WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.800 --> 00:00:03.680 You're listening to the Bible Guys, a podcast where a 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:06.440 couple of friends talk about the Bible in fun, in 3 00:00:06.559 --> 00:00:14.000 practical ways. Hey, everybody, thanks for coming back, especially if 4 00:00:14.000 --> 00:00:15.279 you're a daily listener. 5 00:00:15.519 --> 00:00:18.079 Yeah, after how poorly we've done this week, we're shocked 6 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:18.920 anybody came back. 7 00:00:19.039 --> 00:00:21.160 Yes, hopefully we'll up the bar today. 8 00:00:21.239 --> 00:00:22.800 We're going to do We're gonna try this time. 9 00:00:22.879 --> 00:00:25.320 Yes, let's try, actually try, We're gonna try. 10 00:00:25.399 --> 00:00:27.679 Hey, we're gonna start off with a segment that Desiree 11 00:00:27.839 --> 00:00:29.160 is calling story time. 12 00:00:29.679 --> 00:00:30.679 So this is how it reads. 13 00:00:30.719 --> 00:00:32.560 She said, today we are moving out of the Book 14 00:00:32.600 --> 00:00:35.679 of Proverbs, and by the way, we're probably gonna jump 15 00:00:35.759 --> 00:00:36.159 back in. 16 00:00:36.119 --> 00:00:39.119 Right Yeah, yeah, sure, yeah, yeah, so from twenty five 17 00:00:39.399 --> 00:00:44.240 to thirty one, those proverbs were coalated during the rainy 18 00:00:44.320 --> 00:00:47.840 King Hezekiah. Yeah, so that's a little later, but yeah, OK, 19 00:00:47.880 --> 00:00:49.840 so we're gonna pause now and finish up with a 20 00:00:49.880 --> 00:00:53.200 lot of Solomon's other writings. I'm yawning, okay, yeah, sorry 21 00:00:53.200 --> 00:00:56.439 about that. Yeah, I said like five sentences an already 22 00:00:56.600 --> 00:00:58.960 you bore me. I'm boring you did. 23 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:01.640 That's a movie cool, by the way, yes, you bull me. 24 00:01:01.880 --> 00:01:06.000 It's from Blade Part one. Okay, today we were moving 25 00:01:06.079 --> 00:01:09.840 out of Proverbs and jumping into Song of Solomon. Since 26 00:01:09.840 --> 00:01:13.959 we were talking about the wedding day, let's share funny 27 00:01:14.000 --> 00:01:15.200 or embarrassing stories. 28 00:01:14.920 --> 00:01:16.439 From your early marriage days. 29 00:01:16.719 --> 00:01:18.599 Okay, So the first thing that came to my mind 30 00:01:18.719 --> 00:01:20.920 is actually something that happened on my actual wedding day. 31 00:01:21.680 --> 00:01:24.920 We took photos beforehand, so we did the first look, 32 00:01:25.640 --> 00:01:27.439 you know where they you know, sometimes you don't see 33 00:01:27.439 --> 00:01:30.120 the bride before the wedding, but if you're doing photos 34 00:01:30.159 --> 00:01:32.400 and you know reception right afterwards and all that, you 35 00:01:32.519 --> 00:01:35.200 have to do a first look. So we did bride 36 00:01:35.239 --> 00:01:37.560 and groom first look in this room, and so my 37 00:01:37.640 --> 00:01:40.480 wife and I saw each other, you know, cried, had 38 00:01:40.480 --> 00:01:42.719 our really fun moments. But we were sort of in 39 00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:44.040 this room for like half an hour, and she was 40 00:01:44.079 --> 00:01:46.599 sitting down, I was standing up, and I was like, 41 00:01:46.760 --> 00:01:49.000 you know, standing right next to her. Well, at the time, 42 00:01:49.040 --> 00:01:51.840 I know this sounds really silly, but at the time, 43 00:01:51.879 --> 00:01:53.000 I was taking taekwondo. 44 00:01:53.200 --> 00:01:53.959 We were in college. 45 00:01:54.040 --> 00:01:57.719 Oh no, And I don't think any story begins, any 46 00:01:57.719 --> 00:02:00.359 good story, yes begins. We were in our hucks, in 47 00:02:00.359 --> 00:02:04.040 our wedding dress, and at the time I was taking taekwondo. Yes, 48 00:02:04.040 --> 00:02:08.400 that transition phrase is there's nothing good about that one. 49 00:02:08.919 --> 00:02:09.680 You're really boring me. 50 00:02:09.800 --> 00:02:12.879 Yeah, so I just it's the sound of my voice 51 00:02:12.919 --> 00:02:16.879 is giving me a complex to sleep. 52 00:02:17.800 --> 00:02:20.599 So uh So, anyway, uh, I used to do this 53 00:02:20.680 --> 00:02:23.520 silly thing. It was so bad. And I used to 54 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:23.960 do this. 55 00:02:23.879 --> 00:02:26.800 Thing where I would like throw a punch and I 56 00:02:26.800 --> 00:02:29.719 would like try to impressively stop within like a half 57 00:02:29.719 --> 00:02:31.759 an inch before your nose. And I would sometimes do 58 00:02:31.759 --> 00:02:34.280 that with a kick, super impressive. Yeah, it's so it's 59 00:02:34.319 --> 00:02:36.639 so bad. It's so bad. I thought maybe I was 60 00:02:36.680 --> 00:02:39.199 cool or whatever. But I would go and all of 61 00:02:39.199 --> 00:02:41.759 a sudden, you know, karate kid it or whatever, and 62 00:02:41.800 --> 00:02:44.080 I'd and my my fist would come right up to 63 00:02:44.120 --> 00:02:46.560 your nose. Or I would do it with my kicking too. 64 00:02:47.120 --> 00:02:49.680 I'd be like, you know, put this little kick right. 65 00:02:49.800 --> 00:02:52.000 And it was so so, you know, it was so dumb. 66 00:02:52.360 --> 00:02:54.120 But anyway, so and I did. 67 00:02:54.439 --> 00:02:56.680 But you want your young bride to know that you 68 00:02:56.719 --> 00:02:59.680 are the man kind of dangerous, ye kind of dangerous. 69 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:00.680 You're strong. 70 00:03:01.479 --> 00:03:04.639 You do know who you're married, right, So so anyway, 71 00:03:04.800 --> 00:03:07.240 so so I did this thing where she was sitting 72 00:03:07.240 --> 00:03:10.360 down and I was standing up, and I oftentimes did 73 00:03:10.400 --> 00:03:12.719 this where I would just go I was a kick 74 00:03:13.120 --> 00:03:15.919 and I put my foot like right next to her face. Well, 75 00:03:16.159 --> 00:03:18.159 I don't know why, by the way, I did this always, 76 00:03:18.199 --> 00:03:19.800 but I never by the way, I never messed up. 77 00:03:19.800 --> 00:03:22.520 I've never hit anybody ever, as as long as i've 78 00:03:22.599 --> 00:03:24.639 you know, all those hundreds of times that I did. 79 00:03:24.719 --> 00:03:27.719 Anyway, the point is, it's our wedding day. 80 00:03:28.199 --> 00:03:31.439 I've got like dress shoes on, and as soon as 81 00:03:31.520 --> 00:03:34.360 I go to so I'm seeing her sitting there, I 82 00:03:34.400 --> 00:03:36.960 decided to do this kick thing on her wedding day. 83 00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:41.639 At the same time she leans forward to go stand up. 84 00:03:42.560 --> 00:03:45.120 Here's the good news of the story. I did not 85 00:03:45.240 --> 00:03:47.199 kick her in the face. I didn't teach her, I 86 00:03:47.199 --> 00:03:47.919 did not touch her. 87 00:03:47.960 --> 00:03:49.240 Good thank goodness, Liz. 88 00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:52.639 Yeah, However, she went to go lean forward to get up, 89 00:03:52.719 --> 00:03:56.479 and she looked at me and said, Chris, I almost 90 00:03:56.919 --> 00:03:59.080 got kicked in the face because. 91 00:03:58.840 --> 00:04:01.439 On her wedding day, On her wedding day, because because 92 00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:04.639 you know in that thirty minute window that that first look, 93 00:04:05.879 --> 00:04:09.439 everybody needs a good karate demonstration, right right right. Can 94 00:04:09.479 --> 00:04:11.479 you imagine No, no, no, I can't. 95 00:04:11.719 --> 00:04:14.280 Yeah, I mean I would have literally caused her to 96 00:04:14.280 --> 00:04:16.240 bleed or go to the hospital. 97 00:04:15.840 --> 00:04:17.720 Kick her in the head. She go out there with 98 00:04:17.759 --> 00:04:19.759 the black eye. Yes, that's hard to explain. 99 00:04:19.959 --> 00:04:21.040 Yeah, that's right. 100 00:04:21.519 --> 00:04:25.120 Yeah, So anyway, that's my silly wedding day illustration. 101 00:04:25.959 --> 00:04:26.279 Liz. 102 00:04:26.399 --> 00:04:29.439 I'm so thankful that that didn't happen. 103 00:04:29.639 --> 00:04:31.879 I can't believe, she said, I do. Anyways, I know, 104 00:04:32.160 --> 00:04:34.399 just just that the idea that you needed to do 105 00:04:34.439 --> 00:04:36.959 a karate demonstration right before. 106 00:04:37.399 --> 00:04:40.439 By the way, did you know that when it was 107 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:42.439 time for the bride for my wedding, it was. 108 00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:45.000 A traditional. 109 00:04:47.120 --> 00:04:50.600 When that music started, there was like a five second 110 00:04:50.639 --> 00:04:53.600 delay where she did not walk around the corner, and 111 00:04:53.639 --> 00:04:55.680 for just a split second, everybody's like, what's going on? 112 00:04:56.120 --> 00:04:58.519 But she told me later on it was actually her father, 113 00:04:59.079 --> 00:05:01.560 my father in law, who actually looked at her and said, 114 00:05:01.600 --> 00:05:02.160 are you sure you. 115 00:05:02.079 --> 00:05:04.720 Want to do this? He liked me, he approved of. 116 00:05:04.759 --> 00:05:07.519 Me, but you know, you did see his karate, right, 117 00:05:07.879 --> 00:05:09.360 But he did say, he said, are you sure you 118 00:05:09.399 --> 00:05:11.240 want to do this? He goes, because he goes, I 119 00:05:11.279 --> 00:05:13.480 can cancel this whole thing right now. He's trying to 120 00:05:13.480 --> 00:05:15.800 do his like father, protect the bigger girl thing. 121 00:05:15.680 --> 00:05:17.759 You know, And so she makes sense to me she 122 00:05:17.839 --> 00:05:21.319 was dealing with her dad. But our family was like, 123 00:05:21.959 --> 00:05:22.720 did she run. 124 00:05:23.079 --> 00:05:25.360 That's a great story. Yeah, there you go, that is 125 00:05:25.399 --> 00:05:26.120 a great story. 126 00:05:26.160 --> 00:05:27.680 Thank you, Jeff, What is your story? 127 00:05:29.160 --> 00:05:31.720 Silly thinks. We just didn't know what we didn't know, 128 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:34.959 you know. So Bonnie and I just so I rented 129 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:40.639 a house in the woods from a missionary who didn't 130 00:05:40.680 --> 00:05:43.800 live in the US, and I didn't realize it was 131 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:47.639 a summer cabin. So it had single pane windows and 132 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:51.879 no insulation in the house. Oh no, and it was 133 00:05:52.079 --> 00:05:54.319 winter and it was yeah, and it was just mud. 134 00:05:54.560 --> 00:05:57.600 So we got married in December and it was just mud. 135 00:05:57.759 --> 00:05:58.680 This wasn't honeymoon. 136 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:01.199 Well, we didn't have honeymoon. I had like a three 137 00:06:01.279 --> 00:06:05.040 day honeymoon, two nights, two night honeymoon. Then we moved. 138 00:06:05.319 --> 00:06:06.759 We had to move all over this stuff from Michigan 139 00:06:06.800 --> 00:06:10.759 down to Indiana, and so I lost my wedding ring 140 00:06:10.800 --> 00:06:13.759 when we were trying to the load everything out of 141 00:06:13.800 --> 00:06:15.439 the thing. In like two and a half there was 142 00:06:15.439 --> 00:06:19.360 a massive snowstorm in northwest Indiana the day we were moving, 143 00:06:19.399 --> 00:06:22.560 in like three feet of snow, and so then I 144 00:06:22.600 --> 00:06:26.439 get the U haul truck stuck in the hill up 145 00:06:26.519 --> 00:06:28.720 leading up to our place. I dropped my wedding ring 146 00:06:28.879 --> 00:06:32.480 in three feet of snow. It was just one of 147 00:06:32.480 --> 00:06:34.839 these terrible things. And then we went through so much 148 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:37.720 pro paane keeping that house heated right, because it was 149 00:06:37.759 --> 00:06:39.879 just these crazy things. But hey, we were young and 150 00:06:39.879 --> 00:06:41.240 in love and we're going to just do whatever we 151 00:06:41.279 --> 00:06:43.519 need to do. So we had somebody give us a gift. 152 00:06:43.839 --> 00:06:47.560 Bonnie's dad gave us a gift of a smokeless grill, 153 00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:50.439 and so somebody else came by and they gave us 154 00:06:50.560 --> 00:06:53.120 a couple of Rabbi steaks. And so it was our 155 00:06:53.160 --> 00:06:55.480 first night and I said, hey, let's just grill these 156 00:06:55.560 --> 00:06:57.480 Let's grill these steaks. This is kind of neat, we're 157 00:06:57.519 --> 00:06:58.959 all growing up. So I just set it on the 158 00:06:59.000 --> 00:07:02.319 kitchen table up that bad boy and filled the entire 159 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:05.160 house of smoke. So we ate our first meal together 160 00:07:05.360 --> 00:07:08.920 as a married couple. That we prepared sitting on the 161 00:07:08.920 --> 00:07:10.879 floor of the kitchen with all the windows open, and 162 00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:13.360 it was like, you know, five degrees outside. It was 163 00:07:13.439 --> 00:07:17.519 so cold and three feet of snow, and then you 164 00:07:17.560 --> 00:07:19.720 couldn't breathe because it was just the whole house was 165 00:07:19.720 --> 00:07:21.560 full of smoke. So I don't know why it meant 166 00:07:21.639 --> 00:07:23.639 why I said smokeless on the box, but it wasn't 167 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:25.360 smokeless and we discovered that. 168 00:07:25.399 --> 00:07:25.959 Wow. 169 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:28.920 So then I was going out to close the back 170 00:07:29.040 --> 00:07:34.439 gate of the U haul truck and slipped. And when 171 00:07:34.439 --> 00:07:36.879 I slipped, I put my hands down into the snow 172 00:07:36.920 --> 00:07:38.319 and I stood up with that ring in my hand. 173 00:07:39.360 --> 00:07:42.800 That's not true, that's true. That's true. Yeah. I mean 174 00:07:42.800 --> 00:07:44.879 we had looked for an hour from my ring could 175 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:46.920 find it. Then when I went to go shut the 176 00:07:47.240 --> 00:07:49.240 gate on the back of the truck, I slipped and 177 00:07:49.240 --> 00:07:52.439 fell and fell right on the ring. Is that amazing? Yeah. 178 00:07:52.439 --> 00:07:53.839 So that's how I knew it was going to work out. 179 00:07:53.920 --> 00:07:57.519 God was so I make really dumb choices and God's 180 00:07:57.519 --> 00:07:59.959 still looking out for me. That's That's how I want 181 00:08:00.079 --> 00:08:00.560 away from. 182 00:08:00.560 --> 00:08:03.600 Okay that that story in itself. Number one, I'm surprised 183 00:08:03.639 --> 00:08:05.839 I never heard that. And number two, that is like, 184 00:08:06.600 --> 00:08:09.240 that's something you could easily pass off as coincidence. 185 00:08:09.279 --> 00:08:11.040 But that's like a little mini mirror. 186 00:08:11.120 --> 00:08:11.199 No. 187 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:13.480 I've always felt like God's like, I'm going to take 188 00:08:13.480 --> 00:08:15.439 care of you. In spite of you you're such a moron. 189 00:08:15.480 --> 00:08:18.600 I'm to take care of anyways, and that was that's amazing. 190 00:08:19.439 --> 00:08:22.720 Wow. Speaking of making of wedding. 191 00:08:22.480 --> 00:08:25.680 Nights, yeah, yeah, yeah, you go ahead. What was your favorite? 192 00:08:26.120 --> 00:08:26.439 Go ahead? 193 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:28.600 No, no, you please, I was just going with an 194 00:08:28.600 --> 00:08:31.240 amazing route. Oh, amazing, go ahead, but no wedding nights. 195 00:08:31.319 --> 00:08:34.600 Yeah, wedding night. Well, speaking of wedding nights, uh, maybe 196 00:08:35.120 --> 00:08:38.919 the most scandalous book in the whole Bible, Solomon writing 197 00:08:38.919 --> 00:08:43.360 about his wedding night, Yes, with this beautiful woman. Yes, right, 198 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:46.240 so let me read the We like the Life Application 199 00:08:46.279 --> 00:08:48.639 Study Bible because the notes are amazing, right, They just 200 00:08:48.639 --> 00:08:50.840 help you understand things. Here's the note about the Book 201 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:53.679 of Song of Solomon. It says Song of Songs, which 202 00:08:53.720 --> 00:08:56.639 is another name for Song of Solomon, is a wedding 203 00:08:56.720 --> 00:08:59.279 song honoring marriage. So the whole thing is a song, 204 00:08:59.519 --> 00:09:01.360 like a love song. They're writing back and forth to 205 00:09:01.399 --> 00:09:04.840 each other. The most explicit statements on sex in the 206 00:09:04.879 --> 00:09:07.840 Bible are found in this book. It's often been criticized 207 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:12.440 because of its sensuous language, but the purity and sacredness 208 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:14.960 of love presented here are greatly needed in our day 209 00:09:15.320 --> 00:09:18.320 in which distorted attitudes about love and marriage are commonplace. 210 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:21.080 God created sex and intimacy, and they are holy and 211 00:09:21.159 --> 00:09:24.120 good when enjoyed in marriage. A husband and wife honor 212 00:09:24.159 --> 00:09:27.240 God when they love and enjoy each other. So that's 213 00:09:27.279 --> 00:09:30.639 the idea, so almost everything. Don't worry if you have 214 00:09:30.720 --> 00:09:35.200 your kids listening along. It's not overly explicit. It's more innuendo. 215 00:09:35.480 --> 00:09:37.960 Yeah, but yeah, yeah. They don't come right out and 216 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:38.679 say things. 217 00:09:38.840 --> 00:09:44.120 Yes, So here we go. This is Solomon's song of songs, 218 00:09:44.279 --> 00:09:47.519 more wonderful than any other. And then it starts off. 219 00:09:47.519 --> 00:09:52.080 The young woman is singing to her groom, kiss me 220 00:09:52.279 --> 00:09:55.039 and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine. 221 00:09:55.440 --> 00:10:00.000 How fragrant your cologne, your name is like it's spreading fragrance. 222 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:02.960 No wonder all the young women love you. Take me 223 00:10:03.039 --> 00:10:05.960 with you. Come, let's run. The king has brought me 224 00:10:06.120 --> 00:10:09.200 into his bedroom. And then the young women of Jerusalem 225 00:10:09.240 --> 00:10:12.919 starts singing with her her bridesmaids, How happy we are 226 00:10:12.960 --> 00:10:15.639 for you, o King. We praise your love even more 227 00:10:15.679 --> 00:10:18.879 than why. And then the bride says, how right they 228 00:10:18.879 --> 00:10:21.679 are to adore you. I am dark but beautiful, oh 229 00:10:21.759 --> 00:10:24.879 women of Jerusalem. Dark as the tents of Keeter, dark 230 00:10:24.879 --> 00:10:27.440 as the curtains of Solomon's tents, don't stare at me 231 00:10:27.519 --> 00:10:30.159 because I am dark. The sun has darkened my skin. 232 00:10:30.679 --> 00:10:33.000 My brothers were angry with me. They forced me to 233 00:10:33.080 --> 00:10:36.240 care for their vineyards, so I couldn't care for myself 234 00:10:36.279 --> 00:10:39.039 my own vineyard. Tell me, my love, where are you 235 00:10:39.120 --> 00:10:42.279 leading your flock today? Where will you rest your sheep 236 00:10:42.320 --> 00:10:45.320 at noon? For why should I wander like a prostitute 237 00:10:45.320 --> 00:10:48.480 among your friends and their flocks. Then the young groom says, 238 00:10:49.399 --> 00:10:51.440 if you don't know a most beautiful women, follow the 239 00:10:51.480 --> 00:10:53.919 trail of my flock and graze your young goats by 240 00:10:53.919 --> 00:10:57.240 the shepherd's tents. You are as exciting, my darling, as 241 00:10:57.279 --> 00:11:01.799 a mayor among pharaoh stallions? Are your cheeks? Your earrings 242 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:06.000 set them afire? How lovely is your neck enhanced by 243 00:11:06.000 --> 00:11:09.159 a string of jewels. We will make for you ear 244 00:11:09.200 --> 00:11:11.960 rings of gold and beads of silver. And then the 245 00:11:12.000 --> 00:11:15.240 bride says, the king is lying on his couch enchanted 246 00:11:15.240 --> 00:11:17.799 by the fragrance of my perfume. My lover is like 247 00:11:17.840 --> 00:11:21.200 a sachet of myrrh lying between my breasts. He is 248 00:11:21.320 --> 00:11:24.639 like a bouquet of sweet Hannah blossoms from the vineyards 249 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:28.879 of Ngetti. Then the groom says, how beautiful you are, darling, 250 00:11:29.240 --> 00:11:32.519 How beautiful your eyes are like doves. Then the woman says, 251 00:11:32.799 --> 00:11:36.320 you are so handsome, my love, pleasing beyond words. The 252 00:11:36.360 --> 00:11:39.360 soft grass is our bed. Fragrant cedar branches are the 253 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:43.519 beams of your house, and pleasant smelling furs are the rafters. 254 00:11:44.320 --> 00:11:47.759 And then the young woman continues, I am the spring 255 00:11:47.960 --> 00:11:51.679 crocus blooming on the Sharon plaine, the lily of the valley. 256 00:11:51.679 --> 00:11:54.559 And then young man says, like a lily among thistles 257 00:11:54.600 --> 00:11:57.399 is my darling among young women. And then she says, 258 00:11:57.600 --> 00:11:59.679 like the finest apple tree in the orchard is my 259 00:11:59.720 --> 00:12:03.559 love among other young men. I sit in his delightful shade, 260 00:12:03.559 --> 00:12:06.679 and taste is delicious fruit. He escorts me to the 261 00:12:06.799 --> 00:12:10.440 banquet hall. It's obvious how much he loves me. Strengthened 262 00:12:10.480 --> 00:12:13.279 me with raising cakes and refresh me with apples, for 263 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:15.679 I am weak with love. His left arm is under 264 00:12:15.720 --> 00:12:18.960 my head, and his right arm embraces me. Promise me, 265 00:12:19.159 --> 00:12:22.440 he says. She says, a woman of Jerusalem by the 266 00:12:22.440 --> 00:12:25.519 gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the 267 00:12:25.559 --> 00:12:30.000 time is right. And there you go, there you go. 268 00:12:30.039 --> 00:12:33.519 There it is, And I almost want to say like 269 00:12:33.559 --> 00:12:34.159 Forrest Gump. 270 00:12:34.200 --> 00:12:36.080 And that's all I have to say about. 271 00:12:35.799 --> 00:12:40.159 That, right, So what how are we going to commentate 272 00:12:40.159 --> 00:12:40.519 on this? 273 00:12:40.639 --> 00:12:45.360 Well, how they express romance is kind of entertaining to me. 274 00:12:45.720 --> 00:12:47.240 Yeah, well, I mean let's start there. 275 00:12:47.399 --> 00:12:50.879 Yeah, because you know who was it was it John 276 00:12:50.919 --> 00:12:54.480 Eldridge who wrote a book who talked about how every 277 00:12:54.519 --> 00:12:57.159 young man goes through a stage. He goes through a 278 00:12:57.200 --> 00:12:59.559 stage of being a cowboy, have you heard this? A 279 00:12:59.679 --> 00:13:01.840 cow boy where he where he has to you know, 280 00:13:02.440 --> 00:13:03.000 you know, just. 281 00:13:05.279 --> 00:13:07.320 Yeah. And then he goes through a stage where. 282 00:13:07.159 --> 00:13:11.159 He's a he's a lover, where he discovers poetry and 283 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:14.399 discovers women, and then uh, and then he becomes a 284 00:13:14.440 --> 00:13:16.799 warrior and then uh, you know, you know, he has 285 00:13:16.840 --> 00:13:18.600 what it takes, you know, and he has to prove it. 286 00:13:18.879 --> 00:13:21.440 And eventually he gets to be a king, right, and 287 00:13:21.679 --> 00:13:23.679 the king is when he you know, rules the household. 288 00:13:23.720 --> 00:13:27.399 And then and then eventually every man gets to be 289 00:13:27.600 --> 00:13:30.279 what does he call it a sage? He calls it 290 00:13:30.279 --> 00:13:33.360 a sage where he the wise man. Yeah, the wise 291 00:13:33.399 --> 00:13:37.399 man who actually instructs kings. Right, and so anyway, so 292 00:13:37.399 --> 00:13:39.080 so and again this is just for young men. 293 00:13:39.120 --> 00:13:39.960 It's not for young women. 294 00:13:40.000 --> 00:13:46.039 But as Eldridge writes this, it's the poet. Uh, it's 295 00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:48.080 the poet. That's the stage he was in. And think 296 00:13:48.080 --> 00:13:53.240 about poet a stage. So think about you know, from 297 00:13:53.279 --> 00:13:55.799 the time you started, you know, for instance, like courting 298 00:13:56.080 --> 00:13:59.720 Bonnie all the way through you know you're young, married. 299 00:14:00.120 --> 00:14:01.120 Uh stage. 300 00:14:01.799 --> 00:14:05.360 Uh, that's that's the awakening of this inside of you, 301 00:14:05.360 --> 00:14:05.559 you know. 302 00:14:05.600 --> 00:14:08.559 I remember do you do you ever stumbled across old 303 00:14:08.559 --> 00:14:10.000 love notes that you guys wrote to each other. 304 00:14:10.039 --> 00:14:11.679 Oh, my goodness, we have every single one of them. 305 00:14:11.720 --> 00:14:13.240 Yeah, yeah, aren't they terrible? 306 00:14:13.879 --> 00:14:15.200 Yes? Yes, they were terrible. 307 00:14:15.360 --> 00:14:18.879 Yes, at the time, it was so heartfelt. Back in 308 00:14:18.879 --> 00:14:20.399 the old days, boys and girls, we used to use 309 00:14:20.440 --> 00:14:22.240 paper and pens, and we write notes to each other, 310 00:14:22.279 --> 00:14:24.440 for sure, and nobody does anymore, but. 311 00:14:24.519 --> 00:14:27.080 People say, hey, don't don't delete my text thread right right. 312 00:14:27.120 --> 00:14:31.159 We we would write letters and and we came across 313 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:33.519 we used to have a whole bag of them, and 314 00:14:33.840 --> 00:14:36.320 came across these things and Bonnie was a much better 315 00:14:36.320 --> 00:14:39.039 writer than I was. Oh they were horrible. It's like, 316 00:14:39.120 --> 00:14:42.039 I'm so embarrassing. You know, these things you just sink. 317 00:14:42.320 --> 00:14:45.480 But that is that moment you're you're this this this 318 00:14:45.480 --> 00:14:49.600 this ability to communicate in a romantic way. Yeah, is 319 00:14:49.840 --> 00:14:53.200 starting to you know, come alive in your life. Well, 320 00:14:53.399 --> 00:14:54.679 I remember, which is really weird. 321 00:14:54.840 --> 00:14:55.720 I remember one. 322 00:14:55.559 --> 00:14:59.440 Time I I had put flowers all over my wife's car. 323 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:01.919 I would get there late at night, like at midnight, 324 00:15:02.440 --> 00:15:04.320 and her car was in the driveway. It was like 325 00:15:04.360 --> 00:15:07.600 a Chrysler something or the other, like this beige Chrysler. 326 00:15:07.919 --> 00:15:10.320 And I remember and by the way, I stole the 327 00:15:10.320 --> 00:15:12.799 flowers out of somebody's garden. 328 00:15:12.440 --> 00:15:15.080 Which is a horrible thing to do. Did you hear me? 329 00:15:15.240 --> 00:15:18.360 Yes, I stole I stole flowers, but anyway, but I 330 00:15:18.440 --> 00:15:22.120 laid them all down her car. I just covered the 331 00:15:22.120 --> 00:15:24.879 hood and then I wrote a note, a love note, 332 00:15:24.919 --> 00:15:27.240 and put it underneath her windshield. So she came out 333 00:15:27.279 --> 00:15:29.279 and go to work in the morning. But I remember, 334 00:15:29.759 --> 00:15:31.879 like that's a public thing where her father was the 335 00:15:31.919 --> 00:15:33.840 first one to go out and say, Liz, you better 336 00:15:33.879 --> 00:15:36.440 go out and clean off your cards, cover the flowers, 337 00:15:36.960 --> 00:15:38.600 you know. But I remember I used to do stuff 338 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:42.360 like that all the time, poetry and things like that. 339 00:15:44.159 --> 00:15:46.919 When I was in college. I remember going off to. 340 00:15:49.000 --> 00:15:52.759 College and I was I was I thought at the time, 341 00:15:52.799 --> 00:15:55.000 I was sort of a ladies guy, and I had 342 00:15:55.039 --> 00:15:59.519 a reputation for not being very faithful back in the day. 343 00:15:59.559 --> 00:16:02.000 I was fifty sixteen when I was dating Liz, and 344 00:16:02.360 --> 00:16:06.000 I was I was not very kind or faithful at 345 00:16:06.039 --> 00:16:09.519 the time. We date a lot of girls and jump 346 00:16:09.600 --> 00:16:13.720 back and forth. And so Liz was actually advised by 347 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:18.320 my pastor, my pastor who she looked up to, and 348 00:16:18.360 --> 00:16:21.480 my pastor's wife especially, and they said, you need a dump, Chris. 349 00:16:22.159 --> 00:16:25.200 So I go to Bible College and I'm eight hunred 350 00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:25.679 miles away. 351 00:16:25.720 --> 00:16:28.399 So she had her chance. She did. She had a chance. 352 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:33.240 Yes, eight aarned three miles. It is eight airn three 353 00:16:33.279 --> 00:16:37.240 miles from my dorm to her front door. And my 354 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:39.559 pastor's wife says, yeah, you need a dump Chris. He 355 00:16:39.679 --> 00:16:42.759 is he is going to, you know, be unfaithful to 356 00:16:42.799 --> 00:16:44.279 you at college and all these different things. 357 00:16:44.840 --> 00:16:45.600 So I wrote her. 358 00:16:45.480 --> 00:16:49.080 A love poem and I know it's still oh boy, 359 00:16:50.039 --> 00:16:52.960 it's said, this is a song of Chris, the song 360 00:16:53.000 --> 00:16:53.399 of Chris. 361 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:56.159 And I, by the way, I had her memorize it 362 00:16:56.399 --> 00:16:58.200 and I told her, I said, I want you to 363 00:16:58.279 --> 00:16:58.879 never forget this. 364 00:16:59.159 --> 00:16:59.600 Oh wow. 365 00:17:00.039 --> 00:17:02.519 She still knows it too. And here's how it went. 366 00:17:03.519 --> 00:17:06.759 You know there was a call from God for a 367 00:17:06.799 --> 00:17:07.200 man to go. 368 00:17:07.319 --> 00:17:13.000 Wait, don't make that contact when you're telling to look 369 00:17:13.000 --> 00:17:14.200 somewhere else, don't. Don't look at me. 370 00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:14.720 Here we go. 371 00:17:14.759 --> 00:17:15.359 Don't look at me. 372 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:22.319 Here, he goes, Okay, here it is. It's not. It's 373 00:17:22.359 --> 00:17:23.119 more of a statement. 374 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:26.519 I know. I'm just worried. I'm worried, and I don't 375 00:17:26.519 --> 00:17:28.880 want to have an awkward moment when you're looking deeply 376 00:17:28.920 --> 00:17:33.839 into my eyes. Quoting a romantic poem wrote Till Liz's. 377 00:17:33.640 --> 00:17:36.079 It's more of a declaration about love. 378 00:17:36.200 --> 00:17:39.119 Okay, okay, yeah, it's actually committed. I'm just going to 379 00:17:39.200 --> 00:17:40.160 look away, go ahead. 380 00:17:40.279 --> 00:17:43.960 Yes, it said there was a call from God for 381 00:17:44.039 --> 00:17:46.400 a man to go to school, and no one ever 382 00:17:46.440 --> 00:17:49.559 thought that he'd survived. The distance rule, the rule that 383 00:17:49.640 --> 00:17:53.359 says relationships and time will fade away, and love stretched 384 00:17:53.400 --> 00:17:56.759 out across the mouths grows weaker day by day. 'tis fact. 385 00:17:56.799 --> 00:18:00.279 This common rule applies to shallow people. True, But the 386 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:03.759 greatest distance will not change the love I have for you. 387 00:18:03.880 --> 00:18:04.200 Wow. 388 00:18:04.359 --> 00:18:06.839 God will bless and strengthen those that pray they're in 389 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:09.960 his will, And if they be, then they shall see 390 00:18:10.279 --> 00:18:12.240 their love grow stronger still. 391 00:18:14.839 --> 00:18:20.079 How lovely. That's nice. I don't know that it compares. 392 00:18:19.680 --> 00:18:22.759 With Hey, I didn't say I was song of I 393 00:18:22.799 --> 00:18:23.759 didn't say I was Solomon. 394 00:18:24.079 --> 00:18:25.960 Yeah, but I mean Solomon said, if you don't know 395 00:18:26.000 --> 00:18:28.480 al most beautiful women follow the trail of my flock 396 00:18:28.519 --> 00:18:30.680 and graze your young goats by the shepherd's tents. 397 00:18:30.720 --> 00:18:32.599 Well, how can I compare to that? 398 00:18:33.519 --> 00:18:34.079 How can I. 399 00:18:34.079 --> 00:18:39.000 Compare to that? Yeah, okay, we're like the mayor among stallions. 400 00:18:39.200 --> 00:18:40.599 Yes, right, that's right. 401 00:18:40.759 --> 00:18:42.480