not
going to get upset at the person, right?

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And I'll give you guys
a quick story, right?

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I'll muddle it up and up so there's...

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I don't know how am I going to
name names and stuff like that.

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But basically, It's a situation where a
group of players, another player wants

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to come over and put the paddle in.

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It's a closed group, and
it becomes uncomfortable for the

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player asking and for the other player.

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The dynamic is then there's an exchange
of ratings and all these other things.

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And not criticizing any of the actors in
this, it's a perfectly natural exchange

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between sentient beings who don't know
each other and they're trying to interact.

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But when I thought about it, I go,
I can't imagine the insecurity or the

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feelings of insecurity of the player
coming over to ask, particularly this

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group, is a good group
of players, whatever.

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So it elevates the temperature is
elevated in that situation already.

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So when there's a
little bit of a pushback or a question or

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whatever, then it can
devolve pretty quickly.

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And when I think about it, I
think, Okay, was that insecurity?

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But the immediate answer is yes.

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And then it becomes easier to
diffuse the thinking about it, to not get

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upset about the way it panned out
because you understand the root cause.

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Anyway, hopefully that'll help you with
understanding yourself a little bit

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better, Ask that question about yourself
and ask your question about others.

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All right, let's dive into the RIF.

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So the RIF is something that happened
during Major League pickleball,

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and it happened in a match.

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It was the Orlando squeeze against
the Brooklyn pickleball Ball team.

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It was a mixed doubles match.

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It was Riley Newman, and I can't
remember if it was Jackie or Jay Kalmata.

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I can't remember which of the Kalmata
sisters was on the team, but one of the

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Kalmata sisters against Dylan
Frazier and Samantha Parker.

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What happened was this.

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So it was early in the
match or in the game.

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I don't remember if it was like
1-0 or 1-1, something like that.

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It was very early.

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And Riley Newman hit an ernie,
and it was close.

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And the close wasn't
stepping in the non-bolish.

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The close was whether you hit it
before or after it cleared the net.

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So the rule, if you don't know what it is,
you're not allowed to hit the ball

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on the other side of the net, so you have
to wait till it gets to your side of the

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net, unless the ball bounces on your
side first and then goes over the net.

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So if it spins and goes
back, which is very rare.

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It happened to me one
time, I got it on video.

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I'll tell you that story another day.

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But basically, that's
the only exception to it.

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So you have to wait till the ball crosses
the net before you hit

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it, the plane of the net.
And it did look like it was...

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And it was close on the replay.
I'll explain in a second.

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But, Reilly jumped and hit the
ball very close to the net.

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So was it on his side
or on the other side?

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It's a question.

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No fault was called.

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And so that would have been, and I
believe it was a point or side-out.

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I'm not sure.

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Now, the captain of the team, Federico
Saxer, excellent player in

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his own right and everything.

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He's sitting around the net.

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Now, remember, he's not playing.

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It's Dylan and Samantha are playing.

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And he's not sure what happened.

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So he asked the ref, which he's
allowed to do an MLP as the captain.

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There's nothing wrong with that question.

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Then the ref said no or didn't
see anything to call a fault.

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And then Federico basically challenged it.

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That's the way I saw
the way it played out.

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Federico challenges it.

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So now we have a challenge of a potential
net violation by Reilly Newman

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early in a mixed doubles match.

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And it was an It's an important mix-up as
a match because, as I

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recall, Atlanta was down 2-1.

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So if they lose this one,
they lose the whole match.

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And so you could see Dylan and
Samantha come off, but it's confusing.

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The vibe is off.
It's just weird.

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The dynamic is weird.

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Plus, you're challenging
a call on Reilly Newman.

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Now, you can challenge calls on anybody.
I don't have a problem with that.

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But you got to know your
audience a little bit.

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Read the room.

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Riley is a Reilly feeds off of
controversial interactions.

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He feeds off of noise.

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He loves it.

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If you want to chatter with
him, he'll eat that up.

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He's going to enjoy that.

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And it gives him energy.

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And so what ends up happening is
the call is there's no violation.

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And it was very close, okay?

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So it was like he was maybe four
inches from the net.

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I mean, he was very close to the net when
he hit the shot, but

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he hit it on his side.
Very close.

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Two frames of the ball, I think.
Very close.

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So they win that.

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And so now what you've done is you have
empowered, energized your opponent, right?

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Because he likes it anyway, and
then he wanted it on top of it.

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So it's like, okay, it's a nightmare.

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And we've disrupted Samantha
and Dylan and their flow.

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And MLP is one game to 11,
and that's the whole game.

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You don't get two games.
You don't get time to recover.

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And they end losing.

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Now, did they lose because of that?
I don't know.

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I can't say that, right?

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But I can say this.

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Did that decision to challenge that call
at one, zero, or one, one hurt them?

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I believe the answer to
that is yes, it hurt them.

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Even if the call had been overturned,
it interrupted what was happening,

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their flow, and it wasn't
worth the cost of doing it.

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And the reason I I share that with you is
not because you're going to be challenging

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calls and replays and things like that in
your game, but the same exact thing

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happens on out-call disputes,
on score disputes, or score challenges,

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serve illegal serve disputes,
any of those types of things.

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Right?

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Mvc violations like, Oh, did
you step into the kitchen?

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Right?
Stuff like that.

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All of those things
interrupt what's happening.

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There's a flow to what's happening, right?

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And they just throw a
monkey wrench into that.

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Potentially impacting your play,
distracting you as well, because now

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you're thinking about, Wait a minute,
that can't be right because...

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Let's play with the scoring for a second.

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That's a common one, right?

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The score gets called out, whatever,
and you think it's a different score.

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First of all, our advice there is just to
play on and fix it later, because

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there's just no reason to stop a rally.

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But okay, so you have a conversation and
you're not 100% sure, but you're pretty

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sure, and they're thinking they're pretty
sure, and you're pretty

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sure, and whatever.

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And so you're like, Okay,
let's play on then, whatever.

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But now your brain is on this
whole like, Wait a minute.

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But I remember that
John started serving the whole match.

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So he's the even server.

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And it was Peggy was
serving from the thing.

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And your brain is just
so preoccupied with this stuff.

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How are you hitting a ball?

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How are you getting to the right spot?

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How are you reading the How
are you reading the rallies?

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I don't know.
No, because your brain's busy.

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You got your brain working
on some other stuff.

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And I hate to tell you, but there's always
so much that you can do up there without

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taking for something else.

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So you're removing your bandwidth from
what's important, which is playing as

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best you can, performing as best you can.

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And I'm going to give you an even more
important one in a second,

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but that's important.

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And you're devoting it to
the John Surfer or the Peggy Surfer.

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I don't remember exactly, but
let me think about it a second.

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Let me just play that all in my head.

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Who cares?
Whether it's 8,7 or 7,8.

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Let's carry on.

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You're not 100 %.

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You can't make your case
quickly or whatever.

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They think it's the other score.

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Who knows?
Move on.

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So
there's the performance issue of having

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your bandwidth taken over,
but there's also an enjoyment

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issue, which is even bigger.

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Because now what you've done is now you've
created this A tension

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between you and your friends
about something that who cares?

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Alcohol, who cares?

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Score thing, who cares?

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And I've been guilty of this core thing.
I'll tell you that.

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I don't do it too often, but I have a
couple of moments where

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I question the score, ask a
question, and then I feel bad.

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And then I feel bad with my
friend because I'm like, Why am I?

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And then after the game, I'm
always like, I'm sorry, whatever.

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But why am I creating that situation?

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So it just doesn't make sense to create
that situation that's not really conducive

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to why you're there anyway, which is to
have a good time, hit some balls, move

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around a little bit,
perform the best you can.

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So what I would suggest you is this.

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Am I suggesting never
to challenge anything?

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No, not necessarily.

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It's fine not to.

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What I am suggesting to you is this.

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Sway it appropriately.

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Before you go out there and
shoot off your mouth with some challenge

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thing or whatever, process it for a
second and say, Is it really worth it?

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Is the juice worth the squeeze
that I'm going to get out of this?

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The answer is, I'm going to bet you 99% of
the time, the answer is going to be no,

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it's not worth the squeeze
because there's really no...

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You gameplay it a little
bit, it's not good.

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Now, if there's a question about the score
and you can give your idea, that's fine.

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If they're not sure and you're not sure
and you're working through it,

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that's a different conversation.

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I'm talking about where they're like,
Score is 9-8, and you're like, No, it's

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not because back in 1973,
here's what happened.

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Something like that.

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Again, you do you, but my recommendation
would be both in terms of your performance

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and your enjoyment, you're probably going
to be better off not proceeding with that,

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even if you're right, and even if it costs
you the game, because at the end of

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the day, is that why you're out there?

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All right, that's this week's podcast.

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I hope you enjoyed it.

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It's a pleasure to be back in the
seat giving this information to you.

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As always, if you have a minute to rate
and review it, please do so and

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share with your friends, folks.

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It'll make a difference in their game
because hopefully, it's making

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a difference in your game.

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See, I did a little bit different there.

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Have a great week, and I'll see you next
time on the next episode

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of Think About Therapy.
Be well.