1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:05,958 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:12,833 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:12,833 --> 01:00:14,083 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:14,500 --> 01:00:16,750 And if your snooze button is on a hot 6 01:00:16,750 --> 01:00:17,583 streak this morning, 7 01:00:17,958 --> 01:00:19,250 consider this your halftime 8 01:00:19,333 --> 01:00:19,916 pep talk. 9 01:00:20,333 --> 01:00:22,291 Or, if you're like me and you've been up 10 01:00:22,291 --> 01:00:23,250 for quite a while 11 01:00:23,250 --> 01:00:24,291 already getting the kids 12 01:00:24,291 --> 01:00:26,041 off to school and then headed into work, 13 01:00:26,375 --> 01:00:27,000 well, come to think 14 01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:27,833 about it, they should have a 15 01:00:27,833 --> 01:00:29,625 day to celebrate parents like us. 16 01:00:29,666 --> 01:00:30,375 Well, guess what? 17 01:00:30,375 --> 01:00:30,666 They do. 18 01:00:31,083 --> 01:00:31,666 And it's today. 19 01:00:32,416 --> 01:00:33,875 Today is Working Parents Day. 20 01:00:34,083 --> 01:00:36,166 So a round of applause for those of you 21 01:00:36,166 --> 01:00:37,416 juggling everything life 22 01:00:37,416 --> 01:00:38,583 throws at you while managing 23 01:00:38,583 --> 01:00:40,041 your calendar and your inbox. 24 01:00:40,708 --> 01:00:41,833 I definitely feel your pain. 25 01:00:42,500 --> 01:00:43,875 And this morning we have a quote from 26 01:00:43,875 --> 01:00:45,000 Nick Jonas who's going 27 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:46,625 to keep us moving from one 28 01:00:46,625 --> 01:00:48,000 calendar event to the next. 29 01:00:48,541 --> 01:00:50,958 Nick Jonas said, "Be who you are. 30 01:00:51,375 --> 01:00:52,916 Do your thing and work hard. 31 01:00:53,291 --> 01:00:55,000 The right people will come around." 32 01:00:56,291 --> 01:00:56,375 Translation? 33 01:00:57,375 --> 01:00:58,375 Bring your honest effort. 34 01:00:58,625 --> 01:01:00,083 The fit will find you. 35 01:01:00,583 --> 01:01:02,250 All right, today's news facts and 36 01:01:02,250 --> 01:01:04,708 birthdays are for September 16th. 37 01:01:04,708 --> 01:01:07,083 Starting back in 1620, that's when the 38 01:01:07,083 --> 01:01:08,541 Mayflower departed from 39 01:01:08,541 --> 01:01:10,750 Plymouth, England with 102 pilgrims 40 01:01:10,750 --> 01:01:12,083 and about 30 crew 41 01:01:12,083 --> 01:01:13,375 headed to the New World. 42 01:01:14,125 --> 01:01:17,125 Then on this day in 1869, golf's first 43 01:01:17,125 --> 01:01:20,125 recorded hole in one was scored by Tom 44 01:01:20,125 --> 01:01:21,708 Morris at Prestwick's 45 01:01:21,708 --> 01:01:23,125 eighth hole in Scotland. 46 01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:25,583 Then moving all the way up to 1908, 47 01:01:25,833 --> 01:01:26,916 that's when General Motors 48 01:01:26,916 --> 01:01:28,666 was first founded in Flint, 49 01:01:29,166 --> 01:01:30,875 Michigan, setting the stage for assembly 50 01:01:30,875 --> 01:01:31,750 lines that would help 51 01:01:31,750 --> 01:01:33,041 shape the 20th century. 52 01:01:33,750 --> 01:01:35,875 And here's a fun TV throwback for you. 53 01:01:36,291 --> 01:01:38,375 If you're rewatching 80s 54 01:01:38,375 --> 01:01:40,000 cop shows, this is your week. 55 01:01:40,583 --> 01:01:41,541 Miami Vice premiered 56 01:01:41,541 --> 01:01:44,166 on September 16th, 1984. 57 01:01:45,125 --> 01:01:47,458 And then lastly on this day in 1997, 58 01:01:48,250 --> 01:01:49,625 Apple Computer renamed 59 01:01:49,625 --> 01:01:51,708 co-founder Steve Jobs as 60 01:01:51,750 --> 01:01:52,500 interim CEO. 61 01:01:53,333 --> 01:01:54,333 Well, happy birthday to you 62 01:01:54,333 --> 01:01:55,541 if today is your birthday. 63 01:01:55,541 --> 01:01:56,666 You share a birthday with 64 01:01:56,666 --> 01:01:58,625 singer and actor Nick Jonas. 65 01:01:59,125 --> 01:02:00,500 He's 33 today. 66 01:02:01,208 --> 01:02:02,208 Funny actor and comedian 67 01:02:02,208 --> 01:02:04,375 Amy Poehler, she's 54 today. 68 01:02:04,833 --> 01:02:05,625 Singer and actor Mark 69 01:02:05,625 --> 01:02:07,833 Anthony, he's 57 today. 70 01:02:08,416 --> 01:02:11,291 And the magician, the illusionist David 71 01:02:11,291 --> 01:02:13,083 Copperfield, he's 69 today. 72 01:02:13,791 --> 01:02:15,833 Now the number one song on this date back 73 01:02:15,833 --> 01:02:19,500 in 1985 was "St. Elmo's Fire," "Man in 74 01:02:19,500 --> 01:02:20,750 Motion" by John Parr. 75 01:02:21,125 --> 01:02:22,500 Now this is one of the 76 01:02:22,500 --> 01:02:23,791 greatest songs of all time. 77 01:02:24,041 --> 01:02:26,000 Now I know you've dance-ercised to this, 78 01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:27,083 or at least it's on 79 01:02:27,083 --> 01:02:28,041 your workout playlist. 80 01:02:28,541 --> 01:02:29,958 But what you may not have known was that 81 01:02:29,958 --> 01:02:30,916 "St. Elmo's Fire" was 82 01:02:30,916 --> 01:02:32,083 written after Parr met 83 01:02:32,083 --> 01:02:34,666 a disabled Canadian athlete, Rick Hansen. 84 01:02:35,250 --> 01:02:36,791 Well, the single hit number one on the 85 01:02:36,791 --> 01:02:38,250 Hot 100 became an 80s 86 01:02:38,250 --> 01:02:39,791 power anthem time capsule 87 01:02:40,208 --> 01:02:42,875 of these big drums, bigger choruses, and 88 01:02:42,875 --> 01:02:44,166 even bigger hair, as 89 01:02:44,166 --> 01:02:45,000 the 80s were known for. 90 01:02:45,541 --> 01:02:47,791 Well, fresh off a power ballad about 91 01:02:47,791 --> 01:02:48,916 grit, Kobe's 92 01:02:48,916 --> 01:02:51,333 social-emotional dimension is the 93 01:02:51,333 --> 01:02:53,041 people side of sharpening the saw. 94 01:02:53,625 --> 01:02:55,500 And Kobe is insisting that relationships 95 01:02:55,500 --> 01:02:58,375 are the primary source of life's greatest 96 01:02:58,416 --> 01:02:59,625 joys and stresses. 97 01:03:00,375 --> 01:03:02,625 So renewal here means tending the trust 98 01:03:02,625 --> 01:03:04,166 accounts we keep with others. 99 01:03:05,041 --> 01:03:07,416 One of his core lines, "Trust is the 100 01:03:07,416 --> 01:03:09,208 highest form of human motivation." 101 01:03:10,125 --> 01:03:12,583 That isn't a slogan, it's a strategy. 102 01:03:13,625 --> 01:03:14,000 Low trust 103 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:16,041 environments produce initiative. 104 01:03:16,708 --> 01:03:18,833 Low trust ones produce compliance at 105 01:03:18,833 --> 01:03:21,250 best, sabotage at worst. 106 01:03:21,625 --> 01:03:23,958 Now, Kobe's approach starts inside out. 107 01:03:24,875 --> 01:03:26,541 Private victories, which are habits one 108 01:03:26,541 --> 01:03:27,333 through three, if you 109 01:03:27,333 --> 01:03:29,916 remember, make public victories, 110 01:03:29,916 --> 01:03:31,583 and those were habits four through six, 111 01:03:31,916 --> 01:03:33,125 that make those possible. 112 01:03:33,666 --> 01:03:36,250 And Kobe urges us to make emotional 113 01:03:36,250 --> 01:03:38,000 deposits, understanding 114 01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,666 the individual, attending to 115 01:03:39,666 --> 01:03:41,583 little things, keeping commitments, 116 01:03:42,208 --> 01:03:43,416 clarifying expectations, 117 01:03:43,791 --> 01:03:46,000 and apologizing sincerely when 118 01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:46,583 we're wrong. 119 01:03:47,125 --> 01:03:49,583 Kobe writes, "Apologizing takes a great 120 01:03:49,583 --> 01:03:51,375 deal of character strength." 121 01:03:52,500 --> 01:03:53,000 Why is this? 122 01:03:53,333 --> 01:03:54,416 It's because it trades 123 01:03:54,416 --> 01:03:56,041 your ego for connection. 124 01:03:56,708 --> 01:03:58,000 And that swap, it 125 01:03:58,000 --> 01:04:00,000 compounds interest, right? 126 01:04:00,500 --> 01:04:02,833 Communication is the daily workout. 127 01:04:03,333 --> 01:04:05,166 If you remember, Kobe's habit five was 128 01:04:05,166 --> 01:04:06,041 seek first to 129 01:04:06,041 --> 01:04:07,541 understand, then to be understood. 130 01:04:08,166 --> 01:04:09,666 This is the breathing pattern here. 131 01:04:10,166 --> 01:04:11,916 When we listen empathetically, people 132 01:04:11,916 --> 01:04:13,458 feel seen and problem 133 01:04:13,458 --> 01:04:14,750 solving accelerates. 134 01:04:15,083 --> 01:04:16,916 When you recall, Kobe cautions here 135 01:04:16,916 --> 01:04:18,625 against what he called the four 136 01:04:18,625 --> 01:04:20,666 autobiographical responses, 137 01:04:21,166 --> 01:04:23,208 evaluating, probing, advising, and 138 01:04:23,208 --> 01:04:25,916 interpreting, because they satisfied our 139 01:04:25,916 --> 01:04:27,375 need to speak rather 140 01:04:27,416 --> 01:04:29,583 than their need to be understood. 141 01:04:30,083 --> 01:04:32,750 The fix here is curiosity, reflect 142 01:04:32,750 --> 01:04:34,458 feelings, name concerns, 143 01:04:34,666 --> 01:04:36,541 and only then collaborate. 144 01:04:37,375 --> 01:04:39,333 Finally, Kobe connects his thinking 145 01:04:39,333 --> 01:04:41,833 dimension to win-win thinking. 146 01:04:42,125 --> 01:04:42,958 That was habit four. 147 01:04:43,416 --> 01:04:44,625 And synergy, habit six. 148 01:04:45,750 --> 01:04:46,500 Differences aren't 149 01:04:46,500 --> 01:04:48,875 obstacles, they're raw material. 150 01:04:49,750 --> 01:04:51,250 Principles, fairness, integrity, and 151 01:04:51,250 --> 01:04:53,125 respect, keep the team on 152 01:04:53,125 --> 01:04:54,500 course when personalities 153 01:04:54,875 --> 01:04:56,666 pull in different directions. 154 01:04:57,625 --> 01:04:59,000 So what's the maintenance plan? 155 01:04:59,666 --> 01:05:02,500 Daily deposits, small acts of kindness, 156 01:05:03,041 --> 01:05:04,541 clear expectations, 157 01:05:05,166 --> 01:05:07,083 weekly check-ins, roles, goals, 158 01:05:07,666 --> 01:05:09,708 and regular resets, right? 159 01:05:09,750 --> 01:05:11,458 Forgiveness and fresh starts. 160 01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:13,458 All right, here's the takeaway here. 161 01:05:14,208 --> 01:05:16,375 Treat every conversation like a chance to 162 01:05:16,375 --> 01:05:17,583 grow the trust account. 163 01:05:18,083 --> 01:05:19,750 Compound interest beats quick wins. 164 01:05:20,208 --> 01:05:22,416 All right, working parents, we see you. 165 01:05:22,416 --> 01:05:23,500 We tip our hats to you. 166 01:05:23,916 --> 01:05:25,750 And may your coffee be strong this 167 01:05:25,750 --> 01:05:27,416 morning in your calendar's kind. 168 01:05:27,916 --> 01:05:29,041 Hey, thanks for starting your Tuesday 169 01:05:29,041 --> 01:05:30,000 with morning cereal. 170 01:05:30,000 --> 01:05:31,000 We'll see you back here tomorrow. 171 01:05:31,458 --> 01:05:33,541 And have a fantastic day. 172 01:05:35,083 --> 01:05:36,750 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 173 01:05:36,750 --> 01:05:37,500 the Morning Cereal 174 01:05:37,500 --> 01:05:39,500 podcast on the One Life Live 175 01:05:39,500 --> 01:05:40,000 It channel. 176 01:05:40,541 --> 01:05:42,458 You can find more episodes and videos 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