The orgasm gap is one of the most documented — and least honestly discussed — realities in sexual research. In heterosexual sex, men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? 65%. And that gap isn't a body problem. It's an information and attention problem.
In Episode 29, Scott and Brittney tackle the female orgasm head-on — covering the anatomy most couples were never taught, the research on what actually works, and the conversation most heterosexual couples have never had. Scott shares what changed when he actually understood the anatomy. Brittney shares what it felt like before and after those conversations happened.
This is the episode for every man who thought he understood this — and every woman who has spent years feeling like her pleasure was optional.
In this episode:
- The orgasm gap by the numbers — and why the lesbian orgasm rate reveals everything
- The full anatomy of the clitoris — why it's nothing like what most people were taught
- Less than 10% of women orgasm from penetration alone — what that means for your sex life
- The four research-identified clitoral stimulation techniques most couples have never tried
- Why faking orgasm guarantees the gap continues — and what to do instead
- The specific behaviors most strongly associated with female orgasm
- The conversation every couple needs to have — and how to start it tonight
Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.