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We're back.
Our highlights can
sometimes be very entertaining.
To us at least.
I literally thought,
am I the one throwing all
this bad juju out there?
But I go back to that
Robin Williams thing, you know,
you never know what
someone else is going through.
Well, you know what?
Karma's real.
I learned a long time ago,
I'm not doing to invest in people
that aren't worth investing in.
I mean, it's just one of
those things in human nature
where everybody thinks they're right.
Well, I'm right.
It's not me, it's not me.
You had it right the
first time, I was wrong.
Yeah, well, there is a
first time for everything.
Bortally wrong, you got it right.
I cried at senior night this year.
Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross,
in the crocodile hunter.
Talk about good karma and good juju.
Oh, I miss Mr. Rogers.
I don't, but he's nostalgic.
My homies pour a little
liquor for those guys.
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Welcome to the Mr. and
Mrs. English podcast.
I'm Megan.
And I'm Sean.
We're here to talk about
the wild ride of raising kids
and growing careers,
keeping life together in
the middle of all the chaos.
So buckle up,
because we're all in
this crazy journey together.
All right, well, here we are.
We're back.
Just when you thought you got rid of us.
I know, people are probably like,
"Woof, they're finally done."
Yeah, and Mr. Highlights.
Our highlights can
sometimes be very entertaining.
To us at least.
Oh yeah, yeah. Definitely for us.
You do a good job of cutting
them to make us sound funny.
I don't spend any time,
but when we first started doing it,
I actually spent a lot
of time trying to cut them
and get them right.
I'd rearrange them sometimes.
Yeah.
And it took way too long.
Now it's just, boom, here it is.
I mean, every now and
then I'll rearrange something
just because it has a better kick there.
Oh yeah, yeah.
Ah.
The comedic genius that is Mr. and Mrs.
That's right, that's right.
(laughing) I was laughing, I was
telling Megan about it,
I don't know, a couple days ago,
but I don't ever read comments ever
on either one of the
podcasts or anything social media.
Even personal, I don't very
rarely do I read comments.
Mainly because there's a
lot of time involved in that.
And secondly, sometimes, I mean,
I'm sure most comments are good, right?
Yes, if you're gonna-- Especially on the
personal side.
On the personal side, if you're gonna
take time to comment,
you comment something good.
Yeah, normally.
That's not how it
works in the real world,
like on YouTube and stuff like that.
Right, right.
I was telling Megan
that somebody had commented
on the Mr. and Mrs. podcast saying like,
"You guys have been
at this for a year now,
"it might be time to hang it up."
(laughing) And then we stopped doing
them for about three weeks, so.
Yeah.
Not because of that person in their--
No.
Negativity, just to throw it out there
for no good reason.
Right, right, we don't
know who this person is.
Yeah, yeah.
And I really wanted to just
reply back to that person,
but I would never do it,
because I'm not gonna
get in a tit for tat.
But just be like, you know what,
appreciate you just throwing negative,
negative juju out there
into the world, the cosmos.
We do this for our friends and family.
We don't do this
because we think we're gonna
get a million followers.
Right.
You know, if we did, I
would start spending money
on, you know, SES stuff,
and I would have to try to
push money into advertising.
I mean, I'd spend
money on trying to get it
in front of people.
Right, but we don't.
I've not spent a penny, no.
The people that want
to see this see this.
That's exactly right.
So I'm sorry this person
happened to come across it
in your feed, but I am happy to know
that there are just such
miserable people out there
that they couldn't just let it go.
You know what I mean?
I know, I don't know.
I have never, I'll be
interested to hear you.
Have you ever just
made a negative comment
or left a negative review just cause?
Like you took the time to
actually leave something negative?
No, but I was, that
happened, and then the next day,
two things happened like
in a row while I was out
where I was like, it
made me question like,
am I throwing out negative juju?
Where this negative
karma is coming back at me?
And I honestly don't think I am.
But let me tell you the two things that
happened real quick.
The first one was I went to Staples
cause I had to print out these big,
I had to print out big blueprints there.
And the second time I've done it,
and the lady there is just horrible.
I mean, I'm sure she's a nice person,
but she's terrible at her job.
She's so frustrated that I'm
there to pick something up.
I'm just ruining her
day cause she's so busy.
You know what I mean?
And it's like, well, and
then she couldn't find it,
of course, and she's
like, well, where's your,
we emailed you a confirmation number.
I'm like, no, you didn't,
you actually texted me one,
but I deleted the text
because it just said it was ready.
Maybe there was a confirmation.
I was like, can you not
look it up on my phone number
cause you texted me.
You wouldn't have texted you.
I promise you, you texted me.
I'm like, can you not just
look it up on my phone number
or my last name?
I was like, do you have a lot of
blueprints back there?
And she's like, yes.
Like I know she doesn't.
I can see her whole workspace.
There might've been
three blueprints in the back.
One of them being mine,
cause they're big rolled up papers.
You know what I mean?
You cannot miss this.
So I was like, well, would
you mind just checking again?
Because I noticed when I said my name,
you didn't ask how to spell it.
And if you didn't do that,
you probably looked under
ease and it's with an I.
And she did not like that.
She was so mad that I said that.
What?
Anyways, she went back.
She stormed back.
I didn't even say a word to me.
So I'm like, I don't
know if she's done with me.
I don't know if I'm, you
know, like what's going on?
Like, you know what I mean? Wow.
I don't know what's happening.
She comes back and she's like,
well, they buried it for me.
So I found it.
It was buried.
I'm like, really?
It was buried.
All this negativity just thrown at me.
Like, I'm sorry.
I'm literally just picking up something
I already picked for.
I just want to pick up
something I picked for.
Same way that when I dropped
it off and I had it on a thumb drive,
was so frustrated that I
had it on a thumb drive.
She's like, you can't
just email this to me?
I'm like, I have it on a thumb drive
because I was actually
hoping you might be able
to print it out for me.
And she's like, oh, it'll
be ready maybe tomorrow,
maybe tonight.
She was so mad at me.
The same lady.
Anyways, at the end, I was like,
you know what, this is my
second time here doing this.
I was like, and it's been very
frustrating both times.
Like, I probably won't come back.
In her mind, she's like, I don't care.
So I was thinking, that negative juju, A.
Then I'm walking out,
and then I'll let you
kind of get into this.
You can be my psychiatrist on this one,
but then I'm walking out of Staples.
And I literally am trying to be nice.
Somebody, some lady is driving.
So you step off, you
have to cross the street
to get to the parking spot.
They always are.
Some guy was ahead of me.
He was way ahead of
this lady in a BMW SUV.
So she didn't have to slow down for him.
But she was, I think maybe in her mind,
she's like, I'm gonna
slow down for the second guy.
Who's me?
But I'd already done all
the calculations in my head.
She could just keep on driving by,
and I'll just pivot a
little bit to the right,
and I'll walk behind her car.
So she doesn't have to stop for me.
I'm trying to not be
inconvenient for her.
In fact, so much so I
can see she's struggling
with the fact that I've
now pivoted towards her.
Still in the sidewalk, mind you.
She's coming towards me.
I could see she was a
little worried about that.
So I kind of just waved
on, like, go ahead, go ahead.
Yeah.
I don't know if she was mad at me,
but she was gesturing
and making mad faces at me
inside her car, so exasperated at me.
And I was like, well,
this is right after the lady
that had the problem with me picking up.
I think I'm like, I literally thought,
am I the one throwing all
this bad juju out there?
Like, I didn't throw attitude at,
where am I throwing this attitude that
I'm getting it back?
Oh my gosh.
That is insane, especially, I mean, we
all kind of do that.
Like, you know, someone even
did that to me today, right?
Like, they had the right of
way, but they wanted me to go.
And so they kind of just
motioned, and you're like, okay.
Like, that is a very
common thing if, you know,
just to communicate with
people kind of what your plan is.
If you're like, hey, you can go.
Okay, awesome, thank you.
It's not like I'm like flipping them off,
like, you go then, you know what I mean?
Right.
It could have really been
me, but it's usually just like,
oh, you go ahead, go ahead.
You smile at them,
like, go ahead, go ahead,
because that's what you do to people.
It's like, that's what you
do when you're in public.
That's what you do.
Now, the lady at
Staples, you know, I just,
I think that she is
very unhappy in her job,
and there's probably something going on
that is a lot bigger than
your order of blueprints.
It goes back to Robyn,
but she was like that,
I've seen her three times now.
So this is her natural state.
So she's been having a
tough month and a half.
But I go back to that
Robyn Williams thing, you know,
you never know what
someone else is going through.
Right.
So I try not to judge people
on that, but it just happened
like three or four times in one day,
I don't remember what the first thing
we were talking about is here,
but like this negative juju coming at me,
I'm like, whoa, I did not throw,
I don't, I honestly
don't think I'd go into life.
And maybe there's people that are like,
oh, that's not true, Sean,
you're like the most
negative person I know,
but I don't think I am.
Now within our family, I can
definitely complain, right?
You can, but so can I, I mean.
Well, I don't think people
that know me in the stands
or on the soccer fields, I
don't think they're like,
I don't think they're like, oh yeah,
Sean's always throwing
negative karma out there,
negative juju, like he's gonna get,
he's gonna get it coming to him.
Yeah, I don't think so.
I mean, and it just,
because the other one may have been,
and this, it still irks our daughter,
because she was riding
scooters with her friends
through a neighborhood
just at the end of our street,
and they got off the
path, they saw a turtle,
and so they got off the
path to like help this turtle
into this little stream, right?
There's this little stream going through,
and there was a lady who
started yelling at them,
you're trespassing,
you're on private property.
First of all, there is no
sign that says private property,
so I mean, keep in mind,
we have very young teenage,
you know, tween type
girls, like at 11 a.m.,
so this isn't like in the
evening, no spray paint,
like doing nothing
other than helping a turtle
into the water, which,
okay, who knows if the turtle
wanted to go in the
water, but in their minds,
that turtle needed help.
Anyway, she just
started screaming at them,
and they're like, "Yes ma'am, yes ma'am,"
and they got on their scooters and
started scootering away,
and they were in such a hurry
that actually one of the girls fell and
really hurt herself,
and this woman has her
camera on on her phone,
and is like, "You're on camera,"
and starts yelling at
them and chasing them,
and I was like, "Wow."
Like, these three young
girls are not vandalizing
your property, like
they probably didn't know,
like why wouldn't you just give them
the benefit of the doubt?
Like, why is this
person so angry and so upset?
I didn't get it, but I
did tell our daughter,
I was like, "Well, you
know what, karma's real."
Like, I have no idea what's
going on in that woman's life
that she needed to be a Karen and
completely chase them.
Literally chase after
three young girls on a scooter.
Yeah, no, I'm glad you told that one,
because that was one of
the ones that happened too,
and I was like, "Are you kidding me?"
So I did throw some shade on that,
because I think I
know where the lady was,
because I run that way.
I don't run the way they were,
but I kind of connect with
it at the very end of that,
and there was a lady right there,
which is where I think it happened,
who was outside of her gate,
and there's a little
bit more to that story,
because the way this, so
picture a neighborhood,
all the houses back
to one another, right?
So backyard to backyard, okay?
However, between those backyards
is a drainage like river, right?
It might get, at the biggest point,
it's like 10 feet wide, some
places it's five feet wide.
We had just done some work on it to like,
because it was eroding, so
they were doing some work,
but those backyards go together in there,
so it's a big green area there, right?
So really, most of them have fences
that stop well before
that, like 20 feet before that.
And then there's a
sidewalk, a walking, jogging path,
a wide five foot sidewalk,
that goes all the way between there.
Yep.
Off of the public sidewalks.
Now, the only caveat I
would have given that lady
was the fact that that
sidewalk that they were on
right there, it does say post it,
it's for HOA residents only.
And I don't know the locks,
I know I believe
regular sidewalks are public,
but because that was not a sidewalk
that was next to a
street, a public street,
you know what I mean?
That might've been private.
How she didn't know, how she knew
they weren't in that,
from that neighborhood,
I don't know that.
I mean, we're in that
neighborhood all the time.
All the time.
Because we live right next to them.
People in the neighborhood all the time,
the guy that walks there,
because I run there every day, almost,
every other day at least.
I know all the people that are there.
And there's people
there fishing all the time
in their pond that aren't from there,
because I see them literally
drive into the neighborhood
in their car, park it, get
out with all their stuff.
Now, if you lived in that neighborhood,
you just walked down there.
You just walked there, yeah.
So the fact that she
attacked our children that way,
with them not doing anything,
I mean, they look
like little girls still.
They do.
It'd be one thing if they were like,
and I saw how they were dressed that day
and stuff like that.
It's not like they had
chains and baggy pants
and had goth makeup
on and stuff like that.
They were just little
girls riding scooters.
With helmets, by the way.
So clearly they are responsible enough
to be wearing helmets.
I didn't run by that lady later that day,
because I was kind of
on the lookout for her.
And she smiled at me kind of, I think.
She's getting into wave at me,
and I looked away kind of
just as she was starting to wave.
And it took a lot in me to do it,
and I give this smile,
because I think I'm a friendly person.
Now, rub me the wrong way,
and I'm happy to label
you and leave you behind.
I'm not gonna be mean,
I'm not gonna be angry,
I'm not gonna do what
I can to destroy you.
But I learned a long time ago,
I'm not doing to invest in people
that aren't worth investing in.
Right, right, they're not
gonna invest anything in you,
and yeah, only put
negativity in your life.
Like, okay, you're in your spot.
And so that lady was like that, I think.
But even today on my run, I was like,
I was thinking of what I
would say to that lady.
Did you happen to
chase three little girls
on their scooters down last week?
Right.
I was like, one of those was my daughter.
One of them actually fell and
actually injured their knee.
Pretty badly.
Pretty badly, because you were chasing
three 13-year-old
children who were just looking
at a turtle off of sidewalk,
really which is a green
space in your neighborhood.
Right, and I mean,
they would have no idea.
They don't know how to property.
Yeah, let me give you a--
I mean, they didn't hop a
fence into someone's yard.
They know better than that,
but it's an open green space that,
if you know, you know,
I guess that it's owned.
Right.
But a young--
Good point.
At that age, I remember
hopping people's fences,
and they'd be like,
get out of my backyard,
because I'd be like hopping here.
There were times where
I would walk, you know--
You would hop over
fences into people's yard?
To get through their yard
to another one sometimes,
I would do that, yeah.
There was times I would hop a fence
and I wouldn't even get
one in their backyard.
I would walk on the top plank,
like a, what's the, like a bounce beam.
You know how they had that top wood plank
all the way across the wood fences?
I would just walk the
whole length on top of that.
So it's like I wasn't even in their,
I wasn't even in their yard,
but you know, those
fences weren't very strong,
so sometimes they
would sway a little bit.
I didn't do that all the time,
but when I was a kid,
fifth grade, sixth grade,
I didn't think twice about that.
Like, oh, I'm sorry,
you didn't want me in your backyard?
News to me.
Right, like I'm just doing me,
and this, you know,
I'm smart enough to know
that the fastest point,
or the fastest direction
between two things is this
direct line in between them.
Fifth grader had no
idea you would be upset
that I was on your grass.
Right, right.
In your fenced in backyard.
Now I totally get it.
Like I got a kid running
through my backyard right now.
I'd be like, dude, what are you doing?
Right, right.
You know?
Exactly, but I mean, as a child,
like are you really paying attention?
And again, they weren't in
someone's fenced in yard.
That's the whole point.
She would actually know better than that.
Yeah.
Because even still, like, you know,
if a ball goes over
the fence, our children,
and I like to think this is because
they're good human beings,
but like to them, they're like,
I still feel like I should
knock on my neighbor's door.
Even though the neighbor has said,
if you put a ball over the fence,
just go in the backyard and get it.
It's okay.
But our kids are still
like, I still feel bad.
I feel like I should
knock and let them know.
Yeah.
Right, it's the responsible thing.
Yeah, I think, yeah, I agree with that.
And I think just like that point,
and I think it's ingrained in people,
and I feel like for me,
that's one reason why I feel like
I don't think I'm a bad person at heart,
which I mean, I'd
like to say, no, I'm not.
I'm old enough to know I don't think I'm
a bad person at heart.
But when I have those like
uncomfortable interactions
with other humans, it bothers me.
I still remember pulling
out of our driveway one time
in one of our bigger cars.
Yeah.
And I had to take it wide
and then kind of come back,
but on the right side of the road,
and there was a lady walking
on the right side of the road,
and our road's thin, so
there's not sidewalks there.
You can't ride it on a sidewalk.
There's barely even room, honestly,
for two cars to go by side by side.
You can't go by regular speed.
Yeah, so you actually had to slow down
and really get close to
the side for people to go by.
It's just, we just have a
skinny road that we live on,
and a lady was walking on
it, like three feet into it.
And you know, if
you're three feet into it,
you're two feet from the middle of it.
Right, right.
On our street, right?
It's a small road, yeah.
And so I just pulled out.
I had just pulled out,
which I had to take a wide turn
because it's a wide van.
Right, right.
And I'm pulling back
towards the middle there,
and she is yelling at me from the street,
like I'm gonna hit her.
And I'm like motioning to her, like,
I didn't hit you, lady, and
I'm still 20 feet from you.
What are you mad about?
And I'm still actively moving over.
She was so mad at me.
I've not seen her walk
on our street since then.
Maybe she does.
But I felt bad because it was like,
she immediately was so mad at me.
Right.
And I was gesturing at her, like,
I didn't hit you, and
I'm 20 feet from you still.
And you're like cussing me out,
and you just saw where I came out of,
so you know where I live.
Right.
Which makes it even more comfortable
because it's like, now you think the guy
that lives in that house is a jerk.
Jerk, right.
You know, it's like,
I'm not you overreacted.
Right, right.
I saw you, I was being safe, like.
I mean, it's just one of
those things in human nature
where everybody thinks they're right.
Yes.
You know what I mean?
And that's where I
don't want to be the person
that's naive like
other people are sometimes,
thinking all the time,
like, well, I'm right.
Because there's been plenty
of times I have been wrong.
And like, if I am, I
usually try to apologize
in a situation like that, but I rarely,
am I trying to be offensive to somebody.
Right.
No, you don't look for
reasons to be offended at people.
Yeah.
And you actually, honestly, if you're,
this is not you.
If humans, maybe this is
just me, are in the right mood,
you can be easily offended
by just about everything.
Like, I could look
for offenses everywhere.
For sure.
I don't.
For sure.
That really is against my nature.
Yeah.
But I truly think
that I could be offended
100% of the time.
And those are the worst days.
Yeah.
Because it's like, you
know you're in that mood
and it's like, I'm
just, everything's downhill.
Yeah.
And I'm just getting upset perspective.
Even then though, I
wouldn't take it out on the person,
other on the highway, right?
I'll yell at people in the
car in front of me and whatnot.
You can't, they can't hear you.
Yeah, but I'm not like,
I'm not the guy rolling down
my window, you know, giving
them a thumbs up, you know,
as I drive by.
Right, right.
You know, I just, you
know, I'm doing it all
in the privacy of my car
and for my family to hear me.
(laughing)
You're just teaching your
kids how to yell at other kids.
But I think I brought it
up once before on this,
but I'll never, I mean,
you know, other people,
I know are the same way,
like Will Arnett brought up
on his podcast that
if he's in a good mood
when he's driving, everything's great.
Right.
Like people can cut him off
and he's like, no big deal,
go ahead, you got
somewhere to be, I'm all good.
But if he gets in
that car behind the wheel
and he's in a bad mood,
same exact thing happens.
And he's like, he loses his stuff.
Yeah.
Because he approached it
from a negative perspective.
Right.
And now everything's negative.
So true, it's so true.
I was tested this morning even,
6.30 in the morning I'm driving
and there is someone driving
anywhere from 10 to 15 miles
below the speed limit.
And I'm like, and
it's kind of a hilly road
so I can't really go
around them or anything.
I was just like, what?
Oh, you're stuck behind.
What are you doing?
Yeah, and you're just stuck behind him
and now the line of cars,
even at 6.30 in the morning
was like on my butt, obviously,
and you kind of want to be like,
hey guys, it's not me, it's really the
person in front of me
and you want to tell them
all, it's not me, it's not me.
I do tell people.
I swerve a little bit, like slowly,
just so people can see the car.
Just so they can see that
there's someone in front of you.
Well, once it opened up to an extra lane,
they could see, because I passed them
going the speed limit.
I was like flying past
them, going 30 miles an hour.
That person probably had no idea.
Probably no idea.
Even though 15 cars just passed them.
I'm pointing to every stop sign
like they can actually see me.
This person is aware
enough to see the person
in the car behind them.
I'm pointing to the sign like,
and I am not a super fast driver.
You know this.
Everyone can say this, if
you are going the speed limit,
I am not going to get mad at you.
I'm not.
I am.
You might, but you know what?
That's not something I get mad at.
That's my threshold of
you're at least going
the speed limit, whatever.
I want to go faster, but it's fine.
But this, I was like, dude,
you're going 15 for a long time.
But that got you mad though off the bat.
Were you able to recover from that?
Because that's the other part of it.
You got to be able to
recover from things,
especially driving.
I was, I was.
It was still too early that I
didn't let that set my mood.
Didn't help that it was
your first back to work day.
Back in the office day.
After we've all been home
for COVID for five years.
Yeah, so it's like, it
just set the tone for the day.
I was like, but whatever.
Yes, you can always
look, I guess to that point,
like you just, you can
always look for the offense there.
Yeah.
It's too easy and I wish it wasn't.
Well, it's like I said
to the kids this weekend,
like we just, we are go-go family.
Everybody knows that we're high strong.
We just constantly have somewhere to be.
There's never downtime
and when there is, we crash.
You know, we don't do anything.
We crash and the family crashes.
But because of that,
there's a lot of times,
there's just a lot of
intensity in the house.
Oh yeah.
We had this discussion
this week where it was like,
kids, I know we're intense in this house.
I know we have got, I know
we have no time in this house.
We just go, go, go.
I know that, but the way
you guys are all interacting
right now is just creating more stress.
I was like, and I get it.
Mom and I have taught
you that way, apparently.
Right, right.
So what we need to do now
is bring down the stress.
Everybody has to bring down the stress.
It's something that I
need to try to do more
in everyday life.
But it's sad when it
hits our household sometimes
because it's like, man,
have we taught the kids
to be that way?
Yeah, and part of it is
yes, I think we probably have.
Part of it is that they're siblings
and they argue like
siblings and they get annoyed
with each other like siblings.
I mean, they are really close, I think.
They truly do enjoy being with each other
and laughing with each
other, but they get annoyed
and it doesn't take much.
And then all of a sudden,
it's just downhill, quickly.
Well, I think where I was going with that
was initially that sometimes
you have to just call it out.
Like, hey, you're just
adding stress to the situation.
If you're stressed out,
maybe that should be something
you're just working out on your own
instead of bringing us all down.
And my point to that is like, I'm okay.
I am at a point in my life
where somebody on the sidelines
like, hey, Shawn, you're
kind of just adding stress
to our situation.
If someone were to say
that to me, I'd be like, okay,
that's good to know, I'll change that
because that's not ever my intent.
Or rarely is it my intent.
Right.
You know, like I'm okay with that.
Some people might not be okay with that.
And it depends, if I
come in in a bad mood,
I guess I probably
wouldn't be okay with it.
Really?
It's all in the delivery.
You actually did it
really well this weekend.
At one point you looked at our daughter
and you're like, do you
want me to tell you something?
I think she said no, but you were about,
you wanted to give her
feedback and you're like,
you asked if she'd be open
to hearing it at that moment.
Yeah, she said no, yeah.
Yeah, yeah, so you're like, okay.
Because it is, I think that's part of it.
You have to be receptive.
I parented her long
enough that I think she knew
exactly what I was gonna say.
I didn't even have to say it.
I didn't even have to be a part of this
to know what you were gonna say.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, that was just a funny,
it was a funny situation
from where I was sitting
because I could like see it, but I
couldn't hear any of it.
I was down the line a little bit.
I was like, oh, I know what's going on.
Yeah, well, we've
skipped a couple of weeks
because we've just
been on the crazy train,
going, going, going.
We haven't had time to do it.
Yeah.
And I know we're
disappointing that one guy.
I can't remember what his handle was.
By keeping it going.
You're right, buddy,
we should hang it up.
And for you, just consider it hung up.
Just consider it hung
up and scroll on by.
Yeah, I'm just gonna let you do that.
Yep.
Let him.
Let them, such a great book.
Yep, I love it.
We've had a lot, I mean,
it's one of the reasons why
it's nice to do it on a
weekly basis, for me at least,
is because most of the
time there is so much going on
in a week that we have
stuff to kind of cover.
Right.
You know, and I know we try
not to be redundant with it.
Redundive, I almost said redundive.
Try not to be redundant with it.
Yeah.
But man, you give us three weeks.
So much is going on.
So much.
I mean, we've flown
through state playoffs,
Dallas Cup, a couple
different track meets.
I mean, it has been--
Meet of champs.
Like, it has been,
like, I don't even know.
We say busy, but I mean, it's flown by.
And these weeks are tough
because so much just required
juggling with work and all
the things with the kids.
And I mean, there's
always some of that juggling,
but it's, there was just
more overlap, I feel like,
between kids sports and like,
what would traditionally be work time.
And it's like, it's exhausting.
Well, and the Dallas,
like the Dallas Cup for once,
even for me, I have a
very flexible schedule
because I know my boss very well.
It's me.
I have a flexible
schedule. He's a great boss.
But we're still out,
we're out of office so much,
even for me, I'm like, my gosh,
I actually have tons of work to do.
Right.
And Dallas Cup, oh, by the way,
our kids have school to do too,
but Dallas Cup is a
whole week of soccer games
during the school week
because there's teams from,
50 different countries that have flown in
and they're all on vacation.
Sure.
Playing in a soccer
tournament in the United States.
Just happens to be in
Dallas, this Dallas Cup.
Funny how that works.
And our kids, they'll go
to school in the morning
and then to a game in the
afternoon or half the school
or take a test in the morning and then
we're going to a game.
But for us, we got to go pick them up
and we got to take
them to the game an hour
or at least take them to warm up.
And it's just, it's a half
day or if not a whole day off.
Or one or two hours and one or two hours
and the jobs that we do, that's not
enough to do anything.
That's like a weekend where it's like,
I'm going to catch up
on emails for an hour.
That's like nothing,
it's just a chip away.
Right, right.
So that's all the time, that's just lost
and that's difficult.
It is difficult to get back.
It's difficult for the kids too.
It is, oh yeah, now we have
kids that are buying in school
and that is hard to make up.
When their schedules
are as busy as they are
on a regular basis to then
find that time for extra homework.
And that's club ball for the younger one.
The older one, he was missing school
because of high school athletics, right?
So they're traveling to,
they went to Lubbock on a Monday
Tuesday.
Or Tuesday for a Wednesday game.
Sorry, no, no, no, they went to Lubbock
on a Monday for a Tuesday game.
You had it right the
first time, I was wrong.
Yeah, wow, there is a
first time for everything.
Orderly wrong, you got it right.
Yeah, but that's a lot of
time off to play in a game.
Yeah.
They won, which was
awesome and then they went,
I think they made it to the
regional semi-finals maybe.
They did.
Which is two games out of state.
It was a heart breaker
because the game was close,
went into overtime, zero, zero.
Yep.
Two overtimes, two 10
minute overtimes, no golden goal.
And the other team
scored in the first overtime.
So we had like eight, we
had like, I don't know,
we had like 13
minutes left in that total.
So they had some time
to try to tie it up.
Unfortunately we couldn't do it,
really kind of took the air out of our,
the wind out of our
sails when that happened.
But the sad part was any
team could have won that.
It was a toss up game.
And they just happened to be
the ones that put the magic,
the one shot in.
The one shot in.
Even though I think we
outshot them in the game.
I think so.
We out-possessed them in the game.
They were a great
team, don't get me wrong.
Absolutely, yeah.
It's just such a heart
breaker to win a game
that you could have won.
Yep.
You know, and I don't
know how many people
that have played sports feel that way,
but you know, in a game like that,
you almost wish you got blown out.
Yeah.
Because then your
heart doesn't hurt as much.
Yeah.
It was just like, it came
down to that last few minutes,
you know, and it just,
I mean any game that's tied
zero zero at end of regulation,
like you know it was a good game.
It was a hard fought game.
Oh, my heart breaks for them.
But you get this, we're,
our oldest is halfway
done with his high school
soccer career now.
He'll be a junior and senior now.
He's done freshman and sophomore.
He's halfway through, it's crazy.
Crazy.
Yeah.
It hurts my heart to be
like, this is going so fast.
Well, and we were thinking
about the seniors, right?
Oh, yeah.
Because on the varsity team,
it's nine seniors, a sophomore,
which is our son, and a freshman.
Yeah.
And that's it.
So like when these guys,
when that final whistle blew,
I mean, they all fell to the ground.
I mean, that was it for them.
You know, that's the last
of their high school careers.
Now some are going to play college.
Yeah.
It's great, but.
I will not, I'm just
forewarning everybody,
particularly you, I will be
an absolute mess senior year.
I will.
Like I cried at senior night this year.
Yeah, you did.
I was like, okay.
I don't have any, I
don't even personally know
many of these kids, but I
do know that they've had
a big impact on our son's life.
Yeah.
And we've gotten to
know a couple of parents
and stuff like that,
but I mean, it was just,
I just, I was proud and I was sad,
and I was like all the
emotions for these parents.
Yeah, yeah.
Because I know that it's
something we're going to go
through and it's going to be hard.
I just remember that little baby.
It will be hard, but
right now we're proud.
We're proud parents because,
and all the awards haven't come out yet.
I think there's more to
come because they're waiting
on the state finals to
happen before they name like
all state, all region,
all that kind of stuff.
However, our oldest
did get one of the few
that they have already
named, and he was named
all region defensive
newcomer of the year.
Yeah.
Which is cool.
Which is really cool.
Yeah, so congratulations.
Yeah, it was so good.
It was well deserved.
I mean, they only let in
maybe four or five goals
the whole season he was center back.
Yeah.
And the other thing that he did too,
and this is, I'm trying not
to be bag of doshas about it,
but it's cool, but as
a sophomore on a team
that started all seniors
plus the other freshmen,
they keep all their stats
and everything obviously,
and they keep minutes as one of those.
Our son had the most
minutes out of anybody
played in the entire team.
Almost by a hundred
minutes, I think it was in the end.
I don't remember, but he was
significantly in the lead.
So, I mean, he never came off.
He didn't.
He came off twice, I
think, because he had injury
and then went back on.
Yep, yep.
But he almost never subbed out.
Yep.
And he did not start senior night,
which is absolutely appropriate.
Oh yeah, he lost like
23 minutes on that night.
Yeah, yeah.
Someone gained 23 minutes on him.
I know, I know.
And that, I mean.
Rightfully so.
Which was a really cool night
because they started
with all the seniors.
Yeah, so cool. And then
at the end of the game,
the coach, coach
Bates did it really well.
I'm sure he did it on purpose.
Yep, I'm sure. At the end of the game,
all the seniors were sitting.
They all got clap outs, kind of.
And then basically the team on the field
was the next generation, next year team.
Next year team.
It was really, this is
maybe a little bit of overkill
or whatever, but it
was beautiful in my mind
to just kind of see
that arc and that change
happen throughout the game.
Like I just, it was very metaphorical
for what is happening then and overall.
It was cool.
The sad part is, and I know that's why
our oldest is sad too,
because that was a really good team.
Really good.
It's just when teams,
I hesitate to say it was a special team.
I mean, they made it way
further than last year.
Yep.
And they actually tied for the furthest
that any teams made it, I think.
I think so.
That's what I remember.
So if they would have won that game,
they would have gotten
further than any boys team had.
And shout out to the girls team
who was actually in
the state championship.
Yes they are.
That's awesome, way to go Keller Girls.
Keller Girls, way to go.
That's really neat.
Oh, it's a special team, right?
And you hate to say
it was a special team,
but it was a special team to somebody.
I mean, you start going through
some of those seniors individually.
Like I could say their names.
Those guys are hard to replace.
I know that's why this was
a year that they could have.
Like I said, they
could have won that game,
which means they could
have gone to that next one.
You never know how
far you could have gone
when you're that good.
And it's tough to get back to that level.
A year if we're gonna
have a team that good.
That's what you start
thinking right after it's over.
I know that's where our son's at.
It would just be a
little nervous about that.
But again, it's like, sorry
I'm talking a lot right now,
but I told him when I
played sports at least,
I mean, the level you
get better every year
is exponential at that
age for the good players.
Like the player I was as a sophomore
was nothing compared to
what I was as a junior.
That was probably one
of my biggest jumps.
And then junior to senior year was even,
it was a huge jump too.
Maybe not as big as
my sophomore to junior.
I mean, that was like a
baby to like, I understand.
Yeah, yeah.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, yeah.
I mean, it's a big, I
mean, yeah, you're a man.
You're a young man.
I feel like a junior, you know?
Yeah, but it's just, it's, you know,
you're maturing in your mind,
you're understanding the game more,
you're confidence in the game.
I don't think there's
anything to do with manliness
other than just that
confidence and maturing
and just being awake
to, oh, I can do this.
Right.
And having confidence to do it.
And that's, confidence is half of it.
Oh yeah.
Maybe even more than half of it, so.
But like last year, I think our oldest
got so much confidence
playing on this team.
Totally.
And he's lucky too,
because there's a lot of his players
playing high school teams.
Yeah.
But they're not as competitive.
Right.
Right, so he's actually
playing a very competitive team.
Obviously biggest, they're six eight.
They're actually the biggest.
Biggest of the bigs.
Because the way they
changed it was weird this year,
I'm getting too much in the weeds here,
but six eight is the
biggest here in Texas.
And they changed it just this last year,
because there's so
many six eight schools,
that now there's two
six eight championships.
And the way they split it is by
attendance of the schools.
And Keller is in the biggest one.
Biggest one.
So we were playing
against all the biggest schools,
which is, I mean, that's cool.
I mean, that's tough to compete in.
Totally, and they are so competitive.
So it was, shout out to the boys.
It was really fun.
It was fun to watch them.
They had a great season.
They did, they should be really proud.
Yeah, I'll miss them in the seniors too.
I know, I know.
I really got connected
with watching the team.
It was awesome.
I know, I know.
Oh my gosh, but the thing that,
so Senior Night cried, I
was super sad after the game.
The seniors sign out, 100% made me cry.
Like tears actually
rolling down my cheeks.
I don't know how they do it,
but there's like a piece of glass
or something in front of the camera
and each one of the
seniors comes and takes a Sharpie
and signs their name.
And so you just get a
picture of them signing it
and it's called the senior sign out.
Yeah, it's really cool.
It made me cry.
It's about to make you cry again.
It is, just thinking about it.
Like they're just
signing off for the last time.
Yeah, yeah.
And it was really sad.
It was.
Someone who's not
signing out is our daughter.
She's got a lot of time left on this.
She's been nursing this thing,
if you followed it on Instagram at all.
Oh my gosh, we haven't
talked about it much on here.
I won't go long
because we're already getting
to where we don't
need to go much further,
but she's had a quad strain
that has just been a nightmare.
She can't get it healthy
because she's in the
middle of track season.
And she has track
practice every day for school
and then clubs.
And then clubs every night.
She has club every week obviously,
but club season
actually starts up about now.
Right after--
Like really hot and
heavy after high school.
I mean, by after junior high
is kind of just finishing up.
But she was in the middle
of her junior high season,
which is kind of her time to shine.
And she had to sit out a couple of them
because she was in so much pain with it.
She ran a couple of them,
not even close to her best time.
Most of them, she won all
of them until she got to,
oh no, she lost to the same girl
and one that she lost
to in the meet of champs.
Yeah.
Where she got third place,
where she was somewhat more healthy,
but she wasn't healthy yet though.
I hate having that asterisk
because I feel like when
I'm putting these things out,
I want people to know
like, hey, I'm proud of Island.
I'm proud of our daughter
no matter what she does.
Whether it's 55th place,
third place or first place.
Proud of her no matter what.
But when I know she's not healthy
and she's not putting out her best times
and she's a foot behind the
person that probably is healthy
thinking she's beating my daughter,
the competitive juices in
me, I don't like excuses.
But I do just want to point out,
like stay ready,
she's gonna come for you.
You get her on a healthy
day, she's gonna come for you.
Right, right.
You know what I mean?
So hopefully she gets healthy
because you re-qualified
for Nike Outdoor again.
Yep, that's exciting.
Such a huge, 100, we
gotta get her qualified
for the 200 hopefully.
Again, you have to have
a time that's fast enough
to even qualify to get there.
Because they only take
100 or something like that
across the nation.
Yeah.
And if your time's not
fast enough, you don't get in.
So hopefully, so she's
already in on the 100,
which is awesome, that'll be fun.
And then, but again, it's
nice to spend all that money
and go all the way up to Oregon
for more than just 10 seconds of running.
Right.
Or 12 seconds of
running, whatever it may be.
Right.
If we could add another 25 seconds to it.
If you could add the 25, it'll be--
Make it 35 seconds of
running, that'd be great.
He's so worth it.
It's like $100 a minute.
Yeah.
Wait, did I do that right?
I don't--
Something like that.
I don't--
Or no, $100 a second.
Yeah.
There we go.
I was like, I don't know your math,
but $100 a second makes more sense, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
(laughs)
You're like, it's good.
No, I, and it's so frustrating for her
because she's so competitive.
And she doesn't like
to compete, not 100%.
Nobody would who's competitive, right?
And it's like, I wanna compete,
I wanna go show everybody what I can do,
but I can't do what I know
I can do because I'm hurt.
And it's new in our household too,
because to your point, she's competitive,
but she also has never
really had to deal with an injury.
No.
Like this, or pain of an injury.
So she doesn't know what's hurting pain,
what's nagging pain,
what, you know what I mean?
Yep.
And she's trying to stay healthy
because she knows she wants,
some races are more
important than other ones,
and some she's forced to do
because the team needs her.
Yep.
And so she's pulled a lot
of different directions,
and it was frustrating everybody,
including in our family,
just trying to get her to figure out,
well, what's important?
Like someone had her do the high jump,
which I think started the whole thing.
And it was like, she was still doing it.
Well, is this important?
We're having tearful conversations
around these kinds of things,
and it's like, well,
you're not healthy though.
Yeah.
And we're not mad at
you for not being healthy,
but I don't know that
we're doing the right things
to get healthy now.
And it's just added so many more layers.
And I've never been
the one who'd been like,
oh, my parents were
terrible at raising me,
they had no idea what they were doing.
There's different
reasons, why am I saying?
I struggled growing up potentially.
But my point here is, I
know nobody's given a booklet.
No.
And it's hard for everybody.
And like right now we're just in this
seven layer bean dip
of just more and more layers.
Yeah.
Of bean dip that we're
trying to figure out.
I know, and it's, every
child is so different.
And so like what works with
one doesn't work with the other
and they have different struggles.
And it's just like, man, you guys,
like I'm mentally exhausted from trying
to be a good parent.
And they agreed, agreed, agreed.
Because you're just
trying to be so tactical
about the discussions.
Yes.
I'm gonna have them.
But also these last couple of weeks,
because we've had all these
huge state qualifying games,
regional qualifying championship games,
I mean, they raised
trophies for our sons things.
We had the Dallas Cup,
which is an invitational only.
So only the best teams are there.
I mean, it's a very competitive.
We didn't brag on
that one because we got,
we played terrible and got
wiped off the face of the earth.
So nothing to brag about there.
Just, we didn't show.
The team didn't show.
But that was stressful
because we were trying to show,
we were hoping to show.
Hoping to, yeah.
And then we had the meet a champs,
which is the champion.
So you qualify for it and
then it's all the best sprinters
are at the meet a champs
and from the whole
district at that point.
So we have all these things,
like all the, you know, like the finals.
My point is that was stressful.
That in and of itself was stressful.
As a parent. Yeah.
Because it wasn't just
like we were just enjoying
watching our children.
And it's not like we have
expectations for them to win
or else to burn or throw.
It was just, I wanted, you
want success for them so badly.
It worked so hard and you
want them to feel that success.
And you want them to
feel the joy of victory.
Like.
When they're used to, I
shouldn't say used to,
but when history has suggested that you
can get first place.
You can.
You can win that game.
You can score the winning goal.
Yeah.
You know, like they've all done that.
Right.
You know?
Right.
I mean, our daughters
never come in worse than third
in a race really.
And that was just this last track meet.
Right.
When she wasn't healthy.
Right, right.
It's always first or second.
And it's just that one girl who is fast
and she's her nemesis right now.
She needs, she's in her head.
She's got to get past that girl.
But when you're used to winning.
Yeah.
And you're going out there hurt
and you know it's going to crush her
if she can't go out there
instead of personal best and whatnot.
Like that's stressful.
It is.
And we have to parent to that.
Yeah.
I mean, we have to
parent and find that balance
between encouraging your
child to do their best,
but not putting that
crown on them, right?
The heavy is the head.
That's always my joke in the house.
Crown, right?
Like because that weight is so much
and they want it so bad,
but at the same time
it's okay if you fail.
Like try your best.
I mean, but yet we all
know you're competitive enough
to know you want to
eat up the competition.
I mean, we had to have
the conversation with her.
I did.
You ended up getting in on it
because I wasn't getting through.
He was so mad because he
was catching up on homework
and he's like, I'm not going
to get a 100 in this class.
I was like, about 100?
You know, and oh wait, this is serious.
Like you're not kidding.
That's his overall grade.
The overall grade, 100.
So, and he was so mad
because he was trying to make up.
He had gotten like a 94 on one assignment
of all the
assignments so far in the term.
And he is like, and
then he ended up turning
in some homework and he got
like a 91% on this homework.
And he's like, I can't even
get my grade back up to 100%
from this 94.
Now it's never going
to get back up to 100%.
Great for the class.
And he's like, look at this.
And he's going through his
grades and it was 100, 100,
100, 100, 194, 100, 100, 100, 191.
I was like, son, it is okay.
Yeah.
Like you're getting a fantastic grade.
You clearly understand it, but it's like,
we have to parent to, it
is okay to not get 100.
Yeah, yeah.
And that's the
pressure he's put on himself.
Our expectations are A's and B's, right?
Yes.
That's his expectation, which is good.
I'm glad we have high expectations,
but that's still a maturing
emotion, emotions with him.
So I mean, he'll get there, but yeah,
that's why we had to have
a conversation with him.
Yeah, but that
pressure can be debilitating
if we don't parent to that right.
And that's where it gets hard.
Cause you're like, what's that balance?
Like you want them to
strive for the best,
but it's okay if they
fall short of the mark.
Well, they're all like that though,
with we talk about
sports all the time on here,
but oh, by the way, they're all in school
and they're all A and B or
straight A's, kids, right?
National Honor
Society, A role, A, B role,
honors, glasses.
I mean, we try not to
make this a brag fest.
We're proud of our children,
just like everybody's
proud of their children.
That's not the type,
that's not the side of this
that we always choose to talk about here,
which we probably should
talk about that more often.
But it is, that's just
so much pressure for them
to produce results academically,
athletically, socially.
I mean, there's just
so much stress there.
And that's part of them,
that stress to them feeds out to us,
and then it just becomes a stress loop.
And that's where, even
when I was saying it earlier,
like, all right,
everybody, stress time out.
Stress time out.
I know we have high
expectations in the house.
I know we're strung out.
I know we're busy, but
we need to take a breath.
You know what I mean?
Life is good.
Let's all have a smile.
If you're adding to the stress, stop.
Right.
(laughing)
Just stop.
Yeah.
And life will go on.
Exactly.
It'll go on after
that 91 and we'll learn.
It'll go on after, we got
knocked out of the state,
you know, tournament, and it'll go on
after a third place.
It will.
Yeah.
It will.
Well.
And it'll go on even
though you had to go back
to work today.
It will.
Behind somebody driving slow.
Yes.
Yes, it will.
And I'll be going somewhere else.
It'll go on when I go get my plans
printed somewhere else.
But not at Stables.
That's what I mean by somewhere else.
Yeah.
Just not Stables.
Oh my gosh.
Oh, all right.
Well, we are running long.
Yeah, I know.
So much for, well, that's what happens
when we're three weeks behind.
I always say, we got
plenty to talk about.
Plenty to talk about.
So you can either get
us for 40 minutes weekly,
or you can get us for an
hour every three weeks.
The math would suggest
the hour every three weeks
is still a better use of your time.
Yeah, that's easier for me too.
So I'm on board.
Choo choo.
Pun intended, right?
Yeah, that's true.
Mm-hmm.
That was good.
You're so quick-witted.
No, no, no, no, no, no.
All right, well, we will be back.
When the day is new.
When the week is new.
We'll have more to talk about.
Nope.
And so will you.
Yeah.
No, really, it doesn't work.
Yeah, so how did Mr. Rogers say that?
He didn't talk to people.
Was it his neighbors that
came by that he's talking about?
I think so.
Yeah.
In the land of make believe
with the trolley that went?
Yeah.
Oh, I miss Mr. Rogers.
I don't, but he's nostalgic.
(laughing)
If we had more Mr. Rogers,
maybe there would be
less people like the lady
at the Staples.
I'll leave you with this.
That t-shirt that I took a picture of,
someone put it on Instagram.
I don't even think it's
real, I think it was AI'd,
but it was Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross,
and the crocodile hunter.
(laughing)
The three best people, you know,
just to give you a chill vibe.
Yep.
Talk about good karma and good juju.
Yeah, we're gonna make that t-shirt.
Yeah.
Go see their faces, we can't.
Crikey.
Crikey, that's a beautiful little tree.
Happy little tree.
It's a happy tree, happy tree.
Well, we'll see you tomorrow, neighbors.
I actually loved going
to my orthopedic surgeon
because they always had
Bob Ross in the waiting room.
Oh, on the TV?
On the TV.
Funny.
Or actually Bob Ross.
(laughing)
Bob Ross is on the TV.
I don't think he was sitting in there.
That would be so funny.
That would have popped into my head.
Bob Ross is just some
random orthodontic waiting room.
He has his easels set up and he's like,
happy tree, there are no mistakes,
just happy little accidents.
Yeah.
And nobody can paint as well as him.
No, the guy is really good.
Yeah, it's like
Jackson Pollock's on this one
and like a Bob Ross on this one.
Right.
Shout out to Bob Ross.
Shout out to all three of those guys.
Yep.
My homies pour a little
liquor for those guys.
(laughing)
I'm trying to picture Mr. Rogers,
or Bob Ross for that
matter, drinking liquor.
I can see Bob, no, I can see Mr. Rogers
wearing his death row records here.
Snoop hooked him up with.
Oh yeah, for sure with his sweater vest
or with his sweater cardigan.
Yeah.
I see it.
Wearing his untied Jordans.
Yeah.
Now I can see Bob Ross smoking a joint,
I just can't see him drinking liquor.
Yeah.
I totally see that man.
I can see all of that.
(laughing)
Yeah, I see Bob Ross
doing a lot of things.
We might have to unpack that next week
because that actually surprised me.
All right, well we've
extended by another five minutes.
Oh, you can tell it's been a long day.
Yeah, yeah.
All right.
So we'll say adios.
That's not what you say.
No, that's not what I say.
I say cha-cha.
That's what you say, or
you just try it again.
Okay.
All right, well, we'll
catch you on the flip side.
Cha-cha.
Wait, let me do it one more time.
Let me do it this way.
All right, we're gonna
pour a little liquor.
Peace, my brothers.
Cha-cha.
All right, we'll see you.
(upbeat music)
We're back.
Our highlights can
sometimes be very entertaining.
To us at least.
I literally thought,
am I the one throwing all
this bad juju out there?
But I go back to that
Robin Williams thing, you know,
you never know what
someone else is going through.
Well, you know what, karma's real.
I learned a long time ago,
I'm not going to invest in people
that aren't worth investing in.
I mean, it's just one of
those things in human nature
where everybody thinks they're right.
Well, I'm right.
It's not me, it's not me.
And you had it right the
first time, I was wrong.
Yeah, well, there is a
first time for everything.
Totally wrong, you got it right.
I cried at senior night this year.
Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross,
in the crocodile hunter.
Talk about good karma and good juju.
Oh, I miss Mr. Rogers.
I don't, but he's nostalgic.
My homies pour a little
liquor for those guys.
(upbeat music)
(laughing)