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Matt Abrahams: In today's world,
communication is all about

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juggling multiple priorities.

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With focus and intention,
you can be successful.

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My name is Matt Abrahams, and I
teach Strategic Communication at

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Stanford Graduate School of Business.

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Welcome to Think Fast,
Talk Smart, the podcast.

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Today, I am very excited to chat with
my colleague and friend, Farnaz Khadem.

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Farnaz is the Vice President of
University Communications at Stanford,

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where she oversees the institution's
global media relations, digital

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strategy, and internal communications.

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Prior to Stanford, Farnaz
served as the Vice President

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of Communication at Caltech.

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Her background includes public
service with the US Department of

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State as a foreign service officer.

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Well, welcome, Farnaz.

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Thanks for being here.

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I look forward to continuing our
coffee chats so everybody can hear.

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Farnaz Khadem: Yeah.

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Thanks for having me, Matt.

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I'm really actually happy to be here.

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You and I have been talking for
a long time about this and having

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some great conversations, and it's
nice to bring it to this forum.

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Matt Abrahams: Excellent.

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I agree.

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Shall we get started?

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Farnaz Khadem: Absolutely.

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Matt Abrahams: So to begin, your team is
involved in many types of communication.

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Do you have some overarching
principle that guides how you

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see effective communication?

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Farnaz Khadem: First, let me
tell you that as a communicator,

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I like to think in threes.

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You think in threes, you talk in threes,
you remember it, other people remember it.

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So I'll tell you the three things.

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First is just know your goal.

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Communications is about what is
it you're trying to get across.

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And if you don't know what that
goal is as an individual or an

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organization, you're just, you're
not gonna be able to do anything.

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Second is know your audience.

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That's the other thing that people don't
always think about is you gotta really

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be thinking about who you're talking to.

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And the third is know your data.

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I think we're gonna probably
talk a lot about listening today.

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So much of communications is
about listening and not talking,

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and data is the way you listen.

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I mean, when you work in an organization
like this, you are constantly having to go

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back and see what worked and what didn't.

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So if you don't know your data,
you don't know your audience,

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you don't know your goal.

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So it's all kind of a circle.

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So those are really our overarching
principles when we think about this.

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Matt Abrahams: Absolutely.

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Have to have a clear goal.

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We talk a lot about goals.

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The understanding your audience, and
I wanna talk about audiences 'cause

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you have many that you have to serve.

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And then this notion of reflecting,
using data to understand what works,

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what doesn't work, how do we craft
that message, really important.

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A lot of people just see the goal of
communication as getting information

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out, but it's really how does it land,
and you've captured that in those three.

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You also have to traverse a
wide variety of channels, right?

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Social, there's written,
magazines, newspapers.

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How do you think that landscape is
changing, and are there certain messages

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that are better for certain channels?

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That seems to be another big
variable you have to deal with.

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Farnaz Khadem: It's such a
good question, and it is such

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a conundrum right now, right?

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Because the exponential increase
of channels is phenomenal.

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The noise out there, the cacophony, right?

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People are overwhelmed with information,
and so most things don't even get through

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because there's just too much out there.

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So I think part of the
testing is exactly that.

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You look back to the audiences, right?

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We know that some audiences
prefer things in short bursts.

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They want video.

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They prefer Instagram.

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The shorter, the better.

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We look a lot at, like, national
polls, too, or international polls.

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Like Pew says that half of people right
now get their news from social media.

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I mean, that's phenomenal.

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So if that's a place where we need to push
out more news, we try to do that that way.

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Longform still has a place, right?

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Longform writing, stories, they're still
really important, but people aren't

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gonna read 2,000-word stories anymore.

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Very rarely are they gonna do that.

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So one of the things we do as a team is
we sit down and let's say we have a story,

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we actually go through that exact process.

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We say, "Okay, is this better as
a short piece in writing, maybe

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with an accompanying video, and
maybe even with a media pitch?"

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Like, we have media relations.

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We have really strong people
who talk to journalists.

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And sometimes people don't need
to hear it directly from us.

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We're actually better off sharing
it with the media, who will

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then share it with the public.

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And so we go through that
on almost every story.

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Matt Abrahams: I think that's a big lesson
for people to take away is that it's not

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just the information, but you really have
to think about the channel, and maybe it's

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a multi-channel approach for the story.

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And sometimes it might be not your
organization, but helping other

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organizations amplify and send that out.

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That's useful for people to think about.

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One of the other things I'm super
impressed with that I think others who

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aren't in a university setting who have
some comms responsibility is you'll pull

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people together from different areas
who all do communication work and have

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them share best practices, have them
learn from each other, really empowering

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and enabling them, not just through the
people process and infrastructure that you

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talked about, but by actually having them
engage with each other to feel supported.

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'Cause it can be lonely if you're
a single comms person sitting out

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there, you know, in some corporation.

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But being connected can be really helpful.

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Farnaz Khadem: We have so many great
people doing communications for

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organizations around the university,
but a lot of them are one-person shops,

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and so they're, to your point, lonely.

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They may not have as much
knowledge about what's happening.

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They don't have an ecosystem.

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They don't have that connection,
that connective tissue.

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And so we thought mentorship is
another great way to do that,

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exactly for the reasons you said.

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Matt Abrahams: So related to
mentorship, I wanna talk tangentially

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about a lot of what your team does
is equip people to communicate who

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aren't naturally communicators.

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I'm thinking of academics or
staff people working in a lab.

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Do you have best practices that you've
observed either in the work you've

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done or your people have done to help
somebody who might not be experienced

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as a communicator, who, for whatever
reason, is in a position to communicate?

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Maybe they've discovered something
new, or they've got some expertise

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that's being pulled to the fore.

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How do you help people be better
communicators as a coach, as a guide?

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Farnaz Khadem: This is one of my
favorite things to do in communications.

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You know, I've been doing this work
off and on for decades, and one of

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the best things you can do is help
people, because even just a few

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tips takes people such a long way.

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One of the misconceptions that I have
to tell you about communications is

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we all think everybody can do it.

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We all went to school.

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We can all write.

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We can all read.

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We can all speak, and therefore we
think communications means just that.

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And communications, if you do it
well, is an art, and not everybody,

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to your point, can do that, right?

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And so we actually do.

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We offer that kind of training to
faculty, to staff, to others, and it's

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as simple as, I mentioned I started out
talking about the rule of three, right?

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You have three things that you
wanna communicate and think about.

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And you just tell people even something
like that, "Come up with your top

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three things that you wanna say,"
and that's life-changing for them.

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They think about that, they process,
and then they are able to more

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clearly communicate their thoughts.

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We can help people on camera.

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We can put them in front of a video
camera and then help them see how they

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come across when they're communicating.

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We talk to them about their work and kind
of walk them through how to explain that

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in a way that is understandable because a
lot of people are very good at being able

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to explain their work in the way that they
understand it, but not necessarily in the

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way that other people would understand it.

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So there's a lot of things that
we can do along those lines that

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we really actually enjoy doing.

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We think it's a big part of our job.

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Matt Abrahams: I love that
you gave three examples.

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And people might not know this, but
one of the reasons that the leadership

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at the business school, but also you
in your position, were supportive

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of this podcast as it started is it,
it gave an opportunity for faculty

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to practice, to get out there,
to be sharing their information.

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Because part of it, as you said when you
talked about recording people, it's one

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thing to understand how to do it, it's
one thing to know your message, it's

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another thing to get the reps in doing it.

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And so I think it's great that
you help people in all those ways.

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Uh, in your various roles that
you've held, especially here, you've

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had to deal with public crises.

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What advice do you have for our listeners
who have to deal with challenges, perhaps

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not on the scale that you have had to?

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Farnaz Khadem: So it's such
an interesting question, Matt.

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I don't know if I would've started
out my career, or even told you a

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decade ago, that crisis would be one
of the things I would do most and I

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would spend so much time on, or that
I would enjoy, because I don't think

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anybody can say they enjoy a crisis.

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But in some ways, it's one of the
most interesting parts of doing

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communications for an organization.

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So one of the things I've really
loved doing the last few years

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in particular is going out and
teaching about how to do crisis.

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And so maybe some of what I'll share
is a little bit of what I say in

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these courses or talks that I give.

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You know, Benjamin Franklin said,
"By failing to prepare, you prepare

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to fail." If no one ever takes away
anything else having to do with

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communications, I hope they remember that.

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The most important thing to do in a crisis
is just to have prepared in advance.

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So what does that mean?

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Think about what are your top things
that could go wrong in your particular

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job, in your particular organization.

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What are the top five scenarios of
what kind of crisis you can have?

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And they're different, right?

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What could happen at a university could
be very different than in a business,

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or even in someone's personal life.

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What are the things that could happen?

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And then you try to plan around those.

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Do you have the right tools?

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If you're in an organization,
do you have the right people?

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Do you know who's supposed to do what?

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Do you know roles and responsibilities?

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And so that whole process of actually
thinking through what could go wrong and

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putting in place the tools and resources
you need to address it is bar none

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the most important thing you can do.

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Matt Abrahams: Excellent.

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So beyond preparation, what are some
things you advise, let's say a crisis

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does erupt and you have to now communicate
internally, externally, what do you teach

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on how to handle that step in the process?

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Farnaz Khadem: I mean, I think there's a
lot of different things you have to think

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about at that point of what do you do.

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I think one is that it, it really
ultimately when you're in a crisis,

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truth and transparency are paramount.

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People want to know what
is actually happening.

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And if what is happening is you don't
know what is happening, you have to tell

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people you don't know what is happening.

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So don't assume you have to know
everything before you communicate.

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You just have to communicate
and tell people what you know.

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Be truthful, be transparent.

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Second is in today's world with how fast
things are moving, and as we talked about

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the multiple channels and, for example,
how quickly information moves on social,

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you have to do it early and often.

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So I think the days where you could wait
an hour or two to communicate something,

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or a day or two in a crisis are long gone.

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And then you have to do it regularly
over and over and over again.

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Again, even if you don't
know what is happening.

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Those are, like, two of the main
things that I talk about when I talk

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about how to communicate in a crisis.

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The thing I always end with to tell
people is forgive yourself, because

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here's what's gonna happen in a crisis.

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It is going to be the fog of war.

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No matter how much you have practiced,
no matter how much you have prepared,

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it's not gonna go as you think it will.

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The preparation will help you,
obviously, because then you are better

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able to manage those curve balls.

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You're not spending time on the basics.

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You're spending time on trying
to manage how things are going.

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But in the end, it's not gonna
go exactly as you anticipate.

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Things are gonna go wrong, and a lot
of people beat themselves up for that.

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And I think that's the one thing
is forgive yourself, go back, do

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that learning, incorporate those
learnings for the next time, and just

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know that's the way a crisis works.

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Matt Abrahams: I love the idea that
you're doing reflection, a postmortem

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to learn, giving yourself grace to
understand that it's not gonna go

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perfectly, and there might be things
that go wrong, but we can learn from it.

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And yet again, you didn't disappoint.

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Three T's: truth, transparency,
and I'm gonna add timeliness.

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I'd like to get your insight
into what makes for a good story.

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Now, I know it depends on the audience,
but are there certain elements

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that you like to see in stories?

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Is there, for example, it has to
have some emotional appeal, or

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there has to be something vivid?

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For you, what makes for a good story?

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Farnaz Khadem: So I love that question
because there's so much focus right now

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in the age of AI on storytelling, right?

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So you're seeing articles and
headlines all the time about what is

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good storytelling, what is the room
for storytelling in the world of

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artificial intelligence, and so forth.

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There are many elements, I
think, to telling a good story.

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For me personally, I think the
single most important thing is

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does it create a connection?

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And ultimately, a connection is
usually about something personal.

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You can be a great speaker.

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When I think about TED Talks, what
are the ones that really resonate?

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It's when somebody gets up and they are
vulnerable, and they share something

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about themselves and their background
and who they are, and all of a sudden

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that connection is made, human to human.

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And that is the essence of a great story.

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And I think all the other things
are really important, and I see

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it in my own personal life, right?

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Anytime I'm talking to someone, whether
it's one-on-one or I'm giving a talk or

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I'm somewhere else, when I share something
about my background, how something in my

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life taught me a lesson that brought me to
where I am, I instantly notice a change.

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And so I think that connection and
that personal nature is absolutely core

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Matt Abrahams: As somebody who
has interacted with you and heard

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the stories you tell, you, you're
very good at connecting and use

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several techniques to do it.

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You like to use analogies, you like to use
descriptive language, and there are a lot

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of tools that can enable that connection.

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But I agree, it, it
boils down to connection.

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And you alluded to AI.

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AI is impacting communication
all over the place.

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As somebody who runs a communication
organization, what is your approach

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to using AI to help and also being
concerned about some of the problems

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that come with people who use AI in
terms of hallucinations and other things?

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How are you approaching that, and what
guidance are you giving your team?

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Farnaz Khadem: Yeah.

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So we spend a lot of
time talking about AI.

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I believe very strongly in moderation
in all things, and that carries over

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for me into the workplace, and AI
is a really good example of this.

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So we're really approaching it in a much
more moderated and methodical fashion.

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Every person in the university
communications team at Stanford

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has to have an AI goal.

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That was something that I said
at the beginning of this year.

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But what that means is very different from
person to person and from team to team.

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For some people, that may be my goal
is I'm going to take a class and try to

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understand better how to write prompts.

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For someone else, it might be more of
an incorporation into their daily work.

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And I largely let the team know.

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I said, "I want you to do this for
you, not so much even for me, for

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the institution." I think that having
familiarity with these tools is

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gonna be so important for the next
generation of people in communications,

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and so I think it's incumbent on me
to help them learn how to use it.

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And there are some really great things
that we can and are using AI for.

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It certainly can make a lot of
processes easier, whether it be in the

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writing or editing phase or so forth.

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We can use it, and we're thinking
about more how to use it for targeting

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particular audiences, 'cause I think
AI can do a lot to help us find the

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right audiences for our messages.

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But then to the flip side of what
you asked about, there are a lot of

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problems too that can come with that if
people rush to try to do it too much.

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So the other thing we did is we worked
with actually some great faculty and

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others around the university, and we
created AI guidelines for communicators,

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and these are now publicly available.

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And they're just some basic
common sense things that try to

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address the fact of attribution.

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If you're gonna use AI, don't tell people
you've used AI in some process in this.

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Two is, you know, understand the
hallucinations are real, so make sure you

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have backed up in terms of fact-checking
anything that you have out there.

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And I think that's gotta be, those
two things have to go hand in hand.

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Explore in moderation.

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See how it can help you.

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And on the other side, be careful and make
sure you know where the red lines are.

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Matt Abrahams: Thank you
for summarizing that for us.

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The key takeaway I have from what you
said is just because it's there doesn't

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mean you need to use it, doesn't mean
you need to use it in a specific way.

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I like that.

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And I think all of our colleagues across
the university who are so instrumental

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in advancing AI would be very pleased
with your answer, so that's great too.

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Farnaz, I knew this would
be a great conversation.

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We always have great
conversations when we grab coffee.

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I'd like to end by asking you three
questions, one I'm gonna create

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just for you, and two I've been
asking everybody for a long time.

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We started our talk today
highlighting listening, reflection.

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I'd love for you to share a little bit
of advice on how you try to listen well

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and any advice or guidance you give
others to improve listening skills.

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Farnaz Khadem: I'm gonna share a story.

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I had a lot of great experiences when
I worked as a US diplomat overseas.

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I was incredibly privileged to do so.

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And one of them was to meet
some really phenomenal people.

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And when I was serving in Italy, I
had the chance to meet Bill Clinton.

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And one of the great things that people
will talk about Bill Clinton all the

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time is that he is a great communicator,
but one of the reasons that I thought,

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and I saw it firsthand, was when I got
to meet him, is he makes you feel as

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if there is no one else except you,
like he is truly listening to you.

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And I met him in a public forum in
Florence with 1,000 people around us.

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But in that 20 seconds, I felt
like I was the only person.

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There was a real connection there.

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Not all of us can be Bill Clinton.

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But I felt very much
that taught me something.

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If your attention is fully on someone,
you're not multitasking, you're not

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looking over to the right, you're
not doing something else, but you

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actually look like you're listening
to someone, that can go a long way.

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And that one very short interaction
taught me a lot years ago.

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Matt Abrahams: Yeah, paying attention
and then having the intention to

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really connect makes a big difference.

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And regardless of what you think of
his politics, he is very well known for

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that ability to connect and to listen.

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Question two, who is a communicator
that you admire, and why?

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Farnaz Khadem: See, I thought that
question might come 'cause I'm a

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longtime listener to your podcast.

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And I'm gonna be a little contrarian,
and I'll tell you why I think one

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of the things that we've talked
about here, communications has

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so many different facets, right?

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You gotta be a good listener, you
gotta be able to be clear, you gotta

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be passionate about your topic.

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Different people have different
strengths, and it's hard for me to think

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about one person who has all of that.

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So we just talked about Bill Clinton
and his ability to listen and connect.

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If you look at someone, let's
say like an Oprah Winfrey, she's

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fabulous at warmth, and that is a
really important part of connection.

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I spent many years doing technical
or science communications, but

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when I look at somebody like a Neil
deGrasse Tyson or a Bill Nye, their

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ability to simplify is their strength.

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So it feels to me like you can take little
pieces and parts of everybody out there,

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like the things that really matter to
you, and say, "I want a little bit of this

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and a little bit of that and a little bit
of that," and so no one person has that.

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I love a little piece of all of them.

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Matt Abrahams: So I will accept
your heresy, because what you

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just shared in your response is
the purpose of this question.

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It's really to look behind what
makes for good communicators, and

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you did a nice job of delineating it.

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But I'm gonna give you an
opportunity in our final question

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to give three key ingredients for
a successful communication recipe.

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What are the most essential
from your perspective?

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Farnaz Khadem: Thank you
for asking in threes.

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The three things that I think are very
much a reflection of some of the things

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we've already talked about, right?

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One is know your goal and your audience.

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You gotta know what you're
trying to communicate and who

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you're trying to communicate to.

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Two, we just finished
talking about it, listening.

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Are you a good listener?

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Do you do active listening?

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Have you spent your time actually thinking
about what the other person has said

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as opposed to trying to be the one to
think ahead to what you're going to say?

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On the third point, I'm
gonna diverge a little bit.

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I'm gonna say if you're an individual,
you're doing it as a person versus as

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someone representing an organization.

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As a person, I think people hear
this, but they do not always

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appreciate just how much nonverbal
communication matters, right?

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So how much your eye contact,
your smile, your body language,

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your gestures make a difference.

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And so be thoughtful and
be intentional about that.

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In an organization, if you're representing
an organization for good communications,

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I had a great boss once who said, "Farnaz,
a big part of your job is to educate your

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bosses. You think people know the same
things you do. They don't know the same

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things you do." So effective communication
is to make sure that those who are

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decision makers around you are educated.

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They know what you know, and that
will lead to good communications

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outcomes for an organization.

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Matt Abrahams: Wow.

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Okay.

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Lots there.

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So goal-based, focusing on your audience,
listening, reflecting, absolutely key.

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We've heard some of that before.

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The importance of nonverbals.

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It's not just the message, but
how the message comes across.

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And then your job is to make sure
that those you're speaking to, be

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they your bosses, your peers, have the
information they need to be successful.

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So the goal of communication is to
educate, which certainly doesn't

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surprise me given the role that you
have as head of comms at a university.

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Farnaz, this was fantastic.

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Lots of key takeaways from lots of
different areas of communication, from

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how we can be better ourselves, how we
can better our organizations, how we can

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handle crises, how we can deal with AI.

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Thank you so much for your
insight, and thanks for joining.

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Farnaz Khadem: Thank you for having me.

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That was a lot of fun, Matt.

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Matt Abrahams: Thank you for joining
us for another episode of Think

00:21:08.788 --> 00:21:10.378
Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast.

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To learn more about communication
leadership and crisis management, please

00:21:14.088 --> 00:21:16.438
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