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Good morning.
And welcome to Morning Serial.
Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday.
We are back and if you got out of bed
on the first alarm this
morning, congratulations,
you're already
outperforming half the country.
And if you hit that snooze
button three times or so,
well, you know, that's a bold strategy.
Let's just see how that
one plays out for you.
Well, let's kick things
off with today's spark
and it comes from
director Peter Jackson who said,
if you never start, you will never know.
So even if you're not directing hobbits
across Middle Earth,
the message here is solid.
You will not discover
your true potential,
the outcome of a new
endeavor or what you are capable of
if you let fear or
overthinking prevent you
from taking that first step.
Action over inaction, people.
All right, well, here
are your four moments
that matter for December 1st.
Number one, in 2003, this is when "The
Return of the King",
the third and final film in
the "Lord of the Rings" series
directed by Peter
Jackson and it was starting,
Elijah Wood and Ian McKellen.
Well, it premiered in
Wellington, New Zealand.
All right, number
two, today's national day
is the Rockefeller
Christmas Tree Lighting Day.
It's the official kickoff
to the Christmas season,
even though I know we all kind of cheated
and we started last weekend,
maybe even a little
bit before Thanksgiving.
Oh, and don't forget,
it's also Cyber Monday.
So you better log on at some point today
and find some great deals out there.
All right, here's number three.
The number one song on
this date back in 1986
was "Walk This Way" by Run DMC.
Now this was the beginning of a new era
and who could forget
the intro guitar riff.
All right, here's number four.
Happy birthday to you if
today is your birthday.
You share it with actor,
musician and style icon,
Zoe Kravitz, she's just 36 today.
Comedian and actress, Sarah Silverman,
she's just 55 today.
Singer, performer and
absolute legend, Bette Midler,
she's 80 today.
Okay, well, let's shift
gears into Mel Robbins
that let them theory.
Now today we're covering
and starting a new chapter,
chapter 11, which is entitled
"The Truth No One Told You
About Adult Friendships."
Now this is where Mel finally says the
quiet part out loud.
Adult friendships, they're
weird, they're complicated
and usually nothing like the
ones we grew up with, okay?
Now Robbins opens up
with this truth, okay?
We all recognize it,
but we seldom admit it.
"No one tells you
friendships will change as dramatically
as everything else in adulthood."
We expect careers to shift.
We expect families to evolve
and our priorities to
rearrange, but friendships,
those were supposed to stay easy, right?
No, instead, Robbins explains
that adult life adds layers,
adds responsibilities,
there's time scarcity,
there's emotional
bandwidths and expectations
that we often don't even voice.
So she points out that the
friction in adult friendships
rarely means something is wrong.
It usually means that life has moved
and we haven't adjusted our expectations.
She writes, quote, "Most
frustrations in friendships
come from assuming
someone else is supposed to play
the same role they used to," end quote.
Now that line alone can save people years
of hurt feelings.
Robbins encourages the
readers to take a compassionate look
at themselves and others.
Instead of viewing a
drifting friendship as rejection,
she reframes it as part of the natural
rhythm of adulthood.
The foundation of the let
them theory pops up again here,
quote, "Let people be
where they are in life,
even if where they are isn't
where you want them to be,"
end quote.
So this intro is
essentially, it's a warmup.
It sets the stage for
understanding how friendships evolved
without blaming yourself or others.
It invites us to stop
trying to force the closeness
that we had at 17 into the
schedules we have at 37 or 57.
Okay, here's your Monday takeaway.
Adult friendships aren't broken.
They're simply
evolving and life gets easier
when you allow them to shift naturally.
All right, friends, go start your Monday
like Peter Jackson would,
directing your life your way.
Mine is those orcs.
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