Because we love people. We do love people.
We honestly do.
Some people don't.
But no, really, he'll say I don't like people.
Always the red lights on. That must mean that we're crazy.
Oh, sorry.
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You know the coffee mugs.
You're going to have to mass market these at some point.
You know what do you like what's good cup.
Yeah. Yeah.
They're not for sale yet. Yet?
Not yet. We're thinking about getting a maybe.
I like the yellow inside because it looks like sunshine.
It does doesn't I mean the whole thing.
Oh, I leave it all inside.
You know,
I stopped by a common grounds coffee right down the street from our studios
before I come here.
And the flavor this morning was, hazelnut.
Yeah. Your coffee is amazing.
Because I could smell it.
Yeah.
I won't see where I got mine from when I central banking.
It doesn't smell like that.
It just kind of like, proliferates in the whole studio.
Perfect. Does.
It does like I want to take a shower in it.
Okay.
So people take mud bath, you know, just sort of,
you know, you you go hazelnut shower.
Wilson. You're going to like that.
Wilson's the owner of Common Grounds by the Wilson, Indiana.
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You're welcome to what's good with John and Joyce.
And, thank you for listening and watching.
And whatever you do, on YouTube or all the different major platforms.
And, I'm proud to say that, we appreciate being on the iHeart radio
podcast network as well.
I work on radio stations up in Hartford at the River 159 and country 92 five.
And it's just a great group of people,
a great family to be a part of at iHeart radio.
So thank you, yes, for blessing my life in so many ways.
So I'm sitting here with this book in my lap.
Only because I was talking to you about it has nothing really to do with this show.
But, if anyone if you want to read a really great.
It's not like a novel.
It's like a Bible. It is has been my Bible.
It's all marked up.
Everything you can't afford the luxury of a negative thought.
Wow, what an interesting title.
The luxury of it is called The Life 101 series.
And it really is, because I remember reading this like way, way back
and it said, like, what if you're afraid of death?
And I said, well, if you're afraid of death and
then you've got to be afraid of I Love Lucy reruns because it's inevitable.
It's inevitable.
And there is, like, make peace with that
because there's like three things that could happen.
Either those who believe you go no where, so you believe, you go
no where you believe, you go to heaven. Believe. You go to heaven.
You believe you're going to become reincarnated.
Great. Believe in that.
And then go on with your life. Right?
You know, the thing is, somebody said to me at the gym
the other day about worry.
Said worry is like worshiping the devil.
It is the devil.
You know it.
Yeah, it really is.
And the thing is, we all do it. I'm guilty.
Oh, yeah.
I mean, we worry, but the thing is, we only have today, right?
So let's make the best of today.
I know it sounds so cliche, but there are some people didn't wake up this morning.
True.
And you're going to be some people
that don't wake up tomorrow morning, and we just,
we just really need just to go out there and be good humans.
I mean, I know it sounds Pollyanna, Kumbaya, but.
Yeah, but just take care of yourself and all that and and stop with the news
and the thinking and and arguing with people on Facebook and Instagram,
whatever platforms you're on.
And just fine.
Like, like I have almost 5000 people.
What you do two on one Facebook platform that I have and another one.
But I weed out the people that I could tell like, oh, I don't like this.
So I have wonderfully filled my Facebook with people
that have positive things to say, uplifting things to say,
because the world gives us enough of right drama.
And I'm I don't want to engage in that.
It's I some it's like, you be right.
I'm going to be happy if somebody tries to bait me into an argument
and it happens every now and then, I'll just kind of like,
I pick and choose my battles.
I usually walk away, right? I just say listen.
Or if somebody is gossiping about somebody, I'll just excuse myself.
Yeah. Or change the subject. I want to honor people.
Yeah, right.
I love changing the subject, even in person.
Yeah, we all have flaws.
We do have tons of who.
Yes, but you don't have to, You don't have to engage in that.
Did you ever read anything online?
This is I almost. It's so predictable.
Now there'll be some heartfelt, really wonderful story.
And you read the comments and it's like, how
how did they extract something negative onto this beautiful story?
I agree. Right.
So that's why these are usually unhappy people, but also with social media
nowadays there's, there's a there's some cowardice out there.
People will say things that they would never say to you in person
because they're hiding behind the anonymity of social media.
But a lot of bots out there, too, right?
You wonder what's real and what's not.
But the old adage, if you don't have something good to say, right?
Yeah, my mom always said that, and I was wonderful about that.
Yeah.
And I and every time that what happened,
where something happened and I said something, I am well known,
unfortunately, for leading the wrong people.
A message for another person.
Oh, God, I did, I did I recently with one of my text
now, you know, but it wasn't anything bad.
But I mean, I left a voicemail for somebody and they said,
you got the wrong person because it was a similar name.
Yeah.
I'm glad that all my messages are always positive.
Exactly. That you don't have to worry about it.
I don't have to worry about that.
I'm not going to
I'm not going to say something negative, especially like that in a text or email.
Right. But if you have an email or text, pause.
Yes. Think about it before you send it. Yeah.
And and if you feel the same way the next day, then you can act on it.
Yeah.
Have you ever seen such great advice and I've. Yes.
I've been burned in the past. Yeah.
I said some things to people in the chat.
I mean, that doesn't sound like you. Where is it.
And they were offended by that, right?
That wasn't my intent.
But I have to accept accountability.
My fault.
Right?
I should have thought about it or read it, reread it before I sent it.
Yeah, I I've had some really, really bad stuff happen.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Me too, with business wise or people had someone
that they patched in and they weren't there.
Not knowing that the whole conver business conversation was being recorded.
Yeah.
And then their team came in and listened to it
and, and, and at that time I had a bookkeeper for my business,
and she said some things that should not have been known or said,
you know, and so I, I'm always like learning like to be really careful.
But it comes down to two things. Like you just said,
if you don't have anything
good to say, don't say it.
And the other thing is, if you tell a lie,
you're going to have to tell a thousand
more to cover it up because you don't remember the lives of a great.
You remember the truth, and the truth really shines through in the end.
The cream rises to the crop.
The truth gets exposed.
So live your life that way. Right.
And and the thing is, we're all going to fall. Yeah.
Because there's
sometimes that somebody just rubs you the wrong way or something on TV
and you immediately have a visceral reaction.
But, you know, the whole thing is you and I talked about this before, Joyce.
You can love the person and load the behavior. Yes.
And that's what brought me even closer to God during the, during Covid.
And it was, you know, someone I probably mentioned this
before, but, I even think I wrote about it in my book.
Which book was it?
Know that live abundantly now and live abundantly in your mind.
When you live abundantly in your mind, things just show up.
But you may think, well, Joyce, I didn't win the lottery and I read the book.
No, but if you really understand the book that I wrote,
it's about acknowledging the little things like someone bringing you
a cup of coffee
and you're
really genuinely happy about that, and there's something else good happens.
Acknowledge it, you know, let that seep into your mind and give thanks for that.
And that's when other doors open up.
But so many times we ignore the other stuff and say,
oh, that was just a coincidence, or this is no coincidence.
No, it's just appreciate everything.
There's a book called Appreciation Marketing,
and I don't think I've ever had anybody say what you say.
You say, I appreciate you too much.
Or if you say, I love you, nobody's ever going to say you say,
I love you too much, right? But you're right. Appreciation.
And that goes a long, long way. Yeah.
When you say thank you. Right. Please.
Look, somebody in the I mention their name, but I would say take
no takes nothing.
It really and it goes a long way.
That person could be having the worst day in the world.
And you said you appreciate them.
Changes the whole trajectory. Yes.
Yeah. And
I learned that again I have to give my mom credit.
She said it was I met your mom. I wish you did.
You would have loved her.
She said, if if someone is wearing something
that you like, say it.
So I always did.
And one day in school,
you know,
I told the girl sitting in front of me, I said, I really love your sweater.
And she said, oh, thanks.
She said, you're the only one that ever says anything nice, which I almost like.
She questioned if I really meant it. Yeah.
And I said, no, I really do.
But my mom always also said, and if someone says
they like something about you, don't shy away from that.
Don't say, oh, this old thing.
She said, compliment on the compliment.
Yes. And say, so I did that with someone, but it wasn't that long ago.
And she said, oh my gosh, I really love what you're wearing.
I said, me too.
I found this at blah blah blah store and that, and she laughed at me
and she said, I've never heard anyone say that, that they like it.
They like it too.
I said, but that's why I bought it too many times.
For people who are self-deprecating, you know?
Yeah, careful how you speak over yourself.
So it's like he took the time to compliment you on it.
Accept it. Right.
Or if somebody wants to buy you a cup of coffee, accept it.
So you don't have to do that. Accept it. Yeah.
And then you do it for somebody else. Yeah.
Pay it forward I agree.
So we're talking about gratitude today.
Gratitude changes your life changes your life I,
I think you and I can't stress that enough because the more grateful you are,
it changes the neurons in your neuroplasticity and the brain.
And it brings more your way because your brain
doesn't know what, what's what's right or wrong or what's true or false.
Whatever. The brain only knows what you tell it, right?
If you're grateful for it, you can find happiness in spite of your circumstances.
Yes. No matter what you're going through, you can still find ways to be grateful.
All right.
This may not be going so well, but I've got this.
And let's face it, we have a lot more good in our lives.
And bad. I don't care who you are.
If you really, really dig deep and peel back the layers.
Right.
You know, our worst day in this country is better than many people's
best days in other countries, right? Where they have a lot of challenges.
Right? Oh, challenges.
But let's focus on what? What's good today? Yeah.
I thought we always say what's good today.
That's why we named it this show. Right.
And I see people, we talk who we say.
We don't say like how are you.
But what today is like.
Yeah, requires good.
Yeah.
When I know someone that tends to be a chronic complainer
especially, we'll say that. Hey, you know.
So tell me what could happen to you this week.
Right.
And then they stop and they think about it, you know, and they share that.
But it also boosts your health when you're feeling,
the serotonin, the dopamine, all the good feeling chemicals in your body.
Yeah it does.
So you speak it into existence.
You think about it, speak by faith
so many times and aphorisms in the morning are so popular.
I mean, you and I talk about that a lot.
I wake up with prayer each and every day.
However you do it with respect, however you do it.
But when I'm on my I wake up and I thank God for all my blessings
each and every day.
I thank him that he's breathed breath into my lungs.
Yes, that I woke up today.
Which means I have an assignment, right?
And I just listen. Father, what do you want to be?
What do you want me to do today? Who can I be good to today?
Yeah, and he puts all those people in your path.
Yeah.
And you're very you're very diligent about that.
And saying, I get to wake up.
I get to go work with this person.
I said, oh God.
And it's tough sometimes because you don't want to do that.
And even if you like tasks that you don't like to do, well, I get to do this.
Yeah, some people would love to be able to get out of bed,
to be able to do that task. Yeah.
Or some people like, oh, I don't know.
I need some new shoes. I can't really afford them at the moment.
Well yeah. Feet.
Some people can't get up and walk.
I know it really is true.
It's just a mind shift.
But gratitude is riches.
It is riches.
It is when my Uncle John, my beloved Uncle John, I love John.
Got a great name? Yes. Great name.
Heart of gold, you know, just like you.
But, he had a, a really aggressive cancer.
But I have to say,
that he had
signs of it early on, which he never told anyone about.
So by the time he went to his doctor, his doctor said, John,
if you came to me with the fire in the basement, I could have put it out.
But now it's throughout your whole body,
so that was a lesson for me to learn, even, you know, to get checked.
You got something wrong with you? Get a check.
But my my Uncle John was was dying in bed
and someone that was visiting him walked into the bathroom
and walked back out and he said, oh, I so wish I could do that.
And I said, what? He said, walk, just walk.
So he was realizing
all these little things he ever took for granted as he was lying there.
It's like, I wish I could walk like that person.
We take it for granted, you know that we're walking
or talking or seeing, you know, all of that.
I was talking to a hospice nurse once
and I said, what are the things you hear from somebody who's on their deathbed?
You know, what are the things you hear?
Like, you know, I wish I could have what could have should have would.
And I said, you know, first of all, I just wish I took that chance.
Maybe that business opportunity, whatever.
I wish I didn't care so much what people think.
That makes you a prisoner.
It does. Because we're all worried about what people think.
And you know what people think is their business.
They have the right to think what they think, right?
We also have a right to do what we're going to do, because that person
is not going to pay your bills or take care of you if something happens.
So go out there and take that chance.
But so many times we're just held because of what people think
or what they might think.
If we hang around with this person or try this in that.
And that's so imprisoning, you know, and, and a lot of people end up
going to their, their, their maker, you know, with all those regrets.
Right.
And I think about that even as they get older, a little bit more about that.
You know, what things did I say no to that?
I wish I said no it's yes to. Yeah.
And the thing is you just got to move on.
You just got to shake it off.
And at least you woke up today and it's a brand new day, right?
Right.
And, so from gratitude to go to greatness,
greatness within you is so important.
And, it's not a egotistical thing, you know?
It's not.
That's what I was going to say.
It's not, you know, just to to to feel good, laugh things off more,
you know, up with that Doctor Joyce Meyers laughter is the best medicine.
Who who said that? Oh, it was doctor cousins.
Thank you. Cousins. Yeah.
Yeah I think because again I'm going back to my mother who said
I think it was doctor Cousins who said, he healed himself
by watching funny movies.
That's a great. Yeah. That's great. You're right.
I remember a doctor saying that before a woman went to this doctor,
and she kept complaining about stuffy and depressed and down said, oh,
you know what I'm going to do?
You go home and watch your favorite comedy shows. Yes.
Like, you know, first thing in the morning before you go to bed at night, right?
No more news, like we say all the time.
And she was actually able to find joy.
Yeah, I'm doing that.
You know, I'm I'm so grateful that I'm surrounded by, well, two people,
especially in my life, you know, my, my, my son,
Tim and my grandson.
And, they make me laugh.
I mean, every day Amy and Matthew makes me laugh because,
I okay, I've got to share this.
For the first time ever in my life, I have, false eyelashes.
I've never worn false eyelashes.
I've tried in the past, like, 30 years.
But the glue and everything, I'm just not good at that.
But I love makeup, and I love fooling around with it.
So I found these eyelashes online that said, no glue, nothing.
It's just the heat of your body.
So wouldn't you know.
Matthew walks in my room as I'm holding a little ham mirror
now trying to do it, and he says, what are you doing?
And I said, I'm putting them false eyelashes.
He said, what
the hell are you?
That them? Right, right.
I said, yes, and he's watching me.
And he said, well, how do they stay on?
I said, from the heat of your body.
He said, you don't have any heat.
You're always cold. Oh, yes.
So I just burst out laughing and he just says exactly what I was.
My no filter. Yes.
And that's why I love, you know.
And Matthew has autism and they can't lie.
They don't lie. They just say it.
But he says it so funny, like, okay, I'm out of here because I can't watch this.
Oh yeah.
It's just they're just so brilliant.
I just did a big benefit for Connecticut to autism families.
It's like one of the biggest fundraisers for autism in the state of Connecticut.
We recently did it at the pond House in West Hartford.
And some of the most brilliant people I know are on the spectrum.
Yes. Oh, that's what makes them brilliant.
Those. Yes.
I remember when Matthew was first diagnosed, when he was six years old,
and we took him to, psychiatry, a child psychologist, psychiatrist.
And he asked about other people in my family.
And I said, when I look back on it, I would say in the spectrum
might have been my Uncle John and,
and another family member
because they're brilliant at what they did.
But really not so great socially.
Some of the cases, yes, there were some things
that were really lacking there, but brilliant people.
Right.
And so he said to me, well, you know, those doctors
that have no bedside manner, but they're absolutely brilliant.
He said, guaranteed they're in the spectrum.
And but that means they just can't do this.
But they're really great sitting in a lab and they could figure out
all types of things that are wrong with your blood or whatever.
And, so, you know, we're used in many different ways.
And I that's why I don't like to label people because there's that saying
that Doctor Wayne Dyer always said, when you label me, you negate me.
Oh, and that's why even when I was way younger,
I never told my age because I knew that
if people thought you were in your 20s, you were too young to do something.
If you were over the age of 35, you could be perceived too old to be.
So I started saying to people who would say, how old are you?
And I would just say, you know, I don't care
if you think I'm 80 years old or 30 years old, I'm ageless.
Yes, we are all yes, yes,
because only if you have to do a doctor's report or that it's like,
you know, or people could Google it, but it's not in it.
I don't want to say it for me because I feel like
I start thinking, oh, I'm this age now, maybe I shouldn't do this.
And plus, I know people that are 20 that are old,
oh, by the way, they think and I know, yeah, 80, 85 so young
are some of the most youthful people I know because of the way they think.
Yes, 100% of the way they speak, the way I open my
I find as I get older, I have more childlike curiosity.
Yes, I'm more open minded about music and movies and,
I still love the new music that's out now.
Yeah, I love the stuff I grew up with, but I love the new music.
I love new movies.
I love, new shows, theater.
Yeah, new shows on Netflix, whatever it may be.
I just, I need to be constantly fed new.
And that's what keeps you young. You're right.
I'm way less, I hope, judgmental about things and open to it.
Like to look at it with fresh eyes. Yes.
You know, instead of saying, oh, I don't like that color.
The rule, you know, I think as a teenager, especially teenage girls, maybe you're
more like that. And,
yeah, that could be a tough time.
You know, maybe.
Candy, I think you're a little bit more judgmental of that time.
Right?
But as you grow up, you just want to say, yeah,
I just want to experience new things and keep an open mind.
Yes. Never been to an opera before. Well, let's go to the.
Yeah.
Why not?
Yeah. What's the worst thing that's going to happen?
You're gonna fall asleep.
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
You know, but at least you've been there. You've experienced it, right?
I would love to do that.
Yeah. Because, I mean, I love opera music.
I like everything, you know, I just went to the Metropolitan Opera.
I don't think so.
No, I've only been there in my mind because of Cher with Moonstruck.
I feel like I've been there.
But I want to see the chandelier come down.
I should do that.
Yeah, I think I've been to an opera, like up in Hartford or maybe the Bushnell.
But, I mean, I just
appreciate the talent and I'll listen to, you know, a station every now and then,
maybe public radio or something, where I'll hear some opera.
And I love classical and I love all different genres.
And we're talking about gratitude.
I'm grateful for all those different genres.
Yeah.
We're able to pick and choose different foods.
We want to eat, different lanes, TV shows we want to watch.
Right.
You know, and, I'm grateful for that.
I'm grateful for all those little things.
Yeah.
You know, and also being judgmental.
And I think I might have said this to you before, John,
I like a lot of reality shows,
but in the past I found myself being really critical or angry.
And then when I stopped myself, maybe, you know, some of you could do that.
Also, whether it's a family member or anyone
and just look at it differently, decide
not to add anger or judgment
and just think of that person as just being them.
You know, you can't fix anyone.
You really can't change anyone.
It has to be their decision.
But they can learn by your example.
And I always think of and I think this is another Wayne Dyer story.
It's when
he, his sister, when the family would get together,
there would always be some kind of strife or chaos.
And he noticed that his sister.
With the holidays at your dinner table.
Whatever. Yes. Yep yep, yep.
And, she began taking up a book with her,
and she would excuse yourself and go sit in another room while they were bickering.
But this happened after she was
in a horrific car accident, like, horrific.
And, she basically came back from the dead.
And after that, nothing bothered her.
She walked away.
She wouldn't engage because she saw the light,
and she saw how brief this life could be on Earth and made a decision.
I'm not going to live this way.
So she wouldn't lecture them.
She would just excuse herself and go sit in another room.
It is that great. We're only here like this.
Someone by Kansas. Dust in the wind.
Yeah. I'm only here just for fun.
And then we move on. Right.
So make it a good trip.
And being grateful really does give you that superpower.
It does.
So I'm so grateful that I appreciate that.
I'm grateful for that.
The more you fixate on something, the more you see it, right?
We are what we consume in so many ways.
And like
I know it sounds again, cliche of the but we just only have a limited time here.
So let's focus on things that, you know, make us
happy, make us smile and try to bring that into other people's lives.
And you can do that every morning, which is probably something.
I mean, you're doing the same things.
You're actually doing that.
And I remember when I was going through my course
for hypnotherapy, and one of the things,
we were taught to
do and to help others is like, have them close your eyes, get relaxed,
and just say, when you open your eyes, you're going to notice
everything that's brown in this room.
And they didn't notice anything like through here.
Blue walls, all that. Yeah.
But when they open their eyes, all they could see
was the brown ball and a brown and a purse or the brown in that.
So if you train yourself to do that, then you're only going to see the good
in others.
Today, everyone's doing the best they can,
no matter how bad they are to you.
They think they're doing the best that they can.
So give people grace.
Know that the pendulum will always swing the other way no matter what.
Things are always changing.
Yeah, but the one thing you can keep, you know,
safe within you is your own foundation.
And your own foundation is your faith.
Yes, your own foundation is love.
It's it's all of that that nothing will rattle you.
And it begins with being grateful.
Absolutely.
So many people will try to, you know, rattle your cage a little bit.
But the whole thing is you really can control how you respond to that.
Yeah. Right. Right.
I mean, that's just so important to be able to do that.
But gratitude, gratitude I keep saying gratitude is riches.
It really is gratitude is riches.
Gratitude is riches.
Is there a book by that?
Or we can invite we're gonna have to write that book.
We're looking to write that book.
So grab it and thank your coffee is riches.
Yeah. He's drinking his coffee.
Even cold.
It tastes so good.
Common ground coffee. Oh, man.
But, Joyce, I'm grateful for you.
I am so grateful for you. Grateful.
Grateful for everyone who's watching.
And even those not watching.
Just tell a friend about us that there is a good news podcast out there.
What's good with John and Joyce available?
Subscribe for free on YouTube.
Share it with everybody.
You know, because so many people go
through really tough times especially, it's magnified this time of year.
The good and the bad is magnified.
You know, somebody maybe not at that table that was there last year.
Just just be so grateful for every day
and let people know that we're a soft place to land available.
And all streaming platforms like to thank my friends up.
But iHeart radio,
where I work on the river 105 90 country 92 five Joyce, are grateful for you
and all the great things you've done with your with your book.
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