1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,791 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,791 --> 01:00:04,625 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:11,958 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:12,291 --> 01:00:13,750 It's a brand new week, 5 01:00:13,750 --> 01:00:14,875 it's a brand new year 6 01:00:14,958 --> 01:00:16,666 and we are back to 7 01:00:16,666 --> 01:00:17,958 full episodes this week 8 01:00:18,250 --> 01:00:20,125 and the coffee's working so that's good 9 01:00:20,125 --> 01:00:22,583 and on top of it all, today 10 01:00:22,583 --> 01:00:25,083 is National Whipped Cream Day 11 01:00:25,416 --> 01:00:26,958 which is permission to make 12 01:00:26,958 --> 01:00:28,625 life a little sweeter today 13 01:00:29,125 --> 01:00:31,000 especially if it's just on top 14 01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:32,666 of something somewhat ordinary. 15 01:00:33,291 --> 01:00:34,708 Well, now the essential 16 01:00:34,708 --> 01:00:37,000 vitamins in your morning cereal. 17 01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:37,958 Today's quote is from 18 01:00:37,958 --> 01:00:39,583 birthday boy Bradley Cooper 19 01:00:39,833 --> 01:00:41,666 who once said, quote, 20 01:00:41,750 --> 01:00:43,291 "The thing that I've learned 21 01:00:43,291 --> 01:00:45,083 "is that I don't want to do things 22 01:00:45,083 --> 01:00:47,416 "that I'm not passionate about." 23 01:00:47,708 --> 01:00:48,125 End quote. 24 01:00:48,750 --> 01:00:50,041 Now, that is a great 25 01:00:50,041 --> 01:00:51,500 reminder that energy, 26 01:00:51,500 --> 01:00:53,000 it follows your interests 27 01:00:53,500 --> 01:00:54,500 and forcing yourself 28 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:56,000 into things that don't fit, 29 01:00:56,458 --> 01:00:58,000 well, it usually costs 30 01:00:58,000 --> 01:00:59,375 more than it gives you. 31 01:00:59,916 --> 01:01:01,000 All right, well, you have 32 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:02,375 heard more than enough from me. 33 01:01:02,375 --> 01:01:04,125 Let's pour in some of the 34 01:01:04,125 --> 01:01:06,125 let them theory by Mel Robbins 35 01:01:06,125 --> 01:01:07,125 in today's book review. 36 01:01:07,625 --> 01:01:09,041 Today we are talking 37 01:01:09,041 --> 01:01:12,041 about why change is so hard. 38 01:01:12,041 --> 01:01:12,666 Remember that we left 39 01:01:12,666 --> 01:01:14,041 off there last year? 40 01:01:14,541 --> 01:01:17,250 Well, here's truth number one, 41 01:01:17,833 --> 01:01:20,666 adults only change when they feel like it 42 01:01:20,875 --> 01:01:22,083 and Robbins makes this 43 01:01:22,083 --> 01:01:24,083 point very clearly and honestly 44 01:01:24,375 --> 01:01:25,708 saying, quote, "You cannot 45 01:01:25,708 --> 01:01:27,625 force another adult to change. 46 01:01:28,250 --> 01:01:30,625 "Adults only change when they decide to." 47 01:01:30,875 --> 01:01:31,250 End quote. 48 01:01:31,708 --> 01:01:32,583 And if we're being 49 01:01:32,583 --> 01:01:35,125 honest, that applies to us too. 50 01:01:35,125 --> 01:01:35,791 Right, sounds familiar. 51 01:01:36,416 --> 01:01:38,000 No amount of lectures, no 52 01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:39,416 deadlines or resolutions 53 01:01:39,416 --> 01:01:41,208 or any of those guilt trips, 54 01:01:41,208 --> 01:01:42,458 none of that actually works 55 01:01:42,625 --> 01:01:44,166 unless that desire to 56 01:01:44,166 --> 01:01:46,000 change comes from inside of us. 57 01:01:46,458 --> 01:01:48,416 Now, Mel explains that most people, 58 01:01:48,708 --> 01:01:51,000 they waste enormous amounts of energy 59 01:01:51,083 --> 01:01:51,875 trying to manage 60 01:01:51,875 --> 01:01:53,041 other people's behaviors. 61 01:01:54,041 --> 01:01:55,583 Partners, coworkers, family, 62 01:01:56,041 --> 01:01:58,208 instead of recognizing what's real. 63 01:01:58,500 --> 01:01:59,666 Quote, "When you stop 64 01:01:59,666 --> 01:02:01,833 trying to control what you can't, 65 01:02:01,833 --> 01:02:02,666 "you finally have 66 01:02:02,666 --> 01:02:04,333 energy for what you can." 67 01:02:04,583 --> 01:02:05,000 End quote. 68 01:02:05,541 --> 01:02:07,166 And that's the foundation of 69 01:02:07,166 --> 01:02:08,875 the let them mindset, right? 70 01:02:09,333 --> 01:02:11,291 Robbins also points out here that 71 01:02:11,291 --> 01:02:12,708 pressure creates resistance. 72 01:02:13,083 --> 01:02:14,041 The harder we push 73 01:02:14,041 --> 01:02:16,333 change in ourselves or others, 74 01:02:16,625 --> 01:02:17,791 the more the nervous 75 01:02:17,791 --> 01:02:19,541 system it pushes back. 76 01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:21,708 That's why willpower, it fades 77 01:02:21,875 --> 01:02:24,166 and habits snap back to old habits. 78 01:02:24,833 --> 01:02:25,583 Change isn't about 79 01:02:25,583 --> 01:02:27,583 force, it's about readiness. 80 01:02:28,083 --> 01:02:28,833 Mel writes, quote, 81 01:02:28,833 --> 01:02:30,708 "Change happens when the pain 82 01:02:30,708 --> 01:02:32,458 "of staying the same becomes greater 83 01:02:32,916 --> 01:02:34,500 "than the fear of the unknown." 84 01:02:34,750 --> 01:02:35,166 End quote. 85 01:02:35,833 --> 01:02:37,500 And until that moment arrives, 86 01:02:37,708 --> 01:02:40,125 people stay exactly where they are, 87 01:02:40,458 --> 01:02:41,875 even if they complain about it. 88 01:02:42,291 --> 01:02:43,583 Here's the freeing part, okay? 89 01:02:44,083 --> 01:02:45,708 Once you accept this truth, 90 01:02:46,250 --> 01:02:48,166 frustration, it drops away. 91 01:02:48,333 --> 01:02:49,916 You stop taking other 92 01:02:49,916 --> 01:02:51,708 people's lack of change personally, 93 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:53,333 and you stop shaming yourself for not 94 01:02:53,333 --> 01:02:54,750 being better yet, right? 95 01:02:55,041 --> 01:02:56,416 You're human, you're not broken. 96 01:02:57,041 --> 01:02:58,125 Okay, here is your 97 01:02:58,125 --> 01:02:59,625 first takeaway of the year. 98 01:02:59,625 --> 01:03:00,500 The Monday takeaway 99 01:03:00,500 --> 01:03:03,041 is stop forcing change 100 01:03:03,250 --> 01:03:05,166 in yourself or anyone else 101 01:03:05,625 --> 01:03:08,833 and start respecting the timing of it. 102 01:03:09,208 --> 01:03:11,458 So today, add a little whipped cream 103 01:03:11,458 --> 01:03:12,916 to whatever you're working on, 104 01:03:12,916 --> 01:03:14,083 not because it's perfect, 105 01:03:14,083 --> 01:03:16,791 but because you're worked in progress. 106 01:03:17,541 --> 01:03:18,541 Now, a little something 107 01:03:18,541 --> 01:03:19,708 new to morning cereal. 108 01:03:19,708 --> 01:03:21,250 We've been missing the prize 109 01:03:21,500 --> 01:03:22,500 from the bottom of the 110 01:03:22,500 --> 01:03:24,083 cereal box, so obvious. 111 01:03:24,541 --> 01:03:25,708 And it's the morning 112 01:03:25,708 --> 01:03:27,583 cereal trivia question. 113 01:03:27,958 --> 01:03:28,875 And we're gonna start you out 114 01:03:28,875 --> 01:03:30,125 today with an easy one, okay? 115 01:03:30,125 --> 01:03:31,500 It's the first one, here it is. 116 01:03:32,041 --> 01:03:34,583 How many bones are in the human body? 117 01:03:35,166 --> 01:03:36,666 All right, we will see 118 01:03:36,666 --> 01:03:37,875 you back here tomorrow 119 01:03:37,875 --> 01:03:38,916 for the answer to that 120 01:03:38,916 --> 01:03:41,083 and more sugar for the soul. 121 01:03:41,416 --> 01:03:42,416 Hey, thanks for listening 122 01:03:42,416 --> 01:03:43,375 to morning cereal today, 123 01:03:43,500 --> 01:03:46,583 and until then, have a fantastic day. 124 01:03:48,041 --> 01:03:49,583 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 125 01:03:49,583 --> 01:03:51,125 to the morning cereal podcast 126 01:03:51,291 --> 01:03:53,041 on the One Life Live It channel. 127 01:03:53,625 --> 01:03:55,291 You can find more episodes and videos 128 01:03:55,291 --> 01:03:56,750 by visiting our YouTube channel 129 01:03:56,916 --> 01:03:58,041 and the website at 130 01:03:58,041 --> 01:04:00,583 seaningless and at seaningless.com, 131 01:04:00,916 --> 01:04:01,708 where you can also 132 01:04:01,708 --> 01:04:03,166 follow our other podcast, 133 01:04:03,500 --> 01:04:04,666 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 134 01:04:05,166 --> 01:04:06,375 and the Life Happens podcast. 135 01:04:07,208 --> 01:04:09,333 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 136 01:04:09,333 --> 01:04:10,250 into everyday issues, 137 01:04:10,500 --> 01:04:12,000 self-improvement and well-being, 138 01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:13,791 business and finance, and we 139 01:04:13,791 --> 01:04:15,041 welcome special guests too. 140 01:04:15,541 --> 01:04:16,291 So join us. 141 01:04:16,333 --> 01:04:17,625 It'll be a good time, I promise. 142 01:04:18,333 --> 01:04:19,166 Thanks again for listening. 143 01:04:19,416 --> 01:04:21,000 Have a fantastic day and 144 01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:21,500 we'll see you tomorrow.