1 00:00:00,526 --> 00:00:01,496 What is up guys. 2 00:00:01,496 --> 00:00:05,966 Welcome back to another episode of the process of becoming podcast with Josh. 3 00:00:05,966 --> 00:00:07,326 And my name is Bill. 4 00:00:07,326 --> 00:00:10,486 All right guys, this is a full length episode that we have been jumping at the 5 00:00:10,486 --> 00:00:11,926 bit to get into. 6 00:00:11,966 --> 00:00:16,146 in fact, we actually recorded part of this episode, that we're going to cover today 7 00:00:16,146 --> 00:00:19,186 as our very first episode, but it didn't get recorded. 8 00:00:19,326 --> 00:00:21,076 Cause we are newbies. 9 00:00:21,076 --> 00:00:24,586 I was going to say I got uncored, but I saw how we missed Bill. 10 00:00:24,586 --> 00:00:27,826 Yeah, it just completely, it's in the ether somewhere. 11 00:00:27,826 --> 00:00:29,905 So, but Dino, how you been man? 12 00:00:29,905 --> 00:00:30,795 I've been good, bro. 13 00:00:30,795 --> 00:00:32,525 It's been a, how long has it been, dude? 14 00:00:32,525 --> 00:00:35,745 It feels like honestly over like two months, but it's probably been like two 15 00:00:35,745 --> 00:00:36,285 weeks. 16 00:00:36,285 --> 00:00:37,575 It feels like forever. 17 00:00:37,575 --> 00:00:38,225 It's loud. 18 00:00:38,225 --> 00:00:40,315 So it's just, you know, what we're going to do. 19 00:00:40,315 --> 00:00:42,005 We're going to stop promising it after every week. 20 00:00:42,005 --> 00:00:42,465 Yeah. 21 00:00:42,465 --> 00:00:42,705 Yeah. 22 00:00:42,705 --> 00:00:43,565 We've been loving that. 23 00:00:43,565 --> 00:00:44,265 Yeah. 24 00:00:44,265 --> 00:00:44,965 Yeah. 25 00:00:44,965 --> 00:00:46,515 I think all the time. 26 00:00:46,515 --> 00:00:46,945 Yeah. 27 00:00:46,945 --> 00:00:47,325 Yeah. 28 00:00:47,325 --> 00:00:47,705 Yeah. 29 00:00:47,705 --> 00:00:50,965 And I think it's funny. 30 00:00:50,965 --> 00:00:56,285 I've thought about this the last, I think from the last episode we shot before that, 31 00:00:56,285 --> 00:00:59,697 me and you haven't actually had a, one of our quick hitter talks. 32 00:00:59,697 --> 00:01:01,097 like we used to. 33 00:01:01,097 --> 00:01:03,057 And obviously it is a busy time for both of us. 34 00:01:03,057 --> 00:01:04,657 So it's like, I get it. 35 00:01:04,657 --> 00:01:06,367 But it's funny how you can know this. 36 00:01:06,367 --> 00:01:07,907 I'm like, dude, it's something's off. 37 00:01:07,907 --> 00:01:10,797 You know, I'm like, dude, I haven't had had these type of conversations in a 38 00:01:10,797 --> 00:01:11,027 while. 39 00:01:11,027 --> 00:01:13,677 And it's like, dude, I look forward, we both look obviously forward to this 40 00:01:13,677 --> 00:01:15,037 because we get to have those. 41 00:01:15,037 --> 00:01:18,597 But one thing we used to do was during the day and we would stop and have a 10, 20 42 00:01:18,597 --> 00:01:20,357 minute conversation about something crazy. 43 00:01:20,357 --> 00:01:22,317 It's been a while since we had those too, dude. 44 00:01:22,317 --> 00:01:24,137 So how long is it for this? 45 00:01:24,137 --> 00:01:25,698 Cause it hasn't been that much. 46 00:01:25,698 --> 00:01:30,658 for me, honestly, a lot of that is, I just been, it's, it's grind season, so to 47 00:01:30,658 --> 00:01:30,998 speak. 48 00:01:30,998 --> 00:01:35,718 And for me, it's like, I always, I'm always productive in the evenings, but I 49 00:01:35,718 --> 00:01:37,978 used to wrap my day down just by getting on TikTok a little bit. 50 00:01:37,978 --> 00:01:40,548 And then I would see something and kind of like distinct through it. 51 00:01:40,548 --> 00:01:41,808 And I haven't been doing that lately. 52 00:01:41,808 --> 00:01:45,318 It's been a lot more reading, studying and debriefing right before bed. 53 00:01:45,318 --> 00:01:48,978 So, but yeah, now that we got that Joe Rogan, Terrence Howard episode, we're 54 00:01:48,978 --> 00:01:50,178 going to be talking about that a lot. 55 00:01:50,178 --> 00:01:50,768 Yeah. 56 00:01:50,768 --> 00:01:51,361 Yeah. 57 00:01:51,361 --> 00:01:55,701 I told you, dude, that one's gonna, I'm on my second time playing it and dude, it 58 00:01:55,701 --> 00:01:56,491 takes so much. 59 00:01:56,491 --> 00:02:00,301 Like you're gonna have to listen to it five times to just grasp what he's saying. 60 00:02:00,301 --> 00:02:00,521 Yeah. 61 00:02:00,521 --> 00:02:01,941 Terrence Howard is a freaking man, dude. 62 00:02:01,941 --> 00:02:04,771 That is one thing I did not know and I'm excited. 63 00:02:04,771 --> 00:02:06,191 I'm excited to keep listening to that one. 64 00:02:06,191 --> 00:02:10,011 The thing that excites me about that is knowing like, yeah, he was like a sleeper, 65 00:02:10,011 --> 00:02:10,301 right? 66 00:02:10,301 --> 00:02:13,921 Like he was a, Terrence Howard is an actor and that's what I'd known for it and I saw 67 00:02:13,921 --> 00:02:14,921 clips of him. 68 00:02:14,921 --> 00:02:18,001 But if there's one of them, there's probably another person out there like 69 00:02:18,001 --> 00:02:19,878 that that might come forward and start telling him. 70 00:02:19,878 --> 00:02:22,125 talking about the same stuff and confirm it a little bit more. 71 00:02:22,125 --> 00:02:22,715 is true. 72 00:02:22,715 --> 00:02:25,865 I mean, I feel like one of the biggest reasons he's out there is because he was 73 00:02:25,865 --> 00:02:29,115 an actor, because he is pretty well known, you know, and he did make that switch. 74 00:02:29,115 --> 00:02:32,675 I don't remember exactly when, but like, dude, like we talked about it before this, 75 00:02:32,675 --> 00:02:36,605 like he was such a good actor and then out of nowhere, it was like, yo, this guy's a 76 00:02:36,605 --> 00:02:39,005 lot deeper than the looks of it, right? 77 00:02:39,005 --> 00:02:41,925 And it's, and to your point, it's like, how many more people are there out there 78 00:02:41,925 --> 00:02:42,465 like that? 79 00:02:42,465 --> 00:02:44,185 They wouldn't know about. 80 00:02:44,285 --> 00:02:47,905 Dude, it's just crazy when you start to realize, 81 00:02:48,294 --> 00:02:50,694 the potentials of this life. 82 00:02:50,694 --> 00:02:53,334 And I think it can be scary, but also awesome at the same time. 83 00:02:53,334 --> 00:02:54,178 Yeah. 84 00:02:54,425 --> 00:02:57,785 I think that's why we love the concept of just talking about humans life, where 85 00:02:57,785 --> 00:03:01,565 things can go because there is such a, there's so much to it. 86 00:03:01,565 --> 00:03:02,405 You know what I mean? 87 00:03:02,405 --> 00:03:03,085 yeah. 88 00:03:03,625 --> 00:03:09,105 It really, hearing the line for 10 minutes that was in that podcast so far, it shines 89 00:03:09,105 --> 00:03:13,785 a light, and I've known this business confirmation for like the literal untapped 90 00:03:13,785 --> 00:03:14,825 human potential. 91 00:03:14,825 --> 00:03:15,386 Correct. 92 00:03:15,386 --> 00:03:21,386 And like the human experience is so much more than what we like, we, we're not even 93 00:03:21,386 --> 00:03:23,093 like a minuscule. 94 00:03:23,093 --> 00:03:27,853 percent of a percent to where we possibly could be as a society and as humans. 95 00:03:28,193 --> 00:03:29,713 and it's really pretty cool to see. 96 00:03:29,713 --> 00:03:31,413 So it's like that a little bit limitless. 97 00:03:31,413 --> 00:03:35,413 I think about that and I'm like, maybe we're off with only knowing 10%. 98 00:03:35,413 --> 00:03:36,353 Maybe we know two. 99 00:03:36,353 --> 00:03:37,853 Maybe we barely know any. 100 00:03:37,853 --> 00:03:38,650 You know what I mean? 101 00:03:38,650 --> 00:03:39,750 I mean. 102 00:03:40,070 --> 00:03:41,350 Yeah. 103 00:03:41,410 --> 00:03:45,350 Like the cool part about it is because if you ever feel when you hear people talk 104 00:03:45,350 --> 00:03:48,200 about, well, it's huge, you can see it's a fine tune. 105 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:51,989 You're working full of stuff like we'll do when you have guys like power. 106 00:03:51,989 --> 00:03:55,049 these guys that come out with some of the things that, you know, we would have never 107 00:03:55,049 --> 00:03:59,249 even thought about that end up being true or that end up like, you know, coming out 108 00:03:59,249 --> 00:04:01,349 and like, my God, I didn't even know this was possible. 109 00:04:01,349 --> 00:04:07,289 It does really confirm that we are insanely infinitely like unlimited in our 110 00:04:07,289 --> 00:04:08,227 potential. 111 00:04:08,322 --> 00:04:11,142 that's the crazy part about this, and I think that's why you and I enjoy this 112 00:04:11,142 --> 00:04:16,402 stuff so much, is because as students, like you do, bro, if we all started today, 113 00:04:16,682 --> 00:04:21,542 I still believe that from what I know, you know what I mean, hopefully, partner, if 114 00:04:21,542 --> 00:04:22,597 you can still make that life. 115 00:04:22,597 --> 00:04:23,117 possible. 116 00:04:23,117 --> 00:04:26,717 Even if we did lose everything today, it's like, that's the type of ability we have. 117 00:04:26,717 --> 00:04:29,917 And I think that's the exciting piece of why we've been doing this is, is like, how 118 00:04:29,917 --> 00:04:30,977 do we unlock more of that? 119 00:04:30,977 --> 00:04:31,697 You know what I mean? 120 00:04:31,697 --> 00:04:34,657 So that's, that's what I, where my mind goes when I hear stuff like that. 121 00:04:34,657 --> 00:04:38,321 Cause I'm like, dude, the world is so much bigger than we can even imagine. 122 00:04:42,662 --> 00:04:45,962 and for me like the thing that drives me for the stuff like that is it makes me 123 00:04:45,962 --> 00:04:49,382 want to become like 10 % better every day instead of just 1 % 124 00:04:49,957 --> 00:04:50,677 possible, you know? 125 00:04:50,677 --> 00:04:55,677 Because I will look at it realistically because for me, like, my limited belief, 126 00:04:55,677 --> 00:04:59,477 right, of like, all right, this is what I want to achieve and be like, cool, no, 127 00:04:59,477 --> 00:05:00,527 that's opened up more. 128 00:05:00,527 --> 00:05:02,917 So now I got like another 800 % above that. 129 00:05:02,917 --> 00:05:05,377 So it's like, you just want to take it on faster to get closer to that. 130 00:05:05,377 --> 00:05:05,967 I see what you're saying. 131 00:05:05,967 --> 00:05:06,707 That's wild. 132 00:05:06,707 --> 00:05:07,986 But I mean, even just for 133 00:05:07,986 --> 00:05:11,826 listening, if you just become a little bit better every day, that's the goal that we 134 00:05:11,826 --> 00:05:12,086 have here. 135 00:05:12,086 --> 00:05:13,756 That's the mission that we're on. 136 00:05:13,826 --> 00:05:16,706 so start out just by saying it, we'll probably end with saying it, but if you 137 00:05:16,706 --> 00:05:18,318 find any value from today's podcast, 138 00:05:18,318 --> 00:05:19,378 which I know you will. 139 00:05:19,378 --> 00:05:21,718 We have a really good topic to cover. 140 00:05:22,098 --> 00:05:22,778 Share it. 141 00:05:22,778 --> 00:05:25,178 You know, just put it out there, throw it out on social media, tell a friend about 142 00:05:25,178 --> 00:05:28,898 it when you get into a conversation about what podcast you listen to, what value 143 00:05:28,898 --> 00:05:29,418 you're gaining. 144 00:05:29,418 --> 00:05:30,298 So that's what we do. 145 00:05:30,298 --> 00:05:32,978 That's why we're here and we appreciate all the love and support. 146 00:05:35,121 --> 00:05:38,581 We want to share these things and we want to help out as much as we can because, you 147 00:05:38,581 --> 00:05:40,961 know, it's a conversation that you and I have, but it's also the things that we've 148 00:05:40,961 --> 00:05:46,081 seen in our life that have impacted us, helped us out, and truly put us on this 149 00:05:46,081 --> 00:05:48,281 trajectory to continue doing more of these things. 150 00:05:48,281 --> 00:05:53,401 But it's also where I think the excitement for wanting to get better has come from. 151 00:05:53,721 --> 00:05:55,211 And dude, that's why we're sharing this. 152 00:05:55,211 --> 00:05:57,761 You know, we hope you guys take value from this. 153 00:05:57,761 --> 00:05:59,591 And if you do like Josh says, share the show. 154 00:05:59,591 --> 00:06:00,341 It's all we ask for. 155 00:06:00,341 --> 00:06:00,661 You know what I mean? 156 00:06:00,661 --> 00:06:01,141 That's it. 157 00:06:01,141 --> 00:06:02,221 We just want to help. 158 00:06:02,221 --> 00:06:02,961 So, that's it. 159 00:06:02,961 --> 00:06:04,401 All right, dog, let's kick it off. 160 00:06:04,401 --> 00:06:05,275 Yeah. 161 00:06:06,038 --> 00:06:13,178 to get into defining what it means to be intentional. 162 00:06:13,178 --> 00:06:15,920 I'm talking to Dino a little bit about before the show. 163 00:06:16,513 --> 00:06:19,773 A lot of the mentorship that I give people, it really just comes down to being 164 00:06:19,773 --> 00:06:20,173 intentional. 165 00:06:20,173 --> 00:06:24,833 I think that is a key overarching idea of the superpowers that we have as human 166 00:06:24,833 --> 00:06:25,173 beings. 167 00:06:25,173 --> 00:06:29,613 It's literally just, you know, I say superpowers quote unquote, but that is 168 00:06:29,613 --> 00:06:32,693 something that we can all tap into and be better with and it will literally change 169 00:06:32,693 --> 00:06:33,722 so much about our lives. 170 00:06:33,722 --> 00:06:37,222 not only from like the experiences that we have, but who you become as a human being 171 00:06:37,222 --> 00:06:40,702 and also the experiences that you have. 172 00:06:40,702 --> 00:06:41,282 Right. 173 00:06:41,282 --> 00:06:44,442 So something that I know just looking back on my life that has made such a huge 174 00:06:44,442 --> 00:06:45,499 difference for me. 175 00:06:45,499 --> 00:06:48,529 And then we're gonna get into some other things that Dino and I kind of see as 176 00:06:48,529 --> 00:06:50,969 quote unquote human superpowers that we have. 177 00:06:50,969 --> 00:06:54,169 That if we can just have an analysis, kind of get us moving in that direction, become 178 00:06:54,169 --> 00:06:55,689 an FS version of ourselves. 179 00:06:55,689 --> 00:06:57,329 So it's gonna be a fun episode. 180 00:06:57,349 --> 00:06:59,569 But yeah, Dino, let's start this out. 181 00:06:59,569 --> 00:07:01,529 I'm gonna throw you through this to your direction. 182 00:07:01,529 --> 00:07:02,473 Let's go. 183 00:07:02,738 --> 00:07:04,568 in your words and your thought process. 184 00:07:04,568 --> 00:07:06,938 What does it mean to be intentional? 185 00:07:06,938 --> 00:07:09,128 This is a good one. 186 00:07:09,508 --> 00:07:14,815 one thing that I want to, cause I think a lot of people use this. 187 00:07:14,815 --> 00:07:17,545 we think it's like a selective thing, right? 188 00:07:17,545 --> 00:07:22,585 Like it happens when we choose to think about intent, but in reality, intent's 189 00:07:22,585 --> 00:07:23,935 happening at all times, right? 190 00:07:23,935 --> 00:07:27,095 And an intent is why are you doing what you're doing? 191 00:07:27,095 --> 00:07:30,925 You know, from literally going to the bathroom to like, Hey, the conversation 192 00:07:30,925 --> 00:07:32,682 that you're about to have, like, what is your intent? 193 00:07:32,682 --> 00:07:35,382 You know, like, what is the intention behind what you're doing? 194 00:07:35,382 --> 00:07:39,002 And I think the cool part about this is that it's happening at all times. 195 00:07:39,002 --> 00:07:39,909 The only difference is... 196 00:07:39,909 --> 00:07:41,199 sometimes we're not checking it. 197 00:07:41,199 --> 00:07:44,569 Most of the times we're not taking that step back to look at like, Hey, why am I 198 00:07:44,569 --> 00:07:45,289 doing this? 199 00:07:45,289 --> 00:07:46,259 What is the purpose? 200 00:07:46,259 --> 00:07:47,699 And what am I trying to get out of this? 201 00:07:47,699 --> 00:07:48,139 Right. 202 00:07:48,139 --> 00:07:52,209 And again, I like to highlight the fact that we're doing it at all times because a 203 00:07:52,209 --> 00:07:56,269 lot of the times I think when we talk about intent, people think it's like this 204 00:07:56,269 --> 00:07:58,654 crazy thing you have to access, but. 205 00:07:58,654 --> 00:08:02,074 really, the craziest thing I have to act at is the question that you ask yourself, 206 00:08:02,074 --> 00:08:05,734 and it's why and where do I want to go about this? 207 00:08:05,734 --> 00:08:09,681 And it's really those questions that decide where is my focus on. 208 00:08:09,681 --> 00:08:12,701 And I kind of hope that answers your question to start off, but like that's 209 00:08:12,701 --> 00:08:13,771 kind of where my mind goes, right? 210 00:08:13,771 --> 00:08:18,601 Where it's like intent is solely based on why are you doing what you were doing? 211 00:08:18,601 --> 00:08:20,081 And what is your intention behind it? 212 00:08:20,081 --> 00:08:24,021 Like for example, it's like, let's say I call you tomorrow, right? 213 00:08:24,021 --> 00:08:25,681 Let's say you need help with something. 214 00:08:25,681 --> 00:08:27,981 And you're like, hey, Dino, can you come over and help me out with this? 215 00:08:27,981 --> 00:08:29,301 I'm like, all right, cool. 216 00:08:29,301 --> 00:08:31,011 I'm going to go help you regardless, right? 217 00:08:31,011 --> 00:08:35,561 But option one is I'm helping you because I want you to help me in return one day 218 00:08:35,561 --> 00:08:36,321 when I need it. 219 00:08:36,321 --> 00:08:37,161 That is my intent. 220 00:08:37,161 --> 00:08:39,001 That is why I'm helping out. 221 00:08:39,001 --> 00:08:43,221 Now, second option is, hey, you called me, you asked for help, and I'm going to help 222 00:08:43,221 --> 00:08:45,481 you out because I care about you, because I love you. 223 00:08:45,481 --> 00:08:46,671 And I'm like, it's the right thing to do. 224 00:08:46,671 --> 00:08:49,081 And all I want to do is help and make sure you're in a good spot. 225 00:08:49,081 --> 00:08:52,635 Two different forms of intent, same objective is complete. 226 00:08:53,018 --> 00:08:56,998 Two completely different outcomes in relationship and response to your life and 227 00:08:56,998 --> 00:08:58,218 response to what happens. 228 00:08:58,218 --> 00:09:01,678 And I always go back to that, because I know it sounds so simple, but just that 229 00:09:01,678 --> 00:09:02,158 example. 230 00:09:02,158 --> 00:09:05,518 Again, it's like the mission and the result that we're going to be, like, I'm 231 00:09:05,518 --> 00:09:07,238 going to come over and help you out with garbage. 232 00:09:07,297 --> 00:09:11,057 But my intent literally decides what happens after that, right? 233 00:09:11,057 --> 00:09:15,137 And it's, you know, for example, if I go with option one and I do that because I 234 00:09:15,137 --> 00:09:18,357 want something in return, dude, you and me are probably not gonna end up being 235 00:09:18,357 --> 00:09:19,074 friends. 236 00:09:19,074 --> 00:09:22,994 You're probably going to end up being a fight because it becomes transactional and 237 00:09:22,994 --> 00:09:24,034 all this stuff. 238 00:09:24,034 --> 00:09:26,534 But option number two, what if you and I become closer? 239 00:09:26,534 --> 00:09:30,054 What if there's a moment in time that I actually felt that I'm like, I didn't do 240 00:09:30,054 --> 00:09:31,734 it because I wanted your help. 241 00:09:31,734 --> 00:09:35,394 But I'm like, damn, dude, the only person I know in my life right now is Josh McCall 242 00:09:35,394 --> 00:09:36,421 and you're there. 243 00:09:36,421 --> 00:09:39,301 because of that moment and because my intent was there. 244 00:09:39,301 --> 00:09:41,541 And that's really how I look at intent, dude. 245 00:09:41,541 --> 00:09:46,361 It's like you and I can do the exact same thing, but in our hearts, why are we doing 246 00:09:46,361 --> 00:09:46,651 it? 247 00:09:46,651 --> 00:09:47,634 What is our mission? 248 00:09:47,634 --> 00:09:49,694 Because that's the size of where your life goes. 249 00:09:49,694 --> 00:09:51,684 Yeah, that's really solid. 250 00:09:51,684 --> 00:09:57,014 So if you look up the definition of intentional or intent, it is done on 251 00:09:57,014 --> 00:09:58,194 purpose. 252 00:09:58,414 --> 00:09:58,694 Right? 253 00:09:58,694 --> 00:10:00,394 So you just nailed that completely. 254 00:10:00,394 --> 00:10:02,485 Like you 100 % nailed it on completely. 255 00:10:02,485 --> 00:10:04,615 Because like the why there is a purpose. 256 00:10:04,615 --> 00:10:06,455 What's the purpose of you coming over and helping me? 257 00:10:06,455 --> 00:10:07,645 Is it so you get something in return? 258 00:10:07,645 --> 00:10:08,005 Absolutely. 259 00:10:08,005 --> 00:10:10,605 So that I can just I love this view and help out. 260 00:10:10,605 --> 00:10:13,565 And I think about that from that example, another realistic one that a lot of people 261 00:10:13,565 --> 00:10:15,965 can resonate with is a car salesman. 262 00:10:15,965 --> 00:10:17,514 You go to a car lot. 263 00:10:17,514 --> 00:10:22,134 If that guy's intent is to sell you a car, which let's face it, like it's always 264 00:10:22,134 --> 00:10:24,194 going to be that as a, it's an underlying scenario. 265 00:10:24,194 --> 00:10:25,334 It's his career, right? 266 00:10:25,334 --> 00:10:25,774 It's his job. 267 00:10:25,774 --> 00:10:27,134 He's what he's designed to do. 268 00:10:27,134 --> 00:10:31,334 But if, if I look at it like this intent has a smell to it, right. 269 00:10:31,334 --> 00:10:31,913 And. 270 00:10:31,913 --> 00:10:36,713 And if I'm going to a car lot and that guy is like, I'd do this guy, salesman, all he 271 00:10:36,713 --> 00:10:38,433 is doing is selling me a car. 272 00:10:38,433 --> 00:10:42,933 Really the key there in sales is if you're a salesperson, you're the tip for you. 273 00:10:42,933 --> 00:10:46,093 It comes down to, are you trying to solve a problem or are you just trying to give 274 00:10:46,093 --> 00:10:46,558 me something? 275 00:10:46,558 --> 00:10:49,558 that I don't think that you don't think I actually need? 276 00:10:49,618 --> 00:10:53,738 But the idea there is if he's actually just trying to help me and just trying to 277 00:10:53,738 --> 00:10:57,118 solve a problem for me, I'm going to feel that I'm going to sense that. 278 00:10:57,118 --> 00:10:59,861 And then you look at, we talked about the law of attraction on here. 279 00:10:59,861 --> 00:11:03,301 There's a law of reciprocity that goes into place as well, right? 280 00:11:03,301 --> 00:11:04,721 Which is another law of the universe. 281 00:11:04,721 --> 00:11:08,081 And it's like, if you have the positive intent with wanting to come over and help 282 00:11:08,081 --> 00:11:08,901 me, guess what? 283 00:11:08,901 --> 00:11:10,891 You don't need to ask me to ever help you. 284 00:11:10,891 --> 00:11:13,850 I naturally want to give back to you and want to fill that gap. 285 00:11:13,850 --> 00:11:16,990 So that alone though, can be a very dangerous thing. 286 00:11:16,990 --> 00:11:20,950 And it's a big reason why I'm not a huge fan of Christmas and then give holidays 287 00:11:20,950 --> 00:11:24,870 because like you get like, like my wife, for example, she'll get these like the 288 00:11:24,870 --> 00:11:28,262 Christmas picture cards and she's like, now we got to send them one. 289 00:11:28,965 --> 00:11:30,735 We don't ever talk to these people. 290 00:11:30,735 --> 00:11:32,825 We do not need to send them anything. 291 00:11:32,825 --> 00:11:33,305 Right. 292 00:11:33,305 --> 00:11:35,845 So it gets a little dangerous there as well. 293 00:11:35,845 --> 00:11:40,885 But intentional for me is to cap off what your definition, because I agree a 294 00:11:40,885 --> 00:11:43,014 thousand percent with that, is. 295 00:11:43,014 --> 00:11:46,334 intentionality should become something. 296 00:11:47,054 --> 00:11:48,624 Make it so that it's not what you do. 297 00:11:48,624 --> 00:11:49,874 It's who you are. 298 00:11:50,194 --> 00:11:50,524 Right. 299 00:11:50,524 --> 00:11:54,321 Intentionality with your words, intentionality with your thoughts. 300 00:11:54,321 --> 00:11:54,581 Right? 301 00:11:54,581 --> 00:11:56,301 So we're saying, yeah, that's what we talk about all the time. 302 00:11:56,301 --> 00:11:59,261 It's like that first thought that comes in, you can't really be intentional with 303 00:11:59,261 --> 00:11:59,691 that one. 304 00:11:59,691 --> 00:12:01,141 You can with the second one. 305 00:12:01,141 --> 00:12:02,471 what are you doing to turn that? 306 00:12:02,471 --> 00:12:04,861 So, and that's something you know, you're phenomenal with. 307 00:12:04,861 --> 00:12:08,861 So, but intentionality is a skill, really, truly. 308 00:12:08,861 --> 00:12:11,938 So you have to be intentional about being intentional. 309 00:12:11,938 --> 00:12:12,148 Right. 310 00:12:12,148 --> 00:12:15,418 So make it who you are, not necessarily what you do. 311 00:12:15,418 --> 00:12:19,098 There's a, there's a question I want to ask you because the, and the cool part 312 00:12:19,098 --> 00:12:23,397 about this is when you reference sales, the increase is. 313 00:12:23,397 --> 00:12:25,377 biggest piece we see this at. 314 00:12:25,377 --> 00:12:29,837 As humans, we've all been sold at one point, right? 315 00:12:29,837 --> 00:12:32,187 Or someone has tried to sell us at one point. 316 00:12:32,187 --> 00:12:36,597 And with your experience, dude, and I know you can attest to this, but from your very 317 00:12:36,597 --> 00:12:40,478 first time you started coaching and doing these things compared to now. 318 00:12:40,478 --> 00:12:44,378 you know, and one thing you mentioned was like, the intent is to help people who 319 00:12:44,378 --> 00:12:47,438 are, you know, and do this and stuff, right? 320 00:12:47,438 --> 00:12:51,218 Like from the first day I met you to now, it's like, you always have the intent, but 321 00:12:51,218 --> 00:12:53,057 it's continued to become. 322 00:12:53,057 --> 00:12:57,437 almost one of those things that's just embedded in you now that like, you can 323 00:12:57,437 --> 00:12:58,597 pull it out at any time. 324 00:12:58,597 --> 00:13:01,797 And it's to your point, it's not just a, you're thinking about it, it becomes who 325 00:13:01,797 --> 00:13:02,557 you are, right? 326 00:13:02,557 --> 00:13:03,467 And I've seen that with you. 327 00:13:03,467 --> 00:13:07,674 And now I wanted to ask you, dude, it's like, where do you see the shift in... 328 00:13:07,674 --> 00:13:12,944 And what are some examples where you try to actually stuff on and really work out, 329 00:13:12,944 --> 00:13:17,594 but then the moments were, which now is probably what I look at compared to all 330 00:13:17,594 --> 00:13:20,334 the people that you've got now, where you're very intentional. 331 00:13:20,334 --> 00:13:21,959 You're people are doing very well. 332 00:13:21,959 --> 00:13:22,209 right? 333 00:13:22,209 --> 00:13:24,188 And the people that you have, they care about you. 334 00:13:24,188 --> 00:13:26,689 They're hungry, they're killing, they're doing amazing things. 335 00:13:26,689 --> 00:13:30,249 And it's because your intent shifted, you know, and I don't know if there's any 336 00:13:30,249 --> 00:13:33,849 examples that you have, but you know, kind of wanted to pick your brain on how you've 337 00:13:33,849 --> 00:13:36,770 seen this work for you from like your day one to now. 338 00:13:36,770 --> 00:13:38,650 how that's kind of been embedded in you. 339 00:13:38,650 --> 00:13:38,900 Right. 340 00:13:38,900 --> 00:13:42,230 Because someone who does this for a living, it's like, dude, that is something 341 00:13:42,230 --> 00:13:46,390 you always have to, that is from your success and that's why you got to it. 342 00:13:46,390 --> 00:13:48,440 So kind of touch on that. 343 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:49,240 If that makes sense. 344 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:50,917 It's a very, very simple answer. 345 00:13:50,917 --> 00:13:52,997 It all shifted for me. 346 00:13:52,997 --> 00:13:58,377 This started way back before I moved more to the first floor because I was in this 347 00:13:58,377 --> 00:14:00,817 house before I came here. 348 00:14:00,857 --> 00:14:02,278 I never sold anything. 349 00:14:02,278 --> 00:14:06,168 because when I tried to sell people things, I sucked at it and it wasn't good. 350 00:14:06,168 --> 00:14:06,658 Right. 351 00:14:06,658 --> 00:14:10,118 I would go to these seminars and they would teach us, like go practice this 352 00:14:10,118 --> 00:14:10,798 close. 353 00:14:10,798 --> 00:14:10,938 Right. 354 00:14:10,938 --> 00:14:12,348 They actually taught us a close bro. 355 00:14:12,348 --> 00:14:17,018 It was so cringy where like you're in it's in at home sales and you get to the door 356 00:14:17,018 --> 00:14:19,280 after they tell you, no, like nine times. 357 00:14:19,333 --> 00:14:21,953 And you get to the door and you're like, look, you know, if there's any way that we 358 00:14:21,953 --> 00:14:24,893 can just get this done tonight, I would really hate to waste all the time that I 359 00:14:24,893 --> 00:14:25,783 had away from my family. 360 00:14:25,783 --> 00:14:27,453 It's not going to make it productive. 361 00:14:27,453 --> 00:14:28,093 Wow. 362 00:14:28,833 --> 00:14:31,793 I literally kind of walked out of the seminar. 363 00:14:31,793 --> 00:14:32,809 I'm like, this is fun. 364 00:14:32,838 --> 00:14:37,448 So, my goal with everybody is to help people solve a problem, right. 365 00:14:37,448 --> 00:14:42,658 And where the intentionality comes in to that equation is you stop worrying about 366 00:14:42,658 --> 00:14:44,138 the outcome, right? 367 00:14:44,138 --> 00:14:47,821 You just focus on the process and you have zero attachment to the. 368 00:14:47,821 --> 00:14:48,241 outcome. 369 00:14:48,241 --> 00:14:50,521 I don't care if you buy this or not. 370 00:14:50,521 --> 00:14:54,381 My goal is to simply show you that the problem exists, walk you through the best 371 00:14:54,381 --> 00:14:55,741 options you have to solve it. 372 00:14:55,741 --> 00:14:58,261 If I'm not the guy for you, I'm going to put you in the direction of somebody that 373 00:14:58,261 --> 00:14:58,991 can't help you. 374 00:14:58,991 --> 00:14:59,986 Because I care. 375 00:14:59,986 --> 00:15:02,786 And that's all I want is for you to solve this problem and you to feel the best 376 00:15:02,786 --> 00:15:04,006 about the solution that you choose. 377 00:15:04,006 --> 00:15:05,186 That's it. 378 00:15:05,186 --> 00:15:05,476 Right. 379 00:15:05,476 --> 00:15:08,366 So even here, it's like even with the mentorship and the things that I do, it's 380 00:15:08,366 --> 00:15:10,586 like, that's the biggest thing I try to help people understand is, hey, don't be 381 00:15:10,586 --> 00:15:11,626 attached to the outcome. 382 00:15:11,626 --> 00:15:13,826 You know, if you're telling, if you're trying to position with them solution, 383 00:15:13,826 --> 00:15:15,629 they have to make the choice. 384 00:15:15,629 --> 00:15:19,089 And if you run the right process and you do your job as far as being a good human 385 00:15:19,089 --> 00:15:22,409 being, make them fall in love with you and what you're doing, they're gonna support 386 00:15:22,409 --> 00:15:23,509 you because they have all the rest of the process. 387 00:15:23,509 --> 00:15:25,499 Again, you give them enough value, they're gonna want to get back to you. 388 00:15:25,499 --> 00:15:26,509 That's beautiful, bro. 389 00:15:26,509 --> 00:15:28,322 So at the end of the day, that's a win -win. 390 00:15:28,322 --> 00:15:29,892 that person doesn't feel like they got sold. 391 00:15:29,892 --> 00:15:31,672 They're like, damn, thank you for solving my problem. 392 00:15:31,672 --> 00:15:32,562 Seriously. 393 00:15:32,562 --> 00:15:34,802 And then you win because you helped them solve that problem. 394 00:15:34,802 --> 00:15:35,892 The world turns everything. 395 00:15:35,892 --> 00:15:36,382 Yeah. 396 00:15:36,382 --> 00:15:37,482 And the world turns everything. 397 00:15:37,482 --> 00:15:38,702 Exactly. 398 00:15:39,242 --> 00:15:42,402 It's really the key to everything. 399 00:15:42,402 --> 00:15:44,366 And you did the sad part about it. 400 00:15:48,993 --> 00:15:52,473 Dude it sucks, you know, like even you going through that example dude, I'm just 401 00:15:52,473 --> 00:15:56,113 like I can't believe that that would be a closing 402 00:15:56,113 --> 00:15:58,893 to put someone to literally that's a guilt trip. 403 00:15:58,893 --> 00:15:59,393 You know what I mean? 404 00:15:59,393 --> 00:16:01,113 I'm like, dude, that is probably the worst thing. 405 00:16:01,113 --> 00:16:03,883 Dude, I wouldn't even feel comfortable doing that to someone. 406 00:16:03,883 --> 00:16:06,953 Like when you talk about intent, talk about the wrong intent, dude. 407 00:16:06,953 --> 00:16:08,273 That is terrible. 408 00:16:08,273 --> 00:16:08,893 Yeah. 409 00:16:08,893 --> 00:16:09,613 Yeah. 410 00:16:09,613 --> 00:16:11,353 People would do it. 411 00:16:11,773 --> 00:16:14,273 Then they get the contract and a few days later, you're canceled. 412 00:16:14,273 --> 00:16:15,093 Of course. 413 00:16:15,093 --> 00:16:17,393 We have a three day. 414 00:16:17,393 --> 00:16:18,173 Yeah. 415 00:16:18,173 --> 00:16:21,533 But guys, it's taking that to a higher level application. 416 00:16:21,533 --> 00:16:21,653 Right. 417 00:16:21,653 --> 00:16:24,753 And just because I know not everyone has a different sales, but here's the deal. 418 00:16:24,753 --> 00:16:25,354 You are. 419 00:16:25,354 --> 00:16:25,614 right. 420 00:16:25,614 --> 00:16:28,574 Human relationship is it is sales. 421 00:16:28,574 --> 00:16:32,514 And where this goes wrong in human relationships is manipulation, right? 422 00:16:32,514 --> 00:16:35,634 Because you're trying to worry about an outcome and you're trying to get your 423 00:16:35,634 --> 00:16:36,034 outcome. 424 00:16:36,034 --> 00:16:37,265 And then you do. 425 00:16:37,265 --> 00:16:41,345 weird things, say things, manipulate energy absolutely in a way to get it to 426 00:16:41,345 --> 00:16:42,425 work out in your favor. 427 00:16:42,425 --> 00:16:43,765 And it shouldn't be that. 428 00:16:43,765 --> 00:16:47,145 So even from a human relationship standpoint, detach from the outcome. 429 00:16:47,145 --> 00:16:50,285 There's never a wrong time to do the right thing. 430 00:16:50,285 --> 00:16:53,065 And if you do the right thing, they're going to feel that. 431 00:16:53,065 --> 00:16:53,635 And guess what? 432 00:16:53,635 --> 00:16:55,442 It'll probably work out in your favor anyway. 433 00:16:55,442 --> 00:16:58,482 But when you detach it from the outcome, it can also help you decrease anxiety and 434 00:16:58,482 --> 00:17:00,772 stress and all that things like, Hey, like, it's cool. 435 00:17:00,772 --> 00:17:02,302 What's going to happen is what's going to happen. 436 00:17:02,302 --> 00:17:06,038 I'm going to control the best that I can from my energy and my intent standpoint. 437 00:17:06,429 --> 00:17:11,849 dude that actually that's an episode I think by itself by the way And when you 438 00:17:11,849 --> 00:17:15,569 really think about this dude and something we've talked about too But it's can't 439 00:17:15,569 --> 00:17:18,589 control everything right and you have to control what you can control and to your 440 00:17:18,589 --> 00:17:22,069 point one of the things you'll never be able to control as Many times as we hear 441 00:17:22,069 --> 00:17:23,529 it is the result 442 00:17:23,538 --> 00:17:23,998 right? 443 00:17:23,998 --> 00:17:29,228 If you focus on just the output, and what you do, don't worry about the result, 444 00:17:29,228 --> 00:17:32,878 because a lot of the times where people fail is when they focus on that result so 445 00:17:32,878 --> 00:17:33,718 much, right? 446 00:17:33,718 --> 00:17:34,989 And they're working, working, working. 447 00:17:34,989 --> 00:17:36,489 for this result and then it doesn't happen. 448 00:17:36,489 --> 00:17:37,609 They're like, it's over. 449 00:17:37,609 --> 00:17:38,059 I'm done. 450 00:17:38,059 --> 00:17:38,859 I'm not good enough. 451 00:17:38,859 --> 00:17:39,848 Blah, blah, blah. 452 00:17:39,848 --> 00:17:41,279 That's, that's where you fail. 453 00:17:41,279 --> 00:17:44,969 But if you look at your output, what you put out, right? 454 00:17:44,969 --> 00:17:48,229 The work that you did, the time that you spent, if you look at those things, you 455 00:17:48,229 --> 00:17:50,289 know, like I controlled those and I did my best. 456 00:17:50,289 --> 00:17:52,189 Hey, the outcome didn't work out my way, but cool. 457 00:17:52,189 --> 00:17:53,829 I know what I continue need to do. 458 00:17:53,829 --> 00:17:57,349 Like continue what I need to continue to do to get to where I want to go. 459 00:17:57,349 --> 00:17:57,749 Right. 460 00:17:57,749 --> 00:18:01,949 And I think that is something that we lose sight of so much, bro. 461 00:18:01,949 --> 00:18:04,389 Because again, it kind of, you know, when he goes back to sales and all these 462 00:18:04,389 --> 00:18:08,209 different things, it's, Hey, you, if you can remove the piece of like, I got to 463 00:18:08,209 --> 00:18:09,099 sell this to make this money. 464 00:18:09,099 --> 00:18:12,289 And you're like, if I can just do the right thing, those sales will come and 465 00:18:12,289 --> 00:18:13,169 regardless, right? 466 00:18:13,169 --> 00:18:16,969 Like the law of reciprocity, dude, the world works in a way that you give out, 467 00:18:16,969 --> 00:18:20,369 it'll give back to you, but only if you do it with the right intent. 468 00:18:20,369 --> 00:18:20,719 Right. 469 00:18:20,719 --> 00:18:23,709 And I think again, when we were talking about, because, you know, one thing that 470 00:18:23,709 --> 00:18:27,889 we were going to discuss and we are going to discuss this human superpowers, right. 471 00:18:27,889 --> 00:18:29,829 And intent is one of those superpowers. 472 00:18:29,829 --> 00:18:32,279 And you also said a word of detachment, right. 473 00:18:32,279 --> 00:18:36,508 And detaching is also something that I think a lot of us, when we hear that word, 474 00:18:36,508 --> 00:18:41,339 it sounds, doesn't sound as good as it actually means, if that makes sense, 475 00:18:41,339 --> 00:18:41,559 right. 476 00:18:41,559 --> 00:18:44,669 Because when you detach, it allows you to kind of see things from a different point 477 00:18:44,669 --> 00:18:45,358 of view. 478 00:18:45,358 --> 00:18:48,518 But when people hear detaching, they go into this like, hang your thing, or it's 479 00:18:48,518 --> 00:18:50,908 like, I gotta remove myself and do all this stuff. 480 00:18:50,908 --> 00:18:51,858 It's like, no, no, no. 481 00:18:51,858 --> 00:18:55,718 The reason you detach is to be able to make the right decision based on what's 482 00:18:55,718 --> 00:18:57,508 best for everyone or what's best for everyone. 483 00:18:57,508 --> 00:18:58,178 Right? 484 00:18:58,178 --> 00:19:01,157 So if everyone would have to do that, we're the type of thing. 485 00:19:01,157 --> 00:19:04,777 know, and that I, and we both believe that is one of the, the human superpowers that 486 00:19:04,777 --> 00:19:07,557 we can get to, but why do you think that is a superpower? 487 00:19:07,697 --> 00:19:12,577 Man, I'm gonna go, we were talking before this ends, talked about how I've learned 488 00:19:12,577 --> 00:19:14,307 about detachment multiple times. 489 00:19:14,307 --> 00:19:15,294 It's something you have to learn. 490 00:19:15,294 --> 00:19:15,854 about a lot. 491 00:19:15,854 --> 00:19:17,304 I've learned it from him in person. 492 00:19:17,304 --> 00:19:20,214 I've learned it from JP Denell in person on the podcast in the books. 493 00:19:20,214 --> 00:19:23,664 And it finally clicked this past week reading through it. 494 00:19:23,664 --> 00:19:27,274 Detachment is a superpower because it allows you to actually see things for what 495 00:19:27,274 --> 00:19:28,565 they actually are. 496 00:19:28,565 --> 00:19:32,705 And when I think about detachment, it's not like going into a corner and hiding 497 00:19:32,705 --> 00:19:35,245 and not doing things. 498 00:19:35,405 --> 00:19:38,425 It's not detachment, it's like a lot of people look at it like I'm going to hide 499 00:19:38,425 --> 00:19:39,335 from certain things. 500 00:19:39,335 --> 00:19:41,305 Correct, like detached from the world time to time. 501 00:19:41,305 --> 00:19:43,739 Yeah, it's not that, it's detached from emotion. 502 00:19:43,886 --> 00:19:44,236 Right? 503 00:19:44,236 --> 00:19:49,346 So one of the things it really clicked for me this week of, you know, when you're not 504 00:19:49,346 --> 00:19:50,466 detached, right? 505 00:19:50,466 --> 00:19:54,326 And anybody can think of an example of in their own life, when they've been in an 506 00:19:54,326 --> 00:19:58,406 argument or a situation or a high level discussion where like, you're just so 507 00:19:58,406 --> 00:20:01,366 laser focused on what you want to say and your viewpoint. 508 00:20:01,366 --> 00:20:02,426 Well, guess what? 509 00:20:02,426 --> 00:20:06,206 You can never ever, ever make a completely accurate assessment of what's happening. 510 00:20:06,206 --> 00:20:08,906 And you know this because after the fight's over, you're like, Holy crap, you 511 00:20:08,906 --> 00:20:10,086 do detach from it. 512 00:20:10,086 --> 00:20:12,586 And then you think through it and you're like, yeah, this is, this is how this 513 00:20:12,586 --> 00:20:13,113 could have gone. 514 00:20:13,113 --> 00:20:13,582 a second. 515 00:20:13,582 --> 00:20:16,742 As long as you submit your ego and you look at it for what it is. 516 00:20:16,742 --> 00:20:20,582 So detachment for me, it's like, you literally can never have a true assessment 517 00:20:20,582 --> 00:20:23,942 of reality in that situation until you detach. 518 00:20:23,942 --> 00:20:26,542 Cause you're looking solely at your point of view. 519 00:20:26,722 --> 00:20:29,562 so something that I've been really focusing on this week is observing 520 00:20:29,562 --> 00:20:31,202 people's detachment. 521 00:20:31,202 --> 00:20:33,942 and I was talking to you about how I saw TJ do that and how he's been so well with 522 00:20:33,942 --> 00:20:34,322 it. 523 00:20:34,322 --> 00:20:37,052 But even for myself is like, all right, emotionally. 524 00:20:37,052 --> 00:20:40,257 Am I clenching my jaw or my shoulders up and tight? 525 00:20:40,257 --> 00:20:40,977 They tense, right? 526 00:20:40,977 --> 00:20:43,744 Is my heart rate going up as somebody saying something to me? 527 00:20:43,744 --> 00:20:46,434 But if I'm doing that, I'm not detached from the situation. 528 00:20:46,434 --> 00:20:51,514 I'm thinking a predetermined thought based off of what I want versus seeing the 529 00:20:51,514 --> 00:20:52,494 bigger picture. 530 00:20:52,494 --> 00:20:53,009 And again. 531 00:20:53,009 --> 00:20:55,729 relationships, guys, this is absolutely huge. 532 00:20:55,829 --> 00:21:00,449 A lot of people ask me, and not a lot, but I've had questions over time of like, you 533 00:21:00,449 --> 00:21:03,689 know, we can't ever get in fights, and it's usually related to me trying to solve 534 00:21:03,689 --> 00:21:06,049 a problem for somebody getting in a fight with their spouse. 535 00:21:06,049 --> 00:21:10,879 And it's like, honestly, we really don't, because I've unknowingly or knowingly, 536 00:21:10,879 --> 00:21:13,166 whatever, gotten so good at detaching. 537 00:21:13,166 --> 00:21:15,706 Because in my head, I'm thinking through like, all right, we're going to fight. 538 00:21:15,706 --> 00:21:17,346 We're going to end up getting over it. 539 00:21:17,346 --> 00:21:19,686 We're going to see each other's point of views and then everything's going to be 540 00:21:19,686 --> 00:21:19,796 good. 541 00:21:19,796 --> 00:21:22,306 So why not just skip to the, everything's going to be good part. 542 00:21:22,326 --> 00:21:23,346 You know what I'm saying? 543 00:21:23,346 --> 00:21:27,906 So it's like, no, it's not to say we don't have discussions, but, that's just how I 544 00:21:27,906 --> 00:21:28,246 look at it. 545 00:21:28,246 --> 00:21:31,316 I don't get heated in those situations, but I do see that in other relationships. 546 00:21:31,316 --> 00:21:32,933 So that is something that I'm working on. 547 00:21:32,933 --> 00:21:33,593 I love that. 548 00:21:33,593 --> 00:21:37,213 And I think relationships is the perfect place you can see that really early on. 549 00:21:37,213 --> 00:21:41,333 And a lot of the times I think we're, to your point, we're trying to make our 550 00:21:41,333 --> 00:21:42,961 viewpoint the right one. 551 00:21:42,961 --> 00:21:44,081 You know, we're thinking about us. 552 00:21:44,081 --> 00:21:47,941 We're, it's very personal, you know, and I think that's a tough part, man, because 553 00:21:47,941 --> 00:21:51,121 it's like, we're all in our own human experiences that life is happening to us 554 00:21:51,121 --> 00:21:55,111 and life is happening for us and it's us, us, us, us, us, right? 555 00:21:55,111 --> 00:21:56,621 And that is the hard part. 556 00:21:56,621 --> 00:22:00,561 And that's why detachment is so important because life doesn't revolve around just 557 00:22:00,561 --> 00:22:01,641 one person. 558 00:22:01,641 --> 00:22:03,211 You know, life is happening to all of us. 559 00:22:03,211 --> 00:22:05,221 It's happening for all of us at all at once. 560 00:22:05,221 --> 00:22:06,901 And we're all going through different things. 561 00:22:06,901 --> 00:22:12,413 And I think when you detach, you're able to understand a lot more, right? 562 00:22:12,561 --> 00:22:18,001 But oftentimes, man, you know, we, we, the reason we don't detach is because I think 563 00:22:18,001 --> 00:22:21,781 we assume too much of what someone else's intent is. 564 00:22:21,981 --> 00:22:22,081 Right. 565 00:22:22,081 --> 00:22:24,491 Because detaching, you have to remove all emotion, right. 566 00:22:24,491 --> 00:22:29,081 And emotion detaches, you know, like, for example, if we were discussing something 567 00:22:29,081 --> 00:22:31,181 where we don't agree on something, right. 568 00:22:31,181 --> 00:22:33,011 Well, I don't like being wrong either do you. 569 00:22:33,011 --> 00:22:33,801 Right. 570 00:22:33,801 --> 00:22:35,541 So emotional, by the way. 571 00:22:35,541 --> 00:22:38,521 So I'm going to figure out, Hey, how do I make my point right? 572 00:22:38,521 --> 00:22:39,511 Because I want to be right. 573 00:22:39,511 --> 00:22:41,606 And I don't want to be wrong instead of like, 574 00:22:41,606 --> 00:22:45,426 like, hey man, actually, your point makes sense, but also my point makes sense if 575 00:22:45,426 --> 00:22:46,997 you think they can coexist. 576 00:22:46,997 --> 00:22:49,017 You know, and how often times do we do that, dude? 577 00:22:49,017 --> 00:22:50,017 We don't, right? 578 00:22:50,017 --> 00:22:52,357 Like, you know, one thing we mentioned, I want to, I don't know if it was last 579 00:22:52,357 --> 00:22:54,657 podcast or the podcast before this, but our religions, right? 580 00:22:54,657 --> 00:22:55,657 Completely different. 581 00:22:55,657 --> 00:22:59,557 But how are you and I able to have the same mission, same values, talk about the 582 00:22:59,557 --> 00:23:01,957 same things, care about people the same way? 583 00:23:01,957 --> 00:23:06,857 It's like, well, if my point of view was always right, you'd have to do exactly 584 00:23:06,857 --> 00:23:07,607 what I would do, right? 585 00:23:07,607 --> 00:23:08,342 But that's not true. 586 00:23:08,342 --> 00:23:09,862 How are we still able to understand? 587 00:23:09,862 --> 00:23:11,032 How are we still able to talk? 588 00:23:11,032 --> 00:23:13,352 How are we still able to have this type of friendship and relationship? 589 00:23:13,352 --> 00:23:16,475 You know, and I think that's what the world misses often times. 590 00:23:16,481 --> 00:23:19,781 You know, and again, from a relationship standpoint, but also in life and career 591 00:23:19,781 --> 00:23:20,821 and everything, right? 592 00:23:20,821 --> 00:23:24,361 If you can take a step back and look at everything in a third person point of 593 00:23:24,361 --> 00:23:25,831 view, it helps, man. 594 00:23:25,831 --> 00:23:26,661 It makes sense, right? 595 00:23:26,661 --> 00:23:29,841 It's like when you watch a movie, you know, when someone's going through those 596 00:23:29,841 --> 00:23:32,651 like, especially like an action movie, right? 597 00:23:32,651 --> 00:23:33,801 Like we're a thriller movie. 598 00:23:33,801 --> 00:23:35,881 You're going through and you're like watching this guy and you're like boom, 599 00:23:35,881 --> 00:23:37,510 boom, boom, but you're not in it, right? 600 00:23:37,510 --> 00:23:40,970 But you kind of put yourself in it, you're like, I would do this, I would do this. 601 00:23:40,970 --> 00:23:43,805 Because you can see the third or fourth person point of view. 602 00:23:43,805 --> 00:23:47,405 But if you were in it like that guy was, it's like, that's not what you're thinking 603 00:23:47,405 --> 00:23:48,985 because emotions are taking over. 604 00:23:48,985 --> 00:23:52,185 But oftentimes we play the guy in the movie instead of the guy watching the 605 00:23:52,185 --> 00:23:52,335 movie. 606 00:23:52,335 --> 00:23:56,545 And I think oftentimes that is what gets us in a bad spot. 607 00:23:56,545 --> 00:23:58,325 It gets us into arguments. 608 00:23:58,565 --> 00:24:02,865 And because of that, dude, I don't think we ever, not ever, but a lot of us don't 609 00:24:02,865 --> 00:24:05,942 ever really get to the relationships that we can get to. 610 00:24:05,942 --> 00:24:09,302 the spark in our life that we can get to where we're happy, where we're healthy, 611 00:24:09,302 --> 00:24:14,422 where we're enjoying, where we're content with things because oftentimes again we 612 00:24:14,422 --> 00:24:16,322 like to, we want to be right. 613 00:24:16,322 --> 00:24:19,322 So I think for me that's always kind of what I see happen. 614 00:24:19,522 --> 00:24:22,902 But it's one of those things that the sooner that you can remember, the sooner 615 00:24:22,902 --> 00:24:24,982 your life can get better. 616 00:24:25,262 --> 00:24:29,502 And the sooner that decision you can make, the faster you're going to grow in your 617 00:24:29,502 --> 00:24:29,793 career. 618 00:24:29,793 --> 00:24:32,713 and the more success you're going to have in your life overall. 619 00:24:32,713 --> 00:24:35,749 So that's kind of my standpoint on detachment. 620 00:24:35,946 --> 00:24:37,256 It's freaking spot on. 621 00:24:37,256 --> 00:24:38,266 Thanks, bro. 622 00:24:38,266 --> 00:24:39,866 I think it was important. 623 00:24:39,866 --> 00:24:41,976 I think another super power to touch on. 624 00:24:41,976 --> 00:24:43,446 Real quick before we move on from that. 625 00:24:43,446 --> 00:24:47,816 I think, and again, a really important thing with detachment is once you detach, 626 00:24:47,816 --> 00:24:49,326 collect information. 627 00:24:49,326 --> 00:24:49,646 Right. 628 00:24:49,646 --> 00:24:50,866 It's such a huge thing. 629 00:24:50,866 --> 00:24:54,866 Because detachment, yeah, like people can step out, they can start to learn to be 630 00:24:54,866 --> 00:24:57,746 more intentional about their emotions, because emotions are what make you weak in 631 00:24:57,746 --> 00:24:58,586 that situation. 632 00:24:58,586 --> 00:25:00,174 But you got to collect information. 633 00:25:00,174 --> 00:25:03,214 Because if you don't collect information, then you're just, you're still only 634 00:25:03,214 --> 00:25:07,114 operating off of what you think and what you perceive to know. 635 00:25:07,114 --> 00:25:08,724 So collecting information is absolutely huge. 636 00:25:08,724 --> 00:25:10,314 And that's the whole idea of detachment. 637 00:25:10,314 --> 00:25:13,334 And the idea that you said with the movie, which is a great example is you have the 638 00:25:13,334 --> 00:25:14,644 bigger picture, right? 639 00:25:14,644 --> 00:25:18,254 That actor, that person in this, the action scene is not detached. 640 00:25:18,254 --> 00:25:21,014 They're only seeing down the barrel of their weapon, so to speak. 641 00:25:21,014 --> 00:25:22,244 But you can see the bigger picture. 642 00:25:22,244 --> 00:25:23,874 You're like, Hey dude, like don't go by that bush. 643 00:25:23,874 --> 00:25:25,215 That's a bad spot to go. 644 00:25:25,215 --> 00:25:25,955 Right, right. 645 00:25:25,955 --> 00:25:29,085 Don't run away from the killer, like, attack head on. 646 00:25:29,285 --> 00:25:31,005 So collecting information is actually huge. 647 00:25:31,005 --> 00:25:33,875 And one of the things I've seen is from entering people over the last three years, 648 00:25:33,875 --> 00:25:34,846 and honestly, six years. 649 00:25:34,846 --> 00:25:38,166 is people aren't good at asking questions. 650 00:25:38,166 --> 00:25:42,339 So it's like learn to ask better questions. 651 00:25:42,339 --> 00:25:45,019 Would you consider that a superpower of itself? 652 00:25:45,019 --> 00:25:48,929 I mean, if not a superpower, it's skill, but I would absolutely dump that into a 653 00:25:48,929 --> 00:25:51,729 superpower category because the more questions you can ask, the more you can 654 00:25:51,729 --> 00:25:54,029 understand about that person if they know what they don't know. 655 00:25:54,029 --> 00:25:57,499 You can save a heck of a lot of time by not re -educating them. 656 00:25:57,499 --> 00:25:58,109 And then guess what? 657 00:25:58,109 --> 00:26:01,149 If I start educating you on something you already know, you're not listening and 658 00:26:01,149 --> 00:26:02,319 your ego goes up. 659 00:26:02,319 --> 00:26:02,529 sure. 660 00:26:02,529 --> 00:26:04,402 I got this, as an idiot, I already know that. 661 00:26:04,402 --> 00:26:06,922 right I know more than you about this and now they're not listening you can't make 662 00:26:06,922 --> 00:26:08,522 the impact you want to make. 663 00:26:08,569 --> 00:26:09,509 percent, bro. 664 00:26:09,509 --> 00:26:13,529 I love that one because oftentimes I think, I keep saying oftentimes today. 665 00:26:13,529 --> 00:26:14,409 I don't know what it is. 666 00:26:14,409 --> 00:26:16,589 It's one of those words, you know what I mean? 667 00:26:16,789 --> 00:26:18,379 I'm a philosopher today, I guess. 668 00:26:18,379 --> 00:26:19,369 I don't know. 669 00:26:19,369 --> 00:26:20,429 Periodically. 670 00:26:20,429 --> 00:26:21,449 Periodically. 671 00:26:21,449 --> 00:26:24,789 We're gonna start using fancy ass words just to sound a little bit more... 672 00:26:24,789 --> 00:26:26,409 Me pipes and ropes, yes. 673 00:26:26,409 --> 00:26:29,239 We need like a whole intro theme song, dude. 674 00:26:29,239 --> 00:26:31,689 Like a whole movie and everything. 675 00:26:32,449 --> 00:26:34,481 Dude, the reason I ask and I say... 676 00:26:34,481 --> 00:26:37,621 I would consider that a superpower, bro, because it's kind of like everything we've 677 00:26:37,621 --> 00:26:41,321 talked about in this episode, a lot of the ways you can uncover these things or help 678 00:26:41,321 --> 00:26:43,921 even yourself or other people is through questions. 679 00:26:44,601 --> 00:26:48,701 And when you ask questions, it just gives you a, it's like a flashing light at a 680 00:26:48,701 --> 00:26:50,261 different area you didn't know was there. 681 00:26:50,261 --> 00:26:50,700 You know what I mean? 682 00:26:50,700 --> 00:26:53,111 It's kind of like, again, dark room and you're like, damn, I can't see anything. 683 00:26:53,111 --> 00:26:54,451 I gotta find the door, right? 684 00:26:54,451 --> 00:26:57,341 But the more questions you ask, you're kind of going up and down the room and 685 00:26:57,341 --> 00:26:59,061 then you're like, there's a door, right? 686 00:26:59,061 --> 00:26:59,598 And. 687 00:26:59,598 --> 00:27:03,538 that's where I think questions are a big piece to any of the topics that we've 688 00:27:03,538 --> 00:27:06,938 talked about ever, is asking yourself those questions. 689 00:27:07,593 --> 00:27:11,993 And when you do it, you start to really realize what you believe. 690 00:27:12,333 --> 00:27:16,153 And just because you might think that way now doesn't also mean you have to think 691 00:27:16,153 --> 00:27:17,253 that way. 692 00:27:17,353 --> 00:27:18,873 But you don't know unless you know. 693 00:27:18,873 --> 00:27:21,813 So when you ask yourself those questions, you're able to bring that to the surface. 694 00:27:21,813 --> 00:27:24,653 And when it's at the surface, then you can really dissect it. 695 00:27:24,653 --> 00:27:24,873 Right? 696 00:27:24,873 --> 00:27:25,783 And, 697 00:27:26,146 --> 00:27:29,026 can happen within your career, it can happen within your life, it can happen 698 00:27:29,026 --> 00:27:29,686 within leadership. 699 00:27:29,686 --> 00:27:32,146 But when you ask the right questions, you're able to get the right answers. 700 00:27:32,146 --> 00:27:34,626 And when you get the right answers, you're able to take the step forward that you 701 00:27:34,626 --> 00:27:35,486 need to. 702 00:27:35,486 --> 00:27:36,666 So do not let that happen. 703 00:27:36,666 --> 00:27:37,857 You hit that pretty focus. 704 00:27:37,857 --> 00:27:39,277 spot on dude. 705 00:27:39,822 --> 00:27:42,872 everything with questions still throw in here is when you're asking other people 706 00:27:42,872 --> 00:27:44,782 questions, it shows that you care. 707 00:27:44,782 --> 00:27:45,692 Right. 708 00:27:45,692 --> 00:27:49,252 Because so often in people's lives, I mean, you think about a podcast TV, like 709 00:27:49,252 --> 00:27:51,092 everything they're being talked at. 710 00:27:51,092 --> 00:27:54,172 So when you stop down and ask questions, you're actually talking with someone. 711 00:27:54,172 --> 00:27:57,052 They know that you care and things that people want to talk about the most of 712 00:27:57,052 --> 00:27:57,312 themselves. 713 00:27:57,312 --> 00:27:58,562 They want to hear themselves talk. 714 00:27:58,562 --> 00:27:59,282 Right. 715 00:27:59,282 --> 00:28:02,032 So the more that you ask questions, the more they're going to give you, the more 716 00:28:02,032 --> 00:28:03,542 they give you, the more problems you're going to hear. 717 00:28:03,542 --> 00:28:04,749 The more problems you hear. 718 00:28:04,749 --> 00:28:06,179 the more problems you can solve. 719 00:28:06,179 --> 00:28:07,589 And that trust holds up. 720 00:28:07,589 --> 00:28:11,289 I was going to, I want to hit on this a little bit because this is something that 721 00:28:11,289 --> 00:28:16,229 through a lot of just internal work myself, I kind of used to wonder, I was 722 00:28:16,229 --> 00:28:18,389 like, dude, why do I want to make other people happy? 723 00:28:18,389 --> 00:28:19,459 Why do I want to do this? 724 00:28:19,459 --> 00:28:22,949 Why don't, because I've always been a big people person and I've always cared for 725 00:28:22,949 --> 00:28:23,829 people. 726 00:28:23,857 --> 00:28:29,217 And dude, I even noticed this in myself where I used to make friends so easy. 727 00:28:29,217 --> 00:28:33,237 And when I think back to the conversations of how I would do it, dude, the amount of 728 00:28:33,237 --> 00:28:37,897 times I would actually talk about myself was 5 % of that 95 % of the conversation 729 00:28:37,897 --> 00:28:38,997 was about that. 730 00:28:38,997 --> 00:28:42,237 And I realized that and I was like, dude, it's not that I'm like, you're trying to 731 00:28:42,237 --> 00:28:43,317 make it about myself. 732 00:28:43,317 --> 00:28:46,177 It's when I didn't, that's when it became about me. 733 00:28:46,177 --> 00:28:49,554 And that's where I found like this biggest superpower of. 734 00:28:49,554 --> 00:28:53,454 just relationships to do, but also success in my life as far as my career and some 735 00:28:53,454 --> 00:28:54,694 people I've met. 736 00:28:54,694 --> 00:28:57,154 It's because every time I make it about them and I don't try to make it about 737 00:28:57,154 --> 00:28:57,874 myself. 738 00:28:57,874 --> 00:29:01,794 And to your point, it's like making it about them didn't initially come back to 739 00:29:01,794 --> 00:29:03,887 you because your intent is in the right spot. 740 00:29:03,887 --> 00:29:04,567 Right? 741 00:29:04,567 --> 00:29:09,597 But when you can care about the other person and truly care, like truly one will 742 00:29:09,597 --> 00:29:12,677 uncover, truly want to help, whether it be a leadership standpoint or a friendship 743 00:29:12,677 --> 00:29:15,977 standpoint, that is where you're going to solidify the best. 744 00:29:15,977 --> 00:29:18,982 I don't even call it just like loyalty, but the best friendship. 745 00:29:18,982 --> 00:29:19,722 best care. 746 00:29:19,722 --> 00:29:23,422 And that's how you're going to get the most valuable relationship to the most out 747 00:29:23,422 --> 00:29:23,892 of your career. 748 00:29:23,892 --> 00:29:25,745 And that's always how I look at it. 749 00:29:25,745 --> 00:29:28,385 things, you know, cause a lot of the times, again, we always want to make it 750 00:29:28,385 --> 00:29:33,445 about ourselves, but when you don't and you can be comfortable because you're okay 751 00:29:33,445 --> 00:29:37,485 with who you are, but life opens up big time, you know, and there's one thing I 752 00:29:37,485 --> 00:29:39,805 actually want to hit on with the detachment piece. 753 00:29:39,905 --> 00:29:43,145 you can see this and I've saw this happen to me with, with soccer. 754 00:29:43,145 --> 00:29:46,205 I relate a lot of things to soccer because that was like a big part of my life, but 755 00:29:46,205 --> 00:29:48,209 it's also taught me so much. 756 00:29:48,270 --> 00:29:50,510 You know, and you mentioned it, right? 757 00:29:50,510 --> 00:29:53,703 Like, hey, my heart rate's going up in this conversation, or if it's like... 758 00:29:53,703 --> 00:29:56,673 I'm trying to get a point across, it's like, okay, I'm not attached. 759 00:29:56,673 --> 00:29:58,383 In soccer, you can see this big time, right? 760 00:29:58,383 --> 00:30:00,983 Because when I get on the field, Hey, where's my heart? 761 00:30:00,983 --> 00:30:02,373 Is my heart pounding and nervous? 762 00:30:02,373 --> 00:30:03,123 What am I thinking? 763 00:30:03,123 --> 00:30:04,003 Is it about me? 764 00:30:04,003 --> 00:30:04,213 What? 765 00:30:04,213 --> 00:30:04,673 You know what I mean? 766 00:30:04,673 --> 00:30:08,353 You have all these things go through your mind and those times where I've had 767 00:30:08,353 --> 00:30:12,093 success has always been when I've removed my own ego from the situation. 768 00:30:12,093 --> 00:30:15,533 And what I mean by that is completely not thinking about myself and how well I 769 00:30:15,533 --> 00:30:16,034 perform. 770 00:30:16,034 --> 00:30:17,614 but just looking at the overall picture. 771 00:30:17,614 --> 00:30:18,954 Hey, we're here to win. 772 00:30:18,954 --> 00:30:22,234 And every time I've done that, your Google testing makes a lot clearer. 773 00:30:22,234 --> 00:30:23,164 Right? 774 00:30:23,164 --> 00:30:24,102 And... 775 00:30:24,389 --> 00:30:29,289 MMA fighters, UFC is obviously such a big sport out in the world nowadays and it's 776 00:30:29,289 --> 00:30:30,729 only getting bigger. 777 00:30:30,729 --> 00:30:33,669 But try to put yourself in those guys' shoes. 778 00:30:34,009 --> 00:30:38,249 Like when you talk about real detachment, brother, like those guys have to detach, 779 00:30:38,249 --> 00:30:38,549 right? 780 00:30:38,549 --> 00:30:41,469 Because as soon as ego gets in the way, dude, that could be the end of you. 781 00:30:41,469 --> 00:30:43,799 All it takes is one punch, all it takes is one slip up. 782 00:30:43,799 --> 00:30:44,273 It's... 783 00:30:44,273 --> 00:30:48,053 It's point two seconds of a difference in timing where it can cause you your entire 784 00:30:48,053 --> 00:30:48,833 career. 785 00:30:48,833 --> 00:30:49,033 Right. 786 00:30:49,033 --> 00:30:52,023 So you have to remove that emotion and just be in the present. 787 00:30:52,023 --> 00:30:55,463 And I don't know if you ever heard this, the flow state, right? 788 00:30:55,463 --> 00:30:58,773 But when you get into that flow state, I think the flow state flow state has a lot 789 00:30:58,773 --> 00:31:02,553 to do with being able to detach from your emotions and being able to see things 790 00:31:02,553 --> 00:31:07,373 clear and just, I don't want to say go with the flow, but be able to think clear 791 00:31:07,373 --> 00:31:11,173 and understand what decisions you need to make without having anything interrupted 792 00:31:11,173 --> 00:31:13,882 or make the wrong decision because you're so focused on yourself. 793 00:31:13,882 --> 00:31:17,882 I hope that makes sense but I just want to touch on that because if you ever need to 794 00:31:17,882 --> 00:31:21,922 realize that those guys are pretty simple because you have to at all times but when 795 00:31:21,922 --> 00:31:23,942 you do you're able to see a lot better. 796 00:31:23,965 --> 00:31:28,745 So yeah, I would say that's when you're not you're fully in the present. 797 00:31:28,745 --> 00:31:29,425 Correct. 798 00:31:29,425 --> 00:31:29,925 Correct. 799 00:31:29,925 --> 00:31:34,215 That's like something that everybody can if you've ever had that happen. 800 00:31:34,215 --> 00:31:39,961 I wish I could just say it is a superpower because it's not. 801 00:31:40,458 --> 00:31:44,138 readily available at all times, unless you practice and get to a point where you can 802 00:31:44,138 --> 00:31:46,338 access it and it's still not perfect. 803 00:31:46,398 --> 00:31:49,478 But it is a beautiful state to me because it feels like everything makes sense. 804 00:31:49,478 --> 00:31:50,358 Yeah, it's wild. 805 00:31:50,358 --> 00:31:51,128 It is wild. 806 00:31:51,128 --> 00:31:52,078 All right. 807 00:31:52,078 --> 00:31:53,344 What do you think? 808 00:31:53,421 --> 00:31:58,581 outside of, yeah, you touched on a couple earlier on the discussion that I believe 809 00:31:58,581 --> 00:31:59,721 are human superpowers, right? 810 00:31:59,721 --> 00:32:01,171 We can kind of lump these together. 811 00:32:01,171 --> 00:32:04,961 Something I educate all the time, but you talked about like the action, right? 812 00:32:04,961 --> 00:32:06,461 Actually taking action. 813 00:32:06,461 --> 00:32:09,274 So the way you show up and the things you do. 814 00:32:09,274 --> 00:32:14,154 that is a superpower that only you can control, that that reaps huge benefits for 815 00:32:14,154 --> 00:32:14,894 your life. 816 00:32:14,894 --> 00:32:15,094 Right. 817 00:32:15,094 --> 00:32:17,954 And the way that I educate on this is like, look, you have two, two superpowers 818 00:32:17,954 --> 00:32:22,074 as a human being, and we're obviously tapping into more, but the it's the action 819 00:32:22,074 --> 00:32:22,793 that you take. 820 00:32:22,793 --> 00:32:26,893 the choices that you make essentially in those moments, and then it's how you show 821 00:32:26,893 --> 00:32:29,273 up mentally and emotionally to a situation. 822 00:32:29,273 --> 00:32:34,613 For example, and we've talked about this, but human experience and situations have 823 00:32:34,613 --> 00:32:37,022 no meaning until you attach meaning to them. 824 00:32:37,022 --> 00:32:38,622 So what meaning are you attaching things? 825 00:32:38,622 --> 00:32:41,402 That's what I mean by the attitude or the emotion, right? 826 00:32:41,402 --> 00:32:44,021 Like if you get a flat tire, okay, does that ruin your day? 827 00:32:44,021 --> 00:32:45,031 Because it doesn't have to. 828 00:32:45,031 --> 00:32:46,671 You can attach a totally different meaning to it. 829 00:32:46,671 --> 00:32:48,241 You can have a totally different attitude about it. 830 00:32:48,241 --> 00:32:50,921 Are you going to sit outside the room and cry or are you going to actually take 831 00:32:50,921 --> 00:32:53,001 action and go fix the problem? 832 00:32:53,001 --> 00:32:56,241 So, and I talk about this a lot with people's nutrition, right? 833 00:32:56,241 --> 00:33:00,201 It's like you've got to be in the moment, like what we're talking about, and you 834 00:33:00,201 --> 00:33:03,001 have to make the choices best for you because here's the deal, guys. 835 00:33:03,001 --> 00:33:05,498 And why this is super power, in my opinion, is that... 836 00:33:05,498 --> 00:33:08,018 only you get to make those two decisions. 837 00:33:08,018 --> 00:33:12,178 No one else can tell you how you can be influenced for sure. 838 00:33:12,178 --> 00:33:14,173 But no one else can choose for you how. 839 00:33:14,173 --> 00:33:17,953 to show up emotionally to a situation or how you do things. 840 00:33:17,953 --> 00:33:21,913 No one else can make you go to the gym and workout and make you eat food. 841 00:33:21,913 --> 00:33:24,773 Those are literally the only two choices that you have every single day that 842 00:33:24,773 --> 00:33:28,193 benefit you to create this from a sample of your physical transformation. 843 00:33:28,253 --> 00:33:28,503 Right? 844 00:33:28,503 --> 00:33:28,933 And guess what? 845 00:33:28,933 --> 00:33:32,813 When you're healthier and your physical transformation is being taken care of, you 846 00:33:32,813 --> 00:33:34,292 can actually control. 847 00:33:34,292 --> 00:33:37,952 lot of these emotional states a lot better because biophysically without getting into 848 00:33:37,952 --> 00:33:41,552 all the science, your body is in a better spot to handle those things. 849 00:33:41,552 --> 00:33:43,232 So action and attitude. 850 00:33:43,313 --> 00:33:45,233 I think that's the best way to put it really. 851 00:33:45,233 --> 00:33:48,393 Like if you, everything we talked about, like there's multiple superpowers, but 852 00:33:48,393 --> 00:33:52,143 really the two as humans that we have that all fall into it is thinking and acting. 853 00:33:52,143 --> 00:33:52,893 Right? 854 00:33:52,893 --> 00:33:56,373 And it's like, at the end of the day, if you control those two things and know that 855 00:33:56,373 --> 00:33:58,873 you're in control of those two things, you can do whatever you want. 856 00:33:58,873 --> 00:34:02,593 You know, and I remember one thing we've talked about recently was you can't really 857 00:34:02,593 --> 00:34:03,782 control where you start. 858 00:34:03,782 --> 00:34:05,662 but you can control what you do. 859 00:34:05,662 --> 00:34:06,002 Right? 860 00:34:06,002 --> 00:34:07,382 It's like when you play a game. 861 00:34:07,382 --> 00:34:10,362 You know you can't control the cards that you're dealt with. 862 00:34:10,865 --> 00:34:12,345 But how do you play those cards? 863 00:34:12,345 --> 00:34:12,585 Right? 864 00:34:12,585 --> 00:34:13,805 Cause you're still in control of that. 865 00:34:13,805 --> 00:34:15,815 And I think that's the most important piece, right? 866 00:34:15,815 --> 00:34:21,525 Cause a lot of the times I think we give power to other things instead of the power 867 00:34:21,525 --> 00:34:22,545 to ourselves. 868 00:34:22,545 --> 00:34:23,805 And food is a big one. 869 00:34:23,805 --> 00:34:24,895 Exercise is a big one. 870 00:34:24,895 --> 00:34:27,985 And we see it in our society now a lot of the time, right? 871 00:34:27,985 --> 00:34:31,205 Because it's, I can't do this because I've been this way or this way or this way or 872 00:34:31,205 --> 00:34:31,834 this way. 873 00:34:31,834 --> 00:34:34,914 Bro, remove all that because you can't make a choice today. 874 00:34:34,914 --> 00:34:38,354 But now where I think a lot of people struggle with this is they think they need 875 00:34:38,354 --> 00:34:39,514 to make a big choice. 876 00:34:39,514 --> 00:34:40,981 And it's everything we've taught. 877 00:34:40,981 --> 00:34:41,401 about, bro. 878 00:34:41,401 --> 00:34:44,201 It's not big monumental jumps in one day. 879 00:34:44,201 --> 00:34:47,921 It's tiny little things that you do every single day to unlock these things. 880 00:34:47,921 --> 00:34:48,071 Right? 881 00:34:48,071 --> 00:34:50,581 Like even unlock the ability to make a choice. 882 00:34:50,581 --> 00:34:51,581 Because here's the truth, dude. 883 00:34:51,581 --> 00:34:55,641 I think a lot of people are stuck in the mindset of they don't think they can do 884 00:34:55,641 --> 00:34:55,901 that. 885 00:34:55,901 --> 00:34:57,141 And they believe that. 886 00:34:57,141 --> 00:35:00,145 And that's a tough spot to be in because when you do, 887 00:35:00,145 --> 00:35:01,355 It's like an EKG, bro. 888 00:35:01,355 --> 00:35:03,405 If you don't, it's, you're out. 889 00:35:03,405 --> 00:35:07,065 So I think it's always important to remember you do have control. 890 00:35:07,065 --> 00:35:11,345 And even if you haven't moved once, if you just get up and take a step forward, that 891 00:35:11,345 --> 00:35:12,865 is a plus. 892 00:35:12,865 --> 00:35:14,795 And that's how you have to look at these things, right? 893 00:35:14,795 --> 00:35:15,855 It's a one plus. 894 00:35:15,855 --> 00:35:19,065 It's a plus one, plus one, plus one, plus one in every area of your life. 895 00:35:19,065 --> 00:35:22,025 And the more plus ones that you have at the end of the day, the more plus ones you 896 00:35:22,025 --> 00:35:25,285 have at the end of the week, year, the month, your life starts to change, you 897 00:35:25,285 --> 00:35:27,525 start to build habits, things start to go better. 898 00:35:27,525 --> 00:35:29,206 I mean, you can do a great example of this too. 899 00:35:29,206 --> 00:35:32,713 when you started to change your life from where you were, 900 00:35:32,713 --> 00:35:34,553 dude, it wasn't a one day journey. 901 00:35:34,553 --> 00:35:35,843 It wasn't even a one year journey. 902 00:35:35,843 --> 00:35:38,183 It was a long journey and it's still continuing to go. 903 00:35:38,183 --> 00:35:42,493 But every single moment that you take action and again, you're not perfect, but 904 00:35:42,493 --> 00:35:44,033 you're winning more days and you're losing. 905 00:35:44,033 --> 00:35:47,173 And the more days that you win, dude, it becomes this habit that you just have 906 00:35:47,173 --> 00:35:47,943 naturally now. 907 00:35:47,943 --> 00:35:48,573 Right? 908 00:35:48,573 --> 00:35:51,773 Because I bet if you talk to the Josh, you know, three years ago, you'd be like, holy 909 00:35:51,773 --> 00:35:53,253 fuck, I didn't know this was going to be me. 910 00:35:53,253 --> 00:35:53,973 You know? 911 00:35:53,973 --> 00:35:56,766 And again, it was just little thing at a little thing, little thing, little thing. 912 00:35:56,766 --> 00:35:58,056 It's like a progress photo. 913 00:35:58,056 --> 00:36:01,697 You could take one on day one, and day 75, and you'll see a different footage. 914 00:36:01,697 --> 00:36:04,756 you don't take that one in 75, you won't ever see the difference. 915 00:36:04,756 --> 00:36:05,097 Right. 916 00:36:05,097 --> 00:36:08,617 But all it is a little bit of action and over time it will lead you to where you 917 00:36:08,617 --> 00:36:08,997 need to be. 918 00:36:08,997 --> 00:36:10,497 I agree. 919 00:36:10,497 --> 00:36:11,997 You can think on that. 920 00:36:11,997 --> 00:36:18,237 Think through like, you know, a general fight here, but it's understanding the 921 00:36:18,237 --> 00:36:18,767 past. 922 00:36:18,767 --> 00:36:21,937 The things that you made are now effectively your ability to make a 923 00:36:21,937 --> 00:36:23,117 decision now. 924 00:36:23,117 --> 00:36:24,177 You know, think about this. 925 00:36:24,177 --> 00:36:25,734 Like, all right, today, right now. 926 00:36:25,734 --> 00:36:28,984 on this Saturday morning, I'm deciding that I want to eat healthy, right? 927 00:36:28,984 --> 00:36:29,814 Go home. 928 00:36:29,814 --> 00:36:30,754 House has cookies. 929 00:36:30,754 --> 00:36:31,353 House has... 930 00:36:31,353 --> 00:36:34,993 all these other things because the past choices that I made are now influencing 931 00:36:34,993 --> 00:36:37,453 the choices in the outcome that I have now. 932 00:36:37,453 --> 00:36:37,793 Right? 933 00:36:37,793 --> 00:36:39,613 So that becomes a choice. 934 00:36:39,613 --> 00:36:43,553 And where the action really kicks in there is like, all right, do I go get rid of all 935 00:36:43,553 --> 00:36:46,713 this food that I don't want and go replace it with food that I do want? 936 00:36:46,713 --> 00:36:48,233 Not to say you can't have cookies, right? 937 00:36:48,233 --> 00:36:49,213 You can. 938 00:36:49,213 --> 00:36:51,113 But this is the overall idea. 939 00:36:51,113 --> 00:36:52,103 We have better chances. 940 00:36:52,103 --> 00:36:55,314 The choices you've made in the past have gotten you to this point. 941 00:36:55,314 --> 00:36:57,834 good or bad, intentional or not intentional. 942 00:36:57,834 --> 00:36:59,577 And you have the superpower. 943 00:36:59,577 --> 00:37:02,517 right at this very second, start making better choices. 944 00:37:02,517 --> 00:37:05,877 And one of the things I always, it's funny, I'll actually say it out loud, like 945 00:37:05,877 --> 00:37:07,337 I'll thank Pastor Josh. 946 00:37:07,337 --> 00:37:08,657 I'm like, I love that. 947 00:37:08,657 --> 00:37:09,357 I love that. 948 00:37:09,357 --> 00:37:10,037 I love that. 949 00:37:10,037 --> 00:37:10,677 I did it this week. 950 00:37:10,677 --> 00:37:15,017 I'm like, current Josh, that's Josh for setting future Josh up for this. 951 00:37:15,017 --> 00:37:19,887 It's like, I'll say it in my head, but it's like, you know, like one day I like, 952 00:37:19,887 --> 00:37:24,517 I forget what it even was recently that happened, but it was one of those moments 953 00:37:24,517 --> 00:37:25,286 where I was like, dang. 954 00:37:25,286 --> 00:37:28,586 it's almost like another example you can give is like, I every winter when I put 955 00:37:28,586 --> 00:37:31,906 away my coats, I'll put five or $10 bills in them just cause it's fun. 956 00:37:31,906 --> 00:37:32,716 I'll forget. 957 00:37:32,716 --> 00:37:36,326 And then when I put them on in the winter time next, I go, damn, there's a $5 bill 958 00:37:36,326 --> 00:37:36,906 in there. 959 00:37:36,906 --> 00:37:37,156 Right. 960 00:37:37,156 --> 00:37:40,186 So it's just, yeah, that's cool. 961 00:37:40,186 --> 00:37:44,426 it's little moments of joy guys, plan these things be intentional, but, to that 962 00:37:44,426 --> 00:37:47,426 point, it's like all the decisions you've made led you to here. 963 00:37:47,426 --> 00:37:47,706 Right. 964 00:37:47,706 --> 00:37:50,369 And you have to understand cause a lot of people I think get that. 965 00:37:50,369 --> 00:37:52,682 for sure, but you have to understand that those. 966 00:37:52,682 --> 00:37:57,702 decisions are also influencing your ability and scope to make a decision right 967 00:37:57,702 --> 00:37:57,852 now. 968 00:37:57,852 --> 00:37:58,631 So how do you work on that? 969 00:37:58,631 --> 00:37:58,782 Okay. 970 00:37:58,782 --> 00:37:59,652 You'd be more intentional. 971 00:37:59,652 --> 00:38:02,462 You understand that, but also you can do that from a mental standpoint. 972 00:38:02,462 --> 00:38:04,122 Start reading books. 973 00:38:04,122 --> 00:38:06,152 You're obviously listening to great podcasts, right? 974 00:38:06,152 --> 00:38:07,142 Wink, wink. 975 00:38:07,142 --> 00:38:11,122 So, but put good things in and that will open up your ability to make better 976 00:38:11,122 --> 00:38:11,922 decisions down the line. 977 00:38:11,922 --> 00:38:13,202 You just got to trust that. 978 00:38:13,202 --> 00:38:18,162 I want to hit on something because the way you just talked about, you know, thinking 979 00:38:18,162 --> 00:38:19,526 yourself in the past, 980 00:38:19,790 --> 00:38:25,710 even if you made every possibly wrong distinction up until this point, dude, it 981 00:38:25,710 --> 00:38:27,470 is all fucking hate, you know what I mean? 982 00:38:27,470 --> 00:38:31,640 I wanna highlight that because I think that's what stops us too, right? 983 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:36,070 Because, and even guess what, even if you made all the wrong distinctions, you have 984 00:38:36,070 --> 00:38:40,450 to understand that the time, just like Josh back in the day was doing things for 985 00:38:40,450 --> 00:38:46,130 Josh in the future, even if it was bad, the coping mechanisms, whatever it got you 986 00:38:46,130 --> 00:38:46,929 to this point. 987 00:38:46,929 --> 00:38:47,529 You know what I mean? 988 00:38:47,529 --> 00:38:51,049 Like, dude, we all have shit that happened to us back in our lives, okay? 989 00:38:51,049 --> 00:38:52,769 But you got to go back in the past, man. 990 00:38:52,769 --> 00:38:56,749 You got to thank yourself for finding a way to get through it at the time that you 991 00:38:56,749 --> 00:38:56,899 did. 992 00:38:56,899 --> 00:39:02,069 Because when you're 15, 16, 7, 20, like, bro, you don't know what the fuck to do. 993 00:39:02,069 --> 00:39:03,079 You don't know what's going on. 994 00:39:03,079 --> 00:39:07,449 And you have to give yourself grace for what you did at that time, even if it 995 00:39:07,449 --> 00:39:09,729 wasn't leading you to the best spot. 996 00:39:09,729 --> 00:39:11,639 Because at the end of the day, you can't control those things. 997 00:39:11,639 --> 00:39:14,698 But again, without that, where could you have been? 998 00:39:14,698 --> 00:39:15,469 You know what I mean? 999 00:39:15,469 --> 00:39:18,089 like, well, yeah, if I made the right decision, but you didn't have that type of 1000 00:39:18,089 --> 00:39:18,869 influence at the time. 1001 00:39:18,869 --> 00:39:20,089 You didn't have those people. 1002 00:39:20,089 --> 00:39:21,119 And that is okay. 1003 00:39:21,119 --> 00:39:25,629 So you figured it out the way you had to, but now you're in control still. 1004 00:39:25,629 --> 00:39:29,429 Hey, you might not like the person you are now, but thank that person who got you 1005 00:39:29,429 --> 00:39:31,549 here because now you're in still control, right? 1006 00:39:31,549 --> 00:39:32,949 Like you were in control still. 1007 00:39:32,949 --> 00:39:36,569 So take control of your life going forward, but don't beat yourself up over 1008 00:39:36,569 --> 00:39:37,869 what you've done. 1009 00:39:37,869 --> 00:39:40,129 Even if it hasn't been anywhere near good. 1010 00:39:40,129 --> 00:39:44,478 Like I said, even if you make every single wrong decision possible, it is okay. 1011 00:39:44,478 --> 00:39:46,297 And I think we need to hear that. 1012 00:39:46,297 --> 00:39:47,417 sometimes. 1013 00:39:48,057 --> 00:39:51,997 But with me saying that doesn't mean give yourself an excuse to not do anything 1014 00:39:51,997 --> 00:39:53,217 moving forward. 1015 00:39:53,217 --> 00:39:53,797 Right? 1016 00:39:53,797 --> 00:39:55,967 Is it still going to be fucking hard to do stuff? 1017 00:39:55,967 --> 00:39:56,787 Yes, absolutely. 1018 00:39:56,787 --> 00:40:00,297 You can give yourself grace, but it doesn't make it easy moving forward. 1019 00:40:00,297 --> 00:40:04,157 But when you give yourself grace, you allow yourself to change your identity and 1020 00:40:04,157 --> 00:40:08,657 stop carrying on the person that you were to who you want to be because it's two 1021 00:40:08,657 --> 00:40:10,377 completely different people. 1022 00:40:10,617 --> 00:40:13,521 And it's, I mean, we've seen examples of this all the time, but. 1023 00:40:13,521 --> 00:40:16,781 We don't see the example within ourselves because it's easy for us to look at 1024 00:40:16,781 --> 00:40:18,181 ourselves and be like, we're not capable. 1025 00:40:18,181 --> 00:40:20,021 Well, that guy is special. 1026 00:40:20,021 --> 00:40:23,681 I promise you we're all as special as any person in this fucking world. 1027 00:40:23,681 --> 00:40:27,741 Like if there was a person out there that figured out how to fly, I promise you, you 1028 00:40:27,741 --> 00:40:28,441 can fly. 1029 00:40:28,441 --> 00:40:29,301 You know what I mean? 1030 00:40:29,301 --> 00:40:31,661 And that's always how I look at life, man. 1031 00:40:31,661 --> 00:40:34,881 You know, because there's so much potential to it. 1032 00:40:34,881 --> 00:40:38,401 And oftentimes we kill that potential because we're so focused on all the things 1033 00:40:38,401 --> 00:40:39,141 we did wrong. 1034 00:40:39,141 --> 00:40:40,491 And it is okay. 1035 00:40:40,491 --> 00:40:42,201 We all have our own vices, right? 1036 00:40:42,201 --> 00:40:42,690 But. 1037 00:40:42,690 --> 00:40:43,593 learn. 1038 00:40:43,593 --> 00:40:47,833 accept that and learn to move on and not identify yourself as those things. 1039 00:40:47,853 --> 00:40:51,193 And that's something I just wanted to hit on man because even you saying just that 1040 00:40:51,193 --> 00:40:55,893 thank you piece, I don't think people realize how important that is, even if it 1041 00:40:55,893 --> 00:40:58,303 is the bad stuff, right? 1042 00:40:58,303 --> 00:41:01,453 Because at the time of your body, your brain, you went to figure it out just to 1043 00:41:01,453 --> 00:41:04,453 get you by and you got by, you're here, you're realizing, you're aware. 1044 00:41:04,453 --> 00:41:07,273 So take control of that awareness now and fix your life and move forward. 1045 00:41:07,273 --> 00:41:11,244 So that's just one thing I wanted to hit on man because I think oftentimes, again, 1046 00:41:11,244 --> 00:41:13,214 I'm saying oftentimes, right? 1047 00:41:13,635 --> 00:41:15,265 but dude, we just beat ourselves up. 1048 00:41:15,265 --> 00:41:18,145 You know, we don't see that we're valuable. 1049 00:41:18,325 --> 00:41:22,445 and this is coming from a guy who, I mean, dude, I didn't have anything growing up, 1050 00:41:22,445 --> 00:41:22,665 right? 1051 00:41:22,665 --> 00:41:24,865 You, I mean, dude, your story too, bro. 1052 00:41:24,865 --> 00:41:28,425 Like the fact that you got to where you got to, it doesn't make sense on paper. 1053 00:41:28,425 --> 00:41:30,515 It doesn't make sense, but that's the thing. 1054 00:41:30,515 --> 00:41:31,445 Fuck the paper dog. 1055 00:41:31,445 --> 00:41:32,715 You can create that paper. 1056 00:41:32,715 --> 00:41:33,755 You can create your own story. 1057 00:41:33,755 --> 00:41:34,925 You can create whatever you want. 1058 00:41:34,925 --> 00:41:39,185 So remember that and move past all the bullshit in your life and the before and 1059 00:41:39,185 --> 00:41:40,194 thank yourself for it. 1060 00:41:40,194 --> 00:41:42,009 and take control of life and move forward. 1061 00:41:42,009 --> 00:41:47,109 Yeah, I mean there's variables in every decision making process and the very, the 1062 00:41:47,109 --> 00:41:50,129 fact that you understand that the variables that you decided back then that 1063 00:41:50,129 --> 00:41:53,269 led, like that were creating those circumstances, they're not the same 1064 00:41:53,269 --> 00:41:56,629 variables you have to have your mindset, your emotion, your intent, all the things 1065 00:41:56,629 --> 00:41:58,489 that we're talking about, all these superpowers. 1066 00:41:59,129 --> 00:42:02,449 That actually reminds me of something you said that reminds me of a quote that I 1067 00:42:02,449 --> 00:42:04,229 heard a long time ago that I think about a lot. 1068 00:42:04,229 --> 00:42:08,161 We tend to judge ourselves on our intent and other people and their actions. 1069 00:42:08,334 --> 00:42:08,664 Right? 1070 00:42:08,664 --> 00:42:11,694 So it's like, we're looking, we're looking at other people and we're like, man, they 1071 00:42:11,694 --> 00:42:14,894 got it made like, or even from a bad standpoint, we do the same thing. 1072 00:42:14,894 --> 00:42:18,494 It's like, I'm a better person because it's like, well, did you actually do 1073 00:42:18,494 --> 00:42:21,334 something or are you just judging yourself on your intent? 1074 00:42:21,334 --> 00:42:21,554 Right? 1075 00:42:21,554 --> 00:42:23,594 And it's a true, if you start thinking about it. 1076 00:42:23,594 --> 00:42:24,074 Yeah. 1077 00:42:24,074 --> 00:42:25,313 It's pretty wild. 1078 00:42:25,814 --> 00:42:26,234 Yeah. 1079 00:42:26,234 --> 00:42:29,234 I don't remember where I heard that, but it's been 15, 20 years. 1080 00:42:30,414 --> 00:42:36,694 If you look at it, it opens up the mind to a lot of different reasons why we are 1081 00:42:36,694 --> 00:42:37,902 where we are. 1082 00:42:37,902 --> 00:42:41,402 You know, and it's crazy. 1083 00:42:41,542 --> 00:42:43,202 And we hear this all the time. 1084 00:42:43,202 --> 00:42:47,602 And I think about kids, you know, it's like they do something wrong. 1085 00:42:47,602 --> 00:42:49,452 It's like, do you get mad at them right away? 1086 00:42:49,452 --> 00:42:53,442 Most likely some people do, but you shouldn't because it's like, you're not 1087 00:42:53,442 --> 00:42:55,462 trying to mess up, you're not trying to do this. 1088 00:42:55,462 --> 00:42:59,182 We judge people based on the action and not the men. 1089 00:42:59,182 --> 00:43:03,682 And I think if you were to remove that, you would be able to understand people a 1090 00:43:03,682 --> 00:43:05,322 little bit more and actually love someone else. 1091 00:43:05,322 --> 00:43:05,622 Yeah. 1092 00:43:05,622 --> 00:43:06,205 Right. 1093 00:43:06,205 --> 00:43:07,830 It's my most valuable lesson. 1094 00:43:07,830 --> 00:43:10,010 learned as a leader is assume positive intent. 1095 00:43:10,010 --> 00:43:10,730 Absolutely. 1096 00:43:10,730 --> 00:43:13,990 You know, and I've implemented that with my kids so much because again, as a 1097 00:43:13,990 --> 00:43:16,570 parent, like you can be in that emotional situation of like, dude, why don't they 1098 00:43:16,570 --> 00:43:18,580 just get this 20th time I've told them, right? 1099 00:43:18,580 --> 00:43:21,270 But you have to assume positive intent because very few people in life are ever 1100 00:43:21,270 --> 00:43:25,380 going to do something wrong intentionally or derail something intentionally, right? 1101 00:43:25,380 --> 00:43:29,090 And the people that do, you know who they are and you avoid those people, right? 1102 00:43:29,090 --> 00:43:35,150 But most people, workplace, spouse, child, friend, coworker, whatever it is, is like, 1103 00:43:35,150 --> 00:43:38,260 there's something missing, which is why they made the decision there. 1104 00:43:38,260 --> 00:43:41,430 Maybe they didn't understand what you wanted to happen or your intent on the 1105 00:43:41,430 --> 00:43:45,130 situation, or maybe they think they're executing flawlessly, but it's like you're 1106 00:43:45,130 --> 00:43:47,850 judging them again on their actions and your intent. 1107 00:43:47,850 --> 00:43:50,550 So assume positive intent and ask questions. 1108 00:43:50,590 --> 00:43:53,870 You know, it's the easiest way to get somebody on the same level because you'll 1109 00:43:53,870 --> 00:43:57,700 understand number one, it's like, all right, well, they didn't understand this, 1110 00:43:57,700 --> 00:43:59,470 which means I didn't explain it properly. 1111 00:43:59,470 --> 00:44:02,130 And it gives you an ownership ability and the ability to be better. 1112 00:44:02,130 --> 00:44:03,982 It's like, all right, well, if I explained it, 1113 00:44:03,982 --> 00:44:06,762 and that person doesn't understand and other people probably don't understand. 1114 00:44:06,762 --> 00:44:08,542 So how can I get better at explaining that? 1115 00:44:08,542 --> 00:44:10,062 Absolutely. 1116 00:44:10,102 --> 00:44:12,282 It's almost like you can just think about it. 1117 00:44:12,282 --> 00:44:14,342 It's like, would you want someone to assume you're in pain? 1118 00:44:14,342 --> 00:44:16,022 Never. 1119 00:44:16,082 --> 00:44:17,482 Especially in a negative way. 1120 00:44:17,482 --> 00:44:19,702 But we do it all the time. 1121 00:44:19,702 --> 00:44:23,782 And we assume it based off our current situation. 1122 00:44:23,942 --> 00:44:26,442 But it's like, hey, what did you make of this drink? 1123 00:44:26,442 --> 00:44:27,882 Did you drink water? 1124 00:44:28,862 --> 00:44:30,492 I'm like, what the hell? 1125 00:44:30,492 --> 00:44:31,782 Why is Josh doing that? 1126 00:44:31,782 --> 00:44:33,742 Why would you drink more caffeine? 1127 00:44:33,742 --> 00:44:34,202 Yeah. 1128 00:44:34,202 --> 00:44:35,702 But what are your goals? 1129 00:44:35,702 --> 00:44:42,322 I need that doctor. 1130 00:44:42,322 --> 00:44:46,462 We're going to need to bump those migs up a little bit. 1131 00:44:46,462 --> 00:44:47,962 Roger that doc. 1132 00:44:49,942 --> 00:44:50,602 dude, it's funny. 1133 00:44:50,602 --> 00:44:50,942 Dr. 1134 00:44:50,942 --> 00:44:54,152 Chad Kirkcik told us what the the efficacious does. 1135 00:44:54,152 --> 00:44:55,722 No, it's like an equation. 1136 00:44:55,722 --> 00:44:57,932 So he gave us an equation and I forget it. 1137 00:44:57,932 --> 00:45:00,430 So don't this is not a scientific order recommendation. 1138 00:45:00,430 --> 00:45:04,000 But he gave us an equation based off kilograms body weight and like J. 1139 00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:08,230 Algeer's pre -workout caffeine, pure caffeine, not like other stuff, pre 1140 00:45:08,230 --> 00:45:11,310 -workout, whatever, was like 670 mgs. 1141 00:45:11,310 --> 00:45:12,130 Yeah. 1142 00:45:12,170 --> 00:45:14,190 As like an efficacious dose. 1143 00:45:14,410 --> 00:45:14,530 Yeah. 1144 00:45:14,530 --> 00:45:15,420 I was like, dang. 1145 00:45:15,420 --> 00:45:15,810 All right. 1146 00:45:15,810 --> 00:45:17,330 Yeah. 1147 00:45:17,330 --> 00:45:20,230 But yeah, the thing about it, and again, I want to clarify this because there's 1148 00:45:20,230 --> 00:45:22,970 people listening that does not mean go take three scoops of pre -workout because 1149 00:45:22,970 --> 00:45:26,115 there are other things in there besides pure caffeine. 1150 00:45:26,115 --> 00:45:26,535 Correct. 1151 00:45:26,535 --> 00:45:28,525 There are different versions of capping. 1152 00:45:28,525 --> 00:45:30,094 So that is just us bantering. 1153 00:45:30,094 --> 00:45:32,094 not medical advice. 1154 00:45:32,185 --> 00:45:35,725 please do not take any any other recommendations or anything we heard out 1155 00:45:35,725 --> 00:45:38,065 there as recommendations, please. 1156 00:45:38,065 --> 00:45:38,995 But dude, that's it. 1157 00:45:38,995 --> 00:45:42,205 But honestly, it's like, yeah, I would love to have that doctor first off. 1158 00:45:42,365 --> 00:45:45,205 But dude, that's one of those things, again, we assume, you know, we don't take 1159 00:45:45,205 --> 00:45:50,545 the time to like just ask and think, you know, it's like you'd be so surprised by 1160 00:45:50,545 --> 00:45:55,785 how much you can understand and uncovered by just asking and not putting an 1161 00:45:55,785 --> 00:45:57,045 assumption on things. 1162 00:45:57,045 --> 00:45:57,395 Right. 1163 00:45:57,395 --> 00:45:59,458 I do my favorite quote of all time that. 1164 00:45:59,458 --> 00:46:03,538 It was in like, no, not six years ago, like, more than eight. 1165 00:46:03,878 --> 00:46:06,038 but when he was two, he made an ass out of it. 1166 00:46:06,057 --> 00:46:11,098 Now, it's worth very much different in my time also, you know, and it's not as PC as 1167 00:46:11,098 --> 00:46:12,518 things are now, right? 1168 00:46:12,758 --> 00:46:16,678 but it was around that time, I was like, are not that awesome, right? 1169 00:46:16,678 --> 00:46:18,858 He does make an ass out of both. 1170 00:46:19,618 --> 00:46:24,278 So just take the time to think whether again, it's a relationship or people or 1171 00:46:24,278 --> 00:46:24,921 whatever, or what? 1172 00:46:24,921 --> 00:46:27,521 just internal take time to understand where you're at, right? 1173 00:46:27,521 --> 00:46:28,661 And don't assume things. 1174 00:46:28,661 --> 00:46:29,441 And, 1175 00:46:29,502 --> 00:46:33,362 want to also throw it out there because anytime you hear questions people think of 1176 00:46:33,362 --> 00:46:37,602 like what why when how a really good question asked to uncover somebody's 1177 00:46:37,602 --> 00:46:40,462 intent and to while you're assuming positive intent and also it's a good 1178 00:46:40,462 --> 00:46:44,462 question asked what to be able to learn Is hey, hey, could you please help me 1179 00:46:44,462 --> 00:46:48,142 understand your thought process with this with X fill it in the blank? 1180 00:46:48,142 --> 00:46:50,782 Hey, you know, can you help me understand the thought process behind why you grabbed 1181 00:46:50,782 --> 00:46:52,589 water today and not an energy drink? 1182 00:46:52,589 --> 00:46:56,389 Because I might be judging you based on the idea why this guy is cool with 1183 00:46:56,389 --> 00:46:57,518 drinking and everything like me. 1184 00:46:57,518 --> 00:47:00,798 But, and these are, that's a silly example, but little do I know that he 1185 00:47:00,798 --> 00:47:03,598 already had two energy drinks this morning because he's been up grinding since 3 a 1186 00:47:03,598 --> 00:47:04,798 You know what I'm saying? 1187 00:47:04,798 --> 00:47:08,048 So it's like, hey, help me understand your thought process. 1188 00:47:08,048 --> 00:47:11,998 And the cool thing about it is when I started asking that question, my thought 1189 00:47:11,998 --> 00:47:14,258 process became better because again, 1190 00:47:14,321 --> 00:47:19,281 I would be having a huge ego to understand that my thought process is the only one. 1191 00:47:19,281 --> 00:47:23,701 So I've been able to learn from leaders, from support units, from my freaking kids 1192 00:47:23,701 --> 00:47:26,434 when I'm like, hey, what's your thought process behind this? 1193 00:47:26,434 --> 00:47:26,644 Right? 1194 00:47:26,644 --> 00:47:28,754 Like example, my daughter had a bowl in a room. 1195 00:47:28,754 --> 00:47:29,534 It broke. 1196 00:47:29,534 --> 00:47:32,834 My wife freaked out last weekend and just destroyed a room, put it all back 1197 00:47:32,834 --> 00:47:34,824 together, got rid of everything because she's 12. 1198 00:47:34,824 --> 00:47:36,114 She's got a messy room. 1199 00:47:36,114 --> 00:47:37,694 So there's a bowl broken in there. 1200 00:47:37,694 --> 00:47:40,664 And I was like, hey, you know, your mom cleaned your room up. 1201 00:47:40,664 --> 00:47:41,581 She doesn't. 1202 00:47:41,581 --> 00:47:42,731 want dishes in here anymore. 1203 00:47:42,731 --> 00:47:45,941 She doesn't understand why that bulb is down there and what is the process behind 1204 00:47:45,941 --> 00:47:47,121 leaving it there. 1205 00:47:47,121 --> 00:47:49,161 And she's like, well, I didn't move it home. 1206 00:47:49,161 --> 00:47:51,841 I didn't want to carry it up to the kitchen and have her here and put it in 1207 00:47:51,841 --> 00:47:53,481 the trash and get upset with it. 1208 00:47:53,481 --> 00:47:55,454 So I plan on doing it when she has to show up in bed. 1209 00:47:55,454 --> 00:47:56,394 I'm like, okay. 1210 00:47:56,394 --> 00:47:57,743 A, you're sneaky and smart. 1211 00:47:57,743 --> 00:47:59,184 So I commend you on that. 1212 00:47:59,184 --> 00:48:01,274 B, it helped me understand where her head was at. 1213 00:48:01,274 --> 00:48:04,554 I would have been easy for me to assume that she's just being a lazy 12 year old. 1214 00:48:04,554 --> 00:48:06,504 But now I understand why she's doing it. 1215 00:48:06,504 --> 00:48:08,814 I'm like, damn, she's actually smarter than I thought she was. 1216 00:48:08,985 --> 00:48:10,925 but you know what's crazy about that moment? 1217 00:48:10,925 --> 00:48:14,505 That moment can be the difference of your guys' relationship forever. 1218 00:48:14,505 --> 00:48:18,565 And I know it sounds crazy, but like, dude, if you assumed in that moment, like 1219 00:48:18,565 --> 00:48:20,145 imagine what she would think. 1220 00:48:20,145 --> 00:48:24,105 Well, dude, my dad doesn't even, he doesn't take time to think, you know, he 1221 00:48:24,105 --> 00:48:25,201 doesn't care about me. 1222 00:48:25,201 --> 00:48:28,601 And it's crazy the fact that you just asked that question and you uncovered 1223 00:48:28,601 --> 00:48:29,001 that. 1224 00:48:29,001 --> 00:48:30,891 Because I bet that kind of calmed you down. 1225 00:48:30,891 --> 00:48:32,141 You're like, okay. 1226 00:48:32,181 --> 00:48:34,961 Even though she still didn't do it, it's like, it makes sense for the thought 1227 00:48:34,961 --> 00:48:35,201 process. 1228 00:48:35,201 --> 00:48:37,431 You don't want to get her mom, you know, she don't want to be mad. 1229 00:48:37,431 --> 00:48:39,981 You know, she was trying to do the right thing, but she was also being, you know 1230 00:48:39,981 --> 00:48:40,261 what I mean? 1231 00:48:40,261 --> 00:48:41,660 It helps so much. 1232 00:48:41,660 --> 00:48:43,781 And for her, she's like, that took the time to understand. 1233 00:48:43,781 --> 00:48:44,121 Yeah. 1234 00:48:44,121 --> 00:48:46,041 And then I got to spin that off into a lesson. 1235 00:48:46,041 --> 00:48:48,561 Hey, what did we talk about with voting things? 1236 00:48:48,561 --> 00:48:49,841 Responsibility. 1237 00:48:49,841 --> 00:48:54,701 I got the teacher that, you know, so I mean, it's, it's literally everything that 1238 00:48:54,701 --> 00:48:55,337 we. 1239 00:48:55,370 --> 00:48:59,810 is just detach a little bit and ask questions, right? 1240 00:48:59,810 --> 00:49:00,870 Try to understand it. 1241 00:49:00,870 --> 00:49:04,030 It's soon positive attempt, but with the question things guys, it's genuine 1242 00:49:04,030 --> 00:49:04,870 curiosity. 1243 00:49:04,870 --> 00:49:07,030 It's like, and I want to, I want to get inside that brain a little bit. 1244 00:49:07,030 --> 00:49:10,290 How do you think, why are you thinking that way? 1245 00:49:10,290 --> 00:49:10,670 yeah. 1246 00:49:10,670 --> 00:49:11,973 So I'm intact in delivery. 1247 00:49:11,973 --> 00:49:15,293 even that question after you ask it, even just saying something like, dude, I just 1248 00:49:15,293 --> 00:49:17,133 want, I just want to understand. 1249 00:49:17,153 --> 00:49:20,793 Saying that instead of like just leaving it there and having like this angry face 1250 00:49:20,793 --> 00:49:22,903 or something like that, like dude, that also plays a big role in it. 1251 00:49:22,903 --> 00:49:25,033 But if you're like, Hey, help me understand this because... 1252 00:49:25,110 --> 00:49:28,270 I'm not too sure, I just want to get your thoughts, because I'm not seeing it maybe 1253 00:49:28,270 --> 00:49:29,780 the way you are, can you just help me? 1254 00:49:29,780 --> 00:49:30,850 Yeah, definitely. 1255 00:49:30,850 --> 00:49:34,550 To see that, that's like, okay, here's the truth. 1256 00:49:34,550 --> 00:49:38,830 And so I do want people to be honest with you, in your life, and just tell you 1257 00:49:38,830 --> 00:49:40,977 what's actually going on, if you have any questions. 1258 00:49:40,977 --> 00:49:41,467 you ask. 1259 00:49:41,467 --> 00:49:44,317 And I think this also ties a little bit into empathy too. 1260 00:49:44,317 --> 00:49:44,677 Right? 1261 00:49:44,677 --> 00:49:47,717 Because I know we didn't touch on this too much, but I would consider that a little 1262 00:49:47,717 --> 00:49:49,047 bit of a superpower as well. 1263 00:49:49,047 --> 00:49:49,517 Right? 1264 00:49:49,517 --> 00:49:53,037 Because when you're empathetic and able to understand and kind of give people that 1265 00:49:53,037 --> 00:49:54,150 little bit of like, hey, let me... 1266 00:49:54,150 --> 00:49:55,890 Let me try to understand them. 1267 00:49:55,890 --> 00:49:59,890 Your relationships go better, the less you jump to them, right? 1268 00:49:59,890 --> 00:50:04,170 Less assumptions and more clear understanding of people, but also how to 1269 00:50:04,170 --> 00:50:05,670 help them and support. 1270 00:50:05,670 --> 00:50:09,990 And I think empathy alone is a skill because empathy you have to know when 1271 00:50:09,990 --> 00:50:10,329 you're - 1272 00:50:10,329 --> 00:50:12,679 going too far and not enough, right? 1273 00:50:12,679 --> 00:50:15,809 And there's a balance piece and the balance isn't necessarily a one line. 1274 00:50:15,809 --> 00:50:17,909 It's kind of like up and down, depending on the situation. 1275 00:50:17,909 --> 00:50:22,129 But with empathy alone, I think that is a superpower because again, you have to be 1276 00:50:22,129 --> 00:50:24,122 able to understand when you need to use it. 1277 00:50:24,122 --> 00:50:27,052 more than other times, then you can kind of push it down. 1278 00:50:27,052 --> 00:50:28,402 I hope that makes sense. 1279 00:50:28,402 --> 00:50:30,862 It's not just like a whole empathy thing. 1280 00:50:30,862 --> 00:50:35,262 It's like, hey, being able to kind of look at any situation differently and 1281 00:50:35,262 --> 00:50:38,042 understand that, hey, sometimes it's much more than not knowing. 1282 00:50:38,042 --> 00:50:39,185 But that is a superpower. 1283 00:50:39,185 --> 00:50:39,695 of its own. 1284 00:50:39,695 --> 00:50:40,985 Yeah, I agree with that. 1285 00:50:40,985 --> 00:50:44,765 What I think about empathy being a superpower, I think about it from a 1286 00:50:44,765 --> 00:50:48,605 standpoint, you can create anything, but you feel emotional, right? 1287 00:50:48,625 --> 00:50:52,582 So, I think about this, and just so you guys understand. 1288 00:50:52,582 --> 00:50:57,542 the difference between sympathy and empathy is a empathy is like, Hey, I've 1289 00:50:57,542 --> 00:50:58,482 lived through this. 1290 00:50:58,482 --> 00:50:59,652 Like I've been where you're at. 1291 00:50:59,652 --> 00:51:02,292 Let me, let me get on your level and let you know that I'm here for you. 1292 00:51:02,292 --> 00:51:03,293 And I understand. 1293 00:51:03,293 --> 00:51:08,373 Sympathy is like hey I actually do that but I do a few for you. 1294 00:51:08,593 --> 00:51:13,833 So empathy being a superpower in my mind is in a situation of maybe it's like a 1295 00:51:13,833 --> 00:51:15,313 death situation. 1296 00:51:15,833 --> 00:51:20,203 Somebody loses their mom, I can empathize with that because I've lost my mom. 1297 00:51:20,203 --> 00:51:21,342 I lost a lot of people there. 1298 00:51:21,342 --> 00:51:25,982 But what that does is when somebody is in that emotional state, okay, they're very, 1299 00:51:25,982 --> 00:51:28,122 very low emotionally. 1300 00:51:28,122 --> 00:51:31,382 So if I were to just come in there and start talking to them and trying to solve 1301 00:51:31,382 --> 00:51:34,522 a problem for them and give them the logic of the situation, they're going to be 1302 00:51:34,522 --> 00:51:37,672 like, all right, you're above me and they're going to go even lower, right? 1303 00:51:37,672 --> 00:51:39,861 But what empathy does from a superpower standpoint, 1304 00:51:39,861 --> 00:51:44,061 puts you on their level emotionally and allows you to connect on that emotional 1305 00:51:44,061 --> 00:51:47,196 level, that energy level and it allows you to have them open up. 1306 00:51:47,196 --> 00:51:50,856 so that you can let them know truly let them know and let them feel that hey like 1307 00:51:50,856 --> 00:51:55,436 I'm here I care you know what I mean so it's a shared human experience is really 1308 00:51:55,436 --> 00:51:57,629 what it is and you share that vibrational frequency. 1309 00:51:57,629 --> 00:52:00,949 And I think it also allows you to bring that person back up to that level. 1310 00:52:00,949 --> 00:52:01,229 100%. 1311 00:52:01,229 --> 00:52:04,809 Because now you don't have that detached situation happening. 1312 00:52:04,809 --> 00:52:07,479 Not to use that with detachment, because we're talking about that. 1313 00:52:07,479 --> 00:52:08,629 But yeah, absolutely. 1314 00:52:08,629 --> 00:52:11,949 If you go down there and get them, and it's a positive emotional situation, even 1315 00:52:11,949 --> 00:52:13,890 in a bad situation. 1316 00:52:13,890 --> 00:52:17,985 you can you can influence them to start thinking a little bit differently. 1317 00:52:17,985 --> 00:52:20,565 Actually, there's a story you told in the last school night that we did about the 1318 00:52:20,565 --> 00:52:23,665 guy who lost his dad, I believe it was, and he went to the baseball game. 1319 00:52:23,665 --> 00:52:24,125 Okay? 1320 00:52:24,125 --> 00:52:26,725 I'm sure his friends had a situation where they were empathetic, or at least 1321 00:52:26,725 --> 00:52:29,725 sympathetic, and that allowed them to come up. 1322 00:52:29,725 --> 00:52:32,685 It says, hey, I'm here for you, can you open your door and let me in a little bit? 1323 00:52:32,685 --> 00:52:34,985 Because I've been where you're at, I know exactly what you're experiencing, and now 1324 00:52:34,985 --> 00:52:38,445 because you're empathetic, they're open to your advice, and they're seeking you out 1325 00:52:38,445 --> 00:52:40,255 for answers as opposed to sympathy. 1326 00:52:40,255 --> 00:52:41,450 Like, hey, you don't know where I've been. 1327 00:52:41,450 --> 00:52:44,589 Or even if you just attack that from a purely logical standpoint. 1328 00:52:44,589 --> 00:52:44,929 100%. 1329 00:52:44,929 --> 00:52:51,109 It's almost with sympathy in particular, I think it also, people struggle with this 1330 00:52:51,109 --> 00:52:55,849 and I struggle with this because I never want someone to look at me differently. 1331 00:52:55,849 --> 00:52:59,789 I never want someone to look at me like I'm lesser or anything of that nature. 1332 00:52:59,829 --> 00:52:59,989 Right? 1333 00:52:59,989 --> 00:53:03,889 But empathy allows us to be together instead of like, you're like, man, I'm so 1334 00:53:03,889 --> 00:53:04,709 sorry for you. 1335 00:53:04,709 --> 00:53:06,169 I feel so bad. 1336 00:53:06,169 --> 00:53:07,279 It's like, no, no, no, no, no. 1337 00:53:07,279 --> 00:53:10,429 You're like, show them that it's okay and they're going to get through this and they 1338 00:53:10,429 --> 00:53:11,318 have someone there. 1339 00:53:11,318 --> 00:53:14,868 Not just, I feel bad for you, I feel bad for you, I feel bad for you. 1340 00:53:14,868 --> 00:53:16,937 Because like, me personally, and this could be different. 1341 00:53:16,937 --> 00:53:20,277 other people, but for me personally, I never want that someone to just feel bad 1342 00:53:20,277 --> 00:53:20,737 for me. 1343 00:53:20,737 --> 00:53:23,267 You know, because I'm like, dude, I don't want you to look at me differently. 1344 00:53:23,267 --> 00:53:25,397 I don't want to be differently or I don't want to be different. 1345 00:53:25,397 --> 00:53:29,477 I want you, I just want people that care, be in my corner, be there for me and help 1346 00:53:29,477 --> 00:53:29,917 me through this. 1347 00:53:29,917 --> 00:53:30,777 That's what I want. 1348 00:53:30,777 --> 00:53:32,497 Don't feel sorry for me. 1349 00:53:32,717 --> 00:53:34,397 Hey, help me be more positive. 1350 00:53:34,397 --> 00:53:34,677 Right? 1351 00:53:34,677 --> 00:53:39,137 So like for me, I think empathy is a, is a big key and it's a such a big difference 1352 00:53:39,137 --> 00:53:39,734 in. 1353 00:53:39,734 --> 00:53:43,137 Situations might be the same, but which way you approach it is a theory. 1354 00:53:43,137 --> 00:53:47,137 empathy, is the difference of, again, that person getting through it and also opening 1355 00:53:47,137 --> 00:53:49,317 the door for yourself in that relationship. 1356 00:53:49,317 --> 00:53:49,477 Yeah. 1357 00:53:49,477 --> 00:53:54,437 So I think about that as like, you are a pretty kind of hope for that person when 1358 00:53:54,437 --> 00:53:55,177 you become unfaithful. 1359 00:53:55,177 --> 00:53:55,846 Thousand percent. 1360 00:53:55,846 --> 00:53:58,717 Because like, going back to the death thing, it's like, hey, if I had somebody 1361 00:53:58,717 --> 00:54:03,077 that lost their mom this week and I go empathize with them, they can think, all 1362 00:54:03,077 --> 00:54:06,397 right, well, I'm in this dark place right now, but I can see where he's at in his 1363 00:54:06,397 --> 00:54:06,957 life. 1364 00:54:06,957 --> 00:54:09,221 Overall, I can see that he's moved past it. 1365 00:54:09,518 --> 00:54:11,088 That gives me hope to be able to do the same. 1366 00:54:11,088 --> 00:54:13,858 And because that door is open, now you can start guiding them down that path. 1367 00:54:13,858 --> 00:54:15,505 It builds that trust immediately. 1368 00:54:15,505 --> 00:54:18,665 It opens a potential of like, Hey, you're going to be okay. 1369 00:54:18,665 --> 00:54:21,235 Because in that moment, it doesn't feel that way. 1370 00:54:21,235 --> 00:54:22,515 So that empathy is huge. 1371 00:54:22,515 --> 00:54:25,605 And I would even tie that to the intentional situation that we've been 1372 00:54:25,605 --> 00:54:26,585 having. 1373 00:54:26,745 --> 00:54:29,825 And detachment, all of this, honestly, is like, if you're in an argument with your 1374 00:54:29,825 --> 00:54:31,225 spouse, have some empathy. 1375 00:54:31,225 --> 00:54:34,345 Like what is it like, put yourself in their shoes again, it's that detachment 1376 00:54:34,345 --> 00:54:36,485 and being intentional in the situation. 1377 00:54:36,485 --> 00:54:39,038 But where's the empathy at in those discussions? 1378 00:54:39,038 --> 00:54:41,408 If you can bring empathy to that situation, guess what? 1379 00:54:41,408 --> 00:54:44,178 Now the whole thing diffuses itself. 1380 00:54:44,478 --> 00:54:49,269 Detaching allows you to choose and know which emotions to take up what time to. 1381 00:54:49,269 --> 00:54:51,219 help that situation. 1382 00:54:51,219 --> 00:54:53,999 And I think that's how we should probably end this. 1383 00:54:53,999 --> 00:54:54,219 Right. 1384 00:54:54,219 --> 00:54:56,469 Cause it, again, we talked about detaching, we talked about all these 1385 00:54:56,469 --> 00:55:00,709 things, but again, detaching is not, yes, it's removing emotion, but it's to be able 1386 00:55:00,709 --> 00:55:03,629 to understand what emotion you need or what you need to do. 1387 00:55:03,629 --> 00:55:07,726 So that's kind of, I think that's a, I think that's a hit dog. 1388 00:55:07,726 --> 00:55:08,366 a great wrap. 1389 00:55:08,366 --> 00:55:10,186 Yeah, that was a lot there guys. 1390 00:55:10,526 --> 00:55:13,686 So quick, hot, hit an episode about it here and do a little bit of work. 1391 00:55:13,686 --> 00:55:16,346 But I want to leave your brain with something to think about. 1392 00:55:16,346 --> 00:55:18,046 I put this in my Instagram stories this weekend. 1393 00:55:18,046 --> 00:55:19,641 It was a, it was a big, 1394 00:55:19,641 --> 00:55:23,461 conversation and maybe a little bit of a philosophical question. 1395 00:55:23,461 --> 00:55:26,721 When it comes to these different hours, when it comes to the actions, when it 1396 00:55:26,721 --> 00:55:29,761 comes to all these different things, I want you to think about over the last two 1397 00:55:29,761 --> 00:55:35,562 weeks, if you for the rest of your life moving forward from today. 1398 00:55:35,562 --> 00:55:42,422 were forced to lock in and repeat, put on repeat actions, the emotions of the last 1399 00:55:42,422 --> 00:55:46,382 two weeks, would you be happy with your life if they had to be locked in for the 1400 00:55:46,382 --> 00:55:46,972 rest of it? 1401 00:55:46,972 --> 00:55:47,661 Yes. 1402 00:55:47,661 --> 00:55:48,821 a good question. 1403 00:55:48,821 --> 00:55:52,501 Because I had people in my D actor like, man, I don't think I'd be happy. 1404 00:55:52,501 --> 00:55:53,251 Cool, guess what? 1405 00:55:53,251 --> 00:55:55,021 You have the ability to change that right now. 1406 00:55:55,021 --> 00:55:55,461 Yep. 1407 00:55:55,461 --> 00:55:57,281 Every single decision matters. 1408 00:55:57,281 --> 00:55:58,451 It's not going to happen by accident. 1409 00:55:58,451 --> 00:55:59,291 Love that, bro. 1410 00:55:59,291 --> 00:56:00,841 That's intentional at its finest. 1411 00:56:00,841 --> 00:56:02,561 I love that question. 1412 00:56:02,561 --> 00:56:04,494 Dude, that's beautiful. 1413 00:56:04,494 --> 00:56:04,784 right. 1414 00:56:04,784 --> 00:56:06,334 So guys, we appreciate you again. 1415 00:56:06,334 --> 00:56:08,454 If you found any value on this, you loved it. 1416 00:56:08,454 --> 00:56:09,494 Share it, please. 1417 00:56:09,494 --> 00:56:12,514 we want more people to hear this message and get into that process of becoming the 1418 00:56:12,514 --> 00:56:13,994 best self, their best self. 1419 00:56:13,994 --> 00:56:15,227 And as always, 1420 00:56:15,227 --> 00:56:18,367 if you need anything at all, we're always here for you. 1421 00:56:18,367 --> 00:56:23,257 I do believe there is a question form in our bio as well as in our Instagram handle 1422 00:56:23,257 --> 00:56:25,377 as well I think, or on our Instagram. 1423 00:56:25,377 --> 00:56:27,947 So thank you guys as always, it's a pleasure. 1424 00:56:27,947 --> 00:56:29,697 If you guys need anything, we're always here. 1425 00:56:29,697 --> 00:56:32,257 We love y 'all and peace!