It's in a lot of couples' nightstands. Almost nobody talks about it honestly. Today we fix that.
In Episode 38, Scott and Brittney break down everything couples need to know about personal lubricant — the most underrated, under-discussed tool in intimacy. Not as a solution to a problem, but as an enhancement to an already good thing.
They cover all four main types: water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and hybrid — what each one is best for, what the research says about safety and effectiveness, which use cases require which type, the ingredients worth avoiding, and the practical tips that make using lube feel like a natural part of intimacy rather than an interruption.
Plus, their honest personal takes on what they've learned, what surprised them, and what they'd tell every couple who's never opened a bottle.
In this episode:
- Why lube isn't a sign something is broken and why the stigma is completely backwards
- The anatomy reality: why natural lubrication is a variable, not a reliable indicator
- Water-based: the most versatile, the safest for toys, and why glycerin-free matters
- Silicone-based: why it's the top research choice for anal play and water use
- Oil-based: what works, what doesn't, and the condom safety rule you need to know
- Hybrid: the best of both worlds and when it makes sense
- Specific use cases: vaginal sex, anal play, toys, condoms, sensitive skin
- Ingredients to avoid and why — glycerin, parabens, numbing agents, fragrance
- Practical tips for making lube a natural part of your intimate life
- Scott & Brittney's honest takes on what they wish they'd known earlier
Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
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Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.