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Friends of Fini podcast 154.

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We're going to start
with a beautiful song.

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The Soulful Force theme song.

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So of course
that's where you will find the answers

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to so many questions
floating around your mind.

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In the summer forest,
there's so much to see and do.

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A list of all the songs.

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Forest you discover, you.

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Find the tranquil tree with me.

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That's where new friendships start.

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And it's really interesting.

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And you'll go right.

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And there were jokes about today's boy

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hunting time, and you'll learn.

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In the tranquil

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tree, you'll discover how you can.

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We. Here, look. Come on. Take over you.

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So you be alone.

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And then you find your matters.

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Someone's left your flat.

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The foreigners swing it over to you
after you take care of them.

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That you fly with me to the forest

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where there should be
stacks of songs and story.

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Safety and serenity. The song

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is when all your dreams come true.

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I know when.

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I sign, you.

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Up. I thank you for joining us.

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Good night
everyone. No, that was beautiful.

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And, Christine, you wrote you sang that,
and you hit the high pitch and everything.

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I did.

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Wow, that was beautiful. That was so good.

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Thank you.

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And David Freeman wrote it. Yes, David.

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Go ahead.

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A dear friend, David Friedman,
who is, written for Broadway in Disney

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and lots of films and,
he's a good friend of ours who is

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just as committed to supporting the health
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and their families as we are so nice
to be part of everything that we do

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well. Welcome.

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Feeney talks with friends.

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This is episode 154.

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I'm honored to be speaking with some
really good friends.

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We have.

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Tara,

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Terry and Christina.

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Sorry. Tara. Tara. Tara.

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To my left. You're right.

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Terry. Christina.

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That was Christina
singing with her beautiful voice.

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We'll start with Christina.

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a new soul song. Yes.

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Where did you get the inspiration?

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Well, you told me.

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This is so exciting and so fitting.

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And what a coincidence.

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Listen to this, listeners.

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Where did you learn to love singing?

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I grew up in West Hartford,
and I went to Wolcott Elementary School.

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Let's go. This is Rossetti.

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Many years ago was the music
music teacher, and she called my parents

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one day and said, hey,
your daughter loves to sing.

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She's good at it.

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You need to really support her
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And they did. And

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looking back, I'm
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Not all parents listened.

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And, to have my parents really listened to

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that and support, that was a true gift.

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Truly. Yeah. That's amazing.

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Small world.

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Woke at school and listeners
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My daughters went there.

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I teach there to have them both at
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Walk. It's a special place.

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And being a teacher, that's amazing to me.

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Like if you have a kid that has a passion,
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archery, dance,
you just give them the opportunity.

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And that's what your parents did.

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And here we are,
and you have a beautiful, beautiful voice.

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The best teachers and parents
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I think that's the best way
a child can be raised is your partnership.

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You know, it's to support the health and
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As parents and teachers.

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So it's, as a
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And how
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Terry and I have been friends
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And I share a passion of helping children
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And, we were at a restaurant one day

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and just having a meal, and we said, what
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Can we create something to help children
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And this idea of creating this
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to be like digital, where thinking
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And that's
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And we said, gee, you know what?

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If we had and it was fun.

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It was like gratitude,
garden camp kindness.

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And it was just all trying to coming up
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different ways to say things, river
resilience and mindful mountain.

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And, you know,
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It took us a while.

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And then some, some great starts.

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Can I tell you about this?

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Oh, let's do it.

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Yes. The only way into the the forest
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Because we know all the things
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We want to spend a lot of time
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at the top of mindfulness,
where you to trick or treat here and now.

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You don't regret yesterday
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That's one of the
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To stay present,

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we have to go down the river of resilience
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But we always end up down at the calm
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which is where we can see our reflection
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Sometimes we spend time
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the sadness
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This is one of my favorite places.

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It's called the field of forgiveness.
It's where we learn to laugh

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and forgive.

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When we love accepting forgive ourselves,
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Forgive others.

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This is my other favorite place that
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Tranquil tree is where children

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have the the mental picture
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to get space between how they feel
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That emotional regulation is so important.

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Once we teach it to children,
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Congress.

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Diversity universities where we don't
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well nest
clinic is run by a birthing doctor,

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and she teaches children
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Kindness
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You always want to avoid camp
Chaos at Valley Acres Farm,

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where everyone is constantly alarmed
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So she and I spent time.

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She and I spent time coming up,
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We were jacked up a lot.

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and then we said, okay,
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We ended up creating the healing.

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has David songs and her amazing voice
in her heart and soul healing

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for children that have come to the death
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And a little bird shows up, a little bird.

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And then there's music and videos by
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and they help children.

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a thousand children across the country
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And so that has been
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The other thing that we came up with is,
the soulful Grandmother Gate.

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We go into third grade classrooms,
we're coming to your mom.

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And that again features Christina's music.

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There's a song that she sings called
We Can Be Kind,

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and the kids sing along with that.

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It's like a it's like Woodstock,
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It's just so, so fun.

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The teachers seem to like it,
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And then, the other thing
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this is a substance misuse, program.

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And the reason that we created it is
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living in homes where, someone in the home

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it's a tough place to live.

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And that is truly the report.

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And so we came up with Tamara
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And we're just going to do this

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like I'm talking about. No,

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this is something counselors are using.

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I can't control it.

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I can't cure it.

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making good choices,
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I think the most important one right
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and we can use that in so many situations.

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You can, can I do?

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change our language regarding addiction,
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when we change how we go about it,
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it changes how to feel about it,

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and then it changes what we do
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And working with Tara has been amazing.

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We came up with a guidebook for children
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that are living in
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manual tours.

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So, that's what has manifested
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And we're having,

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expensive mental.

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but it's me off the streets,
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Yeah, it started out with this.

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An amazing program
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And you talk about that?

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So David Friedman
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and I wanted it to be a free resource,
and it's called Christina's Cottage.

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I liken it to like a newer Mr.

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Rogers, but a woman.

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And it's a safe place
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And it's got fun characters,
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you know, by saying,
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We do, you know, everybody has, you know,
everybody feels scared sometimes.

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It's really just a way to help parents

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and children and teachers
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and just learn
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A big thing for me is I want to reach
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children, because the younger children
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So they don't know how they they don't
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So they need us to be regulated
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in the last 15 years or so, I'm noticing
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I also own, massage therapy practice,

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completely dysregulated.

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And, I was concerned because these parents

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are coming home to children, and children
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figure to help them manage their emotions.

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And so that's what spun on the inspiration
to decrease in this cottage.

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So yeah.

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Yeah, man, you have so much
wonderful things going on.

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I'm so honored to speak with you.

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Christina's cottage, soulful forest, 
helping with trauma

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and betrayal and all types of other
and paternal trauma.

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So this is great.

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Yeah.

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This is let me just.

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This is Feeny talks with friends.

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You know, my name is Eric Feeney,
founder and president, friends of Feeny.

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Our mission is to help

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children and families that need assistance
after heartbreak or tragedy.

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And I use this podcast.

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Feeny talks with friends,
and I talk to wonderful people

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that are doing great things.

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So I just want to share how excited I am
to have you here.

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And I'm learning so much.
I love the language matters.

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I because that is so true.

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You can say something in a certain way,

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instead of someone that's homeless,

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they're,
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you know, a slave is an enslaved person

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or someone that's disabled
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So you want to put the person first.

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And I see that you're doing that.

247
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You're a fourth grader
and your dad is in jail or in rehab,

248
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and somebody says, your dad's an addict,
and the child can respond with,

249
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my dad has a substance use disorder.

250
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And I know that seems very small,
but it's really very big because it takes

251
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it takes that judgment off of that,
and it helps

252
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the child
have more of a tender heart towards them.

253
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And I come at this from,
a point of view is I have a stepdaughter.

254
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She's beautiful, she's funny,
she's wonderful, she's amazing,

255
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she's a dog groomer.

256
00:12:37,623 --> 00:12:40,626
And she also suffers
tremendously from substance misuse.

257
00:12:40,926 --> 00:12:44,730
We just found out today
that she left a rehab and she's out.

258
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We don't know where she is right now.

259
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So this has been an ongoing thing.

260
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I have to tell you,
when it comes to this substance misuse,

261
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program, she has informed me

262
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more than any teacher, more
than any more than any encyclopedia.

263
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She and I have worked
on our relationship for decades,

264
00:13:01,781 --> 00:13:05,885
and I've learned a lot,
and I'm wishing her well tonight.

265
00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:10,523
I give people a lot of credit, and,

266
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I have trouble handling. I'm an adult.

267
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Imagine if you're in fourth grade.

268
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Third grade?

269
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So I'm I'm glad that we're doing this,
and I'm so grateful to you.

270
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Because she stepped out, she gave

271
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pretty much wrote this was novel.

272
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It was fun.

273
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A lot of fun because language does matter,
but also understanding language

274
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that kids respond to and that it changes.

275
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I mean, are we saying
bro or brah right now really?

276
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Like, think about that.

277
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You know,
like what changes that are, bro?

278
00:13:39,752 --> 00:13:41,053
I don't know bro.

279
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Whatever.

280
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Six seven like, give me a headache.

281
00:13:44,690 --> 00:13:46,058
Yeah. Right.

282
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Where are you like starting from there.

283
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Like.

284
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But it matters. It matters.

285
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And also just to be able to understand,
how it also has to be accessible

286
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for the adults in the kid's life
to be able to work with the kid, too.

287
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Because if the adult is reading it
and feeling activated by something,

288
00:14:03,475 --> 00:14:05,778
coagulation that's going to,

289
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you know, lend itself for a place
of not being able

290
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to really come to the table and heal.

291
00:14:11,350 --> 00:14:15,421
So this I like this because
it really offers a common language, common

292
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definition.

293
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This helps families to create
a shared story and a shared truth.

294
00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:22,628
Because there's always two truths, right?

295
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You have the person who's struggling
with the substance misuse

296
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and the person who is, you know,
the family system.

297
00:14:29,401 --> 00:14:31,103
They have their story, their truth.

298
00:14:31,103 --> 00:14:33,439
And to be able to have a common language,

299
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you can least have a shared story
and a shared truth.

300
00:14:38,043 --> 00:14:42,281
I love I read a lot of these kids
that have their stories of kids like you.

301
00:14:42,281 --> 00:14:43,549
This book is for you.

302
00:14:43,549 --> 00:14:48,888
I again, being a teacher for 22 years,
having friends and family

303
00:14:48,888 --> 00:14:54,126
that have experienced some of this,
I don't want to say what's the word?

304
00:14:54,126 --> 00:14:57,129
It would be a good use. Substance misuse.

305
00:14:57,429 --> 00:15:01,533
So, you know,
I have a lot of connections, so.

306
00:15:01,533 --> 00:15:04,270
Oh, yeah. There you go.
These people are the first page.

307
00:15:04,270 --> 00:15:05,237
That idea

308
00:15:05,237 --> 00:15:08,774
to put this on the first page of the book,
there's two things that we offer.

309
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There's a free website that has with books
and music and activities

310
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for the whole family.

311
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And we we can make sure
that our nonprofit, it's 100% free

312
00:15:17,082 --> 00:15:20,085
because it's the kids that need it
most that are least likely to get it.

313
00:15:20,085 --> 00:15:21,453
So we want to make sure that that,

314
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and this talks about all of the kids
with different kinds of experiences,

315
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and probably one of the kids
or one of the parents that is reading

316
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this with the child can relate.

317
00:15:33,432 --> 00:15:37,169
We also have a play that they can do
together about family roles

318
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and you know, the, the, the scapegoat,
the one that's, you know,

319
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hanging upside down
and the one that's the responsible one

320
00:15:44,009 --> 00:15:47,947
and how people with even the inner child
that much more.

321
00:15:47,947 --> 00:15:48,414
Yeah.

322
00:15:48,414 --> 00:15:51,417
So we've gotten that so many different
things and activities and,

323
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that they can do.

324
00:15:52,551 --> 00:15:55,521
Oh wow. This is pretty thick book two.

325
00:15:55,521 --> 00:15:57,723
So very informative.

326
00:15:57,723 --> 00:16:01,760
Pretty pretty colors and very, 
interactive.

327
00:16:01,827 --> 00:16:03,862
Yeah. Very interactive. That was word up.

328
00:16:03,862 --> 00:16:06,699
And then we have a so for this group,
the tour guides manuals.

329
00:16:06,699 --> 00:16:09,001
So when you're an adult
or you're a therapist,

330
00:16:09,001 --> 00:16:10,602
this, you know, kind of takes you through

331
00:16:10,602 --> 00:16:14,340
and some of the other ideas that other
people come up with, we tried to teach.

332
00:16:15,941 --> 00:16:17,176
Oh, the hug coupon.

333
00:16:17,176 --> 00:16:19,178
That's cute.

334
00:16:19,178 --> 00:16:21,280
I did that once for Valentine's Day.

335
00:16:21,280 --> 00:16:22,047
I gave you my wife.

336
00:16:22,047 --> 00:16:24,016
Like, I'll do the dishes. Use that card.

337
00:16:24,016 --> 00:16:27,653
I'm only use it once
because hugs, massages.

338
00:16:28,654 --> 00:16:29,388
So it's funny.

339
00:16:29,388 --> 00:16:30,789
It's laminated.

340
00:16:30,789 --> 00:16:33,492
Yep, yep.

341
00:16:33,492 --> 00:16:34,126
Oh that's great.

342
00:16:34,126 --> 00:16:38,063
Hug coupon expires
the day after forever as beautiful.

343
00:16:38,063 --> 00:16:40,065
This is super cute.

344
00:16:40,065 --> 00:16:43,502
So, Tara from main Street.

345
00:16:43,535 --> 00:16:46,238
Yeah. Main Street recovery. Counseling.
Yeah.

346
00:16:46,238 --> 00:16:50,409
So I well, you know what I wanted to
you asked kind of what word to use,

347
00:16:50,409 --> 00:16:51,610
and that comes up a lot.

348
00:16:51,610 --> 00:16:54,046
I just want to jump right in
because of the word addiction. Okay.

349
00:16:54,046 --> 00:16:56,949
And then we're using the word substance
use or substance misuse.

350
00:16:56,949 --> 00:17:00,085
So in my field
that word is interchangeable

351
00:17:00,085 --> 00:17:01,520
depending on who I'm working with.

352
00:17:01,520 --> 00:17:03,255
So if I'm working with an adult

353
00:17:03,255 --> 00:17:06,492
I would say you're struggling
with addiction or unwanted behaviors.

354
00:17:06,892 --> 00:17:08,694
So I think it's okay to use that word.

355
00:17:08,694 --> 00:17:11,730
But I think the reason
why we're really working as a field

356
00:17:11,730 --> 00:17:13,832
to understand
what words used in is my opinion,

357
00:17:13,832 --> 00:17:16,935
not the opinion of any organization
that has certified or credentialed me.

358
00:17:17,036 --> 00:17:17,669
Okay.

359
00:17:17,669 --> 00:17:20,572
I always have to put that disclaimer out
because you're not the opinions of

360
00:17:20,572 --> 00:17:21,974
outlets or, you know, whatever.

361
00:17:23,509 --> 00:17:23,942
I think

362
00:17:23,942 --> 00:17:27,246
that, you know, it's the word
addiction is not in the DSM.

363
00:17:27,246 --> 00:17:32,284
So just for diagnostic process,
for a diagnostic reasons, addiction is not

364
00:17:32,451 --> 00:17:36,789
they are not the ICD,
which is the international manual.

365
00:17:36,922 --> 00:17:37,289
Right?

366
00:17:37,289 --> 00:17:40,392
It is, but it's not in the DSM.

367
00:17:40,392 --> 00:17:43,395
So I think that's why we hear the word
substance misuse, substance

368
00:17:43,395 --> 00:17:46,398
abuse, gambling

369
00:17:47,232 --> 00:17:48,734
even that gambling addiction.

370
00:17:48,734 --> 00:17:54,106
So anyway, I could talk about that
forever, but because I think, well,

371
00:17:54,173 --> 00:17:57,142
do you want to know who I am, who you are,
and how you got involved?

372
00:17:57,142 --> 00:17:59,244
And who's your daddy and what's he do?
What's he doing?

373
00:17:59,244 --> 00:18:02,247
Oh, boy. Oh, that's okay.

374
00:18:02,581 --> 00:18:03,615
I know who my dad is.

375
00:18:03,615 --> 00:18:06,051
Okay. So, my name is Tara.

376
00:18:06,051 --> 00:18:09,555
I actually own, masonry
counseling and grit and grace recovery,

377
00:18:09,555 --> 00:18:12,558
so I'm here today
wearing my great grace recovery hat.

378
00:18:12,624 --> 00:18:17,329
I specialize in porn and sex addiction,
and I also specialize in betrayal trauma.

379
00:18:17,329 --> 00:18:21,066
So for purposes of today,
I have the addiction lens,

380
00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:24,670
my hat or my lens that I'm speaking.

381
00:18:24,670 --> 00:18:28,807
My voice today
is really on betrayal trauma and how the

382
00:18:28,841 --> 00:18:33,579
the addiction, the misuse affects
the entire family system.

383
00:18:34,379 --> 00:18:39,518
So great Grace recovery again focuses
on sex addiction and betrayal trauma.

384
00:18:39,518 --> 00:18:42,154
I'm certified
by a couple different organizations.

385
00:18:42,154 --> 00:18:44,256
I'm the only person in Connecticut
that's ABS.

386
00:18:44,256 --> 00:18:46,692
I was trained
as a clinical specialist in that.

387
00:18:46,692 --> 00:18:49,361
So I hold that credential with, with,

388
00:18:49,361 --> 00:18:52,598
respect and careful.

389
00:18:52,598 --> 00:18:55,400
Because I don't want to misrepresent that
in any way.

390
00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:56,335
So it's really important to me.

391
00:18:56,335 --> 00:19:00,305
I have so specialized for all of this
deconstructing, gaslighting, and yes,

392
00:19:01,373 --> 00:19:03,208
but I started as a school counselor,

393
00:19:03,208 --> 00:19:06,211
so I do have that in the school system
where,

394
00:19:06,979 --> 00:19:10,749
I was down in well,
I started my days as a substitute teacher

395
00:19:10,749 --> 00:19:14,553
in Greenwich and, but then I started
as a certified school counselor.

396
00:19:14,553 --> 00:19:15,621
And you, Kanan.

397
00:19:15,621 --> 00:19:18,624
And then I ended that part of my career
in Bethel.

398
00:19:18,657 --> 00:19:19,191
Nice.

399
00:19:19,191 --> 00:19:22,161
I spent some time in Stratford,
Bridgeport, Shelton.

400
00:19:22,161 --> 00:19:25,264
But my longest runs for New Canaan
and Bethel.

401
00:19:25,264 --> 00:19:26,131
And then I left.

402
00:19:26,131 --> 00:19:28,400
So I started my practice in 2011.

403
00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:30,836
So for seven years I did both full time.

404
00:19:30,836 --> 00:19:33,839
And then when I had my fourth child,
I have six kids.

405
00:19:33,839 --> 00:19:36,875
When I gave birth to my fourth,
I was like, maybe I should choose a job.

406
00:19:37,910 --> 00:19:39,878
And then all I did
was add another practice

407
00:19:39,878 --> 00:19:41,380
and another gig on the side of that.

408
00:19:41,380 --> 00:19:43,182
So I really just replaced that,

409
00:19:43,182 --> 00:19:45,751
which maybe financially
was not the best decision

410
00:19:45,751 --> 00:19:47,419
because I don't get
that school system retirement.

411
00:19:47,419 --> 00:19:49,021
But that's okay, right? Yeah.

412
00:19:49,021 --> 00:19:51,323
It's gonna be okay. It's gonna be great.
It's gonna be great.

413
00:19:51,323 --> 00:19:53,525
And my husband, today's Veteran's Day.

414
00:19:53,525 --> 00:19:55,928
I cannot spend today without honoring him.

415
00:19:55,928 --> 00:19:57,863
24 years in the Navy.

416
00:19:57,863 --> 00:20:00,666
So this addiction lens is very special

417
00:20:00,666 --> 00:20:04,836
to me as well,
because so many of our frontline service

418
00:20:04,836 --> 00:20:08,240
members are struggling
with this invisible battle at home.

419
00:20:09,041 --> 00:20:12,244
And that's really not talked
about enough in our, in our service.

420
00:20:12,844 --> 00:20:16,481
So I, I do tend to get
a lot of clients too,

421
00:20:16,515 --> 00:20:20,819
who are either active duty or retired
or retired veterans or veterans.

422
00:20:21,186 --> 00:20:22,821
Yeah, 24 years active duty.

423
00:20:22,821 --> 00:20:24,223
That's real deal. Yeah.

424
00:20:24,223 --> 00:20:25,791
I did eight years in the National Guard.

425
00:20:25,791 --> 00:20:27,926
That's like a Boy Scout compared to him.

426
00:20:30,596 --> 00:20:32,030
I won't say it came out of my mouth.

427
00:20:32,030 --> 00:20:35,033
Yeah, not to deal with the ego, but, Yeah.

428
00:20:35,567 --> 00:20:37,002
No, this is great.

429
00:20:37,002 --> 00:20:38,470
You guys form a wonderful team.

430
00:20:38,470 --> 00:20:40,405
It's like

431
00:20:40,405 --> 00:20:42,474
Voltron, and, I don't know, it's a bad.

432
00:20:42,474 --> 00:20:46,612
It's a
it was also a video game or a cartoon.

433
00:20:46,612 --> 00:20:49,748
They each had their strength
and they came together

434
00:20:50,115 --> 00:20:51,817
and they fit like a puzzle.

435
00:20:51,817 --> 00:20:53,819
And they worked like a wonderful team.

436
00:20:53,819 --> 00:20:55,954
So, I don't know, go out
and look out. Voltron.

437
00:20:55,954 --> 00:20:58,457
It was all same time
with Transformers, G.I.

438
00:20:58,457 --> 00:21:00,192
Joe, bull, Trump.

439
00:21:00,192 --> 00:21:05,631
I'm aging myself, but so but I love how
you guys all have your niche or

440
00:21:05,631 --> 00:21:10,335
your specialty and come together to form
this wonderful program of Soulful forest.

441
00:21:10,335 --> 00:21:12,304
And I think it's wonderful.

442
00:21:12,304 --> 00:21:16,541
You have ties to Southbury and Naugatuck
I wouldn't mind talking about.

443
00:21:16,541 --> 00:21:19,845
Right. Yeah. Very, soulful Southbury.

444
00:21:20,012 --> 00:21:24,149
And, somebody heard about Christine
and I in the soulful forest.

445
00:21:24,449 --> 00:21:28,020
It was the mayor of Naugatuck, and,
a young lady who owns,

446
00:21:28,553 --> 00:21:31,623
a non bar bar,
which is kind of up and coming right now

447
00:21:31,623 --> 00:21:34,159
where animals and stuff
instead of alcohol.

448
00:21:34,159 --> 00:21:37,162
And it's really becoming quite a thing
and which is which is good news.

449
00:21:37,329 --> 00:21:39,431
And she had heard that she and I had met.

450
00:21:39,431 --> 00:21:41,366
So she introduced me to the mayor.

451
00:21:41,366 --> 00:21:43,568
Her name's Bobby the awesome. It's 3 to 1.

452
00:21:43,568 --> 00:21:45,270
I have to say that. 3 to 1.

453
00:21:45,270 --> 00:21:45,771
No kidding.

454
00:21:45,771 --> 00:21:49,441
On Church Street
in, in Naugatuck and the mayor heard

455
00:21:49,441 --> 00:21:53,312
about the social
forest, and I said, it is,

456
00:21:54,613 --> 00:21:55,247
we could put

457
00:21:55,247 --> 00:21:59,284
together
a park that actually has all these things.

458
00:21:59,284 --> 00:22:02,421
It would be the first park
in all of Connecticut devoted

459
00:22:02,421 --> 00:22:05,691
to and, highlighting mental health.

460
00:22:05,824 --> 00:22:08,360
Because parks are about physical,

461
00:22:08,360 --> 00:22:10,329
there's going to be a gratitude garden.

462
00:22:10,329 --> 00:22:13,065
The youth center is working on that.

463
00:22:13,065 --> 00:22:15,367
The garden club is doing the field
of forgiveness.

464
00:22:15,367 --> 00:22:18,637
The Exchange Club
and the Rotary Club are getting together

465
00:22:18,770 --> 00:22:20,739
to create a Seven Seas ship.

466
00:22:20,739 --> 00:22:24,209
So we're going to we're going to have
an actual part of it devoted to the seven.

467
00:22:24,543 --> 00:22:25,711
That's great.

468
00:22:25,711 --> 00:22:26,578
You know, seven cities.

469
00:22:26,578 --> 00:22:30,882
And so so I was I was tracking I like it.

470
00:22:30,949 --> 00:22:34,753
And so it's a unity
and community project.

471
00:22:34,886 --> 00:22:35,187
Yeah.

472
00:22:35,187 --> 00:22:38,824
That's what happens when three women
get together and say, yes,

473
00:22:39,057 --> 00:22:41,360
how may I be of service
and how may I help?

474
00:22:41,360 --> 00:22:44,062
Then things and people and places
just come at you.

475
00:22:44,062 --> 00:22:44,796
And I have to tell you,

476
00:22:44,796 --> 00:22:47,999
you're a really good therapist
because we're working on this.

477
00:22:48,533 --> 00:22:50,669
We were working on the activities
and stuff.

478
00:22:50,669 --> 00:22:53,071
I start talking
her, I start crying, and it's just

479
00:22:54,139 --> 00:22:55,207
it's not your personality.

480
00:22:55,207 --> 00:22:58,510
I'm just saying you just face
that makes people cry.

481
00:22:58,977 --> 00:23:01,113
Yeah, your face makes a lot of people cry.

482
00:23:01,113 --> 00:23:02,948
Okay? That's one of my kids.

483
00:23:02,948 --> 00:23:05,550
Yeah. My teenage safe space.

484
00:23:05,550 --> 00:23:07,919
Yeah. It is. Yeah, yeah.

485
00:23:07,919 --> 00:23:09,254
You're locked in.

486
00:23:09,254 --> 00:23:10,355
Yeah, very locked in.

487
00:23:10,355 --> 00:23:11,156
And it's interesting

488
00:23:11,156 --> 00:23:14,393
because I was, you know,
if I'm interrupted in a session, I'm like.

489
00:23:14,393 --> 00:23:17,662
So I become dysregulated because I'm
so locked into what someone say.

490
00:23:17,696 --> 00:23:19,297
They're sharing your story.

491
00:23:19,297 --> 00:23:20,432
This is heavy stuff.

492
00:23:20,432 --> 00:23:22,401
Like any of these kids
that are sitting in a classroom.

493
00:23:22,401 --> 00:23:23,702
I remember being in the school system,

494
00:23:23,702 --> 00:23:26,204
and I'm finding this
I remember being in the school system

495
00:23:26,204 --> 00:23:31,643
and we would have, you know, outside
people come in and talk and that's I okay.

496
00:23:31,643 --> 00:23:35,147
That's another so, okay, so
after you retire, because I don't want to

497
00:23:35,414 --> 00:23:37,115
deal with any kind of like,
you know, whatever.

498
00:23:37,115 --> 00:23:39,584
But but we would have
people come in, which is great.

499
00:23:39,584 --> 00:23:41,420
But then it got to a point
where they're like, oh,

500
00:23:41,420 --> 00:23:42,320
we don't want to have anyone come in,

501
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:45,557
because what if a kid raises their hand
and makes a disclosure like,

502
00:23:46,625 --> 00:23:49,628
I'm not sure I understand the problem
here, but okay.

503
00:23:49,828 --> 00:23:53,632
So it's it's like, of course this is going
to make someone say something.

504
00:23:53,632 --> 00:23:56,868
And if you talk to 400 kids and two kids,

505
00:23:56,868 --> 00:24:00,005
raise their hand,
have only done what we're supposed to do.

506
00:24:00,505 --> 00:24:04,009
So that's how I feel
if I make one person a cry day, okay,

507
00:24:04,109 --> 00:24:06,044
like I'm doing all right. I'm all right.

508
00:24:06,044 --> 00:24:09,414
I like that
math works out on a very safe space.

509
00:24:09,414 --> 00:24:11,683
Thank. I think that's one.

510
00:24:11,683 --> 00:24:14,019
Yeah. Whoever your counsel.

511
00:24:14,019 --> 00:24:15,487
These are great.

512
00:24:15,487 --> 00:24:15,854
Thank you.

513
00:24:15,854 --> 00:24:17,055
And I think ultimately,

514
00:24:17,055 --> 00:24:20,459
my dream and I think a shared dream
is that this whole forest

515
00:24:20,625 --> 00:24:24,930
park becomes some sort of,
you know, as many towns in the country,

516
00:24:25,997 --> 00:24:29,034
to, to be able to put a park

517
00:24:29,367 --> 00:24:33,138
that actually will have a pavilion
where we'll have, do you know, programing

518
00:24:33,138 --> 00:24:36,341
for not only the children,
but for also caregivers and teachers,

519
00:24:36,341 --> 00:24:38,910
which I think, once again,
that's my big passion,

520
00:24:38,910 --> 00:24:41,580
is to support the
adults around the children.

521
00:24:42,547 --> 00:24:44,316
It's just really, really exciting.

522
00:24:44,316 --> 00:24:48,453
And, we have a Trust the Wind Trail,
which is based on David Song

523
00:24:48,453 --> 00:24:49,688
Trust the Wind.

524
00:24:49,688 --> 00:24:52,090
And, that will go around through the park.

525
00:24:52,090 --> 00:24:55,427
And so and there'll be QR codes with music
all over

526
00:24:55,427 --> 00:24:58,430
benches for reflection. And,

527
00:24:58,897 --> 00:25:01,233
we have an incredible,

528
00:25:01,233 --> 00:25:04,169
architect
who's going to be designing it, Artemus.

529
00:25:04,169 --> 00:25:05,103
Architects.

530
00:25:05,103 --> 00:25:07,939
So excited to hop on board.

531
00:25:07,939 --> 00:25:09,608
She actually designed these.

532
00:25:09,608 --> 00:25:11,810
Ended up memorial.

533
00:25:11,810 --> 00:25:16,381
And, yeah, just really excited
to just take this idea and this dream,

534
00:25:16,381 --> 00:25:20,418
the virus and and build it in
as many towns as we can because I think,

535
00:25:21,052 --> 00:25:23,755
you know, mental health is is just

536
00:25:23,755 --> 00:25:26,758
such a we're in a crisis.

537
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:31,329
And, this to me is a park
that is needed now more than ever.

538
00:25:32,030 --> 00:25:34,733
These are some of the messages
that are going to be throughout the park.

539
00:25:34,733 --> 00:25:38,403
I love in sweetheart Wisdom
because it's a group effort, because birds

540
00:25:38,403 --> 00:25:41,072
are just I think they're very symbolic
for so many different things.

541
00:25:41,072 --> 00:25:45,076
But one of them is every day might not be
good, but there's good in every day.

542
00:25:45,410 --> 00:25:47,112
Love. Accepting. Forgive.

543
00:25:47,112 --> 00:25:48,179
This is one of my favorite.

544
00:25:48,179 --> 00:25:50,715
It's safe
to reveal what I used to conceal.

545
00:25:51,716 --> 00:25:54,719
I am going
to do whatever is good for my soul.

546
00:25:54,753 --> 00:25:56,521
I can communicate my feelings.

547
00:25:56,521 --> 00:25:58,356
I can celebrate myself.

548
00:25:58,356 --> 00:26:00,292
I can make healthy choices.

549
00:26:00,292 --> 00:26:01,927
I'm going to be in every moment.

550
00:26:01,927 --> 00:26:04,796
And and I have a right to be safe
in this one.

551
00:26:04,796 --> 00:26:05,463
I love this.

552
00:26:05,463 --> 00:26:08,700
It's not bad to be sad,
which is a sign of David's

553
00:26:10,702 --> 00:26:11,002
love.

554
00:26:11,002 --> 00:26:14,940
It should go to Healing chickadee.com
and go to the Twitter page

555
00:26:14,940 --> 00:26:19,311
because you will hear all of the songs in
there is life is one of my favorites.

556
00:26:19,644 --> 00:26:21,713
I have a lot of favorites.

557
00:26:21,713 --> 00:26:23,982
Tell me the other songs
because I'm on my way.

558
00:26:23,982 --> 00:26:25,850
Come on. Can you give us a little note?

559
00:26:25,850 --> 00:26:27,886
Can you give us a little something?
Are you warmed up?

560
00:26:27,886 --> 00:26:28,587
Can you give us a

561
00:26:30,155 --> 00:26:30,422
help?

562
00:26:30,422 --> 00:26:31,256
Is on the way.

563
00:26:31,256 --> 00:26:34,426
Gibson is on the way

564
00:26:34,659 --> 00:26:39,064
from places you don't know about today.

565
00:26:39,464 --> 00:26:42,934
From friends you may not have met yet.

566
00:26:43,335 --> 00:26:46,671
Believe me when I say I know

567
00:26:47,339 --> 00:26:49,975
help is on the way.

568
00:26:49,975 --> 00:26:52,978
Oh, beautiful.

569
00:26:53,211 --> 00:26:55,814
I saw that you had a song
about being kind, right?

570
00:26:55,814 --> 00:26:57,849
Is it being or the book being kind or.

571
00:26:57,849 --> 00:26:59,551
So David and I wrote a book.

572
00:26:59,551 --> 00:27:01,686
David is, by the way, a brilliant writer.

573
00:27:01,686 --> 00:27:05,357
He's not really brilliant songwriter,
but I was I approached David

574
00:27:06,791 --> 00:27:07,292
Gilbert.

575
00:27:07,292 --> 00:27:09,661
David's on the podcast fourth Guest.

576
00:27:09,661 --> 00:27:12,664
Sorry if I approached Dave like

577
00:27:13,632 --> 00:27:16,201
a children's book based on his song
We Can Be Kind.

578
00:27:16,201 --> 00:27:17,602
And he said, yeah. And I was like, okay.

579
00:27:17,602 --> 00:27:19,604
As I get to his house,
it literally took him like,

580
00:27:19,604 --> 00:27:22,674
I think it took us an hour
and he wrote it in poem style.

581
00:27:22,674 --> 00:27:24,242
He's like brilliant.

582
00:27:24,242 --> 00:27:27,646
So yeah, we were we created
a, a picture book called

583
00:27:27,646 --> 00:27:30,649
We Can Be Kind and features
the characters from Christina's cottage,

584
00:27:30,849 --> 00:27:34,319
and it has QR codes in here,
and it goes to the song we can be Kind

585
00:27:34,819 --> 00:27:40,258
and the dog buddy is actually inspired
by my family dog, Buddy Connors.

586
00:27:40,825 --> 00:27:46,264
And, Yeah, and these little seven little
love bugs and, yeah, it's it's exciting.

587
00:27:46,264 --> 00:27:50,001
It's so it's like a multi-sensory book
and, Yeah.

588
00:27:50,301 --> 00:27:53,104
And each. Yeah, there's Tootie or Rudy.

589
00:27:53,104 --> 00:27:54,072
They're characters names.

590
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,442
That's,

591
00:27:57,442 --> 00:27:58,910
Yeah.

592
00:27:58,910 --> 00:28:01,379
Okay, so we have the red bug name.

593
00:28:01,379 --> 00:28:01,946
Rudy.

594
00:28:01,946 --> 00:28:06,017
Rudy, and then valor,
and then a mora's the green one,

595
00:28:06,351 --> 00:28:10,321
and then Chad is the blue, and then sage
and then spark

596
00:28:10,321 --> 00:28:14,993
and those of, those of you who do yoga,
they're actually inspired by the chakras.

597
00:28:15,593 --> 00:28:19,464
So rubies, root chakra
bug and enjoy is the creative bug.

598
00:28:19,464 --> 00:28:21,733
And then valor is the solar plexus.

599
00:28:21,733 --> 00:28:24,736
And then a more is the green heart
chakra bug

600
00:28:25,170 --> 00:28:26,237
chakra.

601
00:28:26,237 --> 00:28:29,240
And then sage is the third eye,
which is wisdom.

602
00:28:29,374 --> 00:28:33,378
And then spark is just, you know,
we are all of, you know, world.

603
00:28:33,478 --> 00:28:37,082
We are all individual
sparks of the divine, which I believe.

604
00:28:37,082 --> 00:28:38,516
And that's so cool.

605
00:28:38,516 --> 00:28:42,320
Remember that I think, like I have a read
aloud for tomorrow right at school.

606
00:28:42,620 --> 00:28:44,956
And then maybe later
you'll sign it for it.

607
00:28:44,956 --> 00:28:46,324
All right.

608
00:28:46,324 --> 00:28:47,392
Autographed copy.

609
00:28:47,392 --> 00:28:48,860
This is beautiful, Christine.

610
00:28:48,860 --> 00:28:50,795
And the love bugs and buddy, too.

611
00:28:50,795 --> 00:28:51,963
We can be kind.

612
00:28:51,963 --> 00:28:54,199
So how do we get a be a good friend song?

613
00:28:54,199 --> 00:28:55,433
Can we get a be a good friend song?

614
00:28:57,202 --> 00:28:59,237
So we
can we could probably make that happen.

615
00:28:59,237 --> 00:29:00,805
So our models be a good friend,

616
00:29:00,805 --> 00:29:04,609
you know, hold the door, pick up trash,
give compliments, be charitable.

617
00:29:04,776 --> 00:29:06,911
I want to thank you guys
all for being a good friend today.

618
00:29:06,911 --> 00:29:09,481
These are stickers. Thank you.

619
00:29:09,481 --> 00:29:11,483
Yeah.

620
00:29:11,483 --> 00:29:15,253
So, friends of Feeny,
our mission again is to help children

621
00:29:15,253 --> 00:29:17,622
and families that need assistance
after heartbreak or tragedy.

622
00:29:17,622 --> 00:29:21,292
We've just helped our 127th family
and provided over

623
00:29:21,292 --> 00:29:25,263
$265,000 to families that have heartbreak
or tragedy.

624
00:29:25,663 --> 00:29:29,234
Cancer, house fires, car accidents,
you name it.

625
00:29:29,901 --> 00:29:33,238
So all volunteer
based, community based organization

626
00:29:33,538 --> 00:29:37,575
and just love making connections
with wonderful friends like you.

627
00:29:37,575 --> 00:29:40,912
So now what makes we're going

628
00:29:40,912 --> 00:29:44,649
to go around the room in unit share
what makes you know Christine.

629
00:29:44,649 --> 00:29:47,418
You'll tell what makes Teri a good friend.

630
00:29:47,418 --> 00:29:49,254
Teri Tarot a good friend.

631
00:29:49,254 --> 00:29:50,688
Tara Christine a good friend.

632
00:29:50,688 --> 00:29:53,591
So it's like a morning meeting?
Yes. Morning meeting.

633
00:29:53,591 --> 00:29:54,859
We're going to hold hands while we do it.

634
00:29:57,862 --> 00:30:00,064
Okay.

635
00:30:00,064 --> 00:30:02,300
Who wants to go first?

636
00:30:02,300 --> 00:30:05,303
Tell you.

637
00:30:06,604 --> 00:30:07,071
Christina

638
00:30:07,071 --> 00:30:11,242
Connors is a great friend of mine
to one of the wonderful things

639
00:30:11,242 --> 00:30:15,747
that she's taught me
is that it's you're so non-judgmental.

640
00:30:15,947 --> 00:30:18,950
You are just so open and receptive and

641
00:30:19,984 --> 00:30:23,321
so free with whatever crazy ideas
we come up with.

642
00:30:24,022 --> 00:30:27,025
You never shut.

643
00:30:27,125 --> 00:30:30,128
And then to that I think that you are

644
00:30:31,162 --> 00:30:32,297
loving person.

645
00:30:32,297 --> 00:30:36,134
And everything I love the most about you
is what we just talked about.

646
00:30:36,167 --> 00:30:39,938
But if I was that you're just so safe
and, and I just trust you.

647
00:30:40,171 --> 00:30:43,741
I mean, you have that energy of trust,
and you were so generous

648
00:30:43,942 --> 00:30:46,277
with your time, like,
you're a big deal, right?

649
00:30:46,277 --> 00:30:48,847
You do have all these businesses
and stuff, so you the big deal.

650
00:30:48,847 --> 00:30:50,481
And you always took the time with me

651
00:30:51,716 --> 00:30:54,719
to make.

652
00:30:55,153 --> 00:30:56,721
So I can say,

653
00:30:56,721 --> 00:31:00,258
since Tara and I just met,
I can say you have a beautiful smile.

654
00:31:00,391 --> 00:31:01,626
Thank you. I'll say that.

655
00:31:01,626 --> 00:31:05,763
As far as Terry being a good friend,
Terry

656
00:31:07,432 --> 00:31:09,133
makes me laugh.

657
00:31:09,133 --> 00:31:10,368
Thanks.

658
00:31:10,368 --> 00:31:12,003
She said she's hysterical.

659
00:31:12,003 --> 00:31:16,641
And, I think said,
what makes you a good friend is when you.

660
00:31:16,674 --> 00:31:19,577
When I need you, you're always there.

661
00:31:19,577 --> 00:31:23,514
So if I call or text and say I need to
talk, I mean, you're right there.

662
00:31:23,514 --> 00:31:26,951
And I think that's so important
for all of us to have,

663
00:31:27,986 --> 00:31:30,154
a partner of safety and trust,

664
00:31:30,154 --> 00:31:34,459
whether it's a pod or a friend
or someone to call when we're struggling.

665
00:31:34,459 --> 00:31:35,693
I think that's key.

666
00:31:35,693 --> 00:31:38,696
So thank you for that.

667
00:31:39,864 --> 00:31:40,665
Time is my love

668
00:31:40,665 --> 00:31:43,768
language,
and it's what I like to give and receive.

669
00:31:43,768 --> 00:31:46,604
Everything else, really.
I mean, stickers are cool, I love that.

670
00:31:46,604 --> 00:31:49,374
Okay, cool. If I can try.
Yeah. Okay. Deal.

671
00:31:49,374 --> 00:31:50,942
Knock off Yeti. But it's going
go on there.

672
00:31:50,942 --> 00:31:55,046
So I think your compassion for others,

673
00:31:55,046 --> 00:31:56,948
but also you're passionate
about what you do.

674
00:31:56,948 --> 00:31:58,449
So I really like to be friends with people

675
00:31:58,449 --> 00:32:00,952
that understand the importance of energy.

676
00:32:00,952 --> 00:32:03,221
I really believe energy transforms.

677
00:32:03,221 --> 00:32:06,591
I think a guy named Einstein came up
with that idea, but I just transfer.

678
00:32:06,591 --> 00:32:08,459
It's not transforms.
I'm sorry, just transfers.

679
00:32:08,459 --> 00:32:11,062
And so I feed off
of other people's energy.

680
00:32:11,062 --> 00:32:13,731
And I really like that about you.
And I like being around you.

681
00:32:13,731 --> 00:32:18,436
And, I know we were working together
on a, magazine article,

682
00:32:18,436 --> 00:32:19,470
so it was really cool, like,

683
00:32:19,470 --> 00:32:23,675
just throwing ideas back and forth, like
someone that I can be vulnerable with.

684
00:32:23,875 --> 00:32:25,176
I can feel that,

685
00:32:25,176 --> 00:32:29,514
and I think vulnerability is something
that anyone that's picking this up

686
00:32:29,814 --> 00:32:34,886
needs a little more help
with or support around.

687
00:32:34,886 --> 00:32:38,756
So I like that I can share space with
other people that are vulnerable as well.

688
00:32:39,891 --> 00:32:41,492
It's really important to me.

689
00:32:41,492 --> 00:32:43,861
Well, thank you for sharing.
Being a good friend.

690
00:32:43,861 --> 00:32:46,864
You know, you serve,
hey, you'll make a good friend.

691
00:32:47,165 --> 00:32:50,268
Thanks for you to. Yes.

692
00:32:50,802 --> 00:32:52,070
Soulful forest teller.

693
00:32:52,070 --> 00:32:54,272
And she's,

694
00:32:54,272 --> 00:32:54,806
I like it.

695
00:32:54,806 --> 00:32:55,740
Thank you.

696
00:32:55,740 --> 00:32:57,442
Gifts

697
00:32:57,442 --> 00:32:59,510
to for the kids.

698
00:32:59,510 --> 00:33:01,813
Thank you. This is great.

699
00:33:01,813 --> 00:33:03,181
Of course.

700
00:33:03,181 --> 00:33:05,049
Say whatever you want.

701
00:33:05,049 --> 00:33:07,685
I've only got phase one in my notes, but.

702
00:33:07,685 --> 00:33:09,354
So you know what's really cool about this?

703
00:33:09,354 --> 00:33:10,855
I was just thinking,
as we're sitting here,

704
00:33:10,855 --> 00:33:14,258
is that the clients that I have come in
and the families that I work with

705
00:33:14,258 --> 00:33:18,196
and the people I, my colleagues
across the country who are just phenomenal

706
00:33:18,229 --> 00:33:19,731
at this work,
what we talk about all the time

707
00:33:19,731 --> 00:33:23,901
is how any, any type of addiction
is an intimacy disorder, right?

708
00:33:23,901 --> 00:33:28,239
And so it's the inability for others
to connect really on an intimate level,

709
00:33:28,239 --> 00:33:34,178
all different types of intimacy
and how how amazing to be able

710
00:33:34,178 --> 00:33:37,181
to pick this up
or to go to this place in honkytonk

711
00:33:37,315 --> 00:33:40,184
and not have the pressure
of we're sitting in front of a therapist

712
00:33:40,184 --> 00:33:42,320
and we have to talk about everything
that's going on.

713
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:46,090
The language is there, the ability
to connect using our inner

714
00:33:46,090 --> 00:33:50,461
child, our playful child,
like it's all there in a very,

715
00:33:51,896 --> 00:33:52,897
not intimidating.

716
00:33:52,897 --> 00:33:56,000
Why is that word
not intimidating? I'm not.

717
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,403
You don't intimidate.
So it's not intimidating. Yeah, right.

718
00:33:58,403 --> 00:34:01,105
So it's not intimidating,
but it still gets the message.

719
00:34:01,105 --> 00:34:02,507
And so that's point across.

720
00:34:02,507 --> 00:34:05,510
Because all of what I work
with are people who really struggle

721
00:34:05,510 --> 00:34:08,579
to connect and to form
an internet connection with people.

722
00:34:08,846 --> 00:34:11,149
And so this is amazing.

723
00:34:11,149 --> 00:34:15,620
I mean, how can you be how can you stay
mad if you're in the gratitude garden?

724
00:34:16,487 --> 00:34:20,091
And what we know about nature is what you
and I connect it over is just being able

725
00:34:20,091 --> 00:34:23,061
to connect with a higher power,
something bigger than you.

726
00:34:23,461 --> 00:34:25,763
You know, we talk about a lot
that we talk about this

727
00:34:25,763 --> 00:34:28,766
a lot in my world of this
need to connect with a higher power.

728
00:34:29,133 --> 00:34:30,334
And for some people, that's God.

729
00:34:30,334 --> 00:34:33,805
For some people, it's Buddhism
for for some people, me, it's nature.

730
00:34:33,805 --> 00:34:35,740
Like that's
where I like to connect with that.

731
00:34:35,740 --> 00:34:40,011
And you're offering it
mother nature, Mother Nature, nurture.

732
00:34:40,144 --> 00:34:41,446
And in both of these programs

733
00:34:41,446 --> 00:34:44,449
and all of the programs
we teach us on real life, first,

734
00:34:44,582 --> 00:34:48,920
because what I would have loved,
what the reason the healing came about, is

735
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,722
when I was ten years
old, my 16 year old brother died suddenly,

736
00:34:51,722 --> 00:34:54,125
and it's through our family
and absolute chaos.

737
00:34:54,125 --> 00:34:58,029
And, what I needed
at that time, I wanted at

738
00:34:58,029 --> 00:35:00,798
that time was all in the healing program.

739
00:35:00,798 --> 00:35:04,102
But I would have given anything
to have an adult just walk around

740
00:35:04,102 --> 00:35:07,105
outside of whether we found the birds
or not.

741
00:35:07,305 --> 00:35:10,975
It's about spending that time outside
with the trusted adult.

742
00:35:11,542 --> 00:35:14,979
And that's where you're going
to get a child who's talking and telling

743
00:35:14,979 --> 00:35:18,382
you stuff when you're not staring at them,
when you're just walking along,

744
00:35:18,816 --> 00:35:19,617
looking at trees.

745
00:35:19,617 --> 00:35:22,220
It's one the connection for me
there, Terry, is.

746
00:35:22,220 --> 00:35:24,856
So you're talking about grief
after the death of someone.

747
00:35:24,856 --> 00:35:27,859
So in my world of betrayal trauma,
big teen trauma,

748
00:35:27,892 --> 00:35:30,094
you talk about disenfranchized grief,

749
00:35:30,094 --> 00:35:33,164
so you're grieving the loss of something
that's still there, or.

750
00:35:33,231 --> 00:35:35,833
But you're trying to rework that,
trying to figure it all out.

751
00:35:35,833 --> 00:35:37,268
So grieve that.

752
00:35:37,268 --> 00:35:40,938
It's like those two people experiencing
the grief of someone who died,

753
00:35:40,938 --> 00:35:44,008
and the grief of betrayal
in a family system like this family

754
00:35:44,008 --> 00:35:49,280
attachment wound, that that substance
misuse causes that grief is there.

755
00:35:49,413 --> 00:35:52,016
And so to have someone be able
to connect with you on that

756
00:35:53,451 --> 00:35:56,454
so powerful.

757
00:35:57,155 --> 00:35:59,924
Where is the
exact location of the park in Naugatuck?

758
00:35:59,924 --> 00:36:02,894
Because I'm familiar with Naugatuck,
65 acres.

759
00:36:02,894 --> 00:36:05,897
It's up on the top of, Where?

760
00:36:07,331 --> 00:36:11,435
They're getting ready to dig
the access road and get this thing going.

761
00:36:11,502 --> 00:36:14,472
It's actually called the

762
00:36:14,672 --> 00:36:18,376
YMCA Camp and Family Center.

763
00:36:18,376 --> 00:36:22,513
And then a portion of it is going to be
devoted to the mental health.

764
00:36:22,914 --> 00:36:23,314
Hello.

765
00:36:23,314 --> 00:36:25,216
And one of the things
that's going to be there, which is very

766
00:36:25,216 --> 00:36:28,786
exciting, is a lot of resources
are going to be placed throughout

767
00:36:28,786 --> 00:36:31,656
so that kids
that are having suicidal ideation

768
00:36:31,656 --> 00:36:31,989
and that

769
00:36:31,989 --> 00:36:36,093
there's going to be resources listed
because we want to take the stigma out of

770
00:36:36,127 --> 00:36:38,229
we want to take the stigma out of this
and provide it.

771
00:36:38,229 --> 00:36:43,201
And and I think the mayor said it
best, Pete, has he said, we're going

772
00:36:43,201 --> 00:36:47,338
to show kids and families how important
their mental health is to us.

773
00:36:47,572 --> 00:36:51,209
We're going to put time, effort, energy,
money, resources into this.

774
00:36:51,209 --> 00:36:53,711
And and we're going to make it a safe
place for them.

775
00:36:53,711 --> 00:36:57,081
So I'm really grateful that doing that.

776
00:36:57,081 --> 00:37:00,418
And then the gentleman that's in charge of
the YMCA, his name is Mark.

777
00:37:02,453 --> 00:37:04,322
Right.

778
00:37:04,322 --> 00:37:04,989
He's wonderful.

779
00:37:04,989 --> 00:37:07,458
So he's he's
very much behind this as well.

780
00:37:07,458 --> 00:37:10,661
And that just shows you when you throw
things out there in the universe.

781
00:37:10,828 --> 00:37:12,230
Yeah.

782
00:37:12,230 --> 00:37:14,732
Interesting things happen to me right now.

783
00:37:14,732 --> 00:37:16,734
Yeah, well, she's going to write
a be a Good friend song.

784
00:37:16,734 --> 00:37:20,238
Can we get like a friends buddy
bench in there somehow?

785
00:37:20,238 --> 00:37:24,041
We'll, you know, one of the things we're
going to be doing is they're even sponsor.

786
00:37:24,442 --> 00:37:28,179
Hey, we're in it
near the Seven Seas where, you know,

787
00:37:28,179 --> 00:37:31,182
for for children that are living in homes
with substance misuse.

788
00:37:31,349 --> 00:37:33,684
Yeah. Absolutely. Awesome.
I'll get a check from.

789
00:37:33,684 --> 00:37:35,219
All right.

790
00:37:35,219 --> 00:37:35,620
Right.

791
00:37:35,620 --> 00:37:38,256
I mean, just, you know, that's great.

792
00:37:38,256 --> 00:37:39,824
Naugatuck is great.
Near and dear to my heart.

793
00:37:39,824 --> 00:37:41,325
My parents are from there.

794
00:37:41,325 --> 00:37:44,028
Great Memorial Day parade and great

795
00:37:44,028 --> 00:37:47,164
fireworks at the,
the high school for 4th of July.

796
00:37:47,164 --> 00:37:48,332
So good stuff over there.

797
00:37:48,332 --> 00:37:52,470
And Naugatuck and Naugatuck and it is
it's a it's a really heart and soul.

798
00:37:52,670 --> 00:37:54,338
The mayor said to me,
because I want to make it

799
00:37:54,338 --> 00:37:56,207
so that we're a destination
instead of a place.

800
00:37:56,207 --> 00:38:00,578
You drive by on route eight, you know,
I mean, you just have to stop in

801
00:38:00,611 --> 00:38:01,679
and see what's going on.

802
00:38:01,679 --> 00:38:04,282
So there's a
there's all of them redoing the downtown.

803
00:38:04,282 --> 00:38:05,082
It's going to be bricks.

804
00:38:05,082 --> 00:38:06,951
It's going to be really nice.

805
00:38:08,152 --> 00:38:09,120
Well congratulations.

806
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:10,054
That's amazing.

807
00:38:10,054 --> 00:38:13,057
I'm from Waterbury,
but I live in West Hartford now.

808
00:38:13,557 --> 00:38:17,662
But Naugatuck, great place
near, near and dear to your heart.

809
00:38:18,229 --> 00:38:20,698
Oh. So let me just shout out
some sponsors.

810
00:38:20,698 --> 00:38:23,000
We're here at Sally and Bob's on North
Main Street.

811
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:23,901
Wonderful place.

812
00:38:23,901 --> 00:38:26,337
Helen was so nice to host us.

813
00:38:26,337 --> 00:38:28,606
Wonderful breakfast, lunch.

814
00:38:28,606 --> 00:38:31,642
So if you want to come back and try it,
I would highly suggest it.

815
00:38:31,976 --> 00:38:34,979
I didn't think we had time for,

816
00:38:35,046 --> 00:38:37,815
taste test, because we have so much
important stuff to talk about.

817
00:38:37,815 --> 00:38:40,718
But, next time, you guys,
come on, we'll have food.

818
00:38:40,718 --> 00:38:42,887
And they're on a podcast, too.

819
00:38:42,887 --> 00:38:44,488
Prior podcast.

820
00:38:44,488 --> 00:38:48,059
So Sally and Bob's Brook Golf Lore group,

821
00:38:48,392 --> 00:38:51,429
the fix IV,

822
00:38:51,429 --> 00:38:54,665
float,
41 Luna Pete's, Parkville Management,

823
00:38:56,033 --> 00:39:00,705
people's
Bank and New England Dawn security.

824
00:39:00,705 --> 00:39:03,240
So New England dawn security.

825
00:39:03,240 --> 00:39:06,577
Here's where I'm going with this
with New England dawn security.

826
00:39:06,577 --> 00:39:10,281
What are three keys
that make this a great nonprofit?

827
00:39:10,848 --> 00:39:13,851
Three keys for soulful forest
that make you guys.

828
00:39:14,118 --> 00:39:16,253
What are you guys doing? That's great.
What do you guys do?

829
00:39:16,253 --> 00:39:18,189
That's. That makes it work.

830
00:39:18,189 --> 00:39:21,192
Can, I guess, go ahead.

831
00:39:21,192 --> 00:39:24,195
Teamwork and collaboration.

832
00:39:24,895 --> 00:39:27,064
Passion

833
00:39:27,064 --> 00:39:28,866
and like, love for what you do.

834
00:39:28,866 --> 00:39:31,335
Passion
and love for what you do. Teamwork.

835
00:39:31,335 --> 00:39:33,804
I've never guessed before.
This is the first time.

836
00:39:33,804 --> 00:39:38,242
And like energy

837
00:39:38,242 --> 00:39:41,245
and like motivation, you're like,

838
00:39:42,113 --> 00:39:46,050
you have a goal
and you're like very mission oriented.

839
00:39:46,050 --> 00:39:46,784
And you guys want

840
00:39:46,784 --> 00:39:50,087
you see what you see down the road
and you're working hard to get there.

841
00:39:50,654 --> 00:39:51,789
So stubborn.

842
00:39:51,789 --> 00:39:54,091
I like that one nice way to say it.

843
00:39:54,091 --> 00:39:56,427
Yeah. Coffee maker.

844
00:39:56,427 --> 00:39:57,728
Afraid to make mistakes.

845
00:39:57,728 --> 00:40:01,665
Oh, I've never been the founder
and chief enthusiast for a nonprofit

846
00:40:01,665 --> 00:40:04,735
before, so I'm actually, by trade,
a nuclear medicine technologist.

847
00:40:04,735 --> 00:40:07,671
So I inject people
with other sources of radiation.

848
00:40:07,671 --> 00:40:10,541
And you can see how that just parlays,
right?

849
00:40:10,541 --> 00:40:11,375
Yeah.

850
00:40:11,375 --> 00:40:11,776
It works.

851
00:40:11,776 --> 00:40:12,877
Right. For sure.

852
00:40:12,877 --> 00:40:14,812
So so I'm sort of I'm 65 now.

853
00:40:14,812 --> 00:40:15,913
I'm sort of semi-retired.

854
00:40:15,913 --> 00:40:20,618
So I just work one day a week and then I
then I do this, the rest of the time

855
00:40:20,618 --> 00:40:23,921
and I have I look back and go,
oh, that was the wrong way to go.

856
00:40:23,921 --> 00:40:25,856
Oh that was, you know, we just did. Right.

857
00:40:25,856 --> 00:40:26,657
Because we've been doing this

858
00:40:26,657 --> 00:40:30,361
for a long time
and we're like, oh, everything that we do.

859
00:40:31,095 --> 00:40:33,364
There was a reason
why we ended up doing that

860
00:40:33,364 --> 00:40:36,000
because we learned something that
we needed, you know, later down the road.

861
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:40,070
And I think one of the things I love about
you most is we trust the journey.

862
00:40:40,371 --> 00:40:44,408
We don't go, you know, like we don't, you
know, lament things that we didn't like.

863
00:40:44,408 --> 00:40:46,577
Okay. Well, what
what do we need to learn from that?

864
00:40:46,577 --> 00:40:49,580
So you and I spend a lot of time
at the reflecting of, well,

865
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,348
we don't get on the road.

866
00:40:51,348 --> 00:40:54,852
We took, trust in trail all the way. Yes.

867
00:40:54,852 --> 00:40:57,721
And and that's really
what the song is about.

868
00:40:57,721 --> 00:41:00,724
It's about trusting your path,
you know, trusting

869
00:41:01,358 --> 00:41:05,729
life flowing through you and for you,
and accepting

870
00:41:05,729 --> 00:41:08,766
everything that comes as a gift,
as an opportunity to learn, to grow.

871
00:41:09,667 --> 00:41:13,070
And that's if you can interpret life
and situations that way.

872
00:41:13,070 --> 00:41:18,509
I feel like you can grow and expand and
not get too marked down into, you know,

873
00:41:19,844 --> 00:41:22,613
so many hardships, so

874
00:41:22,613 --> 00:41:23,414
nice.

875
00:41:23,414 --> 00:41:26,851
And I got a question like,
how do you fundraise?

876
00:41:26,851 --> 00:41:30,287
I heard grants
you guys just recently received a grant.

877
00:41:30,354 --> 00:41:33,357
If you want to talk about that.

878
00:41:34,291 --> 00:41:35,059
Fundraiser.

879
00:41:35,059 --> 00:41:36,961
And the gentleman that he said during

880
00:41:36,961 --> 00:41:39,230
these are fundraisers,
he goes because the amount of time,

881
00:41:39,230 --> 00:41:42,233
effort, energy and money
you put into this, you you end up making

882
00:41:43,534 --> 00:41:45,336
things beer with brews.

883
00:41:45,336 --> 00:41:49,640
And it was it was I guess I like,
oh yeah, big cardboard cutouts of Harry

884
00:41:49,907 --> 00:41:50,407
and Prince

885
00:41:50,407 --> 00:41:54,311
Harry and Prince William and their wives,
and you could have your picture taken.

886
00:41:54,311 --> 00:41:57,581
And it was at this brewer and I was
I got it, but I ended up spending

887
00:41:57,581 --> 00:42:02,152
so much money, you know, and then now I'm
stuck with the entire royal family, and,

888
00:42:04,655 --> 00:42:06,423
and they always say we are.

889
00:42:06,423 --> 00:42:07,558
No, no, no, we're not going to do that.

890
00:42:07,558 --> 00:42:12,263
So the way that we are funded
is through donations and grants, and I

891
00:42:12,296 --> 00:42:16,100
this is the one thing I have learned is
how to write a grant, how to put it forth.

892
00:42:16,100 --> 00:42:19,770
And in fact, the William Pettit
founders, the family Foundation. Yep.

893
00:42:19,904 --> 00:42:21,105
Gave us a grant today.

894
00:42:21,105 --> 00:42:24,909
And, that we're just so grateful
to be aligned with them.

895
00:42:24,909 --> 00:42:30,180
And so the hill is going to go out
to, children in, for example, parents

896
00:42:31,215 --> 00:42:33,117
and some of their children,

897
00:42:33,117 --> 00:42:37,054
and some of the other organizations
that I can't think of right now,

898
00:42:37,922 --> 00:42:40,891
because I'm nervous, it's
going to go out for children

899
00:42:40,891 --> 00:42:42,159
that have been affected by my.

900
00:42:42,159 --> 00:42:44,762
Yeah, I've interacted with Doctor Pettit
a few times.

901
00:42:44,762 --> 00:42:46,130
He's a good friend and a good guy.

902
00:42:46,130 --> 00:42:48,265
So future podcast guests too. So

903
00:42:49,233 --> 00:42:50,801
now he's great.

904
00:42:50,801 --> 00:42:51,535
All right. New game.

905
00:42:51,535 --> 00:42:54,638
So you talked events and fundraisers.

906
00:42:54,638 --> 00:42:58,442
And so the game is first last best worst.

907
00:42:58,943 --> 00:43:01,145
What's like the first thing you guys did.

908
00:43:01,145 --> 00:43:04,548
The last the most recent and the best one
and the worst one

909
00:43:05,616 --> 00:43:09,253
can be the first best worst of what?

910
00:43:09,954 --> 00:43:11,221
Like a soulful forest.

911
00:43:11,221 --> 00:43:13,857
Activity event fundraiser.

912
00:43:13,857 --> 00:43:14,992
Oh, boy.

913
00:43:14,992 --> 00:43:17,962
Or a meeting?

914
00:43:18,262 --> 00:43:19,163
Like.

915
00:43:19,163 --> 00:43:20,064
So that's a fun party.

916
00:43:20,064 --> 00:43:22,900
You can play this game
with anything. Mistake.

917
00:43:22,900 --> 00:43:26,937
You can do this with baseball games,
I don't know. Oh,

918
00:43:27,938 --> 00:43:28,739
okay.

919
00:43:28,739 --> 00:43:32,543
Well, the first was Terry and I meeting
at that restaurant and coming up there.

920
00:43:32,643 --> 00:43:35,579
Yeah, okay. It was the first.

921
00:43:35,579 --> 00:43:36,113
Right.

922
00:43:36,113 --> 00:43:39,450
And I had to get over, she gets she gets
really mad when I say this website.

923
00:43:39,783 --> 00:43:43,053
When I first met her,
I feel like she would, like, talk to me.

924
00:43:43,053 --> 00:43:45,856
I was like, she's pretty, she's talented.

925
00:43:45,856 --> 00:43:46,357
I'm like, I don't.

926
00:43:50,561 --> 00:43:51,395
But she didn't.

927
00:43:51,395 --> 00:43:53,631
That was where she said to me,
she was, you're so beautiful.

928
00:43:53,631 --> 00:43:55,199
You're so you need to accept yourself.

929
00:43:55,199 --> 00:43:56,066
But I it's hard.

930
00:43:56,066 --> 00:43:59,069
Like, right now
I'm sitting here with Spanx on.

931
00:44:00,170 --> 00:44:02,406
Like there's a blood clot

932
00:44:02,406 --> 00:44:05,009
circulation in the lower part of my body.

933
00:44:05,009 --> 00:44:09,079
I'm taking some of these
my own advice here.

934
00:44:09,847 --> 00:44:11,415
So that was the first.

935
00:44:11,415 --> 00:44:13,117
First?

936
00:44:13,117 --> 00:44:15,152
I remember the first time
you and I worked on this.

937
00:44:15,152 --> 00:44:17,521
I just, like.
I don't know why the Spanx reminded me.

938
00:44:17,521 --> 00:44:20,791
I don't think it has anything to
do with it, but just her humor, I think.

939
00:44:20,791 --> 00:44:21,291
Right.

940
00:44:21,291 --> 00:44:23,227
You're writing your.

941
00:44:23,227 --> 00:44:25,295
It's a bike,
but it's not an electric bike.

942
00:44:25,295 --> 00:44:27,164
It's a electric extra.

943
00:44:27,164 --> 00:44:27,998
What did you call it?

944
00:44:27,998 --> 00:44:29,933
It's a bike
that you just need a little push.

945
00:44:29,933 --> 00:44:32,670
Yeah. E-bike. Yeah. So yeah.

946
00:44:32,670 --> 00:44:36,707
So she rolls up at this
adorable little coffee shop in Southbury.

947
00:44:36,874 --> 00:44:39,143
Hudson's, on this bike.

948
00:44:39,143 --> 00:44:41,111
And I'm like, that is so fun.

949
00:44:41,111 --> 00:44:42,012
And so cute.

950
00:44:42,012 --> 00:44:45,215
And then she has all this
packed in her basket on the bike.

951
00:44:45,349 --> 00:44:49,019
I'm like, I have to know this lady like,
this is amazing.

952
00:44:49,253 --> 00:44:51,455
So that was a basket on an e-bike.

953
00:44:51,455 --> 00:44:54,024
It was so cute. It was like something
I have a little hallmark movie

954
00:44:55,893 --> 00:44:58,529
I love my I know, do you still ride it
like do.

955
00:44:58,529 --> 00:45:00,364
Yeah. Okay.

956
00:45:00,364 --> 00:45:03,300
But then I eat a lot. So really good.

957
00:45:03,300 --> 00:45:03,867
Good for me.

958
00:45:03,867 --> 00:45:08,105
And my husband said, why do we pay Oprah
Winfrey and Weight Watchers every month?

959
00:45:09,373 --> 00:45:11,308
And I go, I don't know,

960
00:45:11,308 --> 00:45:14,311
I think you need to visit the affirmation
I do, I do.

961
00:45:14,978 --> 00:45:17,281
We need a way to say three nice things
about ourselves.

962
00:45:17,281 --> 00:45:20,284
No, it's not easy. You get a mustache.

963
00:45:20,651 --> 00:45:22,052
It's not. It's not easy.

964
00:45:22,052 --> 00:45:23,120
But you know what?

965
00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:26,090
It is what I do. Yep.

966
00:45:26,223 --> 00:45:27,858
I love this time of my life.

967
00:45:27,858 --> 00:45:29,259
You know what I mean? Yep.

968
00:45:29,259 --> 00:45:29,893
I can see it.

969
00:45:29,893 --> 00:45:32,162
I get a chance to take all the wisdom
and experience

970
00:45:32,162 --> 00:45:33,997
and the things that have hurt me
deeply. And.

971
00:45:33,997 --> 00:45:35,966
And I know that what we do,

972
00:45:35,966 --> 00:45:39,670
what the three of us
do, we're helping kids that need it most.

973
00:45:39,670 --> 00:45:41,972
And that is so enjoyable.

974
00:45:41,972 --> 00:45:45,175
So, so that is the beauty that I feel
comes from me.

975
00:45:45,342 --> 00:45:46,477
And that is more.

976
00:45:48,812 --> 00:45:51,982
It's wonderful statement right there,
I like it, I'm totally on board.

977
00:45:52,282 --> 00:45:53,951
You know, you're helping kids.

978
00:45:53,951 --> 00:45:56,653
That's what
I got started in and out of the classroom.

979
00:45:56,653 --> 00:45:59,556
I saw there was a need. One of my students

980
00:45:59,556 --> 00:46:02,092
lost their dads,
unfortunately, unexpectedly.

981
00:46:02,092 --> 00:46:05,162
And I was like,
we did go fund me, but go Fund Me takes

982
00:46:05,729 --> 00:46:09,032
a portion of every donation and taxes
the recipient at the end.

983
00:46:09,433 --> 00:46:11,435
So I don't know
if you didn't know that. Yeah.

984
00:46:11,435 --> 00:46:15,072
And then then the following year,
another student lost their father.

985
00:46:15,072 --> 00:46:16,707
So I was like, you know what?

986
00:46:16,707 --> 00:46:17,541
I was a new dad.

987
00:46:17,541 --> 00:46:19,143
So I was like, let's start a nonprofit.

988
00:46:19,143 --> 00:46:22,212
And ever since we got a wonderful team
Matt,

989
00:46:22,212 --> 00:46:26,183
Jen, Marty, Ty, Rob, Dante, great team.

990
00:46:26,183 --> 00:46:29,186
Marty's here, retired teacher. Marty.

991
00:46:29,787 --> 00:46:33,657
Matt and Jenna and time. Rob.

992
00:46:33,657 --> 00:46:34,291
They're not here.

993
00:46:34,291 --> 00:46:37,227
So I see you, but Marty's here.

994
00:46:38,729 --> 00:46:41,331
Marty's a good friend.

995
00:46:41,331 --> 00:46:42,900
Loving children.

996
00:46:42,900 --> 00:46:47,771
And so in any given classroom,
you have children with children.

997
00:46:48,105 --> 00:46:49,506
And if that ever happens.

998
00:46:49,506 --> 00:46:49,706
And I.

999
00:46:49,706 --> 00:46:51,942
And I hope that it doesn't not,
you know, it's something that we hope

1000
00:46:51,942 --> 00:46:53,610
we never have to send out,
but we're honorable.

1001
00:46:53,610 --> 00:46:54,278
We do.

1002
00:46:54,278 --> 00:46:57,281
You let me know in that ordeal.

1003
00:46:57,281 --> 00:46:59,149
That's a great connection.

1004
00:46:59,149 --> 00:47:02,186
We have I mean, we deal with
a lot of families that lose loved ones.

1005
00:47:02,186 --> 00:47:05,255
So, we'll be definitely talking in.

1006
00:47:05,255 --> 00:47:08,458
This is a connection and collaboration
that will go on for years to come.

1007
00:47:08,458 --> 00:47:09,660
So thank you.

1008
00:47:09,660 --> 00:47:10,994
Thank you for reaching out.

1009
00:47:10,994 --> 00:47:12,629
Thank you for being here.

1010
00:47:12,629 --> 00:47:14,398
Oh, we got to show your contact.

1011
00:47:14,398 --> 00:47:16,633
The soulful forest.com.

1012
00:47:16,633 --> 00:47:18,936
The soulful forest at gmail.com.

1013
00:47:18,936 --> 00:47:21,905
Forest@gmail.com. Yep. That's your email.

1014
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,676
The soulful forest

1015
00:47:25,676 --> 00:47:27,311
at gmail.com.

1016
00:47:27,311 --> 00:47:29,479
I can be reached in many ways.

1017
00:47:29,479 --> 00:47:32,583
And then you're CC
at Christina connors.com

1018
00:47:34,351 --> 00:47:37,154
and you're here at Mainstreet
counseling.com.

1019
00:47:37,154 --> 00:47:39,323
Really? Well, our Main Street counselor.

1020
00:47:39,323 --> 00:47:41,091
Oh yeah. You're not here for that.

1021
00:47:41,091 --> 00:47:44,094
You're here for something else
I won't I won't delete the email.

1022
00:47:44,361 --> 00:47:46,997
I'll probably just, you know, Tara,

1023
00:47:46,997 --> 00:47:50,300
I grit and grace recovery or look
how many places you can find us. Oh.

1024
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:53,136
Oh QR codes.

1025
00:47:53,136 --> 00:47:54,171
I know QR codes.

1026
00:47:54,171 --> 00:47:56,673
Yeah, I do,
because I also do, southern snow.

1027
00:47:56,673 --> 00:47:59,943
But I'm going to I come back again
and talk about my southern stuff.

1028
00:47:59,977 --> 00:48:01,044
Yeah. Please.

1029
00:48:01,044 --> 00:48:01,278
Yeah.

1030
00:48:01,278 --> 00:48:04,281
That's really
you guys are all welcome back individually

1031
00:48:04,281 --> 00:48:07,184
because having three of you
on with so much content,

1032
00:48:07,184 --> 00:48:08,752
so much exciting things going on.

1033
00:48:08,752 --> 00:48:11,355
But I loved meeting with everyone.

1034
00:48:11,355 --> 00:48:14,091
You're going to sign a book for me? Yes.

1035
00:48:14,091 --> 00:48:17,060
We're going to connect
with the the healing chickadees.

1036
00:48:17,060 --> 00:48:17,327
Yeah.

1037
00:48:18,362 --> 00:48:20,030
We're going to talk about gaslighting.

1038
00:48:20,030 --> 00:48:20,998
Yes we are.

1039
00:48:20,998 --> 00:48:22,532
I'm a big time gaslighter.

1040
00:48:22,532 --> 00:48:24,101
No I'm kidding. Totally kidding.

1041
00:48:24,101 --> 00:48:26,036
Okay, now you can enter into recovery.

1042
00:48:26,036 --> 00:48:27,671
Yes. Okay.

1043
00:48:27,671 --> 00:48:30,674
Oh, so

1044
00:48:31,775 --> 00:48:34,244
just quickly,
there's a follow up question.

1045
00:48:34,244 --> 00:48:36,880
So if we can quickly
just say your favorite restaurant

1046
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:39,816
and who would you eat with?

1047
00:48:39,816 --> 00:48:42,819
Anyone in the world, dead or alive?

1048
00:48:42,886 --> 00:48:45,889
There's a
there's a new place in Salisbury called.

1049
00:48:46,323 --> 00:48:48,625
Okay, I'm I'm big on sauces,

1050
00:48:48,625 --> 00:48:51,628
wonderful sauce and Puglia pizza.

1051
00:48:51,929 --> 00:48:53,196
Puglia. Yeah.

1052
00:48:53,196 --> 00:48:55,565
And I would,

1053
00:48:55,565 --> 00:48:57,367
I would have, dinner

1054
00:48:57,367 --> 00:49:00,370
with my brother
who passed away when I was,

1055
00:49:00,404 --> 00:49:03,407
ten years old.

1056
00:49:04,041 --> 00:49:04,608
I'm just like

1057
00:49:04,608 --> 00:49:07,611
you said that because we lost my brother
six years ago,

1058
00:49:07,711 --> 00:49:11,715
and my dad three years ago,
and I to say the same thing, I would have,

1059
00:49:12,950 --> 00:49:15,953
lunch or dinner with my dad or my brother,
and we just, celebrated

1060
00:49:15,953 --> 00:49:19,356
my niece's marriage this past weekend,
which is my brother's daughter.

1061
00:49:20,724 --> 00:49:23,160
And it was a beautiful wedding.

1062
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:27,164
However, there was, you know,
father of five chairs sitting in the front

1063
00:49:27,164 --> 00:49:30,167
row with my brother's picture
and a flower, and it was

1064
00:49:30,500 --> 00:49:33,537
it was bittersweet because my mom
was there with us, you know? And,

1065
00:49:35,105 --> 00:49:37,674
when you see the picture of my mom
and the bride after the wedding,

1066
00:49:37,674 --> 00:49:40,110
it's not going to look very pretty
because they're both like,

1067
00:49:40,110 --> 00:49:42,312
you know, it's kind of disastrous.

1068
00:49:42,312 --> 00:49:47,017
But, getting back to the point of,
I would have, lunch with my dad

1069
00:49:47,017 --> 00:49:51,221
and my brother and, I know they're there
with us, but, I would go back to what

1070
00:49:52,956 --> 00:49:53,957
goes on here.

1071
00:49:53,957 --> 00:49:55,425
It's like colony pizza.

1072
00:49:55,425 --> 00:49:57,260
Ooh, spicy.

1073
00:49:57,260 --> 00:50:00,230
Delicious. The oil. The hot oil or. No.

1074
00:50:00,297 --> 00:50:00,998
And then.

1075
00:50:00,998 --> 00:50:04,001
So it's casual and delicious food. So,

1076
00:50:05,936 --> 00:50:08,839
I am a soul food girl.

1077
00:50:08,839 --> 00:50:13,010
I'm born and raised in Louisiana,
and all of our family is down south.

1078
00:50:13,610 --> 00:50:17,981
And so there are a couple of places here
in Connecticut that have like, real deal

1079
00:50:17,981 --> 00:50:18,682
soul food.

1080
00:50:18,682 --> 00:50:21,685
And one of them are Miss
Thelma's in Bridgeport.

1081
00:50:22,185 --> 00:50:23,720
Oh so fun.

1082
00:50:23,720 --> 00:50:25,022
And the vibe is amazing.

1083
00:50:25,022 --> 00:50:28,025
I would love a free meal
if you're listening to me right now.

1084
00:50:28,025 --> 00:50:32,662
No I stand down at the I, I'm like oh
my god this is like the best stuff ever.

1085
00:50:32,662 --> 00:50:35,665
And everyone else is, you know,
I'm not very quiet about it.

1086
00:50:35,665 --> 00:50:37,234
I just get excited about it.

1087
00:50:37,234 --> 00:50:39,503
That's collard greens ever.

1088
00:50:39,503 --> 00:50:43,073
So I would be there and I would
I have to bring two people.

1089
00:50:43,073 --> 00:50:43,907
I can't just.

1090
00:50:43,907 --> 00:50:44,307
Oh, no.

1091
00:50:44,307 --> 00:50:47,310
Yeah, I would bring the my grandpa.

1092
00:50:47,411 --> 00:50:50,781
My paternal grandpa, passed
quite a few years ago,

1093
00:50:50,781 --> 00:50:56,119
and he was my ride or die like he was my
my person, my forever person.

1094
00:50:56,119 --> 00:50:59,122
And I miss him
every single day I talk to him.

1095
00:50:59,222 --> 00:51:01,992
So I would bring him
and I would actually love, would love

1096
00:51:01,992 --> 00:51:05,562
to see him with my mother in law,
who passed in 2020.

1097
00:51:05,695 --> 00:51:09,566
But I would love to see the two of them
sit and eat at this place,

1098
00:51:09,566 --> 00:51:10,700
at this establishment.

1099
00:51:10,700 --> 00:51:14,337
I think it would be a very interesting
conversation, very different personalities

1100
00:51:14,504 --> 00:51:17,507
bring very different life
experiences to the table.

1101
00:51:17,674 --> 00:51:21,578
And I would just sit back and eat my
fried chicken and listen, it'd be great.

1102
00:51:22,179 --> 00:51:26,216
Thank you, George Clooney,
I would eat at Sally and Bob's, cause.

1103
00:51:27,084 --> 00:51:27,451
Yeah,

1104
00:51:28,385 --> 00:51:31,188
with my wife and my twin girls.

1105
00:51:31,188 --> 00:51:32,456
Neil and Brigid.

1106
00:51:32,456 --> 00:51:35,459
Oh, we're here every Sunday
anyway, so. But,

1107
00:51:36,326 --> 00:51:37,427
this is the place. Yep.

1108
00:51:37,427 --> 00:51:39,729
This is our spot right here. Okay.

1109
00:51:39,729 --> 00:51:41,498
So good stuff.

1110
00:51:41,498 --> 00:51:43,467
Now wrapping up.

1111
00:51:43,467 --> 00:51:46,536
But before we do,
do you have any future events coming out?

1112
00:51:46,536 --> 00:51:48,271
Anything that we should look for?

1113
00:51:48,271 --> 00:51:50,941
How can we help you?
Where can we join you?

1114
00:51:50,941 --> 00:51:52,609
You can join us.

1115
00:51:52,609 --> 00:51:57,547
If you go to Soulful Trail blazers.org,
soulful trail Blazers is really

1116
00:51:57,547 --> 00:52:01,384
the kind of the clearinghouse for things
coming up with the Naugatuck Arc.

1117
00:52:01,651 --> 00:52:03,186
And you're going to be able to,

1118
00:52:03,186 --> 00:52:07,891
if you can contribute to the celebration
of sobriety Rock garden by creating rocks,

1119
00:52:07,891 --> 00:52:09,459
I mean, there's going to be
all kinds of opportunities.

1120
00:52:09,459 --> 00:52:11,194
So so that's what's coming up.

1121
00:52:11,194 --> 00:52:12,896
Is that Mark beautiful?

1122
00:52:13,897 --> 00:52:14,965
And where do you see yourself

1123
00:52:14,965 --> 00:52:17,968
in five years for the program?

1124
00:52:19,302 --> 00:52:22,305
I, I don't know, I'm, I'm, I'm,

1125
00:52:23,140 --> 00:52:24,774
gosh, maybe another grandchild.

1126
00:52:24,774 --> 00:52:29,012
And, continuing
to, to send this album to make it grow.

1127
00:52:29,246 --> 00:52:30,180
Yeah.

1128
00:52:30,180 --> 00:52:34,151
I see, at least to Silver Forest
nature parks.

1129
00:52:34,284 --> 00:52:36,153
Yeah. Up and running.

1130
00:52:36,153 --> 00:52:38,688
Different towns and, a place

1131
00:52:38,688 --> 00:52:41,825
that's thriving with programing to support

1132
00:52:41,825 --> 00:52:45,629
children and families with mental health
and all those kinds of things,

1133
00:52:45,629 --> 00:52:49,666
because it takes a village,
and I believe that towns can come together

1134
00:52:49,666 --> 00:52:53,069
and really take care of the community,
and that's what we need.

1135
00:52:53,637 --> 00:52:56,640
So, yeah,

1136
00:52:56,806 --> 00:53:01,678
my, my five year plan is to build a trauma
treatment center in Florida.

1137
00:53:01,678 --> 00:53:06,383
And actually I want like 50, 60 acres
of uncharted land, uncharted territory.

1138
00:53:06,383 --> 00:53:08,151
And I have the community garden.

1139
00:53:08,151 --> 00:53:09,920
I want it to be a third space.

1140
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:12,923
And I would love to have a local force
there.

1141
00:53:13,123 --> 00:53:13,490
Yeah.

1142
00:53:13,490 --> 00:53:16,193
So I'm I'm actively working on it.

1143
00:53:16,193 --> 00:53:19,396
It's kind of a secret
because I don't have any funding for it,

1144
00:53:19,529 --> 00:53:21,965
but it's not a secret anymore.

1145
00:53:21,965 --> 00:53:24,201
But, 
it is something I'm actively working on

1146
00:53:24,201 --> 00:53:25,969
and something
I have been for quite some time.

1147
00:53:25,969 --> 00:53:28,405
So it will be a space where I can go.

1148
00:53:28,405 --> 00:53:30,207
Yeah. So, like, I want to plant a mini.

1149
00:53:30,207 --> 00:53:34,611
I'm on there for me just to kind of be in
and for a community space and, for

1150
00:53:34,611 --> 00:53:39,149
people in the community and for clinicians
across the country to send people.

1151
00:53:39,149 --> 00:53:42,185
And I just step back and if they need to
use the space, they use the space.

1152
00:53:42,185 --> 00:53:44,688
And if I want to be there, I can be there.
So be cool.

1153
00:53:44,688 --> 00:53:45,889
So how cool would that be?

1154
00:53:45,889 --> 00:53:48,325
We might have to have a swamp
or something in there though, right?

1155
00:53:48,325 --> 00:53:51,394
Like Florida alligators or alligators.

1156
00:53:51,728 --> 00:53:54,164
I'll call a gator garden.
Yeah, there you go.

1157
00:53:54,164 --> 00:53:55,398
Oh, if that could be camp cats.

1158
00:53:55,398 --> 00:53:57,334
Just throw them to the alligators,
right? Yep.

1159
00:53:57,334 --> 00:53:58,868
There we go.

1160
00:53:58,868 --> 00:54:00,403
And you're big into gratitude.

1161
00:54:00,403 --> 00:54:03,907
So I wanted to share some thank you notes
that we have received over the time.

1162
00:54:03,907 --> 00:54:07,644
So I highly encourage
all my listeners, multiple podcasts

1163
00:54:07,944 --> 00:54:10,947
write the handwritten note, the
thank you, the check in.

1164
00:54:11,047 --> 00:54:14,284
So we've just had a donation
from Bill and Betsy.

1165
00:54:14,284 --> 00:54:16,553
Thank you so much for your donation.

1166
00:54:16,553 --> 00:54:18,388
Oh. Maddie.

1167
00:54:18,388 --> 00:54:20,223
At her birthday, I gave her some merch.

1168
00:54:20,223 --> 00:54:22,692
Cystic
fibrosis wrote us a nice. Thank you.

1169
00:54:24,794 --> 00:54:26,596
Joan Dismas,

1170
00:54:26,596 --> 00:54:29,032
great friend, made a wonderful donation.

1171
00:54:29,032 --> 00:54:32,769
And then some families that we have helped
have wrote us a donation.

1172
00:54:32,769 --> 00:54:36,339
Just no words can describe
how truly thoughtful and generous

1173
00:54:36,339 --> 00:54:37,574
your organization is.

1174
00:54:37,574 --> 00:54:40,243
We help with unexpected expenses.

1175
00:54:40,243 --> 00:54:42,545
I've always loved your organization
and what it represented.

1176
00:54:42,545 --> 00:54:45,548
Never did I think it
we be the recipient of it.

1177
00:54:45,749 --> 00:54:46,449
We thank you.

1178
00:54:46,449 --> 00:54:47,651
We love you all.

1179
00:54:47,651 --> 00:54:50,654
We love Jeff too for mentioning us.

1180
00:54:50,687 --> 00:54:52,522
We've always supported you.
Be a good friend.

1181
00:54:52,522 --> 00:54:54,958
Thank you so much.
All is appreciated. Love you so much.

1182
00:54:54,958 --> 00:54:58,628
And you know that's for someone
that unexpectedly passed.

1183
00:54:58,628 --> 00:54:59,496
And then another one.

1184
00:54:59,496 --> 00:55:01,731
But I can't read the handwriting right
now, so.

1185
00:55:01,731 --> 00:55:03,300
But it's a beautiful card.

1186
00:55:03,300 --> 00:55:06,303
They have that nice all caps font.

1187
00:55:06,736 --> 00:55:08,838
Let's analyze that. Yeah.

1188
00:55:08,838 --> 00:55:11,975
As a third grade teacher, you definitely
turn into a handwriting analyst. But,

1189
00:55:13,143 --> 00:55:13,743
the beautiful

1190
00:55:13,743 --> 00:55:16,780
thing
about what you do is I personally feel.

1191
00:55:16,780 --> 00:55:19,683
And it's sad when tragedy strikes.

1192
00:55:19,683 --> 00:55:21,318
It's not in some way up top

1193
00:55:21,318 --> 00:55:25,121
that's going to come to support, you know,
to really ultimately take care of you.

1194
00:55:25,121 --> 00:55:26,823
It's really communities.

1195
00:55:26,823 --> 00:55:30,160
And I think that why should we wait
until the tragedy comes?

1196
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:31,461
Why don't we create

1197
00:55:31,461 --> 00:55:35,432
a space for preventative care
and just really get to know each other?

1198
00:55:35,432 --> 00:55:39,369
So when something does hit,
we have each other's backs already.

1199
00:55:39,369 --> 00:55:41,771
And I think that that's key.

1200
00:55:41,771 --> 00:55:46,543
It makes people feel a little bit
less vulnerable knowing that heaven forbid

1201
00:55:46,543 --> 00:55:49,879
something happens that we know
that we have our community of support.

1202
00:55:49,879 --> 00:55:51,648
And I think that's so beautiful
what you're doing.

1203
00:55:51,648 --> 00:55:53,950
I think, it takes a village.

1204
00:55:53,950 --> 00:55:56,319
And once again, when tragedy hits, it's.

1205
00:55:56,319 --> 00:55:59,022
We have each other.
Yeah. And I get to meet.

1206
00:55:59,022 --> 00:56:01,124
I mean, there's both sides of it.

1207
00:56:01,124 --> 00:56:03,093
We're helping people,
but then you get to meet wonderful

1208
00:56:03,093 --> 00:56:04,627
people that are also helping.

1209
00:56:04,627 --> 00:56:06,830
You mentioned Mister Rogers.
That was my idol. That's.

1210
00:56:06,830 --> 00:56:08,498
Who would I have dinner with?

1211
00:56:08,498 --> 00:56:10,800
That's who raised me. That's who.

1212
00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:14,471
You know, Mister Rogers,
I dress up him for Halloween.

1213
00:56:14,471 --> 00:56:15,438
I have all of his books.

1214
00:56:15,438 --> 00:56:19,743
I have his pop or pop up
little doll thing. So.

1215
00:56:20,410 --> 00:56:21,778
Bobblehead? Yeah.

1216
00:56:21,778 --> 00:56:23,847
So he's a great guy. He's all right.

1217
00:56:23,847 --> 00:56:29,219
So now I'm trying to apply
to be a presenter in the summer.

1218
00:56:29,352 --> 00:56:33,156
I'm going to go to Pennsylvania,
hopefully present or go to the conference.

1219
00:56:33,156 --> 00:56:36,226
A mister Rogers
themed or based conference.

1220
00:56:36,226 --> 00:56:38,128
So I think he's all right.

1221
00:56:38,128 --> 00:56:40,964
Yeah, he's a good guy, you know?
He's an amazing human being. Yeah.

1222
00:56:42,932 --> 00:56:44,000
There's a conference.

1223
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:44,467
Oh, yeah.

1224
00:56:44,467 --> 00:56:47,103
I'll send you the link or,
yeah, I'll check that out.

1225
00:56:47,103 --> 00:56:50,140
And and then I have the future, friends

1226
00:56:50,140 --> 00:56:53,343
of any upcoming
event is our sixth annual toy drive.

1227
00:56:53,343 --> 00:56:55,211
I don't know if you guys are around.
Please swing by.

1228
00:56:55,211 --> 00:56:56,980
Luna pizza is right around the corner.

1229
00:56:56,980 --> 00:57:00,483
Until December
6th, we're collecting at maximum beverage.

1230
00:57:00,483 --> 00:57:01,251
There's three of them.

1231
00:57:01,251 --> 00:57:02,719
We're collecting at the Farmington one,

1232
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:06,122
the Tolland one in the West Hartford
one, the ballet, and at Hartford

1233
00:57:06,122 --> 00:57:09,626
on December
5th, Mount Southington on November 29th.

1234
00:57:09,959 --> 00:57:10,960
Jazzercise.

1235
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:15,331
We have brewing physical MT Bank and Luna
Pizza is we'll be collecting.

1236
00:57:15,432 --> 00:57:19,669
But this is our sixth annual toy drive
we're giving to kids that need support.

1237
00:57:20,470 --> 00:57:21,704
So please join us.

1238
00:57:21,704 --> 00:57:23,373
We have a caricature drawing.

1239
00:57:23,373 --> 00:57:25,608
We'll have pizza specials.

1240
00:57:25,608 --> 00:57:27,343
Just a wonderful event.

1241
00:57:27,343 --> 00:57:28,678
Please check us out.

1242
00:57:28,678 --> 00:57:29,512
Friends of Phoenix.

1243
00:57:29,512 --> 00:57:32,949
Com like and follow
the Feeny Talks with Friends podcast.

1244
00:57:33,383 --> 00:57:36,386
Like and follow everything
that the social forest is doing.

1245
00:57:36,686 --> 00:57:38,455
No. It was a wonderful.

1246
00:57:38,455 --> 00:57:40,490
Any closing remarks?

1247
00:57:40,490 --> 00:57:41,458
This has been a lot of fun.

1248
00:57:41,458 --> 00:57:43,393
Thank you so much. Yeah.
Thank you for having us.

1249
00:57:43,393 --> 00:57:46,329
Thank you. And once again,
thank you for the work you're doing.

1250
00:57:46,329 --> 00:57:48,565
Can you sing
a Be a Good Friend song to take us out?

1251
00:57:50,266 --> 00:57:53,269
Be a good friend?

1252
00:57:53,403 --> 00:57:54,404
Yeah.

1253
00:57:54,404 --> 00:57:56,473
That was it
right there. There you go. Right.

1254
00:57:56,473 --> 00:57:58,241
Oh, one more town.

1255
00:57:58,241 --> 00:57:59,976
Don't quit my day job.
Is that what you're saying?

1256
00:57:59,976 --> 00:58:02,879
The friends of the Valley.

1257
00:58:02,879 --> 00:58:03,580
I didn't warm up.

1258
00:58:03,580 --> 00:58:05,582
I didn't get to that song.

1259
00:58:05,582 --> 00:58:06,416
You got a friend?

1260
00:58:06,416 --> 00:58:08,818
Oh, come on, hit that, hit that.

1261
00:58:08,818 --> 00:58:12,555
When I look at this, do that
one friend in me, I don't know, I just.

1262
00:58:12,555 --> 00:58:17,060
Yeah, you might have bigger and stronger
and stronger to.

1263
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:19,896
Yeah, but no one can love you.

1264
00:58:19,896 --> 00:58:21,764
The way I do.

1265
00:58:21,764 --> 00:58:23,233
Yeah. It's true.

1266
00:58:23,233 --> 00:58:26,236
No no no, no. Maybe.

1267
00:58:26,536 --> 00:58:26,903
All right.

1268
00:58:26,903 --> 00:58:27,770
Hit us with the chorus.

1269
00:58:27,770 --> 00:58:30,773
Let me stop embarrassing myself.

1270
00:58:31,374 --> 00:58:33,276
Hit us with the chorus of
you got a friend in me.

1271
00:58:33,276 --> 00:58:34,644
Yeah,

1272
00:58:34,644 --> 00:58:35,311
that's all I know.

1273
00:58:35,311 --> 00:58:38,615
Is you got a friend in me.

1274
00:58:39,549 --> 00:58:43,753
You got a friend in me. Let.

1275
00:58:46,523 --> 00:58:48,458
You got a friend in me.

1276
00:58:48,458 --> 00:58:52,829
You like something like you, I would say
I would just sing all the time, right?

1277
00:58:52,829 --> 00:58:53,463
All the time.

1278
00:58:53,463 --> 00:58:55,598
Yeah, yeah.
I always wanted to be a singer.

1279
00:58:55,598 --> 00:58:57,767
I've also wanted to be taller.
That didn't work out.

1280
00:58:57,767 --> 00:58:59,102
Hey, there's a song for that too.

1281
00:58:59,102 --> 00:59:01,704
I wish I was a little bit taller,
I wish I was a baller.

1282
00:59:01,704 --> 00:59:04,874
I was a shot call,
I wish I had a girl I would call her

1283
00:59:05,408 --> 00:59:07,443
I wish I had a friend,
one friend in the back.

1284
00:59:07,443 --> 00:59:09,078
I don't know what my family's
gonna make fun of me for.

1285
00:59:09,078 --> 00:59:09,812
Not knowing the wish.

1286
00:59:09,812 --> 00:59:11,548
I was a little bit taller.

1287
00:59:11,548 --> 00:59:13,850
So I'm three. Will say be a good friend.

1288
00:59:13,850 --> 00:59:15,418
All right. One, two, three.

1289
00:59:15,418 --> 00:59:16,920
Be a good friend.