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Hello, and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,
the podcast dedicated to

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your pickleball improvement.

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I'll be having a great week.
My name is Tony Roig.

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I am the host of your weekly
Pickleball Therapy podcast.

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I am a full-time pickleball professional.

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This is what I do.

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Think, drink, sleep, breathe, eat
pickleball all day long,

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all night long, sometimes.

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And it's a pleasure to be with you
during this episode of the podcast.

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This week, we have a couple of interesting
subjects We're going to be talking in the

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main category, we're going to be
talking about vampire pickleball.

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I think you're going
to find it interesting.

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We just recorded a therapist special
episode of the podcast for therapists, and

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I said in there that
I know sometimes I come at you in these

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podcasts a little bit like from the side.

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But when I'm coming in from the side,
I always have a message.

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I'm always going to get to
something by the end of the podcast.

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So stick with me with this one.

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And then the RIF, I'm going to
talk about pickleball antics.

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And just the place that
they have in our sport.

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Before we jump into it, a couple of
housekeeping things.

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One is not housekeeping.
I like doing this.

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So one is a shout out that we
got a review I wanted to read.

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I always appreciate how Tony has a way to
remind me how to get the

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most out of the game.

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I appreciate the
shout out, and always a pleasure to help

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in any way that we can in the podcast.

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A housekeeping item now is that if you're
listening to this podcast,

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right when it drops on this Friday,
we have a clinic on Tuesday.

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It's a virtual clinic, so you can
come from anywhere, and it's online.

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I'll put a link in the show notes.

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You can register there.

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There is a cost for the clinic.

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It's a two and a half hour clinic.

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It's $47, I think.

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So pretty reasonable, I
think, for what you get.

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I would say very reasonable
for what you get, actually.

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But anyway, so it's a lot of good content.

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There's a button on four stairs we're
going to talk about and really show you

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what's going on with your game, and
then you can take that information

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and take action with it.

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At the end of the clinic, we will have a
totally optional presentation

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on the pickleball system.

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You can join us for that if you care to
learn more about that, because enrollment

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is open now for the system
through the end of the month.

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But after that, a no-mas system in 2024.

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If this is the time for you, join
us inside the system, and

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I don't know if you know this or not, but
money is not an object to

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joining the pickleball system.

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If you can afford the cost of it,
it's well worth it.

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It's worth more than the cost of it.

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If you can't afford it, that's okay.

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Just reach out to us and we'll make
something work because we

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do not let money be an obstacle to
your pickleball improvement ever.

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All right, I am going to jump into the
podcast now in terms of the vampire.

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And by the way, at the
end, I do have a note here.

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I do want to share with you one framing
that one of our therapists shared with us

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during the special episode we recorded
earlier that I think will really help you

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think about your game and
what you're doing big picture.

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All right, what am I talking about?
Ant-fire, pickleball.

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That fire pickleball, that
sounds crazy, doesn't it?

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For this to make sense, I
need to read something to you.

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And this was a post.

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I'm not betraying confidence
in anything like that.

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This was a post on Facebook by a
fellow coach.

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And I'm going to read it to you, and then
your initial reaction to it, my initial

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reaction to it when you first look at it
is like, okay, that seems like

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a good competitive advantage.

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But I think there's a way to think about
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deeper that will show you that this is
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to think when we play.

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It reads like this.

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Free confidence is being handed out by
your opponents after every point, but the

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only way to attain it is to pay attention.

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The millisecond after your opponent makes
an error, take a peek at their response

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rather than instinctively
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They'll instantly let you know
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They'll tell you if they're pissed, about
to mentally break, upset with their

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partner, or on the verge of quitting.

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Most players aren't even trying to hide
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It's a weird pickleball thing.

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After an error, it's almost expected to
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miss, or be outwardly disappointed
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Pay attention.

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Take a look at your opponent's response
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or miss a third shot.

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Each time you catch them whining,
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confidence gets a little more filled until
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and you begin taking over the match.

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So on its face, wow,
that's interesting, right?

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I can look at my opponent.

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If my opponent is in a bad shape,
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and to give me an edge, right?

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And I would agree that objectively, right?

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If you're in a good mental place and your
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that's an advantage to you all day long,
just like in anything in life,

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negotiating, conversation, whatever.

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If you're in a better place, they're not
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always, including on the pickleball court.

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The advice here is to
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Then the key to me is this part
here where it's at the end.

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Each time you catch them whining,
complaining, or blaming each other, your

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tank of confidence gets a little more
filled until eventually it becomes

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completely full, and you
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So the premise here is that our
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way it's used here,
will be filled by what?

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By our opponent's misery, by our opponents
being pissed or upset at their partner or

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wanting to quit, whatever it is, some
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That is how we are then going to gain
confidence and fill up our

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tank, according to this, right?

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I would suggest to you that that way
of thinking is like a vampire, right?

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Because a vampire or a parasite,
if you like Parasite better.

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It's a similar concept, meaning my
confidence, my tank, my

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strength comes from your weakness.

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So the more that you falter,
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And I believe that that's a very
short-sided way of thinking about the

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game, and not a healthy one for anybody,
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but for you either.

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Here's the thing, right?

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So as a pickleball player, I want to feel
good, and I want to play as

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well as I can, right?

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But to do that
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advantage of the expense of my opponent,
should not be something that I am

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looking for, should not be something that
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be paying attention to my opponent's
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expand my confidence based on that.

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It is healthier and more alongside it, I
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to build your confidence based on you.

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Build your confidence internally.

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Because here's the thing, right?

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If you're going to build anything on
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then you're always going to be subject to
whatever those external considerations

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are, whatever the
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So if you use the same thinking, right?

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So let's just take this and play
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So you are going to gain confidence and
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your opponent's weakness.

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What are you going to do when your
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Your opponent looks like,
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What am I going to do now?
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Using the same logic.

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Because if my tank gets full when they're
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empty when they're strong, I guess.

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And so that's the limitation, right?

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The short-side in this
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And bigger picture to me, the
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where my success is built upon
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Now, that's different than
winning and losing, right?

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Because I can play my best and feel good.

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You can play your best and feel good,
and I can still win, or

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you can still win, right?
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This idea that I'm going to
be on the lookout, right?

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Paying attention or looking out
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confidence boosting from my opponent
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Frankly, it creates a really
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And the RIF is going to tie into this.

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It talks about antics, right?

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Because if that's the case, right?

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And I'll go ahead and I'll give you a
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foreshadow the RIF.

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If that's the case, if If my strength
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why would I not then take...

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Do anything I could to
make you weak as my opponent, right?

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To get under your skin, right?

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To negatively affect you.

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Because then that gives me more
confidence, and then I can win.

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And just like the vampire needs
the blood of another human, or not another

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human, of a human, the vampire needs the
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needs the sustenance of its host.

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Is that what we want to do?

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Is that how we want to
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I would submit no.

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And I would submit,
even if I'm not going to agree that this

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gives you an advantage, meaning like, when
I say gives you an advantage that

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your attention to it and filling your tank
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Let me lay this out a little better
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messing this part up a little bit.

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What I I'm going to look at it this way.

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If your opponents are, in fact,
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you already have an advantage.

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If you're in a good place
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place, the advantage is already there.

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You're already going to get the benefit
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I'm putting it in air quotes.

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If you're watching this, you'll
see it on YouTube, but air quotes.

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You already have the benefit of it.

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Why add to it?

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Why feed off of it?

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That's really the idea.

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Filling your tank is feeding
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Why pay attention to it and feed off of it
in a way that is going to make you

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focus on the negative of your opponent?

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If the benefits are the benefit's
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If your opponent can't focus on the shot,
can't think a strategy because whatever is

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going on in their situation, you already
get the benefit because you're getting the

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less than optimal play by them because
they're not in a good place mentally.

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But then to add on top of it, I'm going to
now, like My position is going to

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get emboldened by your weakness.

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It's just not something that I think is
a good way to think about pick a ball.

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Frankly, I would suggest to you, rather
than paying attention for the purpose

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suggested in that piece, right?

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Pay attention so you can fill your tank.

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Why don't you pay attention for the
purpose of helping your friend out?

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Because I'm going to bet that if it's not
nine, it's eight, probably nine, actually,

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out of 10 times,
that's your friend over there, right?

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And yes, you're playing a game that has an
opponent in quotes again, and you're

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trying to win, they're trying to win.

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But not at the expense of them as a
human being and you as a human being.

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So I'm going to suggest to you, pay
attention to that,

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but pay attention to it from the
standpoint of, what can I do

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to help my friend out?

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What can I do to get my
friend out of their funk?

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As opposed to, how can I use my friend's
misery, my friend's

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feeling bad, to gain more
power points or something, strength points

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on my side, and improve my
confidence tank or whatever that is.

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Frankly, this happens to me sometimes.

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The more I talk about it, the more I think
about it, the worse I think that this post

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is in terms of
It's something that we should

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be aware of, and we should
have our defenses up against this

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nonsense, and this negativity,
and the idea of using negativity to

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build ourselves up.

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Why don't we focus on working on ourselves
internally, making ourselves as strong as

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we can as human beings, as
we make our way through the planet and

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through our life,
and allow others to do the same, and

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encourage them, and
maybe consider building them up rather

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than knocking them down as an approach.

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All right.

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A little emotional on that one there,
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more pissed off I get about the idea of
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misfortune, or someone else's
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I'm going to dive into the Because let me
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positive at the end with
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The other thing I wanted to talk
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I was at the PPA this last week, and I got
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mixed men's, women's, some singles.

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And there are a lot of, obviously,
amazing pickleball players out there.

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They're all professionals, and
they're all at the top of the game.

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And they're all trying as hard as they
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playing as hard as they can.

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But if there's one thing that I think
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at pro and at rec is antics.

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And by antics, I mean
saying things or doing things

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that are specifically designed
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So it's one thing, if you need to pump
yourself up and whatever, that's on you.

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Do what you got to do.

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Fine.

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But when you have to do something that is
intended to undermine your opponent,

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undermine their mindset, undermine their
ability to play, and I'm not talking about

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hitting a shot to a spot on the
court that they can't handle.

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That's playing the game.

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I'm talking about when you're going
outside the game and you're making nasty

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comments, or
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it was a player who does a type of a serve
technique that is intended to get

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in their opponent's heads, right?

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Just the act, not the shot, right?

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Again, the way they hit
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If it works and it's legal to hit it.

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But if it's like, I'm going to do this
before, not because I need to do it for

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myself or not because I need it to execute
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want to get into your head.

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I'm 50 something, 55 this year, I guess.

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We left a middle school playground a long
time ago, if you listen to this podcast.

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And so let's
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on the pickleball court
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Positive way is fine.
Be a kid, have fun.

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But the negative way of bullying
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that are actually intended.

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The purpose of the thing is to cause
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Let's move away from that, please.

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Here's what I'm going to tell you.

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If you see somebody doing that when you're
playing in a rec game, stop playing.

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Just leave.

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Leave the court.
You don't have to leave the whole place.

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You don't have to play with that player.

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And it's the concept of agency, where you
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Why?

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It's pickable.
Enjoy it.

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Play it, play it, play it to have fun,
and play it to do the best that

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you can, and to continue growing.

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All right.
Enough of that.

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Let's go to a positive here.

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This was suggested by Helen, which I
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thinking about it, and it's like a
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And what she does is she checks herself,
and her question she asked herself is, How

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did I contribute to my pickleball
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my pickleball community this week?

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What I like about that
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So you can play with it however you want.

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You can look at it in terms of...

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She gave some examples, setting nets up.

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That's fine.

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Playing with some players,
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And again, I say this with quotes, but
playing with players who

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are under your level, right?

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That's good for your community, right?

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I think sharing this podcast with
a friend of yours who's in need.

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We talked about it earlier, right?

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You're playing with a friend of yours.

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You can tell your friend
is super stressed.

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They're having a hard time dealing with
a misshot or a pop-up or whatever it is.

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Share this podcast.

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I'm assuming you're more than 15 minutes
into this episode, so you must think this

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podcast has some value,
some relevance to you.

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Share it with your friend.

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Those are the types of things that you can
do to contribute

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to your pickleball community.

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And I think it's a really helpful way to
think big picture about not just how

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playing pickleball, but your relationship
with this awesome sport,

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because it's not just about you, it's not
just about me as players, and it's

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not just about the little yellow ball.

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It's about the community, it's about
growth, and it's about everybody being

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able to saunder to have their own
experience inside the sport of pickleball.

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So I hope you enjoyed.
I enjoyed it.

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I guess I could say, I
enjoyed this week's podcast.

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I hope you enjoyed it, too.

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And I hope to see some
of you at the clinic.

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Again, the link will be in the show
notes if you care to join us for that.

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And lastly, as always, if you enjoyed the
podcast, consider sharing

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with your friends.

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If you enjoyed the podcast,
they probably will, too.

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I hope you have a great week.

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Look for the special episode of the
podcast, dropping sometime next week.

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And I will see you at the next
episode of Pickleball Therapy.

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Be well.