Scott wants to try mutual masturbation. Brittney is hesitant. Neither of them has done it yet and rather than pretend otherwise, they decided to make that honesty the episode.
In Episode 46, Scott and Brittney tackle one of the most commonly cited intimate experiences couples are curious about and one of the least acted upon. Scott represents the eager partner — genuinely excited by what the research says this experience offers, and honest about why he wants it. Brittney represents the hesitant partner — intellectually interested in the science, personally uncertain about the specific vulnerability it requires, and honest about what she'd need before it felt right.
Together they cover what mutual masturbation actually is, what watching your partner pleasure themselves teaches you that nothing else does, why the vulnerability is both the most uncomfortable and most intimate part, and the specific dynamic between an eager partner and a hesitant one — what both sides need to hear, and what both sides tend to get wrong.
For couples who are both ready: a complete practical framework for doing it for the first time. For couples who aren't aligned yet: language for the conversation that actually moves things forward.
In this episode:
- What mutual masturbation actually is and what it offers that partnered sex doesn't automatically provide
- Why it's on so many couples' lists and why it stays there
- What watching your partner pleasure themselves teaches you that nothing else does
- The vulnerability component — why being witnessed is both the most uncomfortable and most intimate part
- Scott's honest take: why the research has him genuinely excited
- Brittney's honest take: the specific self-consciousness and what she'd need before this felt right
- The eager partner vs. hesitant partner dynamic — what both sides get wrong and what actually helps
- What the hesitant partner's "not yet" actually means and why it's not a no
- Five steps from curious to actually doing it — for couples who are both ready
- What to do if you're not aligned yet and why that's the most common starting place
Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.