Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan MD

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Men: you might be conditioning your partner’s body to fear you.

Alex Charfen is the founder of The Brotherhood, and he teaches masculine containment as a trainable discipline after his own wife told him she didn't feel seen, heard, or safe.

Almost every couple runs on a pattern they never name: trigger, escalation, rupture, withdrawal, repair. Alex became exceptionally good at repair, and it changed nothing. While his body told him they were making progress, her nervous system was still telling her she wasn't safe.

He asks the men he works with three questions. Are you stronger than your partner? More physically capable? More capable of violence? Every man answers yes to all three, and taken seriously, that answer changes what a man is responsible for in the room.

I believe women are the custodians of their own experience. Alex believes men have to self-initiate first. The most useful parts of this conversation live in that friction.

We also get into why the car is a diagnostic for polarity, why the calmest man in the room is the most dangerous, and why regulating your nervous system gives entrepreneurs more capacity than any biohack.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction
[6:36] How an ultimatum catalyzed Alex's reclamation as a man
[9:44] The hidden pattern in many heterosexual relationships
[14:57] The biological reality of a woman's nervous system under threat
[22:20] What shifted in his wife after he committed
[25:51] Micro choices a woman makes in every moment
[31:30] Whether Katie could have done anything to induce Alex's shift
[39:13] The nice guy versus the man in his dark masculine
[44:03] Dominance of oneself, not of her
[52:35] Why successful entrepreneurs so often fail at relationships
[1:00:28] Always putting out fires means you're probably the arsonist
[1:02:55] Contained masculine energy as a healing force in The Brotherhood

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Resources Mentioned:

Momentum Podcast - EP54: The CEO's Secret Weapon | Podcast
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks | Book
Laura Doyle | Website

Learn more on Alex's upcoming men's groups here.

Find more from Alex:

Alex Charfen | Instagram | Facebook
The Brotherhood Society | Website
Momentum for the Entrepreneurial Personality Type (EPT) Podcast | Spotify or Apple

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What is Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan MD?

It hurts to have unmet needs. And it sucks to scurry after crumbs when you’re starving. Join Kelly Brogan MD, as she teaches us how our pain points are portals. She’ll help you discover a world where every seeming challenge is a new chapter in your most audacious story. Plot twists, body symptoms, and heartbreak each represent an opportunity to own ourselves and learn to better wield the power of choice. Kelly will take you on a reclamation journey from the battlefield of victim consciousness to the sovereignty of self-devoted pleasure and expose every surprising place you’ve given your power away. Explore the tools you’ll need to find out what you want, how to ask for it and how to stand in fierce alignment with yourself.Kelly Brogan is a soul alchemist and threshold guardian devoted to the transformation of collective consciousness. As a young know-it-all atheist, candy-addict, straight-A MIT neuroscience major and Ivy-league trained psychiatrist, she specialized in feeding women, herself included, straight into the mouth of the medicated beast. After a Hashimoto’s healing journey inspired her to sound the alarm on the bait-and-switch of big pharma, she became a renegade activist—authoring the New York Times bestseller, A Mind of Your Own, and its follow-up, Own Your Self; co-editing the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression; and eventually becoming an honorary member of the Disinformation Dozen. She is the creatrix of Vital Mind Reset, the online health reclamation program, and the membership community Vital Life Project. She’s a human, cat, and chicken mom.