1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,480 Hello everyone. 2 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:02,550 And welcome back to the Oren Cohen podcast. 3 00:00:02,580 --> 00:00:06,119 This is day 15 of my 30 day challenge. 4 00:00:06,900 --> 00:00:10,530 This is going to be a short one because I messed up today and it's 5 00:00:10,530 --> 00:00:13,620 already five minutes before midnight. 6 00:00:14,220 --> 00:00:18,180 So today in this short episode, I want to share a story. 7 00:00:18,750 --> 00:00:22,650 Because the stories are great and we always have something 8 00:00:22,650 --> 00:00:24,119 to learn from a good story. 9 00:00:24,819 --> 00:00:29,620 Today, I want to tell you about the time I got stood up in an interview 10 00:00:29,870 --> 00:00:31,939 and how I handled the situation. 11 00:00:31,939 --> 00:00:35,330 So one time as I was waiting for an interview. 12 00:00:35,919 --> 00:00:38,229 The way it works is always the same. 13 00:00:38,289 --> 00:00:42,819 I go into the call because I am a highly sensitive person. 14 00:00:42,819 --> 00:00:46,700 So I am pretty anxious before talking to people. 15 00:00:47,060 --> 00:00:50,600 So I usually just go into the call and wait. 16 00:00:51,090 --> 00:00:56,250 Usually people can be on time, but sometimes they can be a little bit late. 17 00:00:56,640 --> 00:01:02,400 And I was already aware that this person that I was going to interview. 18 00:01:03,210 --> 00:01:07,350 Was going to be a little bit late because they always were. 19 00:01:08,310 --> 00:01:09,840 In our previous interviews. 20 00:01:10,020 --> 00:01:13,500 Yes, this is a person I interviewed more than one time. 21 00:01:13,550 --> 00:01:17,650 obviously not going to reveal this person's, identity. 22 00:01:17,650 --> 00:01:19,630 I was waiting for the person to show up. 23 00:01:20,710 --> 00:01:24,940 After 10 minutes or so I was like, okay, let's still wait. 24 00:01:25,390 --> 00:01:27,280 Uh, this is not unusual. 25 00:01:27,910 --> 00:01:29,770 I usually set the call to an hour. 26 00:01:30,220 --> 00:01:33,760 But I can make do if we have less time than that. 27 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:38,510 You learn to be flexible and that's something that I, I would want 28 00:01:38,510 --> 00:01:40,880 to share in a different episode. 29 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,920 But for now, we're going to focus on. 30 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:45,300 Being stood up. 31 00:01:45,960 --> 00:01:46,470 So. 32 00:01:46,470 --> 00:01:47,370 I was still waiting. 33 00:01:47,700 --> 00:01:48,330 And waiting. 34 00:01:49,110 --> 00:01:55,380 And I think after about 40 minutes of waiting where I'm in the call. 35 00:01:55,860 --> 00:01:57,510 Waiting for this person to show up. 36 00:01:57,510 --> 00:02:00,570 No emails, no text messages. 37 00:02:01,170 --> 00:02:04,200 No DMS over social media, nothing. 38 00:02:04,790 --> 00:02:06,440 Simply nothing. 39 00:02:06,620 --> 00:02:08,900 I was flabbergasted. 40 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,000 What's going on. 41 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,190 then, I was like, okay. 42 00:02:13,460 --> 00:02:15,830 This is a waste of my time. 43 00:02:15,830 --> 00:02:21,400 If I'm still waiting after the alotted time not only am 44 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:23,320 I being a pushover because. 45 00:02:24,190 --> 00:02:26,080 What is a schedule. 46 00:02:26,170 --> 00:02:27,970 If we don't adhere to it. 47 00:02:27,970 --> 00:02:29,410 And also. 48 00:02:29,410 --> 00:02:31,630 This is disrespectful to me. 49 00:02:31,660 --> 00:02:33,940 There is a certain etiquette. 50 00:02:34,590 --> 00:02:40,530 That you need to learn to adhere to when you interview someone, whether it's in 51 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:44,970 emails, whether it's in the call itself, whether it's just being a nice person. 52 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:46,110 At all. 53 00:02:46,750 --> 00:02:47,830 At the time. 54 00:02:48,580 --> 00:02:55,420 I was facing the decision of how to react to what just happened. 55 00:02:56,530 --> 00:03:01,150 Am I going to blow this up in terms of like, okay, I'm going to 56 00:03:01,150 --> 00:03:03,520 be very aggressive in my response. 57 00:03:04,180 --> 00:03:08,680 And potentially lose this person because I. 58 00:03:09,460 --> 00:03:11,980 React explosively and angrily. 59 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:12,430 And 60 00:03:12,930 --> 00:03:16,530 not really giving this person a chance to explain themselves. 61 00:03:16,530 --> 00:03:19,350 Or I could be understanding and. 62 00:03:20,340 --> 00:03:24,720 Ask them what happened and, uh, Maybe. 63 00:03:25,740 --> 00:03:30,840 Find out that something horrible had gone wrong and people do have 64 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,480 scheduling hiccups from time to time. 65 00:03:34,620 --> 00:03:40,380 And I am so glad that I chose the latter, because if I was going with the explosive 66 00:03:40,380 --> 00:03:48,180 approach, Then I would have lost a person that I really enjoy talking to. 67 00:03:49,140 --> 00:03:55,000 So I remember sending an email like, Hey, you didn't show up is everything. 68 00:03:55,030 --> 00:03:55,660 All right. 69 00:03:55,690 --> 00:03:58,420 Do you need any help with anything? 70 00:03:58,870 --> 00:04:01,960 Like I remember it was something along those lines, like being 71 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:05,320 very gentle and helpful. 72 00:04:05,900 --> 00:04:09,930 And the person got back to me a day after or something like that. 73 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:15,410 And apologized and, we rescheduled and that new date worked. 74 00:04:16,050 --> 00:04:23,260 so the moral of the story is not to run into conclusions about something like. 75 00:04:23,260 --> 00:04:28,190 I could have been very prideful and say like, Hey, how could you do this to me? 76 00:04:28,410 --> 00:04:31,320 How could you not show up to the time That we scheduled. 77 00:04:32,020 --> 00:04:34,570 How could, how could you make me wait so long? 78 00:04:34,570 --> 00:04:36,270 And, it is. 79 00:04:36,990 --> 00:04:39,000 Sort of justified. 80 00:04:39,550 --> 00:04:41,080 It is not nice. 81 00:04:41,350 --> 00:04:45,100 To stare at an empty meeting on Riverside. 82 00:04:45,910 --> 00:04:48,430 Um, while waiting for a person to show up. 83 00:04:49,540 --> 00:04:50,410 But. 84 00:04:51,790 --> 00:04:54,070 You don't know what's going to happen. 85 00:04:54,100 --> 00:04:56,530 You don't know what other people are going through. 86 00:04:57,070 --> 00:04:58,180 As you wait for them. 87 00:04:58,180 --> 00:05:02,320 Next time you're facing an interview or, a, meeting. 88 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:03,580 Where. 89 00:05:04,150 --> 00:05:08,500 The person doesn't show up and is not really responsive. 90 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:11,950 Take a step back, take a deep breath. 91 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:18,080 And, try to understand what happened before you react to what happened. 92 00:05:18,660 --> 00:05:22,020 We don't know what's up with other people. 93 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:24,970 Especially if they're a person from across the globe. 94 00:05:25,030 --> 00:05:29,560 And for me, this was a person from America and I am. 95 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:31,990 Not in America. 96 00:05:32,630 --> 00:05:35,420 Kind of rambling on, but the point is clear. 97 00:05:36,620 --> 00:05:40,850 Take a deep breath and don't jump to conclusions. 98 00:05:41,460 --> 00:05:44,100 I hope you enjoyed this little story before I go to bed. 99 00:05:44,170 --> 00:05:44,560 Tomorrow. 100 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:48,010 I'll probably have another story for you, but we'll keep it for tomorrow. 101 00:05:48,580 --> 00:05:51,640 And thank you so much for listening. 102 00:05:52,300 --> 00:05:54,880 And if you want to learn more. 103 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:57,850 About content creation and have a deeper. 104 00:05:58,140 --> 00:06:00,600 Connection with me via email. 105 00:06:00,930 --> 00:06:02,100 Then I have a newsletter. 106 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:04,950 You can find it in the description of the episode. 107 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,320 Thank you again so much for watching and I'll see you in the next one. 108 00:06:09,190 --> 00:06:09,550 Bye for now.