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Yeah. 42 00:01:54,781 --> 00:01:56,382 They're not for sale yet. Yet? 43 00:01:56,382 --> 00:01:58,885 Not yet. We're thinking about getting a maybe. 44 00:01:58,885 --> 00:02:01,554 I like the yellow inside because it looks like sunshine. 45 00:02:01,554 --> 00:02:04,290 It does doesn't I mean the whole thing. 46 00:02:04,290 --> 00:02:06,292 Oh, I leave it all inside. 47 00:02:06,292 --> 00:02:06,526 You know, 48 00:02:06,526 --> 00:02:10,029 I stopped by a common grounds coffee right down the street from our studios 49 00:02:10,029 --> 00:02:11,331 before I come here. 50 00:02:11,331 --> 00:02:14,200 And the flavor this morning was, hazelnut. 51 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:16,703 Yeah. Your coffee is amazing. 52 00:02:16,703 --> 00:02:18,104 Because I could smell it. 53 00:02:19,205 --> 00:02:19,472 Yeah. 54 00:02:19,472 --> 00:02:22,342 I won't see where I got mine from when I central banking. 55 00:02:22,342 --> 00:02:24,244 It doesn't smell like that. 56 00:02:24,244 --> 00:02:26,713 It just kind of like, proliferates in the whole studio. 57 00:02:26,713 --> 00:02:27,881 Perfect. Does. 58 00:02:27,881 --> 00:02:30,884 It does like I want to take a shower in it. 59 00:02:31,317 --> 00:02:31,918 Okay. 60 00:02:31,918 --> 00:02:34,921 So people take mud bath, you know, just sort of, 61 00:02:35,021 --> 00:02:38,358 you know, you you go hazelnut shower. 62 00:02:38,892 --> 00:02:40,693 Wilson. You're going to like that. 63 00:02:40,693 --> 00:02:43,263 Wilson's the owner of Common Grounds by the Wilson, Indiana. 64 00:02:43,263 --> 00:02:44,297 But, thank you so much. 65 00:02:44,297 --> 00:02:46,065 You're welcome to what's good with John and Joyce. 66 00:02:46,065 --> 00:02:48,601 And, thank you for listening and watching. 67 00:02:48,601 --> 00:02:52,772 And whatever you do, on YouTube or all the different major platforms. 68 00:02:53,239 --> 00:02:56,643 And, I'm proud to say that, we appreciate being on the iHeart radio 69 00:02:56,643 --> 00:02:58,111 podcast network as well. 70 00:02:58,111 --> 00:03:02,882 I work on radio stations up in Hartford at the River 159 and country 92 five. 71 00:03:02,882 --> 00:03:04,584 And it's just a great group of people, 72 00:03:04,584 --> 00:03:06,486 a great family to be a part of at iHeart radio. 73 00:03:06,486 --> 00:03:10,223 So thank you, yes, for blessing my life in so many ways. 74 00:03:11,124 --> 00:03:12,959 So I'm sitting here with this book in my lap. 75 00:03:12,959 --> 00:03:16,563 Only because I was talking to you about it has nothing really to do with this show. 76 00:03:16,930 --> 00:03:20,400 But, if anyone if you want to read a really great. 77 00:03:20,500 --> 00:03:23,002 It's not like a novel. 78 00:03:23,002 --> 00:03:26,005 It's like a Bible. It is has been my Bible. 79 00:03:26,005 --> 00:03:27,774 It's all marked up. 80 00:03:27,774 --> 00:03:31,711 Everything you can't afford the luxury of a negative thought. 81 00:03:31,778 --> 00:03:32,946 Wow, what an interesting title. 82 00:03:32,946 --> 00:03:36,749 The luxury of it is called The Life 101 series. 83 00:03:36,749 --> 00:03:41,287 And it really is, because I remember reading this like way, way back 84 00:03:41,688 --> 00:03:45,325 and it said, like, what if you're afraid of death? 85 00:03:45,658 --> 00:03:48,628 And I said, well, if you're afraid of death and 86 00:03:48,628 --> 00:03:53,666 then you've got to be afraid of I Love Lucy reruns because it's inevitable. 87 00:03:53,967 --> 00:03:55,368 It's inevitable. 88 00:03:55,368 --> 00:03:59,505 And there is, like, make peace with that 89 00:03:59,939 --> 00:04:02,642 because there's like three things that could happen. 90 00:04:02,642 --> 00:04:05,411 Either those who believe you go no where, so you believe, you go 91 00:04:05,411 --> 00:04:08,081 no where you believe, you go to heaven. Believe. You go to heaven. 92 00:04:08,081 --> 00:04:10,183 You believe you're going to become reincarnated. 93 00:04:10,183 --> 00:04:11,884 Great. Believe in that. 94 00:04:11,884 --> 00:04:14,087 And then go on with your life. Right? 95 00:04:14,087 --> 00:04:16,155 You know, the thing is, somebody said to me at the gym 96 00:04:16,155 --> 00:04:17,323 the other day about worry. 97 00:04:17,323 --> 00:04:19,292 Said worry is like worshiping the devil. 98 00:04:20,260 --> 00:04:21,160 It is the devil. 99 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:21,661 You know it. 100 00:04:21,661 --> 00:04:22,862 Yeah, it really is. 101 00:04:22,862 --> 00:04:25,732 And the thing is, we all do it. I'm guilty. 102 00:04:25,732 --> 00:04:26,366 Oh, yeah. 103 00:04:26,366 --> 00:04:29,736 I mean, we worry, but the thing is, we only have today, right? 104 00:04:29,736 --> 00:04:30,903 So let's make the best of today. 105 00:04:30,903 --> 00:04:33,906 I know it sounds so cliche, but there are some people didn't wake up this morning. 106 00:04:33,973 --> 00:04:34,941 True. 107 00:04:34,941 --> 00:04:35,708 And you're going to be some people 108 00:04:35,708 --> 00:04:38,244 that don't wake up tomorrow morning, and we just, 109 00:04:38,244 --> 00:04:40,780 we just really need just to go out there and be good humans. 110 00:04:40,780 --> 00:04:43,716 I mean, I know it sounds Pollyanna, Kumbaya, but. 111 00:04:43,716 --> 00:04:48,321 Yeah, but just take care of yourself and all that and and stop with the news 112 00:04:48,321 --> 00:04:52,425 and the thinking and and arguing with people on Facebook and Instagram, 113 00:04:52,592 --> 00:04:54,594 whatever platforms you're on. 114 00:04:54,594 --> 00:04:55,261 And just fine. 115 00:04:55,261 --> 00:04:57,764 Like, like I have almost 5000 people. 116 00:04:57,764 --> 00:05:02,101 What you do two on one Facebook platform that I have and another one. 117 00:05:02,468 --> 00:05:07,507 But I weed out the people that I could tell like, oh, I don't like this. 118 00:05:07,774 --> 00:05:11,344 So I have wonderfully filled my Facebook with people 119 00:05:11,344 --> 00:05:15,081 that have positive things to say, uplifting things to say, 120 00:05:15,415 --> 00:05:19,152 because the world gives us enough of right drama. 121 00:05:19,652 --> 00:05:22,622 And I'm I don't want to engage in that. 122 00:05:22,622 --> 00:05:24,891 It's I some it's like, you be right. 123 00:05:24,891 --> 00:05:27,894 I'm going to be happy if somebody tries to bait me into an argument 124 00:05:28,628 --> 00:05:30,930 and it happens every now and then, I'll just kind of like, 125 00:05:30,930 --> 00:05:32,231 I pick and choose my battles. 126 00:05:32,231 --> 00:05:34,734 I usually walk away, right? I just say listen. 127 00:05:34,734 --> 00:05:38,271 Or if somebody is gossiping about somebody, I'll just excuse myself. 128 00:05:38,438 --> 00:05:41,074 Yeah. Or change the subject. I want to honor people. 129 00:05:41,074 --> 00:05:42,175 Yeah, right. 130 00:05:42,175 --> 00:05:44,243 I love changing the subject, even in person. 131 00:05:44,243 --> 00:05:46,245 Yeah, we all have flaws. 132 00:05:46,245 --> 00:05:48,281 We do have tons of who. 133 00:05:48,281 --> 00:05:51,484 Yes, but you don't have to, You don't have to engage in that. 134 00:05:51,484 --> 00:05:53,186 Did you ever read anything online? 135 00:05:53,186 --> 00:05:55,688 This is I almost. It's so predictable. 136 00:05:55,688 --> 00:05:59,492 Now there'll be some heartfelt, really wonderful story. 137 00:05:59,792 --> 00:06:03,229 And you read the comments and it's like, how 138 00:06:03,496 --> 00:06:08,134 how did they extract something negative onto this beautiful story? 139 00:06:08,501 --> 00:06:09,669 I agree. Right. 140 00:06:09,669 --> 00:06:13,806 So that's why these are usually unhappy people, but also with social media 141 00:06:13,806 --> 00:06:16,876 nowadays there's, there's a there's some cowardice out there. 142 00:06:17,410 --> 00:06:20,413 People will say things that they would never say to you in person 143 00:06:20,580 --> 00:06:23,649 because they're hiding behind the anonymity of social media. 144 00:06:23,649 --> 00:06:26,085 But a lot of bots out there, too, right? 145 00:06:26,085 --> 00:06:28,020 You wonder what's real and what's not. 146 00:06:28,020 --> 00:06:30,823 But the old adage, if you don't have something good to say, right? 147 00:06:30,823 --> 00:06:34,394 Yeah, my mom always said that, and I was wonderful about that. 148 00:06:34,394 --> 00:06:34,694 Yeah. 149 00:06:34,694 --> 00:06:36,996 And I and every time that what happened, 150 00:06:36,996 --> 00:06:42,602 where something happened and I said something, I am well known, 151 00:06:42,602 --> 00:06:46,372 unfortunately, for leading the wrong people. 152 00:06:46,372 --> 00:06:47,940 A message for another person. 153 00:06:47,940 --> 00:06:51,077 Oh, God, I did, I did I recently with one of my text 154 00:06:51,744 --> 00:06:53,913 now, you know, but it wasn't anything bad. 155 00:06:53,913 --> 00:06:55,982 But I mean, I left a voicemail for somebody and they said, 156 00:06:55,982 --> 00:06:58,284 you got the wrong person because it was a similar name. 157 00:06:58,284 --> 00:06:58,551 Yeah. 158 00:06:58,551 --> 00:07:00,920 I'm glad that all my messages are always positive. 159 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,089 Exactly. That you don't have to worry about it. 160 00:07:03,089 --> 00:07:04,223 I don't have to worry about that. 161 00:07:04,223 --> 00:07:04,924 I'm not going to 162 00:07:04,924 --> 00:07:08,027 I'm not going to say something negative, especially like that in a text or email. 163 00:07:08,127 --> 00:07:10,663 Right. But if you have an email or text, pause. 164 00:07:10,663 --> 00:07:12,932 Yes. Think about it before you send it. Yeah. 165 00:07:12,932 --> 00:07:16,669 And and if you feel the same way the next day, then you can act on it. 166 00:07:17,270 --> 00:07:17,470 Yeah. 167 00:07:17,470 --> 00:07:20,706 Have you ever seen such great advice and I've. Yes. 168 00:07:20,706 --> 00:07:22,375 I've been burned in the past. Yeah. 169 00:07:22,375 --> 00:07:24,110 I said some things to people in the chat. 170 00:07:24,110 --> 00:07:26,112 I mean, that doesn't sound like you. Where is it. 171 00:07:26,112 --> 00:07:27,680 And they were offended by that, right? 172 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:29,382 That wasn't my intent. 173 00:07:29,382 --> 00:07:30,917 But I have to accept accountability. 174 00:07:30,917 --> 00:07:31,984 My fault. 175 00:07:31,984 --> 00:07:32,285 Right? 176 00:07:32,285 --> 00:07:35,288 I should have thought about it or read it, reread it before I sent it. 177 00:07:35,488 --> 00:07:39,292 Yeah, I I've had some really, really bad stuff happen. 178 00:07:39,392 --> 00:07:40,626 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 179 00:07:40,626 --> 00:07:44,330 Me too, with business wise or people had someone 180 00:07:44,897 --> 00:07:48,034 that they patched in and they weren't there. 181 00:07:48,568 --> 00:07:52,572 Not knowing that the whole conver business conversation was being recorded. 182 00:07:53,105 --> 00:07:53,506 Yeah. 183 00:07:53,506 --> 00:07:56,509 And then their team came in and listened to it 184 00:07:56,876 --> 00:08:00,880 and, and, and at that time I had a bookkeeper for my business, 185 00:08:01,380 --> 00:08:06,219 and she said some things that should not have been known or said, 186 00:08:06,752 --> 00:08:11,390 you know, and so I, I'm always like learning like to be really careful. 187 00:08:11,524 --> 00:08:13,893 But it comes down to two things. Like you just said, 188 00:08:15,328 --> 00:08:16,162 if you don't have anything 189 00:08:16,162 --> 00:08:19,298 good to say, don't say it. 190 00:08:19,899 --> 00:08:22,835 And the other thing is, if you tell a lie, 191 00:08:22,835 --> 00:08:24,670 you're going to have to tell a thousand 192 00:08:24,670 --> 00:08:27,473 more to cover it up because you don't remember the lives of a great. 193 00:08:27,473 --> 00:08:32,044 You remember the truth, and the truth really shines through in the end. 194 00:08:32,311 --> 00:08:34,347 The cream rises to the crop. 195 00:08:34,347 --> 00:08:35,848 The truth gets exposed. 196 00:08:35,848 --> 00:08:37,917 So live your life that way. Right. 197 00:08:37,917 --> 00:08:40,486 And and the thing is, we're all going to fall. Yeah. 198 00:08:40,486 --> 00:08:40,786 Because there's 199 00:08:40,786 --> 00:08:44,790 sometimes that somebody just rubs you the wrong way or something on TV 200 00:08:44,790 --> 00:08:47,760 and you immediately have a visceral reaction. 201 00:08:47,793 --> 00:08:50,463 But, you know, the whole thing is you and I talked about this before, Joyce. 202 00:08:50,463 --> 00:08:54,333 You can love the person and load the behavior. Yes. 203 00:08:54,667 --> 00:08:59,171 And that's what brought me even closer to God during the, during Covid. 204 00:08:59,705 --> 00:09:02,375 And it was, you know, someone I probably mentioned this 205 00:09:02,375 --> 00:09:05,378 before, but, I even think I wrote about it in my book. 206 00:09:07,013 --> 00:09:07,880 Which book was it? 207 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:12,285 Know that live abundantly now and live abundantly in your mind. 208 00:09:12,285 --> 00:09:15,755 When you live abundantly in your mind, things just show up. 209 00:09:15,755 --> 00:09:20,359 But you may think, well, Joyce, I didn't win the lottery and I read the book. 210 00:09:20,793 --> 00:09:24,430 No, but if you really understand the book that I wrote, 211 00:09:24,764 --> 00:09:27,567 it's about acknowledging the little things like someone bringing you 212 00:09:27,567 --> 00:09:28,568 a cup of coffee 213 00:09:28,568 --> 00:09:28,901 and you're 214 00:09:28,901 --> 00:09:32,605 really genuinely happy about that, and there's something else good happens. 215 00:09:32,972 --> 00:09:37,643 Acknowledge it, you know, let that seep into your mind and give thanks for that. 216 00:09:37,843 --> 00:09:40,212 And that's when other doors open up. 217 00:09:40,212 --> 00:09:42,848 But so many times we ignore the other stuff and say, 218 00:09:42,848 --> 00:09:45,217 oh, that was just a coincidence, or this is no coincidence. 219 00:09:45,217 --> 00:09:48,220 No, it's just appreciate everything. 220 00:09:48,421 --> 00:09:50,556 There's a book called Appreciation Marketing, 221 00:09:50,556 --> 00:09:53,192 and I don't think I've ever had anybody say what you say. 222 00:09:53,192 --> 00:09:55,294 You say, I appreciate you too much. 223 00:09:55,294 --> 00:09:58,097 Or if you say, I love you, nobody's ever going to say you say, 224 00:09:58,097 --> 00:10:00,466 I love you too much, right? But you're right. Appreciation. 225 00:10:00,466 --> 00:10:02,101 And that goes a long, long way. Yeah. 226 00:10:02,101 --> 00:10:05,071 When you say thank you. Right. Please. 227 00:10:05,071 --> 00:10:09,842 Look, somebody in the I mention their name, but I would say take 228 00:10:10,343 --> 00:10:11,677 no takes nothing. 229 00:10:11,677 --> 00:10:13,245 It really and it goes a long way. 230 00:10:13,245 --> 00:10:15,514 That person could be having the worst day in the world. 231 00:10:15,514 --> 00:10:17,617 And you said you appreciate them. 232 00:10:17,617 --> 00:10:20,152 Changes the whole trajectory. Yes. 233 00:10:20,152 --> 00:10:21,354 Yeah. And 234 00:10:22,321 --> 00:10:25,291 I learned that again I have to give my mom credit. 235 00:10:25,291 --> 00:10:27,960 She said it was I met your mom. I wish you did. 236 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:29,161 You would have loved her. 237 00:10:29,161 --> 00:10:31,864 She said, if if someone is wearing something 238 00:10:31,864 --> 00:10:34,867 that you like, say it. 239 00:10:35,101 --> 00:10:36,602 So I always did. 240 00:10:36,602 --> 00:10:39,271 And one day in school, 241 00:10:39,271 --> 00:10:39,772 you know, 242 00:10:39,772 --> 00:10:43,943 I told the girl sitting in front of me, I said, I really love your sweater. 243 00:10:44,276 --> 00:10:47,279 And she said, oh, thanks. 244 00:10:47,279 --> 00:10:51,150 She said, you're the only one that ever says anything nice, which I almost like. 245 00:10:51,150 --> 00:10:53,019 She questioned if I really meant it. Yeah. 246 00:10:53,019 --> 00:10:55,388 And I said, no, I really do. 247 00:10:55,388 --> 00:10:58,924 But my mom always also said, and if someone says 248 00:10:58,924 --> 00:11:02,461 they like something about you, don't shy away from that. 249 00:11:02,461 --> 00:11:04,597 Don't say, oh, this old thing. 250 00:11:04,597 --> 00:11:06,632 She said, compliment on the compliment. 251 00:11:06,632 --> 00:11:11,037 Yes. And say, so I did that with someone, but it wasn't that long ago. 252 00:11:11,404 --> 00:11:14,807 And she said, oh my gosh, I really love what you're wearing. 253 00:11:15,074 --> 00:11:16,676 I said, me too. 254 00:11:16,676 --> 00:11:20,846 I found this at blah blah blah store and that, and she laughed at me 255 00:11:20,846 --> 00:11:24,450 and she said, I've never heard anyone say that, that they like it. 256 00:11:24,450 --> 00:11:25,451 They like it too. 257 00:11:25,451 --> 00:11:27,653 I said, but that's why I bought it too many times. 258 00:11:27,653 --> 00:11:29,522 For people who are self-deprecating, you know? 259 00:11:29,522 --> 00:11:31,424 Yeah, careful how you speak over yourself. 260 00:11:31,424 --> 00:11:34,026 So it's like he took the time to compliment you on it. 261 00:11:34,026 --> 00:11:35,294 Accept it. Right. 262 00:11:35,294 --> 00:11:38,130 Or if somebody wants to buy you a cup of coffee, accept it. 263 00:11:38,130 --> 00:11:40,433 So you don't have to do that. Accept it. Yeah. 264 00:11:40,433 --> 00:11:42,301 And then you do it for somebody else. Yeah. 265 00:11:42,301 --> 00:11:44,970 Pay it forward I agree. 266 00:11:44,970 --> 00:11:47,606 So we're talking about gratitude today. 267 00:11:47,606 --> 00:11:51,510 Gratitude changes your life changes your life I, 268 00:11:51,711 --> 00:11:56,682 I think you and I can't stress that enough because the more grateful you are, 269 00:11:56,682 --> 00:12:02,088 it changes the neurons in your neuroplasticity and the brain. 270 00:12:02,354 --> 00:12:05,925 And it brings more your way because your brain 271 00:12:05,925 --> 00:12:09,161 doesn't know what, what's what's right or wrong or what's true or false. 272 00:12:09,161 --> 00:12:11,964 Whatever. The brain only knows what you tell it, right? 273 00:12:11,964 --> 00:12:16,736 If you're grateful for it, you can find happiness in spite of your circumstances. 274 00:12:16,736 --> 00:12:20,372 Yes. No matter what you're going through, you can still find ways to be grateful. 275 00:12:20,639 --> 00:12:20,906 All right. 276 00:12:20,906 --> 00:12:23,909 This may not be going so well, but I've got this. 277 00:12:23,943 --> 00:12:26,011 And let's face it, we have a lot more good in our lives. 278 00:12:26,011 --> 00:12:27,780 And bad. I don't care who you are. 279 00:12:27,780 --> 00:12:30,349 If you really, really dig deep and peel back the layers. 280 00:12:30,349 --> 00:12:30,716 Right. 281 00:12:30,716 --> 00:12:34,553 You know, our worst day in this country is better than many people's 282 00:12:34,553 --> 00:12:37,490 best days in other countries, right? Where they have a lot of challenges. 283 00:12:37,490 --> 00:12:38,724 Right? Oh, challenges. 284 00:12:38,724 --> 00:12:41,460 But let's focus on what? What's good today? Yeah. 285 00:12:41,460 --> 00:12:42,995 I thought we always say what's good today. 286 00:12:42,995 --> 00:12:45,564 That's why we named it this show. Right. 287 00:12:45,564 --> 00:12:47,133 And I see people, we talk who we say. 288 00:12:47,133 --> 00:12:49,201 We don't say like how are you. 289 00:12:49,201 --> 00:12:50,436 But what today is like. 290 00:12:50,436 --> 00:12:53,072 Yeah, requires good. 291 00:12:53,072 --> 00:12:53,439 Yeah. 292 00:12:53,439 --> 00:12:56,709 When I know someone that tends to be a chronic complainer 293 00:12:56,742 --> 00:12:59,545 especially, we'll say that. Hey, you know. 294 00:12:59,545 --> 00:13:02,181 So tell me what could happen to you this week. 295 00:13:02,181 --> 00:13:02,515 Right. 296 00:13:02,515 --> 00:13:06,218 And then they stop and they think about it, you know, and they share that. 297 00:13:06,619 --> 00:13:10,990 But it also boosts your health when you're feeling, 298 00:13:11,791 --> 00:13:14,960 the serotonin, the dopamine, all the good feeling chemicals in your body. 299 00:13:15,361 --> 00:13:16,395 Yeah it does. 300 00:13:16,395 --> 00:13:18,164 So you speak it into existence. 301 00:13:18,164 --> 00:13:20,599 You think about it, speak by faith 302 00:13:20,599 --> 00:13:23,402 so many times and aphorisms in the morning are so popular. 303 00:13:23,402 --> 00:13:24,870 I mean, you and I talk about that a lot. 304 00:13:24,870 --> 00:13:27,072 I wake up with prayer each and every day. 305 00:13:27,072 --> 00:13:29,341 However you do it with respect, however you do it. 306 00:13:29,341 --> 00:13:33,145 But when I'm on my I wake up and I thank God for all my blessings 307 00:13:33,145 --> 00:13:33,779 each and every day. 308 00:13:33,779 --> 00:13:36,448 I thank him that he's breathed breath into my lungs. 309 00:13:36,448 --> 00:13:37,750 Yes, that I woke up today. 310 00:13:37,750 --> 00:13:39,652 Which means I have an assignment, right? 311 00:13:39,652 --> 00:13:41,420 And I just listen. Father, what do you want to be? 312 00:13:41,420 --> 00:13:43,923 What do you want me to do today? Who can I be good to today? 313 00:13:43,923 --> 00:13:46,926 Yeah, and he puts all those people in your path. 314 00:13:47,359 --> 00:13:47,693 Yeah. 315 00:13:47,693 --> 00:13:49,762 And you're very you're very diligent about that. 316 00:13:49,762 --> 00:13:51,931 And saying, I get to wake up. 317 00:13:51,931 --> 00:13:54,333 I get to go work with this person. 318 00:13:54,333 --> 00:13:55,935 I said, oh God. 319 00:13:55,935 --> 00:13:58,204 And it's tough sometimes because you don't want to do that. 320 00:13:58,204 --> 00:14:02,274 And even if you like tasks that you don't like to do, well, I get to do this. 321 00:14:02,274 --> 00:14:04,944 Yeah, some people would love to be able to get out of bed, 322 00:14:04,944 --> 00:14:06,879 to be able to do that task. Yeah. 323 00:14:06,879 --> 00:14:08,347 Or some people like, oh, I don't know. 324 00:14:08,347 --> 00:14:10,649 I need some new shoes. I can't really afford them at the moment. 325 00:14:10,649 --> 00:14:12,451 Well yeah. Feet. 326 00:14:12,451 --> 00:14:14,787 Some people can't get up and walk. 327 00:14:14,787 --> 00:14:16,322 I know it really is true. 328 00:14:16,322 --> 00:14:18,257 It's just a mind shift. 329 00:14:18,257 --> 00:14:19,892 But gratitude is riches. 330 00:14:19,892 --> 00:14:21,260 It is riches. 331 00:14:21,260 --> 00:14:26,532 It is when my Uncle John, my beloved Uncle John, I love John. 332 00:14:26,532 --> 00:14:29,501 Got a great name? Yes. Great name. 333 00:14:29,501 --> 00:14:33,272 Heart of gold, you know, just like you. 334 00:14:33,706 --> 00:14:37,743 But, he had a, a really aggressive cancer. 335 00:14:38,577 --> 00:14:39,845 But I have to say, 336 00:14:40,946 --> 00:14:41,647 that he had 337 00:14:41,647 --> 00:14:45,417 signs of it early on, which he never told anyone about. 338 00:14:45,618 --> 00:14:48,621 So by the time he went to his doctor, his doctor said, John, 339 00:14:49,188 --> 00:14:52,825 if you came to me with the fire in the basement, I could have put it out. 340 00:14:53,192 --> 00:14:55,561 But now it's throughout your whole body, 341 00:14:55,561 --> 00:14:59,832 so that was a lesson for me to learn, even, you know, to get checked. 342 00:14:59,832 --> 00:15:01,734 You got something wrong with you? Get a check. 343 00:15:01,734 --> 00:15:05,170 But my my Uncle John was was dying in bed 344 00:15:05,704 --> 00:15:09,742 and someone that was visiting him walked into the bathroom 345 00:15:09,742 --> 00:15:13,913 and walked back out and he said, oh, I so wish I could do that. 346 00:15:13,913 --> 00:15:17,416 And I said, what? He said, walk, just walk. 347 00:15:17,583 --> 00:15:19,051 So he was realizing 348 00:15:19,051 --> 00:15:22,955 all these little things he ever took for granted as he was lying there. 349 00:15:22,955 --> 00:15:25,824 It's like, I wish I could walk like that person. 350 00:15:25,824 --> 00:15:29,161 We take it for granted, you know that we're walking 351 00:15:29,161 --> 00:15:32,131 or talking or seeing, you know, all of that. 352 00:15:32,197 --> 00:15:33,666 I was talking to a hospice nurse once 353 00:15:33,666 --> 00:15:36,802 and I said, what are the things you hear from somebody who's on their deathbed? 354 00:15:37,503 --> 00:15:38,904 You know, what are the things you hear? 355 00:15:38,904 --> 00:15:41,907 Like, you know, I wish I could have what could have should have would. 356 00:15:41,941 --> 00:15:45,044 And I said, you know, first of all, I just wish I took that chance. 357 00:15:45,811 --> 00:15:47,880 Maybe that business opportunity, whatever. 358 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:50,883 I wish I didn't care so much what people think. 359 00:15:51,150 --> 00:15:52,518 That makes you a prisoner. 360 00:15:52,518 --> 00:15:54,920 It does. Because we're all worried about what people think. 361 00:15:54,920 --> 00:15:57,456 And you know what people think is their business. 362 00:15:57,456 --> 00:15:59,425 They have the right to think what they think, right? 363 00:15:59,425 --> 00:16:01,560 We also have a right to do what we're going to do, because that person 364 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:04,430 is not going to pay your bills or take care of you if something happens. 365 00:16:04,430 --> 00:16:06,231 So go out there and take that chance. 366 00:16:06,231 --> 00:16:09,835 But so many times we're just held because of what people think 367 00:16:09,835 --> 00:16:11,003 or what they might think. 368 00:16:11,003 --> 00:16:13,739 If we hang around with this person or try this in that. 369 00:16:13,739 --> 00:16:17,242 And that's so imprisoning, you know, and, and a lot of people end up 370 00:16:17,242 --> 00:16:21,380 going to their, their, their maker, you know, with all those regrets. 371 00:16:21,947 --> 00:16:22,314 Right. 372 00:16:22,314 --> 00:16:24,917 And I think about that even as they get older, a little bit more about that. 373 00:16:24,917 --> 00:16:27,152 You know, what things did I say no to that? 374 00:16:27,152 --> 00:16:29,755 I wish I said no it's yes to. Yeah. 375 00:16:29,755 --> 00:16:31,223 And the thing is you just got to move on. 376 00:16:31,223 --> 00:16:32,691 You just got to shake it off. 377 00:16:32,691 --> 00:16:36,228 And at least you woke up today and it's a brand new day, right? 378 00:16:36,428 --> 00:16:37,563 Right. 379 00:16:37,563 --> 00:16:41,033 And, so from gratitude to go to greatness, 380 00:16:41,300 --> 00:16:44,303 greatness within you is so important. 381 00:16:44,370 --> 00:16:47,072 And, it's not a egotistical thing, you know? 382 00:16:47,072 --> 00:16:47,573 It's not. 383 00:16:47,573 --> 00:16:48,607 That's what I was going to say. 384 00:16:48,607 --> 00:16:54,480 It's not, you know, just to to to feel good, laugh things off more, 385 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:58,417 you know, up with that Doctor Joyce Meyers laughter is the best medicine. 386 00:16:58,417 --> 00:17:01,253 Who who said that? Oh, it was doctor cousins. 387 00:17:01,253 --> 00:17:02,087 Thank you. Cousins. Yeah. 388 00:17:02,087 --> 00:17:06,158 Yeah I think because again I'm going back to my mother who said 389 00:17:06,492 --> 00:17:10,329 I think it was doctor Cousins who said, he healed himself 390 00:17:10,763 --> 00:17:13,732 by watching funny movies. 391 00:17:13,732 --> 00:17:16,201 That's a great. Yeah. That's great. You're right. 392 00:17:16,201 --> 00:17:19,171 I remember a doctor saying that before a woman went to this doctor, 393 00:17:19,271 --> 00:17:22,541 and she kept complaining about stuffy and depressed and down said, oh, 394 00:17:22,541 --> 00:17:23,809 you know what I'm going to do? 395 00:17:23,809 --> 00:17:26,712 You go home and watch your favorite comedy shows. Yes. 396 00:17:26,712 --> 00:17:29,381 Like, you know, first thing in the morning before you go to bed at night, right? 397 00:17:29,381 --> 00:17:31,717 No more news, like we say all the time. 398 00:17:31,717 --> 00:17:34,353 And she was actually able to find joy. 399 00:17:34,353 --> 00:17:35,821 Yeah, I'm doing that. 400 00:17:35,821 --> 00:17:40,259 You know, I'm I'm so grateful that I'm surrounded by, well, two people, 401 00:17:40,259 --> 00:17:43,395 especially in my life, you know, my, my, my son, 402 00:17:43,996 --> 00:17:46,598 Tim and my grandson. 403 00:17:46,598 --> 00:17:49,601 And, they make me laugh. 404 00:17:49,701 --> 00:17:54,440 I mean, every day Amy and Matthew makes me laugh because, 405 00:17:55,707 --> 00:17:57,743 I okay, I've got to share this. 406 00:17:57,743 --> 00:18:02,114 For the first time ever in my life, I have, false eyelashes. 407 00:18:02,581 --> 00:18:05,317 I've never worn false eyelashes. 408 00:18:05,317 --> 00:18:08,320 I've tried in the past, like, 30 years. 409 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:10,923 But the glue and everything, I'm just not good at that. 410 00:18:10,923 --> 00:18:13,325 But I love makeup, and I love fooling around with it. 411 00:18:13,325 --> 00:18:16,328 So I found these eyelashes online that said, no glue, nothing. 412 00:18:16,528 --> 00:18:18,997 It's just the heat of your body. 413 00:18:18,997 --> 00:18:20,999 So wouldn't you know. 414 00:18:20,999 --> 00:18:24,736 Matthew walks in my room as I'm holding a little ham mirror 415 00:18:25,003 --> 00:18:28,540 now trying to do it, and he says, what are you doing? 416 00:18:28,907 --> 00:18:31,944 And I said, I'm putting them false eyelashes. 417 00:18:31,944 --> 00:18:34,813 He said, what 418 00:18:34,813 --> 00:18:35,747 the hell are you? 419 00:18:35,747 --> 00:18:37,549 That them? Right, right. 420 00:18:37,549 --> 00:18:40,752 I said, yes, and he's watching me. 421 00:18:40,986 --> 00:18:42,688 And he said, well, how do they stay on? 422 00:18:42,688 --> 00:18:45,090 I said, from the heat of your body. 423 00:18:45,090 --> 00:18:46,892 He said, you don't have any heat. 424 00:18:46,892 --> 00:18:49,261 You're always cold. Oh, yes. 425 00:18:49,261 --> 00:18:53,098 So I just burst out laughing and he just says exactly what I was. 426 00:18:53,098 --> 00:18:54,900 My no filter. Yes. 427 00:18:54,900 --> 00:18:56,335 And that's why I love, you know. 428 00:18:56,335 --> 00:19:00,572 And Matthew has autism and they can't lie. 429 00:19:00,839 --> 00:19:03,642 They don't lie. They just say it. 430 00:19:03,642 --> 00:19:08,847 But he says it so funny, like, okay, I'm out of here because I can't watch this. 431 00:19:08,981 --> 00:19:10,382 Oh yeah. 432 00:19:10,382 --> 00:19:11,984 It's just they're just so brilliant. 433 00:19:11,984 --> 00:19:15,354 I just did a big benefit for Connecticut to autism families. 434 00:19:15,921 --> 00:19:18,957 It's like one of the biggest fundraisers for autism in the state of Connecticut. 435 00:19:18,991 --> 00:19:21,927 We recently did it at the pond House in West Hartford. 436 00:19:21,927 --> 00:19:25,931 And some of the most brilliant people I know are on the spectrum. 437 00:19:26,465 --> 00:19:29,168 Yes. Oh, that's what makes them brilliant. 438 00:19:29,168 --> 00:19:31,470 Those. Yes. 439 00:19:31,470 --> 00:19:34,706 I remember when Matthew was first diagnosed, when he was six years old, 440 00:19:34,706 --> 00:19:39,778 and we took him to, psychiatry, a child psychologist, psychiatrist. 441 00:19:40,145 --> 00:19:43,148 And he asked about other people in my family. 442 00:19:43,148 --> 00:19:47,653 And I said, when I look back on it, I would say in the spectrum 443 00:19:47,653 --> 00:19:50,656 might have been my Uncle John and, 444 00:19:51,089 --> 00:19:53,458 and another family member 445 00:19:53,458 --> 00:19:56,929 because they're brilliant at what they did. 446 00:19:57,196 --> 00:20:01,700 But really not so great socially. 447 00:20:01,967 --> 00:20:05,137 Some of the cases, yes, there were some things 448 00:20:05,137 --> 00:20:10,042 that were really lacking there, but brilliant people. 449 00:20:10,142 --> 00:20:10,509 Right. 450 00:20:10,509 --> 00:20:14,413 And so he said to me, well, you know, those doctors 451 00:20:14,413 --> 00:20:17,482 that have no bedside manner, but they're absolutely brilliant. 452 00:20:17,482 --> 00:20:20,786 He said, guaranteed they're in the spectrum. 453 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:24,089 And but that means they just can't do this. 454 00:20:24,089 --> 00:20:27,893 But they're really great sitting in a lab and they could figure out 455 00:20:27,926 --> 00:20:31,530 all types of things that are wrong with your blood or whatever. 456 00:20:31,997 --> 00:20:36,001 And, so, you know, we're used in many different ways. 457 00:20:36,501 --> 00:20:39,838 And I that's why I don't like to label people because there's that saying 458 00:20:40,272 --> 00:20:44,009 that Doctor Wayne Dyer always said, when you label me, you negate me. 459 00:20:44,076 --> 00:20:47,579 Oh, and that's why even when I was way younger, 460 00:20:47,879 --> 00:20:51,617 I never told my age because I knew that 461 00:20:51,984 --> 00:20:55,687 if people thought you were in your 20s, you were too young to do something. 462 00:20:55,988 --> 00:20:59,691 If you were over the age of 35, you could be perceived too old to be. 463 00:20:59,858 --> 00:21:02,861 So I started saying to people who would say, how old are you? 464 00:21:03,061 --> 00:21:04,997 And I would just say, you know, I don't care 465 00:21:04,997 --> 00:21:09,167 if you think I'm 80 years old or 30 years old, I'm ageless. 466 00:21:09,167 --> 00:21:10,902 Yes, we are all yes, yes, 467 00:21:10,902 --> 00:21:14,206 because only if you have to do a doctor's report or that it's like, 468 00:21:14,439 --> 00:21:17,175 you know, or people could Google it, but it's not in it. 469 00:21:17,175 --> 00:21:20,445 I don't want to say it for me because I feel like 470 00:21:20,646 --> 00:21:24,449 I start thinking, oh, I'm this age now, maybe I shouldn't do this. 471 00:21:24,449 --> 00:21:27,452 And plus, I know people that are 20 that are old, 472 00:21:27,586 --> 00:21:30,922 oh, by the way, they think and I know, yeah, 80, 85 so young 473 00:21:30,989 --> 00:21:34,026 are some of the most youthful people I know because of the way they think. 474 00:21:34,126 --> 00:21:38,297 Yes, 100% of the way they speak, the way I open my 475 00:21:38,297 --> 00:21:41,767 I find as I get older, I have more childlike curiosity. 476 00:21:41,967 --> 00:21:44,970 Yes, I'm more open minded about music and movies and, 477 00:21:45,337 --> 00:21:47,973 I still love the new music that's out now. 478 00:21:47,973 --> 00:21:50,509 Yeah, I love the stuff I grew up with, but I love the new music. 479 00:21:50,509 --> 00:21:51,243 I love new movies. 480 00:21:51,243 --> 00:21:53,712 I love, new shows, theater. 481 00:21:53,712 --> 00:21:55,681 Yeah, new shows on Netflix, whatever it may be. 482 00:21:55,681 --> 00:21:58,850 I just, I need to be constantly fed new. 483 00:21:59,217 --> 00:22:01,787 And that's what keeps you young. You're right. 484 00:22:01,787 --> 00:22:05,757 I'm way less, I hope, judgmental about things and open to it. 485 00:22:05,791 --> 00:22:08,093 Like to look at it with fresh eyes. Yes. 486 00:22:08,093 --> 00:22:10,062 You know, instead of saying, oh, I don't like that color. 487 00:22:10,062 --> 00:22:14,232 The rule, you know, I think as a teenager, especially teenage girls, maybe you're 488 00:22:14,599 --> 00:22:15,901 more like that. And, 489 00:22:17,002 --> 00:22:18,303 yeah, that could be a tough time. 490 00:22:18,303 --> 00:22:18,970 You know, maybe. 491 00:22:18,970 --> 00:22:21,540 Candy, I think you're a little bit more judgmental of that time. 492 00:22:21,540 --> 00:22:22,174 Right? 493 00:22:22,174 --> 00:22:23,875 But as you grow up, you just want to say, yeah, 494 00:22:23,875 --> 00:22:27,012 I just want to experience new things and keep an open mind. 495 00:22:27,012 --> 00:22:29,381 Yes. Never been to an opera before. Well, let's go to the. 496 00:22:29,381 --> 00:22:30,816 Yeah. 497 00:22:30,816 --> 00:22:31,183 Why not? 498 00:22:31,183 --> 00:22:32,517 Yeah. What's the worst thing that's going to happen? 499 00:22:32,517 --> 00:22:33,318 You're gonna fall asleep. 500 00:22:33,318 --> 00:22:35,120 Yeah, yeah, exactly. 501 00:22:35,120 --> 00:22:38,090 You know, but at least you've been there. You've experienced it, right? 502 00:22:38,090 --> 00:22:39,958 I would love to do that. 503 00:22:39,958 --> 00:22:41,626 Yeah. Because, I mean, I love opera music. 504 00:22:41,626 --> 00:22:45,630 I like everything, you know, I just went to the Metropolitan Opera. 505 00:22:45,630 --> 00:22:46,264 I don't think so. 506 00:22:46,264 --> 00:22:50,202 No, I've only been there in my mind because of Cher with Moonstruck. 507 00:22:50,535 --> 00:22:52,204 I feel like I've been there. 508 00:22:52,204 --> 00:22:54,406 But I want to see the chandelier come down. 509 00:22:54,406 --> 00:22:55,140 I should do that. 510 00:22:55,140 --> 00:22:58,510 Yeah, I think I've been to an opera, like up in Hartford or maybe the Bushnell. 511 00:22:59,511 --> 00:23:01,079 But, I mean, I just 512 00:23:01,079 --> 00:23:05,751 appreciate the talent and I'll listen to, you know, a station every now and then, 513 00:23:06,151 --> 00:23:09,187 maybe public radio or something, where I'll hear some opera. 514 00:23:09,521 --> 00:23:11,823 And I love classical and I love all different genres. 515 00:23:11,823 --> 00:23:13,392 And we're talking about gratitude. 516 00:23:13,392 --> 00:23:16,395 I'm grateful for all those different genres. 517 00:23:16,561 --> 00:23:17,329 Yeah. 518 00:23:17,329 --> 00:23:19,531 We're able to pick and choose different foods. 519 00:23:19,531 --> 00:23:22,401 We want to eat, different lanes, TV shows we want to watch. 520 00:23:22,401 --> 00:23:23,068 Right. 521 00:23:23,068 --> 00:23:24,603 You know, and, I'm grateful for that. 522 00:23:24,603 --> 00:23:27,205 I'm grateful for all those little things. 523 00:23:27,205 --> 00:23:27,706 Yeah. 524 00:23:27,706 --> 00:23:31,743 You know, and also being judgmental. 525 00:23:31,977 --> 00:23:34,379 And I think I might have said this to you before, John, 526 00:23:34,379 --> 00:23:36,248 I like a lot of reality shows, 527 00:23:36,248 --> 00:23:39,518 but in the past I found myself being really critical or angry. 528 00:23:40,051 --> 00:23:43,989 And then when I stopped myself, maybe, you know, some of you could do that. 529 00:23:43,989 --> 00:23:46,992 Also, whether it's a family member or anyone 530 00:23:47,125 --> 00:23:50,328 and just look at it differently, decide 531 00:23:50,595 --> 00:23:53,432 not to add anger or judgment 532 00:23:53,432 --> 00:23:57,035 and just think of that person as just being them. 533 00:23:57,602 --> 00:24:00,272 You know, you can't fix anyone. 534 00:24:00,272 --> 00:24:02,040 You really can't change anyone. 535 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:03,942 It has to be their decision. 536 00:24:03,942 --> 00:24:06,344 But they can learn by your example. 537 00:24:06,344 --> 00:24:10,582 And I always think of and I think this is another Wayne Dyer story. 538 00:24:10,982 --> 00:24:11,917 It's when 539 00:24:12,951 --> 00:24:16,555 he, his sister, when the family would get together, 540 00:24:16,955 --> 00:24:19,958 there would always be some kind of strife or chaos. 541 00:24:20,091 --> 00:24:22,194 And he noticed that his sister. 542 00:24:22,194 --> 00:24:24,062 With the holidays at your dinner table. 543 00:24:24,062 --> 00:24:27,032 Whatever. Yes. Yep yep, yep. 544 00:24:27,699 --> 00:24:31,970 And, she began taking up a book with her, 545 00:24:32,237 --> 00:24:35,574 and she would excuse yourself and go sit in another room while they were bickering. 546 00:24:36,007 --> 00:24:38,610 But this happened after she was 547 00:24:38,610 --> 00:24:41,847 in a horrific car accident, like, horrific. 548 00:24:42,414 --> 00:24:45,417 And, she basically came back from the dead. 549 00:24:45,750 --> 00:24:49,087 And after that, nothing bothered her. 550 00:24:49,488 --> 00:24:50,455 She walked away. 551 00:24:50,455 --> 00:24:55,327 She wouldn't engage because she saw the light, 552 00:24:55,894 --> 00:24:59,931 and she saw how brief this life could be on Earth and made a decision. 553 00:25:00,298 --> 00:25:02,200 I'm not going to live this way. 554 00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,503 So she wouldn't lecture them. 555 00:25:04,503 --> 00:25:07,772 She would just excuse herself and go sit in another room. 556 00:25:08,139 --> 00:25:10,008 It is that great. We're only here like this. 557 00:25:10,008 --> 00:25:12,043 Someone by Kansas. Dust in the wind. 558 00:25:12,043 --> 00:25:14,045 Yeah. I'm only here just for fun. 559 00:25:14,045 --> 00:25:15,313 And then we move on. Right. 560 00:25:15,313 --> 00:25:17,182 So make it a good trip. 561 00:25:17,182 --> 00:25:21,987 And being grateful really does give you that superpower. 562 00:25:22,454 --> 00:25:23,221 It does. 563 00:25:23,221 --> 00:25:25,257 So I'm so grateful that I appreciate that. 564 00:25:25,257 --> 00:25:26,925 I'm grateful for that. 565 00:25:26,925 --> 00:25:30,929 The more you fixate on something, the more you see it, right? 566 00:25:31,363 --> 00:25:34,733 We are what we consume in so many ways. 567 00:25:34,733 --> 00:25:35,667 And like 568 00:25:35,667 --> 00:25:40,205 I know it sounds again, cliche of the but we just only have a limited time here. 569 00:25:40,205 --> 00:25:42,607 So let's focus on things that, you know, make us 570 00:25:42,607 --> 00:25:46,711 happy, make us smile and try to bring that into other people's lives. 571 00:25:46,711 --> 00:25:49,681 And you can do that every morning, which is probably something. 572 00:25:49,681 --> 00:25:52,417 I mean, you're doing the same things. 573 00:25:52,417 --> 00:25:54,519 You're actually doing that. 574 00:25:54,519 --> 00:25:57,255 And I remember when I was going through my course 575 00:25:57,255 --> 00:26:00,659 for hypnotherapy, and one of the things, 576 00:26:01,860 --> 00:26:02,794 we were taught to 577 00:26:02,794 --> 00:26:09,034 do and to help others is like, have them close your eyes, get relaxed, 578 00:26:09,701 --> 00:26:13,438 and just say, when you open your eyes, you're going to notice 579 00:26:13,438 --> 00:26:16,441 everything that's brown in this room. 580 00:26:17,208 --> 00:26:20,445 And they didn't notice anything like through here. 581 00:26:20,478 --> 00:26:22,147 Blue walls, all that. Yeah. 582 00:26:22,147 --> 00:26:25,850 But when they open their eyes, all they could see 583 00:26:25,951 --> 00:26:30,188 was the brown ball and a brown and a purse or the brown in that. 584 00:26:30,722 --> 00:26:34,526 So if you train yourself to do that, then you're only going to see the good 585 00:26:34,526 --> 00:26:34,993 in others. 586 00:26:34,993 --> 00:26:37,996 Today, everyone's doing the best they can, 587 00:26:38,129 --> 00:26:41,433 no matter how bad they are to you. 588 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:45,003 They think they're doing the best that they can. 589 00:26:45,070 --> 00:26:48,073 So give people grace. 590 00:26:48,206 --> 00:26:52,410 Know that the pendulum will always swing the other way no matter what. 591 00:26:52,877 --> 00:26:54,779 Things are always changing. 592 00:26:54,779 --> 00:26:57,882 Yeah, but the one thing you can keep, you know, 593 00:26:57,882 --> 00:27:00,885 safe within you is your own foundation. 594 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,588 And your own foundation is your faith. 595 00:27:03,588 --> 00:27:06,424 Yes, your own foundation is love. 596 00:27:06,424 --> 00:27:10,128 It's it's all of that that nothing will rattle you. 597 00:27:10,629 --> 00:27:13,331 And it begins with being grateful. 598 00:27:13,331 --> 00:27:14,332 Absolutely. 599 00:27:14,332 --> 00:27:17,335 So many people will try to, you know, rattle your cage a little bit. 600 00:27:17,936 --> 00:27:20,972 But the whole thing is you really can control how you respond to that. 601 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,642 Yeah. Right. Right. 602 00:27:23,642 --> 00:27:26,311 I mean, that's just so important to be able to do that. 603 00:27:26,311 --> 00:27:29,047 But gratitude, gratitude I keep saying gratitude is riches. 604 00:27:29,047 --> 00:27:31,650 It really is gratitude is riches. 605 00:27:31,650 --> 00:27:33,151 Gratitude is riches. 606 00:27:33,151 --> 00:27:34,085 Is there a book by that? 607 00:27:34,085 --> 00:27:35,954 Or we can invite we're gonna have to write that book. 608 00:27:35,954 --> 00:27:37,222 We're looking to write that book. 609 00:27:37,222 --> 00:27:40,225 So grab it and thank your coffee is riches. 610 00:27:40,392 --> 00:27:42,193 Yeah. He's drinking his coffee. 611 00:27:42,193 --> 00:27:42,961 Even cold. 612 00:27:42,961 --> 00:27:43,862 It tastes so good. 613 00:27:43,862 --> 00:27:46,064 Common ground coffee. Oh, man. 614 00:27:46,064 --> 00:27:48,333 But, Joyce, I'm grateful for you. 615 00:27:48,333 --> 00:27:50,835 I am so grateful for you. Grateful. 616 00:27:50,835 --> 00:27:52,871 Grateful for everyone who's watching. 617 00:27:52,871 --> 00:27:54,305 And even those not watching. 618 00:27:55,407 --> 00:27:58,443 Just tell a friend about us that there is a good news podcast out there. 619 00:27:58,443 --> 00:28:00,111 What's good with John and Joyce available? 620 00:28:00,111 --> 00:28:01,913 Subscribe for free on YouTube. 621 00:28:01,913 --> 00:28:02,714 Share it with everybody. 622 00:28:02,714 --> 00:28:04,382 You know, because so many people go 623 00:28:04,382 --> 00:28:07,686 through really tough times especially, it's magnified this time of year. 624 00:28:08,019 --> 00:28:10,021 The good and the bad is magnified. 625 00:28:10,021 --> 00:28:13,091 You know, somebody maybe not at that table that was there last year. 626 00:28:14,092 --> 00:28:16,428 Just just be so grateful for every day 627 00:28:16,428 --> 00:28:19,264 and let people know that we're a soft place to land available. 628 00:28:19,264 --> 00:28:21,833 And all streaming platforms like to thank my friends up. 629 00:28:21,833 --> 00:28:24,002 But iHeart radio, 630 00:28:24,002 --> 00:28:28,707 where I work on the river 105 90 country 92 five Joyce, are grateful for you 631 00:28:28,707 --> 00:28:31,209 and all the great things you've done with your with your book. 632 00:28:31,209 --> 00:28:33,712 This might be a really good gift for this time of year. 633 00:28:33,712 --> 00:28:36,247 Imagine reading excerpts out of this over 634 00:28:36,247 --> 00:28:38,416 a table of Thanksgiving or Christmas erotica. 635 00:28:38,416 --> 00:28:40,485 You know I'll sign it for you. 636 00:28:40,485 --> 00:28:43,621 Yeah, she'll sign it for you if it's on Amazon. 637 00:28:43,855 --> 00:28:45,390 Yeah. Signed copies. 638 00:28:45,390 --> 00:28:47,892 We'll work that out. We'll do a meet and greet day. 639 00:28:47,892 --> 00:28:49,360 Oh, that would be awesome. 640 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,062 Just like on location at some point. 641 00:28:51,062 --> 00:28:52,197 Yeah, yeah. 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