WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.840 Brandi Healy: this is like my 9 year old daughter's a manifester 00:00:02.860 --> 00:00:06.399 and like, it's top of mind because we just had recital weekend. 00:00:06.919 --> 00:00:11.820 So it's like leading up to recital, there's like dress rehearsals and 00:00:11.830 --> 00:00:13.129 you know, all cast rehearsals. 00:00:13.139 --> 00:00:14.199 Some of these rehearsals go first. 00:00:14.464 --> 00:00:20.985 Four hours, you know, and these are children in like full hair and makeup. 00:00:20.985 --> 00:00:26.294 I call it the baby drag show and they have the best time and they love it. 00:00:26.334 --> 00:00:27.464 And like, she's. 00:00:27.899 --> 00:00:32.580 All in, you know, over the course of a weekend, there's, you know, could be four 00:00:32.580 --> 00:00:37.299 or five shows, but I've seen it happen. 00:00:37.360 --> 00:00:44.199 And now I know to plan for it the day after recital weekend, we do nothing. 00:00:44.634 --> 00:00:49.924 Because she's going to need, like, a full day in pajamas, like, 00:00:50.264 --> 00:00:52.944 watching movies and, like, napping. 00:00:53.354 --> 00:00:57.784 And, you know, we learned the hard way after, you know, one of the 00:00:57.784 --> 00:00:59.725 first recitals, and then once I... 00:01:02.114 --> 00:01:07.284 I'm like, Oh, like, yeah, she has so much energy to get this thing going, 00:01:07.604 --> 00:01:11.584 probably goes past her bandwidth that like, see it all the way through. 00:01:11.954 --> 00:01:15.224 But then like, crashes hard afterwards. 00:01:54.230 --> 00:01:55.997 Welcome to Well Designed. 00:01:56.377 --> 00:01:58.387 Kyle and I were just chatting. 00:01:59.347 --> 00:02:04.827 Before we hit record and we had some ideas of some other conversations 00:02:04.827 --> 00:02:07.987 that we were going to have, but we usually use, you know, a few minutes 00:02:07.987 --> 00:02:12.397 beforehand to just catch up around what's happening in our lives. 00:02:12.447 --> 00:02:14.147 And, you know, the. 00:02:15.947 --> 00:02:18.937 Sometimes I wish we were recording during those conversations because 00:02:18.937 --> 00:02:20.167 the things that we talk about, 00:02:21.167 --> 00:02:26.637 Kyle Wood: I wonder if like, if, if all like podcasts sort of like duos, like 00:02:27.057 --> 00:02:31.837 co hosts that they all do that they like chat before or, or, uh, actually 00:02:31.837 --> 00:02:35.117 there's one I'm thinking of where I'm pretty sure they, they do hit record 00:02:35.167 --> 00:02:38.117 because like the first half an hour of their podcast is usually pretty 00:02:38.117 --> 00:02:41.017 chit chatty and then it gets into it. 00:02:42.107 --> 00:02:44.087 Brandi Healy: I mean, maybe that's something that we should try in the future 00:02:44.107 --> 00:02:45.537 that can make for some nice outtakes. 00:02:45.537 --> 00:02:50.317 I think, but, you know, when we were having a conversation, Kyle and I, 00:02:50.427 --> 00:02:53.947 uh, before we got started and hit record, and I think it really helped 00:02:53.947 --> 00:02:57.697 us understand, you know, let's talk about something that's Top of mind 00:02:57.697 --> 00:03:01.357 right now and, and, and going on for each of us in kind of a different way. 00:03:01.417 --> 00:03:04.097 So we just launched this podcast. 00:03:04.297 --> 00:03:08.497 We've been collaborating for gosh, now almost six months. 00:03:08.537 --> 00:03:09.327 Isn't that wild? 00:03:10.057 --> 00:03:10.647 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:03:12.457 --> 00:03:12.967 Yeah. 00:03:13.037 --> 00:03:13.477 Wow. 00:03:13.757 --> 00:03:18.037 Brandi Healy: Like from like meeting one of just like, let's network 00:03:18.117 --> 00:03:18.417 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:03:18.417 --> 00:03:18.727 Yeah. 00:03:18.727 --> 00:03:21.907 Brandi Healy: you know, let's work together. 00:03:21.937 --> 00:03:23.137 You know, it's been about six months. 00:03:23.147 --> 00:03:27.507 So this has been, you know, some time in the making and as 00:03:27.567 --> 00:03:29.937 excited as both of us have been. 00:03:30.242 --> 00:03:35.462 To launch this, you know, we're kind of in our feelings about it in different ways. 00:03:37.792 --> 00:03:43.172 So, you know, I was just sharing with Kyle for me when I've been working 00:03:43.172 --> 00:03:47.162 on a big project and I've had a couple of things, you know, going 00:03:47.162 --> 00:03:52.372 on in my business, I launched a free workshop for, you know, my audience, 00:03:52.832 --> 00:03:54.992 I have this podcast that's happening. 00:03:55.377 --> 00:03:58.647 Was, had been working really hard on both of those things. 00:03:59.767 --> 00:04:03.327 Got them out into the world, and once they were like, out and 00:04:03.327 --> 00:04:05.427 available, I just got really quiet. 00:04:06.287 --> 00:04:11.187 I stopped talking about them, and it's like, seems so counterintuitive to... 00:04:13.262 --> 00:04:16.942 I guess how I felt like I should be showing up. 00:04:16.972 --> 00:04:22.522 So I was shooting all over myself that I should be more excited that I 00:04:22.532 --> 00:04:26.312 should be talking about it more that I should be sharing about it more. 00:04:26.312 --> 00:04:31.732 And so, you know, that's kind of what's what's showing up for me right now. 00:04:33.877 --> 00:04:34.377 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:04:34.387 --> 00:04:39.122 I think there's so much energy that goes into a, Project, right? 00:04:40.502 --> 00:04:45.162 Like, so you put all this energy into like creating a thing and then 00:04:45.392 --> 00:04:48.842 you overcome all the resistance of sharing that thing with the world. 00:04:49.192 --> 00:04:49.952 And then. 00:04:51.832 --> 00:04:52.752 Then you're out of energy. 00:04:56.882 --> 00:04:59.942 Brandi Healy: So, I think, you know, 1 of the things that came up for both of us, I 00:04:59.972 --> 00:05:03.932 think was this, you know, in particular. 00:05:04.632 --> 00:05:08.542 Podcast is so near and dear to our heart and feels. 00:05:08.897 --> 00:05:13.517 You know, pretty vulnerable to, you know, put it out there and to share. 00:05:13.517 --> 00:05:17.457 So I was like, I was just telling Kyle, it's like, you know, I'm talking 00:05:17.457 --> 00:05:21.317 about it, but it's like, I'm almost like whispering about it, not too 00:05:21.317 --> 00:05:25.357 loud, you know, talking about it to those that are close to me, but. 00:05:25.907 --> 00:05:31.227 You know, it, I think it's very easy to think that resistance is coming 00:05:31.227 --> 00:05:33.427 from a feel of fear of failure. 00:05:33.467 --> 00:05:35.547 That's like a natural assumption, right? 00:05:35.567 --> 00:05:39.257 Is that trying new things is scary because we might fail. 00:05:39.817 --> 00:05:44.667 But in part of the conversation we were having is sometimes the scarier 00:05:44.667 --> 00:05:48.627 part is that you might actually succeed and get what you want. 00:05:48.757 --> 00:05:53.807 And I think actually launching the podcast was like the first 00:05:53.807 --> 00:05:56.237 step to that success, right? 00:05:56.857 --> 00:05:58.017 It's out there now. 00:05:58.497 --> 00:05:58.627 I 00:06:00.662 --> 00:06:04.172 Kyle Wood: Yeah, so what, for you, if you don't mind sharing, what 00:06:04.182 --> 00:06:09.932 does, like, what are those scary parts of success that your, like, 00:06:09.932 --> 00:06:11.012 I don't know, your lizard brain is? 00:06:11.932 --> 00:06:12.442 Thinking about. 00:06:15.327 --> 00:06:18.137 Brandi Healy: think it's the unknown, because it's something 00:06:18.137 --> 00:06:20.597 that I haven't experienced before. 00:06:20.637 --> 00:06:25.477 Like, I've experienced failure, and I know we've talked about my profile, I 00:06:25.477 --> 00:06:31.177 have a three in my profile, which is about experimentation, about trying different 00:06:31.177 --> 00:06:36.687 things, and, you know, learning from mistakes, so that's not an unfamiliar 00:06:36.687 --> 00:06:41.872 feeling to me, and I think one of the fears that comes with actually achieving 00:06:41.872 --> 00:06:50.142 your goals or getting what you want is that unknown of what comes with that. 00:06:50.742 --> 00:06:54.982 And I think it's, then what? 00:06:55.622 --> 00:06:57.772 I get what I want and then what? 00:06:58.862 --> 00:06:59.392 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:06:59.392 --> 00:07:00.502 Yeah. 00:07:00.502 --> 00:07:00.772 Yeah. 00:07:01.987 --> 00:07:04.497 For me that, yeah, yeah. 00:07:04.497 --> 00:07:08.917 For me, that feel fear of success is always around like, um, and you know, 00:07:08.917 --> 00:07:12.757 I'm going to be too busy and I'm not going to have like enough time for 00:07:12.757 --> 00:07:14.157 the things that are important to me. 00:07:14.167 --> 00:07:18.977 And, uh, and now, you know, as I mentioned before, the call was also 00:07:18.977 --> 00:07:26.807 like, people are going to see me that, you know, I don't share publicly. 00:07:26.877 --> 00:07:31.262 So, um, So that, that all feels scary as well. 00:07:32.462 --> 00:07:36.502 Uh, is it like as exciting as that might be to be like, Oh yeah, I get to 00:07:36.502 --> 00:07:38.272 share this side of me with the world. 00:07:38.272 --> 00:07:39.442 It's also like, ah, 00:07:42.382 --> 00:07:46.049 Brandi Healy: and I think that that's, that's one of the reasons that's what 00:07:46.079 --> 00:07:51.439 has really pulled us to working with this modality of human design is, you 00:07:51.439 --> 00:07:56.914 know, The permission that you get to live often could be authentic, right? 00:07:56.944 --> 00:08:01.444 To operate in a way that feels in alignment, but that 00:08:01.444 --> 00:08:03.204 doesn't mean that it's easy. 00:08:04.399 --> 00:08:04.689 Kyle Wood: No. 00:08:06.389 --> 00:08:06.689 So. 00:08:08.844 --> 00:08:12.324 I thought, yeah, so we've talked about today's episode, but we might talk 00:08:12.334 --> 00:08:17.304 about, because this is a normal thing, whether you've, you're just starting a 00:08:17.304 --> 00:08:22.694 new business where you've got an existing business and you're launching a new, 00:08:23.154 --> 00:08:27.384 um, thing, like running a workshop or you're doing something different to what 00:08:27.534 --> 00:08:31.694 you maybe dabbling, you've particularly been an offline business and now 00:08:31.694 --> 00:08:33.064 you're dabbling with something online. 00:08:34.794 --> 00:08:40.534 I think we all hit those, those sort of points where the wind 00:08:40.534 --> 00:08:42.514 comes out, goes out of our sails. 00:08:43.034 --> 00:08:47.654 So we thought we'd talk about the different types, human design types and 00:08:48.274 --> 00:08:55.844 how, like what's going on there and, and how can each type find ways to, um, 00:08:57.354 --> 00:09:00.844 Support themselves through these periods. 00:09:00.844 --> 00:09:02.934 Cause it is something we all go through. 00:09:03.524 --> 00:09:06.064 It's not, it's not isolated to one person. 00:09:06.444 --> 00:09:09.484 Uh, so yeah, then we thought that'd be interesting topic 00:09:09.934 --> 00:09:11.224 for today's conversation. 00:09:12.134 --> 00:09:17.914 Brandi Healy: So, as a projector, what do you lead into when you're 00:09:17.914 --> 00:09:20.034 feeling the wind go out of your sails? 00:09:20.054 --> 00:09:22.174 When your boat is slowing down. 00:09:23.949 --> 00:09:27.559 Kyle Wood: Well, yeah, I mean, it's a, it's that classic energy thing if the 00:09:27.639 --> 00:09:33.669 projectors last week we launched, you know, at the time of recording this last 00:09:33.669 --> 00:09:37.509 week, the first episode of the podcast came out and it also ended up being this 00:09:37.509 --> 00:09:46.169 just like crazy week, uh, for our family as well and, um, Like all of my energy 00:09:46.289 --> 00:09:52.199 was going into that and probably not near enough energy to towards relaxing. 00:09:52.799 --> 00:09:57.579 And something I learned early on for myself, when I would launch 00:09:57.579 --> 00:10:04.619 a new product online for my other business, um, I used to, this is 00:10:04.619 --> 00:10:06.049 before I even knew about human design. 00:10:06.049 --> 00:10:08.929 Actually, I used to like sit there and. 00:10:09.454 --> 00:10:14.434 Then refresh my emails constantly waiting for like the first sale to come in. 00:10:14.974 --> 00:10:19.814 And, um, I would just end that day, like no matter how many sales came 00:10:19.814 --> 00:10:22.394 in, because I would tell my wife, she would always be like, that's amazing. 00:10:22.584 --> 00:10:25.014 No matter how many sales came in that day, it was not enough. 00:10:25.494 --> 00:10:28.024 And I would just feel gross from being in front of my 00:10:28.024 --> 00:10:30.434 computer all day and disgusting. 00:10:30.904 --> 00:10:35.224 And so I worked out on my launch day, you know, in an emergency, I can 00:10:35.224 --> 00:10:36.434 always access my emails, my phone. 00:10:37.314 --> 00:10:40.333 But I'm going to go out, we're going to go, we're going to go see someone. 00:10:40.334 --> 00:10:41.624 We're going to go have lunch with someone. 00:10:41.624 --> 00:10:43.724 We're going to get out of the house. 00:10:44.254 --> 00:10:48.484 Um, and away from my computer and just let that first day go. 00:10:49.394 --> 00:10:52.304 So in a way, I think, you know, I was. 00:10:54.604 --> 00:10:58.214 Building in ways to allow myself to relax and recharge. 00:10:58.754 --> 00:11:01.864 After, you know, it's a huge thing bringing out and you can, like I said, 00:11:01.864 --> 00:11:03.984 there's all that energy that goes into the creation of the product, 00:11:03.984 --> 00:11:05.354 all the energy that goes into like. 00:11:05.989 --> 00:11:09.969 Talking about it, doing whatever else you have to do, learning new, maybe 00:11:09.979 --> 00:11:16.669 new skills, if it's something new that you haven't used before and, uh, yeah, 00:11:16.669 --> 00:11:19.899 so I think that's, that's probably the big thing it's the, I've learned 00:11:19.899 --> 00:11:24.039 as a projector is like that classic thing that we need, we need a rest. 00:11:24.079 --> 00:11:28.049 We need to have that downtime after we've used up our energy, like used our 00:11:28.059 --> 00:11:32.859 energy on a big thing, um, and we've probably overused our energy a bit. 00:11:33.854 --> 00:11:35.254 To get things really good. 00:11:35.824 --> 00:11:36.374 Yeah. 00:11:38.844 --> 00:11:42.744 Brandi Healy: I think in retrospect, I'm like, maybe unwise for me to have 00:11:42.744 --> 00:11:44.794 launched two things within a week of each 00:11:44.864 --> 00:11:45.184 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:11:45.184 --> 00:11:45.534 Yeah. 00:11:46.264 --> 00:11:49.674 But it's a, it's a thing as well, especially for like energizer predictors. 00:11:49.674 --> 00:11:50.814 Yeah, I can do that. 00:11:51.144 --> 00:11:54.474 But then it's like, yeah, we're really have like dug out a big 00:11:54.504 --> 00:11:58.244 trough energy trough for ourselves that we need to fill back up again. 00:11:58.244 --> 00:11:58.254 Yep. 00:11:59.044 --> 00:11:59.274 Brandi Healy: Yeah. 00:11:59.274 --> 00:12:03.084 And similar to you, like we had some familial commitments happening, 00:12:03.154 --> 00:12:04.874 you know, in our house as well. 00:12:04.894 --> 00:12:05.964 So it was like. 00:12:06.259 --> 00:12:11.009 Exciting things happening, you know, in the podcast, in my own business, then 00:12:11.029 --> 00:12:14.809 with our family, and it was exhausting. 00:12:14.839 --> 00:12:17.759 And I think that I certainly had, again, that moment of kind 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:19.369 of shitting all over myself. 00:12:19.819 --> 00:12:24.539 And then I was able to like, really give myself that grace and say, you 00:12:24.539 --> 00:12:26.848 know, maybe this was poorly planned. 00:12:27.219 --> 00:12:27.929 That's fine. 00:12:28.959 --> 00:12:33.639 And next time, like, you know, can we learn from Kyle and build in some 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:39.809 time, some time for us, like post a big launch like this in the future. 00:12:39.979 --> 00:12:43.329 So, you know, again, it's that three line in action, 00:12:45.174 --> 00:12:45.464 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:12:46.089 --> 00:12:48.579 Brandi Healy: and I found out, I found out and certainly, 00:12:48.759 --> 00:12:50.729 and certainly learned from it. 00:12:50.729 --> 00:12:51.449 And I think that. 00:12:52.269 --> 00:12:56.599 A really valuable lesson for kind of all sacral open sacral centers. 00:12:56.609 --> 00:13:03.429 So our manifestos, our reflectors, our projectors is, you know, when 00:13:03.429 --> 00:13:06.379 you know that you're spending a lot of time and energy working on 00:13:06.389 --> 00:13:10.469 something, really ensuring that you're creating and protecting that time. 00:13:10.794 --> 00:13:17.824 For rest, knowing that when you give yourself that downtime, when it's 00:13:17.824 --> 00:13:22.084 time to turn back on, you'll have the energy to do it and operate. 00:13:23.004 --> 00:13:30.284 Like, you know, with better quality, because I know if I work, push myself to 00:13:30.284 --> 00:13:38.064 work a really long day, I am not working at the same quality in hour 12 as I did in 00:13:38.064 --> 00:13:42.024 like, hour, like, you know, two and three. 00:13:42.534 --> 00:13:43.194 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:13:43.524 --> 00:13:44.064 Yep. 00:13:47.594 --> 00:13:55.314 So, speaking of, uh, manifests, I think the, for them, it's gonna 00:13:55.314 --> 00:13:57.114 be pretty similar to projectors. 00:13:57.794 --> 00:14:01.904 Um, you know, manifestors, the classic thing for manifestors is that they can 00:14:02.004 --> 00:14:05.344 see the thing that needs to be changed. 00:14:05.774 --> 00:14:10.374 Uh, they can see how things can be done differently, but they 00:14:11.814 --> 00:14:16.334 often lack the energy to see that thing through to the end. 00:14:16.574 --> 00:14:19.514 So if you're a manifestor working for yourself and you are seeing something 00:14:19.514 --> 00:14:23.804 through to the end, through to the launch point, you, again, are probably going like 00:14:23.834 --> 00:14:28.644 beyond your, like, Usual energy levels. 00:14:28.714 --> 00:14:29.704 Yeah, your bandwidth. 00:14:29.774 --> 00:14:33.924 And so that is going to feel very, it can be very natural for you to then 00:14:33.924 --> 00:14:36.294 be like, and also being a manifesto. 00:14:36.604 --> 00:14:39.344 And this was one more thing I was going to say for projectors, like 00:14:39.344 --> 00:14:44.954 projectors launching something new can often be so big to us, but quiet, 00:14:45.234 --> 00:14:46.364 especially something brand new. 00:14:47.319 --> 00:14:49.979 So we're not getting that like recognition straight away as well, 00:14:50.069 --> 00:14:52.159 which can sort of help refuel us. 00:14:52.939 --> 00:14:55.039 Um, and that takes time. 00:14:55.229 --> 00:14:59.469 And, and so to manifest, I think, you know, a big thing can be because 00:14:59.509 --> 00:15:00.849 they can be like such catalysts. 00:15:02.554 --> 00:15:07.334 You might launch something and like upset a lot of people as well. 00:15:08.664 --> 00:15:12.084 People will love it, but there'll be a lot of people who are also like, who are 00:15:12.084 --> 00:15:14.314 you to talk about this kind of thing. 00:15:14.664 --> 00:15:17.734 And so that could feel really like defeating and deflating. 00:15:19.149 --> 00:15:23.629 So I think, um, again, yeah, like you said, for manifest is like taking 00:15:23.629 --> 00:15:30.399 that time to step back and rest, um, and, and like, bring people in, 00:15:30.769 --> 00:15:36.849 um, to help them to help to give directions to like, as soon as possible. 00:15:37.909 --> 00:15:41.079 Brandi Healy: Yeah, you know, I think I may have shared this before, um, but 00:15:41.079 --> 00:15:45.569 this is like my 9 year old daughter's a manifester and like, it's top of mind 00:15:45.579 --> 00:15:47.479 because we just had recital weekend. 00:15:47.999 --> 00:15:52.899 So it's like leading up to recital, there's like dress rehearsals and 00:15:52.909 --> 00:15:54.209 you know, all cast rehearsals. 00:15:54.219 --> 00:15:55.279 Some of these rehearsals go first. 00:15:55.544 --> 00:16:02.064 Four hours, you know, and these are children in like full hair and makeup. 00:16:02.064 --> 00:16:07.374 I call it the baby drag show and they have the best time and they love it. 00:16:07.414 --> 00:16:08.544 And like, she's. 00:16:08.979 --> 00:16:13.659 All in, you know, over the course of a weekend, there's, you know, could be four 00:16:13.659 --> 00:16:18.379 or five shows, but I've seen it happen. 00:16:18.439 --> 00:16:25.279 And now I know to plan for it the day after recital weekend, we do nothing. 00:16:25.714 --> 00:16:31.004 Because she's going to need, like, a full day in pajamas, like, 00:16:31.344 --> 00:16:34.024 watching movies and, like, napping. 00:16:34.434 --> 00:16:38.864 And, you know, we learned the hard way after, you know, one of the 00:16:38.864 --> 00:16:40.804 first recitals, and then once I... 00:16:43.194 --> 00:16:48.364 I'm like, Oh, like, yeah, she has so much energy to get this thing going, 00:16:48.684 --> 00:16:52.664 probably goes past her bandwidth that like, see it all the way through. 00:16:53.034 --> 00:16:56.304 But then like, crashes hard afterwards. 00:16:56.324 --> 00:17:00.164 So 1 of our family members was like, Oh, can we do something on Monday? 00:17:00.164 --> 00:17:02.019 And I was like, Absolutely not. 00:17:02.089 --> 00:17:03.909 I was like, we need to do it before. 00:17:04.309 --> 00:17:08.449 She'll still be on the upswing if we do it before recital weekend. 00:17:08.489 --> 00:17:11.949 Like we can ride that wave, but afterwards it's going to 00:17:11.949 --> 00:17:14.469 be lights out for, for a bit. 00:17:14.669 --> 00:17:19.579 So, you know, we're kind of in that moment and, you know, being able to honor that, 00:17:19.579 --> 00:17:24.419 whether you're, you know, an adult and you're talking about your business or 00:17:24.469 --> 00:17:29.259 you have, you know, partners or children in your life, you know, understanding 00:17:29.259 --> 00:17:30.709 what does that look like for them. 00:17:31.849 --> 00:17:32.229 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:17:32.339 --> 00:17:32.789 Yep. 00:17:34.249 --> 00:17:34.599 I love it. 00:17:34.599 --> 00:17:36.279 I'm just gonna write something down for the end. 00:17:36.289 --> 00:17:36.329 Yeah. 00:17:37.829 --> 00:17:42.609 All right, well, let's keep with our non sake rules and what about reflectors? 00:17:44.369 --> 00:17:46.789 Brandi Healy: You know, I have a client that I've worked with that is 00:17:46.789 --> 00:17:54.349 a reflector and I saw this, she did a 30 day challenge on her Instagram and 00:17:54.399 --> 00:17:58.629 the whole time I, you know, it was a mindfulness challenge and every day 00:17:58.639 --> 00:18:00.329 I see her showing up in her stories. 00:18:00.349 --> 00:18:02.919 I see her showing up in her posts and like. 00:18:03.314 --> 00:18:06.804 The content was gold, and I remember checking in with her, 00:18:06.804 --> 00:18:10.124 and she was like, I am exhausted. 00:18:10.984 --> 00:18:13.754 I was like, you would never know! 00:18:13.974 --> 00:18:19.364 And, you know, it was so interesting, you know, she was like, I'm committed 00:18:19.384 --> 00:18:24.559 to like, seeing this through, but like, I'm I can see the light at the end of 00:18:24.559 --> 00:18:28.479 the tunnel that, like, I'm allowing that time for me to take a break and 00:18:28.479 --> 00:18:34.239 know, like, I don't have to keep that up and allowing for that permission 00:18:34.239 --> 00:18:36.489 to be like, yeah, I tried this thing. 00:18:36.769 --> 00:18:38.219 It was a lot for me. 00:18:38.779 --> 00:18:41.109 You know, I'm, I'm able to see it through. 00:18:41.169 --> 00:18:42.169 I know that I. 00:18:44.379 --> 00:18:45.909 I don't feel obligated. 00:18:45.909 --> 00:18:50.439 It's something I want to do, but like I've kind of learned now, like 00:18:50.569 --> 00:18:52.539 that just might be a lot for me. 00:18:52.949 --> 00:18:58.629 Um, and I think that that's like, you know, a good kind of observation for all 00:18:58.629 --> 00:19:04.099 of us is whether it's an email that you see come through from another business 00:19:04.139 --> 00:19:08.719 that you admire or some kind of, you know, content on social media or a 00:19:08.719 --> 00:19:11.879 podcast, you see the finished product. 00:19:12.134 --> 00:19:16.614 You don't see what happens behind the scenes and you don't see the emotions 00:19:16.614 --> 00:19:19.624 and the thoughts that are going through the person that is putting that out. 00:19:19.634 --> 00:19:21.534 You're like, this is awesome. 00:19:21.534 --> 00:19:25.664 Or maybe you have another feeling about it, but like, we always forget 00:19:25.674 --> 00:19:31.598 that there's like a human being on the backend that has created that and. 00:19:32.779 --> 00:19:37.229 You know, whether that is, like, often times we make the assumption 00:19:37.229 --> 00:19:38.979 that it's coming with confidence. 00:19:39.349 --> 00:19:41.889 When sometimes it's coming with a lot, most of the time I feel like it's 00:19:41.889 --> 00:19:43.949 probably coming with a lot of vulnerability, 00:19:44.359 --> 00:19:44.529 right? 00:19:44.714 --> 00:19:47.064 Kyle Wood: of, yeah, fake it till you make it kind of stuff. 00:19:48.159 --> 00:19:48.989 Brandi Healy: For sure. 00:19:49.449 --> 00:19:49.899 For sure. 00:19:49.899 --> 00:19:53.669 I mean, I'm in this parenting gig and we're 13 years in and I'm still faking it. 00:19:53.769 --> 00:19:55.959 I'm waiting for that make it part to come through. 00:19:58.254 --> 00:19:58.624 Kyle Wood: Yep. 00:19:59.014 --> 00:19:59.434 Yep. 00:20:00.184 --> 00:20:03.644 Maybe if you have like eight kids or something, you get to that point. 00:20:04.324 --> 00:20:05.324 You just need more kids. 00:20:07.104 --> 00:20:08.374 No thanks. 00:20:09.199 --> 00:20:09.979 Brandi Healy: Yeah, I'm good. 00:20:11.714 --> 00:20:15.244 Kyle Wood: I have a cousin who has, I think she's got seven or eight. 00:20:16.624 --> 00:20:17.764 Yeah, crazy. 00:20:18.634 --> 00:20:18.794 So. 00:20:20.224 --> 00:20:20.844 So, yeah. 00:20:21.354 --> 00:20:28.424 So what did your client find helpful to, to kind of like recharge or 00:20:28.499 --> 00:20:32.549 Brandi Healy: Well, I know that I knew that while she was in it, like, 00:20:33.029 --> 00:20:35.639 once she was showing up in their stories, once she was showing up 00:20:35.639 --> 00:20:39.059 with her in her post, what was nice is it was a mindfulness challenge. 00:20:39.069 --> 00:20:40.899 So she was really practicing what she preached. 00:20:41.329 --> 00:20:45.919 So, if it was like a day where it was like, go outside, she went outside, 00:20:46.099 --> 00:20:52.239 you know, if it was a day of, like, You know, meditate or, you know, 00:20:52.449 --> 00:20:57.459 be in nature, take a bath, whatever the thing was, she was doing that. 00:20:57.459 --> 00:21:00.539 So, kind of interesting that the thing that was making her tired 00:21:00.539 --> 00:21:04.949 was also the thing that, you know, she was using to kind of recharge. 00:21:05.309 --> 00:21:10.339 Um, and so she, she did say, like, it was a great reminder for her, 00:21:10.389 --> 00:21:15.629 for her of all the tools that she has, you know, available to her. 00:21:16.104 --> 00:21:21.374 Um, and I know that she also just gave herself a lot of grace, that it's 00:21:21.374 --> 00:21:28.534 like, it's okay to not always feel like, 100% on fire all the time about 00:21:28.594 --> 00:21:30.804 every single thing that you're doing. 00:21:30.834 --> 00:21:32.774 It's just not realistic. 00:21:33.224 --> 00:21:36.884 And so, you know, I think for me, that was really inspiring because I know 00:21:36.884 --> 00:21:41.154 that there are moments where I feel like I'm going through the motions 00:21:41.814 --> 00:21:47.804 and to hear from another entrepreneur, like, Hey, I go through that too. 00:21:48.414 --> 00:21:51.714 But again, like when you're on the opposite side of that, when you're on 00:21:51.714 --> 00:21:57.509 the client facing consumption side, That doesn't always come through and 00:21:57.509 --> 00:21:59.339 you're like, this is great content. 00:21:59.359 --> 00:22:01.779 Like this is, there's value here. 00:22:01.789 --> 00:22:06.219 You know, this person is, is, is providing something that 00:22:06.219 --> 00:22:07.839 they're really passionate about. 00:22:07.869 --> 00:22:08.819 And it's great. 00:22:08.929 --> 00:22:12.979 So if you are the one that's creating. 00:22:13.444 --> 00:22:18.084 Understanding that even when you might not be operating at your highest level 00:22:18.124 --> 00:22:21.144 that, like, you're still providing value. 00:22:21.464 --> 00:22:24.024 And I think you could probably speak to this as a fitness trainer. 00:22:24.044 --> 00:22:24.314 I know. 00:22:24.314 --> 00:22:27.344 Certainly as a yoga teacher, like, there's sometimes been classes where 00:22:27.344 --> 00:22:29.584 I'm like, probably wasn't my best 00:22:30.189 --> 00:22:30.479 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:22:31.454 --> 00:22:31.764 Brandi Healy: afterwards. 00:22:31.784 --> 00:22:34.264 Like, your client, like, you'll have clients that'll be like, that's great. 00:22:34.264 --> 00:22:35.274 I feel awesome. 00:22:35.334 --> 00:22:36.148 And you're like, yeah. 00:22:38.169 --> 00:22:40.569 You know, like there, I follow a trader. 00:22:40.569 --> 00:22:41.839 Her name's Christy Larson. 00:22:42.169 --> 00:22:45.599 And she goes, sometimes your medium best is great. 00:22:45.609 --> 00:22:47.289 It's still really good. 00:22:47.869 --> 00:22:51.829 So like, you know, I, this client was giving her medium best 00:22:51.869 --> 00:22:54.249 and it was still really great. 00:22:55.589 --> 00:22:55.909 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:22:56.729 --> 00:22:57.459 Yeah, yeah. 00:22:57.459 --> 00:22:59.448 Yeah, yeah. 00:22:59.449 --> 00:22:59.469 Yeah. 00:23:00.434 --> 00:23:04.874 Focusing on, on being consistent, however that looks. 00:23:05.704 --> 00:23:06.114 Yeah. 00:23:06.834 --> 00:23:12.024 And that actually was really helpful attitude after I had kids because it was 00:23:12.094 --> 00:23:17.124 like, I often did not feel my best, but I knew if I can just show up for a little 00:23:17.124 --> 00:23:20.254 bit today, um, that's better than nothing. 00:23:22.444 --> 00:23:24.619 Uh, All right. 00:23:24.639 --> 00:23:27.199 Let's let's say generators and manifesting generators. 00:23:27.199 --> 00:23:29.879 Let's look at that because they've got heaps of energy. 00:23:29.889 --> 00:23:32.289 So they never deal with, with lulls and energy. 00:23:32.289 --> 00:23:35.949 Do they, what a myth? 00:23:36.329 --> 00:23:36.839 Brandi Healy: right. 00:23:37.109 --> 00:23:38.129 What a myth. 00:23:38.919 --> 00:23:40.109 And you know, like. 00:23:40.884 --> 00:23:44.484 I mentioned my, my partner is a manifesting generator and, you know, 00:23:44.514 --> 00:23:50.084 for both generators and manifesting generators, yes, you have heaps 00:23:50.084 --> 00:23:51.664 of energy, as Kyle would say, 00:23:52.719 --> 00:23:53.079 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:23:53.274 --> 00:23:56.354 Brandi Healy: as long as they're doing things that light them up, 00:23:56.394 --> 00:23:58.594 but, you know, not everything. 00:23:58.974 --> 00:24:01.444 Lights them up all the time. 00:24:01.954 --> 00:24:07.534 And so even in an exciting project, even working with a client that you 00:24:07.534 --> 00:24:10.344 really love, like there might be tasks. 00:24:10.754 --> 00:24:17.084 or parts of that job, that experience that are really draining. 00:24:17.374 --> 00:24:21.304 And so, you know, there is this myth out there that these two 00:24:21.304 --> 00:24:26.174 types don't require energy and it's just, it's simply not true. 00:24:26.194 --> 00:24:26.734 And there's. 00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:32.009 There's also other pieces of your design that can really inform, you know, 00:24:32.989 --> 00:24:35.129 what kind of rests that you require. 00:24:35.139 --> 00:24:40.029 But I think when we're just staying very broad with tight, you know, if you 00:24:40.029 --> 00:24:44.289 are finding yourself in these moments of putting things out into the world. 00:24:44.944 --> 00:24:49.004 And you're kind of, you know, hitting these, these energetic walls that we're 00:24:49.004 --> 00:24:52.794 talking about, or finding yourself, like, experiencing some of these limiting 00:24:52.804 --> 00:24:58.174 beliefs, like we're talking about, it's reminding yourself that when you 00:24:58.174 --> 00:25:02.834 prioritize satisfaction in your life, whether it's work related or not, 00:25:03.584 --> 00:25:06.014 that really makes you more magnetic. 00:25:06.464 --> 00:25:07.404 So, you know. 00:25:07.779 --> 00:25:14.219 Can you take that beat after the launch to do something you really love that 00:25:14.239 --> 00:25:19.589 really makes you feel deeply satisfied that you can invest your energy in 00:25:19.589 --> 00:25:24.429 and say, like, when I lay down in bed tonight, like, what is going to make me 00:25:24.429 --> 00:25:30.579 feel like, oh, like, I used my energy in a way that feels really good to me today 00:25:31.029 --> 00:25:34.109 and to try to create space for that. 00:25:37.339 --> 00:25:40.509 Kyle Wood: Yeah, yeah, because even with the energy, you know, the 00:25:40.509 --> 00:25:43.589 vulnerability aspect doesn't disappear. 00:25:43.789 --> 00:25:46.899 So that's still there rearing its head. 00:25:46.899 --> 00:25:49.969 And, you know, I'm a famous, a famous manifesting generator, Brene 00:25:49.969 --> 00:25:56.219 Brown talked in her second TED talk about the launch from her first. 00:25:57.189 --> 00:25:57.809 Ted talk. 00:25:59.159 --> 00:26:02.499 Like after that came out and she, she talks, if you haven't seen it, she talks 00:26:02.499 --> 00:26:09.859 about how she, you know, got posted online and, you know, people were watching it and 00:26:09.859 --> 00:26:15.109 she'd been so incredibly vulnerable about her own story, um, during the talk that 00:26:15.719 --> 00:26:20.079 she like spent, I think like two or three days, just like hold off on the couch. 00:26:20.119 --> 00:26:20.969 Cause she was just like, 00:26:21.509 --> 00:26:23.359 Brandi Healy: Peanut butter and Downton Abbey. 00:26:23.389 --> 00:26:23.749 That was 00:26:23.854 --> 00:26:26.134 Kyle Wood: yeah, that's right. 00:26:26.154 --> 00:26:27.434 A vulnerability hangover. 00:26:27.434 --> 00:26:29.514 She coined the, or I don't know if she coined the term. 00:26:29.514 --> 00:26:33.534 She certainly popularized that term and that's been very helpful for me as well. 00:26:34.194 --> 00:26:40.264 Um, and yeah, so that aspect doesn't disappear. 00:26:40.274 --> 00:26:43.094 And so that's here where that bit of the. 00:26:43.874 --> 00:26:46.144 Stuff that feels really satisfying, which obviously for 00:26:46.144 --> 00:26:49.264 her, watching those two TV shows. 00:26:50.599 --> 00:26:52.739 Brandi Healy: Eating peanut butter out of the jar 00:26:52.799 --> 00:26:52.989 and 00:26:52.994 --> 00:26:53.434 Kyle Wood: Yes. 00:26:53.674 --> 00:26:53.974 There you go. 00:26:54.204 --> 00:26:54.554 Those two 00:26:54.819 --> 00:26:56.039 Brandi Healy: Downton Abbey, yes. 00:26:56.279 --> 00:26:58.799 Like, what feels nourishing to you? 00:26:58.899 --> 00:27:04.429 You know, whether that's physically, mentally, energetically, or, you 00:27:04.429 --> 00:27:06.589 know, who feels nourishing to you? 00:27:06.599 --> 00:27:10.059 Like, can you carve out, like you mentioned, you know, I'm going to go 00:27:10.059 --> 00:27:11.789 out to lunch with these people this day. 00:27:11.809 --> 00:27:14.079 Like, prioritizing. 00:27:14.699 --> 00:27:18.599 The things that bring you joy, those things that make you feel 00:27:18.609 --> 00:27:21.259 really, you know, cared for. 00:27:21.319 --> 00:27:24.849 And I think that's, you know, that shows up differently for each type. 00:27:24.859 --> 00:27:29.209 But I think that that's really kind of, that's the common thread here is. 00:27:30.144 --> 00:27:35.444 Within your specific type, like, what does that look like for you, and 00:27:35.964 --> 00:27:40.664 can you, when you, when you have the self awareness to find yourself in 00:27:40.664 --> 00:27:45.634 these moments, notice and say, like, you know, I'm in this vulnerability 00:27:45.634 --> 00:27:49.694 hangover, what would serve me right now? 00:27:50.504 --> 00:27:50.534 Kyle Wood: Okay. 00:27:50.534 --> 00:27:50.564 Okay. 00:27:50.564 --> 00:27:50.798 Okay. 00:27:52.059 --> 00:27:53.609 Yeah, yeah. 00:27:53.809 --> 00:27:57.199 And planning, you might even want to like plan that stuff in advance, 00:27:57.429 --> 00:28:01.499 like knowing that that's coming block those days out for those things. 00:28:02.379 --> 00:28:06.399 The other thing I can imagine for generators is, you know, lead 00:28:06.399 --> 00:28:08.009 coming up to launching something. 00:28:08.409 --> 00:28:13.379 There's a lot of different years, you know, spinning a lot of plates at once. 00:28:14.329 --> 00:28:17.933 And that I can imagine that could feel quite draining to generators who. 00:28:18.424 --> 00:28:24.444 Prefer to be more focused on one thing, uh, at a time. 00:28:25.254 --> 00:28:29.934 So I think paying attention to that and that, yeah, like a good project that you 00:28:30.154 --> 00:28:34.844 enjoy or you know, it could be a good way to like direct your energy afterwards. 00:28:35.094 --> 00:28:40.434 Don't keep trying to like notice if you're still bouncing from activity to activity 00:28:40.824 --> 00:28:46.894 and that that might still be making you feel really blurred afterwards too. 00:28:50.974 --> 00:28:56.994 So I've, I've, uh, I've written down some, um, little summations 00:28:58.754 --> 00:28:59.444 Brandi Healy: Let's hear it. 00:28:59.544 --> 00:29:00.184 Kyle Wood: each type. 00:29:00.334 --> 00:29:03.124 I'm, I'm yet to get one for projector though, so we'll have 00:29:03.124 --> 00:29:04.164 to work on that at the end. 00:29:04.624 --> 00:29:11.654 So for manifestors, a pajama day is on the cards, could be the thing for you. 00:29:12.924 --> 00:29:15.674 Reflectors, uh, space and grace. 00:29:17.244 --> 00:29:18.304 Brandi Healy: Oh, I love that. 00:29:18.624 --> 00:29:19.624 I want that too. 00:29:21.644 --> 00:29:25.444 Kyle Wood: Yeah, I don't think we can all take a little bit from that, uh, but yeah, 00:29:25.484 --> 00:29:30.334 I guess reflectors and also other people, if you've got a lot of open and undefined 00:29:30.334 --> 00:29:35.504 centers, like really playing around that space afterwards, um, spaces that 00:29:35.504 --> 00:29:40.924 make you feel good, that make you feel nourished and get grace that it's, it is, 00:29:40.974 --> 00:29:43.254 you are going to be tired for a few days. 00:29:45.204 --> 00:29:50.654 Um, Peanut butter in downtown Abbey. 00:29:52.554 --> 00:29:52.924 Brandi Healy: Downtown! 00:29:53.504 --> 00:29:53.874 Downtown! 00:29:54.334 --> 00:29:55.674 Kyle Wood: Sorry, Downton. 00:29:55.724 --> 00:29:57.264 I've been corrected on that before. 00:29:57.534 --> 00:30:03.904 Um, and I've even written it down, uh, Downton Abbey, uh, for our 00:30:04.214 --> 00:30:05.674 generators and manifesting generators. 00:30:05.674 --> 00:30:13.004 It's okay to, um, yeah, to take your foot off the accelerator. 00:30:15.029 --> 00:30:20.359 Afterwards, you don't need to be going as crazy as you have been going. 00:30:21.579 --> 00:30:24.149 So yeah, that would be my, my advice there. 00:30:24.619 --> 00:30:28.519 Um, and it might only be for a day and then you'll be twitching. 00:30:29.159 --> 00:30:32.549 So you want to get back into things, but yeah, give yourself that space. 00:30:34.039 --> 00:30:35.249 Uh, and then projectors. 00:30:37.519 --> 00:30:39.669 What's a short, um. 00:30:42.899 --> 00:30:44.899 Thing we can say for projectors, we should be able to work 00:30:44.899 --> 00:30:46.159 this out as two projectors. 00:30:47.459 --> 00:30:48.349 Brandi Healy: What's your thing? 00:30:48.419 --> 00:30:49.409 What do you do? 00:30:51.329 --> 00:30:52.479 What did you do this weekend? 00:30:54.839 --> 00:30:57.229 Kyle Wood: Uh, this weekend was still really busy. 00:30:57.659 --> 00:30:58.699 Um, yeah. 00:30:58.799 --> 00:30:59.919 Brandi Healy: Or was it yesterday? 00:31:00.009 --> 00:31:00.839 Or was it yesterday? 00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:01.589 What did you tell me 00:31:01.729 --> 00:31:05.559 Kyle Wood: Well, yesterday I had a bit of a manifesto day of pajamas and movies. 00:31:06.139 --> 00:31:10.219 Um, well, I wasn't wearing pajamas, but yeah, a blanket. 00:31:10.829 --> 00:31:11.219 Um. 00:31:13.489 --> 00:31:16.769 Yeah, I, you know, the, that I think going back has, has 00:31:16.889 --> 00:31:19.189 often been a way of recharging. 00:31:19.644 --> 00:31:24.854 But also, um, for me, like nature is like a big one, 00:31:25.494 --> 00:31:25.624 Brandi Healy: Mm 00:31:25.734 --> 00:31:28.274 Kyle Wood: getting out, getting out in nature. 00:31:28.304 --> 00:31:33.564 And, um, and I did, I just went for a small, small walk yesterday, even though 00:31:33.564 --> 00:31:39.894 I felt awful, but I knew even just a short walk out outside would do a lot 00:31:40.564 --> 00:31:42.834 to help me feel better and recover. 00:31:45.004 --> 00:31:45.244 Brandi Healy: hmm. 00:31:45.254 --> 00:31:50.329 For me, I can, when I am kind of feeling Anxious. 00:31:50.909 --> 00:31:55.019 Physical movement is something that always kind of 00:31:55.019 --> 00:31:58.919 like helps like bring me back and like it's not always 00:31:58.919 --> 00:31:59.859 like what you would expect. 00:31:59.859 --> 00:32:03.789 It's not always going to be something like super aggressive like I'm 00:32:03.789 --> 00:32:05.409 obsessed with my foam roller. 00:32:06.059 --> 00:32:07.359 So it could be like. 00:32:08.694 --> 00:32:15.204 using the foam roller and like, you know, just getting super relaxed, like 00:32:15.224 --> 00:32:21.314 doing some restorative yoga, like pretty much, you know, I try to carve out 00:32:21.364 --> 00:32:27.524 like even like five to 10 minutes a day of doing some really gentle movement. 00:32:27.544 --> 00:32:30.124 I find really help. 00:32:30.174 --> 00:32:32.414 It can be feel really soothing. 00:32:32.819 --> 00:32:37.519 And like very calming and being like, all right, like we're a bit settled. 00:32:37.649 --> 00:32:43.319 It's not, it's not, it's not all moving as fast as we think it is. 00:32:43.329 --> 00:32:44.349 So we think it's like, 00:32:44.949 --> 00:32:45.429 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:32:46.489 --> 00:32:48.819 Brandi Healy: you know, anything for both of us, it sounds like it's just 00:32:48.819 --> 00:32:51.289 like taking that moment to slow it down. 00:32:53.219 --> 00:32:53.529 Kyle Wood: Yeah. 00:32:55.889 --> 00:32:56.549 And that was good. 00:32:58.379 --> 00:33:00.279 I hope everyone listening to this has enjoyed it. 00:33:00.869 --> 00:33:05.859 Find it helpful to know you're not alone when you're putting something 00:33:05.869 --> 00:33:13.679 new out into the world and you feel a sense of deflation afterwards or like 00:33:13.919 --> 00:33:18.229 the wind's gone out of your sails and that's normal and everyone goes through 00:33:18.229 --> 00:33:23.079 this and I hope you've picked up some something in there that will help you 00:33:23.889 --> 00:33:30.369 recover, um, Uh, you know, I think grace is probably for all of them. 00:33:30.429 --> 00:33:33.239 Like don't, don't beat yourself up about the way you're feeling. 00:33:33.339 --> 00:33:34.989 Yeah, remember it's normal. 00:33:35.329 --> 00:33:43.719 And the, the quicker you embrace your type and yeah, you, the different 00:33:44.099 --> 00:33:50.199 parts of your human design that make up who you are, the faster you'll 00:33:50.199 --> 00:33:51.339 find yourself back on your feet. 00:33:55.059 --> 00:33:55.129 There we go. 00:33:55.129 --> 00:33:57.589 If you have anything you'd like to add Brandy at the end. 00:33:59.109 --> 00:33:59.279 Brandi Healy: I don't know. 00:33:59.299 --> 00:34:03.489 I think, thank you Kyle for our chat before and helping, uh, 00:34:04.249 --> 00:34:06.049 lifting my ass off the ground today. 00:34:06.289 --> 00:34:09.289 Kyle Wood: Ha ha ha ha ha ha. 00:34:09.289 --> 00:34:09.999 You're welcome. 00:34:10.399 --> 00:34:10.739 Alright. 00:34:11.219 --> 00:34:11.649 I'll see ya. 00:34:12.729 --> 00:34:13.369 Brandi Healy: Talk soon.