Women “Upgrades,” and the Slow Fade of the Friendship (Plus: The Downfall of Miami Nights)

Jules and Tessa return to “Karaoke Wine” after a May hiatus and discuss an article from Women On Topp about why female friendships often end with a slow fade, arguing the deeper issue is that friendships may not survive a woman’s “upgrade” (promotion, marriage, baby, or major life shift). They relate it to their own group chat going quiet amid travel, corporate demands, and a move out of Miami, and talk about how adult friendships should ebb and flow without judgment when both people are equally invested. One host describes a recent personal “purge,” stronger boundaries, and cutting off relationships that felt one-sided or transactional, while both emphasize friendships built on curiosity—notcomparison—last longest. They also roast expensive Miami nightlife (Amazonico) and prefer simpler, cheaper nights out, solo dates, earlier dinners, and experiences like seeing Evanescence. 

 

00:00 Back From Hiatus 

00:43 Why Friendships Fade 

02:04 Chicago Crew Memories 

04:11 Reading The Article 

07:00 Life Changes And Flexibility 

09:38 The Great Phone Purge 

12:18 Boundaries And One Shot 

15:52 Miami Nights Are Over 

21:08 Delray Self Dates 

22:46 Friendship Check Ins 

23:37 Tessa Goes MIA 

24:42 Choosing Solitude 

25:34 No Judgment Friends 

27:34 Solo Routines And Boundaries 

29:56 What Saves Friendships 

31:39 Millennial Friendship Shifts 

35:43 Losing Friends Through Change 

40:18 Lifers And Open Dialogue 

45:20 Ebb Flow And Adulting 

47:15 Carpe Diem Sign Off 

Creators and Guests

Host

Juliana Scaminaci

Juliana is the epitome of the Rising Phoenix. Always reinventing herself from working in fashion, banking, and biotech; there is nothing that can stop her. She brings her humor and a very colorful life to the podcast.

Host

Tessa Tierney

Tessa is a firestorm of a lady. She brings decades of experience in the corporate world and the ladder is never high enough. She brings her tenacity and wit to the podcast!

What is Karaoke Wine Podcast?

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