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All right. Awesome. So today, I'm speaking on

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How to make good decisions.

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How to make good decisions. Okay. That's the topic that

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the Holy Spirit laid on my heart to share with all of us today.

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How to make good decisions.

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This is a very important topic because we are often not taught how to make good decisions.

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Many times, we just wing it. You just have something come up and then

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you look around, maybe look at what others have done, or think through it and then just make a decision.

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And sometimes those decisions end up being the wrong decisions. But today, I want to provide

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a biblical framework to help us all in making decisions.

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Because as long as you're alive, you're going to be making a lot of decisions. In fact,

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today I was reading some research by the Harvard Business Review, and

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one of the things that they mentioned was that the average person, or the ordinary person,

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makes about 35,000 decisions per day. Think about that.

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You're making about 35,000 decisions per day,

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right? You're making decisions every few minutes, every few seconds, you're making decisions.

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Now, some of those decisions, of course, are ordinary decisions like

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taking a bath, you know, brushing your teeth, getting some coffee or some tea to drink,

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very ordinary decisions. Sweeping your room, laying your bed, you know, maybe exercising,

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all of that. And some are weightier decisions, okay?

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So sometimes that is the day you are choosing who you marry. That is the day you are making a decision on

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changing your location, that's the day you're making a decision on leaving a job or applying for a job.

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You know, so there are, there are some weighty decisions that also come up along the way

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in the 35,000-plus decisions you're making every single day.

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And if we examine how much consequence the decisions you make have,

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then it's important that you have a biblical framework to make the right decisions.

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If you look back at your life, you'll notice that some of the things you regret the most

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are wrong decisions, okay? And sometimes your life can take a certain

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trajectory for a long time simply because of one wrong decision.

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So there are decisions that carry a lot of weight. They carry a lot of value

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and should not be made lightly in, in, in any way at all, okay?

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So I want to, today, just provide a framework for you

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to help you make godly decisions, to help you make

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godly decisions. Your decisions will shape your direction, it will shape your character, it will shape your experiences,

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it will shape your destiny, okay? So the first thing that I want to say

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about making a decision, and I'll try and make it as practical as possible.

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The first thing I want to say when it comes to making a decision is to realize

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that God has a plan for your life, okay?

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So God has a plan for your life. In Ephesians chapter 2, the verse 10,

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the Bible says, "For we are the workmanship of God created in Christ Jesus

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unto good works, which he has beforehand ordained that we should walk in them."

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So God has beforehand ordained that we should walk in a certain way.

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He has He has good plans for us. That's what he told Jeremiah. I know the plans

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I have towards you. Plans of good, not of evil, plans to give you

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an expected end. So God has plans for you. And you must realize that

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God's blueprint is what is the best case scenario for your life.

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If you go out of God's blueprint, you're going to have a lot of troubles.

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So God has a plan, God has a blueprint, and the joy of your life should be

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to find yourself in God's perfect will for your life.

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So your decision should not be based on what you feel, it should not just be based on the flesh,

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it should not just be based on what looks good, but you should always, first of all, consider

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what is God's will in every situation.

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So like I mentioned, I'll give you very practical examples as we go along. Let's take a decision like marriage,

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okay?

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Sometimes when you watch a lot of social media, social media can shape that decision for you.

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It can give you a certain desire for a certain type of person,

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a certain look of a person. And that desire

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can take you out of what God has originally intended and designed

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when it comes to your marriage.

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So you must always look at God's blueprint,

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God's blueprint when it comes to making decisions.

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And the way to understand God's blueprint and to know God's plan is simply to pray,

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okay?

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So there are decisions you should pray about. There are decisions you should not make

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without praying.

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There are decisions you should not make without praying. If you make some decisions without praying,

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you are likely to fall out of the ambit of God's will concerning that particular matter. And

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prayer, praying concerning decisions often have to do with weighty decisions,

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weighty decisions. There are weighty decisions that you should not make

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without praying, first of all, okay?

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Now, when I say weighty decisions, let me give you an example. For instance, if you wake up in the morning and you want to take

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tea,

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you're choosing between Milo and coffee. You don't have to have a one hour prayer session to decide between Milo and coffee,

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okay? You, you might as well go with whatever you feel like unless, maybe,

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you feel the Holy Spirit leading you to take something specifically. But generally, you can just go with what you feel like, right?

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But that same principle cannot apply to who you marry, for instance,

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because that's, that's a decision of much more consequence.

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So there are decisions that you have to pray about.

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And I'm sure the question you are asking me is, Pastor, I've heard pray about this decision, pray about that decision.

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How do I pray about a particular decision?

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How do I pray about a particular decision?

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Now, the challenge sometimes, and I'm going to use marriage again as an example.

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The challenge sometimes is that we wait until you find somebody, and then you go to God, and you say, God, is this the person?

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But actually, there has to be an investment of prayer over the years.

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And in those investments of prayer, you're praying concerning the person, you're praying concerning yourself, you're praying concerning your marriage,

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you're praying concerning your children. So if you, if you want to

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make a good decision concerning marriage, it's not when you are at the crossroads

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that you go to God,

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right? If that's the case and you are at the crossroads and you go to God, God would have mercy, and God would help you.

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But the ideal thing is that

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you should be

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going through that process already.

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So prayer is not just for, for an answer, but prayer is for the preparation of the process.

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So when it comes to that, make sure you are praying.

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Start praying now, start praying into your marriage.

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Pray that you, you will stand perfect and complete in all the will of God, pray that God will lead you to the right person, pray that God will prepare both of you.

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So those are the types of things to start praying

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before we even get to the place of God, is this the one? And you'll be amazed that as you're praying those prayers, by the time you meet the person,

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there, there will be other means of confirmation

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apart from God is he the one, and then you're expecting an answer, yes, he's the one. You'll be amazed that because your heart is prepared, your mind is prepared

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through the process of prayer, you'll be able to make a good decision. So there are decisions that you should be praying about

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now. There are big decisions that you should be praying about now, and you should not make

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some decisions

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without prayer. In prayer, seek God's wisdom,

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seek God's counsel, okay?

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The key is that, and that's why I started by saying,

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God's blueprint is key.

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Don't make a decision outside of what God has said in his word.

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Don't make a decision outside of what God has said in his word. There are things spelled out clearly in the Bible,

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and

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it will be in your best interest to make sure that you align with what the scriptures say.

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For instance, the Bible says that, "Do not be unequally yoked

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with an unbeliever," all right?

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If you're making a decision on who to marry, it, it is not wise at all to go and marry somebody of another faith, a Buddhist, a Muslim,

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and all of that. You've already stepped out of the blueprint of God's will.

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And you're already making a decision that can have very dire

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consequences. So seek God's wisdom, first of all, seek God's blueprint, first of all, and you

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seek that in prayer and in the word of God. You seek that in prayer and in the word of God.

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That's why it's important to be in meetings like this,

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to hear the word of God, to keep listening to the sermons that, that we share,

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to keep reading the Bible. What it does is that it's preparing you, it's giving you a backdrop and a foundation such that

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when you reach the place that you have to make a decision, you already have enough in you, and often the Holy Spirit can

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use those messages, use the word that you've read,

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use the, the things that you've, you've heard in prayer, use the prophecies and all of that, to direct you

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concerning what you should do in, in a particular

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in a particular instance. So

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that's the first thing. Make sure that you are seeking God's blueprint in all the decisions

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you are making. Like I mentioned, it doesn't mean that you should be spooky. It doesn't mean that if you're

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going to have tea or coffee, you say, oh, well, what is God's will? No, there are things that

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do not, um, you do not have to approach them that way. The only time when that comes up is when

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but a wise man listens to advice.

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So, you need advice when it comes to various things. There are decisions you should not make alone.

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the Holy Spirit instructs you that, okay, take this rather and for, for various reasons, he may instruct you to do that.

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Just to buttress this point even further, Proverbs chapter 15 verse 22,

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It's like waking up in the morning and asking the Holy Spirit, should I bath? Brother, you have to bath, you don't have to, you don't have to pray about it.

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without counsel, plans fail.

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but with many advisers they succeed.

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Just bath. It's something that you, you have to do, okay? So but seek God's will concerning big ticket decisions,

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Without counsel, plans fail.

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big, serious decisions, let the word of God guide you, let the word of God help you.

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But with many advisers they succeed.

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Of course, many advisers does not mean you should trumpet it before the whole world,

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Now, the next framework which is very important is to seek godly counsel,

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but there are specific people that God places in your life who become a sounding board,

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who help you, who can flesh it out, who can tell you the truth,

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who can really look at it from an objective,

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to seek godly counsel.

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an objective lens. I remember years ago, one of my teachers in JHS

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And I want to read some scriptures to you that will help you appreciate

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called me and said something interesting to me. She said,

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godly counsel because there are decisions you should not make without talking to

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if you are drawing a line,

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someone in your life who can provide godly counsel,

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and you are going ahead and drawing the line,

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godly counsel,

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you will not be able to see behind you when the line is crooked. That was quite a proverb.

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godly counsel. Proverbs chapter 11 verse 14,

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the Bible says that, "Where there's no guidance,

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a people fall. But in the abundance of counselors, there is safety."

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In the abundance of counselor, in the presence of counselor, in the presence of counselors,

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there is safety.

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So God brings counselors, guides, into your life, pastors,

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shepherds,

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into your life who help you. Because sometimes you can sound so smart in your own ears until you run that same idea

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by someone who God has placed in your life to help you.

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But I think it makes some sense. Sometimes when you're on a journey, it's difficult to see

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Look at this verse. Proverbs chapter 12 verse 15. It says, "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes.

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how things are turning out, how things are panning out

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until you have someone look at it. So someone from behind will be able to tell you that this line...

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If you take maybe a stone and you're drawing a line on the floor,

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you may be surprised that you may not know how crooked it is until someone stands from

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a place where they can have a better view and be able to tell you that, oh no, this line is crooked. Do it this way, do it that way.

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So, God gives you counselors to help you.

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God gives you counselors to help you, and there are people you should be able to call to run some ideas by them.

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There are people you should be able to call to say, "Pray with me concerning this. I'm thinking about this."

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It is safety. It is a blessing.

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It is a very, very, very wonderful thing.

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And that's something you should not despise at all.

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You should not despise at all.

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So, cherish the people that God gives you, seek their counsel,

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and let them help you, let them guide you.

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Okay, these are people who

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are set by God to help you. Let me read some more scriptures to you.

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Proverbs chapter 19 verse 20.

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You see a lot of these types of scriptures in the book of Proverbs.

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Proverbs chapter 19 verse 20.

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It says, "Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future."

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Listen to advice, accept instruction,

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that you may gain wisdom in the future. You may gain wisdom concerning

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everything that you are involved in. So,

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there are decisions you should not make without seeking Godly counsel.

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Without seeking Godly counsel. Big-ticket decisions.

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Big-ticket decisions.

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Who to marry is a classic example. You're changing your location, you're changing various things.

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You need, you need some counsel, you need some guidance

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concerning, concerning that. So, that's, that's another important framework

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that you need when it comes to making good decisions. Without that, you'll be surprised at how many bad

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decisions that you may

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you may end up making. So, avoid making major decisions

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in isolation. Avoid it.

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Avoid it completely.

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And when you marry, that's one of the blessings of a partner. That partner can become a sounding board

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for major decisions.

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Avoid making major decisions in isolation.

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You may end up having problems along the way. So, that's, that's very important.

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Now, another important framework to note when making a decision,

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depending on the weight of that decision, has to do with your motives.

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Okay? Why are you making this decision?

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Because sometimes the decision can be right, but your motive can be wrong, and therein the problem lies.

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Okay? You can be driven by pride.

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You can be driven by fear, you can be driven by greed.

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You can be driven by all kinds of things in making a certain type of decision.

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And that can lead you into trouble.

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The decision may be right, but your motive may be wrong, and your motive will show up along the way in the decision, and that can spoil things.

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Okay? So, always, and I mentioned at the beginning about prayer.

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In prayer, be honest with God about your motives, be honest with your shepherds or your counselors or your pastors, whoever the Lord has placed

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your motives. And a good shepherd will often

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drill down to find out your motives for making certain decisions. Now, when we talk about motives, it does not mean that you should not be ambitious.

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rise to the very top, you want to make a lot of money and all of that.

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take advantage of people to get there, okay? Or your motive could even

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be that you are doing it to spite somebody else, you are doing it to prove a point to someone else.

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prove their parents wrong or they could prove their doubters wrong,

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and that's a very sad thing. That's a very, very sad thing. You should not live life

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to prove a point to someone else, and it's a sad, it's a sad thing.

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be wrong decisions. They will often be wrong decisions and may end you in a ditch

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along the way. So, your motives are also something to examine

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You know, let the peace of God rule in your hearts. In other words, let the peace of God be the referee, the umpire of your heart.

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There are things that you should not jump to when you don't have peace concerning.

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God's peace often confirms His direction, so God gives you peace in your heart

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concerning that particular matter. When you're about to make a decision and you don't have peace in your heart...

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You see, this particular thing has saved so many people from harm.

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There are people who were supposed to go somewhere, and then they didn't have peace in their spirit concerning

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that journey or concerning any of that, and decided to stay back, and by that they were spared from all kinds of things.

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the direction that He wants you to go.

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There are decisions that have a compounding effect. And when it comes to those decisions, you have to wait for God's timing.

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For instance right now, if you look back to when you were in SHS or in the university, if you're done with school, there are things that you wish you had done.

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and then look back as though you are old, even though you are still young. And it will give you a lot of insights and and wisdom

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good health is not just a one-time decision. Like you wake up today and say,

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I'm going to be in good health. Now, yes, it starts out as a one-time decision.

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to be able to make better decisions for your life, to be able to make very good and important decisions for your life.

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that must be made, that should have a compounding effect.

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if you notice that there are areas of your life where you make bad decisions, you need urgent help.

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exercising for 10 minutes, and suddenly they are looking at their stomach and they are looking at their

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I know there are people for instance, when it comes to the area of relationships, they make very bad choices, they make very bad decisions.

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Everything they get involved in doesn't seem to work. What should you do? Seek godly counsel.

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by now, the way I've lifted these metals, I should have some muscles by now.

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with these decisions, you need patience. You need patience. The results are not immediate.

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blindsided, if you keep going with that weakness, you are likely going to make a big decision that may have a far-reaching effect. So if you notice that there are areas of my life where I just seem

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to make bad decisions, seek help, because decisions are often based on knowledge.

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how you can apply this framework, um, one way or the other, to be able to make good decisions in that light. So

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first example, let's say you're a business person and then a deal comes before you.

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entered into one wrong deal, one wrong contract, and that was the end of it for them. That was the end of their business, they went bankrupt and all of that.

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far-reaching impact on your life. You're making decisions on which school to go, what course to do,

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because oftentimes, the rest of your life

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Of course, sometimes people are able to change and make decisions later on close to their 40s or 50s and all of that. That's entirely possible.

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if you don't have ample knowledge concerning a particular matter. So get as much knowledge as possible.

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for your life.

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Far-reaching decisions for your life, and you should not take those decisions for granted.

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That's what some people miss sometimes. A business proposal can look good but the people can be very bad. And as long as the people are very bad,

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to live in hindsight. I'll explain what I'm trying to say.

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it doesn't matter how good the business proposal is. You have problems along the way. So what you should do is to get,

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to get some background knowledge about these people as well. What's their track record? Where are they from? What do they do? All of that. Okay?

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making decisions by looking back. So, for instance, imagine yourself at 60.

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not settling for less will be one,

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that you trust, and let them be your sounding board, let them provide counsel, let them provide guidance. Okay. Sometimes as well you don't enter things hook, line, and sinker.

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doing all that you can, giving it your best shot, working hard, doing all these various things

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dump all your money at once, you can do a test run of things. Okay,

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what will I look back on and be proud of?

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let's try this amount and see how it goes and then we can push in some more. So you can always try to do

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um, probationary things, okay, to try and ensure that all your eggs are not in one basket, okay. Let me give you another scenario.

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and then say, "Okay, then, from now on, I want to do this, I want to do this, I want to do this, I want to do this, I want to do this."

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Who are you? What kind of things are you able to do? What kind of things are you able to be involved in happily?

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Every time I go to the hospital, um, often to visit people and to pray for people and all that, I appreciate the work my wife does because I realize that these people are going through a lot. It's

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a very gloomy environment and I've often wondered, can I actually do this job? If I, if I had the opportunity to be a doctor or a nurse or any, any of such things,

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I wonder if I'd have been, if I would have been good at it. I, I really wonder. Maybe I would have found my way through but

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look, looking back or looking at it, it just seems like something difficult that I may not want to do. But I think some people are uniquely gifted and divinely graced for it.

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so that you are not deprived financially. Do it at a very high level so that you can reap enough financial rewards. But all these thoughts must come into play

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when you are making a decision for instance about the job you want to do, the opportunities within the job. Based on that knowledge, go into prayer, find out, "God,

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what do you want me to do? Is this the way you want me to go?" All of that. Seek godly counsel and you'll be amazed that you'll be able to make a decision. Sometimes you start out in a career and you want to branch into another path.

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whatever side of the aisle you may be on, again, same framework: you need a lot of knowledge.

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A lot of knowledge. Never rush into a relationship. Okay. Never rush into a relationship.

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It still runs across in a lot of ways when it comes to these big-ticket decisions. Seek godly counsel, seek help, take your time, wait for God's timing. I always say, for instance, that if you're getting to know someone, you have to give enough time to really get to know the person.

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If you're buying land, the most dangerous thing you can do is to buy land during the dry season, because you may be amazed that during the wet season, the land that you've bought is actually a pool.

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tested properly to be able to know or even look around. One of the things someone taught me when I was buying land is that when you're when you're buying land in a particular area,

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go and look at the houses. Sometimes when you look at the houses and how the walls of the houses are, you can begin to guess

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um, what happens. Sometimes because of flood you see certain signs and certain markings on the walls and that can give you an indication of what is happening in the area. So look at the houses around the area

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a good decision. Hallelujah. You need a lot of knowledge to be able to make a good decision.

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God wants you to make good decisions. And good decisions determine the quality of your life,

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the experience that you have in your life, okay. And when and making a good decision, you must always consider God's blueprint,

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God's plan for your life, God's good plan for your life. So seek God's wisdom in prayer, in the word, seek godly counsel.

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every single time, in Jesus' mighty name. Amen.