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Deuteronomy 6:4-9.

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Hear, O Israel,
the Lord our God, the Lord is one.

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You shall love the Lord
your God with all your heart,

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and with all your soul,
and with all your might.

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And these words that I command
you today shall be on your heart.

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You shall teach him
diligently to your children,

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and you shall talk of them when you sit
in your house, when you walk by the way,

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when you lie down,
and when you rise. You shall bind them

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as a sign on your hand, and they shall be
as frontlets between your eyes.

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You shall write them on a doorpost
of your house, and on your gates.

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We are beginning a new sermon series

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this week to carry us
through the month of August.

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We're calling it Good News
for Every Family.

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We're taking four weeks to look at
what the Bible says about family.

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Because the truth is, we're
all part of a family in some way.

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And whether your family is big or small,

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whether it includes
marriage or children or not,

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whether it's broken or in great shape,
the Bible has a lot to say about

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how we live life as family,

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so we want to dive into that over
the next four weeks.

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This week, we're looking at one particular
aspect of family,

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and it's appropriate following Kids Care,
that we're looking at

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what the Bible has to say about parenting.

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Now, I do want to say that I recognize not
everyone here this weekend is a parent.

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Some of you have raised children.

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They've moved out of the house.

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Others are still hoping for children.

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Others
maybe don't have plans to have children.

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I promise towards the end of this message,
there will be something for everyone,

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regardless of whether you brought a child
with you this morning or not.

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But parenting is such an important part

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of the fabric of society

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and of the fabric of a church,
of a culture.

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The Bible actually
has a lot to say about it,

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and it feels appropriate
to spend a week on it.

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I'll just say this
if you're new to the whole church thing,

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maybe you've
come on the heels of kids camp.

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I just want you to know how eminently
practical the Bible is,

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because God's desire
is for us to live a life

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of meaning and purpose,
that God wants that for you.

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He wants that for
your family, wants that for your children.

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And really, what we do each week
is gather around the Bible to learn

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what God has said about
how life works best.

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If you have a Bible,
you can open it to Deuteronomy six or use

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your phone to get there.

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You don't have to have one.

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It was just read to us
and I'll reference that as we go.

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But there are three points
I want to use to think about the passage

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that was just read from Deuteronomy six.

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Very simple. Three points.

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They go like this
I want to talk about reverse engineering

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responsibility and resources, reverse

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engineering responsibility and resources.

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Let's start
first with reverse engineering.

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Of course, reverse
engineering is the concept

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of knowing where you want to get

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and working backwards through the steps
it will take to get there.

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For instance, if you set a goal
that you want to lose weight,

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you would pick a target weight
and then you would work backwards

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from what
it would take the calorie deficit

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that would be necessary,
the exercise that you'd have to do.

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Same thing financially
if you say, hey, ten years from now,

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we need to be ready to pay
for the kids college or we want to retire.

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You would begin with the amount
you need, work backwards

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and know what you would need to say
yes to or no to in your budget

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in order to make that outcome a reality.

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I don't know if there is anywhere
that we understand this better

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then with our children.

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Most people who are

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raising children have a vision of who
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to be, of the life
that they want them to have.

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And much of our parenting,
at least in our most intentional

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and strategic moments,
is built around that vision,

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achieving that outcome.

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So if we want our children, for example,

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to learn the lessons that come from sports

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or to get a Division one scholarship

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so that we can learn
how great it is not to pay for college,

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then we reverse engineer back

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and we get them in as many sports
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Private instruction, travel teams.

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Same if you want your children
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or to be a good student.

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Many of the conversations
we have with our kids, the rules

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we put in place,
are not about the short term.

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They're about the long term vision of life
we have for our kids.

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I don't know
if you've ever thought about this,

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but the Bible tells us
that God also has a vision for your kids.

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He has a purpose for them.

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He has a particular life in mind
for your children.

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You can read about it in Deuteronomy six
when God says this in verse four, he says,

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here, O Israel,

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the Lord our God, the Lord is one.

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You shall love the Lord
your God with all your heart,

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and with all your soul,
and with all your might.

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God's vision for our children

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is that they would know him,

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that they would love him.

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That's what he wants to be

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in relationship with our children.

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Let me reinforce this.

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You know, over here
is this awesome outdoor playground

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that we built a couple of years ago,
and we have more coming to this space.

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You're going to love it.

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And by the way, whether this is your
church or not, that's your playground.

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Okay? Come any time. Enjoy.

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When I bring my daughter Ella
to play on it, she's six.

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One of the things I've noticed
is that she will run around

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and play with the same kid for an hour,
have a great time.

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Then when we go to get in the car,
I'll say, who was that

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you were playing with?

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And she'll say, I don't know.

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I said, you, you didn't learn their name?

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Nope, nope.

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And so then we have a talk
because I have to teach her that.

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Ella, we ask names because that kid is
not just they don't just exist.

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Round out your tag game or to make sure
you're not bored on the playground.

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We want that kid to know
that they matter to us.

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We want them to know
that we care about them.

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And the way we do
that is by learning their name.

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By sharing our name.

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When I tell you that God
wants a relationship with your children,

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it's a learn
your name kind of relationship.

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Do you see in these verses

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that God has shared with them who he is,

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what he's doing?

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What do you want

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if you're not familiar with the Bible?

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In fact, the Bible is in many ways
God on the playground

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sharing his name.

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God doesn't want us to guess who he is.

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He doesn't want us to wonder how he feels
to wonder what he's up to.

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He is a communicative God.

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He's not just looking for people
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He's sharing his name.

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He wants to know
the names of your children, your name.

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God wants relationship with your kids.

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My guess is you want that for your kids.

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That's a lot of people's

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starting point, by the way,
for coming to church in the first place.

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They get out of the habit
or maybe were never in the habit.

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They have a few kids
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my kids should really be in church.

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My kids should really know who God is.

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Well, I want you to know that not only is
that true, that's what God wants,

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but that means reverse engineering.

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It means that just like we map out

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a future for our kids academically

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or athletically or musically,

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we also must work backwards spiritually

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if God wants our kids to know him.

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If God wants our kids to know
he loves them, if God wants to share

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his name, his mission, his purpose,

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then how do we
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That actually leads me

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to my second point,
which is not just reverse

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engineering a relationship
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but also asking the question,
who's responsibility is that?

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It's not just a question of how.

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How do we get our kids
to have a relationship with God?

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It's a question of who

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whose job is that?

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Look, in our culture, we outsource a lot
as it relates to parenting.

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I mean, we have to I mean, about the time
my kids hit third grade when they asked

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for math help and their homework,
I send them to their mother

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or anymore to ChatGPT

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because I don't know how to do it right.

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And as they pursue hobbies
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in or skills,
and it can be tough to help them.

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They're inclined to ask me, but I don't
want them to realize how dumb I really am.

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So I look for someone to do it for me,

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and that works for some things,
but it doesn't work for everything.

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This passage
clearly teaches that not only does

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God want to have relationship
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he wants you parents

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to take the lead in getting them there.

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Look.

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Listen to what it says here
as he tells them who he is.

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He says this and these words that I
command you today shall be on your heart.

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You shall

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teach them diligently to your children

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shall talk of them
when you sit in your house,

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when you walk, by the way,
when you lie down, and when you rise,

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you shall bind them
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and they shall be as front
lights on your eyes.

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You shall write them on the doorposts
of your house and on your gates.

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God isn't telling the pastor

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or the priest,

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or the YouTuber,

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or the author, or the podcaster

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that their job is to lead

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their children to the God who loves them.

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He says, it's our job.

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Now. Why is that?

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Let me give you two analogies
that I'll drive at home.

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I want to talk about tying
a tie and cooking chicken in a crockpot

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first tying a tie.

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I was a sophomore or junior in college
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I did not know how to tie a tie,
and that was a problem

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no one had ever taught me,
and I guess I never needed one.

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I don't know if I got through high school
without having to go to funerals

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or weddings, or if maybe the dress code
just didn't apply to me, I don't know,

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but I remember I was getting ready
for a dance with my girlfriend, who's

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now my wife, and I had to have her
dad teach me because I didn't know.

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I didn't know how to tie a tie.

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You know, the truth is,
over the course of my life,

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I had a lot of adults who poured into me
a great teachers,

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great coaches, mentors.

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I had people who were shift
managers at places that I've worked.

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There were a lot of people
who would help me grow up.

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A lot of people who had helped me develop,
but none of them had ever thought

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to teach me how to tie a tie,
because it wasn't their responsibility.

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They were specialists.

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My football
coach talked to me about football.

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My math teacher talked to me about math.

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My shift
manager talked to me about work ethic.

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The truth is, I needed

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my parents to teach me how to tie a tie.

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Now, this is not a comment on my parents
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They might say they did try to teach me
and I'm just dumb.

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I already said that.

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My point is, parents,

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for most of us, we've built
lives for our children where there are

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a number of people who can teach them
how to block and tackle,

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or how to read sheet music,

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or how to get good grades in algebra,
maybe even how to work hard.

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But none of those people
wake up in the morning

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saying, your kids need to know
that God loves them.

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Who will do that?

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If not for us?

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Who will do that if not for you?

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But the

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second analogy I want you to think about
is cooking chicken in a crock pot.

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It's always dangerous when I use
cooking metaphors because I don't cook.

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But here's how I understand a crock pot
and my wife is over in this area,

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so I'm going to try
not to make eye contact in case I'm wrong.

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My understanding is when you put chicken

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in a crock pot, you just kind of set it on
and you let it cook.

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and it soaks in that
and it cooks slowly over time.

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And the thing about cooking
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it gets soft, and it really absorbs
the flavor that you put in with it.

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Of course, the downside to
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there's not much
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It's soaked too long.

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I want you to understand something.

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Some of us have built lives for our kids,
whether they're

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in Christian schools
or they're in churches.

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And you think, well, there's lots of
people who will teach them about God.

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There's a lot of people who will add
spiritual seasoning to their lives.

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But what this passage describes
is a simple truth

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that everyone who works with kids knows

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the environment of home.

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The crock pot a kid marinates in

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who you show them God to be,

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who you show them, or what you show them.

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Values to be, priorities to be will

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ultimately be the flavor
they leave your home with.

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Other people might try to add seasoning,

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but I can tell you,
after 20 years of ministry

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where 7 or 8 years of coaching
youth football or in any environment I'm

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in where
I'm working with children or teenagers,

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a few minutes a week, a couple hours

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a week will not overcome

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the marinating they do in your home.

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Your children are meant to know God.

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They are meant
to enjoy relationship with them

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and no one will be as effective

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at teaching them that of pushing them

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to that of leading them in that direction.

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As you.

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Or no one

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short of

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a miraculous activity or event

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will be able to overcome

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the lack of that as they've crock
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Now, I just want to say that

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as I prepared to say that to you
this week, I.

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I was worried that some of you might feel
a little shamed by that,

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because if you're sitting here
with a 13 year old and you're thinking,

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well, I haven't taught them to tie a tie,
I haven't crock

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potted them in an environment
where they would learn about God.

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We're not talking about God in our home.

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We're not forming our kids spiritually.

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So what does that mean? Have I blown it?

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I want you to

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know that few things in life
get anyone's attention,

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like a sudden change.

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I have friends who are in great shape.

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They've never not been in great shape.

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I never ask them for diet or fitness tips

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because they are discipline freaks.

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We're not similar.

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There's nothing
they can say that will help me.

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But when a friend around me goes

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from not caring about that
to caring about that, I start to ask.

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I start to wonder

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what happened, what changed?

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What are you doing that's different?

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If you feel as though reading Deuteronomy
six is convicting, let me invite you

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to consider that God is calling you today

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to a sudden change of priorities,
and that perhaps

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that sudden change
will capture the heart of your child.

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But I also want to tell

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you this it is God's vision for your kids
to know him.

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It is your responsibility
according to him.

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But you're not alone.

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That's actually my third point.

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There are resources for you.

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In fact, I want to hold out five resources

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that we offer here at the church to you

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because our desire is to come alongside
you as parents

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and empower you to do the work
that God has called you to do.

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So here are five ways that we can help,
and I want you to focus

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less on the individual thing
and more on the wave of this.

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There are a lot of ways we want to help.

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Help is available. Here's the first.

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You must first experience
God's love for yourself.

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You know,
this passage is God speaking to Israel

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after they've experienced
some pretty incredible things,

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and he's telling a generation
that he's rescued from Egypt.

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He's telling them,
your kids didn't live these stories.

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So you have to pass them down.

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Don't lose the miracles of what I've done.

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You see,
God is telling us the same principle.

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They tell us on an airplane,
before you put the oxygen

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mask on your child,
you must first put it on yourself.

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God wants to know your name.

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He wants you to know he loves you.

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In fact, he wants that so badly.

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He sent his own son, Jesus,

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to live righteously in your place, to die

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sacrificially on the cross for your sin
and for mine

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to do away with God's judgment,
God's anger

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that was righteously on us to die,
and three days later

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to rise from the dead
in order that you and I might be forgiven

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you and I might begin
a relationship with God.

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Don't start with your kids.

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Start with yourself.

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God doesn't want to run around
on the playground for an hour

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with you.

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He wants relationship experience that.

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That's what we preach about.

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Sing about, read about every week
here at Christ Community Chapel.

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Come.

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Not not for your kids, not first.

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Come for yourself.

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The second way we can help
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you experience, but in educating you.

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Much of our teaching,
our our Bible studies,

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our podcast, every thing we do here
at the church is to help you

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not only meet Jesus,
but to grow in your understanding of him.

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I know some people are out there going,
I'd love to teach my kids about God,

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but Zach,
that's like you teaching your kids math.

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I don't know enough, but you can.

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But you can. Listen. We know life is busy.

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That's why we have a Thursday
night service.

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We know we don't want you to stop going

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to the lake on the weekend
or take your kids out of sports.

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You can both end it.

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You don't need to either. Or it.

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We know you're busy.

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Too busy to come here
multiple times in a week, which is why

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we have podcasts and videos
and things designed to help

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you take laundry time
and turn it into spiritual growth.

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Time. We want you to meet Jesus.

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We want you to grow in Jesus experience
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Here's a third one example.

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There are

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moms and dads in this crowd
who have raised children

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and taught them
who God is, and to love him well.

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Learn from them.

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One of the best things that happens
at a church is you're around

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people that are a generation
ahead, two generations ahead.

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Ask them questions. Learn from them.

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I can tell you that in our family,
we've learned so much.

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Here's an example.

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We do our Bible study after dinner
every night, right before dessert.

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And you say you do dessert every night.

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Listen, all questions
about our dietary, plan.

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Go to my wife, Amy.

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I'll give you her email after the service.

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But the reason we do that

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is because while the kids are eating,
they're in a mood to listen.

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And we go through with our five children's
stories of what God has done.

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And then we ask a question,

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and you have to get a question
right before you get dessert.

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You've never seen greater motivation.

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And that's just Amy.

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Does it work?

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Well every night?

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No, but an older brother in
Christ told me this.

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Zach, trust the aggregate.

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Not the moment.

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Examples.

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Examples.

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Here's the fourth one.

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Excitement.

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One of the greatest ways to form children
and their love for God

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is to bring them
into spiritual environments that are fun.

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Did your kids have fun at kids camp?

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I can't hear if you're clapping.

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I hope you are.

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And the reason why we want them

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to have fun is because you can't convince
kids God loves them.

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If he's boring, you can't convince kids
that God loves them.

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If he doesn't understand their childlike
wonder, their childlike enthusiasm.

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Listen, we turf fields and put in walking
tracks and playgrounds and

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and environments in the building because
we understand a God who loves kids.

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Once them to enjoy the time
they spend around his people.

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And then here's the fifth one.

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We want to empower
you to join God's mission.

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This in God's doing amazing things
at this church.

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He's reaching people,
putting families back together.

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We want to invite you and your children
not just to receive, but, to give.

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I was actually out of town for most of
this week dealing with a family emergency,

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but when I came back Thursday afternoon,
my family was exhausted.

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That's because my wife and my 17 year old
and my 15 year old

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and my 13 year old were serving at kids
camp.

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Not because we make them,

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but because they're learning
how exciting it is to join with God

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in what he's doing to convince children
he loves them

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to join with God in his mission
to restore families.

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Listen, here's what I'm telling you
God has a vision for your children.

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God has a vision for your family.

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He wants you to lead.

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He wants you to bring your children
into his story.

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And we know that's scary to you,

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hard for you, challenging and daunting.

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And we want to help

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and all the things that

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we do
and all the things that we have going on.

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Our desire is to point you to Jesus,
to help you grow in him,

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and to help your family discover
their incredible

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and unique role in what he's doing.

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I hope you'll come check it out.

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Let me pray for us.

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Father God, thank you so much
for the incredible task of parenting.

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The truth is,
none of us are really up to the task.

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Every day presents new challenges,
many of them bigger than us.

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Thank you then for the church,

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for men and women who come alongside
us, who serve in ministries,

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who pour in to families,
whether it's in the parking lot or kids

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camp, or ushering or passing out
bottles of water, all part of the design

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to say, maybe it isn't my kids,
maybe they're not my grandkids.

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But God cares about children.

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And so, so do we.

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God cares about families and so do we.

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God, thank you for giving this church
the privilege of partnering with you

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and your mission to help parents
lead their children to faith in you.

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In Jesus name we pray. Amen.