Show Notes
Welcome to BeLieve Again. Hi I'm Maelynn, The Detox Chef. In this episode, I will be sharing with you - Who am I & The Magic of Being Happy instead of Being Right!
I have been a 'stay-at-home' mom managing a family of 7 for 10 years. Before this, I was working in the creative industry for 20 years and I was very passionate about my job and of course I love my pay even more! But I had to reluctantly sacrifice my job due to family issues like aging parent-in-law, rebellious domestic helper, my very prone to falling sick premature daughter and here's the worst reason... my husband is earning more than me so I must quit and stay-at-home to be the quai-quai wife & obedient daughter-in-law! Welcome to the real world... I hate it but I had to quit my job to fill in the blanks of being the perfect wife, mother & daughter-in-law... and ya, did I mention the perfect domestic helper as well!
Who you gonna call when there's no more toilet paper? Who you gonna call when there's no more Colgate? Who you gonna call when they cannot find their favourite Renoma briefs or Nike running shoes? Who do they call when hunger pang strikes? Me. Me. Me... Do you know when I go for my Zumba workouts, the whole village gets very worried, worried about me coming back late and also their meals too because the cook went out!!! Sometimes I wish I have a Grab clone service? I know all of you will want it too!
Luckily, there is still hope cos my mom-in-law helps me with the laundry which I hated most cos llaundry is a very tedious a labour intensive job! My sis-in-law help me with the washing of the dishes!
Most of my girlfriends had warned me about staying together with in-laws but I just cannot bring myself to force my hubby to become an unfilial son....it is afterall a good value... so I told myself... this woman is the mother of my husband, I must challenge myself to manage her... & guess what's my recipe for success? i prep myself to treat her like one of my clients whom I just need to work with... and because of this mindset, I always treated her with respect but of course, I never agree with most of her traditional beliefs.... She feels that my daughter should do the housework and not my son! She also feels that a girl should not be so highly educated cos ultimately she will get married and be a homemaker! She just need to find a rich husbamd! OMG! That mindset really Sucks! But I know I just need to work on my own kids and implant in them my beliefs and make sure they don't turn out to be her fruits of beliefs.
How do I survive you may ask... the answer is simple...I just don't change the leopard into a zebra since she's already an octogenarian. It is easier to be happy than to be right! Are you also managing your in-laws? Are you getting along fine with them? Do you choose to be happy instead of trying to be right! Don't expect everyone to follow your path and that will make you one happy woman. Like for me, I focus on the help that my mother-in-law is contributing at home doing the laundry which really makes heave endless sighs of relief. Can you imagine I would have to do all these if she doesn't render any assistance and thinks that as a mother-in-law, I shouldn't lift a finger in the houehold chores.
I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more advice on how to ignite the passion in you to be more confident in managing yourself, your business and also your marriage! Yes! we can have it all!
What is Believe Again by Maelynn Lim?
- Are you a stay-at-home mom for too many years?
- Tired of your mundane daily routine & endless 24/7 household chores?
- Feel that life is like that stagnant water waiting for that Andes mosquito to lay eggs?
- Completely forgotten about who you are and losing your self-worth?
- Oh... what about sex? Cannot get turned-on anymore?
Now it's time to open your hidden box of colour pencils and make it colourful, glorious and vibrant again. Yes! You can! Overcome your fears, find your purpose and ignite that passion in you! It's time to believe you are possible.