Show Notes
TRANSCRIPT FOR EP27:
Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about THE POWER OF FAITH.
The beliefs that we have from young will affect us when we grow up.
The family that nurtures you when you are born, the people that you hang out with during growing up years through adulthood, will play a part in your life.
However, this affects our lives and without us knowing, a lot of unnecessary things happened and it can lead to some people living their life without direction.
Every day going through the motions and not knowing what we want is very common in many people’s lives. Only when someone experiences a terrible or unfortunate event, it will change the way you view life and might want to change your life.
My father used to change jobs frequently and did not stay long in each job and my mother would be angry and nag at him. I would often hear from my relatives about my father, that he is the only one not doing well among his siblings. I would feel ashamed of him and our family. Since young, I feel that people always look down on us.
And when I was not able to accomplish things, I felt that I was not good enough and was not able to do anything well. This is because when I do anything, I will surely fail. For example, my motorbike license, I went to apply for it after my O levels exam and I took the theory exam three times but I failed. To me, it was proof that I was so lousy that I cannot even pass such a simple exam.
I felt shameful and kept wondering why only I cannot pass the paper while others could do it easily.
At the same time, I took up a part-time job, working in a sewing factory as a seamstress. My wages were determined by the sewing quality. However, my work was rejected over and over again and I had to later and re-sew them many times.
Hence I quit my job and started to look for other jobs, and I did not stay to work for long as I felt that I was not capable of handling the workload. I went for more than 10 other interviews and every time before the interview I will think that I'm not good enough for the job and did not feel confident about it. My self-confidence was very low and I had no self-esteem.
During this period, I really thought that I was lousy in everything and I resigned to fate, never believing that things could change.
Things started to change for me when my sister and brother in law invited me over to work in their company. As I was working with my own sibling, I felt safe as no one was judging me, I could be myself. Hence, I was able to work, learn, and grow in many different areas within the company.
I’m thankful for my sister and brother-in-law gave me the chance and let me change my faith in myself.
I was given many opportunities to explore different aspects of managing the business. Over the 20 years that I worked with them, from administrative to operating, I was able to handle orders that were worth a few million Singapore dollars. I have never thought that I could do it without them believing in me.
As Jim Rohn says you are the average of the five people you hang out with.
My boss, who is my brother in law is a very successful businessman.
He is always full of energy and has a great vision and he is able to resolve many difficult issues for the company and he is very creative in doing business.
I had the great opportunity to understudy him and he put me in charge of his new company. Through the years, I learnt a great deal from him. He always has big dreams and is able to convert them into reality.
My gut feel tells me that he is the right person that I can follow and I started to change the lousy perception of myself. Slowly, my subconscious mind got influenced by him.
In the first few years of setting up the company, it experienced many ups and downs. His power of faith is what kept him to continue the business and made him successful now.
In 2010, he was able to get his another company listed in Taiwan and later on he roped in business consultants as well as professionals to help out in the company. This has opened up my mind and I learnt that when we need help, we must engage external help or experts.
It is possible to achieve anything you want. However, when you tried your best and you did not achieve it, don't give up, reflect on the mistakes you made, and in the end if it did not work out the way you wanted, take it as a learning experience instead of beating yourself up.
Following the person with a big vision can really change your life.
I did it and it changed my life, if not I will still be hiding away. I continued to keep learning from professionals and get coaching from mentors and it is the best way to transform yourself.
This way, it will help to shortcut your learning curve and prevent you from overthinking and excessive worrying.
Learn to do more with less by following the proven way that already works for others. Don't try to reinvent the wheel, by following these mentors and learning the best they have, as life is short.
Apart from the power of faith, by doing these things, it will lead you to the right path.
If you want to talk about transforming your inner child, healing your relationships with yourself and money, connect with me through my Facebook and the link is in the show notes.