SHOW NOTES:
Most people think winning builds confidence. But this former Princeton National Champion says it's the other way around.
For Lauren, the championship isn't the first thing she remembers when she reflects on how sports shaped her. It's the moments that taught her to believe in herself. Now, as a high school lacrosse coach and parent of three athletes, she's helping young people discover a different kind of victory—one that has nothing to do with the scoreboard and everything to do with who they're becoming.
In this episode, Lauren and BJ explore why the mental side of sports deserves as much attention as physical talent, how great coaches learn to see every player differently, why confidence can't be given but can be cultivated, and how redefining victory changes the way we lead, coach, parent, and live. The line that stuck: it’s about climbing the mountain and finding our own victories.
TOPICS DISCUSSED:
00:00 Welcome & Lauren Farrell's Story
02:33 The Pivotal Moment That Shaped Her Athletic Career
05:14 Why the Mental Game Deserves Equal Attention
07:30 The Growth Opportunity Sports Provide for Athletes and Parents
17:00 Why Failure Matters
23:48 How to Involve Youth in Sports
27:22 Why Hard Things Help Kids
31:15 Team Culture that Builds Belief
39:38 Parents Navigating the Commitment of Club Sports
42:19 The Invisible Connection Between Coaches, Parents, and Players
49:23 Books Every Coach Should Read
52:58 One Final Challenge for Coaches & Parents
What is Leadership Blueprints?
Leadership Blueprints is a podcast dedicated to helping leaders align teams, navigate chaos, and accomplish the mission. Hosted by BJ Kraemer—West Point graduate, combat veteran, and President & CEO of MCFA—this show dives into the principles, stories, and strategies behind effective leadership.
With a background in military service and experience leading teams in business, infrastructure, and complex projects, BJ understands that success comes down to execution, adaptability, and leading people well. Through in-depth interviews with accomplished leaders across business, sports, the military, and beyond, Leadership Blueprints will help you bring your vision to reality on projects that shape communities and industries.
Whether you’re leading in the boardroom, on the field, in the military, or within your own organization, this podcast is designed to provide the tools and mindset needed to lead with clarity, resilience, and purpose. Subscribe now and start building your Leadership Blueprint.