1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,760 Welcome to the We Are More podcast. 2 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:15,600 My name is Alyssa. 3 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:16,600 And my name is Bri. 4 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:20,600 We are two sisters passionate about all things faith and feminism. 5 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:25,520 We believe that Jesus trusted, respected, and encouraged women to teach and preach His 6 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:26,520 word. 7 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:28,720 And apparently that's controversial. 8 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,720 Get comfy. 9 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:31,720 Hello. 10 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:36,880 Welcome to our ASMR. 11 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:37,880 No. 12 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:43,120 People are going to think that's really what we're doing. 13 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:44,120 No. 14 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:45,120 Stop. 15 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:48,680 You're throwing off my groove. 16 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:49,680 People love ASMR. 17 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:53,440 They do, but that's not why they come here. 18 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:54,440 Welcome. 19 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:56,840 Welcome, one and all. 20 00:00:56,840 --> 00:00:57,840 Stop it. 21 00:00:57,840 --> 00:00:59,320 We're not doing that. 22 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,840 Unless that's our new- ooh, we could record a new intro song. 23 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,120 It's just us doing that. 24 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,680 And then the end has to be, God made you special. 25 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:11,320 And He loves you very much. 26 00:01:11,320 --> 00:01:15,080 It's just going to be a combination of my kindergarten graduation and a Veggie Tales. 27 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:16,960 That sounds logical. 28 00:01:16,960 --> 00:01:18,560 It's essentially what every episode is. 29 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:20,680 Pretty much. 30 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:25,880 I think the last episode as I was editing it, we tried to end on God made you special 31 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:30,720 and He loves you very much, and I edited it out because I was like, I can't do this again. 32 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:31,720 Good. 33 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,400 I think, so we recorded yesterday too. 34 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:36,600 We're going to be talking all week long. 35 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:37,600 We're trying to prep. 36 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:43,080 We're going to Disney in a few weeks, and so we're trying to advance record so that 37 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:46,480 we can power edit and get everything done before we go. 38 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:47,880 But I just got frustrated. 39 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:50,840 Yesterday at the end of the day I was hot and tired and I just turned it off. 40 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,520 I said, we're done, goodbye. 41 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:54,520 She did. 42 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:57,160 I could do that now too, but I won't because I love you. 43 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,080 Also, we're only a minute and a half in. 44 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:00,560 That's a good amount. 45 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:04,480 I'm not 100% sure Spotify would even let us upload this. 46 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:05,480 It's just a song. 47 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:06,480 I could sing. 48 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:13,840 I listen to our intro song every day of my life. 49 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:15,680 I haven't listened to it in a long time. 50 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:16,680 Every day of my life. 51 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,200 I probably would have forgotten what it was. 52 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:24,160 Because I have to plug it in and then when I'm editing I have to listen to it again and 53 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:27,320 then when I upload I usually listen to it again and then I listen to it and it comes 54 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:28,320 out. 55 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:32,400 We can make a TikTok dance to our intro song and then we could be famous. 56 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:36,520 I don't think we would. 57 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:41,840 I know you wanted to be a ballet teacher, but neither of us are skilled in dance. 58 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:44,600 And honestly, I fall so often. 59 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:46,240 I am not graceful. 60 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,040 That's really a family trait. 61 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,360 We do not have the most graceful family. 62 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,440 We all have two smaller feet. 63 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:55,840 We can't stay stable. 64 00:02:55,840 --> 00:03:01,200 My daughter, she is in five dance classes this year I think. 65 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:02,200 Five is a lot. 66 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:03,440 Five is a lot. 67 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:06,800 And everywhere she goes she's like choreographing a dance. 68 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:08,880 It's not just like bopping to the music or whatever. 69 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:10,400 She's got music in her heart. 70 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:11,400 She does. 71 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:12,400 It's in her soul. 72 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:13,400 It's her heart song. 73 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:14,400 What's that from? 74 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:15,400 Heart song? 75 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:16,400 It's a penguin movie. 76 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:17,400 Oh. 77 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:18,400 Oh. 78 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:19,400 Oh. 79 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,400 It was like a super inappropriate. 80 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:23,400 Pebble? 81 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:24,400 Oh, Happy Feet. 82 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:25,400 Happy Feet. 83 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:26,400 Thank you. 84 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:27,400 Oh, I was thinking of the other one. 85 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:28,400 Pebble and the Penguin or something. 86 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:29,400 Pebble and the Penguin, yeah. 87 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:30,400 I remember that. 88 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,360 That was a depressing movie. 89 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:36,400 The movies back then were like Once Upon a Forest. 90 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:37,400 Yes. 91 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:38,400 Traumatizing. 92 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:42,720 And we tried to turn on The Great Mouse Detective the other day and we got about three seconds 93 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:46,520 in before my daughter screams and runs out of the room because it's terrifying. 94 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,920 But it was like my favorite movies again. 95 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,280 We were dark children it turned out. 96 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:56,640 Did you hear that they're making, I'm doing air quotes, you can't see them, but I'm doing 97 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:59,440 them, a live action Mufasa movie? 98 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,720 Yeah, I've known about that for a while. 99 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:02,720 Okay. 100 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:04,200 Is that something we needed? 101 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:05,200 No. 102 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:06,200 No one ever asked for that. 103 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:10,960 And no one liked the- okay, I'm sorry if you did out there, but did anybody like the remake 104 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:12,200 of The Lion King? 105 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:15,560 It was just The Lion King, but with different animation. 106 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:18,560 And also with animals that had no emotion. 107 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:19,960 And Zazu looked silly. 108 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:20,960 He did look silly. 109 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:22,800 Umba looked silly. 110 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:24,360 And I didn't like it. 111 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:31,240 I just feel like until they can figure out how to make the hyper realistic animation 112 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:35,480 style animals have emotion, maybe we just stop. 113 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:37,520 Maybe we just back it up. 114 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:40,720 Like The Little Mermaid, Flounder. 115 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:41,920 Are you kidding me? 116 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:43,040 He was not great. 117 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:44,040 He was no Flounder. 118 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:45,040 No. 119 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,960 I loved her voice though, but Flounder terrified me. 120 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:49,960 And Scuttle. 121 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:53,560 Scuttle, they changed what kind of bird it was. 122 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,480 I don't remember what they changed it to, but they did change it. 123 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:57,780 Yeah, Scuttle was no longer a seagull. 124 00:04:57,780 --> 00:04:59,760 Because it was the bird that can dive under the water. 125 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:01,680 Yeah, and stay down for a long time. 126 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:02,680 Yeah. 127 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:03,680 Like that dog in the park. 128 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:04,680 Oh yeah. 129 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:08,640 There's a dog that is in the park, close to where we live. 130 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:09,640 That's so descriptive. 131 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:10,640 Thank you, Breanna. 132 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:16,720 This guy sits on the bench and he tells his dog to go out into the river and catch rocks. 133 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:22,140 The dog sticks his head completely under the water for like a long time and comes back 134 00:05:22,140 --> 00:05:24,240 up with a massive rock in his mouth. 135 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:25,240 He's like a boulder. 136 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,000 He's like, look at me go. 137 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:29,560 And then he just gets another one. 138 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,600 Yeah, it's the funniest thing I've ever seen in my life. 139 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,200 So today on Weird. 140 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:41,000 Anyways, today is gonna- ooh, we should title this Breanna's Therapy. 141 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:42,880 All right, I'll remember that. 142 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:45,080 Because today we're talking about singleness. 143 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:46,080 Hooray! 144 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:47,080 Hooray! 145 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:48,080 Hooray! 146 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:54,600 You ended the last episode- we recorded a little bit out of order, so it'll actually 147 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:58,300 be the next episode for you guys, but we recorded it last night. 148 00:05:58,300 --> 00:06:04,640 And you ended it by saying we talked about singleness and you're like, ooh, that feels 149 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:06,760 like a dirty word. 150 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:10,600 And I feel like that just kind of prompts the whole episode. 151 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:12,480 Yeah, it speaks volumes. 152 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:16,320 Well, just jumping right into it. 153 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:22,280 When especially in the Christian community, they hear that someone is single, they assume 154 00:06:22,280 --> 00:06:27,760 that there's something wrong with them or that they need to be fixed. 155 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:30,640 There's a problem that needs to be fixed. 156 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:36,240 So you got your grandma's, your mother's, and Betty from the coffee station, they're 157 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:37,640 all setting you up. 158 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:38,640 Oh, Betty. 159 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:44,880 They're all setting you up on dates with the UPS delivery driver, with the guy that 160 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:51,800 they met at the grocery store, and maybe their grandson's friend from his Bible study. 161 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:52,800 Oh my. 162 00:06:52,800 --> 00:07:01,400 I literally feel like lions and tigers and bears. 163 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:05,800 Because you feel like, what's wrong with me? 164 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:11,200 Because people- now I want to go at this subject very gently with a lot of kindness because 165 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:16,400 I know that for the most part people's intentions are good. 166 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:22,400 But they ask you a lot of weirdly personal and uncomfortable questions. 167 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:26,940 Like, you're so pretty, how are you still single? 168 00:07:26,940 --> 00:07:28,400 And I think I made a TikTok about that. 169 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:29,400 I think you did. 170 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:33,560 I don't know if people know that that's a little bit offensive. 171 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,120 What's wrong with you that you're still single? 172 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:38,280 It can't be your looks, it must be your personality. 173 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:42,120 I'm insane and I murder! 174 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:46,440 Well, we can't put that part on TikTok. 175 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,560 No, I'll probably get flagged. 176 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:50,560 Probably. 177 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:57,600 But yeah, people just- a lot of times they don't necessarily vocalize it, but the underlying 178 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:00,520 feeling is what's wrong with you? 179 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:06,120 And then if it gets asked that many times, you start to think, what's wrong with me? 180 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,160 And here's where we get into our therapy. 181 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:10,160 Ah, good. 182 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:14,640 I have at least two college classes worth of training for this. 183 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:15,640 Good. 184 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:18,640 I have a lot of art classes behind me. 185 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:20,160 Too many ceramics classes. 186 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:26,000 But yeah, when you are asked those questions constantly, people don't realize that they 187 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:31,160 may be hitting at something that's uncomfortable for you. 188 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:36,360 And not just me, but people in general, maybe there's something about you that you're uncomfortable 189 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:37,360 with. 190 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:40,480 Or maybe you've been hurt by people in your past. 191 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:45,520 Maybe it's women who have gone through divorces, or men that have gone through divorces, or 192 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:51,520 maybe someone's died, or maybe they just have trauma in their past that they struggle with 193 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:58,080 relationships or being single, and now you're opening that can of worms with them. 194 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:01,680 Oftentimes I think without having a relationship behind it. 195 00:09:01,680 --> 00:09:02,680 Exactly. 196 00:09:02,680 --> 00:09:09,320 And to me, I'm relating to this on a very just knowing you level, but because you've 197 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:11,240 been married a really long time. 198 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:13,760 And even before you were married, you were not single. 199 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:14,760 Not often. 200 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:16,120 You're like my mother. 201 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:19,480 Yeah, but our mother dated a billion different guys. 202 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:22,080 I think I had like four boyfriends, not a lot. 203 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:28,240 I think our mother has been in a relationship with someone since she was in the womb. 204 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:31,160 Her first boyfriend was like preschool? 205 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:40,720 I think she popped out of grandma and was like, ah, a male nurse! 206 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:46,760 But I think that speaks to not just our family, but Christian culture as a whole, is that's 207 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:53,520 the expectation, is that the girls are going to be boy crazy from moment one, and that 208 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:59,960 has to be your whole focus until you get married at the ripe old age of 18. 209 00:09:59,960 --> 00:10:05,280 It's moved a little bit from that, you're seeing people get married a little bit older, 210 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:08,000 but it's still relatively very young. 211 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:16,200 And I think not in the Christian sphere necessarily, there's this view of empowerment with the 212 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:23,400 idea of being single, but specifically in the church, it feels like it's a dirty word 213 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:24,400 to be single. 214 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:29,720 I remember being in church one time and the pastor from the pulpit was like, all the single 215 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:31,160 people raise their hands! 216 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:34,760 See there's no need for dating apps, they're all right here, get together! 217 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:35,760 That's so gross. 218 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:38,540 And it's like, that's not why I'm in church! 219 00:10:38,540 --> 00:10:43,040 That is not why I'm sitting here, I want to build my relationship with Jesus, not with 220 00:10:43,040 --> 00:10:44,040 my neighbor. 221 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:48,320 And I don't want to shake their hand! 222 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:49,880 I hate shaking hands. 223 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:51,120 I hate it! 224 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:54,360 That's the one good thing from COVID, they stopped doing that most places. 225 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:55,360 Not all churches. 226 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:58,000 Not that one church I was at, gosh dang it. 227 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:05,920 I saw a thing online, it was just like a repost of a repost, and someone had told this girl, 228 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:11,640 well boys don't like to see you show up to class every day in sweats, so you should dress 229 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:19,480 up a little bit nicer, and her response was, well conveniently I am not paying $40,000 230 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:25,160 a year so that Bill from chemistry can have something cute to look at. 231 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:32,160 I saw, get ready guys, I saw this TikTok. 232 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,800 It was so funny, I'll have to repost it on our account. 233 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:42,560 This girl is just like, the issue that men are going to have with women now is that they're 234 00:11:42,560 --> 00:11:49,500 competing with me, because I enjoy my own company enough that now you're not in competition 235 00:11:49,500 --> 00:11:52,600 with other men, you're in competition with me. 236 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:58,320 Can you make me want to spend more time with you than I want to spend with myself? 237 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:01,400 Well I think that's so valid. 238 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:08,520 Are you bringing enough into my world that it's worth me giving up, and I'm saying this 239 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:14,400 from your perspective, but giving up the freedoms that you have, the ability to, if your work 240 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:18,480 says, hey we're going to Florida next week, up and go. 241 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:20,520 And I have done that, it's fun. 242 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:26,920 If you want to spend $100 on skincare, you don't need, whoa, hey, I feel under attack. 243 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:29,560 We've talked about this at least three times. 244 00:12:29,560 --> 00:12:36,480 But I think there was a time when for women, I don't want to say had to, but in a lot of 245 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:43,400 ways, you kind of had to find a man for financial stability, just to survive out in the wild. 246 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:48,880 I mean realistically, up until semi-recent history, I mean you look at like the 1950s, 247 00:12:48,880 --> 00:12:54,600 1960s, it would have been tough for a woman to have a job that was fully supporting her. 248 00:12:54,600 --> 00:13:00,120 And getting her a house, and getting her whatever it was that she needed. 249 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:06,880 And now we are at this place where you don't need a partner, so the question becomes do 250 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:12,120 you want a partner, and the further question becomes do I want you as a partner? 251 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:17,440 Because there's also this other trend going around right now where it's like when you 252 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:22,600 go on a date with a guy, guys aren't asking questions. 253 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:27,360 The girls are spending all this time asking about your job, about your family, about your 254 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:33,100 aspirations, about so much about you just to keep the conversation going, but it's completely 255 00:13:33,100 --> 00:13:34,720 a one-sided conversation. 256 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:39,080 So by the end of the date, the guy thinks it went great because he got to talk about 257 00:13:39,080 --> 00:13:43,840 himself for an hour and a half, but the girl leaves feeling like, wow, I'm drained and 258 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:45,320 that was not great for him. 259 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:49,280 And there was a time where it would have been like, well, that's just what marriage is and 260 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:52,400 you just have to accept that that's how men are and whatever. 261 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:54,440 But you don't have to. 262 00:13:54,440 --> 00:13:57,360 You don't have to. 263 00:13:57,360 --> 00:14:02,560 And I think it's more empowering to say I'm going to wait until I find that good person. 264 00:14:02,560 --> 00:14:05,760 Maybe people are going to be like, oh, your expectations are too high. 265 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:06,760 Oh no. 266 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:07,760 No, they're not. 267 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:11,460 In fact, I'm going to raise them a little bit higher. 268 00:14:11,460 --> 00:14:17,760 If you're looking for a lifelong partner, it's tough to live in the same space with 269 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:20,080 somebody to sleep in the same bed with somebody or anything. 270 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:25,920 If you're looking for that, we have talked about way worse on this podcast. 271 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:29,760 If you're looking for that, be so picky. 272 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:30,760 It's insane. 273 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:36,120 One of the things on my notes is if I wanted to, I would. 274 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:42,320 Well, you've had like two proposals basically in the last couple of years. 275 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:47,480 If I wanted to be married right now, I could absolutely go on one of the dating apps or 276 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:51,000 contact one of my exes. 277 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:52,800 They were ready to marry you at that moment. 278 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:53,800 I'm just really great. 279 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:56,920 I don't know what to tell you. 280 00:14:56,920 --> 00:14:59,840 There's so much pressure from the Christian community. 281 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:06,240 And I noticed my own therapy, looking back through my life, the reason that I'm on the 282 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:12,240 dating apps or the reason that I'm going out on these dates with people who really, I don't 283 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:17,560 even really care to be around is because of this societal pressure. 284 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:21,040 There's something wrong with you and you need to be fixed. 285 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:27,840 And I noticed when I was in these relationships, air quotes, people seemed more comfortable 286 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:29,800 around me, I would say. 287 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:33,280 They felt like, okay, now we can talk to her about this stuff. 288 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:38,480 And I have something to communicate with her and relate to her about rather than how about 289 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:39,480 me? 290 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:40,480 Am I enough? 291 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:44,880 If she's talking to me about my interests or the things that I aspire to do or my job 292 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:48,160 or whatever it is, that's upsetting. 293 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:51,880 It feels icky. 294 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:52,880 I'm not enough. 295 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:56,840 And it keeps going back to that question, am I enough? 296 00:15:56,840 --> 00:16:00,880 Am just me enough? 297 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:03,080 But God says that we are. 298 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:04,920 Jesus was single. 299 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:05,920 Jesus was single. 300 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,800 Wasn't it Paul that said it's better to be single? 301 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:09,800 I have it written down. 302 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:10,800 Don't worry. 303 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:11,800 Let's go. 304 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:19,600 So, 1 Corinthians chapter 7, verse 7, he says, I wish that all of you were as I am, but 305 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,680 each of you has your own gifts from God. 306 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:24,400 One has this gift and other has not. 307 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:29,600 And then he goes on to say, now to the unmarried and the widows, I say, it is good for them 308 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:31,480 to stay unmarried as I do. 309 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:36,040 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry for it is better to marry than 310 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:39,600 to burn with passion. 311 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:40,600 Paul cracks me up. 312 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:41,600 I know. 313 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:45,240 There is nothing wrong with being single. 314 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:51,360 There's nothing wrong with being married because each individual has their own calling. 315 00:16:51,360 --> 00:16:54,880 And I think that we've really screwed it up in the church. 316 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:59,120 We've made it kind of a hostile environment for single people. 317 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:05,240 I have not felt comfortable in a church in I don't know how long. 318 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:11,720 Because every women's Bible study is geared towards women with children or sermons are 319 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:16,580 given about being married and the relationship of a married couple. 320 00:17:16,580 --> 00:17:19,600 If we're talking about single people at all, it is to fix them. 321 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:22,440 It is to fix them up with someone. 322 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,400 It's not saying, hey, you have your own calling. 323 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:25,400 That's great. 324 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:26,400 Right. 325 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:32,040 I don't think that I was as aware of that as I should have been until we started talking 326 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:33,700 about this stuff. 327 00:17:33,700 --> 00:17:35,960 Because they've been married for a really long time and it's hard to get out of your 328 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:38,280 own situation. 329 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:44,320 And once we started talking about that, about your discomfort in church and about how they 330 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:49,800 never talked to you and things like that, I started paying more attention. 331 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:57,080 And my gosh, the amount of sermons for married people, parents, which is a different issue, 332 00:17:57,080 --> 00:17:59,800 but a similar issue. 333 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:08,360 And you never, never, ever, ever, ever hear them speak to single people. 334 00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:13,440 Even in a side note, much less a full sermon, but you will absolutely hear a full sermon 335 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:18,000 for husbands or for wives or whatever. 336 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:22,000 And I hope that that's what these episodes can do for you guys is to give you a different 337 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,560 perspective depending on whether you are single or married. 338 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:26,280 Or feel a sense of community. 339 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:27,840 Yeah, absolutely. 340 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:31,080 I saw a TikTok. 341 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:35,360 I don't know if this guy has a podcast or what, but I did repost it on our TikTok so 342 00:18:35,360 --> 00:18:37,000 you can go look it up. 343 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:44,560 He said, God cares so much more about you than he does about marriage. 344 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:48,120 Because Jesus didn't die on the cross for marriage. 345 00:18:48,120 --> 00:18:49,440 He died on the cross for you. 346 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:51,560 And he cares so much more about you. 347 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,360 And I thought that was so empowering. 348 00:18:54,360 --> 00:18:58,520 Even if you are in a marriage, God cares about you individually. 349 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,120 And he cares about your husband or wife individually. 350 00:19:01,120 --> 00:19:05,800 More than he cares about the relationship between the two of you. 351 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:06,800 Exactly. 352 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:12,000 And not that he does not care about your marriage, but he cares so much more about you and your 353 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:13,880 relationship with him. 354 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:17,040 And the path that he's laid out for you, whoever you are. 355 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:20,160 I wonder, so when you read that verse, the thing that- 356 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:21,160 Yes, I can read. 357 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:22,160 So proud. 358 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:24,160 That's what stood out to me. 359 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:25,160 And I can read. 360 00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:26,160 Well. 361 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:32,080 One of the things that stood out to me was the first part where Paul says, I wish you 362 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:34,160 were all as I am. 363 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:39,940 And I think that we talked at the beginning of, we want to be careful not to blame anybody 364 00:19:39,940 --> 00:19:42,560 for how they may talk. 365 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:45,280 Maybe we want to blame them a little bit. 366 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:48,980 I want to be a little bit kind. 367 00:19:48,980 --> 00:19:53,480 But I think that's where most people come from in most situations. 368 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:54,780 Not even just this one. 369 00:19:54,780 --> 00:20:00,720 When you talk to anybody, it's like, I wish you were a clone of me because then I would 370 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:02,520 just know exactly what to say to you. 371 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:05,840 Now, first of all, a clone of me would be very annoying and I would not enjoy that. 372 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:10,140 I totally agree. 373 00:20:10,140 --> 00:20:17,400 But I think people who have been happy and fulfilled in their marriages think in their 374 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:21,520 heads, and I hope I'm saying this properly because I'm not really defending the behavior, 375 00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:26,400 but I think in their heads they're like, this made me happy and fulfilled me, therefore 376 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:30,120 it must make you happy and fulfill you. 377 00:20:30,120 --> 00:20:34,580 And we forget that God did not make us all the same way. 378 00:20:34,580 --> 00:20:38,200 He did not make us all to be fulfilled in the same way. 379 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:41,760 Marriage might be one person's path to happiness. 380 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:42,960 It might not be in others. 381 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:45,160 It might be one person's path to misery. 382 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,640 And it's not something that you have to absolutely decide right now. 383 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:54,260 For me, I am years old and I'm still not sure. 384 00:20:54,260 --> 00:20:58,160 I don't know if that's something that would make me happy or make me sad. 385 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:04,760 I think it depends on if I happen to find the right person and decide to take a husband. 386 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:06,440 But I'm not sure yet. 387 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:13,680 I'm really trying to focus right now on finding my contentment in God instead of finding it 388 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:19,120 in a person, another person, which I wish that we could tell to everybody, married 389 00:21:19,120 --> 00:21:23,920 or not, find your contentment in God because that's going to fulfill your life so much 390 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:24,920 more. 391 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:31,240 I hate the phrase and even from a married perspective, people say this all the time, 392 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:32,680 he's my other half. 393 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:33,680 He's my better half. 394 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:34,680 He completes me. 395 00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:41,800 I hate that because you need to be, in order to have a healthy marriage, you need to be 396 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:43,820 a whole person all on your own. 397 00:21:43,820 --> 00:21:48,320 You need to strive to find what God wants for you all on your own, with or without the 398 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:49,640 spouse. 399 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:54,360 And so if you're only half a person and your spouse is, I guess, the other half of that 400 00:21:54,360 --> 00:21:58,000 complete person, you're both a mess. 401 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,280 You're bleeding, like organs are falling out. 402 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:02,640 It's messy. 403 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,280 Be a whole person, please. 404 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:11,840 Isaiah 41 10, if you're looking for something to drive home your point even further, says, 405 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:12,960 fear not, I am with you. 406 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:14,760 Be not dismayed for I am your God. 407 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:15,840 I will strengthen you. 408 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:17,120 I will help you. 409 00:22:17,120 --> 00:22:19,400 I will uphold your righteousness. 410 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:25,600 And then it goes dot dot dot because I just Googled it and I only see half the verse. 411 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:27,520 But God should be the one completing you. 412 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:29,960 It should not be a human person. 413 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:36,480 Well, notice that that verse does not say, and God will be there for your marriage and 414 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,120 God will be there for both of you. 415 00:22:39,120 --> 00:22:44,540 God didn't necessarily intend for everybody to pair up. 416 00:22:44,540 --> 00:22:48,920 Because if he had, Jesus would have had a spouse. 417 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:49,920 Yep. 418 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,960 Because he is our example. 419 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:53,840 That is, we say WWJD. 420 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:54,840 What would Jesus do? 421 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,320 Is that a thing people still say? 422 00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:57,320 Oh, they wear it on their bracelets. 423 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:58,320 Do they still wear those bracelets? 424 00:22:58,320 --> 00:22:59,320 I don't know. 425 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:03,760 I have a playlist on my phone called WWJD. 426 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:05,560 You also have a playlist called Not For Mom. 427 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:06,560 Yeah. 428 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:13,320 I also made one yesterday called The Plane, The Plane that I'm gonna listen to on the 429 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:14,320 plane. 430 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:21,360 But he's who we should be looking at to model our life after. 431 00:23:21,360 --> 00:23:22,840 And so maybe everybody should be single. 432 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,400 I don't know if we want to go all the way there. 433 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,000 I think the point is, you do, you argue me. 434 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:30,000 I'm kidding. 435 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,000 Thank you. 436 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:38,440 I think that a fear that people have in regards to singleness is that they don't want to die 437 00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:40,680 alone. 438 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:44,960 At least that's gone through my head like, well, do I want to be married right now? 439 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:45,960 No, not really. 440 00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:47,480 But do I want to die alone? 441 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:48,480 No. 442 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:54,760 But I think we need to rethink what alone really means. 443 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:58,480 Because if I look at my life, I'm surrounded by people that love me because I'm really 444 00:23:58,480 --> 00:23:59,480 great. 445 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:04,040 I have a huge family that I assume loves me. 446 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,040 Maybe not after this. 447 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:06,040 Maybe not. 448 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:07,040 Sorry. 449 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,360 A little less. 450 00:24:09,360 --> 00:24:13,960 And I have friends around me and I want to surround other people with love. 451 00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:17,100 And I feel like that's not alone. 452 00:24:17,100 --> 00:24:21,720 You might not be romantically involved with someone, but that doesn't mean that you're 453 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:24,080 any less worthy of love. 454 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:32,200 I think the concept of romantic love being the be all end all is very strange. 455 00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:36,440 Just because people are horny little devils. 456 00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,360 Thank you. 457 00:24:38,360 --> 00:24:40,000 Mom is not gonna like that. 458 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:41,000 Sorry, mom. 459 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:42,440 That's definitely a huge part of it. 460 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:49,760 But at the end of the day, romantic relationships can be great. 461 00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:51,040 Not saying anything against them. 462 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:52,360 I have a great husband. 463 00:24:52,360 --> 00:24:56,960 But they're not the be all end all of your life. 464 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,080 Because anything could happen. 465 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:02,400 Let's say you have the best marriage in the whole world. 466 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:04,100 Your spouse could die. 467 00:25:04,100 --> 00:25:06,360 Your spouse could do something terrible. 468 00:25:06,360 --> 00:25:08,280 Your spouse could divorce you. 469 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:15,460 There are a million options where even if you get married, you still could die without 470 00:25:15,460 --> 00:25:16,460 a romantic partner. 471 00:25:16,460 --> 00:25:20,720 I don't want to say alone because you have a choice with your community, but you could 472 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,000 die without a romantic partner. 473 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,000 One with the other. 474 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:25,480 They could die before you. 475 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:33,280 Our greatest calling as a group of Christ followers is to bring other people to Christ. 476 00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,880 To glorify the kingdom of God. 477 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:39,640 Our number one calling is not get married have babies. 478 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:40,640 Yep. 479 00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:41,640 Yeah. 480 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:42,640 Thanks, Butker. 481 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:49,960 And yet, like that is if an alien race were to come down and go to 20 church services. 482 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:50,960 Aliens are real. 483 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:51,960 I'm convinced. 484 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:55,960 And take a survey of what was talked about in these church services. 485 00:25:55,960 --> 00:26:03,840 I absolutely guarantee you that the conclusion behind those 10 church services without reading 486 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:10,680 the Bible, whatever, just from church would be Christians are required to get married. 487 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,120 I guarantee it. 488 00:26:12,120 --> 00:26:14,160 That's how it feels. 489 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,800 Like it's a requirement to be part of the faith. 490 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:21,720 Like you don't get to walk in the door. 491 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:22,720 Poor Paul. 492 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:23,720 He didn't know. 493 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:25,720 He wrote half the Bible. 494 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:26,720 He did. 495 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,640 He really did. 496 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:36,840 Another major overarching theme, I would say to singleness is that your life doesn't begin 497 00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,800 until you find that other person. 498 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:40,800 Yeah. 499 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:45,880 And I have spent so much of my life being like, I'm just waiting for my life to begin. 500 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,800 Like when you're a kid, you're like, sing the song. 501 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:54,920 When will my life cut that up? 502 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,160 When you're a kid, you're like, oh, if I could just get into high school, I'll have some 503 00:26:58,160 --> 00:26:59,160 freedom. 504 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:02,560 And then when you're in high school, you're like, I just need to get away from my parents. 505 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:07,080 I need to go to college so I can have some freedom. 506 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,000 And then my life will really start. 507 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:16,040 And then you get out of college and you're like, I just need to find my partner. 508 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:21,280 Because the world is telling you that you need to find that completeness in a partner 509 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,560 and that right now you're living a half life. 510 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:24,560 Right. 511 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,240 Well, you're over 50% of a person. 512 00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:28,240 Constantly. 513 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,920 Your whole life is just sitting, waiting, wishing. 514 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,880 And I think we need to change that perspective for people. 515 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:41,920 I think we need to tell them your life has begun, baby girl, whether you like it or not. 516 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,480 And you get to make what you want of it. 517 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:45,480 Right. 518 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,440 So start doing what you want to do. 519 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:52,120 If that is finding a romantic partner, go find one. 520 00:27:52,120 --> 00:27:55,120 They're easy to find. 521 00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:59,340 I asked you this the other day too, and I think it's applicable to a lot of Christian 522 00:27:59,340 --> 00:28:05,400 women when you are in college as a Christian woman, especially if you go to a Christian 523 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:06,400 college. 524 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,640 It is all about marriage. 525 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,480 And I know we've talked about this before, but marriage is pushed, pushed, pushed. 526 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:16,640 And you'll have people asking you if you've gotten your MRS degree yet. 527 00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:20,160 Yes, I have been asked that. 528 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:24,480 And then I'm going to say Christian women in particular, and this is not every single 529 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:31,160 Christian woman, but I think that this is a problem that we face as a group, is that 530 00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:37,360 you're almost encouraged not to really worry that much about what major you have in college 531 00:28:37,360 --> 00:28:39,440 because you're probably not going to work that much anyway. 532 00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:42,440 You're just going to get married and be a stay at home mom. 533 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:45,080 And you really don't have to worry about your career that much. 534 00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:50,440 Just get a job that'll hold you over until you find a man. 535 00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,200 Until you start your real life. 536 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,480 So was that something that you felt dealt with? 537 00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:57,480 Absolutely. 538 00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:58,480 Absolutely. 539 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,360 Yeah, I was asked, did you get that MRS degree yet? 540 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,520 What's the point of you going to that college anyways? 541 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,960 Direct quote. 542 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:09,760 No hate, no shame, trying to be gentle. 543 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:12,600 It's going really well. 544 00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:17,040 But yeah, if you didn't know this, I have a degree in art. 545 00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,560 They really hadn't caught on to that. 546 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:24,500 And part of it was just, I was told just get a degree. 547 00:29:24,500 --> 00:29:29,840 Just get a degree and then you can get whatever job you want, blah blah blah. 548 00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:37,040 But I think so many women, especially Christian women, don't anticipate using that degree 549 00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:41,600 at all because the idea of marriage is so pushed. 550 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,800 And I definitely experienced that. 551 00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:45,920 And shocker, I'm not married right now. 552 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,560 So it's going really well for me. 553 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,400 Well, even our mom, again, just pretty boy crazy. 554 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:55,280 So sorry mom. 555 00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,960 That could be another level of the TikTok that we post. 556 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,680 We're going to compile all the times we say sorry mom. 557 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,000 And then when we have to say so sorry mom, that's a different one. 558 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:06,000 That's a whole different level. 559 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,320 I'm so sorry. 560 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:16,880 But she started college and this was a different generation, so different time. 561 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:20,960 But she started college assuming that she wouldn't finish. 562 00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,840 And so she just picked a major. 563 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:26,560 Whatever I can't remember exactly how she chose it. 564 00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:27,920 There's a funny story behind it. 565 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:31,040 For me, it was just I had the most credits in art. 566 00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,160 And I was like, I need to get my butt out of the school. 567 00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:37,160 How can I get it out? 568 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,160 How can I get out as soon as I possibly can? 569 00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:43,760 We were also spending the most money anyone could spend on college. 570 00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:47,640 I'm really hoping this podcast makes us just good jillionaires because I'll pay off my 571 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:49,240 student loans. 572 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:55,800 I'm pretty sure that we picked the most popular topic to make money on. 573 00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:56,800 Christian feminism. 574 00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:57,800 Christian feminism. 575 00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:58,800 People love that. 576 00:30:58,800 --> 00:30:59,800 Yeah, they really do. 577 00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:04,560 Some people love that. 578 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,560 And who does? 579 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:08,560 Our bestie Beth. 580 00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:10,320 Our bestie Beth. 581 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:15,800 Actually, so this is totally a side topic, but we've talked about Beth Alison Barr seven 582 00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,120 billion times at this point. 583 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,000 I know, she is our bestie. 584 00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,520 And she wrote a book called The Making of Biblical Womanhood. 585 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:30,760 And it's all about how the concept of the modern Christian ideal woman, the tame traditional 586 00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:37,360 housewife, etc, etc, came about historically and how it really was not ever biblical or 587 00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:41,960 ever happening even in Jesus's time, how we created it. 588 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,720 So just phenomenal book. 589 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,840 I posted a quote today on our Instagram permit. 590 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:48,960 Yeah, you did. 591 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,040 But she is coming out with another book. 592 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,040 She just announced it. 593 00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:53,200 It's not out until March. 594 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:54,200 So that's a bit of a bummer. 595 00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:55,200 Can we preorder it? 596 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,680 We can preorder it, but it won't come to us till March. 597 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:00,240 Piss, piss, piss. 598 00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:06,000 But if you are interested, it's called Becoming the Pastor's Wife, How Marriage Replaced Ordination 599 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,480 as the Woman's Path to Ministry. 600 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:12,080 And once that comes out, I'm gonna do 12 whole episodes on that book, I swear. 601 00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:14,880 I think it really plays into the singleness aspect here. 602 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:20,960 Because in The Making of Biblical Womanhood, she talks about how back in the medieval type 603 00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:32,160 era, because that's her specialty, single women were considered closer to God in a way. 604 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,960 They were more likely to be taken seriously in the churches. 605 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:41,720 They were more likely to be given responsibilities by the churches, to be able to teach and preach. 606 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:43,240 Because they hadn't done the deed. 607 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:44,240 Yeah. 608 00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:45,880 And that really, that's what it boils down to. 609 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,960 Which is not, I'm not holding this up as a shining example or anything. 610 00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:51,680 It's still stupid. 611 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:57,680 But it's so interesting that we've moved from singleness was a woman's greatest calling 612 00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:01,080 or most ability to serve God. 613 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:09,680 And we've moved to now, like she says, becoming a pastor's wife, where for a woman, the closest 614 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:15,760 you can get to serving God in so many Christian circles is marriage. 615 00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:22,160 How isolating does that feel to someone who's not married, who doesn't have children? 616 00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:25,360 How do you feel like you can be close to God? 617 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,480 You feel like something's wrong with you. 618 00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:32,980 You look at your churches and it's almost strange. 619 00:33:32,980 --> 00:33:38,480 If you were to walk in and just scan the room, it's almost strange to see someone sitting 620 00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:40,080 by themselves. 621 00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:44,280 And not because, oh, churches are such wonderful, friendly places and people just all love to 622 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:45,640 sit together. 623 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:46,640 That's not it. 624 00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,640 They're not all wonderful, friendly places. 625 00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:51,720 Trust us. 626 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:59,160 It's that people have paired off and they're dating and or married and the single people 627 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:00,160 have left. 628 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:01,160 Yup. 629 00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,920 Because they didn't find a welcome home there. 630 00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:05,560 I haven't. 631 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:11,160 For example, I know that we've talked about this before, but Alys and I attended this 632 00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:15,920 church for a blip the same amount of time, really. 633 00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:22,440 I was there, you and Nathan and the kids were there and all the people really flocked to 634 00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:26,240 you guys because you're a young family and that's what they want. 635 00:34:26,240 --> 00:34:29,080 They want the young blood. 636 00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:32,160 That was scary. 637 00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:40,040 And they invited you to lunches and dinners and they made an effort to remember your name. 638 00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:42,580 And I had been going there the same amount of time. 639 00:34:42,580 --> 00:34:44,800 You were sitting next to me. 640 00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:47,720 It's not like you were alone on the other side of the room in a corner. 641 00:34:47,720 --> 00:34:52,040 Not only did people not bother to know my name, they confused me with you. 642 00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:55,360 I had several people come up to me and be like, oh, where's your husband? 643 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:57,920 I'm like, that's literally not me. 644 00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:02,600 I know that we look alike, but that's my sister. 645 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:03,600 We do look alike. 646 00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:05,320 And it's like, I didn't even know you existed. 647 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,520 That's how it feels. 648 00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:13,840 And that's just time after time how it feels to be a single person in church is just invisible 649 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:14,840 or a problem. 650 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:20,800 I mean, yes, we do look a lot alike, but it's not like we had been there a week. 651 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:26,640 We had been there months and at that point we don't look that much alike. 652 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,120 We're not twins over here. 653 00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,560 No, I'm two inches taller. 654 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:35,020 And she looks a significant amount older. 655 00:35:35,020 --> 00:35:38,200 So watch your mouth. 656 00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:39,200 I'm gorgeous. 657 00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:40,200 Gorgeous and elderly. 658 00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:41,200 I know. 659 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:42,200 I feel elderly. 660 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:49,880 That's why I spend a hundred dollars on skincare. 661 00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:53,400 Well, it's good skincare, if that's helpful. 662 00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:56,920 And because you're single, you have the freedom to do that because you don't have as many 663 00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:57,920 bills. 664 00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:00,200 You don't have to feed a boy. 665 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:01,800 They're expensive to feed. 666 00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:02,800 They're really annoying. 667 00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:04,640 They eat a lot of stuff. 668 00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:10,040 So Christian people are so about pushing marriage and pairing you up. 669 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:17,000 However, people are meeting these days on apps and on whatever. 670 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:18,720 That's not how you're supposed to do it. 671 00:36:18,720 --> 00:36:20,640 I feel like that's what comes from Christians is- 672 00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:22,760 You can go on Christian Mingle. 673 00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:24,560 And that's your only option. 674 00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:30,400 I think there's like a up something app that's more geared towards Christian people. 675 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:33,560 I forget what it's called, like Upwards or something. 676 00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:35,920 But the people on there are not any better. 677 00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:40,680 I was in a Bible study a few years ago and it was me and a bunch of divorces. 678 00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,360 You've referenced this many times. 679 00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,400 If they're listening, they know who they are. 680 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:51,560 And one of the girls was on that Up Whatever app. 681 00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:56,440 And she's like, honestly, the people that I'm finding on there are not any better. 682 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:59,720 They're more inappropriate and there's more scammers on there. 683 00:36:59,720 --> 00:37:01,120 There are a lot of scammers on those. 684 00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:02,560 They're known for it. 685 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:09,840 Because you're praying on the people who want to pray. 686 00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:17,680 I think it's because the assumption at least is these people are desperate to get married. 687 00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,080 As opposed to maybe- 688 00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,480 Or they're just desperate. 689 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:28,600 Or maybe another app that's not geared toward Christians would be more like dates, hookups, 690 00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:29,720 whatever it is. 691 00:37:29,720 --> 00:37:34,680 So they're not necessarily looking for long term marriage. 692 00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:42,720 I think we could do a whole other episode on that, the dating culture of the Christian 693 00:37:42,720 --> 00:37:47,840 community and how personally I believe it's super toxic. 694 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:55,840 Well I think particularly for someone like either of us, where we have very strong feminist 695 00:37:55,840 --> 00:38:05,240 opinions, stereotypically, I think, I think, I've not been on the Christian dating apps, 696 00:38:05,240 --> 00:38:06,240 okay? 697 00:38:06,240 --> 00:38:07,240 But- 698 00:38:07,240 --> 00:38:08,800 Neither have I. 699 00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:15,320 But stereotypically, and you've said you tend to avoid profiles that talk about their faith 700 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:20,760 because of this, because they tend to be more misogynistic. 701 00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:27,780 They want, and they will be very vocal about wanting that trad wife type woman. 702 00:38:27,780 --> 00:38:32,600 And I don't know if you all have noticed this, but neither of us is that. 703 00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:39,080 I like that we look at the computer like, hey guys, did you know? 704 00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,120 They can see us, I swear. 705 00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:46,520 Someday, someday we'll film this so that you can see our faces. 706 00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:47,840 But very expressive. 707 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:50,920 That's why I need the skincare. 708 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,560 Brie, you'll see how elderly she looks. 709 00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:57,480 I do have several gray hair. 710 00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:01,960 But talk about avoiding those profiles and why that's been. 711 00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:02,960 I do. 712 00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:09,560 I avoid, when I do decide to jump back on the dating apps about every month or so, not 713 00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:13,760 every month, every other month, you scroll through the profiles and there's like prompts 714 00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:24,760 on get to know this person, and every time I see someone who mentions I'm at church every 715 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:31,080 Sunday and football and dinner, and it's just every time those people that I talk to are 716 00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:33,200 the worst. 717 00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:37,120 And more often than not, they're very inappropriate too. 718 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:44,600 And I don't necessarily have a reason of why that is, but just from experience, it's not 719 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:45,600 good. 720 00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,200 To choke there briefly. 721 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:49,200 It's not good. 722 00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:52,520 It's not good for me. 723 00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:53,920 It's hard. 724 00:39:53,920 --> 00:40:00,400 And like again, I feel like I'm just on these apps because of this societal pressure or 725 00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:06,440 that's why I'm not very good at them, maybe, because I don't have a lot of motivation to 726 00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:07,440 stay on there. 727 00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:11,400 I think that one of the main things that people need to hear from this, and you can correct 728 00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:12,400 me if I'm wrong, but- 729 00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:13,400 I will. 730 00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:14,400 Okay. 731 00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:21,680 Is that not just you, but single people in general are not on a perpetual hunt for a 732 00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,200 partner. 733 00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:27,960 Some of them might be, but not all of them are. 734 00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:35,040 And you, as Brianna, as a single person, are content and that's okay. 735 00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:37,280 I'm a really great time. 736 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:46,240 I'm good company sometimes, but I think we should be really encouraging the people in 737 00:40:46,240 --> 00:40:51,560 our lives, especially the women, to find their contentment in God. 738 00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:57,080 So rather than the first question you ask me after not seeing me for a while being like, 739 00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:58,680 have you found anyone yet? 740 00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:00,480 Are you dating? 741 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,820 Are you in want of a husband? 742 00:41:03,820 --> 00:41:05,960 Maybe ask me something different. 743 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:12,960 Maybe ask me- and I am trying to be very gentle and kind because I appreciate that people 744 00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:17,520 care about me and want to see me happy. 745 00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:22,120 But maybe my happiness doesn't lie just in another person. 746 00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:25,300 Maybe ask me, how's my relationship with God going? 747 00:41:25,300 --> 00:41:27,760 Or have you had any luck in church lately? 748 00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,800 It just feels really isolating. 749 00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:37,880 I hope that through this podcast we're able to make someone feel a little less alone, 750 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,720 a little more heard, a little more understood. 751 00:41:40,720 --> 00:41:49,320 I remember my friend got married and I was one of her bridesmaids and all of the other 752 00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:53,840 bridesmaids that I was standing up with, she was announcing us and being like, oh, and 753 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:57,740 this person's been married to this person and this person's married with this person. 754 00:41:57,740 --> 00:42:04,120 She said, Embry is just rocking out her best single life and she had no judgment, nothing 755 00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:05,120 about it. 756 00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:09,040 She was happy and proud of me for being single. 757 00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:12,200 And that was so- because I was so anxious about it when she was saying that. 758 00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:13,200 I was like, bleh! 759 00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,240 Yeah, I felt anxious when you started saying that. 760 00:42:16,240 --> 00:42:17,240 I know. 761 00:42:17,240 --> 00:42:19,240 But no judgment. 762 00:42:19,240 --> 00:42:22,360 No, like, oh, she should be with someone. 763 00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:25,640 No, she's living her best single life. 764 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:30,120 I'm picturing that same scenario happening at the countless other weddings we've been 765 00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:31,440 in and at. 766 00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:36,560 And I imagine if that happened at those other weddings, them saying something like, and 767 00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:37,560 she's single, boys! 768 00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:40,000 She's on the market! 769 00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:45,440 And that's something that I would do to myself and I have done to myself just to break the 770 00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,200 tension of it. 771 00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:50,480 But that's the issue is that there is tension. 772 00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:53,360 Why is there tension to begin with? 773 00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,420 Because single is a dirty word in the Christian community. 774 00:42:56,420 --> 00:43:04,600 And there's always this deep breath when people mention being single. 775 00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:09,440 I think one of the hard things to- and I'll probably talk about this a little bit more 776 00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:13,320 in the episode where we talk about being married in the church. 777 00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:20,800 But again, because we have this podcast, there's this perception that strong women are intimidating 778 00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,400 to men. 779 00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:27,520 Now I know that's not true of every man and I hope it's not true of most. 780 00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:28,520 I don't know. 781 00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,120 I've been told that before. 782 00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,920 Well, you're just really intimidating. 783 00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:33,920 Like, it's a bad thing. 784 00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:35,400 I've been told I'm too much. 785 00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:36,400 Yeah. 786 00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:37,400 You're not too much. 787 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,120 You're not intimidating. 788 00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:40,120 You are who you are. 789 00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:45,600 And if someone can't deal with that, then they are not worth having in your life. 790 00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:47,080 Oh, I love that. 791 00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:48,840 Sing it to the people. 792 00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:53,080 A bad marriage is not better than being single. 793 00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:57,920 I have seen so many instances of this. 794 00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:06,760 A bad marriage is not better than being single and finding contentment in yourself and God. 795 00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:12,920 Because God cares about you as an individual more than your marriage. 796 00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:14,200 Right. 797 00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:17,400 Really let that sink in, ladies and germs. 798 00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:18,400 God made you special. 799 00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:19,400 Stop it. 800 00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:20,400 We can't. 801 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,520 People are going to start calling us Bob and Larry. 802 00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:27,600 What are the girls in Veggie Tales? 803 00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:29,400 You want to be Bob or Larry? 804 00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,200 I want to be Bob. 805 00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:33,840 Okay, you can be Bob. 806 00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,840 And you can be Barbara Manatee. 807 00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:42,200 All right, I'll be a manatee. 808 00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:43,200 That feels reasonable to me. 809 00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:44,920 I've always said that about you. 810 00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:51,000 Okay, guys, so next week we are talking about the woman at the well. 811 00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:52,880 We're talking about the woman at the well. 812 00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:54,440 We already recorded that, you idiot. 813 00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:55,440 We didn't record that already. 814 00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:58,040 But that'll be coming out next week. 815 00:44:58,040 --> 00:44:59,200 I think we've kind of... 816 00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:02,240 Next week is supposed to be a mini episode, but here's the deal, guys. 817 00:45:02,240 --> 00:45:03,240 We've given up. 818 00:45:03,240 --> 00:45:04,240 We've given up. 819 00:45:04,240 --> 00:45:06,920 We're recording as long as we feel like. 820 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:12,360 I will do my best to not post episodes that are over an hour by that much because I don't 821 00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:13,840 think you want to listen to us for that long. 822 00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:17,200 We're all goldfish out here just floating. 823 00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:18,960 So I'll do my best with that. 824 00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:23,160 But other than that, we're just recording till we're done talking. 825 00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:24,200 That's how it's going to go. 826 00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:25,960 And in this case, I feel like I've said enough. 827 00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:31,200 All right, so every week we are asking you guys to share this with someone in a specific 828 00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:32,200 country. 829 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:33,200 I have it. 830 00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:34,520 All right, what's the specific country? 831 00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,160 Does anybody know the Australian breakdancer? 832 00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:39,440 And can you share this podcast with them? 833 00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:42,600 Or does anybody know anybody in Australia in general? 834 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,040 Have you seen the Australian breakdancer? 835 00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:46,440 Actually, yes, Nathan showed it to me last night. 836 00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:47,440 It was hilarious. 837 00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:50,120 Did you know she got zero points? 838 00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:55,440 Did you know they are no longer having breakdancing in the Olympics at all ever again because 839 00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:56,440 of that? 840 00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:59,280 That's probably pretty depressing, but it's also kind of funny. 841 00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:00,600 She was an Olympian. 842 00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:01,600 She made a statement. 843 00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:02,600 I could be an Olympian. 844 00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:08,400 Turns out she made a statement that was like most Olympians train their entire lives to 845 00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:09,400 be where I was. 846 00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:13,320 She was like, I trained for 36 minutes and now I'm the most famous breakdancer in the 847 00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:14,320 world. 848 00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:17,320 Oh my gosh. 849 00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:21,680 Why in the crap? 850 00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:24,480 She is my spirit animal. 851 00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:28,880 How insane do you have to be just to be like, I'm going to the freaking Olympics. 852 00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:29,880 I don't care. 853 00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:34,440 I'm going to do my thing in front of billions of people. 854 00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:35,440 I love her. 855 00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:36,440 I just want to know how she- 856 00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:37,440 I think her name's Rachel. 857 00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:38,440 How did she get there? 858 00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:40,000 Who approved this? 859 00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,520 I feel like, you know, my friend Stacey, shout out. 860 00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:44,520 Hey Stacey. 861 00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:46,560 I feel like she would do that. 862 00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:48,680 Oh, a hundred percent. 863 00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:50,400 And that is my spirit animal. 864 00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:51,400 Stacey? 865 00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,400 Yeah, it's just a good time. 866 00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:55,400 All right. 867 00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:56,400 All right. 868 00:46:56,400 --> 00:47:00,200 So in conclusion, share with the Australian breakdancer slash anybody in Australia you 869 00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:04,160 happen to know, or share it with anyone that you think might be interested in these kinds 870 00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:05,520 of topics. 871 00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:12,520 I would love to hear if you're single, not because I'm trying to date you. 872 00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:13,600 Just your experiences. 873 00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:19,080 If you've had any you want to share or us to share with the pod or you just want to 874 00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:24,200 talk, you can find us on TikTok or Instagram or Facebook, I think. 875 00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:25,200 Yeah. 876 00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:30,240 If you search the hashtag we are more on any of those, you should be able to find us. 877 00:47:30,240 --> 00:47:31,560 You can DM us. 878 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,440 I'll probably send you a fun GIF. 879 00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:35,160 Oh, good. 880 00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:36,560 That's not intimidating at all. 881 00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:41,000 Or maybe I'll share all the TikToks I can possibly think of with you. 882 00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:42,000 They don't want that. 883 00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:43,000 Don't do that. 884 00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:44,000 I'll be your pen pal. 885 00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,000 Okay. 886 00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:46,000 Goodbye. 887 00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:47,000 Before Bree says more scary things. 888 00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:48,000 I can do whatever I want. 889 00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,000 Goodbye. 890 00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:50,000 Love you. 891 00:47:50,000 --> 00:48:07,240 I will always love you.