1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,166 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,166 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,916 --> 01:00:10,000 All right, good morning 4 01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:11,500 and welcome to Friday. 5 01:00:12,083 --> 01:00:13,708 Nicely done, you made it. 6 01:00:13,708 --> 01:00:14,458 Maybe you didn't think 7 01:00:14,458 --> 01:00:15,833 you would and you did. 8 01:00:16,125 --> 01:00:17,416 So nicely done. 9 01:00:17,916 --> 01:00:21,583 Today is national middle name pride day. 10 01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:23,291 This is the one day a year 11 01:00:23,291 --> 01:00:24,625 that you can finally admit 12 01:00:24,625 --> 01:00:26,000 your middle name and it's 13 01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:26,875 either gonna be glorious 14 01:00:27,625 --> 01:00:30,000 or it's a huge air ball by your parents. 15 01:00:30,375 --> 01:00:31,291 Either way, it's 16 01:00:31,291 --> 01:00:32,708 survived childhood teasing 17 01:00:32,958 --> 01:00:34,208 and it deserves its 18 01:00:34,208 --> 01:00:35,833 moment in the spotlight today. 19 01:00:36,500 --> 01:00:37,750 Well, the answer to 20 01:00:37,750 --> 01:00:39,166 yesterday's trivia question, 21 01:00:39,833 --> 01:00:40,541 Down syndrome. 22 01:00:40,541 --> 01:00:41,541 The disorder caused by 23 01:00:41,541 --> 01:00:42,916 an extra chromosome 21 24 01:00:43,458 --> 01:00:44,416 is Down syndrome. 25 01:00:44,958 --> 01:00:46,333 All right, well, it is time 26 01:00:46,333 --> 01:00:48,250 now for the essential vitamins 27 01:00:48,458 --> 01:00:49,416 in your morning cereal. 28 01:00:49,958 --> 01:00:52,000 Today's quote is from birthday boy 29 01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:53,750 turning 54 years old today, 30 01:00:54,083 --> 01:00:57,041 unbelievably, Shaquille O'Neal, who said, 31 01:00:57,875 --> 01:00:59,125 "Excellence is not a 32 01:00:59,125 --> 01:01:00,958 singular act, but a habit. 33 01:01:01,291 --> 01:01:03,833 You are what you repeatedly do." 34 01:01:04,416 --> 01:01:06,208 All right, your morning decode. 35 01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:08,500 True greatness is not achieved 36 01:01:08,500 --> 01:01:10,208 through a single one-time 37 01:01:10,208 --> 01:01:11,791 effort or a lucky moment. 38 01:01:12,416 --> 01:01:14,791 Instead, excellence is a lifestyle. 39 01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:16,583 It's defined by your 40 01:01:16,583 --> 01:01:18,458 consistent, your daily habits 41 01:01:18,458 --> 01:01:19,833 and your actions that 42 01:01:19,833 --> 01:01:21,000 shape your character 43 01:01:21,416 --> 01:01:23,208 and the results over time, right? 44 01:01:23,875 --> 01:01:25,750 Clearly Shaq was not referring 45 01:01:26,083 --> 01:01:27,416 to his free throw percentage there. 46 01:01:27,875 --> 01:01:28,625 Well, let's go ahead and 47 01:01:28,625 --> 01:01:29,958 hear from the experts now. 48 01:01:30,500 --> 01:01:31,958 We're in the crumbs from 49 01:01:31,958 --> 01:01:33,291 the bottom of the box now. 50 01:01:33,291 --> 01:01:35,083 It's our last pour of the 51 01:01:35,083 --> 01:01:37,500 let them theory by Mel Robbins. 52 01:01:37,791 --> 01:01:38,916 And today we're gonna 53 01:01:38,916 --> 01:01:40,333 wrap up the book entirely 54 01:01:40,583 --> 01:01:43,375 with how to apply let them to teams. 55 01:01:43,875 --> 01:01:44,791 And then we'll just do a 56 01:01:44,791 --> 01:01:46,208 quick summary of the entire book. 57 01:01:46,500 --> 01:01:47,208 So here we go. 58 01:01:47,916 --> 01:01:50,541 Mel takes the core principle of let them 59 01:01:50,916 --> 01:01:52,750 and she applies it to group dynamics. 60 01:01:53,416 --> 01:01:54,125 Whether it's your 61 01:01:54,125 --> 01:01:55,916 workplace, a volunteer committee, 62 01:01:56,333 --> 01:01:58,583 a friend group, a team, a family unit, 63 01:01:58,958 --> 01:02:00,500 the temptation is the same. 64 01:02:01,333 --> 01:02:03,500 Control outcomes by managing people. 65 01:02:03,500 --> 01:02:04,375 She writes this quote, 66 01:02:04,666 --> 01:02:06,083 "You cannot build trust 67 01:02:06,083 --> 01:02:07,791 by tightening your grip." 68 01:02:07,791 --> 01:02:08,125 End quote. 69 01:02:08,625 --> 01:02:10,166 In that line, it reframes 70 01:02:10,166 --> 01:02:11,833 leadership entirely here. 71 01:02:12,375 --> 01:02:15,041 In teams, let them means allowing others 72 01:02:15,041 --> 01:02:15,791 to their own 73 01:02:15,791 --> 01:02:17,916 responsibilities and their mistakes. 74 01:02:18,291 --> 01:02:19,458 It means resisting the 75 01:02:19,458 --> 01:02:21,166 urge to micromanage them, 76 01:02:21,375 --> 01:02:23,958 to rescue them or to overcorrect them. 77 01:02:24,333 --> 01:02:25,500 So Mel explains that 78 01:02:25,500 --> 01:02:27,166 growth requires autonomy. 79 01:02:27,708 --> 01:02:29,000 When you step back, you 80 01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:31,208 create space for accountability. 81 01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:32,916 And another powerful 82 01:02:32,916 --> 01:02:34,416 line here is this, quote, 83 01:02:34,750 --> 01:02:37,083 "Let people show you who they are." 84 01:02:37,083 --> 01:02:37,500 End quote. 85 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:40,458 In team settings, this becomes clarity. 86 01:02:40,833 --> 01:02:43,333 If someone consistently under delivers, 87 01:02:43,791 --> 01:02:45,250 believe the pattern. 88 01:02:45,583 --> 01:02:47,250 If someone steps up, acknowledge it. 89 01:02:47,583 --> 01:02:48,666 Let the data, not 90 01:02:48,666 --> 01:02:50,833 emotion, guide those decisions. 91 01:02:51,500 --> 01:02:52,750 She also emphasizes 92 01:02:52,750 --> 01:02:54,125 that leaders must manage 93 01:02:54,125 --> 01:02:56,250 their reactions first, saying, quote, 94 01:02:56,458 --> 01:02:58,000 "The only behavior you can 95 01:02:58,000 --> 01:02:59,583 truly control is your own." 96 01:02:59,583 --> 01:02:59,958 End quote. 97 01:03:00,541 --> 01:03:01,333 Now that echoes 98 01:03:01,333 --> 01:03:02,541 throughout this whole book, 99 01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:04,583 but stepping back doesn't 100 01:03:04,583 --> 01:03:06,125 mean you're disengaging. 101 01:03:06,125 --> 01:03:09,041 It means shifting control to clarity. 102 01:03:09,625 --> 01:03:11,125 Expectations should be clear. 103 01:03:11,500 --> 01:03:13,125 Boundaries should be defined, 104 01:03:13,666 --> 01:03:16,166 but hovering, that erodes trust. 105 01:03:16,750 --> 01:03:19,416 So zooming out to the entire book now, 106 01:03:19,416 --> 01:03:20,583 the heart of the let 107 01:03:20,583 --> 01:03:22,375 them theory is simple, 108 01:03:22,375 --> 01:03:23,666 but it's transformative. 109 01:03:24,291 --> 01:03:25,708 When you stop trying to 110 01:03:25,708 --> 01:03:27,583 control everyone else's behavior, 111 01:03:28,041 --> 01:03:30,041 you reclaim your energy. 112 01:03:30,041 --> 01:03:33,416 You stop reacting and you start choosing. 113 01:03:34,250 --> 01:03:36,041 Let them protect your peace. 114 01:03:36,666 --> 01:03:40,125 Then the let me, it reclaims your power. 115 01:03:40,708 --> 01:03:41,708 And together, they 116 01:03:41,708 --> 01:03:43,250 create emotional maturity, 117 01:03:43,500 --> 01:03:45,708 the kind that changes relationships, 118 01:03:46,500 --> 01:03:49,333 parenting, work, and self-confidence. 119 01:03:50,041 --> 01:03:52,791 So here it is, your Friday takeaway. 120 01:03:53,541 --> 01:03:56,125 Release control, own your response, 121 01:03:56,125 --> 01:03:58,083 and lead your life and your teams 122 01:03:58,541 --> 01:04:00,583 with clarity instead of control. 123 01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:02,833 And overall, remember to 124 01:04:02,833 --> 01:04:05,375 let them and then let me. 125 01:04:06,041 --> 01:04:06,375 All right? 126 01:04:06,833 --> 01:04:09,333 Well, today, middle names and all, 127 01:04:09,416 --> 01:04:11,333 you're allowed to show up fully today 128 01:04:11,708 --> 01:04:13,458 and let them do whatever they may. 129 01:04:13,916 --> 01:04:14,708 Attack your Friday 130 01:04:14,708 --> 01:04:15,958 with energy, confidence, 131 01:04:16,458 --> 01:04:17,416 and just a little 132 01:04:17,416 --> 01:04:18,791 less micromanaging maybe. 133 01:04:19,083 --> 01:04:20,541 Well, now it is time for the prize 134 01:04:20,541 --> 01:04:21,791 from the bottom of the cereal box, 135 01:04:22,166 --> 01:04:23,041 the morning cereal 136 01:04:23,041 --> 01:04:24,750 trivia question of the day, 137 01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:26,250 Friday edition, here it is. 138 01:04:26,833 --> 01:04:27,958 What kind of edible 139 01:04:27,958 --> 01:04:30,708 creatures are Malepkes, 140 01:04:31,458 --> 01:04:33,500 Komotos, and Bailons? 141 01:04:34,500 --> 01:04:34,916 All right? 142 01:04:35,500 --> 01:04:36,375 Now, I know I'm gonna get 143 01:04:36,375 --> 01:04:37,166 a lot of people telling me 144 01:04:37,166 --> 01:04:38,958 I'm saying that wrong and I know it, 145 01:04:38,958 --> 01:04:40,375 so I'm just already saying it right now. 146 01:04:40,375 --> 01:04:41,166 Feel free to let me know. 147 01:04:41,708 --> 01:04:43,166 All right, well, thanks for listening 148 01:04:43,250 --> 01:04:44,958 to morning cereal today and this week. 149 01:04:44,958 --> 01:04:47,125 We will see you back here on Monday 150 01:04:47,125 --> 01:04:48,500 for the answer to the trivia question 151 01:04:49,166 --> 01:04:51,666 and of course, more sugar for your soul. 152 01:04:51,875 --> 01:04:53,958 Have a great weekend and 153 01:04:53,958 --> 01:04:56,958 until then, have a fantastic day. 154 01:04:58,041 --> 01:04:59,583 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 155 01:04:59,583 --> 01:05:01,125 to the morning cereal podcast 156 01:05:01,125 --> 01:05:03,083 on the One Life Live It channel. 157 01:05:03,583 --> 01:05:05,291 You can find more episodes and videos 158 01:05:05,291 --> 01:05:06,291 by visiting our YouTube 159 01:05:06,291 --> 01:05:07,583 channel and the website 160 01:05:07,750 --> 01:05:10,583 at Shawningless and at Shawningless.com 161 01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:11,708 where you can also 162 01:05:11,708 --> 01:05:13,125 follow our other podcast, 163 01:05:13,458 --> 01:05:14,791 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 164 01:05:15,208 --> 01:05:16,416 and the Life Happens podcast. 165 01:05:17,166 --> 01:05:17,625 In these other 166 01:05:17,625 --> 01:05:19,333 podcasts, we'll dive deeper 167 01:05:19,333 --> 01:05:20,250 into everyday issues, 168 01:05:20,500 --> 01:05:21,666 self-improvement and wellbeing, 169 01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:23,791 business and finance, and we 170 01:05:23,791 --> 01:05:25,041 welcome special guests too. 171 01:05:25,541 --> 01:05:26,625 So join us, it'll be a 172 01:05:26,625 --> 01:05:27,583 good time, I promise. 173 01:05:28,333 --> 01:05:28,833 Thanks again for 174 01:05:28,833 --> 01:05:30,500 listening, have a fantastic day 175 01:05:30,916 --> 01:05:31,500 and we'll see you tomorrow.