WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:05.535 --> 00:00:08.115 Lindsay: Welcome to the Lifting Lindsay podcast. 00:00:08.115 --> 00:00:09.465 Man, it's been a minute, guys. 00:00:09.765 --> 00:00:15.138 It has been a minute between the New Year's is always really big for 00:00:15.138 --> 00:00:16.938 everybody's health and fitness goals. 00:00:16.993 --> 00:00:22.633 I stay pretty busy around the new year, but man, this year I got hit 00:00:22.693 --> 00:00:27.523 really bad the past two weeks with a cold and just a tiny little cold guys. 00:00:28.453 --> 00:00:30.283 I get sinus infections really easy. 00:00:30.283 --> 00:00:31.543 My dad was the same way. 00:00:32.863 --> 00:00:36.883 And so a tiny little cold, doesn't matter how small it is, Alex 00:00:36.883 --> 00:00:38.533 is always like, oh my goodness. 00:00:39.013 --> 00:00:43.273 Like start using, there's this thing called the teapot that helps kinda drain 00:00:43.273 --> 00:00:48.533 sinuses and I grew up just having to use it ' cause I just get infections. 00:00:48.583 --> 00:00:50.233 My little Link is the same way. 00:00:50.803 --> 00:00:52.243 We thought it was a sinus infection. 00:00:52.243 --> 00:00:55.903 I still think he did get one, but then he also got, was hit by pink 00:00:55.903 --> 00:01:01.423 eye and then, uh, spread to my other child, and it, anyways, it's just been 00:01:01.423 --> 00:01:04.063 a crazy beginning of the new year. 00:01:04.393 --> 00:01:06.883 And do you know what I'm grateful for? 00:01:08.353 --> 00:01:12.943 I'm grateful that I don't put a whole lot of stock into the new year. 00:01:14.083 --> 00:01:14.443 Right. 00:01:15.208 --> 00:01:18.058 There are a lot of people that do, and I'm not saying that that's right or wrong. 00:01:18.328 --> 00:01:18.928 Personally. 00:01:18.928 --> 00:01:23.488 I think that there is a better way, and that is deciding that there's 00:01:23.488 --> 00:01:26.068 no perfect time to start right. 00:01:26.308 --> 00:01:33.178 The new year will not, there's nothing magical about, about it in and of itself. 00:01:33.238 --> 00:01:40.008 It, it actually won't ensure that you hit your desired outcome or goal. 00:01:40.488 --> 00:01:41.748 There's nothing special about it. 00:01:42.018 --> 00:01:44.418 Just like there's nothing special about Mondays. 00:01:45.228 --> 00:01:49.398 I mean, how many of you have heard or said, I know, I've 00:01:49.398 --> 00:01:51.858 said, oh, I'll start on Monday. 00:01:52.248 --> 00:01:55.668 Why do we think that there's something magical about Monday? 00:01:55.968 --> 00:01:58.698 Or I'll start again tomorrow. 00:02:00.078 --> 00:02:02.358 There's, there is something. 00:02:03.138 --> 00:02:08.208 I would say we have created something about a new day. 00:02:08.958 --> 00:02:15.228 It feels good, a new beginning, and we have labeled that as well, 00:02:15.233 --> 00:02:18.528 that's tomorrow a new day or Monday? 00:02:18.678 --> 00:02:22.378 A new beginning or the first day of the month or the first day of 00:02:22.378 --> 00:02:24.478 the year, we have created that. 00:02:24.478 --> 00:02:27.568 There's actually in and of itself, nothing special about it, right. 00:02:28.558 --> 00:02:37.978 In fact, I think one of my favorite moments coaching was when a client 00:02:37.978 --> 00:02:48.495 told me that they had found themselves halfway through a box of a package of 00:02:48.500 --> 00:02:51.855 Oreos, and they stopped and were like. 00:02:52.470 --> 00:02:53.310 What am I doing? 00:02:53.310 --> 00:02:57.570 You know, I, I, I think a lot of us kind of found ourselves in that moment. 00:02:57.570 --> 00:03:02.110 It doesn't have to be directly about Oreos or food. 00:03:02.650 --> 00:03:05.770 Have you ever had that happen just in life in general? 00:03:06.280 --> 00:03:10.300 You kind of had that moment, you stop and you look around and you 00:03:11.075 --> 00:03:16.540 realize where your life choices have led you, and you're like, what 00:03:17.335 --> 00:03:18.505 am I doing? 00:03:19.705 --> 00:03:21.595 I know better. 00:03:22.855 --> 00:03:24.385 I am better. 00:03:25.018 --> 00:03:27.358 Why am I doing this? 00:03:27.358 --> 00:03:30.598 Why am I my standards. 00:03:30.778 --> 00:03:32.578 Not having boundaries. 00:03:32.818 --> 00:03:37.678 Allowing this and this and that from other people or myself, right? 00:03:37.738 --> 00:03:41.848 I think that that's so common to just kind of have that aha moment. 00:03:42.988 --> 00:03:47.803 Do you know what else is so common in those aha moments to be, oh, okay. 00:03:48.088 --> 00:03:48.538 Okay. 00:03:48.718 --> 00:03:49.738 I'm gonna do better. 00:03:49.888 --> 00:03:51.418 I'll start Monday. 00:03:52.408 --> 00:03:53.458 I'll start tomorrow. 00:03:54.088 --> 00:03:54.568 I'll start. 00:03:54.658 --> 00:03:58.918 Oh, well it's December, uh, and so I'll start January 1st. 00:03:58.918 --> 00:04:05.308 I'll start the new year and we always choose this date so far in the future and, 00:04:05.398 --> 00:04:07.738 and this beautiful moment of my client. 00:04:08.968 --> 00:04:13.048 She said, it dawned on me as I'm going through this, well, 00:04:13.048 --> 00:04:14.758 I'll start again tomorrow. 00:04:14.968 --> 00:04:17.098 Today's already a wash. 00:04:17.938 --> 00:04:19.738 I'll just let you know. 00:04:19.798 --> 00:04:24.208 Keep going crazy today with foods and then I'll start again tomorrow. 00:04:25.438 --> 00:04:31.858 And she said it was this incredible moment when she realized my 00:04:31.918 --> 00:04:36.658 new beginning will start now. 00:04:38.128 --> 00:04:42.748 This very second, I don't have to continue making these poor 00:04:42.748 --> 00:04:45.372 choices for a minute longer. 00:04:46.092 --> 00:04:48.912 Not days, not months, not hour. 00:04:48.927 --> 00:04:50.712 Not a, not a minute longer. 00:04:50.892 --> 00:04:54.222 My new beginning starts now. 00:04:54.808 --> 00:04:57.748 So I was talking about this with actually somebody on Instagram, 00:04:58.335 --> 00:05:00.315 how I was a little frustrated. 00:05:00.315 --> 00:05:02.857 This isn't how I wanted my New Year's to begin. 00:05:03.967 --> 00:05:08.107 On top of it guys, my app. 00:05:08.557 --> 00:05:13.057 Oh, I mean you can imagine this, all of the excitement around the New Year's. 00:05:13.627 --> 00:05:18.427 I have all of these new signups and my app gets a massive bug in 00:05:18.432 --> 00:05:24.837 it and it is now ruining other people's massive New Year's goals. 00:05:25.767 --> 00:05:31.617 Support is working nonstop, but we can only do so much because we have 00:05:31.677 --> 00:05:39.147 hired out this company in using their app and it's just like these bugs and 00:05:39.297 --> 00:05:40.917 people couldn't get to the, oh my gosh. 00:05:40.947 --> 00:05:47.277 It was guys, it was not how I wanted to begin the new year, and I was 00:05:47.277 --> 00:05:51.357 expressing some frustration just about kind of being sick, this person didn't 00:05:51.357 --> 00:05:57.957 know all of this other stuff that I'm dealing with and personal struggles. 00:05:58.197 --> 00:06:02.247 Just getting started figuring out the in vitro process too. 00:06:03.057 --> 00:06:04.257 Heads up for you. 00:06:04.347 --> 00:06:10.107 We are doing IVF this month and I I do ask one thing. 00:06:11.157 --> 00:06:13.617 I I've had a lot of failed IVFs. 00:06:14.787 --> 00:06:20.657 I've had, uh, five miscarriages, some of them extending, us not finding 00:06:20.657 --> 00:06:23.057 out till like 13, 14 weeks out. 00:06:23.062 --> 00:06:23.417 Right? 00:06:23.937 --> 00:06:29.307 I share that we're doing one last, last IVFI have two frozen embryos. 00:06:29.877 --> 00:06:35.127 I wanna share this, this, uh, time period, but I am also going to put down boundaries 00:06:35.460 --> 00:06:40.020 that if you follow me on Instagram, or if you want to send me a message 00:06:40.020 --> 00:06:45.090 on Instagram, or an email and be like, Hey, Linds how's your in vitro going? 00:06:45.690 --> 00:06:47.850 Just know a few things about this process. 00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:52.530 It is ridiculously heavy, emotional, and hard. 00:06:53.490 --> 00:06:58.680 Um, I've also started taking hormone shots that, in and of themselves, 00:06:58.680 --> 00:07:07.050 they cause a lot of changes within the body and, uh, just emotional changes. 00:07:07.590 --> 00:07:09.570 So it is a tender time. 00:07:10.590 --> 00:07:15.227 If you are curious about what's going on with the in vitro process on 00:07:15.232 --> 00:07:19.187 Instagram, I have saved stories on it. 00:07:19.570 --> 00:07:22.570 If you haven't heard anything there, there might be a good reason. 00:07:23.080 --> 00:07:25.780 So if you want updates. 00:07:26.440 --> 00:07:27.040 Go there. 00:07:27.640 --> 00:07:27.970 Okay. 00:07:28.210 --> 00:07:33.160 Um, I just ask that you don't reach out personally and ask me, I would 00:07:33.310 --> 00:07:40.320 hate for you to be the person who, if I, I've just had so many miscarriages 00:07:40.325 --> 00:07:43.857 and IVFs and I UIs not, not workout. 00:07:44.163 --> 00:07:48.753 I would hate it if you messaged me and were like, Hey, how's it going? 00:07:49.713 --> 00:07:50.853 I'm so excited for you. 00:07:50.853 --> 00:07:51.603 This is so fun. 00:07:51.608 --> 00:07:52.203 How's it going? 00:07:52.203 --> 00:07:56.253 I'm like, well, I just found out I had a miscarriage, so this isn't so fun, right? 00:07:56.253 --> 00:08:01.150 Like, I would hate for you to feel that uncomfortableness, right? 00:08:01.240 --> 00:08:02.140 Of, oops. 00:08:02.560 --> 00:08:04.780 So just know that that's my boundary. 00:08:04.785 --> 00:08:07.630 If you, if you're, if you have questions, you're curious 00:08:07.630 --> 00:08:08.830 about it, I don't blame you. 00:08:09.100 --> 00:08:14.440 But, but, um, it under saves stories on Instagram you'll 00:08:14.440 --> 00:08:16.030 be able to see the updates. 00:08:17.110 --> 00:08:19.960 So anyways, this has been a crazy New Year's and I ha and I was 00:08:19.960 --> 00:08:22.330 talking about this isn't how I wanted to start my New Year's. 00:08:22.330 --> 00:08:26.770 And a woman wrote to me and she goes, isn't it great though that 00:08:26.860 --> 00:08:32.260 neither you nor I hold a whole lot of stock in the new year? 00:08:33.070 --> 00:08:36.220 And I just kind of laughed when I saw that message. 00:08:36.250 --> 00:08:37.930 'cause I'm like, she is so right. 00:08:38.260 --> 00:08:39.340 She is so right. 00:08:39.340 --> 00:08:40.060 I don't. 00:08:40.675 --> 00:08:41.485 At all. 00:08:41.905 --> 00:08:46.015 I mean, I, there's a little bit of it in the air just because I know a lot 00:08:46.015 --> 00:08:50.305 of people are thinking about it, and I do think it's a good time to pause 00:08:50.305 --> 00:08:56.618 and say, yeah, what, what changes do I want to see in the next 12 months? 00:08:56.798 --> 00:09:00.608 But to be honest, at the beginning of every month, I'm always like. 00:09:01.208 --> 00:09:03.368 What changes do I wanna see in the next 30 days? 00:09:03.758 --> 00:09:05.498 Or at the beginning of a quarter? 00:09:05.498 --> 00:09:07.118 What, what do I want to see? 00:09:07.118 --> 00:09:10.238 What outcomes do I wanna see at the end of this three months? 00:09:10.238 --> 00:09:15.788 I'm always thinking that way and, and I'm, I'm much like my client 00:09:16.058 --> 00:09:22.083 who believes that new beginnings can start literally right now. 00:09:23.138 --> 00:09:28.268 You don't have to wait for some magical, fictional date. 00:09:28.823 --> 00:09:35.573 Or tomorrow or Monday, or, you know, a new year or even a beginning of a quarter. 00:09:35.873 --> 00:09:41.453 I have trained myself over time to put really no stock into that. 00:09:42.323 --> 00:09:45.863 But with that being said, I do want to share that. 00:09:45.863 --> 00:09:49.478 I still do like setting outcomes. 00:09:49.748 --> 00:09:50.618 That's what I call them. 00:09:50.918 --> 00:09:53.828 I don't know why I don't call them goals. 00:09:54.398 --> 00:09:57.938 When I'm talking to other people, I usually say like, oh, I have goals. 00:09:57.938 --> 00:09:59.978 'cause that's their language that they'll understand. 00:09:59.978 --> 00:10:03.308 But, but it's funny because right in front of me right now, 00:10:04.118 --> 00:10:05.258 I have this big whiteboard. 00:10:06.188 --> 00:10:07.388 I love writing stuff down. 00:10:07.658 --> 00:10:12.698 I am a pen and paper or a marker and whiteboard kind of gal. 00:10:13.283 --> 00:10:13.973 I love it. 00:10:13.973 --> 00:10:18.923 There's something therapeutic about writing it all down and seeing it. 00:10:19.653 --> 00:10:22.623 Or maybe I feel like I'm some kind of smart scientist. 00:10:22.653 --> 00:10:23.223 I don't know. 00:10:23.223 --> 00:10:27.333 Like I'm writing it all down, writing the paths that will lead 00:10:27.333 --> 00:10:30.423 me where, but it is kinda funny 00:10:30.693 --> 00:10:37.053 right now, I do have right in front of me, I have this list of outcomes on one side. 00:10:37.713 --> 00:10:44.913 So this is how I write out my, my goals or future plans or things that I wanna see. 00:10:46.473 --> 00:10:51.093 And I don't just have it about fitness or business. 00:10:51.483 --> 00:10:53.973 I have it about family. 00:10:54.243 --> 00:10:58.773 I have it about relationships, I have it about my marriage. 00:10:59.382 --> 00:11:04.032 So I usually write this on a huge whiteboard and I, I draw a line down 00:11:04.032 --> 00:11:08.892 this center and on the right side I write out the outcomes that I wanna see. 00:11:09.162 --> 00:11:15.082 And on the left side, I write out the paths, and systems 00:11:15.492 --> 00:11:16.617 that will get me there. 00:11:17.217 --> 00:11:19.827 So I think a lot of people do this wrong. 00:11:20.637 --> 00:11:27.447 I think a lot of people think that if they have a goal and they write down 00:11:27.447 --> 00:11:32.907 their goal and every day they look at their goal that they're gonna hit it. 00:11:34.077 --> 00:11:38.247 But that is not the best approach. 00:11:38.247 --> 00:11:40.077 There's always good, better, best, right? 00:11:40.082 --> 00:11:41.127 That, that may be good. 00:11:41.607 --> 00:11:46.137 I mean, I mean, it keeps the idea of what you want right in front of 00:11:46.137 --> 00:11:52.201 you, but usually the problem isn't that somebody hasn't written down 00:11:52.651 --> 00:11:54.511 or know the outcome they want. 00:11:55.306 --> 00:11:57.736 I know a lot of people are like, I really wanna lose weight. 00:11:57.736 --> 00:11:58.696 I really wanna lose weight. 00:11:58.696 --> 00:11:59.656 I really wanna lose weight. 00:11:59.656 --> 00:12:01.966 And every day they fixate on it. 00:12:01.966 --> 00:12:03.406 Every day they think about it. 00:12:03.411 --> 00:12:05.086 In fact, it's everything they think about. 00:12:05.416 --> 00:12:10.486 And yet, every day they are no closer to the outcome than the day before. 00:12:10.491 --> 00:12:11.146 The day before. 00:12:11.146 --> 00:12:11.716 The day before. 00:12:11.716 --> 00:12:12.286 Or the day before. 00:12:12.286 --> 00:12:12.976 Or the day before. 00:12:13.306 --> 00:12:14.296 Or the year before. 00:12:14.876 --> 00:12:20.696 So writing out the outcome is just the beginning. 00:12:21.160 --> 00:12:27.100 So this month In Be Strong, which is my membership site, we have books every 00:12:27.100 --> 00:12:33.550 month, a new book that we read together and you, you don't have to participate 00:12:33.550 --> 00:12:37.390 if, if you don't want to, but I call it the Walking Book Club because I wanna 00:12:37.390 --> 00:12:42.070 encourage people, just like walk around your house, just put in an audio book. 00:12:42.530 --> 00:12:46.520 Walk around your house for a good 15 minutes, get another 1500 steps, 00:12:46.760 --> 00:12:51.260 whether that's cleaning, washing your windows, your mirrors, deep cleaning 00:12:51.260 --> 00:12:55.370 laundry, like, or just walking around your neighborhood or wherever. 00:12:55.370 --> 00:12:56.810 Right now in Utah, it's freezing. 00:12:56.810 --> 00:13:01.800 So, so I'm not going outside for my walks, but, just another 15 minutes. 00:13:02.450 --> 00:13:06.320 What I want to encourage people to do another 15 minutes of movement, and 00:13:06.320 --> 00:13:10.602 a lot of times it feels good just to pop in a, a good podcast or, a book. 00:13:10.992 --> 00:13:15.312 And so I want these to be really productive times, not just getting steps 00:13:15.312 --> 00:13:22.452 in, but choosing books that will help lead people to their highest selves. 00:13:23.112 --> 00:13:27.552 And so this month we've chosen Atomic Habits by James Clear. 00:13:27.762 --> 00:13:30.942 If you have not read that book again, I've read this book two times. 00:13:31.272 --> 00:13:35.292 This is my third time reading it, and I still have just as many aha moments as 00:13:35.292 --> 00:13:37.362 I did the first time I read this book. 00:13:37.752 --> 00:13:42.012 It is so good and I, I listened to it and I have the book. 00:13:42.502 --> 00:13:47.002 Because I like marking stuff in books, and when I'm driving to the 00:13:47.002 --> 00:13:48.502 grocery store, I'll listen to books. 00:13:48.502 --> 00:13:49.912 People often will be like, how many? 00:13:49.942 --> 00:13:50.182 How? 00:13:50.302 --> 00:13:52.072 How do you read three to four books a month? 00:13:52.402 --> 00:13:57.502 I listen to so many of them as I just like, I'll drop my kids off at school. 00:13:57.592 --> 00:13:58.582 I like talking to them. 00:13:58.732 --> 00:14:03.592 Soon as they get out of the car, pop in a good book as I'm grocery, 00:14:03.597 --> 00:14:05.482 shopping, walking, whatever. 00:14:05.602 --> 00:14:07.192 So this month is James Clear. 00:14:07.932 --> 00:14:09.282 This book is amazing guys. 00:14:09.312 --> 00:14:10.152 It is so good. 00:14:10.932 --> 00:14:12.312 And I love how he says 00:14:12.692 --> 00:14:16.227 we don't rise to the level of our goals. 00:14:16.557 --> 00:14:17.787 We fall. 00:14:18.192 --> 00:14:20.142 To the level of our systems. 00:14:20.622 --> 00:14:27.312 He has this entire section about how just having a goal doesn't get you there. 00:14:28.542 --> 00:14:33.942 You have to, and focusing all your time and energy on having that 00:14:33.947 --> 00:14:36.252 goal, not what gets you there. 00:14:36.967 --> 00:14:38.712 So I have said this a lot. 00:14:38.712 --> 00:14:40.842 I feel like people oftentimes are in a 00:14:41.847 --> 00:14:49.227 diet mind or just have a diet mindset where they fixate on fat loss so much 00:14:49.617 --> 00:14:53.857 and fixate on all the things that they need to do, but they don't do any of it. 00:14:53.887 --> 00:14:59.977 They kind of may be a little bit, but they're exhausted mentally and 00:14:59.977 --> 00:15:05.317 physically because they spend so much time thinking about the goal. 00:15:06.277 --> 00:15:10.447 And they spend so little times actually creating systems that 00:15:10.447 --> 00:15:15.007 carry them through to finally obtain the goal or the desired outcome. 00:15:15.427 --> 00:15:18.307 So systems are key. 00:15:19.297 --> 00:15:20.407 They really are. 00:15:21.227 --> 00:15:22.877 Just having the goal is not key. 00:15:23.087 --> 00:15:28.037 It's knowing the path that gets you there, and then actually following it. 00:15:28.577 --> 00:15:31.967 So in another podcast I shared 00:15:32.882 --> 00:15:37.442 that because I had somebody ask me the question, how do you keep 00:15:37.442 --> 00:15:42.842 life balance and not get too pulled into your fitness goals? 00:15:43.322 --> 00:15:46.832 And I'll let you guys listen to that whole episode. 00:15:47.442 --> 00:15:55.522 The main thing is that I have a lot of goals, not just health body goals. 00:15:56.782 --> 00:15:58.552 So that helps keep me balanced. 00:15:58.557 --> 00:15:59.572 So right now. 00:15:59.857 --> 00:16:09.187 On this whiteboard, I have family goals, what I want to really see in my family. 00:16:09.577 --> 00:16:14.767 So on the right hand side, I am, I've just spent a lot of time 00:16:14.772 --> 00:16:18.937 thinking about this and I wrote all the outcomes that I want to see. 00:16:19.597 --> 00:16:21.217 So I'm just gonna share a few of them with you. 00:16:21.937 --> 00:16:23.917 Um, just gonna kind of go down this list. 00:16:24.617 --> 00:16:27.527 I want my kids to be hard workers. 00:16:28.292 --> 00:16:34.442 I want them to learn how to do hard things with a little 00:16:34.442 --> 00:16:35.702 less complaining, to be honest. 00:16:36.542 --> 00:16:41.042 Uh, I want them to learn how to manage money and wants. 00:16:41.582 --> 00:16:46.532 There's nothing wrong with wants, but you need to learn how to manage them so 00:16:46.532 --> 00:16:48.632 that you don't get swept away by them. 00:16:49.199 --> 00:16:51.029 I want them to learn how to 00:16:52.499 --> 00:16:56.879 read the scriptures and actually learn the language of the scriptures. 00:16:57.489 --> 00:17:05.499 I want them to feel safe and loved in expressing their emotions. 00:17:05.829 --> 00:17:08.439 No thought, no emotion is off limits. 00:17:08.919 --> 00:17:13.329 They can express those things to me and they find safety with me. 00:17:13.794 --> 00:17:17.694 Oh man, guys, that one, we could have a whole episode in 00:17:17.694 --> 00:17:19.794 and of itself about that one. 00:17:20.304 --> 00:17:24.444 Um, I want them to eat healthier with less sugar. 00:17:24.817 --> 00:17:28.987 I'm not an anti-sugar person, but do you know how fricking hard it is? 00:17:29.432 --> 00:17:34.922 Our kids are just inundated with sugar? 00:17:35.867 --> 00:17:41.567 Even those who don't, like my sister went through a three month sugar fast 00:17:41.597 --> 00:17:43.757 with her kids, no processed sugar. 00:17:43.757 --> 00:17:44.447 They could have fruit. 00:17:45.077 --> 00:17:48.917 That was the extent she really wanted to just kind of clear out their palate. 00:17:48.917 --> 00:17:55.157 And I get that because if you're used to high sugar everything, then 00:17:55.157 --> 00:17:57.857 that's what your palette is used to. 00:17:58.307 --> 00:18:00.707 And other sweets won't taste as sweet. 00:18:00.917 --> 00:18:05.897 My brother went to Japan for two years on a service mission, and 00:18:05.897 --> 00:18:11.341 when he came back he brought some Japanese candy and I tried it and I 00:18:11.346 --> 00:18:13.561 was like, that is not sweet at all. 00:18:13.591 --> 00:18:15.061 It, it's not bad. 00:18:15.061 --> 00:18:16.741 It tastes good, but it's not sweet. 00:18:16.746 --> 00:18:18.871 Like this isn't, to me, it wasn't candy. 00:18:19.141 --> 00:18:25.006 And then my brother, after two years of eating only, you know, food from Japan. 00:18:25.546 --> 00:18:31.756 He had a candy bar and he was like, oh my gosh, this is, he 00:18:31.756 --> 00:18:34.696 was like, this is way too sweet. 00:18:34.966 --> 00:18:38.326 It was the funniest thing ever, just because he wasn't used to it anymore. 00:18:38.846 --> 00:18:40.736 Children and sugar, it's hard. 00:18:41.456 --> 00:18:46.436 I'm actually really glad that our kids go to the schools that they do right now. 00:18:46.796 --> 00:18:49.136 Two of them go to a school called Challenger. 00:18:49.141 --> 00:18:55.016 And Challenger is very much like we don't reward kids with candy. 00:18:55.196 --> 00:18:58.386 We don't do that for a lot of reasons. 00:18:59.136 --> 00:19:04.176 One of the main reasons is they need to learn to start doing hard things, 00:19:04.746 --> 00:19:06.846 feeling accomplished. 00:19:07.176 --> 00:19:09.276 We want them to feel accomplished. 00:19:09.276 --> 00:19:16.026 We want them to do things on their own and get that feeling of independence 00:19:16.026 --> 00:19:21.486 like that leads to a lot of self-confidence and, um, we don't want 00:19:21.486 --> 00:19:24.996 them doing things right to get sugar. 00:19:25.086 --> 00:19:26.016 To get candy. 00:19:26.226 --> 00:19:33.066 I was so grateful for that because two years ago my kids went to another school 00:19:33.411 --> 00:19:37.837 close by and this teacher, she was just doing her best. 00:19:37.867 --> 00:19:38.287 Okay. 00:19:38.617 --> 00:19:39.877 She was just doing her best. 00:19:40.207 --> 00:19:44.077 I didn't agree with it, but she, but I, I, I really do. 00:19:45.517 --> 00:19:47.347 Uh, my heart reaches out to teachers. 00:19:47.347 --> 00:19:48.967 They're just trying their best. 00:19:48.967 --> 00:19:49.507 I get it. 00:19:49.954 --> 00:19:55.744 but her thing was, I'm gonna have this huge bag of candy and I'm gonna ask a 00:19:55.744 --> 00:19:58.894 question and whoever raises their hand and says it right, I'll give you candy. 00:19:59.434 --> 00:20:03.514 Well, my daughter is the one who's like front and center raising her 00:20:03.514 --> 00:20:06.814 hand for every single question. 00:20:06.994 --> 00:20:08.824 She's literally eating sugar all day long. 00:20:08.824 --> 00:20:11.314 And I, it drove me nuts. 00:20:11.734 --> 00:20:17.254 It drove me nuts because then they go to church on the weekends and the church 00:20:17.254 --> 00:20:21.014 teachers feel like they need to provide a treat at the end of every lesson. 00:20:21.014 --> 00:20:27.074 I'm like, you don't, you don't need to just like, why can't we just teach 00:20:27.074 --> 00:20:33.624 our children to good do good, to listen because it has its own rewards. 00:20:34.674 --> 00:20:39.204 We don't need to use candy as this reward system. 00:20:40.014 --> 00:20:41.844 It drives me nuts, guys. 00:20:41.844 --> 00:20:42.294 Okay? 00:20:42.744 --> 00:20:45.684 As I'm sure you can feel that over this podcast. 00:20:45.964 --> 00:20:49.444 The two other things that I have on that outcome list for my children 00:20:49.444 --> 00:20:51.724 is wanna teach them to serve others. 00:20:52.549 --> 00:20:55.789 I want their worldview to expand. 00:20:56.419 --> 00:20:59.269 So I have this whole list. 00:20:59.269 --> 00:21:04.409 Now these are relatively vague outcomes, right? 00:21:05.099 --> 00:21:09.479 How do you measure my children's worldview expanding? 00:21:10.229 --> 00:21:15.479 How do you measure that they, you know, have served enough or know to 00:21:15.479 --> 00:21:17.219 serve or all of these things, right? 00:21:17.459 --> 00:21:19.829 But these are general outcomes. 00:21:20.549 --> 00:21:23.879 That I want, and I know that these things take time. 00:21:25.079 --> 00:21:32.279 So what I'm going to focus on are the paths and the systems 00:21:32.699 --> 00:21:34.139 that will get them there. 00:21:34.569 --> 00:21:41.739 So on the left hand side, I have these paths that they're going to 00:21:42.819 --> 00:21:50.799 daily, weekly, monthly, be working towards that will in and of themselves 00:21:50.889 --> 00:21:54.549 naturally lead to the desired outcome. 00:21:55.209 --> 00:21:59.649 You know, one of the things when I do like one-on-one calls, or when 00:21:59.649 --> 00:22:06.374 I do my weekly live calls with Be Strong membership, um, users. 00:22:07.454 --> 00:22:14.219 Uh, one of the things that I repeat the most often is like, what are your systems? 00:22:14.819 --> 00:22:16.499 What systems do you have in place? 00:22:17.609 --> 00:22:23.399 And all last month we had about four lessons go out on systems. 00:22:24.099 --> 00:22:28.179 And this month we're now doing that even more because this month's goal 00:22:28.179 --> 00:22:33.579 is becoming the master of protein, but we've got to get systems in place. 00:22:34.254 --> 00:22:41.064 They might be hard at first, but true systems turn into autopilot. 00:22:41.779 --> 00:22:47.419 So it, it takes a lot of effort at first, but once you get that 00:22:47.449 --> 00:22:54.589 habit and system in a few months, it's just on autopilot and it just 00:22:54.589 --> 00:22:56.629 naturally leads you to the outcome. 00:22:57.799 --> 00:23:03.019 And I've been thinking a lot about this, these systems and also like 00:23:03.139 --> 00:23:05.179 what is the low hanging fruit? 00:23:06.349 --> 00:23:09.499 What can I just change by 1% today? 00:23:09.499 --> 00:23:09.559 I. 00:23:10.669 --> 00:23:13.639 And then in a few weeks change by another 1%. 00:23:13.819 --> 00:23:16.849 Then in a few weeks change by another 1%. 00:23:17.089 --> 00:23:21.889 It's like once you get a new system in place, then you kind of add a little bit 00:23:21.889 --> 00:23:27.919 more on top, and this becomes a natural path that turns things on autopilot 00:23:28.459 --> 00:23:32.089 to now I just have this healthy life. 00:23:33.544 --> 00:23:36.964 And a lot of times people will be like, well, how do you get from where you were? 00:23:36.964 --> 00:23:37.504 Lindsay? 00:23:37.804 --> 00:23:44.764 Eating chocolate and cheese, no concept of health and nutrition beyond 00:23:44.764 --> 00:23:46.234 what other people think are healthy. 00:23:46.239 --> 00:23:46.534 Right? 00:23:46.534 --> 00:23:51.364 The the green juice drinks and all of that like. 00:23:52.144 --> 00:23:55.024 People sometimes have a weird sense of what, what's healthy. 00:23:55.534 --> 00:23:59.554 Um, but what's healthy is creating these systems that just turn 00:23:59.554 --> 00:24:04.474 on autopilot that lead you over time to your desired outcome. 00:24:06.064 --> 00:24:09.994 And so that's what I've been focusing a lot on and as I've been looking at 00:24:09.999 --> 00:24:12.904 my family, what are these systems? 00:24:12.904 --> 00:24:18.214 What can we change by 1% today that will have that incredible 00:24:18.724 --> 00:24:20.944 outcome in five years? 00:24:22.624 --> 00:24:27.544 So on that left hand side is, is where I am I'm doing all of that. 00:24:28.174 --> 00:24:31.414 Let's actually talk about the eating healthy with minimal sugar. 00:24:32.219 --> 00:24:37.199 Recently I had a woman write in on Be Strong where they can ask 00:24:37.199 --> 00:24:40.229 me questions and she's like, I'm, I'm just really frustrated. 00:24:40.432 --> 00:24:44.002 I've come to this really good place with food, having a 00:24:44.002 --> 00:24:45.382 better relationship with it. 00:24:45.772 --> 00:24:49.852 Um, better systems, but, but my family is struggling and my kids don't eat 00:24:49.852 --> 00:24:54.952 healthy and, and I, we don't want our kids to sit there and track macros, 00:24:55.402 --> 00:24:57.442 like, let's, that'd be like weird. 00:24:57.442 --> 00:24:59.242 Like we're not gonna have them do that. 00:25:00.292 --> 00:25:05.212 But we still want them to be fueling their body, right, getting nutrients 00:25:05.212 --> 00:25:07.582 and not eating all the sugar. 00:25:07.912 --> 00:25:15.262 And, and we, we also know the negative impacts that it can have 00:25:15.267 --> 00:25:22.372 with food relationship issues and even body issues by over emphasizing 00:25:22.372 --> 00:25:26.272 like, sugar bad, that's bad for you. 00:25:26.272 --> 00:25:27.742 That's a toxin. 00:25:27.742 --> 00:25:37.192 Like that type of talk is actually showing some pretty negative outcomes. 00:25:38.032 --> 00:25:44.482 People who talk that way tend to have bad relationships with food, body dysmorphia, 00:25:44.722 --> 00:25:51.562 bad relationship with, um, working out, um, over utilizing those things. 00:25:51.742 --> 00:25:55.942 So, we want to make sure that we're teaching our children while 00:25:55.942 --> 00:25:58.492 keeping a healthy mindset, right? 00:25:59.122 --> 00:26:02.122 I have had those same frustrations with my children. 00:26:02.362 --> 00:26:09.442 They're, why would they come home and eat a relatively healthy meal when literally 00:26:09.502 --> 00:26:15.502 all day long my daughter is getting sugar from her teacher for answering questions? 00:26:15.502 --> 00:26:15.802 Right? 00:26:17.647 --> 00:26:21.787 So, so why would she then eat her lunch? 00:26:21.877 --> 00:26:26.767 The healthy lunch that I pack her, she, she's not even that hungry 00:26:27.517 --> 00:26:34.807 because she, she's just been eating sugar all the way up to lunchtime. 00:26:35.347 --> 00:26:37.597 So then she barely nibbles on lunch. 00:26:38.317 --> 00:26:43.777 The rose, it all away goes to waste, goes back to her classroom, where 00:26:43.777 --> 00:26:45.607 once again, she's getting candy. 00:26:46.777 --> 00:26:54.367 Um, and then comes home, wants a treat because food is now just treats. 00:26:55.567 --> 00:26:57.877 And I, it's, it was really hard. 00:26:57.877 --> 00:27:01.897 I was so grateful when we sent her to Challenger and they're 00:27:01.897 --> 00:27:05.947 even like, if it's your child's birthday, don't send candy and sugar. 00:27:05.947 --> 00:27:12.132 So believe me when I say I have dealt with these frustrations now earlier, mid, uh, 00:27:12.242 --> 00:27:20.347 last year, I we had made a lot of really positive changes and it was so awesome. 00:27:20.347 --> 00:27:26.257 We were seeing our kids finally sit down and eat healthy meals and 00:27:26.262 --> 00:27:31.207 dinners and not have to have, uh, treats and sweetss all day long. 00:27:31.537 --> 00:27:35.617 We had made these changes and I'll share a lot of those changes with you today. 00:27:36.147 --> 00:27:41.267 But then, the holidays came and we started traveling a lot too. 00:27:41.657 --> 00:27:45.837 So we had Halloween, and we were on a cruise, and then 00:27:45.837 --> 00:27:47.247 we came back for Halloween. 00:27:47.247 --> 00:27:50.367 And then there were a few Halloween parties before that. 00:27:50.417 --> 00:27:56.327 Thanksgiving we ended up traveling for around, uh, Thanksgiving time too. 00:27:56.537 --> 00:28:01.227 And then we had Christmas where, you know, tons of daily treats were 00:28:01.227 --> 00:28:02.607 being brought over by neighbors. 00:28:02.967 --> 00:28:06.477 And I usually love all of that and that's fine. 00:28:06.477 --> 00:28:11.127 I love showing my children like, you can just take a few, you don't 00:28:11.127 --> 00:28:12.567 have to eat all of them, right? 00:28:12.807 --> 00:28:17.787 But all of a sudden my house is just full of all of this candy and I feel like 00:28:17.792 --> 00:28:19.917 I'm pretty good at navigating myself. 00:28:20.292 --> 00:28:23.952 Around that, but my children have let yet to learn that. 00:28:24.732 --> 00:28:28.242 And so a lot of times what parents will do is they'll use fear like, 00:28:28.302 --> 00:28:29.682 oh, that's evil, that's bad. 00:28:29.682 --> 00:28:30.972 Sugar's bad, don't do that. 00:28:31.362 --> 00:28:35.022 Or they're, they're on the other side of the spectrum where they're so scared of 00:28:35.022 --> 00:28:39.582 their child developing some type of eating disorder or feeling bad about themselves, 00:28:39.852 --> 00:28:41.532 and so they won't even talk about it. 00:28:41.532 --> 00:28:41.862 Right? 00:28:41.862 --> 00:28:43.392 We have to fall somewhere in the middle. 00:28:44.112 --> 00:28:49.472 But what I noticed is even having a little bit of these treats, my children they 00:28:49.472 --> 00:28:50.942 didn't have a healthy approach to it. 00:28:51.709 --> 00:28:53.569 And so I knew what we had to do. 00:28:53.569 --> 00:28:59.909 We had to go back to what we had established earlier on that year. 00:29:01.109 --> 00:29:02.729 So let me go through that. 00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:11.219 Now, I did go through and I got rid of all of the treats the day after Christmas. 00:29:11.579 --> 00:29:14.579 All of them, and I talked about this on Instagram and some people 00:29:14.579 --> 00:29:15.959 were saying, wait, wait, wait, wait. 00:29:15.959 --> 00:29:20.369 But you teach that um, these were genuine questions. 00:29:20.369 --> 00:29:23.129 I don't think anybody was coming at me and, and rightfully so good 00:29:23.134 --> 00:29:24.899 questions saying, wait, wait, wait. 00:29:25.109 --> 00:29:28.559 But how do you teach navigating around treats if you're just getting 00:29:28.559 --> 00:29:32.049 rid of all of them and, I'm like, look, I'm really good at navigating 00:29:32.049 --> 00:29:33.699 around it, but my kids aren't. 00:29:34.029 --> 00:29:38.169 And right now their palate has actually changed over the past three 00:29:38.169 --> 00:29:41.499 months to all they want is sugar. 00:29:42.134 --> 00:29:47.594 If it's not really high sugar, then it doesn't quote unquote taste good. 00:29:48.014 --> 00:29:54.374 Literally, my 4-year-old was telling me that, like those were his words, saying, 00:29:54.584 --> 00:29:58.514 if it's not sugar, it doesn't taste good. 00:29:58.514 --> 00:30:00.194 I don't want it for dinner. 00:30:01.184 --> 00:30:05.024 There were some, within just a few months, we had fallen 00:30:05.024 --> 00:30:07.424 right back into this rutt, so. 00:30:07.867 --> 00:30:13.897 I went back to the system that was working really, really, really well. 00:30:14.797 --> 00:30:19.357 So the first thing is I changed our environment. 00:30:20.347 --> 00:30:28.522 I had to get rid of everything, not because I think it's evil or bad, but 00:30:28.852 --> 00:30:35.422 the environment was not setting my children up for success because they 00:30:35.422 --> 00:30:37.552 don't know how to work that environment. 00:30:38.272 --> 00:30:41.122 I think this is kind of a common sense principle, right? 00:30:41.962 --> 00:30:47.212 You're not gonna give your eight-year-old child a cell 00:30:47.212 --> 00:30:51.382 phone with access to everything. 00:30:52.207 --> 00:30:55.087 All the social media they want all the YouTube, they 00:30:55.087 --> 00:30:56.497 want all the TikTok they want. 00:30:56.497 --> 00:30:58.597 I mean, we're really not gonna do that, right? 00:30:58.957 --> 00:31:02.677 We're not gonna do that because there is an environment on there that 00:31:02.677 --> 00:31:06.397 they don't know how to navigate yet. 00:31:07.147 --> 00:31:12.157 So my children personally don't have phones and, and won't have phones. 00:31:12.427 --> 00:31:13.117 Intel. 00:31:13.657 --> 00:31:18.667 Both they and I are in a place where, uh. 00:31:19.402 --> 00:31:24.682 We can put in a lot of time and energy into the educational process and slowly 00:31:24.862 --> 00:31:29.542 introduce different environments and how to be healthy in those environments. 00:31:29.782 --> 00:31:30.832 So that was my thing. 00:31:31.042 --> 00:31:34.582 I need to get rid of this current environment. 00:31:35.182 --> 00:31:40.137 I need to change it, and so that there's really no treats. 00:31:41.392 --> 00:31:46.462 And I need to help them kind of clear out that desire of 00:31:46.462 --> 00:31:48.502 wanting just sugar all day long. 00:31:49.282 --> 00:31:54.412 We, we need to kind of step away from sugar as much as we can right now. 00:31:56.062 --> 00:31:59.092 And so that was step number one. 00:31:59.662 --> 00:32:06.412 Step number two was to get rid of all treats, like all bars, all 00:32:06.412 --> 00:32:10.222 just like little really sweet. 00:32:11.152 --> 00:32:18.712 Treats, um, and get them, if they came to me saying they wanted a snack, 00:32:18.717 --> 00:32:21.172 I said, you can have some fruit. 00:32:22.402 --> 00:32:23.062 That was it. 00:32:23.662 --> 00:32:28.762 Because another problem is they were trying and they would sneak into the 00:32:28.762 --> 00:32:33.712 cupboard too and get all of these snacks and everything, and then 00:32:33.712 --> 00:32:36.772 they wouldn't want to eat dinner. 00:32:37.102 --> 00:32:39.562 Or I'd be like, yeah, you can have that snack. 00:32:39.772 --> 00:32:43.402 So then they just kind of freely ate and then they would barely 00:32:43.402 --> 00:32:46.942 touch dinner, and then half an hour later be like, well, I'm hungry. 00:32:46.942 --> 00:32:49.852 Well, yeah, of course they're not going to eat their meals. 00:32:50.212 --> 00:32:52.102 They were snacking all day long. 00:32:52.927 --> 00:32:57.487 So I decided I'm gonna show them what I do right now with my own clients. 00:32:57.877 --> 00:33:05.197 Eat large meals, large nutrient-dense meals, minimize all snacking. 00:33:05.797 --> 00:33:09.967 So I'm going to introduce to my children what I do for myself 00:33:10.327 --> 00:33:11.827 and my clients right now. 00:33:12.397 --> 00:33:16.657 So I got rid of all of those, all chips. 00:33:17.737 --> 00:33:19.892 Now I did keep my popcorners. 00:33:20.430 --> 00:33:25.550 They're not sweet and they don't have that same satisfaction as 00:33:25.550 --> 00:33:29.570 regular chips where you can just keep eating, eating, eating, eating. 00:33:29.810 --> 00:33:31.460 A lot of them are not like that. 00:33:31.460 --> 00:33:33.200 The ones that we have in our home aren't. 00:33:33.500 --> 00:33:39.690 And so I kept those and my children could take those to school. 00:33:39.870 --> 00:33:43.620 Those were not a snack to be had at home. 00:33:43.980 --> 00:33:48.660 So then I put them on a schedule of meals. 00:33:48.660 --> 00:33:50.130 We have breakfast. 00:33:50.640 --> 00:33:55.560 You go to school, you eat the lunch, you come back. 00:33:55.860 --> 00:34:01.050 We can have a meal when you get back from school 'cause they're usually hungry. 00:34:01.500 --> 00:34:04.200 So this is kind of like a smaller meal. 00:34:04.380 --> 00:34:08.690 You could call it a snack, but it's something that's gonna be large 00:34:08.690 --> 00:34:11.060 enough to hold them till dinner. 00:34:11.710 --> 00:34:15.970 And if in between that they still want something, we always 00:34:15.970 --> 00:34:17.260 tell them you can have fruit. 00:34:18.130 --> 00:34:22.150 And then after dinner, if they're like, oh, I, I, I'm still hungry. 00:34:22.180 --> 00:34:23.860 You should have had more dinner. 00:34:24.310 --> 00:34:25.390 You can have fruit. 00:34:26.200 --> 00:34:29.200 Since we've done this before, the children just kind of knew. 00:34:29.470 --> 00:34:31.000 We talked to 'em about this. 00:34:31.300 --> 00:34:35.860 Explained why we were doing it, and which really, really helped. 00:34:36.270 --> 00:34:37.470 We are getting on board. 00:34:37.920 --> 00:34:39.900 I am loving it. 00:34:40.410 --> 00:34:45.660 We are back to our children eating meals. 00:34:46.120 --> 00:34:47.740 I do wanna talk about one other thing. 00:34:48.170 --> 00:34:54.290 What do I do as far as vegetables, because I have kids that don't like vegetables. 00:34:54.290 --> 00:34:58.970 To be completely honest, I'm, I'm not a huge vegetable eater. 00:34:58.975 --> 00:35:00.860 I don't really enjoy them. 00:35:01.220 --> 00:35:05.240 Um, I do it more because like, I know I need to eat it, but that's really 00:35:05.245 --> 00:35:06.890 hard to have your kids do that. 00:35:08.090 --> 00:35:13.190 So, as far as greens and vegetables and, and try like, think what is the 00:35:13.190 --> 00:35:16.490 purpose of having greens and vegetables? 00:35:17.255 --> 00:35:23.195 The purpose is, in my opinion, to give your, your children variety in their diet. 00:35:24.215 --> 00:35:26.585 Uh, so I will have it on the table. 00:35:27.455 --> 00:35:29.435 If they eat it great. 00:35:29.465 --> 00:35:31.805 I try to at least encourage them to try it. 00:35:32.495 --> 00:35:36.125 But the other main reason is because we want them to have the, the 00:35:36.125 --> 00:35:39.065 nutrients and the vitamins, right? 00:35:40.115 --> 00:35:43.805 Well, fruit also has nutrients and vitamins. 00:35:44.265 --> 00:35:48.675 They may not have as much as vegetables, but they still have 00:35:48.680 --> 00:35:50.799 'em and they have antioxidants. 00:35:51.489 --> 00:35:59.229 And so I will now put fruit on the table for every dinner. 00:35:59.979 --> 00:36:05.709 I love watching my children just eat, uh, a serving of 00:36:05.769 --> 00:36:07.869 the, the meal that I have and. 00:36:08.694 --> 00:36:16.584 Gobble up their grapes or the, the cantaloupe or the bananas or the 00:36:16.584 --> 00:36:21.534 strawberries or the blueberries or the raspberries, like I feel like, do you 00:36:21.534 --> 00:36:24.504 know what, at least they are getting nutrients and vitamins from there. 00:36:25.224 --> 00:36:29.964 I have other children who will have three servings of greens. 00:36:30.804 --> 00:36:34.404 Two days ago, green beans, my daughter Elsie, three servings 00:36:34.404 --> 00:36:35.634 of them, she loved them. 00:36:36.234 --> 00:36:41.514 My other daughter won't touch them, and so I'm like, do you know? 00:36:41.544 --> 00:36:45.624 I'm just grateful she is eating these blueberries and 00:36:45.624 --> 00:36:47.694 raspberries with her dinner. 00:36:47.814 --> 00:36:47.844 I. 00:36:48.879 --> 00:36:53.889 So that's something that I've started doing is if the goal really is to 00:36:53.889 --> 00:36:57.999 help them get more nutrients to help them get more variety in their diet, 00:36:58.239 --> 00:37:00.579 we can do that through fruits too. 00:37:00.949 --> 00:37:07.249 We'll be encouraging healthy whole foods still, right? 00:37:07.849 --> 00:37:10.969 Um, so that's one thing that I've started doing. 00:37:10.979 --> 00:37:14.009 Another thing that I've started doing is asking them like, 00:37:14.069 --> 00:37:16.169 what kind of meals do you like? 00:37:16.439 --> 00:37:17.399 What do you prefer? 00:37:17.609 --> 00:37:19.979 And getting their input. 00:37:20.729 --> 00:37:26.879 So as I get their input, then I take that and I make healthier versions. 00:37:27.179 --> 00:37:31.019 Sometimes it's a hit and a success, and sometimes it's not. 00:37:31.829 --> 00:37:36.149 But I have stopped making more than one meal. 00:37:37.454 --> 00:37:41.774 I, I don't know if, if you've ever done this before, but your 00:37:41.774 --> 00:37:43.994 children won't eat the meal. 00:37:44.384 --> 00:37:48.734 And so I told them, fine, then go and make your own chicken nuggets, 00:37:48.734 --> 00:37:50.144 then just get something to eat. 00:37:51.104 --> 00:37:52.634 I'm not gonna make another meal. 00:37:52.957 --> 00:37:55.417 And I thought that that was a good step in the right direction, which I think 00:37:55.417 --> 00:38:00.607 it was making them like make their own, like if you want something else, then 00:38:00.637 --> 00:38:03.157 you can, but I'm not making another meal. 00:38:03.607 --> 00:38:04.057 Well. 00:38:04.732 --> 00:38:05.992 I finally stopped doing that. 00:38:06.352 --> 00:38:11.422 I, I finally realized I am training them or they are training me, 00:38:12.112 --> 00:38:14.992 actually, and we are wasting food. 00:38:15.832 --> 00:38:20.722 So I stopped doing that and I started telling 'em like, there are 00:38:20.727 --> 00:38:25.372 meals that I make that I'm like, Ooh, I'm not a big fan of this. 00:38:25.972 --> 00:38:26.782 I don't like it. 00:38:26.782 --> 00:38:28.312 I'm not gonna make it again. 00:38:29.002 --> 00:38:32.722 But it's the food that we have and so I will. 00:38:33.187 --> 00:38:40.237 Eat it and I'll, I have sides that I can enjoy too, but I have stopped 00:38:40.867 --> 00:38:48.067 saying it's okay to get another meal and everything's a battle at first. 00:38:48.757 --> 00:38:49.447 Everything. 00:38:50.197 --> 00:38:53.917 If you think that your kids are gonna be like, okay, mom, sounds great, 00:38:53.917 --> 00:38:57.967 then you are in for disappointment and high levels of frustration. 00:38:58.402 --> 00:38:59.722 It's just not gonna happen. 00:39:00.202 --> 00:39:01.762 They're, they're gonna fight you. 00:39:02.362 --> 00:39:05.032 And, and it's not that that's a bad thing. 00:39:05.932 --> 00:39:07.492 They're pushing boundaries. 00:39:08.122 --> 00:39:11.332 That's actually part of maturing and growing. 00:39:12.262 --> 00:39:13.702 That's how the brain works. 00:39:13.702 --> 00:39:18.112 I'm gonna push to see what I can get, kind of thing. 00:39:18.172 --> 00:39:18.952 You do it. 00:39:19.582 --> 00:39:22.852 Maybe the tactics are a little different than your children's, but you still do it. 00:39:23.977 --> 00:39:28.057 So we can't be upset with our children doing something that's actually natural 00:39:28.057 --> 00:39:32.227 for human development, but we can decide to be the parent and we can 00:39:32.232 --> 00:39:37.987 decide to be the adult and not let them and, and hold your ground and say, no. 00:39:38.617 --> 00:39:42.067 Now what I've just shared may not work for a lot of people. 00:39:42.457 --> 00:39:45.937 And some people may be like, oh, that's gonna, that'll, that'll be great. 00:39:46.657 --> 00:39:47.827 Remember what I said? 00:39:48.127 --> 00:39:51.997 Everything is about trying something out, seeing what works, what 00:39:51.997 --> 00:39:53.347 doesn't, and learning how to pivot. 00:39:53.697 --> 00:39:54.027 Okay? 00:39:54.267 --> 00:39:59.660 The same is true with your children, but you cannot try something once and then be 00:39:59.665 --> 00:40:01.100 like, oh, it didn't work for my family. 00:40:01.777 --> 00:40:02.347 Seriously? 00:40:02.347 --> 00:40:04.897 That's like eating one salad and being like, what? 00:40:04.897 --> 00:40:07.807 Well, I didn't lose weight, so doesn't work. 00:40:08.117 --> 00:40:10.937 You have to be consistent. 00:40:11.175 --> 00:40:12.255 That is the most important thing. 00:40:12.255 --> 00:40:18.255 So let me just kind of go over a quick list of just kind of what 00:40:18.255 --> 00:40:21.195 I've already talked about, just main takeaways on this subject. 00:40:22.575 --> 00:40:27.435 The quick list of what has stuck before, and then we kind of got out of it because 00:40:27.435 --> 00:40:28.995 of holidays and everything and travel. 00:40:29.115 --> 00:40:31.935 And now going back to it, it's feeling really good. 00:40:31.935 --> 00:40:34.485 I mean, it feels so good yesterday. 00:40:35.430 --> 00:40:39.540 I made dinner and, and we're talking about healthy, it was lasagna, 00:40:40.560 --> 00:40:43.860 35 grams of protein per serving. 00:40:44.910 --> 00:40:50.400 And because we had been putting our foot down and not allowing them to 00:40:50.400 --> 00:40:53.130 snack all day, and if they wanted to snack, then I would cut up 00:40:53.160 --> 00:40:55.290 some, they could have some carrots. 00:40:55.620 --> 00:40:58.050 They could have some apples. 00:40:58.200 --> 00:40:59.700 And I just put my foot down on that. 00:41:00.570 --> 00:41:03.240 And um, and so when they sat down. 00:41:03.735 --> 00:41:05.805 They were actually hungry for the meal. 00:41:06.585 --> 00:41:09.705 My daughter, Elsie, ate three servings. 00:41:10.515 --> 00:41:12.345 Hazel and Link had two. 00:41:13.215 --> 00:41:17.274 And then afterwards, probably about an hour and a half right before 00:41:17.279 --> 00:41:19.434 bed, they were like, no, I'm hungry. 00:41:19.434 --> 00:41:21.204 It was probably two hours right before bed. 00:41:21.209 --> 00:41:21.984 Oh, I'm hungry. 00:41:22.614 --> 00:41:27.654 And he said, okay, then we'll cut up an apple or let me cut up some fruit. 00:41:28.914 --> 00:41:29.964 That's what we had. 00:41:30.714 --> 00:41:32.754 So let me go through this, this quick list. 00:41:33.114 --> 00:41:34.734 Fruit at every dinner. 00:41:34.974 --> 00:41:38.874 Like that has really worked for my kids to get them more nutrients, more variety. 00:41:39.754 --> 00:41:43.169 Two, they help me choose the recipe. 00:41:43.829 --> 00:41:45.179 I even show them pictures. 00:41:45.959 --> 00:41:49.799 Um, and then I also get feedback on whether it's a keeper or not. 00:41:50.879 --> 00:41:56.789 And it's interesting because the longer they stay away from the highly processed 00:41:56.789 --> 00:42:03.749 foods and treats and snacks, the more they say yes to the healthier food options. 00:42:04.669 --> 00:42:09.619 But also I really do try to hear what they have to say. 00:42:09.979 --> 00:42:12.469 Like, they really like hamburgers. 00:42:12.679 --> 00:42:19.489 So once a week we have hamburgers and I make them out of 96% lean ground beef. 00:42:19.579 --> 00:42:20.719 It's nothing fancy. 00:42:21.439 --> 00:42:23.539 Just season them up, grill them up. 00:42:23.749 --> 00:42:25.819 We have that once a week and they're so excited. 00:42:25.819 --> 00:42:28.849 They, they all love their hamburgers. 00:42:28.969 --> 00:42:29.179 Okay. 00:42:29.179 --> 00:42:36.079 So, so I really do take their feedback and I love even getting on Pinterest, 00:42:36.079 --> 00:42:37.694 and they really like chicken nuggets. 00:42:38.204 --> 00:42:45.614 Well bare chicken nuggets are actually really good, and we air fry them 00:42:45.614 --> 00:42:51.254 so they can have their, you know, chicken nuggets once a week and I'll 00:42:51.254 --> 00:42:55.094 take that and, and throw it in a salad or or get creative with that. 00:42:55.094 --> 00:43:00.194 But I do like to show them that I care what they think and I'm 00:43:00.674 --> 00:43:06.374 dinner's not just for me, but I do also explain to 'em, look, I need. 00:43:06.854 --> 00:43:08.534 I need you to eat healthy too. 00:43:09.314 --> 00:43:11.954 I need you to fuel your body, right. 00:43:13.724 --> 00:43:18.644 Another thing is my kids are at the age nine 10 where I have started telling them, 00:43:19.634 --> 00:43:22.244 um, to help out with the cooking process. 00:43:22.634 --> 00:43:27.794 When they help make the food, they usually are a lot different 00:43:28.244 --> 00:43:29.509 in their reaction to it. 00:43:30.759 --> 00:43:33.519 Like I said, not letting them snack throughout the day, getting 00:43:33.519 --> 00:43:37.029 them used to eating larger meals. 00:43:37.579 --> 00:43:42.649 And then, like I said, getting rid of all of the treats. 00:43:42.739 --> 00:43:47.539 It is, it is so hard, but it is really cool after a few weeks to 00:43:47.539 --> 00:43:52.609 watch them love eating fruit and that's like a treat for them. 00:43:53.314 --> 00:43:58.234 Or I will make my, uh, protein ice cream and I make it for them 00:43:58.234 --> 00:44:00.544 too, because they just love it. 00:44:00.544 --> 00:44:03.484 That's a big treat that they get once a week. 00:44:03.664 --> 00:44:08.494 You know, growing up we didn't have treats every single day like that. 00:44:08.674 --> 00:44:11.884 That's mind blowing that we do that now because growing up. 00:44:12.799 --> 00:44:15.289 I didn't know about you guys, but we didn't do that. 00:44:15.559 --> 00:44:16.759 Maybe once a week 00:44:16.759 --> 00:44:17.899 my mom made a dessert. 00:44:18.529 --> 00:44:21.169 Um, school didn't provide treats for us every week. 00:44:21.199 --> 00:44:23.119 Church didn't provide treats for us every week. 00:44:23.419 --> 00:44:28.549 This is like a thing that I'm seeing in these younger generations that 00:44:28.554 --> 00:44:30.229 is just kinda mind blowing to me. 00:44:30.879 --> 00:44:32.139 I don't like it. 00:44:32.199 --> 00:44:35.289 And so I'm gonna try to really push back and even when I'm in church 00:44:35.289 --> 00:44:36.819 callings, I try to push back on it. 00:44:37.839 --> 00:44:39.069 And I try to encourage. 00:44:39.759 --> 00:44:45.729 Don't use treats, or even ask the parents if it's okay, because maybe 00:44:45.729 --> 00:44:51.099 the parents are like, no, I don't want you bringing 12 cookies to my 00:44:51.099 --> 00:44:56.319 child every week just to sit through church or school or something, right? 00:44:57.159 --> 00:45:00.189 So, anyways, these are things that have really, really, really helped me. 00:45:00.189 --> 00:45:04.989 But the first few weeks are, I always get big pushback and then it's like their 00:45:04.989 --> 00:45:08.439 palate gets used to the, the lower treats. 00:45:08.709 --> 00:45:12.699 Do you know we have cereal every once a week? 00:45:13.929 --> 00:45:14.829 And do you know what I do? 00:45:14.829 --> 00:45:21.219 I buy this cereal from Trader Joe's because it's not as sweet. 00:45:21.489 --> 00:45:25.539 So they get this kick, but they don't wanna keep having bowl after bowl after 00:45:25.539 --> 00:45:28.989 bowl after bowl, and then they don't wanna be snacking on it all day long. 00:45:29.859 --> 00:45:35.109 It's like one bowl with some fruit and an egg, and they're like, yep, I'm set. 00:45:35.169 --> 00:45:35.619 I'm done. 00:45:36.309 --> 00:45:42.984 So choosing the lower sweetened options and getting them used to it, their 00:45:42.989 --> 00:45:47.424 palate used to it, and ours need to get used to those things as well. 00:45:47.424 --> 00:45:51.624 So I have really enjoyed the past few weeks watching my kids go 00:45:51.714 --> 00:45:55.539 back to eating full meals again. 00:45:55.989 --> 00:46:01.479 Back to eating more healthy with minimal sugar. 00:46:01.749 --> 00:46:04.539 They usually don't fight as much. 00:46:04.879 --> 00:46:08.419 Their energy levels are so much better throughout the day. 00:46:08.424 --> 00:46:14.354 Um, so it really, really helps not just physically, but even mentally. 00:46:14.989 --> 00:46:17.869 Even emotionally, how they show up. 00:46:18.289 --> 00:46:22.209 So I, it's something that I really wanna strongly encourage each one of you 00:46:22.209 --> 00:46:27.299 to look at the food culture in your family, and maybe what I do isn't right 00:46:27.299 --> 00:46:33.689 for you, but just looking and seeing what can I change by just 1% today, by 00:46:33.689 --> 00:46:37.379 just 1% today and then in a few weeks. 00:46:38.154 --> 00:46:40.224 What can I change 1% today? 00:46:40.224 --> 00:46:40.524 Right? 00:46:40.764 --> 00:46:46.434 Just have that mentality of just little changes and include your family in on it. 00:46:47.454 --> 00:46:48.354 You really can. 00:46:48.354 --> 00:46:52.134 You can include them in and say, this is what we've been doing and it's 00:46:52.134 --> 00:46:57.324 not working, so like what can we do? 00:46:58.404 --> 00:47:02.244 This is what I think is going to be best and we're gonna try it out, kind 00:47:02.244 --> 00:47:04.104 of having those, those family councils. 00:47:04.614 --> 00:47:10.044 I hope you guys have a wonderful, I know this wasn't like entirely fitness 00:47:10.104 --> 00:47:14.694 related or training related or, or whatever, but last, uh, I've actually 00:47:14.699 --> 00:47:21.984 had a lot of people asking me if I could speak more on my lifestyle and 00:47:21.984 --> 00:47:29.044 my family and how I've been able to incorporate health and fitness into 00:47:29.044 --> 00:47:32.704 my family more and just life balance. 00:47:33.124 --> 00:47:33.724 Life balance. 00:47:33.729 --> 00:47:39.094 Because life is so much more than a six pack, right? 00:47:39.904 --> 00:47:40.954 It's so much more. 00:47:40.954 --> 00:47:45.934 I mean, prs feel great in the gym, but life is so much more than that. 00:47:46.444 --> 00:47:49.774 And there are other prs that we can hit outside of the gym 00:47:50.674 --> 00:47:56.224 and, and my encouragement to you would be, what are the PRS that 00:47:56.224 --> 00:47:58.864 you wanna see outside the gym? 00:47:59.764 --> 00:48:04.444 What are some personal best that you wanna see with your family? 00:48:05.374 --> 00:48:10.654 Or even how you show up with your family, so that you can enjoy your 00:48:10.654 --> 00:48:14.644 family more, and life so much more. 00:48:15.244 --> 00:48:17.884 Anyways, I hope you guys have a wonderful week. 00:48:18.664 --> 00:48:19.439 I will talk to you later.