1 00:00:00,133 --> 00:00:02,602 Who are you? 2 00:00:02,602 --> 00:00:03,036 Well. 3 00:00:03,036 --> 00:00:05,839 Hello there. 4 00:00:05,839 --> 00:00:07,374 Man, this is kind of fun, you know? 5 00:00:07,374 --> 00:00:09,576 Hanging out here in the studio together with you, Joyce. 6 00:00:09,576 --> 00:00:12,412 And we're excited. And we're excited. You're here with us as well. 7 00:00:12,412 --> 00:00:13,646 Yeah, absolutely. 8 00:00:13,646 --> 00:00:15,181 That guy is John Seville. 9 00:00:15,181 --> 00:00:18,651 Who? Yeah, this. Is Joyce Logan. 10 00:00:18,752 --> 00:00:22,622 But a lot of people know you as, caddy man. 11 00:00:22,756 --> 00:00:24,657 Yep. John Cadillac Seville, caddy man. 12 00:00:24,657 --> 00:00:27,660 My wife calls me other names, which I really can't repeat. But. 13 00:00:29,062 --> 00:00:31,631 How many radio stations are you on right now? 14 00:00:31,631 --> 00:00:33,366 Multiple stations for iHeart right now. 15 00:00:33,366 --> 00:00:35,702 Wherever they need me, I just kind of go play. 16 00:00:35,702 --> 00:00:36,736 It could be a top 40. 17 00:00:36,736 --> 00:00:37,504 It could be country, 18 00:00:37,504 --> 00:00:41,207 it could be classic as I just love music and doing this long time. 19 00:00:41,207 --> 00:00:44,577 Joyce, you know, you and I met, you know, years ago in WPLG in New Haven. 20 00:00:44,611 --> 00:00:45,945 We did, we did. Yeah. 21 00:00:45,945 --> 00:00:49,749 So a little bit of background about us like like who are these people. 22 00:00:50,183 --> 00:00:55,088 So John and I have known each other since I think 1982. 23 00:00:55,655 --> 00:00:57,724 And we were at to you. 24 00:00:57,724 --> 00:00:59,592 Like many years ago. 25 00:01:02,462 --> 00:01:03,963 And we just hit it off. 26 00:01:03,963 --> 00:01:04,297 We did. 27 00:01:04,297 --> 00:01:06,266 And we can go years without seeing each other 28 00:01:06,266 --> 00:01:08,768 and we just hit it off again. 29 00:01:08,768 --> 00:01:11,771 So we found out that we had something in common 30 00:01:11,771 --> 00:01:14,774 with the way we speak with people. 31 00:01:15,175 --> 00:01:18,845 And so I've always had a dual career 32 00:01:18,845 --> 00:01:22,282 and public relations and, and wellness. 33 00:01:22,916 --> 00:01:26,719 So I have a private practice where I help people, 34 00:01:27,020 --> 00:01:30,256 a lot of people with anxieties and phobias and things like that. 35 00:01:30,690 --> 00:01:33,093 And when people would come in, 36 00:01:33,093 --> 00:01:36,629 they want to share with you everything that's wrong in their life. 37 00:01:37,330 --> 00:01:39,666 So I started to switch that around and 38 00:01:39,666 --> 00:01:43,203 welcome them in and say, so tell me what's good, what's good. 39 00:01:43,503 --> 00:01:45,905 But John does the same thing. 40 00:01:45,905 --> 00:01:48,908 You were like the, the, the mayor. 41 00:01:49,209 --> 00:01:50,610 You're like the town council. 42 00:01:50,610 --> 00:01:53,613 Wherever you go, people gravitate towards you. 43 00:01:53,613 --> 00:01:56,382 And you always say something like, if it's a guy like, 44 00:01:56,382 --> 00:01:57,684 so what's good, brother, right? 45 00:01:57,684 --> 00:01:59,452 Don't you. Yeah. You want to correct people. 46 00:01:59,452 --> 00:02:02,222 So because people go to the negative naturally. 47 00:02:02,222 --> 00:02:05,725 And there's so much negativity out there it's like they say bad news cells 48 00:02:05,725 --> 00:02:06,092 and all that. 49 00:02:06,092 --> 00:02:09,362 And I don't necessarily you know by that I believe that one step at a time. 50 00:02:09,362 --> 00:02:11,798 Maybe it's Pollyanna on my part of Kumbaya. 51 00:02:11,798 --> 00:02:14,400 But I believe that we can make a difference one person at a time. 52 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:16,603 So when I'm at the gym or the coffee shop, 53 00:02:16,603 --> 00:02:18,571 I'm not going to be like looking at my phone. 54 00:02:18,571 --> 00:02:21,274 I'm going to be looking around to see who I could talk to. 55 00:02:21,274 --> 00:02:21,708 Yeah. 56 00:02:21,708 --> 00:02:24,110 And I'll look around and say, you so what's good today? 57 00:02:24,110 --> 00:02:26,913 And people have to think about that because they're not used to that. 58 00:02:26,913 --> 00:02:29,048 Yeah. You just made their break a lot. Right. 59 00:02:29,048 --> 00:02:30,450 But if you say like how you doing. 60 00:02:30,450 --> 00:02:33,853 Oh you know, same old same old another day another dollar. 61 00:02:33,853 --> 00:02:36,122 Yeah. Let's not go down that rabbit hole. 62 00:02:36,122 --> 00:02:37,524 Let's focus on what's good. 63 00:02:37,524 --> 00:02:40,126 And then all of a sudden that person's mood is elevated. 64 00:02:40,126 --> 00:02:42,962 And then they in part do that to someone else. 65 00:02:42,962 --> 00:02:45,298 And you have the domino effect of life, right? 66 00:02:45,298 --> 00:02:48,301 So one by one you can make a difference in people's lives. 67 00:02:48,835 --> 00:02:50,603 Especially in your own life. 68 00:02:50,603 --> 00:02:51,571 You know, just, you know, 69 00:02:51,571 --> 00:02:55,708 be aware of your words because your words really, truly shape, 70 00:02:56,743 --> 00:02:57,610 your day, 71 00:02:57,610 --> 00:03:00,613 your life and who you bring into your life. 72 00:03:01,014 --> 00:03:04,317 So even if you're not feeling it, 73 00:03:04,484 --> 00:03:07,520 focus on something that does make you feel good. 74 00:03:07,620 --> 00:03:08,021 That's right. 75 00:03:08,021 --> 00:03:12,258 And then you'll notice that, there's like a big shift that happens. 76 00:03:12,292 --> 00:03:15,628 There is I mean, we live in a world that's full of vibrations. Yes. 77 00:03:15,628 --> 00:03:17,730 And if we can go out there like the Beach Boys song, you know, good. 78 00:03:17,730 --> 00:03:19,165 And bring out those good vibrations. 79 00:03:19,165 --> 00:03:21,234 I'm dating myself. I need some. Music. 80 00:03:21,234 --> 00:03:23,736 Yeah, I don't, we just can't, you know, like. 81 00:03:23,736 --> 00:03:25,205 Like we're working on that right now. 82 00:03:25,205 --> 00:03:27,607 We're kind of low budget at the moment, but we're good, we're good. 83 00:03:27,607 --> 00:03:28,741 We're going to work on that. 84 00:03:28,741 --> 00:03:30,210 And that must cost a lot for people. 85 00:03:30,210 --> 00:03:33,213 Play music on TV because they usually don't. 86 00:03:33,213 --> 00:03:36,182 Yeah, they have to pay like, you know, they have copyright laws, right? 87 00:03:36,382 --> 00:03:38,051 We could hum it. You're a singer. 88 00:03:38,051 --> 00:03:40,220 We can have an apple. Oh, I can't imagine. 89 00:03:40,220 --> 00:03:41,487 You want to keep our audience. 90 00:03:41,487 --> 00:03:43,923 You know what we what we always hear. You guys are way. 91 00:03:43,923 --> 00:03:44,791 No way. 92 00:03:44,791 --> 00:03:45,725 We're going to have somebody soon. 93 00:03:45,725 --> 00:03:47,293 We're going to get somebody with so much talent 94 00:03:47,293 --> 00:03:49,262 here in the Connecticut marketplace and beyond. 95 00:03:49,262 --> 00:03:51,965 Yeah, that's. Just some of those musicians to come out and sing. 96 00:03:51,965 --> 00:03:54,801 But again, you know, the whole premise of our show again, 97 00:03:54,801 --> 00:03:57,537 in case you're just tuning in, what's good with John and Joyce? 98 00:03:57,537 --> 00:04:00,540 It's just something we we just want to bring something positive to the world. 99 00:04:00,974 --> 00:04:03,543 Because every time you look anywhere, it's all negative. 100 00:04:03,543 --> 00:04:07,313 And some people say, well, negative sells, but I think positive can sell, too. 101 00:04:07,347 --> 00:04:09,249 It's all about how you present it. 102 00:04:09,249 --> 00:04:10,950 It's all about how you present it. 103 00:04:10,950 --> 00:04:16,055 And if anyone has waited in the doctor's office or a grocery line lately. 104 00:04:16,089 --> 00:04:17,156 Yeah. 105 00:04:17,156 --> 00:04:20,627 Oh my lord, it's it's full of 106 00:04:21,461 --> 00:04:23,730 never mind the politics 107 00:04:23,730 --> 00:04:26,733 or the price of whatever eggs. 108 00:04:26,899 --> 00:04:29,502 Yeah. Could be the weather. Yeah. 109 00:04:29,502 --> 00:04:33,373 And so put the weather is always going to change, doesn't it? 110 00:04:33,373 --> 00:04:36,009 Doesn't it get cold where we live? It doesn't. Matter. I'm in New England. 111 00:04:36,009 --> 00:04:38,111 They say if you don't like the weather, wait a minute. Right, right. 112 00:04:38,111 --> 00:04:41,314 But there's this common thread where people gather, 113 00:04:41,914 --> 00:04:44,851 and I think that's been their calling card for a long time. 114 00:04:44,851 --> 00:04:45,151 Right. 115 00:04:45,151 --> 00:04:50,089 Like, I can relate to you because we both hate this, right? 116 00:04:50,423 --> 00:04:53,192 How about if you both loved something? 117 00:04:53,192 --> 00:04:57,163 Yes. And I think if we start that and we're going to start that with you 118 00:04:57,163 --> 00:05:01,434 because you're going to help us with this, you know, form that thread of, 119 00:05:02,602 --> 00:05:04,337 hey, I'm alive today. 120 00:05:04,337 --> 00:05:07,940 If you have eyes that you can see, legs that you could walk. 121 00:05:07,940 --> 00:05:11,210 And if you can talk, if even if you have one of those things, 122 00:05:11,744 --> 00:05:14,414 you could be ahead of the game because you're still on Earth. 123 00:05:14,414 --> 00:05:17,250 If we're still on Earth, we're here for a purpose. 124 00:05:17,250 --> 00:05:19,952 We're here to help each other. 125 00:05:19,952 --> 00:05:21,154 We're here to serve. 126 00:05:21,154 --> 00:05:23,389 We're here to uplift. 127 00:05:23,389 --> 00:05:28,294 And I think that's been lost along the way, probably because of things 128 00:05:28,294 --> 00:05:32,465 like social media, which is great in one way and the other way. 129 00:05:32,465 --> 00:05:36,969 It allows people to gaggle together and just complain, complain, complain. 130 00:05:37,470 --> 00:05:41,941 And we want to be the show where you can tune in to 131 00:05:41,941 --> 00:05:45,578 and you're going to hear what's good, and you're going to start thinking 132 00:05:45,578 --> 00:05:47,280 about what's good in your life or. 133 00:05:47,280 --> 00:05:49,382 The old phrases, you know, misery loves company. 134 00:05:49,382 --> 00:05:51,751 Yeah, but misery hates to lose company even more. 135 00:05:53,052 --> 00:05:53,419 Yeah. 136 00:05:53,419 --> 00:05:55,822 I remember somebody saying that to me once before. 137 00:05:55,822 --> 00:05:57,290 Oh, yeah? Yeah. 138 00:05:57,290 --> 00:05:58,858 But again, I find that 139 00:05:58,858 --> 00:06:02,862 when I'm chatting with people a lot, they're gravitating toward the positive. 140 00:06:02,862 --> 00:06:06,566 When you do say something positive, you compliment somebody and make it sincere. 141 00:06:06,699 --> 00:06:06,899 Yeah. 142 00:06:06,899 --> 00:06:10,336 Because people can, you know, they they can spot a phony in a heartbeat. 143 00:06:10,703 --> 00:06:13,639 But if you really look for something in each and every person to compliment 144 00:06:13,639 --> 00:06:17,410 and be sincere about it, it can it can change their whole day. Yes. 145 00:06:17,410 --> 00:06:19,545 So that's something that I know we do innately. 146 00:06:19,545 --> 00:06:20,646 We've done that for a long time. 147 00:06:20,646 --> 00:06:21,681 It's kind of like our fabric. 148 00:06:21,681 --> 00:06:24,484 But I think I think people are good by nature. 149 00:06:24,484 --> 00:06:25,451 I think so. Too. 150 00:06:25,451 --> 00:06:26,319 I think people sometimes 151 00:06:26,319 --> 00:06:30,323 listen to a different voice, but I think, you know, people, are good by nature. 152 00:06:30,523 --> 00:06:30,890 Yeah. 153 00:06:30,890 --> 00:06:34,060 And that's a good thing to remember because a lot of people have said 154 00:06:34,394 --> 00:06:36,763 people are evil by nature, and I don't believe that. 155 00:06:36,763 --> 00:06:38,131 No at. All. 156 00:06:38,131 --> 00:06:41,934 I think we're created by our we are, you know, our creator to be to be good. 157 00:06:42,368 --> 00:06:45,004 But then as we get into the world, you know, 158 00:06:45,004 --> 00:06:48,541 sometimes we listen to those disparate voices. Yes. 159 00:06:48,741 --> 00:06:51,611 You know, I hear my mom's voice a lot. 160 00:06:51,611 --> 00:06:53,946 And of course. I love the way you speak about your mom. 161 00:06:53,946 --> 00:06:55,314 And I love my mother. 162 00:06:55,314 --> 00:06:57,283 You know, when I was a teenager, I didn't, though. 163 00:06:57,283 --> 00:07:00,253 I thought she was, you know. Oh, every every every teenager. 164 00:07:00,253 --> 00:07:01,421 Yeah. I really did. 165 00:07:01,421 --> 00:07:04,690 And it wasn't until, you know, a little later on that I thought, wow, 166 00:07:05,057 --> 00:07:08,594 this woman was she was a genius because she wasn't really 167 00:07:08,594 --> 00:07:10,096 she wasn't college educated. 168 00:07:10,096 --> 00:07:15,234 She, you know, she had immigrant parents from Austria and, 169 00:07:15,935 --> 00:07:18,438 they had learned to speak some English and, you know, 170 00:07:18,438 --> 00:07:21,441 and all of that, but boy, did she have wisdom. 171 00:07:21,808 --> 00:07:23,276 And she used to say, 172 00:07:24,310 --> 00:07:25,077 if you 173 00:07:25,077 --> 00:07:28,448 like something about someone, tell them, 174 00:07:28,848 --> 00:07:33,352 because a lot of people think it and they don't say it, she said. 175 00:07:33,352 --> 00:07:38,024 So if someone's wearing a shirt that you like, say you like this shirt. 176 00:07:38,024 --> 00:07:42,595 Yeah, tell them because you probably make them feel good on top of it. 177 00:07:42,595 --> 00:07:46,432 But on the other hand, if someone says to you, hey, 178 00:07:46,432 --> 00:07:50,203 I really like that top you're wearing, don't ever say this old thing, right? 179 00:07:50,203 --> 00:07:51,370 Right. 180 00:07:51,370 --> 00:07:53,105 Say take it with grace. 181 00:07:53,105 --> 00:07:55,408 Take it with take it with grace. 182 00:07:55,408 --> 00:07:57,276 And say also that. 183 00:07:57,276 --> 00:08:01,047 Yeah, I like it too, because that's why I bought it, you know, because I liked it. 184 00:08:01,214 --> 00:08:01,948 But so many times 185 00:08:01,948 --> 00:08:05,551 people do not compliment others because they feel it makes them vulnerable 186 00:08:06,152 --> 00:08:07,153 or whatever it may be. 187 00:08:07,153 --> 00:08:09,922 But when you're compliment, somebody might be the only nice thing. 188 00:08:09,922 --> 00:08:11,624 They hear that they don't assume, 189 00:08:11,624 --> 00:08:14,927 oh, that person's pretty or that person gets compliments all the time. 190 00:08:15,795 --> 00:08:19,065 Don't don't assume it, you know, be free with your praise. 191 00:08:19,265 --> 00:08:22,702 Yes, because when you bless other people, I believe that you get blessed as well. 192 00:08:23,469 --> 00:08:24,837 You know, talking about that. 193 00:08:24,837 --> 00:08:25,304 And I won't, 194 00:08:25,304 --> 00:08:28,941 I won't, I won't say who it is, but I think you might remember the story. 195 00:08:29,375 --> 00:08:32,378 So it was a rather famous person, 196 00:08:32,612 --> 00:08:37,450 and I was complimenting to him another famous person. 197 00:08:37,850 --> 00:08:42,221 And he said, I would never tell him that because his head's too big already. 198 00:08:42,221 --> 00:08:43,556 I know who you're talking to. Yeah. 199 00:08:43,556 --> 00:08:45,324 But we're not gonna we're not going to do. 200 00:08:45,324 --> 00:08:46,759 No, no, but that's the thing. 201 00:08:46,759 --> 00:08:51,664 I think people think people will sometimes look and say, 202 00:08:51,931 --> 00:08:53,065 well, I'm not going to tell him 203 00:08:53,065 --> 00:08:56,435 or her looks looks good because, it's going to give them a big head. 204 00:08:57,103 --> 00:08:58,671 And it's like, why? 205 00:08:58,671 --> 00:08:59,939 Like, why would you say that? 206 00:08:59,939 --> 00:09:03,075 Sometimes I see and I still don't know if they're looking at me 207 00:09:03,075 --> 00:09:06,078 like, wow, you know, she just made a mistake. 208 00:09:06,212 --> 00:09:11,250 But they, you know, especially women will look at other women kind of up and down. 209 00:09:11,250 --> 00:09:14,253 And I'm thinking, oh, do I have a stain on me? 210 00:09:14,654 --> 00:09:16,355 Do I have, you know that? 211 00:09:16,355 --> 00:09:19,458 But they could be thinking, I like that. 212 00:09:19,492 --> 00:09:19,825 Right. 213 00:09:19,825 --> 00:09:22,995 And so just say it, do it and. 214 00:09:22,995 --> 00:09:25,665 And you'll feel better about it. Yeah you will. 215 00:09:25,665 --> 00:09:27,533 So think about it in your own life. 216 00:09:27,533 --> 00:09:29,502 You know, who can you compliment? 217 00:09:29,502 --> 00:09:32,071 Who really needs that sometimes is the person. 218 00:09:33,005 --> 00:09:35,708 Maybe you have the roughest time with? 219 00:09:35,708 --> 00:09:39,845 Well, like we say many times off the air and saying it right now, 220 00:09:39,879 --> 00:09:43,516 you know, on the air that everybody is going through something. 221 00:09:43,783 --> 00:09:45,451 Yes, everybody is fighting a battle. 222 00:09:45,451 --> 00:09:47,653 I don't care who you are, what kind of house you live 223 00:09:47,653 --> 00:09:50,523 and what kind of car you drive and clothes you wear. 224 00:09:50,523 --> 00:09:52,258 Everybody's battling something. 225 00:09:52,258 --> 00:09:54,660 Yeah, you just scratch that surface, right? Right. 226 00:09:54,660 --> 00:09:58,230 So just by being kind to that person again, that that can make their whole day. 227 00:09:58,564 --> 00:10:00,132 Yes. Yeah. 228 00:10:00,132 --> 00:10:03,135 You know, when I watch old movies, I love watching movies 229 00:10:03,169 --> 00:10:05,071 because I turn off the news. 230 00:10:05,071 --> 00:10:06,672 Okay, turn off the news. 231 00:10:06,672 --> 00:10:08,341 What's your favorite old movie? 232 00:10:08,341 --> 00:10:09,241 Oh, there's so many. 233 00:10:09,241 --> 00:10:12,712 If there's one that came to mind is maybe, you know, 234 00:10:14,046 --> 00:10:15,481 it's the man who came to dinner. 235 00:10:15,481 --> 00:10:16,082 Oh, yeah. 236 00:10:16,082 --> 00:10:19,352 The man who came to Twitter with Monty Woolley and Betty Davis. 237 00:10:19,752 --> 00:10:22,722 And sometimes when I've said old movies to people, 238 00:10:22,722 --> 00:10:25,891 they've said to me, oh, well, I wasn't born then. 239 00:10:25,891 --> 00:10:27,593 It's like, hey, I wasn't either. 240 00:10:27,593 --> 00:10:29,729 I'm talking about movies in the 30s. 241 00:10:29,729 --> 00:10:33,633 I wasn't born when, you know, Gone With the Wind came around. 242 00:10:33,633 --> 00:10:34,734 But, you know, 243 00:10:34,734 --> 00:10:38,871 I just always loved I love that, but I love the man who came to dinner. 244 00:10:38,871 --> 00:10:43,109 Just makes me smile because the dialog is so fast and witty. 245 00:10:43,442 --> 00:10:46,445 But I also love It's a Wonderful Life with Jimmy Stewart. 246 00:10:46,579 --> 00:10:47,246 How can you not? 247 00:10:47,246 --> 00:10:50,249 And that's got a great 248 00:10:51,217 --> 00:10:53,586 moral, I guess, to that story where 249 00:10:53,586 --> 00:10:56,856 he never felt fulfilled because he wasn't making the money. 250 00:10:57,123 --> 00:10:57,423 He didn't. 251 00:10:57,423 --> 00:11:00,393 He wasn't taking care of his family, as you should. 252 00:11:00,393 --> 00:11:03,195 And his social mores, that of the day. 253 00:11:03,195 --> 00:11:06,198 Yeah, yeah, I think a lot of people still go through that nowadays. 254 00:11:06,332 --> 00:11:06,966 Yeah, I think so. 255 00:11:06,966 --> 00:11:09,969 Like my favorite movie of all time is Field of Dreams. 256 00:11:10,236 --> 00:11:11,971 Field of Dreams, Kevin Costner. 257 00:11:11,971 --> 00:11:13,172 Yes, I watched that movie. 258 00:11:13,172 --> 00:11:15,541 It's like it's kind of like The Notebook for men. 259 00:11:15,541 --> 00:11:17,777 I was just going to say. Notebook for men. 260 00:11:17,777 --> 00:11:19,945 That resonates more with men, doesn't it? 261 00:11:19,945 --> 00:11:24,116 I still watch that movie, and every time I do Patty, 262 00:11:24,116 --> 00:11:27,486 my wife has to give me some Kleenex because I think about my dad. 263 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:27,953 Yeah. 264 00:11:27,953 --> 00:11:30,756 If you're familiar with the movie where he's throwing the the ball 265 00:11:30,756 --> 00:11:33,759 with his dad, who comes back to life because he's in the field, 266 00:11:34,093 --> 00:11:35,795 and all these old baseball players come back 267 00:11:35,795 --> 00:11:38,731 and he looks at his dad and goes, yeah, and he's so young. 268 00:11:38,731 --> 00:11:42,768 Yeah, I remember him being older and this and that, and he and 269 00:11:42,768 --> 00:11:45,771 his dad says to Kevin Costner's character, would you like to play catch? 270 00:11:46,305 --> 00:11:47,473 And every time he does that, 271 00:11:49,041 --> 00:11:50,509 I just lose it. 272 00:11:50,509 --> 00:11:50,676 Yeah. 273 00:11:50,676 --> 00:11:55,214 With the power of good storytelling, of a good movie and also a good, like, 274 00:11:55,214 --> 00:11:56,582 what we're trying to do here. 275 00:11:56,582 --> 00:11:59,452 A good a good story, right? 276 00:11:59,452 --> 00:11:59,919 Yeah. 277 00:11:59,919 --> 00:12:03,022 We're going to have some great stories waiting to hear some of the people 278 00:12:03,022 --> 00:12:04,356 we're going to have on. Yeah. 279 00:12:04,356 --> 00:12:06,392 And things that they went through. Right. 280 00:12:06,392 --> 00:12:09,361 But you know, something and watching those old movies, I, 281 00:12:09,395 --> 00:12:14,200 I will Google the people just to see what their lives were like. 282 00:12:15,401 --> 00:12:18,637 I am shocked at times, the things that they went through. 283 00:12:19,038 --> 00:12:22,041 Looking at it, I'm thinking, wow, they had it all. 284 00:12:22,241 --> 00:12:24,410 They had it. Oh no, no, no. 285 00:12:24,410 --> 00:12:25,411 No, nobody has it. 286 00:12:25,411 --> 00:12:27,780 All the people you think have it together don't. 287 00:12:27,780 --> 00:12:29,949 And they probably need you the most, right? 288 00:12:29,949 --> 00:12:32,852 They probably need you the most to say something, 289 00:12:32,852 --> 00:12:35,287 encouraging to them, you know. 290 00:12:35,287 --> 00:12:37,857 And you do that all the time, John. 291 00:12:37,857 --> 00:12:41,127 You know, I wish I were more like, oh. 292 00:12:41,560 --> 00:12:43,095 Well, you're you're you're doing this. 293 00:12:43,095 --> 00:12:46,332 And I think that's one of the reasons we decided to get together to do this show. 294 00:12:46,332 --> 00:12:49,869 Joyce, because we met for coffee rather innocently at a coffee place 295 00:12:49,869 --> 00:12:52,238 right down the street from the studio here in Brantford. 296 00:12:52,238 --> 00:12:55,241 And we were both looking for something like this. 297 00:12:55,474 --> 00:12:55,741 Yeah. 298 00:12:55,741 --> 00:12:57,810 I remember when I talked about doing a podcast 299 00:12:57,810 --> 00:13:00,946 and you said yes, I was thinking about the same thing, but 300 00:13:00,946 --> 00:13:03,949 I just wanted to find the right, you know, co-host. 301 00:13:04,016 --> 00:13:04,517 Yeah. 302 00:13:04,517 --> 00:13:07,520 And I looked at you and said well you know, what do you think. 303 00:13:07,987 --> 00:13:11,223 And, and all those years ago to quote a George Harrison song, right. 304 00:13:11,724 --> 00:13:13,325 We, my favorite Beatle. 305 00:13:13,325 --> 00:13:15,628 Yeah. Mine too. Mine too. Yeah. 306 00:13:15,628 --> 00:13:18,631 We meet up and all of a sudden we're here working with some 307 00:13:18,631 --> 00:13:21,901 really great people here, and, it's just it's a blessing to be here. 308 00:13:22,434 --> 00:13:22,768 You know? 309 00:13:22,768 --> 00:13:25,771 But you just remind me about something in the coffee shop, 310 00:13:25,771 --> 00:13:29,575 and that's when you kind of open my eyes to something. 311 00:13:30,109 --> 00:13:33,279 I got there before you, and there was a young. 312 00:13:33,312 --> 00:13:34,713 Which is usually the case. Which is? 313 00:13:35,815 --> 00:13:37,049 John's running late. 314 00:13:37,049 --> 00:13:38,551 Boy, you know. 315 00:13:38,551 --> 00:13:41,053 But there was this young man sitting in the corner, 316 00:13:41,053 --> 00:13:45,558 and he looked a little special, and I, I can say that 317 00:13:45,558 --> 00:13:50,129 because I have a grandson who is in the, in the. 318 00:13:50,129 --> 00:13:52,665 Spectrum of what is that? And. 319 00:13:52,665 --> 00:13:54,233 Oh, wait a minute. 320 00:13:54,233 --> 00:13:56,702 Should we be playing that song? Got it. 321 00:13:56,702 --> 00:13:58,037 This is all organic, gang. 322 00:13:58,037 --> 00:14:00,606 We're doing this organic right now, warts and all. 323 00:14:00,606 --> 00:14:01,540 All right. 324 00:14:01,540 --> 00:14:03,742 Hello, hello. Good good. 325 00:14:03,742 --> 00:14:04,977 Good good. 326 00:14:04,977 --> 00:14:06,812 Somebody forgot to turn their attention. 327 00:14:06,812 --> 00:14:08,514 All right, all right. As you were saying. 328 00:14:08,514 --> 00:14:13,052 Well, I have a grandson and a son who's in the spectrum and when I went, 329 00:14:13,252 --> 00:14:17,389 walked into the coffee shop, I kind of got the feeling that he was. 330 00:14:17,389 --> 00:14:21,360 And, he wanted to be left alone, but he was the only one in there. 331 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:24,930 I walked in, he was sitting in the corner, and I just stayed. 332 00:14:25,064 --> 00:14:26,131 I just stayed away. 333 00:14:27,099 --> 00:14:29,468 John walks in five minutes 334 00:14:29,468 --> 00:14:33,138 later and, you go up to the counter, you say hello to everyone. 335 00:14:33,405 --> 00:14:36,208 You look over at this guy that you never saw before. 336 00:14:36,208 --> 00:14:38,777 You walked over like, hey, my man, what's up? 337 00:14:38,777 --> 00:14:40,145 How are you doing today? 338 00:14:40,145 --> 00:14:44,350 You put your hand on his shoulder and his face lit up. 339 00:14:44,650 --> 00:14:49,989 His face lit up like no one has ever done that to him before. 340 00:14:50,689 --> 00:14:54,827 And that really welled me up thinking, 341 00:14:55,361 --> 00:14:58,364 how many other times have I done that? 342 00:14:58,464 --> 00:15:02,167 And it looked like almost I was shining someone when in my mind 343 00:15:02,534 --> 00:15:05,337 I was kind of giving them space because I thought, 344 00:15:05,337 --> 00:15:09,208 you know, they may have special needs, but it didn't matter to you, John. 345 00:15:09,642 --> 00:15:12,144 You know, and that's what I so love about you. 346 00:15:12,144 --> 00:15:13,746 And so you teach me. 347 00:15:13,746 --> 00:15:14,280 You teach me. 348 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:16,548 And I think, you know, I think I just want to be appreciated, 349 00:15:16,548 --> 00:15:19,585 you know, and it's like I do a lot of the mic work 350 00:15:19,585 --> 00:15:22,688 with the Tim Tebow Foundation and they're nice to shine. 351 00:15:22,688 --> 00:15:24,890 And that's all about, what they have. 352 00:15:24,890 --> 00:15:27,126 It's a problem for people with special needs. 353 00:15:27,126 --> 00:15:30,930 And they had the red carpet and I do my Ryan Seacrest thing. 354 00:15:30,996 --> 00:15:31,397 Yeah. 355 00:15:31,397 --> 00:15:33,265 Bring them all the and introduce them, 356 00:15:33,265 --> 00:15:36,368 ask him a couple questions, and they feel like this is their night. 357 00:15:36,368 --> 00:15:38,137 Everybody has a crown. 358 00:15:38,137 --> 00:15:41,140 The guys are wearing tuxes, the girls are wearing gowns. 359 00:15:41,473 --> 00:15:45,611 And for that night, for that 2 or 3 hour period, they are stars. 360 00:15:45,945 --> 00:15:48,948 You know, they're a big deal as they should be because, 361 00:15:49,014 --> 00:15:51,450 you know, we're all stars in our own way, right? Right. 362 00:15:51,450 --> 00:15:54,353 And then I get the chance to play music for them dancing. 363 00:15:54,353 --> 00:15:56,288 And it just makes their whole night. 364 00:15:56,288 --> 00:15:59,425 They just want to be treated like everybody else. 365 00:15:59,658 --> 00:16:00,159 Yeah. 366 00:16:00,159 --> 00:16:03,362 You know, it's like so many, so many times people see somebody in a wheelchair 367 00:16:03,762 --> 00:16:06,765 and they see the chair, but they don't see the person. 368 00:16:06,899 --> 00:16:09,868 They'll talk to another person like that person has to translate 369 00:16:09,868 --> 00:16:11,437 to the person in the wheelchair. 370 00:16:11,437 --> 00:16:12,304 Yes. You're right. 371 00:16:12,304 --> 00:16:15,207 You look at the person in the wheelchair and smile at them. 372 00:16:15,207 --> 00:16:16,942 Have a conversation with them. Right. 373 00:16:16,942 --> 00:16:17,643 That's all they want. 374 00:16:17,643 --> 00:16:20,145 Treat, treat people with dignity. Yes. 375 00:16:20,145 --> 00:16:22,648 And again that's the kind of stuff we're going to focus on here. 376 00:16:22,648 --> 00:16:24,316 You know what's good in the world. 377 00:16:24,316 --> 00:16:26,986 There's so many good people in the world. It's not just what I do. 378 00:16:26,986 --> 00:16:28,587 There's people doing that all the time. 379 00:16:28,587 --> 00:16:30,389 Joyce, you do that in your own way. 380 00:16:30,389 --> 00:16:33,392 You, you know, watching right now, you do that in your own life. 381 00:16:33,959 --> 00:16:35,194 Right? Yeah. 382 00:16:35,194 --> 00:16:40,432 And I think about people who will say, to me, you know, just in a conversation 383 00:16:40,432 --> 00:16:43,769 will come up like they, they hate rich people. 384 00:16:44,403 --> 00:16:46,405 And it's like, yeah, all right. 385 00:16:46,405 --> 00:16:51,243 So everyone's got something, but you can't lump everyone into into one thing. 386 00:16:51,243 --> 00:16:55,647 There are a lot of good rich people and poor people and, 387 00:16:56,982 --> 00:16:57,883 I guess I can't. 388 00:16:57,883 --> 00:17:03,255 It goes back to my mom who said, do not Revere anyone either. 389 00:17:03,555 --> 00:17:06,392 Don't you know, because the Queen of England 390 00:17:06,392 --> 00:17:09,395 always remember just saying that the Queen of England 391 00:17:09,495 --> 00:17:12,264 takes down her pants and goes to the bathroom just like you. 392 00:17:12,264 --> 00:17:12,898 It's right. 393 00:17:12,898 --> 00:17:16,502 So they may have more privilege in other areas, but 394 00:17:16,802 --> 00:17:19,505 there are people that she gave birth to, children. 395 00:17:19,505 --> 00:17:21,640 She did this or he did that. 396 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:23,208 We're all the same. 397 00:17:23,208 --> 00:17:26,211 And just because someone might have more privilege 398 00:17:26,779 --> 00:17:29,782 or kids in school because they have less privilege, 399 00:17:30,015 --> 00:17:33,452 doesn't mean you mark them as something. 400 00:17:33,452 --> 00:17:36,855 Because here's that saying that Wayne Dyer always said that 401 00:17:36,855 --> 00:17:40,726 when you label someone, you negate them. 402 00:17:40,859 --> 00:17:41,960 Absolutely. 403 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:44,730 And you have. A tendency to judge and label. So much. 404 00:17:44,730 --> 00:17:47,733 And I just got done watching a TV series called The Crown. 405 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:49,668 No, I love The Crown. 406 00:17:49,668 --> 00:17:52,504 And you mentioned the Queen and privilege. 407 00:17:52,504 --> 00:17:55,074 They talked about people that were dysfunctional. 408 00:17:55,074 --> 00:17:55,641 Yeah. 409 00:17:55,641 --> 00:17:56,942 You know, you think they have it 410 00:17:56,942 --> 00:18:01,480 all, all the money in the world, but all the divorces in the family. 411 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:01,947 Yeah. 412 00:18:01,947 --> 00:18:04,950 Princess Diana, I'm not sure if she was ever happy. 413 00:18:04,950 --> 00:18:08,087 I know she seemed like she was the unhappiest person in the world. 414 00:18:08,353 --> 00:18:11,123 And yet, at the time, probably the most popular woman in the world. 415 00:18:11,123 --> 00:18:12,458 Yes. And and her. 416 00:18:12,458 --> 00:18:15,928 And, you know, now, King Charles, there was no love there. 417 00:18:16,228 --> 00:18:16,695 Right. 418 00:18:16,695 --> 00:18:19,898 And so for us to judge people and think they have it all. 419 00:18:19,898 --> 00:18:21,467 And he's dealing with cancer. 420 00:18:21,467 --> 00:18:22,334 Exactly. 421 00:18:22,334 --> 00:18:28,073 Kate is and so everyone's dealing with, with something in life. 422 00:18:28,073 --> 00:18:31,443 So if we begin to look at people that way 423 00:18:32,077 --> 00:18:36,582 that we're all in this together and just reach out, 424 00:18:37,950 --> 00:18:38,817 a hand by 425 00:18:38,817 --> 00:18:42,421 saying, smile at someone, even just smile at someone. 426 00:18:42,855 --> 00:18:46,758 But it, it really, you know, they have the sayings on social media 427 00:18:47,025 --> 00:18:48,060 which maybe it doesn't 428 00:18:48,060 --> 00:18:51,063 even make sense anymore because you see it, but it's so true. 429 00:18:51,363 --> 00:18:53,432 Your smile can change, right? 430 00:18:53,432 --> 00:18:57,769 Everything in a person's life if you just say something positive to them. 431 00:18:57,803 --> 00:18:58,670 Yeah. And so. 432 00:18:58,670 --> 00:19:00,539 So that's why your smile is your logo. 433 00:19:00,539 --> 00:19:01,807 Your smile is your business card. 434 00:19:01,807 --> 00:19:04,243 So you didn't tell me what's good? 435 00:19:04,243 --> 00:19:06,145 What's good today, John? 436 00:19:06,145 --> 00:19:07,880 What's good today is we're here. 437 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:09,414 Yeah, we're hanging out. 438 00:19:09,414 --> 00:19:11,984 We've been talking about doing this podcast for about a year, 439 00:19:11,984 --> 00:19:14,820 a little behind the scenes stuff inside baseball stuff. 440 00:19:14,820 --> 00:19:17,523 And we've had some stops and starts again. 441 00:19:17,523 --> 00:19:20,492 What Joyce and I like to do is be very organic and transparent, 442 00:19:20,492 --> 00:19:23,495 you know, and that starts right now with this show. 443 00:19:23,629 --> 00:19:27,533 But we've had some stops and starts and, but we believe everything happens 444 00:19:27,933 --> 00:19:29,902 in God's time, you know? Right. 445 00:19:29,902 --> 00:19:32,437 Every setback is a set up for something better. 446 00:19:32,437 --> 00:19:34,173 Right. And, Absolutely. 447 00:19:34,173 --> 00:19:35,641 Beautiful studio here in Branford. 448 00:19:35,641 --> 00:19:37,242 We're working with some great people. 449 00:19:37,242 --> 00:19:41,280 Yes, David and Step, and we shoot them and all they're doing behind the scenes. 450 00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:44,750 And we appreciate you, for, for, you know, watching and listening. 451 00:19:45,150 --> 00:19:46,351 Right. What is it? 452 00:19:46,351 --> 00:19:48,387 I mean, who knows where this is going to go? 453 00:19:48,387 --> 00:19:52,024 And, but we're just hoping that, it goes in a direction 454 00:19:52,024 --> 00:19:55,160 where we can make a big impact in people's lives one by one. 455 00:19:55,661 --> 00:20:00,632 Yeah, well, I think we both feel that there's no coincidence in there. 456 00:20:00,632 --> 00:20:02,768 I mean, everything happens for a reason. 457 00:20:02,768 --> 00:20:05,170 And this was meant. Meant to be. 458 00:20:05,170 --> 00:20:08,774 And if, one person 459 00:20:09,608 --> 00:20:12,945 likes listening to us, we're here for you. 460 00:20:13,111 --> 00:20:14,580 And it makes. That's perfect. 461 00:20:14,580 --> 00:20:16,348 I hope you're the one. 462 00:20:16,348 --> 00:20:17,549 I really hope you're the one. 463 00:20:17,549 --> 00:20:19,284 And you tell another one and you tell another. 464 00:20:19,284 --> 00:20:20,852 Yeah, the domino effect. 465 00:20:20,852 --> 00:20:22,854 Well, we want a good domino effect. 466 00:20:22,854 --> 00:20:24,656 We want people to think differently. 467 00:20:24,656 --> 00:20:28,260 We're going to bring you a lot of ways to do that. 468 00:20:28,260 --> 00:20:30,128 A lot of tools to put in your little, 469 00:20:31,230 --> 00:20:33,632 tool case before you leave the house in the morning. 470 00:20:33,632 --> 00:20:35,467 Well, you certainly. It's going to. Help your day. 471 00:20:35,467 --> 00:20:37,803 You are definitely a, a wonderful author. 472 00:20:37,803 --> 00:20:38,870 You've written some great books. 473 00:20:38,870 --> 00:20:41,540 You have another one that's coming out soon, 474 00:20:41,540 --> 00:20:45,043 and we'll be talking about that very, very soon. Yes. 475 00:20:45,210 --> 00:20:47,279 Maybe in an upcoming episode. 476 00:20:47,279 --> 00:20:50,115 Hint hint hint. Yes yes yes. 477 00:20:50,115 --> 00:20:53,118 So what's good? 478 00:20:53,218 --> 00:20:56,221 Say that to yourself when you wake up in the morning. 479 00:20:56,221 --> 00:20:57,856 What's good about my day? 480 00:20:57,856 --> 00:21:00,859 And just celebrate the fact that you're alive 481 00:21:00,993 --> 00:21:05,497 and if you can wake up and get yourself out of bed, that's great. 482 00:21:05,931 --> 00:21:08,000 If you can't and you have someone who's taking 483 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:11,136 care of you, that's great to focus on that. 484 00:21:11,403 --> 00:21:14,840 You know, I just have to remember, there was this minister years ago 485 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:19,411 who said that he would visit a woman that in, 486 00:21:20,445 --> 00:21:21,113 I guess it was a 487 00:21:21,113 --> 00:21:24,116 nursing home and she would not get out of bed. 488 00:21:24,116 --> 00:21:27,886 And she was really closed down and was suffering with depression, 489 00:21:28,153 --> 00:21:32,424 along with just being elderly and hurting and all of that. 490 00:21:33,058 --> 00:21:36,061 And he leaned into her one day and he said, 491 00:21:36,261 --> 00:21:39,197 I want you to say every morning, 492 00:21:39,197 --> 00:21:42,267 this is the day the Lord has made. 493 00:21:42,634 --> 00:21:45,637 I will rejoice and be glad in it. 494 00:21:45,737 --> 00:21:48,106 Just say that. 495 00:21:48,106 --> 00:21:51,109 And then a couple weeks later, he went to visit her, 496 00:21:51,443 --> 00:21:52,878 and she was sitting up. 497 00:21:52,878 --> 00:21:57,783 And a few days after that they told him that there was a great improvement 498 00:21:57,783 --> 00:22:02,454 with her, and she started to dress and get up and about. 499 00:22:02,688 --> 00:22:06,191 And then she told the minister she said, when you said that to me, 500 00:22:06,458 --> 00:22:11,029 I did that and I felt something different inside of me. 501 00:22:11,196 --> 00:22:13,432 Yeah, something leaped out inside, right? 502 00:22:13,432 --> 00:22:18,103 But it was so wonderful that he said that to her than the other side. 503 00:22:18,103 --> 00:22:19,771 You have to do it also. 504 00:22:19,771 --> 00:22:22,974 Right, and put action to that. 505 00:22:23,041 --> 00:22:26,178 I love that saying, because that was King David in Psalms, 506 00:22:26,745 --> 00:22:28,947 you know, one of my favorite passages in the Bible. 507 00:22:28,947 --> 00:22:31,350 But yeah, what's good? You always remember things like that. 508 00:22:31,350 --> 00:22:32,584 So what the King David said. 509 00:22:32,584 --> 00:22:33,552 King David said that King 510 00:22:33,552 --> 00:22:36,555 David said that in the Bible after he suffered one of his worst defeats 511 00:22:37,055 --> 00:22:37,489 at the time. 512 00:22:37,489 --> 00:22:41,827 So he was speaking by faith, and, his fellow warriors were ready to kill him. 513 00:22:42,294 --> 00:22:45,030 They're really upset with him because he had lost a battle. 514 00:22:45,030 --> 00:22:48,934 And, a lot of the enemy had come to their home and ravaged the, 515 00:22:49,401 --> 00:22:54,573 the, their homes and took their kids, you know, and their their wives. 516 00:22:55,173 --> 00:22:58,143 And, he went over to the side and he encouraged himself 517 00:22:58,143 --> 00:22:59,644 because nobody else was. 518 00:22:59,644 --> 00:23:02,381 And he said, this is the day that the Lord has made. 519 00:23:02,381 --> 00:23:05,384 And he went on to say, let's be glad and rejoice. 520 00:23:05,584 --> 00:23:08,587 And father blessed me in such a way 521 00:23:08,620 --> 00:23:12,424 that you know that nobody will ever believe how great things are, 522 00:23:12,457 --> 00:23:16,795 not because of who I am, but because of who I am. As 523 00:23:17,863 --> 00:23:18,363 powerful. 524 00:23:18,363 --> 00:23:21,032 But that that was always a great passage in my mind that he. 525 00:23:21,032 --> 00:23:23,101 And then like eight weeks later, he became the king. 526 00:23:23,101 --> 00:23:24,836 He was in the king at the time. 527 00:23:24,836 --> 00:23:27,539 But Saul, you know, King Saul was killed at the time. 528 00:23:27,539 --> 00:23:28,507 But I digress with that. 529 00:23:28,507 --> 00:23:30,675 You know, I get really deep into this stuff, but, 530 00:23:30,675 --> 00:23:33,211 this has been, it's been a lot of fun. 531 00:23:33,211 --> 00:23:33,612 Joyce. 532 00:23:33,612 --> 00:23:38,083 I'm really excited about this, this, this next, you know, a chapter in our lives. 533 00:23:38,083 --> 00:23:40,352 And, we want to take you along with us. 534 00:23:40,352 --> 00:23:42,187 Let's leave everyone on a positive note. 535 00:23:42,187 --> 00:23:44,589 What do you say? That I love. You? 536 00:23:44,589 --> 00:23:47,926 I kind of like, you know, looking for that anointment of ease in life. 537 00:23:47,959 --> 00:23:49,127 Anointment of these? 538 00:23:49,127 --> 00:23:49,494 Yeah. 539 00:23:49,494 --> 00:23:52,264 Yeah, I just like that we're we're all going to have challenges in life. 540 00:23:52,264 --> 00:23:56,601 But so many times things happen for us in a positive way when we just kind of like, 541 00:23:58,069 --> 00:23:59,671 you know, say what we want, 542 00:23:59,671 --> 00:24:02,841 put it out to the universe, and then just go on with your day. 543 00:24:03,241 --> 00:24:04,042 Right? 544 00:24:04,042 --> 00:24:05,577 So like, I always like to say, you know, I'm 545 00:24:05,577 --> 00:24:08,980 going to do my best today and, and let God take care of the rest. 546 00:24:09,448 --> 00:24:14,252 I love that we wish that for all of you, it's spirit of these. 547 00:24:14,419 --> 00:24:16,087 That's right. 548 00:24:16,087 --> 00:24:18,089 Till next time. Bye for now.