1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,583 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:13,250 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:13,250 --> 01:00:14,708 welcome to Friday everyone. 5 01:00:15,125 --> 01:00:16,958 Yet again, we have done it. 6 01:00:17,166 --> 01:00:19,333 And if you are keeping track, we've 7 01:00:19,333 --> 01:00:20,708 reached this fantastic 8 01:00:20,708 --> 01:00:24,208 Friday 51 times so far this year. 9 01:00:24,500 --> 01:00:26,000 Now that's got to count for something. 10 01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:28,375 Pat yourself on the back at the very 11 01:00:28,375 --> 01:00:30,166 least for that perseverance. 12 01:00:30,541 --> 01:00:32,375 All right, for today's quote, we're 13 01:00:32,375 --> 01:00:34,875 turning to actor and advocate, Alyssa 14 01:00:34,875 --> 01:00:36,375 Milano, who once said, 15 01:00:36,791 --> 01:00:38,791 "No matter what you go through in life, 16 01:00:38,791 --> 01:00:40,750 as long as you can laugh your way through 17 01:00:40,750 --> 01:00:42,041 it, you're going to be okay." 18 01:00:42,875 --> 01:00:45,166 Now, in the moment, that can be tough at 19 01:00:45,166 --> 01:00:46,208 times, but keep your 20 01:00:46,208 --> 01:00:47,458 sense of humor handy. 21 01:00:47,958 --> 01:00:50,416 Your ability to smile through tough times 22 01:00:50,416 --> 01:00:52,583 is a kind of quiet superpower. 23 01:00:53,291 --> 01:00:55,166 All right, well, here are your four 24 01:00:55,166 --> 01:00:57,875 moments that matter for December 19th. 25 01:00:57,875 --> 01:01:00,291 On this day, back in 1990, if you grew up 26 01:01:00,291 --> 01:01:01,416 in the 80s and 90s, I know 27 01:01:01,416 --> 01:01:03,833 you know this name, Bo Jackson. 28 01:01:04,125 --> 01:01:06,375 He was named to the AFC Pro Bowl team, 29 01:01:06,708 --> 01:01:08,875 making him the first athlete ever 30 01:01:08,875 --> 01:01:10,958 selected as an all-star in both the Major 31 01:01:10,958 --> 01:01:13,125 League Baseball and the NFL. 32 01:01:13,875 --> 01:01:16,041 All right, well, today's special day is 33 01:01:16,041 --> 01:01:18,000 National Hard Candy Day. 34 01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:21,000 And that's a hard salute to the humble, 35 01:01:21,500 --> 01:01:23,291 long-lasting candy that lives in 36 01:01:23,291 --> 01:01:25,125 grandma's purse and that 37 01:01:25,125 --> 01:01:26,916 little glass bowl on the shelf. 38 01:01:26,916 --> 01:01:28,500 You know exactly what I'm talking about. 39 01:01:28,958 --> 01:01:30,458 Well, the number one song on this date 40 01:01:30,458 --> 01:01:33,791 back in 2000 was Independent Women, part 41 01:01:33,791 --> 01:01:35,041 one by Destiny's Child. 42 01:01:35,333 --> 01:01:37,208 Now, remember, this song became an anthem 43 01:01:37,208 --> 01:01:39,166 of self-reliance, and it dominated the 44 01:01:39,166 --> 01:01:40,666 radio and took over the 45 01:01:40,666 --> 01:01:41,875 Charlie's Angels soundtrack. 46 01:01:42,416 --> 01:01:43,166 Good morning, Angels. 47 01:01:43,958 --> 01:01:45,416 Well, happy birthday to you. 48 01:01:45,416 --> 01:01:46,000 Today is your birthday. 49 01:01:46,000 --> 01:01:48,833 You share a birthday with actor known for 50 01:01:48,833 --> 01:01:51,125 a lot of roles, including Donnie Darko, 51 01:01:51,125 --> 01:01:52,625 Nightcrawler, Spider-Man, 52 01:01:52,625 --> 01:01:54,500 Far From Home, Jake Gyllenhaal. 53 01:01:54,500 --> 01:01:56,041 He's just 45 today. 54 01:01:56,791 --> 01:01:58,333 Actor and activist from Who's the Boss? 55 01:01:58,541 --> 01:02:00,250 and Charmed, Alyssa Milano. 56 01:02:00,500 --> 01:02:01,708 She's 53 today. 57 01:02:02,291 --> 01:02:03,958 And remember this guy, illusionist and 58 01:02:03,958 --> 01:02:05,000 magician, star of the 59 01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:06,500 Mind Freak, Chris Angel. 60 01:02:06,750 --> 01:02:08,041 He's 58 today. 61 01:02:08,666 --> 01:02:09,000 All right. 62 01:02:09,333 --> 01:02:10,833 Well, let's turn to the book review. 63 01:02:11,041 --> 01:02:13,875 And today we are wrapping up chapter 13 64 01:02:13,875 --> 01:02:16,250 of Mel Robbins, The Let Them Theory, 65 01:02:16,250 --> 01:02:18,833 which is pulling together everything Mel 66 01:02:18,833 --> 01:02:20,875 Robbins has been saying about adult 67 01:02:20,875 --> 01:02:23,375 friendships, the great scattering, and 68 01:02:23,375 --> 01:02:25,500 how to move forward with more peace. 69 01:02:26,041 --> 01:02:28,333 So this chapter, it zooms out and it 70 01:02:28,333 --> 01:02:30,166 names the core problem. 71 01:02:30,666 --> 01:02:32,875 Many of us still expect friendships to 72 01:02:32,875 --> 01:02:34,666 work the way it did in childhood. 73 01:02:35,208 --> 01:02:36,833 Back then, the infrastructure did the 74 01:02:36,833 --> 01:02:38,750 work, school, sports, neighborhoods. 75 01:02:39,291 --> 01:02:40,458 But as adults, those 76 01:02:40,458 --> 01:02:41,916 structures fall away. 77 01:02:42,375 --> 01:02:44,000 People are moving, priorities are 78 01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:45,958 shifting, and suddenly it feels like 79 01:02:45,958 --> 01:02:47,500 you're the only one who doesn't have a 80 01:02:47,500 --> 01:02:48,666 built-in group chat. 81 01:02:49,041 --> 01:02:50,833 Now, Robbins calls this season the great 82 01:02:50,833 --> 01:02:52,625 scattering and reminds you 83 01:02:52,625 --> 01:02:54,291 that it's not a personal failure. 84 01:02:54,625 --> 01:02:56,333 It's just how life evolves. 85 01:02:56,958 --> 01:02:58,875 From there, Mel revisited the three 86 01:02:58,875 --> 01:02:59,666 pillars of friendship, 87 01:02:59,916 --> 01:03:01,541 proximity, timing, and energy. 88 01:03:02,125 --> 01:03:04,041 If someone no longer lives near you, 89 01:03:04,041 --> 01:03:05,625 shares your life stage, or has the 90 01:03:05,625 --> 01:03:07,958 emotional bandwidth to invest, the 91 01:03:07,958 --> 01:03:09,875 friendship will naturally change. 92 01:03:10,416 --> 01:03:12,333 And instead of taking every drift as 93 01:03:12,333 --> 01:03:14,000 rejection, Mel wants 94 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:15,208 you to see it as physics. 95 01:03:15,791 --> 01:03:18,125 In her words, quote, "It's not personal. 96 01:03:18,375 --> 01:03:19,833 It's a pillar," end quote. 97 01:03:20,500 --> 01:03:22,583 A big part of the summary is about 98 01:03:22,583 --> 01:03:23,833 reclaiming your power. 99 01:03:24,250 --> 01:03:26,708 She writes that, quote, "People hold no 100 01:03:26,708 --> 01:03:28,166 power over you unless you 101 01:03:28,166 --> 01:03:29,541 give it to them," end quote. 102 01:03:30,083 --> 01:03:32,166 And the let them theory is how you start 103 01:03:32,166 --> 01:03:33,583 taking that power back. 104 01:03:34,166 --> 01:03:35,125 Let them cancel. 105 01:03:35,125 --> 01:03:36,000 Let them move away. 106 01:03:36,000 --> 01:03:37,666 Let them get busy with kids or career. 107 01:03:38,083 --> 01:03:39,958 Instead of clinging or resenting, you 108 01:03:39,958 --> 01:03:42,041 say, "Okay, that's where they are." 109 01:03:42,041 --> 01:03:43,208 And then you shift your 110 01:03:43,208 --> 01:03:45,000 focus to what you can control. 111 01:03:45,583 --> 01:03:47,666 That's where the let me side comes in. 112 01:03:47,666 --> 01:03:48,500 Let me be flexible. 113 01:03:48,500 --> 01:03:49,416 Let me go first. 114 01:03:49,416 --> 01:03:50,291 Let me check in on 115 01:03:50,291 --> 01:03:51,833 someone who crosses my mind. 116 01:03:52,291 --> 01:03:54,083 Let me accept that some of my favorite 117 01:03:54,083 --> 01:03:57,000 people in life may not have arrived yet. 118 01:03:57,541 --> 01:03:59,708 Robbins encourages you to see yourself 119 01:03:59,708 --> 01:04:01,541 not as someone waiting to be chosen, 120 01:04:02,166 --> 01:04:04,625 but as someone actively building a life 121 01:04:04,625 --> 01:04:06,000 filled with the kind of 122 01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:07,458 connections that you want. 123 01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:10,500 And by the end of Chapter 13, friendship 124 01:04:10,500 --> 01:04:12,875 stops being a painful scorecard 125 01:04:13,250 --> 01:04:14,916 and it starts looking like an ongoing 126 01:04:14,916 --> 01:04:16,250 practice and flexibility 127 01:04:16,250 --> 01:04:18,333 and self-respect and courage. 128 01:04:19,041 --> 01:04:19,833 Now, you're allowed to 129 01:04:19,833 --> 01:04:21,083 grieve what's changed, 130 01:04:21,083 --> 01:04:23,916 but you're also invited to participate in 131 01:04:23,916 --> 01:04:25,291 what's possible next. 132 01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:28,083 All right, here is your Friday takeaway. 133 01:04:28,708 --> 01:04:30,000 When you understand that most friendship 134 01:04:30,000 --> 01:04:30,916 changes are about 135 01:04:30,916 --> 01:04:33,208 shifting pillars, not your worth, 136 01:04:33,583 --> 01:04:35,791 you're free to let people go with grace 137 01:04:35,791 --> 01:04:37,083 and keep building the 138 01:04:37,083 --> 01:04:39,166 connections that fit your life now. 139 01:04:39,708 --> 01:04:40,791 Well, as you head into a Friday, 140 01:04:40,791 --> 01:04:42,708 remember, your life can have more than 141 01:04:42,708 --> 01:04:44,666 one chapter of great people in it. 142 01:04:44,666 --> 01:04:45,458 Let the friendships that 143 01:04:45,458 --> 01:04:46,708 are meant to stay stay. 144 01:04:47,125 --> 01:04:49,500 Let the others drift and trust that you 145 01:04:49,500 --> 01:04:51,916 can laugh, love and rebuild again. 146 01:04:52,333 --> 01:04:53,041 Hey, thanks for starting 147 01:04:53,041 --> 01:04:54,000 your day with morning cereal. 148 01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:55,458 Rest up this weekend. You 149 01:04:55,458 --> 01:04:57,000 have a big week next week. 150 01:04:57,583 --> 01:04:59,416 And we will see you back here on Monday. 151 01:04:59,750 --> 01:05:02,333 And until then, have a fantastic day. 152 01:05:24,000 --> 01:05:25,791 We'll dive deeper into everyday issues, 153 01:05:26,041 --> 01:05:26,875 self-improvement, 154 01:05:26,875 --> 01:05:28,458 well-being, business and finance, 155 01:05:28,958 --> 01:05:30,625 and we welcome special guests too. 156 01:05:31,166 --> 01:05:32,208 So join us. It'll be a 157 01:05:32,208 --> 01:05:33,166 good time, I promise. 158 01:05:33,916 --> 01:05:34,416 Thanks again for 159 01:05:34,416 --> 01:05:36,083 listening. Have a fantastic day. 160 01:05:36,500 --> 01:05:37,083 And we'll see you tomorrow.