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So"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1427.7,"endTime":1431.75,"body":"looking back was compassion,"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1427.7,"endTime":1431.75,"body":"and, and without judgement, but"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1431.75,"endTime":1434.27,"body":"just kind of seeing Okay, well,"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1431.75,"endTime":1434.27,"body":"that could have influenced this"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1434.27,"endTime":1438.86,"body":"for me, and then saying, Well,"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1434.27,"endTime":1438.86,"body":"what does it feel like for me to"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1438.86,"endTime":1444.62,"body":"really belong, and to remember"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1438.86,"endTime":1444.62,"body":"that that state of belonging is"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1444.62,"endTime":1451.19,"body":"an internal state. We begin"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1444.62,"endTime":1451.19,"body":"always with ourselves. And when"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1451.19,"endTime":1457.07,"body":"we belong here, it becomes much"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1451.19,"endTime":1457.07,"body":"easier to really step into the"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1457.07,"endTime":1462.11,"body":"full space that we have"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1457.07,"endTime":1462.11,"body":"available to us. And it's big,"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1462.11,"endTime":1470.48,"body":"you know, there's a lot of room"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1462.11,"endTime":1470.48,"body":"so we can step into it. Okay, my"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1470.48,"endTime":1477.92,"body":"darlings, I really hope that"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1470.48,"endTime":1477.92,"body":"made sense. I feel as though I"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1477.92,"endTime":1482.06,"body":"went, Oh, off into lots of"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1477.92,"endTime":1482.06,"body":"thoughts. But gosh, there was,"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1482.3,"endTime":1486.35,"body":"even as I was talking, it felt"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1482.3,"endTime":1486.35,"body":"useful for me. So I really hope"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1486.35,"endTime":1491.9,"body":"it was useful for you too. And I"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1486.35,"endTime":1491.9,"body":"send you a hug and a wave."},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1493.13,"endTime":1498.65,"body":"Oh, by the way, I've started"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1493.13,"endTime":1498.65,"body":"getting the transcripts for"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1498.65,"endTime":1504.59,"body":"these podcasts. as well so not"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1498.65,"endTime":1504.59,"body":"quite sure how to share them"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1504.59,"endTime":1509.78,"body":"yet. But if anyone has got any"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1504.59,"endTime":1509.78,"body":"thoughts that would be really"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1509.78,"endTime":1515.03,"body":"useful. Transcripts can be"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1509.78,"endTime":1515.03,"body":"really useful. Okay, my"},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1515.03,"endTime":1522.68,"body":"darlings. That was a bit random."},{"speaker":"Henny Flynn","startTime":1515.03,"endTime":1522.68,"body":"Another hug underway"}]}