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Welcome Back to episode 42 of Working towards our

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Purpose. Thank you for listening and being here today. I want

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to talk about goals, but before we get into that, I

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do want to have a little intro, talk about what I'm excited about, you

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know, in this week. I think I've kind of already done that in the

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other episodes, but for whatever reason today I was thinking about it and I was

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like, oh, that's like a nice way to start a podcast. Talk about something

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that I'm excited about and, you know, something positive. So,

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yeah, I think I'll make that like a reoccurring sort of

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intro segment. But for this week, a couple things I'm excited

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about. As I mentioned last week, my friend Michael Shawn

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is having his studio, Unison Studios in North Haven

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open and today is an open house.

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So I will be there all afternoon kind of hanging out and,

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you know, hopefully people will be coming by and trying to check out the

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space and I'll be showing them around the space and there's some lessons going on

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and some other cool stuff. So if you happen to be in North Haven

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at, you know, anytime today, you can pop in. It's at

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36 Broadway. And there's also going to

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be a ribbon cutting ceremony at 2pm which will be fun through the

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Chamber of Commerce and, and yeah, excited to get that

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going and having in a place

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where music exists and podcasts and all things creative

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audio. So yeah, that's one thing.

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And then the second thing is I will be at a

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farmer's market on Sunday this week. And it's

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the old market that I used to manage in Edgewood park in New Haven.

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So one of my friends and vendors

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that are there, South Haven Farms, Stephanie, asked me to

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take over for her. So I will be manning the

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tent at South Haven Farms this Sunday. So if you

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want to get some produce, you can stop by and say hi to me as

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well. Definitely excited to get back into

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a farmer's market. Relished Roots

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isn't quite there yet, so this is a nice little lake in between.

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You know, one time thing that'd be fun to, to be,

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to be out in the market environment and to see the community and

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yeah, connect with a bunch of friends. So excited about that as well.

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So yeah, today I want to talk about goals because

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last Saturday I was

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going through kind of the goals that I had already set maybe a

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month or so ago and sort of refined

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them. And yeah, I think it was like a nice

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process and I just got me thinking a lot about goals and like How I've

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always treated goals and, like, thought about them. And

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I think, you know, I've always kind of hated the question, like, in

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interviews and stuff, where it's like, where do you see yourself in 10 years

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or even 5 years? Because it just seems like such

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a long period of time, and it seems almost like

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a guess, I guess, you know, where am I going to be in 10 years?

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Perhaps that's just me, but that's always

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seemed a little too far out of reach. But I would always do, like,

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yearly goals. Like, you know, New Year's comes and in late

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December, I'd always kind of think about, like, what I wanted to do, whether it

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was, like, my business or personal. I would usually have, like, both.

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And I would kind of just, like, think about them for a day and, like,

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come up with them and write them down and then kind of never look

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at them again. And it wasn't really something that was, like,

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helpful, I guess maybe it was. Maybe. I don't want to say they

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weren't helpful. They certainly, like, you know, got me

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excited about the year and, like, pointed my focus

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in a direction. But it was never. I

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never, like, used those goals to, like, accomplish them.

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Like, it was kind of just, like a chance if I. If I did accomplish

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them or if I didn't accomplish them. Um, so. So, yeah, just really thinking

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about how to, like, make goals useful, because I also

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think that they could be, like, a negative thing. I think sometimes you could think

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about, like, making goals and it's stressful and you don't want to do it,

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or it seems like something that you have to do and it's not actually helpful.

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Um, so. So yeah, so today I have, like, three

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things that could, like, help make goals useful. Like, help help you

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to accomplish your goals and to think about, like,

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what they are a little bit more. And. And so the first. The first one

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of those three little tips is taking the ego

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out of your goal. And I kind of went through this with

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one of my goals this past weekend. And so I've always

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had a goal of, like, having a music studio

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where I could, you know, I envisioned, like, this physical

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location where it was like a proper studio, and there was a bunch of equipment

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and instruments, gear, all that kind of stuff. And I can

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go there, I can make music. It'll make me feel like a

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musician. I could have people come in and record them and stuff.

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So that was one of my goals. And I really started thinking

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about, like, why do I want this goal?

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And, like, what was the thing that I really wanted.

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And I kind of thought about it for a while and I was

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thinking that the thing that I actually wanted was just to be

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making music and to be making music with friends and

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people that, you know, I admire and, like,

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value as musicians. And I don't need

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a studio to do that. And I don't know, it's kind of just like a

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switch that went off in my head and I was like, oh, yeah, I don't

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actually need a studio to do that. I have friends that have

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studios. I have friends that have spaces to be

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loud. I do all of my recording in my own apartment now,

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for the most part. So, like, why do I need a

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studio that then becomes this overhead that I then have

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to, like, find ways to support and justify

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and kind of distract myself from the real

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goal of just making music? So. So I kind of

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let that go and I was like, well, I don't. I don't think I need

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a studio anymore. And then I started thinking about, like, okay, well, what is it

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that I want? What is the goal that I,

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you know, feel like I want to do? And

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then the thing that came to mind was just like, well, what's my next project?

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And that was, like, really helpful

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to think about, like, what do I want my next musical

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project to be? And then that just became my goal. So. So,

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you know, I think last year I set a

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specific goal for music related,

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and I was like, all right, every month I'm going to write, record and release

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a song. And then every month at the end of the month, I'll release a

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single. And then by the end of the year, I'll have 12 singles. It'll be,

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you know, as many songs as an album, but I'll do the process 12

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times instead of kind of doing it one time for

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the intention of doing it

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more and getting better at it. And so far, I've been,

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like, spot on with that goal. I've released

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seven. Well, at the end of this week, my seventh song comes out,

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seventh single comes out, and I felt really good about that. And

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I think part of that goal, like, kind of

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coming true was that I made it so specific. And. And

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so I was thinking about that as I was thinking about, like, well, what's my

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next goal for music if it's not gonna be a studio and

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it's going to be a project and it's gonna be an album. I

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wanna record. I wanna record an album, but I also wanna, like, bring in

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my friends to help me. And

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yeah, I have some. I really went

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Crazy on the dreaming of it. And I think that

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I not only just want to like record an album, but I also want to

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record like a live album to accompany the album, which will basically be the

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same, you know, same songs. But I want to bring in my friends to have

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different variations of it and to do a live recording

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and to really get other people involved. I also want my

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friend Sam to produce it for me or to, you know, help

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produce. And then I started thinking about it and I was like, whoa, man,

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it'd be great if I could like pay my friends to, to do this

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work. And then I kind of went down the rabbit hole of like, okay, well

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how do we fund it? Like, how do I get funding?

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And started thinking about like, you know, labels, which,

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you know, probably unrealistic for somebody who doesn't have any following.

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But then I started thinking about like, well, what about like grants, like for

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art and like, you know, what other options are out

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there? And started getting really excited about like, how can I

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make this project like work for everybody and not just be like

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something that's for me. It is for me and it's self serving, but it's also,

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you know, getting to do cool things with the people around me.

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So. So yeah, got really excited about that goal and.

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Yeah, so I guess I would just say, you know, to get back to the

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idea of like taking the ego out of the goal. Like, I think sometimes you

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can think that you need something or think that you want something,

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but maybe you don't actually really want it. And it's just,

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you know, something that's been going around in your head for a while. I think

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I always thought like, yeah, studio is great. That's what people

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who make music have is studios. But when I really thought

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about it, I was like, do I really need this? So I guess kind of

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a process of just like really stripping down what your

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goal is and thinking about the thing that you actually want and the thing that

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actually, like, makes you excited about it. Um, so if that makes any

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sense, I think taking the ego out of the goal and thinking about

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just the, the, the physical thing that you want, like, what is the thing that

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I want from this? Um, so, so that was really helpful for, for

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that specific musical for me. Um, the

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second thing that I think could be really helpful with goals is doing them

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now. Like, like not waiting to do them. Um, like I

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mentioned earlier when I, when I used to make goals, like yearly goals,

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I would just come up with these things that I thought I wanted to do

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during the year. And I was like, yeah, you know, maybe like halfway through

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the year I'll start doing this thing, or, you know, at some point

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when I have enough time, I'll do this thing. And. And then they just

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really never end up happening because I didn't,

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I didn't have any sort of like direction with it. I just

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assumed that they would happen in the future. So I think

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something that's been really helpful for me is all the three

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goals that I came up with and I feel good about. I'm kind of

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doing them already and I think that that makes

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them so much more obtainable and you feel like

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you're kind of doing it already. And I don't know, I don't know if that

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makes sense. But I think that if you can have a goal

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that kind of just expands upon the things that you're doing now,

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um, that could be really helpful. And of course you want to, like,

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the point of goals is to like, do, you know, more things,

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bigger things. Um, but I'm. But I'm also doing that

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at the same time. So I, I guess kind of just like

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challenging what you're doing, but also kind of doing

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starting it now. Like, and even if it is a brand new goal, like maybe,

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maybe there's something that you can start right of way that's like

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super easy and a low lift. But it also gets you

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to keep thinking about that goal because I think that's part of it too, is

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to think about them more than just when

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you're creating them. So that kind of brings me to my

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third point here, which is refining your

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goals. And you know, this kind of goes hand in hand with, with

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the starting now, I guess, but refining your goals

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meaning, like, check in on them, like,

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like don't just write them down and never look at them again. I think it's

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like an active process to like look at your goals and to check in with

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them. And this, this came to my attention

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because I had written down goals about a month ago and

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that some of them felt good and some of them were just like, kind of

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arbitrary, like the studio one. But I, but I

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went through them again and looked at them and I was like, which one of

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these do I really care about? And I kind of refine them

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after a month of, you know, working towards some

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of them. And then I was really just kind of thinking about

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which ones still felt true and which ones like, I didn't really need anymore.

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So I think that that's also a really helpful thing to think about your Goals,

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it's okay to change them and to make up your mind on

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something. And, you know, for me, like, letting

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go of the studio idea, that. That seems like it's such a.

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Almost a weight off of my shoulders, because I think that I thought that that's

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what I wanted for so long. And now just being like, you know

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what? I don't. I don't really need that. That's not something that I.

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That I really care about that much. It's not to say maybe I'll

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never have one, maybe I will in the future, but right now, that's really not

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that important to me. And I think when you can, like,

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refine your goals and check back in with them and

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be, you know, like, honest with yourself, it

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can be a good process of, like, really honing in

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on what it is the goal is that you're

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trying to accomplish. So I think that's worked well for me,

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and I'll probably continue to do that. Like, maybe. Maybe I should set, like, a

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reminder once a month or something to kind of, like, check in on my goals

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and see if they still feel like good goals and, like, look at the progress

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I made and maybe how I can do more of what's working, less of what's

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not. But, yeah, I think, like,

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having your goals, like, feel good is like something that's

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new to me. I've always written down goals and been like,

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yeah, those sound great, I think, and then kind of just laid

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them aside. So, really looking forward to, like, having these

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active goals. And,

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yeah, I guess now that

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I'm thinking about my goals, maybe it's helpful to also

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say what they are, speak them out loud. I think I believe in

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accountability, and I think the more you talk about what you're

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doing, the more you can, again, refine it and

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figure out what exactly you're trying to do. So,

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yeah, first music goal for me was next year is to come out

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with an album and an accompanying live album with my friends that

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are going to play on it and, you know, all kinds of

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cool stuff there. And then the second goal, which maybe I mentioned

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before, is becoming an author. I have a goal of

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writing a book and becoming an author. And

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the third goal is to turn

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working towards our purpose, the podcast, my substack, into something

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that is a business that can sustain and support me.

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And, yeah, each of these kind of have, like, different timelines, and

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I kind of got a little bit granular with. Or. I don't know if that's

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the right word. Granular specific on, like,

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you Know, sub steps and stuff like that. And they each take,

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you know, different estimations of time. And I got really specific on it.

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Again, I think that's a really important thing for

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doing, for getting a goal to actually come true

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is to be super specific on it. Um, may.

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Maybe that's number four that I didn't have on my, on my notes here.

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Um, but. But yeah, number four being get really specific with

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your goals because the more specific you get, the easier it

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is to just, like, put in the work. And

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I think it became really easy for me to

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just do my musical for this year because I knew exactly what I

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had to do. I had to write a song, I had to, you know, get

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the arrangements and everything, record it, mix it, master it,

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publish it in a month. And every month I'm doing that. And

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I know exactly what I have to do. So just going and doing that

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becomes a lot easier because I don't have to think about what I'm doing.

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It kind of brings to mind like, the classic example of,

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like, if you're trying to work out in the morning, lay your clothes out so

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you don't have to think about it when you get up, because the more you

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think about it, the more distracted you get and the more further away

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from actually doing the goal you'll be.

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So, so yeah, fourth one would be make your goal super specific.

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obviously, goals or not, obviously. I told myself before

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this, I wasn't, I was going to stop saying that because that's a filler word

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that I keep using and I don't like using obviously. So,

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so cut that. Um, but

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yeah, to recap, you know, four

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tips to, to have your goals come true.

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it is that you really want without the outside noise of

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society or your boss or somebody else telling you what you think you

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want. Second tip would be to start

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your goals now in some small way. Uh, start all of your

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goals as, as fast as you can, as quickly as possible, just to

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keep momentum going and, and to keep thinking about them. Third

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would be to refine your goals and to keep checking in on them to see

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if they're still ring true to you or not. And it's okay to adjust them

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and to change them and to have new ones, um, and to just

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see how they feel for you and, and to be like, aware of that.

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make your goals specific. And I think the more

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specific you can make them, the easier it is to follow

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them and to make them come true.

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So yeah, hopefully this was helpful

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to think about goals and to think about what your goals are and

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yeah, challenge you maybe to come up with some goals or to think about your

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goals. If you have some already, how can you refine them?

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So yeah, just another reminder

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what I set up or set on the end of the last episode,

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you can book a free 30 minute call with me to talk about your dreams.

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There's a link in the show notes and yeah, I'd

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love to talk about things that you're excited

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about. So I love to do that. And

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yeah, I got a Google link where you can pick a time that works within

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my schedule and works for you. And then

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lastly to also follow me on substack. I think that's

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the right now the biggest way to support what I'm doing is to follow me

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on substack to share my substack. And

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yeah, that's all I got for you today. Hope you got a great week.

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Hopefully maybe I'll see you at the studio later on or at the

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market on Sunday and if not I'll see you next week on an

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episode. All right, take care of it.