1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:11,875 --> 01:00:14,750 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:15,500 --> 01:00:16,958 And it's not just a great 5 01:00:16,958 --> 01:00:19,000 Friday, it's Good Friday. 6 01:00:19,458 --> 01:00:21,291 For those of us observing the Holy Week 7 01:00:21,375 --> 01:00:22,583 before Easter Sunday. 8 01:00:23,333 --> 01:00:24,583 And given the way to the day, 9 01:00:24,833 --> 01:00:26,791 it seemed a bit silly of me to mention 10 01:00:27,041 --> 01:00:27,708 other special 11 01:00:27,708 --> 01:00:29,166 recognitions on this Friday. 12 01:00:30,333 --> 01:00:32,708 But I would be remiss if I didn't mention 13 01:00:32,708 --> 01:00:33,791 that today is also 14 01:00:33,791 --> 01:00:35,583 National Animal Cracker Day. 15 01:00:36,041 --> 01:00:37,041 I mean, who knew that 16 01:00:37,041 --> 01:00:38,291 the little menagerie 17 01:00:38,291 --> 01:00:40,208 of zoo and circus creatures that 18 01:00:40,208 --> 01:00:41,333 delighted us as kids 19 01:00:41,583 --> 01:00:43,666 would later become one of our fondest 20 01:00:44,041 --> 01:00:44,916 and one of the most 21 01:00:44,916 --> 01:00:46,833 recognizable foods in the world. 22 01:00:47,666 --> 01:00:50,166 Well, it's also National Exercise Day, 23 01:00:50,375 --> 01:00:51,583 National Pinata Day 24 01:00:51,583 --> 01:00:53,458 and World Marbles Day. 25 01:00:53,916 --> 01:00:54,875 So I'm just gonna 26 01:00:54,875 --> 01:00:55,958 leave you guys with that. 27 01:00:55,958 --> 01:00:57,458 You can make your own jokes, do whatever 28 01:00:57,458 --> 01:00:58,458 you want to with it. 29 01:00:58,458 --> 01:01:00,041 I'm just here to provide the information. 30 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:03,250 Well, on a week that highlights new 31 01:01:03,250 --> 01:01:04,583 chapters and new starts, 32 01:01:04,875 --> 01:01:06,041 I'm turning to mental 33 01:01:06,041 --> 01:01:08,250 health guru, Conan O'Brien 34 01:01:08,250 --> 01:01:09,250 for this morning's quote. 35 01:01:09,833 --> 01:01:11,083 Conan O'Brien said, quote, 36 01:01:11,166 --> 01:01:11,958 if you accept your 37 01:01:11,958 --> 01:01:13,875 misfortune and handle it right, 38 01:01:14,541 --> 01:01:15,750 your perceived failure 39 01:01:15,750 --> 01:01:17,000 can become a catalyst 40 01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:19,541 to profound reinvention, end quote. 41 01:01:20,083 --> 01:01:20,791 Well, thanks for that 42 01:01:20,791 --> 01:01:21,958 little pep talk there 43 01:01:21,958 --> 01:01:23,708 and reminder, Conan, much appreciated. 44 01:01:24,541 --> 01:01:25,750 And today's news facts and 45 01:01:25,750 --> 01:01:27,625 birthdays are for April 18th. 46 01:01:27,625 --> 01:01:29,250 We're gonna start back in 1906 47 01:01:29,583 --> 01:01:31,083 and that's when the historic San 48 01:01:31,083 --> 01:01:32,208 Francisco earthquake 49 01:01:32,208 --> 01:01:33,375 and fire took place. 50 01:01:34,375 --> 01:01:35,666 Sadly, nearly 4,000 51 01:01:35,666 --> 01:01:36,833 people lost their lives 52 01:01:37,333 --> 01:01:39,041 while the fire and earthquake destroyed 53 01:01:39,041 --> 01:01:41,083 nearly 75% of San Francisco. 54 01:01:42,208 --> 01:01:45,041 Then in 1924 on this date, the first 55 01:01:45,041 --> 01:01:46,375 crossword puzzle book, 56 01:01:46,583 --> 01:01:48,333 a whole book of crossword puzzles 57 01:01:48,333 --> 01:01:50,083 was published by Simon and Schuster. 58 01:01:50,500 --> 01:01:51,375 I know my wife got 59 01:01:51,375 --> 01:01:52,708 really excited about that one. 60 01:01:53,333 --> 01:01:55,458 Then in 1985 on this date, 61 01:01:55,791 --> 01:01:58,541 Wham became the first Western pop act 62 01:01:58,958 --> 01:02:00,625 to release an album in China. 63 01:02:01,250 --> 01:02:02,041 You're welcome, China. 64 01:02:02,458 --> 01:02:04,541 I mean, enjoy those catchy melodies, 65 01:02:04,625 --> 01:02:05,708 the upbeat rhythms 66 01:02:05,708 --> 01:02:07,333 with a blend of new wave, 67 01:02:07,333 --> 01:02:08,583 soul and funk. 68 01:02:09,125 --> 01:02:09,541 I mean, of course 69 01:02:09,541 --> 01:02:10,625 that's according to Google, 70 01:02:10,958 --> 01:02:11,458 but don't get me 71 01:02:11,458 --> 01:02:12,833 wrong, I love me some wham. 72 01:02:13,666 --> 01:02:15,000 Well, happy birthday to you. 73 01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:16,125 Today is your birthday. 74 01:02:16,125 --> 01:02:17,291 You share a birthday with 75 01:02:17,291 --> 01:02:19,083 actress Melissa Joan Hart. 76 01:02:19,333 --> 01:02:21,041 She's 49 years old today. 77 01:02:21,583 --> 01:02:22,666 And comedian and 78 01:02:22,666 --> 01:02:24,791 wellbeing guru, Conan O'Brien, 79 01:02:25,333 --> 01:02:26,416 he's 62 today. 80 01:02:26,750 --> 01:02:27,916 And the number one song on 81 01:02:27,916 --> 01:02:30,625 this date back in 2004 was Yeah! 82 01:02:30,875 --> 01:02:32,000 by Usher featuring 83 01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:33,458 Little John and Ludacris. 84 01:02:34,083 --> 01:02:35,333 Now there was another song 85 01:02:35,333 --> 01:02:36,625 that I was gonna put on here 86 01:02:36,625 --> 01:02:38,166 as the number one song on this date, 87 01:02:38,750 --> 01:02:41,250 but that was Bump and Grind by R. Kelly. 88 01:02:41,541 --> 01:02:43,041 And I just didn't think that it was 89 01:02:43,041 --> 01:02:44,250 appropriate for today. 90 01:02:44,875 --> 01:02:47,791 So we turn to Usher's anthem song, Yeah! 91 01:02:48,125 --> 01:02:49,041 Featuring Little John. 92 01:02:49,041 --> 01:02:49,375 And everybody 93 01:02:49,375 --> 01:02:50,791 remembers how Little John says, 94 01:02:51,583 --> 01:02:53,041 Yeah, now I'm not gonna do it, 95 01:02:53,041 --> 01:02:55,583 embarrass myself forever on the internet. 96 01:02:55,833 --> 01:02:57,000 So you know it, you know 97 01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:58,041 what I'm talking about. 98 01:02:58,041 --> 01:03:00,416 But the song eventually won a Grammy 99 01:03:00,583 --> 01:03:02,666 for best rap slash sung collaboration. 100 01:03:03,333 --> 01:03:05,375 And it was ranked as the number two song 101 01:03:05,375 --> 01:03:07,041 in the Hot 100 songs for 102 01:03:07,041 --> 01:03:09,583 the decade of 2000 to 2009. 103 01:03:10,041 --> 01:03:11,500 It's a great song to get you going on 104 01:03:11,500 --> 01:03:12,333 this Friday morning. 105 01:03:12,958 --> 01:03:14,791 But before you go though, 106 01:03:14,791 --> 01:03:16,833 let's jump into our book review, right? 107 01:03:17,166 --> 01:03:17,833 We are reading 108 01:03:17,833 --> 01:03:19,333 through Stephen R. Covey's, 109 01:03:19,333 --> 01:03:20,250 The Seven Habits of 110 01:03:20,250 --> 01:03:21,375 Highly Effective People. 111 01:03:21,916 --> 01:03:24,416 And in this first chapter, Inside Out, 112 01:03:24,791 --> 01:03:26,166 Covey is discussing the differences 113 01:03:26,416 --> 01:03:27,000 between character 114 01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,291 traits and personality ethic. 115 01:03:29,291 --> 01:03:31,125 And he's unpacking how our behaviors 116 01:03:31,666 --> 01:03:32,666 are based on our perspectives 117 01:03:33,041 --> 01:03:34,166 and our experiences, our 118 01:03:34,166 --> 01:03:35,708 paradigms as he calls them. 119 01:03:36,125 --> 01:03:37,916 Covey describes the idea that despite 120 01:03:37,916 --> 01:03:39,791 our individual paradigms, 121 01:03:39,791 --> 01:03:41,250 within each of us exists 122 01:03:41,500 --> 01:03:43,375 an awareness of certain innate 123 01:03:43,375 --> 01:03:44,708 foundational principles 124 01:03:44,708 --> 01:03:46,083 like fairness, integrity, 125 01:03:46,083 --> 01:03:47,916 honesty, that cannot be broken. 126 01:03:48,291 --> 01:03:49,583 And they are self evident 127 01:03:49,583 --> 01:03:50,583 to one degree or another 128 01:03:50,750 --> 01:03:51,833 in each one of us. 129 01:03:52,500 --> 01:03:53,791 Well, in Covey's next 130 01:03:53,791 --> 01:03:54,958 sub chapter entitled, 131 01:03:55,333 --> 01:03:56,166 The Way We See the 132 01:03:56,166 --> 01:03:57,791 Problem is the Problem, 133 01:03:58,458 --> 01:04:00,166 Covey describes a few situations 134 01:04:00,708 --> 01:04:02,666 along with how these people 135 01:04:02,666 --> 01:04:04,666 would handle that situation 136 01:04:05,125 --> 01:04:06,291 utilizing the quick 137 01:04:06,291 --> 01:04:08,166 fixes of personality ethic. 138 01:04:09,083 --> 01:04:10,083 So in the first 139 01:04:10,083 --> 01:04:11,833 situation, there's a manager 140 01:04:11,833 --> 01:04:13,791 who doesn't trust that his employees 141 01:04:13,791 --> 01:04:15,083 would be as productive 142 01:04:15,083 --> 01:04:16,666 or focused on their jobs 143 01:04:17,083 --> 01:04:19,041 if he wasn't there to keep them focused. 144 01:04:19,916 --> 01:04:21,166 So the personality ethic, 145 01:04:21,166 --> 01:04:21,708 what Covey would 146 01:04:21,708 --> 01:04:23,375 describe as quick fixes, right? 147 01:04:23,875 --> 01:04:24,791 Quote, "Band-aids and 148 01:04:24,791 --> 01:04:25,750 aspirin," end quote. 149 01:04:26,083 --> 01:04:28,208 The personality ethic would say to take 150 01:04:28,208 --> 01:04:29,458 some dramatic action 151 01:04:29,541 --> 01:04:31,416 to snap them into being good workers, 152 01:04:31,750 --> 01:04:32,791 shake things up a bit, 153 01:04:33,208 --> 01:04:34,041 maybe take some 154 01:04:34,041 --> 01:04:35,666 motivational training program 155 01:04:35,666 --> 01:04:37,000 or just hire new people. 156 01:04:37,625 --> 01:04:39,125 But Covey asks the question, 157 01:04:39,666 --> 01:04:40,791 maybe it's the way this 158 01:04:40,791 --> 01:04:42,416 manager sees his employees. 159 01:04:42,666 --> 01:04:44,708 Deep inside, the way he views them 160 01:04:44,708 --> 01:04:46,166 might be part of the problem. 161 01:04:46,875 --> 01:04:48,458 So let's look at another situation 162 01:04:48,458 --> 01:04:50,125 that may even hit closer to 163 01:04:50,125 --> 01:04:51,250 home for some of us, right? 164 01:04:51,875 --> 01:04:52,791 This situation is 165 01:04:52,791 --> 01:04:54,166 someone that feels pressure 166 01:04:54,208 --> 01:04:55,833 every day of the week and 167 01:04:55,833 --> 01:04:57,250 there's never enough time 168 01:04:57,250 --> 01:04:58,791 and they don't feel like they are quote, 169 01:04:58,833 --> 01:04:59,708 "living the happy, 170 01:04:59,708 --> 01:05:01,666 productive, peaceful life 171 01:05:01,666 --> 01:05:03,416 that they want to live," end quote. 172 01:05:04,166 --> 01:05:06,083 Well, the personality ethic would say, 173 01:05:06,375 --> 01:05:07,416 quote, "There must be 174 01:05:07,416 --> 01:05:08,458 something out there, 175 01:05:08,875 --> 01:05:11,041 some new planner or some seminar 176 01:05:11,041 --> 01:05:11,708 that will help me 177 01:05:11,708 --> 01:05:13,083 handle all these pressures 178 01:05:13,083 --> 01:05:14,958 in a more efficient way," end quote. 179 01:05:15,833 --> 01:05:18,291 Covey says, "Efficiency isn't the answer. 180 01:05:18,791 --> 01:05:19,708 At best, you are now 181 01:05:19,708 --> 01:05:21,291 just able to react quicker." 182 01:05:21,791 --> 01:05:23,625 Instead, Covey asks if 183 01:05:23,625 --> 01:05:24,875 there is something you need, 184 01:05:24,875 --> 01:05:26,125 quote, "to see in a 185 01:05:26,125 --> 01:05:27,833 deeper, more fundamental way, 186 01:05:27,916 --> 01:05:30,791 some paradigm within myself that affects 187 01:05:30,791 --> 01:05:33,708 the way I see my time, my life, and my 188 01:05:33,708 --> 01:05:35,125 own nature," end quote. 189 01:05:36,250 --> 01:05:37,583 Here's Covey's point. 190 01:05:38,208 --> 01:05:38,958 The way we see the 191 01:05:38,958 --> 01:05:40,041 problem is the problem. 192 01:05:40,583 --> 01:05:42,583 We want more time in life to be happy, 193 01:05:42,916 --> 01:05:44,833 but the personality ethic band-aid 194 01:05:45,083 --> 01:05:46,833 only tells us to find a day planner 195 01:05:47,166 --> 01:05:48,583 or read a motivational 196 01:05:48,583 --> 01:05:50,208 quote to fix the problem, right? 197 01:05:50,625 --> 01:05:51,458 And Covey is saying, 198 01:05:51,458 --> 01:05:53,000 "This is not the right way." 199 01:05:53,333 --> 01:05:54,666 For most of the first 200 01:05:54,666 --> 01:05:56,750 chapter, Covey is screaming at us 201 01:05:56,833 --> 01:05:58,500 that personality ethic 202 01:05:58,500 --> 01:05:59,958 fixes are superficial 203 01:06:00,500 --> 01:06:02,833 and only lasts for short periods, 204 01:06:03,416 --> 01:06:04,750 but that for real 205 01:06:04,750 --> 01:06:06,500 change, we must look deeper 206 01:06:06,708 --> 01:06:08,625 and be open to fundamental paradigm 207 01:06:08,625 --> 01:06:10,291 changes within ourselves. 208 01:06:11,041 --> 01:06:11,750 We should be, quote, 209 01:06:11,833 --> 01:06:13,958 "turned off by psych-up psychology 210 01:06:14,166 --> 01:06:16,125 and motivational speakers who have 211 01:06:16,125 --> 01:06:17,083 nothing more to share 212 01:06:17,083 --> 01:06:18,958 than entertaining stories mingled with 213 01:06:18,958 --> 01:06:20,125 platitudes," end quote. 214 01:06:20,958 --> 01:06:22,125 No, instead, to make 215 01:06:22,125 --> 01:06:23,625 real change in ourselves, 216 01:06:24,041 --> 01:06:26,208 for real improvement, we should, quote, 217 01:06:26,416 --> 01:06:27,416 "want to solve the 218 01:06:27,416 --> 01:06:29,333 chronic underlying problems 219 01:06:29,916 --> 01:06:31,208 and focus on the principles 220 01:06:31,416 --> 01:06:33,333 that bring long-term results," end quote. 221 01:06:34,458 --> 01:06:35,541 Well, tomorrow we start 222 01:06:35,541 --> 01:06:36,875 Covey's final sub-chapter 223 01:06:36,875 --> 01:06:38,791 in chapter one, and that sub-chapter 224 01:06:38,791 --> 01:06:40,750 is called "A New Level of Thinking." 225 01:06:41,500 --> 01:06:42,375 And then after that, we 226 01:06:42,375 --> 01:06:43,583 move on to chapter two, 227 01:06:43,833 --> 01:06:45,000 which is an overview 228 01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:46,666 of Covey's seven habits. 229 01:06:47,083 --> 01:06:48,041 So be sure to join us 230 01:06:48,041 --> 01:06:48,958 again on Monday for that. 231 01:06:49,833 --> 01:06:50,708 Have a good Friday. 232 01:06:51,125 --> 01:06:52,250 Enjoy the holiday weekend 233 01:06:52,250 --> 01:06:53,750 with your family and friends, 234 01:06:54,166 --> 01:06:55,500 and thanks for joining us today. 235 01:06:55,750 --> 01:06:56,916 We'll see you back here on Monday, 236 01:06:57,208 --> 01:06:58,541 and have a fantastic day. 237 01:07:00,666 --> 01:07:02,416 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 238 01:07:02,416 --> 01:07:03,041 the Morning Serial 239 01:07:03,041 --> 01:07:04,666 podcast on the One Life 240 01:07:04,833 --> 01:07:05,666 Live It channel. 241 01:07:06,208 --> 01:07:08,125 You can find more episodes and videos by 242 01:07:08,125 --> 01:07:09,791 visiting our YouTube channel and the 243 01:07:09,791 --> 01:07:11,416 website at Shawningless 244 01:07:11,750 --> 01:07:13,916 and at Shawningless.com, where you can 245 01:07:13,916 --> 01:07:15,250 also follow our other 246 01:07:15,250 --> 01:07:16,791 podcast, the Mr. and Mrs. 247 01:07:16,791 --> 01:07:17,958 Inglis podcast and the 248 01:07:17,958 --> 01:07:18,958 Life Happens podcast. 249 01:07:19,791 --> 01:07:21,458 In these other podcasts, we'll dive 250 01:07:21,458 --> 01:07:22,833 deeper into everyday issues, 251 01:07:23,125 --> 01:07:23,875 self-improvement and 252 01:07:23,875 --> 01:07:26,375 well-being, business and finance, and we 253 01:07:26,375 --> 01:07:27,625 welcome special guests too. 254 01:07:28,125 --> 01:07:28,875 So join us. 255 01:07:28,875 --> 01:07:30,208 It'll be a good time, I promise. 256 01:07:30,916 --> 01:07:31,791 Thanks again for listening. 257 01:07:32,000 --> 01:07:33,541 Have a fantastic day and 258 01:07:33,541 --> 01:07:34,166 we'll see you tomorrow.