1 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,125 (upbeat music) 2 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,166 Good morning. 3 01:00:04,041 --> 01:00:05,875 And welcome to Morning Serial. 4 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:13,125 All right, good morning everybody. 5 01:00:13,500 --> 01:00:14,083 We did it. 6 01:00:14,500 --> 01:00:17,000 Welcome to Friday, that special day 7 01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:18,875 that we waited for all week. 8 01:00:19,125 --> 01:00:20,000 So since we're here, 9 01:00:20,250 --> 01:00:21,666 let's jump straight into it. 10 01:00:21,666 --> 01:00:22,625 Let's jump into our quote 11 01:00:22,625 --> 01:00:25,250 from actress Jennifer Connelly, 12 01:00:25,250 --> 01:00:26,125 who once said, quote, 13 01:00:26,416 --> 01:00:27,833 "Life is about the process 14 01:00:27,833 --> 01:00:29,833 of becoming not arriving," 15 01:00:30,125 --> 01:00:30,500 end quote. 16 01:00:30,916 --> 01:00:32,333 And it's hard not to be a 17 01:00:32,333 --> 01:00:33,291 fan of Jennifer's, right? 18 01:00:33,625 --> 01:00:35,458 Especially when she's reminding us 19 01:00:35,458 --> 01:00:37,375 to always look for moments to grow, 20 01:00:37,791 --> 01:00:39,958 to change and for self-improvement, 21 01:00:39,958 --> 01:00:41,958 rather than focusing solely on reaching 22 01:00:42,125 --> 01:00:44,083 for a final destination or 23 01:00:44,083 --> 01:00:45,583 achieving a specific end goal. 24 01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:48,000 It's a journey, so let's enjoy it. 25 01:00:48,208 --> 01:00:49,750 All right, here are your four moments 26 01:00:49,916 --> 01:00:51,750 that matter for December 12th. 27 01:00:51,750 --> 01:00:54,000 On this day in history, back in 1977, 28 01:00:54,708 --> 01:00:56,541 Saturday Night Fever premiered, 29 01:00:56,958 --> 01:00:57,916 disco balling its way 30 01:00:57,916 --> 01:00:59,166 into pop culture history. 31 01:00:59,708 --> 01:01:00,916 Now, when I think of this movie, 32 01:01:00,916 --> 01:01:02,708 I immediately think of the soundtrack 33 01:01:03,041 --> 01:01:04,041 and John Travolta's 34 01:01:04,041 --> 01:01:05,416 swagger walk to the beat 35 01:01:05,500 --> 01:01:06,250 down the street. 36 01:01:06,250 --> 01:01:06,750 You know what I mean. 37 01:01:07,375 --> 01:01:08,750 All right, today's special day, 38 01:01:09,250 --> 01:01:10,166 Gingerbread House Day, 39 01:01:10,750 --> 01:01:11,958 build something sweet 40 01:01:11,958 --> 01:01:13,166 and bring your patience, 41 01:01:13,666 --> 01:01:15,250 as icing is not always the 42 01:01:15,250 --> 01:01:16,833 most effective bonding material. 43 01:01:17,208 --> 01:01:18,291 And I'm speaking from 44 01:01:18,291 --> 01:01:19,333 personal experience here. 45 01:01:19,791 --> 01:01:20,916 All right, the number one 46 01:01:20,916 --> 01:01:23,041 song on this day in 1978, 47 01:01:23,958 --> 01:01:25,916 Staying Alive by the Bee Gees. 48 01:01:25,916 --> 01:01:28,333 Now, this was an unstoppable disco anthem 49 01:01:28,708 --> 01:01:30,250 that topped the charts for a long time. 50 01:01:30,791 --> 01:01:31,583 Still a great song. 51 01:01:32,333 --> 01:01:33,833 All right, well, happy birthday to you 52 01:01:33,833 --> 01:01:35,166 if today is your birthday. 53 01:01:35,166 --> 01:01:37,791 You share a birthday with neuroscientist 54 01:01:37,791 --> 01:01:39,333 and punky Brewster all 55 01:01:39,333 --> 01:01:40,875 grown up, Mayim Balik. 56 01:01:40,875 --> 01:01:42,041 She's 50 today. 57 01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:43,666 Actress Jennifer 58 01:01:43,666 --> 01:01:45,500 Connelly, she's 55 today. 59 01:01:45,916 --> 01:01:46,791 Music legend, Dionne 60 01:01:46,791 --> 01:01:48,666 Warwick, she's 84 today. 61 01:01:49,208 --> 01:01:50,541 The price is wrong, Bob. 62 01:01:50,958 --> 01:01:52,875 The beloved late Bob Barker 63 01:01:52,875 --> 01:01:55,000 was born on this date in 1923. 64 01:01:55,583 --> 01:01:58,416 And finally, the late icon Frank Sinatra, 65 01:01:58,416 --> 01:01:59,666 born on this date way 66 01:01:59,666 --> 01:02:02,833 back in 1915, 110 years ago. 67 01:02:02,833 --> 01:02:03,375 That is crazy. 68 01:02:04,291 --> 01:02:05,500 Well, let's finish up this 69 01:02:05,500 --> 01:02:06,750 week with our book review 70 01:02:06,750 --> 01:02:08,458 of Mel Robbins, The Let Them Theory. 71 01:02:08,708 --> 01:02:10,166 Now, this is one of Mel 72 01:02:10,166 --> 01:02:11,916 Robbins most freeing chapters 73 01:02:12,333 --> 01:02:13,166 because she tackles 74 01:02:13,166 --> 01:02:14,625 something we all experience. 75 01:02:15,166 --> 01:02:17,625 The anxiety, overthinking and 76 01:02:17,625 --> 01:02:19,416 emotional tailspin triggered 77 01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:20,958 when someone doesn't 78 01:02:20,958 --> 01:02:22,375 text you back, right? 79 01:02:22,375 --> 01:02:24,000 Those little dots, Robbins 80 01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:25,666 captures the feeling perfectly 81 01:02:25,750 --> 01:02:28,000 saying, "When they don't respond, 82 01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:30,291 "we make it mean something about us." 83 01:02:31,333 --> 01:02:32,666 Now, Mel argues that 84 01:02:32,666 --> 01:02:34,708 non-responses rarely have anything 85 01:02:34,708 --> 01:02:36,125 to do with our worth. 86 01:02:36,541 --> 01:02:37,666 People get busy, people 87 01:02:37,666 --> 01:02:39,000 get distracted, people work, 88 01:02:39,375 --> 01:02:40,333 people sleep, people 89 01:02:40,333 --> 01:02:41,625 actually forget sometimes. 90 01:02:42,208 --> 01:02:43,500 And most importantly, 91 01:02:44,083 --> 01:02:46,125 people are allowed to have lives 92 01:02:46,125 --> 01:02:46,875 that don't revolve 93 01:02:46,875 --> 01:02:48,416 around immediate replies. 94 01:02:49,083 --> 01:02:50,458 And Robbins reframes this 95 01:02:50,458 --> 01:02:51,791 silence, not as rejection, 96 01:02:51,791 --> 01:02:53,041 but as useful information. 97 01:02:53,333 --> 01:02:54,416 Quote, "Their silence 98 01:02:54,416 --> 01:02:55,541 is data," she writes, 99 01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:57,000 meaning that how someone 100 01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:58,666 communicates or doesn't, 101 01:02:58,666 --> 01:03:00,166 it shows you who they 102 01:03:00,166 --> 01:03:02,291 are, not who you are. 103 01:03:02,666 --> 01:03:04,541 Instead of spiraling into insecurity, 104 01:03:04,916 --> 01:03:07,166 she suggests practicing detachment. 105 01:03:07,791 --> 01:03:08,833 Remember this, let them. 106 01:03:09,166 --> 01:03:10,833 Let them not text you back 107 01:03:10,833 --> 01:03:12,500 and keep living your life. 108 01:03:13,083 --> 01:03:14,458 She highlights how much 109 01:03:14,458 --> 01:03:15,708 emotional energy we waste 110 01:03:15,833 --> 01:03:17,500 trying to interpret 111 01:03:17,500 --> 01:03:18,875 the behavior of others. 112 01:03:19,416 --> 01:03:20,666 We replay messages, 113 01:03:20,666 --> 01:03:22,000 we analyze their tone, 114 01:03:22,416 --> 01:03:23,583 and we build entire 115 01:03:23,583 --> 01:03:25,333 fictional stories in our heads. 116 01:03:26,125 --> 01:03:27,125 Mel writes, quote, "You 117 01:03:27,125 --> 01:03:28,208 are not a mind reader, 118 01:03:28,500 --> 01:03:29,625 "so stop trying to 119 01:03:29,625 --> 01:03:31,041 become one," end quote. 120 01:03:31,791 --> 01:03:33,333 This chapter is also 121 01:03:33,333 --> 01:03:35,291 about reclaiming power. 122 01:03:35,875 --> 01:03:37,875 Once you stop chasing responses 123 01:03:38,166 --> 01:03:39,791 and start valuing your peace, 124 01:03:40,250 --> 01:03:41,791 something shifts internally. 125 01:03:42,375 --> 01:03:44,458 You realize you can choose relationships 126 01:03:44,833 --> 01:03:46,000 that feel reciprocal 127 01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:47,500 rather than draining. 128 01:03:48,291 --> 01:03:49,083 Robbins encourages 129 01:03:49,083 --> 01:03:51,500 readers to view texting behavior 130 01:03:51,750 --> 01:03:52,708 as a compatibility 131 01:03:52,708 --> 01:03:55,000 filter rather than a crisis. 132 01:03:55,541 --> 01:03:56,750 Consistent communicators will 133 01:03:56,750 --> 01:03:58,375 consistently show up, right? 134 01:03:58,833 --> 01:04:00,916 Whereas inconsistent communicators, 135 01:04:01,125 --> 01:04:02,583 they reveal themselves quickly. 136 01:04:02,958 --> 01:04:04,083 The silence helps you 137 01:04:04,083 --> 01:04:05,166 sort out those differences. 138 01:04:05,750 --> 01:04:06,958 The deeper message here, 139 01:04:07,375 --> 01:04:09,875 you deserve people who match your energy. 140 01:04:10,166 --> 01:04:12,291 Not perfectly, but respectfully. 141 01:04:12,916 --> 01:04:15,416 All right, here is your Friday takeaway. 142 01:04:16,000 --> 01:04:17,625 Letting someone not text you back, 143 01:04:17,625 --> 01:04:19,166 it frees you from overthinking 144 01:04:19,791 --> 01:04:21,666 and makes room for healthier, more 145 01:04:21,666 --> 01:04:22,958 reciprocal connections. 146 01:04:23,708 --> 01:04:25,250 All right, well, on this Friday, 147 01:04:25,541 --> 01:04:26,458 build your gingerbread 148 01:04:26,458 --> 01:04:28,000 house, build your boundaries, 149 01:04:28,250 --> 01:04:30,750 and build a weekend that you love. 150 01:04:31,083 --> 01:04:32,500 Hey, thanks for making morning cereal 151 01:04:32,500 --> 01:04:33,291 part of your Friday. 152 01:04:33,625 --> 01:04:35,041 Have a fantastic weekend, 153 01:04:35,041 --> 01:04:37,000 and we will see you back here on Monday. 154 01:04:37,250 --> 01:04:39,958 And until then, have a fantastic day. 155 01:04:41,333 --> 01:04:42,875 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 156 01:04:42,875 --> 01:04:44,250 to the Morning Cereal podcast 157 01:04:44,541 --> 01:04:46,333 on the One Life Live It channel. 158 01:04:46,916 --> 01:04:48,541 You can find more episodes and videos 159 01:04:48,541 --> 01:04:49,583 by visiting our YouTube 160 01:04:49,583 --> 01:04:50,875 channel and the website 161 01:04:50,958 --> 01:04:53,916 at seanenglis and at seanenglis.com, 162 01:04:54,166 --> 01:04:55,000 where you can also 163 01:04:55,000 --> 01:04:56,416 follow our other podcast, 164 01:04:56,750 --> 01:04:57,958 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 165 01:04:58,458 --> 01:04:59,666 and the Life Happens podcast. 166 01:05:00,500 --> 01:05:02,625 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 167 01:05:02,625 --> 01:05:04,541 into everyday issues, self-improvement, 168 01:05:04,541 --> 01:05:06,166 and well-being, business, and finance, 169 01:05:06,666 --> 01:05:08,333 and we welcome special guests too. 170 01:05:08,750 --> 01:05:09,958 So join us, it'll be a 171 01:05:09,958 --> 01:05:10,958 good time, I promise. 172 01:05:11,625 --> 01:05:12,125 Thanks again for 173 01:05:12,125 --> 01:05:13,791 listening, have a fantastic day, 174 01:05:14,125 --> 01:05:14,791 and we'll see you tomorrow.