The art of self-confidence, with Debbie Pugh (S5E7)

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What does it mean to be confident? How do we find it? What happens when it disappears?

I'm joined today by my friend and fellow coach, Debbie Pugh.

The founder of The Quiet Network, Debbie has a wealth of experience in exploring self-confidence, both for herself and her clients.

I found this conversation deeply enriching as we explored a range of ideas, beliefs and behaviours that can contribute to - and detract from - a feeling of self-confidence.

Today, we discuss...

• The distinction & balance between being an introvert or an extrovert
• How our levels of self-confidence are affected by internal or external validation
• How deep self-care can support us in developing and sustaining our self-confidence
• What happens when our confidence plummets
• How we often try to intellectualise our way out of a drop in confidence
• How to reframe our language to reframe our experience of things that knock our confidence
• How our inner parts - our child self or adolescent self - can be activated when things happen that make us feel less confident
• Self-confidence is an energy - aligned directly with understanding what motivates us
• How meditation can be a powerful tool in helping us observe what’s happening in our mind
• Comparison is the thief of joy - and we can never know what others think or feel - non-judgemental observation is key
• The transformative quality of the power dynamics of transactional analysis and the ++ mindset - and how we can CHOOSE to adopt the mindset that most serves us (and most serves our interactions with others)
• Self-confidence at it’s heart is the deep knowledge of “I’m ok”
• And we close with a quote from Planes, Trains & Automobiles… now, you didn’t expect that!

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