What is up guys.
Welcome back to another episode of the process of becoming podcast with Josh.
And my name is Bill.
All right guys, this is a full length episode that we have been jumping at the
bit to get into.
in fact, we actually recorded part of this episode, that we're going to cover today
as our very first episode, but it didn't get recorded.
Cause we are newbies.
I was going to say I got uncored, but I saw how we missed Bill.
Yeah, it just completely, it's in the ether somewhere.
So, but Dino, how you been man?
I've been good, bro.
It's been a, how long has it been, dude?
It feels like honestly over like two months, but it's probably been like two
weeks.
It feels like forever.
It's loud.
So it's just, you know, what we're going to do.
We're going to stop promising it after every week.
Yeah.
We've been loving that.
Yeah.
I think all the time.
Yeah.
And I think it's funny.
I've thought about this the last, I think from the last episode we shot before that,
me and you haven't actually had a, one of our quick hitter talks.
like we used to.
And obviously it is a busy time for both of us.
So it's like, I get it.
But it's funny how you can know this.
I'm like, dude, it's something's off.
You know, I'm like, dude, I haven't had had these type of conversations in a
while.
And it's like, dude, I look forward, we both look obviously forward to this
because we get to have those.
But one thing we used to do was during the day and we would stop and have a 10, 20
minute conversation about something crazy.
It's been a while since we had those too, dude.
So how long is it for this?
Cause it hasn't been that much.
for me, honestly, a lot of that is, I just been, it's, it's grind season, so to
speak.
And for me, it's like, I always, I'm always productive in the evenings, but I
used to wrap my day down just by getting on TikTok a little bit.
And then I would see something and kind of like distinct through it.
And I haven't been doing that lately.
It's been a lot more reading, studying and debriefing right before bed.
So, but yeah, now that we got that Joe Rogan, Terrence Howard episode, we're
going to be talking about that a lot.
Yeah.
I told you, dude, that one's gonna, I'm on my second time playing it and dude, it
takes so much.
Like you're gonna have to listen to it five times to just grasp what he's saying.
Yeah.
Terrence Howard is a freaking man, dude.
That is one thing I did not know and I'm excited.
I'm excited to keep listening to that one.
The thing that excites me about that is knowing like, yeah, he was like a sleeper,
right?
Like he was a, Terrence Howard is an actor and that's what I'd known for it and I saw
clips of him.
But if there's one of them, there's probably another person out there like
that that might come forward and start telling him.
talking about the same stuff and confirm it a little bit more.
is true.
I mean, I feel like one of the biggest reasons he's out there is because he was
an actor, because he is pretty well known, you know, and he did make that switch.
I don't remember exactly when, but like, dude, like we talked about it before this,
like he was such a good actor and then out of nowhere, it was like, yo, this guy's a
lot deeper than the looks of it, right?
And it's, and to your point, it's like, how many more people are there out there
like that?
They wouldn't know about.
Dude, it's just crazy when you start to realize,
the potentials of this life.
And I think it can be scary, but also awesome at the same time.
Yeah.
I think that's why we love the concept of just talking about humans life, where
things can go because there is such a, there's so much to it.
You know what I mean?
yeah.
It really, hearing the line for 10 minutes that was in that podcast so far, it shines
a light, and I've known this business confirmation for like the literal untapped
human potential.
Correct.
And like the human experience is so much more than what we like, we, we're not even
like a minuscule.
percent of a percent to where we possibly could be as a society and as humans.
and it's really pretty cool to see.
So it's like that a little bit limitless.
I think about that and I'm like, maybe we're off with only knowing 10%.
Maybe we know two.
Maybe we barely know any.
You know what I mean?
I mean.
Yeah.
Like the cool part about it is because if you ever feel when you hear people talk
about, well, it's huge, you can see it's a fine tune.
You're working full of stuff like we'll do when you have guys like power.
these guys that come out with some of the things that, you know, we would have never
even thought about that end up being true or that end up like, you know, coming out
and like, my God, I didn't even know this was possible.
It does really confirm that we are insanely infinitely like unlimited in our
potential.
that's the crazy part about this, and I think that's why you and I enjoy this
stuff so much, is because as students, like you do, bro, if we all started today,
I still believe that from what I know, you know what I mean, hopefully, partner, if
you can still make that life.
possible.
Even if we did lose everything today, it's like, that's the type of ability we have.
And I think that's the exciting piece of why we've been doing this is, is like, how
do we unlock more of that?
You know what I mean?
So that's, that's what I, where my mind goes when I hear stuff like that.
Cause I'm like, dude, the world is so much bigger than we can even imagine.
and for me like the thing that drives me for the stuff like that is it makes me
want to become like 10 % better every day instead of just 1 %
possible, you know?
Because I will look at it realistically because for me, like, my limited belief,
right, of like, all right, this is what I want to achieve and be like, cool, no,
that's opened up more.
So now I got like another 800 % above that.
So it's like, you just want to take it on faster to get closer to that.
I see what you're saying.
That's wild.
But I mean, even just for
listening, if you just become a little bit better every day, that's the goal that we
have here.
That's the mission that we're on.
so start out just by saying it, we'll probably end with saying it, but if you
find any value from today's podcast,
which I know you will.
We have a really good topic to cover.
Share it.
You know, just put it out there, throw it out on social media, tell a friend about
it when you get into a conversation about what podcast you listen to, what value
you're gaining.
So that's what we do.
That's why we're here and we appreciate all the love and support.
We want to share these things and we want to help out as much as we can because, you
know, it's a conversation that you and I have, but it's also the things that we've
seen in our life that have impacted us, helped us out, and truly put us on this
trajectory to continue doing more of these things.
But it's also where I think the excitement for wanting to get better has come from.
And dude, that's why we're sharing this.
You know, we hope you guys take value from this.
And if you do like Josh says, share the show.
It's all we ask for.
You know what I mean?
That's it.
We just want to help.
So, that's it.
All right, dog, let's kick it off.
Yeah.
to get into defining what it means to be intentional.
I'm talking to Dino a little bit about before the show.
A lot of the mentorship that I give people, it really just comes down to being
intentional.
I think that is a key overarching idea of the superpowers that we have as human
beings.
It's literally just, you know, I say superpowers quote unquote, but that is
something that we can all tap into and be better with and it will literally change
so much about our lives.
not only from like the experiences that we have, but who you become as a human being
and also the experiences that you have.
Right.
So something that I know just looking back on my life that has made such a huge
difference for me.
And then we're gonna get into some other things that Dino and I kind of see as
quote unquote human superpowers that we have.
That if we can just have an analysis, kind of get us moving in that direction, become
an FS version of ourselves.
So it's gonna be a fun episode.
But yeah, Dino, let's start this out.
I'm gonna throw you through this to your direction.
Let's go.
in your words and your thought process.
What does it mean to be intentional?
This is a good one.
one thing that I want to, cause I think a lot of people use this.
we think it's like a selective thing, right?
Like it happens when we choose to think about intent, but in reality, intent's
happening at all times, right?
And an intent is why are you doing what you're doing?
You know, from literally going to the bathroom to like, Hey, the conversation
that you're about to have, like, what is your intent?
You know, like, what is the intention behind what you're doing?
And I think the cool part about this is that it's happening at all times.
The only difference is...
sometimes we're not checking it.
Most of the times we're not taking that step back to look at like, Hey, why am I
doing this?
What is the purpose?
And what am I trying to get out of this?
Right.
And again, I like to highlight the fact that we're doing it at all times because a
lot of the times I think when we talk about intent, people think it's like this
crazy thing you have to access, but.
really, the craziest thing I have to act at is the question that you ask yourself,
and it's why and where do I want to go about this?
And it's really those questions that decide where is my focus on.
And I kind of hope that answers your question to start off, but like that's
kind of where my mind goes, right?
Where it's like intent is solely based on why are you doing what you were doing?
And what is your intention behind it?
Like for example, it's like, let's say I call you tomorrow, right?
Let's say you need help with something.
And you're like, hey, Dino, can you come over and help me out with this?
I'm like, all right, cool.
I'm going to go help you regardless, right?
But option one is I'm helping you because I want you to help me in return one day
when I need it.
That is my intent.
That is why I'm helping out.
Now, second option is, hey, you called me, you asked for help, and I'm going to help
you out because I care about you, because I love you.
And I'm like, it's the right thing to do.
And all I want to do is help and make sure you're in a good spot.
Two different forms of intent, same objective is complete.
Two completely different outcomes in relationship and response to your life and
response to what happens.
And I always go back to that, because I know it sounds so simple, but just that
example.
Again, it's like the mission and the result that we're going to be, like, I'm
going to come over and help you out with garbage.
But my intent literally decides what happens after that, right?
And it's, you know, for example, if I go with option one and I do that because I
want something in return, dude, you and me are probably not gonna end up being
friends.
You're probably going to end up being a fight because it becomes transactional and
all this stuff.
But option number two, what if you and I become closer?
What if there's a moment in time that I actually felt that I'm like, I didn't do
it because I wanted your help.
But I'm like, damn, dude, the only person I know in my life right now is Josh McCall
and you're there.
because of that moment and because my intent was there.
And that's really how I look at intent, dude.
It's like you and I can do the exact same thing, but in our hearts, why are we doing
it?
What is our mission?
Because that's the size of where your life goes.
Yeah, that's really solid.
So if you look up the definition of intentional or intent, it is done on
purpose.
Right?
So you just nailed that completely.
Like you 100 % nailed it on completely.
Because like the why there is a purpose.
What's the purpose of you coming over and helping me?
Is it so you get something in return?
Absolutely.
So that I can just I love this view and help out.
And I think about that from that example, another realistic one that a lot of people
can resonate with is a car salesman.
You go to a car lot.
If that guy's intent is to sell you a car, which let's face it, like it's always
going to be that as a, it's an underlying scenario.
It's his career, right?
It's his job.
He's what he's designed to do.
But if, if I look at it like this intent has a smell to it, right.
And.
And if I'm going to a car lot and that guy is like, I'd do this guy, salesman, all he
is doing is selling me a car.
Really the key there in sales is if you're a salesperson, you're the tip for you.
It comes down to, are you trying to solve a problem or are you just trying to give
me something?
that I don't think that you don't think I actually need?
But the idea there is if he's actually just trying to help me and just trying to
solve a problem for me, I'm going to feel that I'm going to sense that.
And then you look at, we talked about the law of attraction on here.
There's a law of reciprocity that goes into place as well, right?
Which is another law of the universe.
And it's like, if you have the positive intent with wanting to come over and help
me, guess what?
You don't need to ask me to ever help you.
I naturally want to give back to you and want to fill that gap.
So that alone though, can be a very dangerous thing.
And it's a big reason why I'm not a huge fan of Christmas and then give holidays
because like you get like, like my wife, for example, she'll get these like the
Christmas picture cards and she's like, now we got to send them one.
We don't ever talk to these people.
We do not need to send them anything.
Right.
So it gets a little dangerous there as well.
But intentional for me is to cap off what your definition, because I agree a
thousand percent with that, is.
intentionality should become something.
Make it so that it's not what you do.
It's who you are.
Right.
Intentionality with your words, intentionality with your thoughts.
Right?
So we're saying, yeah, that's what we talk about all the time.
It's like that first thought that comes in, you can't really be intentional with
that one.
You can with the second one.
what are you doing to turn that?
So, and that's something you know, you're phenomenal with.
So, but intentionality is a skill, really, truly.
So you have to be intentional about being intentional.
Right.
So make it who you are, not necessarily what you do.
There's a, there's a question I want to ask you because the, and the cool part
about this is when you reference sales, the increase is.
biggest piece we see this at.
As humans, we've all been sold at one point, right?
Or someone has tried to sell us at one point.
And with your experience, dude, and I know you can attest to this, but from your very
first time you started coaching and doing these things compared to now.
you know, and one thing you mentioned was like, the intent is to help people who
are, you know, and do this and stuff, right?
Like from the first day I met you to now, it's like, you always have the intent, but
it's continued to become.
almost one of those things that's just embedded in you now that like, you can
pull it out at any time.
And it's to your point, it's not just a, you're thinking about it, it becomes who
you are, right?
And I've seen that with you.
And now I wanted to ask you, dude, it's like, where do you see the shift in...
And what are some examples where you try to actually stuff on and really work out,
but then the moments were, which now is probably what I look at compared to all
the people that you've got now, where you're very intentional.
You're people are doing very well.
right?
And the people that you have, they care about you.
They're hungry, they're killing, they're doing amazing things.
And it's because your intent shifted, you know, and I don't know if there's any
examples that you have, but you know, kind of wanted to pick your brain on how you've
seen this work for you from like your day one to now.
how that's kind of been embedded in you.
Right.
Because someone who does this for a living, it's like, dude, that is something
you always have to, that is from your success and that's why you got to it.
So kind of touch on that.
If that makes sense.
It's a very, very simple answer.
It all shifted for me.
This started way back before I moved more to the first floor because I was in this
house before I came here.
I never sold anything.
because when I tried to sell people things, I sucked at it and it wasn't good.
Right.
I would go to these seminars and they would teach us, like go practice this
close.
Right.
They actually taught us a close bro.
It was so cringy where like you're in it's in at home sales and you get to the door
after they tell you, no, like nine times.
And you get to the door and you're like, look, you know, if there's any way that we
can just get this done tonight, I would really hate to waste all the time that I
had away from my family.
It's not going to make it productive.
Wow.
I literally kind of walked out of the seminar.
I'm like, this is fun.
So, my goal with everybody is to help people solve a problem, right.
And where the intentionality comes in to that equation is you stop worrying about
the outcome, right?
You just focus on the process and you have zero attachment to the.
outcome.
I don't care if you buy this or not.
My goal is to simply show you that the problem exists, walk you through the best
options you have to solve it.
If I'm not the guy for you, I'm going to put you in the direction of somebody that
can't help you.
Because I care.
And that's all I want is for you to solve this problem and you to feel the best
about the solution that you choose.
That's it.
Right.
So even here, it's like even with the mentorship and the things that I do, it's
like, that's the biggest thing I try to help people understand is, hey, don't be
attached to the outcome.
You know, if you're telling, if you're trying to position with them solution,
they have to make the choice.
And if you run the right process and you do your job as far as being a good human
being, make them fall in love with you and what you're doing, they're gonna support
you because they have all the rest of the process.
Again, you give them enough value, they're gonna want to get back to you.
That's beautiful, bro.
So at the end of the day, that's a win -win.
that person doesn't feel like they got sold.
They're like, damn, thank you for solving my problem.
Seriously.
And then you win because you helped them solve that problem.
The world turns everything.
Yeah.
And the world turns everything.
Exactly.
It's really the key to everything.
And you did the sad part about it.
Dude it sucks, you know, like even you going through that example dude, I'm just
like I can't believe that that would be a closing
to put someone to literally that's a guilt trip.
You know what I mean?
I'm like, dude, that is probably the worst thing.
Dude, I wouldn't even feel comfortable doing that to someone.
Like when you talk about intent, talk about the wrong intent, dude.
That is terrible.
Yeah.
People would do it.
Then they get the contract and a few days later, you're canceled.
Of course.
We have a three day.
Yeah.
But guys, it's taking that to a higher level application.
Right.
And just because I know not everyone has a different sales, but here's the deal.
You are.
right.
Human relationship is it is sales.
And where this goes wrong in human relationships is manipulation, right?
Because you're trying to worry about an outcome and you're trying to get your
outcome.
And then you do.
weird things, say things, manipulate energy absolutely in a way to get it to
work out in your favor.
And it shouldn't be that.
So even from a human relationship standpoint, detach from the outcome.
There's never a wrong time to do the right thing.
And if you do the right thing, they're going to feel that.
And guess what?
It'll probably work out in your favor anyway.
But when you detach it from the outcome, it can also help you decrease anxiety and
stress and all that things like, Hey, like, it's cool.
What's going to happen is what's going to happen.
I'm going to control the best that I can from my energy and my intent standpoint.
dude that actually that's an episode I think by itself by the way And when you
really think about this dude and something we've talked about too But it's can't
control everything right and you have to control what you can control and to your
point one of the things you'll never be able to control as Many times as we hear
it is the result
right?
If you focus on just the output, and what you do, don't worry about the result,
because a lot of the times where people fail is when they focus on that result so
much, right?
And they're working, working, working.
for this result and then it doesn't happen.
They're like, it's over.
I'm done.
I'm not good enough.
Blah, blah, blah.
That's, that's where you fail.
But if you look at your output, what you put out, right?
The work that you did, the time that you spent, if you look at those things, you
know, like I controlled those and I did my best.
Hey, the outcome didn't work out my way, but cool.
I know what I continue need to do.
Like continue what I need to continue to do to get to where I want to go.
Right.
And I think that is something that we lose sight of so much, bro.
Because again, it kind of, you know, when he goes back to sales and all these
different things, it's, Hey, you, if you can remove the piece of like, I got to
sell this to make this money.
And you're like, if I can just do the right thing, those sales will come and
regardless, right?
Like the law of reciprocity, dude, the world works in a way that you give out,
it'll give back to you, but only if you do it with the right intent.
Right.
And I think again, when we were talking about, because, you know, one thing that
we were going to discuss and we are going to discuss this human superpowers, right.
And intent is one of those superpowers.
And you also said a word of detachment, right.
And detaching is also something that I think a lot of us, when we hear that word,
it sounds, doesn't sound as good as it actually means, if that makes sense,
right.
Because when you detach, it allows you to kind of see things from a different point
of view.
But when people hear detaching, they go into this like, hang your thing, or it's
like, I gotta remove myself and do all this stuff.
It's like, no, no, no.
The reason you detach is to be able to make the right decision based on what's
best for everyone or what's best for everyone.
Right?
So if everyone would have to do that, we're the type of thing.
know, and that I, and we both believe that is one of the, the human superpowers that
we can get to, but why do you think that is a superpower?
Man, I'm gonna go, we were talking before this ends, talked about how I've learned
about detachment multiple times.
It's something you have to learn.
about a lot.
I've learned it from him in person.
I've learned it from JP Denell in person on the podcast in the books.
And it finally clicked this past week reading through it.
Detachment is a superpower because it allows you to actually see things for what
they actually are.
And when I think about detachment, it's not like going into a corner and hiding
and not doing things.
It's not detachment, it's like a lot of people look at it like I'm going to hide
from certain things.
Correct, like detached from the world time to time.
Yeah, it's not that, it's detached from emotion.
Right?
So one of the things it really clicked for me this week of, you know, when you're not
detached, right?
And anybody can think of an example of in their own life, when they've been in an
argument or a situation or a high level discussion where like, you're just so
laser focused on what you want to say and your viewpoint.
Well, guess what?
You can never ever, ever make a completely accurate assessment of what's happening.
And you know this because after the fight's over, you're like, Holy crap, you
do detach from it.
And then you think through it and you're like, yeah, this is, this is how this
could have gone.
a second.
As long as you submit your ego and you look at it for what it is.
So detachment for me, it's like, you literally can never have a true assessment
of reality in that situation until you detach.
Cause you're looking solely at your point of view.
so something that I've been really focusing on this week is observing
people's detachment.
and I was talking to you about how I saw TJ do that and how he's been so well with
it.
But even for myself is like, all right, emotionally.
Am I clenching my jaw or my shoulders up and tight?
They tense, right?
Is my heart rate going up as somebody saying something to me?
But if I'm doing that, I'm not detached from the situation.
I'm thinking a predetermined thought based off of what I want versus seeing the
bigger picture.
And again.
relationships, guys, this is absolutely huge.
A lot of people ask me, and not a lot, but I've had questions over time of like, you
know, we can't ever get in fights, and it's usually related to me trying to solve
a problem for somebody getting in a fight with their spouse.
And it's like, honestly, we really don't, because I've unknowingly or knowingly,
whatever, gotten so good at detaching.
Because in my head, I'm thinking through like, all right, we're going to fight.
We're going to end up getting over it.
We're going to see each other's point of views and then everything's going to be
good.
So why not just skip to the, everything's going to be good part.
You know what I'm saying?
So it's like, no, it's not to say we don't have discussions, but, that's just how I
look at it.
I don't get heated in those situations, but I do see that in other relationships.
So that is something that I'm working on.
I love that.
And I think relationships is the perfect place you can see that really early on.
And a lot of the times I think we're, to your point, we're trying to make our
viewpoint the right one.
You know, we're thinking about us.
We're, it's very personal, you know, and I think that's a tough part, man, because
it's like, we're all in our own human experiences that life is happening to us
and life is happening for us and it's us, us, us, us, us, right?
And that is the hard part.
And that's why detachment is so important because life doesn't revolve around just
one person.
You know, life is happening to all of us.
It's happening for all of us at all at once.
And we're all going through different things.
And I think when you detach, you're able to understand a lot more, right?
But oftentimes, man, you know, we, we, the reason we don't detach is because I think
we assume too much of what someone else's intent is.
Right.
Because detaching, you have to remove all emotion, right.
And emotion detaches, you know, like, for example, if we were discussing something
where we don't agree on something, right.
Well, I don't like being wrong either do you.
Right.
So emotional, by the way.
So I'm going to figure out, Hey, how do I make my point right?
Because I want to be right.
And I don't want to be wrong instead of like,
like, hey man, actually, your point makes sense, but also my point makes sense if
you think they can coexist.
You know, and how often times do we do that, dude?
We don't, right?
Like, you know, one thing we mentioned, I want to, I don't know if it was last
podcast or the podcast before this, but our religions, right?
Completely different.
But how are you and I able to have the same mission, same values, talk about the
same things, care about people the same way?
It's like, well, if my point of view was always right, you'd have to do exactly
what I would do, right?
But that's not true.
How are we still able to understand?
How are we still able to talk?
How are we still able to have this type of friendship and relationship?
You know, and I think that's what the world misses often times.
You know, and again, from a relationship standpoint, but also in life and career
and everything, right?
If you can take a step back and look at everything in a third person point of
view, it helps, man.
It makes sense, right?
It's like when you watch a movie, you know, when someone's going through those
like, especially like an action movie, right?
Like we're a thriller movie.
You're going through and you're like watching this guy and you're like boom,
boom, boom, but you're not in it, right?
But you kind of put yourself in it, you're like, I would do this, I would do this.
Because you can see the third or fourth person point of view.
But if you were in it like that guy was, it's like, that's not what you're thinking
because emotions are taking over.
But oftentimes we play the guy in the movie instead of the guy watching the
movie.
And I think oftentimes that is what gets us in a bad spot.
It gets us into arguments.
And because of that, dude, I don't think we ever, not ever, but a lot of us don't
ever really get to the relationships that we can get to.
the spark in our life that we can get to where we're happy, where we're healthy,
where we're enjoying, where we're content with things because oftentimes again we
like to, we want to be right.
So I think for me that's always kind of what I see happen.
But it's one of those things that the sooner that you can remember, the sooner
your life can get better.
And the sooner that decision you can make, the faster you're going to grow in your
career.
and the more success you're going to have in your life overall.
So that's kind of my standpoint on detachment.
It's freaking spot on.
Thanks, bro.
I think it was important.
I think another super power to touch on.
Real quick before we move on from that.
I think, and again, a really important thing with detachment is once you detach,
collect information.
Right.
It's such a huge thing.
Because detachment, yeah, like people can step out, they can start to learn to be
more intentional about their emotions, because emotions are what make you weak in
that situation.
But you got to collect information.
Because if you don't collect information, then you're just, you're still only
operating off of what you think and what you perceive to know.
So collecting information is absolutely huge.
And that's the whole idea of detachment.
And the idea that you said with the movie, which is a great example is you have the
bigger picture, right?
That actor, that person in this, the action scene is not detached.
They're only seeing down the barrel of their weapon, so to speak.
But you can see the bigger picture.
You're like, Hey dude, like don't go by that bush.
That's a bad spot to go.
Right, right.
Don't run away from the killer, like, attack head on.
So collecting information is actually huge.
And one of the things I've seen is from entering people over the last three years,
and honestly, six years.
is people aren't good at asking questions.
So it's like learn to ask better questions.
Would you consider that a superpower of itself?
I mean, if not a superpower, it's skill, but I would absolutely dump that into a
superpower category because the more questions you can ask, the more you can
understand about that person if they know what they don't know.
You can save a heck of a lot of time by not re -educating them.
And then guess what?
If I start educating you on something you already know, you're not listening and
your ego goes up.
sure.
I got this, as an idiot, I already know that.
right I know more than you about this and now they're not listening you can't make
the impact you want to make.
percent, bro.
I love that one because oftentimes I think, I keep saying oftentimes today.
I don't know what it is.
It's one of those words, you know what I mean?
I'm a philosopher today, I guess.
I don't know.
Periodically.
We're gonna start using fancy ass words just to sound a little bit more...
Me pipes and ropes, yes.
We need like a whole intro theme song, dude.
Like a whole movie and everything.
Dude, the reason I ask and I say...
I would consider that a superpower, bro, because it's kind of like everything we've
talked about in this episode, a lot of the ways you can uncover these things or help
even yourself or other people is through questions.
And when you ask questions, it just gives you a, it's like a flashing light at a
different area you didn't know was there.
You know what I mean?
It's kind of like, again, dark room and you're like, damn, I can't see anything.
I gotta find the door, right?
But the more questions you ask, you're kind of going up and down the room and
then you're like, there's a door, right?
And.
that's where I think questions are a big piece to any of the topics that we've
talked about ever, is asking yourself those questions.
And when you do it, you start to really realize what you believe.
And just because you might think that way now doesn't also mean you have to think
that way.
But you don't know unless you know.
So when you ask yourself those questions, you're able to bring that to the surface.
And when it's at the surface, then you can really dissect it.
Right?
And,
can happen within your career, it can happen within your life, it can happen
within leadership.
But when you ask the right questions, you're able to get the right answers.
And when you get the right answers, you're able to take the step forward that you
need to.
So do not let that happen.
You hit that pretty focus.
spot on dude.
everything with questions still throw in here is when you're asking other people
questions, it shows that you care.
Right.
Because so often in people's lives, I mean, you think about a podcast TV, like
everything they're being talked at.
So when you stop down and ask questions, you're actually talking with someone.
They know that you care and things that people want to talk about the most of
themselves.
They want to hear themselves talk.
Right.
So the more that you ask questions, the more they're going to give you, the more
they give you, the more problems you're going to hear.
The more problems you hear.
the more problems you can solve.
And that trust holds up.
I was going to, I want to hit on this a little bit because this is something that
through a lot of just internal work myself, I kind of used to wonder, I was
like, dude, why do I want to make other people happy?
Why do I want to do this?
Why don't, because I've always been a big people person and I've always cared for
people.
And dude, I even noticed this in myself where I used to make friends so easy.
And when I think back to the conversations of how I would do it, dude, the amount of
times I would actually talk about myself was 5 % of that 95 % of the conversation
was about that.
And I realized that and I was like, dude, it's not that I'm like, you're trying to
make it about myself.
It's when I didn't, that's when it became about me.
And that's where I found like this biggest superpower of.
just relationships to do, but also success in my life as far as my career and some
people I've met.
It's because every time I make it about them and I don't try to make it about
myself.
And to your point, it's like making it about them didn't initially come back to
you because your intent is in the right spot.
Right?
But when you can care about the other person and truly care, like truly one will
uncover, truly want to help, whether it be a leadership standpoint or a friendship
standpoint, that is where you're going to solidify the best.
I don't even call it just like loyalty, but the best friendship.
best care.
And that's how you're going to get the most valuable relationship to the most out
of your career.
And that's always how I look at it.
things, you know, cause a lot of the times, again, we always want to make it
about ourselves, but when you don't and you can be comfortable because you're okay
with who you are, but life opens up big time, you know, and there's one thing I
actually want to hit on with the detachment piece.
you can see this and I've saw this happen to me with, with soccer.
I relate a lot of things to soccer because that was like a big part of my life, but
it's also taught me so much.
You know, and you mentioned it, right?
Like, hey, my heart rate's going up in this conversation, or if it's like...
I'm trying to get a point across, it's like, okay, I'm not attached.
In soccer, you can see this big time, right?
Because when I get on the field, Hey, where's my heart?
Is my heart pounding and nervous?
What am I thinking?
Is it about me?
What?
You know what I mean?
You have all these things go through your mind and those times where I've had
success has always been when I've removed my own ego from the situation.
And what I mean by that is completely not thinking about myself and how well I
perform.
but just looking at the overall picture.
Hey, we're here to win.
And every time I've done that, your Google testing makes a lot clearer.
Right?
And...
MMA fighters, UFC is obviously such a big sport out in the world nowadays and it's
only getting bigger.
But try to put yourself in those guys' shoes.
Like when you talk about real detachment, brother, like those guys have to detach,
right?
Because as soon as ego gets in the way, dude, that could be the end of you.
All it takes is one punch, all it takes is one slip up.
It's...
It's point two seconds of a difference in timing where it can cause you your entire
career.
Right.
So you have to remove that emotion and just be in the present.
And I don't know if you ever heard this, the flow state, right?
But when you get into that flow state, I think the flow state flow state has a lot
to do with being able to detach from your emotions and being able to see things
clear and just, I don't want to say go with the flow, but be able to think clear
and understand what decisions you need to make without having anything interrupted
or make the wrong decision because you're so focused on yourself.
I hope that makes sense but I just want to touch on that because if you ever need to
realize that those guys are pretty simple because you have to at all times but when
you do you're able to see a lot better.
So yeah, I would say that's when you're not you're fully in the present.
Correct.
That's like something that everybody can if you've ever had that happen.
I wish I could just say it is a superpower because it's not.
readily available at all times, unless you practice and get to a point where you can
access it and it's still not perfect.
But it is a beautiful state to me because it feels like everything makes sense.
Yeah, it's wild.
It is wild.
All right.
What do you think?
outside of, yeah, you touched on a couple earlier on the discussion that I believe
are human superpowers, right?
We can kind of lump these together.
Something I educate all the time, but you talked about like the action, right?
Actually taking action.
So the way you show up and the things you do.
that is a superpower that only you can control, that that reaps huge benefits for
your life.
Right.
And the way that I educate on this is like, look, you have two, two superpowers
as a human being, and we're obviously tapping into more, but the it's the action
that you take.
the choices that you make essentially in those moments, and then it's how you show
up mentally and emotionally to a situation.
For example, and we've talked about this, but human experience and situations have
no meaning until you attach meaning to them.
So what meaning are you attaching things?
That's what I mean by the attitude or the emotion, right?
Like if you get a flat tire, okay, does that ruin your day?
Because it doesn't have to.
You can attach a totally different meaning to it.
You can have a totally different attitude about it.
Are you going to sit outside the room and cry or are you going to actually take
action and go fix the problem?
So, and I talk about this a lot with people's nutrition, right?
It's like you've got to be in the moment, like what we're talking about, and you
have to make the choices best for you because here's the deal, guys.
And why this is super power, in my opinion, is that...
only you get to make those two decisions.
No one else can tell you how you can be influenced for sure.
But no one else can choose for you how.
to show up emotionally to a situation or how you do things.
No one else can make you go to the gym and workout and make you eat food.
Those are literally the only two choices that you have every single day that
benefit you to create this from a sample of your physical transformation.
Right?
And guess what?
When you're healthier and your physical transformation is being taken care of, you
can actually control.
lot of these emotional states a lot better because biophysically without getting into
all the science, your body is in a better spot to handle those things.
So action and attitude.
I think that's the best way to put it really.
Like if you, everything we talked about, like there's multiple superpowers, but
really the two as humans that we have that all fall into it is thinking and acting.
Right?
And it's like, at the end of the day, if you control those two things and know that
you're in control of those two things, you can do whatever you want.
You know, and I remember one thing we've talked about recently was you can't really
control where you start.
but you can control what you do.
Right?
It's like when you play a game.
You know you can't control the cards that you're dealt with.
But how do you play those cards?
Right?
Cause you're still in control of that.
And I think that's the most important piece, right?
Cause a lot of the times I think we give power to other things instead of the power
to ourselves.
And food is a big one.
Exercise is a big one.
And we see it in our society now a lot of the time, right?
Because it's, I can't do this because I've been this way or this way or this way or
this way.
Bro, remove all that because you can't make a choice today.
But now where I think a lot of people struggle with this is they think they need
to make a big choice.
And it's everything we've taught.
about, bro.
It's not big monumental jumps in one day.
It's tiny little things that you do every single day to unlock these things.
Right?
Like even unlock the ability to make a choice.
Because here's the truth, dude.
I think a lot of people are stuck in the mindset of they don't think they can do
that.
And they believe that.
And that's a tough spot to be in because when you do,
It's like an EKG, bro.
If you don't, it's, you're out.
So I think it's always important to remember you do have control.
And even if you haven't moved once, if you just get up and take a step forward, that
is a plus.
And that's how you have to look at these things, right?
It's a one plus.
It's a plus one, plus one, plus one, plus one in every area of your life.
And the more plus ones that you have at the end of the day, the more plus ones you
have at the end of the week, year, the month, your life starts to change, you
start to build habits, things start to go better.
I mean, you can do a great example of this too.
when you started to change your life from where you were,
dude, it wasn't a one day journey.
It wasn't even a one year journey.
It was a long journey and it's still continuing to go.
But every single moment that you take action and again, you're not perfect, but
you're winning more days and you're losing.
And the more days that you win, dude, it becomes this habit that you just have
naturally now.
Right?
Because I bet if you talk to the Josh, you know, three years ago, you'd be like, holy
fuck, I didn't know this was going to be me.
You know?
And again, it was just little thing at a little thing, little thing, little thing.
It's like a progress photo.
You could take one on day one, and day 75, and you'll see a different footage.
you don't take that one in 75, you won't ever see the difference.
Right.
But all it is a little bit of action and over time it will lead you to where you
need to be.
I agree.
You can think on that.
Think through like, you know, a general fight here, but it's understanding the
past.
The things that you made are now effectively your ability to make a
decision now.
You know, think about this.
Like, all right, today, right now.
on this Saturday morning, I'm deciding that I want to eat healthy, right?
Go home.
House has cookies.
House has...
all these other things because the past choices that I made are now influencing
the choices in the outcome that I have now.
Right?
So that becomes a choice.
And where the action really kicks in there is like, all right, do I go get rid of all
this food that I don't want and go replace it with food that I do want?
Not to say you can't have cookies, right?
You can.
But this is the overall idea.
We have better chances.
The choices you've made in the past have gotten you to this point.
good or bad, intentional or not intentional.
And you have the superpower.
right at this very second, start making better choices.
And one of the things I always, it's funny, I'll actually say it out loud, like
I'll thank Pastor Josh.
I'm like, I love that.
I love that.
I did it this week.
I'm like, current Josh, that's Josh for setting future Josh up for this.
It's like, I'll say it in my head, but it's like, you know, like one day I like,
I forget what it even was recently that happened, but it was one of those moments
where I was like, dang.
it's almost like another example you can give is like, I every winter when I put
away my coats, I'll put five or $10 bills in them just cause it's fun.
I'll forget.
And then when I put them on in the winter time next, I go, damn, there's a $5 bill
in there.
Right.
So it's just, yeah, that's cool.
it's little moments of joy guys, plan these things be intentional, but, to that
point, it's like all the decisions you've made led you to here.
Right.
And you have to understand cause a lot of people I think get that.
for sure, but you have to understand that those.
decisions are also influencing your ability and scope to make a decision right
now.
So how do you work on that?
Okay.
You'd be more intentional.
You understand that, but also you can do that from a mental standpoint.
Start reading books.
You're obviously listening to great podcasts, right?
Wink, wink.
So, but put good things in and that will open up your ability to make better
decisions down the line.
You just got to trust that.
I want to hit on something because the way you just talked about, you know, thinking
yourself in the past,
even if you made every possibly wrong distinction up until this point, dude, it
is all fucking hate, you know what I mean?
I wanna highlight that because I think that's what stops us too, right?
Because, and even guess what, even if you made all the wrong distinctions, you have
to understand that the time, just like Josh back in the day was doing things for
Josh in the future, even if it was bad, the coping mechanisms, whatever it got you
to this point.
You know what I mean?
Like, dude, we all have shit that happened to us back in our lives, okay?
But you got to go back in the past, man.
You got to thank yourself for finding a way to get through it at the time that you
did.
Because when you're 15, 16, 7, 20, like, bro, you don't know what the fuck to do.
You don't know what's going on.
And you have to give yourself grace for what you did at that time, even if it
wasn't leading you to the best spot.
Because at the end of the day, you can't control those things.
But again, without that, where could you have been?
You know what I mean?
like, well, yeah, if I made the right decision, but you didn't have that type of
influence at the time.
You didn't have those people.
And that is okay.
So you figured it out the way you had to, but now you're in control still.
Hey, you might not like the person you are now, but thank that person who got you
here because now you're in still control, right?
Like you were in control still.
So take control of your life going forward, but don't beat yourself up over
what you've done.
Even if it hasn't been anywhere near good.
Like I said, even if you make every single wrong decision possible, it is okay.
And I think we need to hear that.
sometimes.
But with me saying that doesn't mean give yourself an excuse to not do anything
moving forward.
Right?
Is it still going to be fucking hard to do stuff?
Yes, absolutely.
You can give yourself grace, but it doesn't make it easy moving forward.
But when you give yourself grace, you allow yourself to change your identity and
stop carrying on the person that you were to who you want to be because it's two
completely different people.
And it's, I mean, we've seen examples of this all the time, but.
We don't see the example within ourselves because it's easy for us to look at
ourselves and be like, we're not capable.
Well, that guy is special.
I promise you we're all as special as any person in this fucking world.
Like if there was a person out there that figured out how to fly, I promise you, you
can fly.
You know what I mean?
And that's always how I look at life, man.
You know, because there's so much potential to it.
And oftentimes we kill that potential because we're so focused on all the things
we did wrong.
And it is okay.
We all have our own vices, right?
But.
learn.
accept that and learn to move on and not identify yourself as those things.
And that's something I just wanted to hit on man because even you saying just that
thank you piece, I don't think people realize how important that is, even if it
is the bad stuff, right?
Because at the time of your body, your brain, you went to figure it out just to
get you by and you got by, you're here, you're realizing, you're aware.
So take control of that awareness now and fix your life and move forward.
So that's just one thing I wanted to hit on man because I think oftentimes, again,
I'm saying oftentimes, right?
but dude, we just beat ourselves up.
You know, we don't see that we're valuable.
and this is coming from a guy who, I mean, dude, I didn't have anything growing up,
right?
You, I mean, dude, your story too, bro.
Like the fact that you got to where you got to, it doesn't make sense on paper.
It doesn't make sense, but that's the thing.
Fuck the paper dog.
You can create that paper.
You can create your own story.
You can create whatever you want.
So remember that and move past all the bullshit in your life and the before and
thank yourself for it.
and take control of life and move forward.
Yeah, I mean there's variables in every decision making process and the very, the
fact that you understand that the variables that you decided back then that
led, like that were creating those circumstances, they're not the same
variables you have to have your mindset, your emotion, your intent, all the things
that we're talking about, all these superpowers.
That actually reminds me of something you said that reminds me of a quote that I
heard a long time ago that I think about a lot.
We tend to judge ourselves on our intent and other people and their actions.
Right?
So it's like, we're looking, we're looking at other people and we're like, man, they
got it made like, or even from a bad standpoint, we do the same thing.
It's like, I'm a better person because it's like, well, did you actually do
something or are you just judging yourself on your intent?
Right?
And it's a true, if you start thinking about it.
Yeah.
It's pretty wild.
Yeah.
I don't remember where I heard that, but it's been 15, 20 years.
If you look at it, it opens up the mind to a lot of different reasons why we are
where we are.
You know, and it's crazy.
And we hear this all the time.
And I think about kids, you know, it's like they do something wrong.
It's like, do you get mad at them right away?
Most likely some people do, but you shouldn't because it's like, you're not
trying to mess up, you're not trying to do this.
We judge people based on the action and not the men.
And I think if you were to remove that, you would be able to understand people a
little bit more and actually love someone else.
Yeah.
Right.
It's my most valuable lesson.
learned as a leader is assume positive intent.
Absolutely.
You know, and I've implemented that with my kids so much because again, as a
parent, like you can be in that emotional situation of like, dude, why don't they
just get this 20th time I've told them, right?
But you have to assume positive intent because very few people in life are ever
going to do something wrong intentionally or derail something intentionally, right?
And the people that do, you know who they are and you avoid those people, right?
But most people, workplace, spouse, child, friend, coworker, whatever it is, is like,
there's something missing, which is why they made the decision there.
Maybe they didn't understand what you wanted to happen or your intent on the
situation, or maybe they think they're executing flawlessly, but it's like you're
judging them again on their actions and your intent.
So assume positive intent and ask questions.
You know, it's the easiest way to get somebody on the same level because you'll
understand number one, it's like, all right, well, they didn't understand this,
which means I didn't explain it properly.
And it gives you an ownership ability and the ability to be better.
It's like, all right, well, if I explained it,
and that person doesn't understand and other people probably don't understand.
So how can I get better at explaining that?
Absolutely.
It's almost like you can just think about it.
It's like, would you want someone to assume you're in pain?
Never.
Especially in a negative way.
But we do it all the time.
And we assume it based off our current situation.
But it's like, hey, what did you make of this drink?
Did you drink water?
I'm like, what the hell?
Why is Josh doing that?
Why would you drink more caffeine?
Yeah.
But what are your goals?
I need that doctor.
We're going to need to bump those migs up a little bit.
Roger that doc.
dude, it's funny.
Dr.
Chad Kirkcik told us what the the efficacious does.
No, it's like an equation.
So he gave us an equation and I forget it.
So don't this is not a scientific order recommendation.
But he gave us an equation based off kilograms body weight and like J.
Algeer's pre -workout caffeine, pure caffeine, not like other stuff, pre
-workout, whatever, was like 670 mgs.
Yeah.
As like an efficacious dose.
Yeah.
I was like, dang.
All right.
Yeah.
But yeah, the thing about it, and again, I want to clarify this because there's
people listening that does not mean go take three scoops of pre -workout because
there are other things in there besides pure caffeine.
Correct.
There are different versions of capping.
So that is just us bantering.
not medical advice.
please do not take any any other recommendations or anything we heard out
there as recommendations, please.
But dude, that's it.
But honestly, it's like, yeah, I would love to have that doctor first off.
But dude, that's one of those things, again, we assume, you know, we don't take
the time to like just ask and think, you know, it's like you'd be so surprised by
how much you can understand and uncovered by just asking and not putting an
assumption on things.
Right.
I do my favorite quote of all time that.
It was in like, no, not six years ago, like, more than eight.
but when he was two, he made an ass out of it.
Now, it's worth very much different in my time also, you know, and it's not as PC as
things are now, right?
but it was around that time, I was like, are not that awesome, right?
He does make an ass out of both.
So just take the time to think whether again, it's a relationship or people or
whatever, or what?
just internal take time to understand where you're at, right?
And don't assume things.
And,
want to also throw it out there because anytime you hear questions people think of
like what why when how a really good question asked to uncover somebody's
intent and to while you're assuming positive intent and also it's a good
question asked what to be able to learn Is hey, hey, could you please help me
understand your thought process with this with X fill it in the blank?
Hey, you know, can you help me understand the thought process behind why you grabbed
water today and not an energy drink?
Because I might be judging you based on the idea why this guy is cool with
drinking and everything like me.
But, and these are, that's a silly example, but little do I know that he
already had two energy drinks this morning because he's been up grinding since 3 a
You know what I'm saying?
So it's like, hey, help me understand your thought process.
And the cool thing about it is when I started asking that question, my thought
process became better because again,
I would be having a huge ego to understand that my thought process is the only one.
So I've been able to learn from leaders, from support units, from my freaking kids
when I'm like, hey, what's your thought process behind this?
Right?
Like example, my daughter had a bowl in a room.
It broke.
My wife freaked out last weekend and just destroyed a room, put it all back
together, got rid of everything because she's 12.
She's got a messy room.
So there's a bowl broken in there.
And I was like, hey, you know, your mom cleaned your room up.
She doesn't.
want dishes in here anymore.
She doesn't understand why that bulb is down there and what is the process behind
leaving it there.
And she's like, well, I didn't move it home.
I didn't want to carry it up to the kitchen and have her here and put it in
the trash and get upset with it.
So I plan on doing it when she has to show up in bed.
I'm like, okay.
A, you're sneaky and smart.
So I commend you on that.
B, it helped me understand where her head was at.
I would have been easy for me to assume that she's just being a lazy 12 year old.
But now I understand why she's doing it.
I'm like, damn, she's actually smarter than I thought she was.
but you know what's crazy about that moment?
That moment can be the difference of your guys' relationship forever.
And I know it sounds crazy, but like, dude, if you assumed in that moment, like
imagine what she would think.
Well, dude, my dad doesn't even, he doesn't take time to think, you know, he
doesn't care about me.
And it's crazy the fact that you just asked that question and you uncovered
that.
Because I bet that kind of calmed you down.
You're like, okay.
Even though she still didn't do it, it's like, it makes sense for the thought
process.
You don't want to get her mom, you know, she don't want to be mad.
You know, she was trying to do the right thing, but she was also being, you know
what I mean?
It helps so much.
And for her, she's like, that took the time to understand.
Yeah.
And then I got to spin that off into a lesson.
Hey, what did we talk about with voting things?
Responsibility.
I got the teacher that, you know, so I mean, it's, it's literally everything that
we.
is just detach a little bit and ask questions, right?
Try to understand it.
It's soon positive attempt, but with the question things guys, it's genuine
curiosity.
It's like, and I want to, I want to get inside that brain a little bit.
How do you think, why are you thinking that way?
yeah.
So I'm intact in delivery.
even that question after you ask it, even just saying something like, dude, I just
want, I just want to understand.
Saying that instead of like just leaving it there and having like this angry face
or something like that, like dude, that also plays a big role in it.
But if you're like, Hey, help me understand this because...
I'm not too sure, I just want to get your thoughts, because I'm not seeing it maybe
the way you are, can you just help me?
Yeah, definitely.
To see that, that's like, okay, here's the truth.
And so I do want people to be honest with you, in your life, and just tell you
what's actually going on, if you have any questions.
you ask.
And I think this also ties a little bit into empathy too.
Right?
Because I know we didn't touch on this too much, but I would consider that a little
bit of a superpower as well.
Right?
Because when you're empathetic and able to understand and kind of give people that
little bit of like, hey, let me...
Let me try to understand them.
Your relationships go better, the less you jump to them, right?
Less assumptions and more clear understanding of people, but also how to
help them and support.
And I think empathy alone is a skill because empathy you have to know when
you're -
going too far and not enough, right?
And there's a balance piece and the balance isn't necessarily a one line.
It's kind of like up and down, depending on the situation.
But with empathy alone, I think that is a superpower because again, you have to be
able to understand when you need to use it.
more than other times, then you can kind of push it down.
I hope that makes sense.
It's not just like a whole empathy thing.
It's like, hey, being able to kind of look at any situation differently and
understand that, hey, sometimes it's much more than not knowing.
But that is a superpower.
of its own.
Yeah, I agree with that.
What I think about empathy being a superpower, I think about it from a
standpoint, you can create anything, but you feel emotional, right?
So, I think about this, and just so you guys understand.
the difference between sympathy and empathy is a empathy is like, Hey, I've
lived through this.
Like I've been where you're at.
Let me, let me get on your level and let you know that I'm here for you.
And I understand.
Sympathy is like hey I actually do that but I do a few for you.
So empathy being a superpower in my mind is in a situation of maybe it's like a
death situation.
Somebody loses their mom, I can empathize with that because I've lost my mom.
I lost a lot of people there.
But what that does is when somebody is in that emotional state, okay, they're very,
very low emotionally.
So if I were to just come in there and start talking to them and trying to solve
a problem for them and give them the logic of the situation, they're going to be
like, all right, you're above me and they're going to go even lower, right?
But what empathy does from a superpower standpoint,
puts you on their level emotionally and allows you to connect on that emotional
level, that energy level and it allows you to have them open up.
so that you can let them know truly let them know and let them feel that hey like
I'm here I care you know what I mean so it's a shared human experience is really
what it is and you share that vibrational frequency.
And I think it also allows you to bring that person back up to that level.
100%.
Because now you don't have that detached situation happening.
Not to use that with detachment, because we're talking about that.
But yeah, absolutely.
If you go down there and get them, and it's a positive emotional situation, even
in a bad situation.
you can you can influence them to start thinking a little bit differently.
Actually, there's a story you told in the last school night that we did about the
guy who lost his dad, I believe it was, and he went to the baseball game.
Okay?
I'm sure his friends had a situation where they were empathetic, or at least
sympathetic, and that allowed them to come up.
It says, hey, I'm here for you, can you open your door and let me in a little bit?
Because I've been where you're at, I know exactly what you're experiencing, and now
because you're empathetic, they're open to your advice, and they're seeking you out
for answers as opposed to sympathy.
Like, hey, you don't know where I've been.
Or even if you just attack that from a purely logical standpoint.
100%.
It's almost with sympathy in particular, I think it also, people struggle with this
and I struggle with this because I never want someone to look at me differently.
I never want someone to look at me like I'm lesser or anything of that nature.
Right?
But empathy allows us to be together instead of like, you're like, man, I'm so
sorry for you.
I feel so bad.
It's like, no, no, no, no, no.
You're like, show them that it's okay and they're going to get through this and they
have someone there.
Not just, I feel bad for you, I feel bad for you, I feel bad for you.
Because like, me personally, and this could be different.
other people, but for me personally, I never want that someone to just feel bad
for me.
You know, because I'm like, dude, I don't want you to look at me differently.
I don't want to be differently or I don't want to be different.
I want you, I just want people that care, be in my corner, be there for me and help
me through this.
That's what I want.
Don't feel sorry for me.
Hey, help me be more positive.
Right?
So like for me, I think empathy is a, is a big key and it's a such a big difference
in.
Situations might be the same, but which way you approach it is a theory.
empathy, is the difference of, again, that person getting through it and also opening
the door for yourself in that relationship.
Yeah.
So I think about that as like, you are a pretty kind of hope for that person when
you become unfaithful.
Thousand percent.
Because like, going back to the death thing, it's like, hey, if I had somebody
that lost their mom this week and I go empathize with them, they can think, all
right, well, I'm in this dark place right now, but I can see where he's at in his
life.
Overall, I can see that he's moved past it.
That gives me hope to be able to do the same.
And because that door is open, now you can start guiding them down that path.
It builds that trust immediately.
It opens a potential of like, Hey, you're going to be okay.
Because in that moment, it doesn't feel that way.
So that empathy is huge.
And I would even tie that to the intentional situation that we've been
having.
And detachment, all of this, honestly, is like, if you're in an argument with your
spouse, have some empathy.
Like what is it like, put yourself in their shoes again, it's that detachment
and being intentional in the situation.
But where's the empathy at in those discussions?
If you can bring empathy to that situation, guess what?
Now the whole thing diffuses itself.
Detaching allows you to choose and know which emotions to take up what time to.
help that situation.
And I think that's how we should probably end this.
Right.
Cause it, again, we talked about detaching, we talked about all these
things, but again, detaching is not, yes, it's removing emotion, but it's to be able
to understand what emotion you need or what you need to do.
So that's kind of, I think that's a, I think that's a hit dog.
a great wrap.
Yeah, that was a lot there guys.
So quick, hot, hit an episode about it here and do a little bit of work.
But I want to leave your brain with something to think about.
I put this in my Instagram stories this weekend.
It was a, it was a big,
conversation and maybe a little bit of a philosophical question.
When it comes to these different hours, when it comes to the actions, when it
comes to all these different things, I want you to think about over the last two
weeks, if you for the rest of your life moving forward from today.
were forced to lock in and repeat, put on repeat actions, the emotions of the last
two weeks, would you be happy with your life if they had to be locked in for the
rest of it?
Yes.
a good question.
Because I had people in my D actor like, man, I don't think I'd be happy.
Cool, guess what?
You have the ability to change that right now.
Yep.
Every single decision matters.
It's not going to happen by accident.
Love that, bro.
That's intentional at its finest.
I love that question.
Dude, that's beautiful.
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