1 00:01:11,416 --> 00:01:16,076 two years ago, my family and I moved to Brazil. 2 00:01:16,076 --> 00:01:20,876 We hadn't intended on moving to Brazil, we had intended on moving to the UK. 3 00:01:20,876 --> 00:01:23,266 However, my husband's visa was denied. 4 00:01:23,266 --> 00:01:27,056 So we had a choice, we split up the family or we moved to Brazil. 5 00:01:27,056 --> 00:01:32,416 And I had been attempting to learn to speak Portuguese for about three years 6 00:01:32,416 --> 00:01:33,808 prior to this. 7 00:01:37,438 --> 00:01:42,428 I was still very afraid to speak and to have actual conversations with people. 8 00:01:42,428 --> 00:01:49,348 And so for the first probably year that I lived in Brazil, I didn't speak to anybody 9 00:01:49,348 --> 00:01:50,548 the whole time. 10 00:01:50,548 --> 00:01:53,308 I literally just said all the time, I don't speak Portuguese. 11 00:01:53,308 --> 00:01:54,288 You're not a Portuguese. 12 00:01:54,288 --> 00:01:56,968 And that's all I said to anybody. 13 00:01:56,968 --> 00:01:58,744 After about a year, 14 00:01:58,744 --> 00:02:05,324 of having no friends, of having made no connections with anybody and having made 15 00:02:05,324 --> 00:02:12,244 no progress with my Portuguese, I decided to throw myself to the walls and I started 16 00:02:12,244 --> 00:02:18,884 doing daily TikTok lives, speaking Portuguese to Brazilians. 17 00:02:18,884 --> 00:02:22,344 And I got off the first, I'm getting goosebumps even talking about it. 18 00:02:22,344 --> 00:02:27,836 I remember getting off the first live 19 00:02:27,836 --> 00:02:28,886 that was my proudest moment. 20 00:02:28,886 --> 00:02:32,306 I had spoken Portuguese almost the entire time. 21 00:02:32,306 --> 00:02:37,036 I had communicated with people in Portuguese so that they understood what I 22 00:02:37,036 --> 00:02:38,156 was saying. 23 00:02:38,156 --> 00:02:42,936 And I never thought that I would be able to learn a language, not in a million 24 00:02:42,936 --> 00:02:45,356 years. 25 00:02:45,356 --> 00:02:51,276 for me to have done it finally after faltering for so long was a huge relief. 26 00:02:51,276 --> 00:02:56,576 And I kept doing it every day until I finally got into that comfort zone where I 27 00:02:56,576 --> 00:02:57,592 could say, 28 00:02:57,592 --> 00:02:59,760 I speak Portuguese now. 29 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,060 That is incredibly inspiring. 30 00:03:03,060 --> 00:03:07,740 So now our audience is very confused because in your bio, they read that you 31 00:03:07,740 --> 00:03:14,280 were a financial executive, but you're in Brazil and I know, and they're gonna learn 32 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:19,040 in a second, that you have something very special planned for the next stage of your 33 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:19,980 life. 34 00:03:20,220 --> 00:03:23,540 And before we get to that, we're gonna keep the audience in suspense for a 35 00:03:23,540 --> 00:03:23,940 moment. 36 00:03:23,940 --> 00:03:25,260 I'll tell you a short story. 37 00:03:25,260 --> 00:03:27,600 So we just got back from Italy. 38 00:03:28,112 --> 00:03:33,312 and I'm talking to this waitress and I've been studying Duolingo basically for three 39 00:03:33,312 --> 00:03:38,912 weeks and I'm like I'm gonna speak Italian even if I can't speak shit in Italian so 40 00:03:38,912 --> 00:03:46,852 I'm speaking to this barista and I asked for a coffee so un caffè per favore and I 41 00:03:46,852 --> 00:03:53,612 say to her she says americano and now that's an insult because Italian people 42 00:03:53,612 --> 00:03:57,488 don't drink americano they drink espresso especially 43 00:03:57,488 --> 00:03:59,628 depending on the time of the day. 44 00:03:59,628 --> 00:04:01,308 So that's kind of an insult. 45 00:04:01,308 --> 00:04:02,058 you're a tourist. 46 00:04:02,058 --> 00:04:03,748 You want an Americano, right? 47 00:04:03,748 --> 00:04:05,278 So I answer correctly. 48 00:04:05,278 --> 00:04:07,348 I say, no, espresso. 49 00:04:07,348 --> 00:04:09,158 And then I continue and I say the following. 50 00:04:09,158 --> 00:04:09,938 Now there's a song. 51 00:04:09,938 --> 00:04:10,988 I don't know if you know it. 52 00:04:10,988 --> 00:04:12,648 It's called La Italiano. 53 00:04:12,648 --> 00:04:17,248 And basically the song, one of the things in the song says, in Italy, I'm a real 54 00:04:17,248 --> 00:04:18,148 Italian. 55 00:04:18,148 --> 00:04:21,048 Real Italians, all the coffee is short, ristretto. 56 00:04:21,048 --> 00:04:23,778 So I say to her, io sono Italiano. 57 00:04:23,778 --> 00:04:24,944 I'm Italian. 58 00:04:24,944 --> 00:04:27,564 I am Italian, real Italian. 59 00:04:27,564 --> 00:04:31,184 And real Italian is from the song and it means a proper Italian. 60 00:04:31,184 --> 00:04:34,744 And so she of course fell down laughing. 61 00:04:34,744 --> 00:04:39,044 So I love your story because I think language is such an important way to 62 00:04:39,044 --> 00:04:42,884 connect to people and hearing you go through that journey, I felt the 63 00:04:42,884 --> 00:04:43,564 goosebumps as well. 64 00:04:43,564 --> 00:04:45,004 That's absolutely amazing. 65 00:04:45,004 --> 00:04:49,664 And you're in Brazil, you're starting a new phase of your life and you're doing 66 00:04:49,664 --> 00:04:50,794 something incredibly interesting. 67 00:04:50,794 --> 00:04:55,263 Tell us about it. 68 00:04:55,324 --> 00:05:01,964 was inspired probably around a year ago now to create a healing center. 69 00:05:01,964 --> 00:05:08,944 Now I received this idea in meditation and I work with my intuition. 70 00:05:08,944 --> 00:05:09,784 That's what I do. 71 00:05:09,784 --> 00:05:11,014 I follow my intuition. 72 00:05:11,014 --> 00:05:13,224 I live an intuitive lifestyle. 73 00:05:13,224 --> 00:05:14,754 So I saw this vision. 74 00:05:14,754 --> 00:05:16,214 It was kind of in a jungle. 75 00:05:16,214 --> 00:05:19,704 There were rooms and I knew that it was a healing center. 76 00:05:19,704 --> 00:05:23,288 It was a place people could go to unlearn. 77 00:05:23,288 --> 00:05:29,647 the limitations that they are living by and embrace a new lifestyle following 78 00:05:29,647 --> 00:05:31,988 their intuition. 79 00:05:32,028 --> 00:05:35,188 And so I had absolutely no idea how I would do this. 80 00:05:35,188 --> 00:05:36,178 I was in Brazil. 81 00:05:36,178 --> 00:05:37,848 I didn't have a visa to work. 82 00:05:37,848 --> 00:05:41,668 I had had no income for about a year and a half at this point. 83 00:05:41,668 --> 00:05:49,144 I was coaching people, but I wasn't yet making an income from coaching people. 84 00:05:49,144 --> 00:05:51,494 I didn't know where to start. 85 00:05:51,494 --> 00:05:53,704 It just seemed like a huge project. 86 00:05:53,704 --> 00:05:57,824 But my intuition had shown me what it wanted me to do, so I just started doing 87 00:05:57,824 --> 00:05:58,324 it. 88 00:05:58,324 --> 00:05:59,994 I put together a pitch deck. 89 00:05:59,994 --> 00:06:02,504 I started talking to people about the idea. 90 00:06:02,504 --> 00:06:07,324 I started getting ideas, getting momentum, connecting with other people that had 91 00:06:07,324 --> 00:06:10,908 opened similar spaces or wanted to open similar spaces. 92 00:06:10,908 --> 00:06:13,708 I need to stop you right there because this is crazy. 93 00:06:13,708 --> 00:06:16,708 I just need to bring the audience with us in this journey. 94 00:06:16,708 --> 00:06:18,108 You're a CFA. 95 00:06:18,188 --> 00:06:21,568 You were working for an investment company, right? 96 00:06:21,568 --> 00:06:28,568 Before that, if I'm not mistaken, you work for a bank, RBC, and you're an analyst. 97 00:06:28,568 --> 00:06:33,928 So you come from a very heavy analytical background and you clearly had some kind 98 00:06:33,928 --> 00:06:38,628 of mental breakdown associated with visions and you completely change your 99 00:06:38,628 --> 00:06:39,304 life. 100 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,420 Like you've got to, we can't just jump there. 101 00:06:42,420 --> 00:06:49,040 We've got to go through the goriness of, look, I am weary of talking to see, you 102 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:53,540 know, finance people because no offense there, but very often they're not, you are 103 00:06:53,540 --> 00:06:57,420 probably the most interesting, you know, finance person, you know, I've ever spoken 104 00:06:57,420 --> 00:06:57,880 to. 105 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:04,280 So walk us through your, let's call it existential crisis with the finance world. 106 00:07:04,280 --> 00:07:05,700 And I'm being a little dramatic here. 107 00:07:05,700 --> 00:07:09,310 I apologize, but you made a change. 108 00:07:09,392 --> 00:07:15,160 Give us a little bit of background before we jump into this exciting new phase. 109 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:25,520 Okay, so I had worked in finance for about 15 years when I decided to open a cafe. 110 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:33,900 So I was living in Sydney, Australia at the time, and I started putting together 111 00:07:33,900 --> 00:07:38,060 ideas and plans for a cafe while I was working in my finance job and actually 112 00:07:38,060 --> 00:07:40,100 while I was finishing my CFA. 113 00:07:40,100 --> 00:07:44,280 So all at the same time, I was working full time, I was studying for my CFA, and 114 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:45,968 I was planning to open a cafe. 115 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:55,740 I opened the cafe and later left finance with a vow never to go back. 116 00:07:55,740 --> 00:07:59,168 Following that, I opened another cafe and then a fine dining restaurant. 117 00:07:59,168 --> 00:08:00,988 we're not gonna let you off the hook. 118 00:08:00,988 --> 00:08:05,130 Why did you make the vow never to go back to finance? 119 00:08:05,176 --> 00:08:08,826 So finance, I enjoyed it. 120 00:08:08,826 --> 00:08:11,556 The money was good. 121 00:08:11,556 --> 00:08:16,536 The people were friendly, but I was never filled with passion by it. 122 00:08:16,536 --> 00:08:18,946 I did finance because I liked numbers. 123 00:08:18,946 --> 00:08:21,176 I studied mathematics at university. 124 00:08:21,176 --> 00:08:22,366 I liked numbers. 125 00:08:22,366 --> 00:08:27,976 I would have got into accounting simply for lack of knowledge that other careers 126 00:08:27,976 --> 00:08:30,436 existed using numbers. 127 00:08:30,436 --> 00:08:34,136 And then I remember after I left uni, somebody else went into finance and I was 128 00:08:34,136 --> 00:08:34,800 like, 129 00:08:34,912 --> 00:08:36,142 I don't have to be an accountant. 130 00:08:36,142 --> 00:08:38,062 There's this whole other industry I can do. 131 00:08:38,062 --> 00:08:43,812 So I kind of fell into finance and the role that I was doing, the analyst role, 132 00:08:43,812 --> 00:08:47,032 it was super easy. 133 00:08:47,032 --> 00:08:49,232 So we did monthly reporting. 134 00:08:49,232 --> 00:08:54,132 So I would only work really for about five days of the month for the other three 135 00:08:54,132 --> 00:08:54,992 weeks of the month. 136 00:08:54,992 --> 00:08:56,752 It was kind of project work. 137 00:08:56,752 --> 00:08:59,272 It was boring. 138 00:08:59,272 --> 00:09:04,312 And the career progression from where I was as an analyst, 139 00:09:04,312 --> 00:09:06,592 would be into management. 140 00:09:06,592 --> 00:09:09,312 And it's just not a route that I wanted to take. 141 00:09:09,312 --> 00:09:15,372 I didn't want to get myself further into finance, managing other people, helping 142 00:09:15,372 --> 00:09:17,232 other people with their careers. 143 00:09:17,232 --> 00:09:21,972 When it wasn't a career I got any fulfillment or enjoyment out of, like I 144 00:09:21,972 --> 00:09:25,252 always knew there was something else out there for me. 145 00:09:25,252 --> 00:09:26,882 I just didn't know what it was. 146 00:09:26,882 --> 00:09:31,112 And it was a very comfortable life, you know, with really good money, like the 147 00:09:31,112 --> 00:09:32,102 hours weren't so bad. 148 00:09:32,102 --> 00:09:34,296 I was able to work on other projects. 149 00:09:34,296 --> 00:09:38,876 while at work because for three weeks of the month we weren't busy. 150 00:09:38,876 --> 00:09:41,186 So, and for 15 years I did that. 151 00:09:41,186 --> 00:09:44,456 I was just, I was ready for the next challenge. 152 00:09:44,456 --> 00:09:45,996 And I love cooking. 153 00:09:45,996 --> 00:09:47,596 I love cooking. 154 00:09:47,596 --> 00:09:52,016 I grew up cooking with my father, cooking with my grandmother. 155 00:09:52,016 --> 00:09:55,576 I, like everybody told me that the sweet treats I made and I used to have people 156 00:09:55,576 --> 00:09:58,536 over for dinner all the time was really, really good. 157 00:09:58,536 --> 00:10:01,496 So I wanted to give that a go. 158 00:10:01,496 --> 00:10:03,756 So I opened the cafe. 159 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:08,880 and then another cafe in a restaurant, never to go back to finance. 160 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:10,920 And then it all got too much. 161 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:14,660 So the cafes and the restaurant were incredibly successful. 162 00:10:14,660 --> 00:10:19,300 The restaurant almost got the equivalent of a Michelin star in its first year. 163 00:10:19,300 --> 00:10:22,940 They don't have Michelin stars in Australia, they have chef's hats. 164 00:10:22,940 --> 00:10:25,960 So we were half a point off in our first year. 165 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:29,840 The cafes would have lines two hours long. 166 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:32,440 People would line up in the baking sun. 167 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:35,160 for two hours to get a seat at my cafes. 168 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:37,260 They were incredibly successful. 169 00:10:37,260 --> 00:10:42,940 But running a cafe and a restaurant together, you start work at 5 a and you 170 00:10:42,940 --> 00:10:47,460 finish work at 1 a Like it's not sustainable. 171 00:10:47,460 --> 00:10:50,920 And there's a massive chef shortage in Australia. 172 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:53,140 I believe other parts of the world have this as well. 173 00:10:53,140 --> 00:10:58,180 So the staff turnover was constant and I was constantly having to step in as a 174 00:10:58,180 --> 00:11:01,752 waitress, as a barista, as a chef sometimes. 175 00:11:01,752 --> 00:11:04,692 And so I always had to be there. 176 00:11:04,692 --> 00:11:05,752 I couldn't travel. 177 00:11:05,752 --> 00:11:08,092 I couldn't take time away. 178 00:11:08,092 --> 00:11:13,712 And at this time, so this was age like 28 to kind of 33. 179 00:11:13,712 --> 00:11:16,652 And I wanted to have a family. 180 00:11:17,032 --> 00:11:20,672 So I just I decided to give it all up. 181 00:11:20,672 --> 00:11:23,132 The restaurants were at a really great place. 182 00:11:23,132 --> 00:11:26,592 So I sold my share in the restaurants. 183 00:11:26,592 --> 00:11:30,612 It was like a year or two years before Covid. 184 00:11:30,612 --> 00:11:31,912 thank goodness. 185 00:11:31,912 --> 00:11:34,492 I didn't have to go through that with you. 186 00:11:36,952 --> 00:11:39,032 Yeah, excellent timing. 187 00:11:39,032 --> 00:11:40,392 So I did really well. 188 00:11:40,392 --> 00:11:42,492 I made a lot of money out of that. 189 00:11:42,492 --> 00:11:45,492 And that was me done with restaurants. 190 00:11:45,492 --> 00:11:47,636 I didn't know what to do with myself. 191 00:11:47,636 --> 00:11:51,966 call yourself in your LinkedIn financial executive emotional coach. 192 00:11:51,966 --> 00:11:52,916 That's not true. 193 00:11:52,916 --> 00:11:57,256 You're a serial entrepreneur and a successful one at that. 194 00:11:57,256 --> 00:11:59,198 Is that a fair statement? 195 00:12:00,344 --> 00:12:05,844 Yes, I would say serial entrepreneur is definitely a fair statement because I did 196 00:12:05,844 --> 00:12:10,304 go back to finance after the restaurants because I didn't know what else to do with 197 00:12:10,304 --> 00:12:10,804 myself. 198 00:12:10,804 --> 00:12:15,324 I had a lot of money and I knew it wouldn't last forever. 199 00:12:15,324 --> 00:12:20,164 I wanted to make sure I invested the money into something that would create a future 200 00:12:20,164 --> 00:12:21,324 for me. 201 00:12:21,424 --> 00:12:25,764 And like me personally, if I have money in my bank account, I'm going to be spending 202 00:12:25,764 --> 00:12:26,768 it. 203 00:12:26,768 --> 00:12:27,218 Right? 204 00:12:27,218 --> 00:12:29,788 I'm right there with you. 205 00:12:29,788 --> 00:12:35,496 six months, traveling, partying, going to festivals, living by myself. 206 00:12:35,496 --> 00:12:40,016 Okay, in those six months, like I've been in a lot of great places. 207 00:12:40,016 --> 00:12:45,056 Mine is definitely like Finland and Italy are probably one of the two best. 208 00:12:45,056 --> 00:12:49,456 And I've been everywhere from, you know, the Tierra del Fuego, the Fire Valley in 209 00:12:49,456 --> 00:12:55,956 Argentina to, you know, the, in the North, probably Finland and Far East everywhere. 210 00:12:56,076 --> 00:12:57,396 What is your favorite? 211 00:12:57,396 --> 00:13:00,808 Like what was the best of the best in those six months? 212 00:13:01,752 --> 00:13:06,812 I've been to a lot of countries but my favourite is the USA. 213 00:13:06,812 --> 00:13:10,072 I go back there again and again and again. 214 00:13:10,072 --> 00:13:13,812 I know, I know, I knew before I said it you were going to be bored with the 215 00:13:13,812 --> 00:13:15,092 answer. 216 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:15,660 God. 217 00:13:15,660 --> 00:13:16,680 Okay, okay, fine. 218 00:13:16,680 --> 00:13:17,470 Tell me why. 219 00:13:17,470 --> 00:13:18,720 Tell me why. 220 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:23,160 Okay, so for everybody listening, you know, I'm American in Colorado. 221 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:27,340 Eleanor is in Brazil now, but she used to be in the UK. 222 00:13:27,340 --> 00:13:28,240 Why? 223 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:28,960 Why America? 224 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,289 Come on, we have such a bad rep in Europe. 225 00:13:31,289 --> 00:13:33,128 How did that come to be? 226 00:13:33,591 --> 00:13:36,291 It's the variety for me. 227 00:13:36,291 --> 00:13:40,611 I love being able to do anything whenever I want. 228 00:13:40,611 --> 00:13:44,811 I love that in the US you can drive for an hour and a half and you can go skiing and 229 00:13:44,811 --> 00:13:48,631 then you can go another hour and a half and you can go to the desert, you can go 230 00:13:48,631 --> 00:13:54,151 to the city, you can go to the jungle, maybe not the jungle, but like the USA has 231 00:13:54,151 --> 00:13:55,211 everything. 232 00:13:55,211 --> 00:13:58,456 And the amount of times for the cafe I needed to... 233 00:13:58,456 --> 00:14:00,406 because we used to run bacon festivals. 234 00:14:00,406 --> 00:14:01,866 This is why it got so popular. 235 00:14:01,866 --> 00:14:04,176 This is why people lined up for so long. 236 00:14:04,176 --> 00:14:09,396 And whenever I wanted to buy something, accoutrements, for the bacon festival, I 237 00:14:09,396 --> 00:14:10,836 would have to get them from the US. 238 00:14:10,836 --> 00:14:14,276 And it just occurred to me that everything's in the US. 239 00:14:14,276 --> 00:14:20,336 Like when I go to a grocery store in the US and I see your shelves lined with every 240 00:14:20,336 --> 00:14:25,176 variety of every food you could ever imagine, and I compare that to what's 241 00:14:25,176 --> 00:14:26,456 available in Brazil. 242 00:14:26,456 --> 00:14:31,356 for example, where you can only buy Brazilian food. 243 00:14:31,356 --> 00:14:33,216 It's the variety. 244 00:14:33,216 --> 00:14:35,776 Like my life is all about variety. 245 00:14:35,776 --> 00:14:40,176 My life is about trying everything, experiencing everything. 246 00:14:40,176 --> 00:14:44,872 And to my mind, you can do that in the US better than anywhere else. 247 00:14:44,872 --> 00:14:47,172 I love that. 248 00:14:47,172 --> 00:14:48,812 I appreciate that answer. 249 00:14:48,812 --> 00:14:49,892 We're in Colorado. 250 00:14:49,892 --> 00:14:50,932 I love Colorado. 251 00:14:50,932 --> 00:14:51,582 And you're right. 252 00:14:51,582 --> 00:14:53,642 You can go to the Great Sand Dunes. 253 00:14:53,642 --> 00:14:55,342 And that's an hour or so. 254 00:14:55,342 --> 00:14:59,292 And you can go to amazing waterfalls and amazing lakes. 255 00:14:59,292 --> 00:15:04,932 And you can go skiing in what I think is the best locations in the world, right? 256 00:15:04,932 --> 00:15:05,812 Vail and Aspen. 257 00:15:05,812 --> 00:15:07,012 And I love Breckenridge. 258 00:15:07,012 --> 00:15:11,760 I'm not a fan of the expensive places. 259 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:14,060 You're right, it is true. 260 00:15:14,060 --> 00:15:18,120 And, you know, we'll make, if you know what pilmeni is, we'll make pilmeni at 261 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:18,720 home. 262 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:23,840 But we can go to Euro stores and buy, you know, everything from spotting sprouts to, 263 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:27,780 to, you know, all the European stuff to Brazilian stuff. 264 00:15:27,780 --> 00:15:30,670 Like, we just got caipirinhas the other day. 265 00:15:30,670 --> 00:15:32,270 So I agree with you. 266 00:15:32,270 --> 00:15:34,840 I think that's, I think that's a fair, fair answer. 267 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:37,860 I do miss the, the picanha. 268 00:15:37,860 --> 00:15:41,432 I do miss the terrascarias. 269 00:15:41,432 --> 00:15:42,548 Yeah. 270 00:15:42,548 --> 00:15:47,047 there are certain things in Brazil that you have to do in Brazil. 271 00:15:47,408 --> 00:15:49,648 But fair enough. 272 00:15:49,648 --> 00:15:52,408 So, okay, so wonderful. 273 00:15:53,248 --> 00:15:55,108 And then, what's next? 274 00:15:55,108 --> 00:16:02,900 What happened after? 275 00:16:02,900 --> 00:16:08,260 I went back to finance, but I was there temporarily, just knowing that I wanted to 276 00:16:08,260 --> 00:16:11,320 meet a guy, get married, have kids. 277 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:13,860 That was my goal at that time. 278 00:16:13,860 --> 00:16:15,560 Yeah. 279 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:17,270 So I did what I do. 280 00:16:17,270 --> 00:16:18,420 I set my intention. 281 00:16:18,420 --> 00:16:21,624 I wrote a list of all the... 282 00:16:21,624 --> 00:16:29,444 attributes I would like in a man and I got myself on Bumble and Tinder and I dated 283 00:16:29,444 --> 00:16:35,544 and I met the man of my dreams, the guy that ticked all the things on this list 284 00:16:35,544 --> 00:16:37,644 that I had set myself. 285 00:16:37,644 --> 00:16:42,224 Within six months we were engaged and we got pregnant on the same day that we got 286 00:16:42,224 --> 00:16:47,583 engaged, which was also my sister's birthday. 287 00:16:48,244 --> 00:16:49,016 And... 288 00:16:49,016 --> 00:16:50,996 And so I got that, right? 289 00:16:50,996 --> 00:16:51,686 That's what I wanted. 290 00:16:51,686 --> 00:16:53,136 I wanted a family. 291 00:16:53,656 --> 00:16:54,596 Yeah. 292 00:16:54,596 --> 00:16:55,916 Why not? 293 00:16:55,952 --> 00:16:57,032 Why not? 294 00:16:57,032 --> 00:17:03,032 I am totally in love with your outlook on how life should be lived. 295 00:17:03,032 --> 00:17:08,152 And I think you are the most amazing example of somebody who is, I'm going to 296 00:17:08,152 --> 00:17:12,412 take every ounce of life that I can get and I'm going to live it to the most. 297 00:17:12,412 --> 00:17:17,692 I just wish people would just listen carefully to you and absorb what you're 298 00:17:17,692 --> 00:17:21,152 giving out because this is how life needs to be lived. 299 00:17:21,152 --> 00:17:23,132 We don't have infinite time. 300 00:17:23,132 --> 00:17:24,944 We don't have infinite health. 301 00:17:24,944 --> 00:17:29,404 We can work hard to make sure that we have as much of it that we can by eating 302 00:17:29,404 --> 00:17:32,204 healthy, thinking healthy. 303 00:17:32,204 --> 00:17:35,084 And we'll talk about that too, because I know you've got something to say about 304 00:17:35,084 --> 00:17:35,684 that. 305 00:17:35,684 --> 00:17:39,064 But at the end of the day, the clock is ticking. 306 00:17:39,064 --> 00:17:46,364 And all I can do is advise to everybody not to be at the side of the room just 307 00:17:46,364 --> 00:17:51,184 watching, but grab life by its horns, so to speak. 308 00:17:51,184 --> 00:17:54,544 So let me just like, I feel goosebumps just, I love this. 309 00:17:54,544 --> 00:17:56,312 Okay, so, so. 310 00:17:56,312 --> 00:17:58,192 Just wait for the next part. 311 00:17:58,192 --> 00:17:59,836 It's gonna kill you. 312 00:17:59,836 --> 00:18:02,796 know, I set you up and die. 313 00:18:02,796 --> 00:18:06,836 so you're living life large. 314 00:18:06,836 --> 00:18:08,072 What does that mean? 315 00:18:09,529 --> 00:18:12,619 Well, so now I've got what I want, right? 316 00:18:12,619 --> 00:18:19,449 I've got my man, I've got my kids, and I'm doing this boring finance job. 317 00:18:20,229 --> 00:18:21,849 COVID hits. 318 00:18:22,349 --> 00:18:24,929 End of the world as we know it, right? 319 00:18:24,929 --> 00:18:28,389 So I have my first kid, COVID. 320 00:18:28,389 --> 00:18:31,269 I have my second kid, COVID. 321 00:18:31,349 --> 00:18:33,129 Airports are locked down in Australia. 322 00:18:33,129 --> 00:18:34,809 We were not flying in or out. 323 00:18:34,809 --> 00:18:35,559 Lockdown. 324 00:18:35,559 --> 00:18:36,449 Nobody going anywhere. 325 00:18:36,449 --> 00:18:37,519 So I couldn't see my family. 326 00:18:37,519 --> 00:18:39,029 My husband couldn't see his family. 327 00:18:39,029 --> 00:18:39,288 He's... 328 00:18:39,288 --> 00:18:40,308 Brazilian. 329 00:18:40,308 --> 00:18:43,928 So we decided as soon as lockdown ends, we're out of there. 330 00:18:43,928 --> 00:18:45,248 We're leaving Australia. 331 00:18:45,248 --> 00:18:47,208 We're going to move to the UK. 332 00:18:47,908 --> 00:18:49,808 So we made plans to do that. 333 00:18:49,808 --> 00:18:51,598 We shipped our stuff to the UK. 334 00:18:51,598 --> 00:18:53,908 We shipped our dogs to the UK. 335 00:18:53,908 --> 00:18:58,868 We went to Brazil to await the visa, which should take two weeks. 336 00:18:58,868 --> 00:18:59,588 It didn't. 337 00:18:59,588 --> 00:19:00,768 It took six months. 338 00:19:00,768 --> 00:19:04,504 So we were stuck in Brazil for six months. 339 00:19:04,504 --> 00:19:08,424 during which time I basically burnt through all the rest of the money that I 340 00:19:08,424 --> 00:19:17,004 had made from the restaurants because we were stuck with no income and we were in a 341 00:19:17,004 --> 00:19:17,844 pickle. 342 00:19:17,944 --> 00:19:23,164 So once we got the visa denial, we decided to stay in Brazil. 343 00:19:23,164 --> 00:19:31,264 And for the following, let's say, year, it was dire straits. 344 00:19:31,264 --> 00:19:33,832 No money, no income. 345 00:19:33,912 --> 00:19:38,152 No idea what to do with our lives. 346 00:19:38,152 --> 00:19:44,992 And like just a struggle every month to magic rent from nowhere, to magic money 347 00:19:44,992 --> 00:19:48,532 for bills and food and to pay for the kids' school. 348 00:19:48,952 --> 00:19:52,572 And I knew, so I had this vision, right? 349 00:19:52,572 --> 00:19:54,892 I had this vision, the healing center. 350 00:19:54,892 --> 00:19:56,672 I didn't know how I was gonna do it. 351 00:19:56,672 --> 00:20:00,012 I had no idea, but I knew I was doing it. 352 00:20:00,012 --> 00:20:03,896 And so I set my mind on it. 353 00:20:03,896 --> 00:20:06,796 on that single focus, right? 354 00:20:06,796 --> 00:20:11,136 Every single day I got onto TikTok and I was coaching. 355 00:20:11,136 --> 00:20:16,756 I was live coach, I still do it, live coaching on TikTok until I got like 356 00:20:16,756 --> 00:20:20,136 clients, my own clients. 357 00:20:20,136 --> 00:20:25,436 And I had to practice what I preach because I tell people to follow their 358 00:20:25,436 --> 00:20:25,786 intuition. 359 00:20:25,786 --> 00:20:28,396 I teach people how to follow their intuition. 360 00:20:28,396 --> 00:20:33,592 And opportunities came up to get income. 361 00:20:33,592 --> 00:20:34,212 Right? 362 00:20:34,212 --> 00:20:39,972 And I had to decide, am I going to practice what I preach and stay focused on 363 00:20:39,972 --> 00:20:45,232 this one goal, or am I going to go back to finance, because I had a finance 364 00:20:45,232 --> 00:20:48,732 opportunity, and give up on this dream? 365 00:20:49,052 --> 00:20:50,592 I stuck with it. 366 00:20:50,592 --> 00:20:51,322 I stuck with it. 367 00:20:51,322 --> 00:20:54,222 And everybody was just telling me, you are crazy. 368 00:20:54,222 --> 00:20:55,342 Like, you need a job. 369 00:20:55,342 --> 00:20:55,982 Get a job. 370 00:20:55,982 --> 00:20:58,652 One of you needs to get, because my husband doesn't work either. 371 00:20:58,732 --> 00:21:01,624 He was working for a while. 372 00:21:01,624 --> 00:21:04,774 at a gym, but the wages in Brazil are awful. 373 00:21:04,774 --> 00:21:09,224 He was working six days a week and earning $92 a month. 374 00:21:09,324 --> 00:21:10,884 So just terrible, right? 375 00:21:10,884 --> 00:21:15,204 Imagine going to work for six hours a day, knowing that you're earning like $5 for 376 00:21:15,204 --> 00:21:16,264 the entire day. 377 00:21:16,264 --> 00:21:17,743 It was demotivating. 378 00:21:17,743 --> 00:21:19,284 It wasn't paying our bills. 379 00:21:19,284 --> 00:21:22,144 It was just wasting his time, basically. 380 00:21:22,344 --> 00:21:23,784 I stuck with it. 381 00:21:23,784 --> 00:21:24,824 Single focus. 382 00:21:24,824 --> 00:21:25,634 I'm doing this. 383 00:21:25,634 --> 00:21:26,374 I'm doing this. 384 00:21:26,374 --> 00:21:27,074 No plan B. 385 00:21:27,074 --> 00:21:28,470 I'm doing this. 386 00:21:28,568 --> 00:21:35,748 And I kept talking about it and I kept coaching and it all literally just 387 00:21:35,748 --> 00:21:37,468 magically fell into place. 388 00:21:37,468 --> 00:21:43,128 So last time I spoke with you, Ari, I was still looking for investors, right? 389 00:21:43,128 --> 00:21:45,668 Now I don't need them anymore. 390 00:21:45,668 --> 00:21:49,128 So my intuition led me to a place. 391 00:21:49,128 --> 00:21:50,048 Thank you. 392 00:21:50,048 --> 00:21:51,928 I'm getting goosebumps again. 393 00:21:52,068 --> 00:21:56,268 My intuition led me to a place that would be amazing for the Healing Center. 394 00:21:56,268 --> 00:21:58,392 It's a paradise island. 395 00:21:58,392 --> 00:22:03,392 And my intention was to purchase land and buy and build my own center. 396 00:22:03,612 --> 00:22:10,372 About a month ago, some friends of ours that own, we call it a posada in Brazil, a 397 00:22:10,372 --> 00:22:13,512 motel is probably the closest translation. 398 00:22:13,512 --> 00:22:18,412 They own a motel with four rooms and a small communal area. 399 00:22:18,412 --> 00:22:20,312 They've had enough of running it. 400 00:22:20,312 --> 00:22:24,012 They said, hey, we know you want to do this here. 401 00:22:24,012 --> 00:22:29,752 Do you want our hotel? 402 00:22:29,752 --> 00:22:33,012 Like, I couldn't have planned it better myself. 403 00:22:33,012 --> 00:22:39,612 So from the 1st of September, my healing center is ready to go. 404 00:22:39,612 --> 00:22:41,232 Just as is. 405 00:22:41,232 --> 00:22:43,694 Somebody just gave me one. 406 00:22:44,228 --> 00:22:49,208 So, okay, so let's, okay, few things we need to do some administration here. 407 00:22:49,208 --> 00:22:51,828 Okay, where in Brazil is this? 408 00:22:52,568 --> 00:22:56,608 So this is gonna be in a place called Carreira in Bahia, Brazil. 409 00:22:56,928 --> 00:23:03,688 It's a very small, they call it an island because it's cut off by the river on one 410 00:23:03,688 --> 00:23:07,668 side, the ocean on the other side, and native tribal lands on the other side. 411 00:23:07,668 --> 00:23:09,488 So you can't access it. 412 00:23:09,488 --> 00:23:10,918 There's no cars there. 413 00:23:10,918 --> 00:23:12,528 You have to take a boat. 414 00:23:12,528 --> 00:23:17,108 It's just the perfect place to go and disconnect from everything. 415 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,880 Question number two, who is your audience? 416 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,018 Who can come and do this? 417 00:23:23,384 --> 00:23:31,124 My audience is particularly people sort of around my age, so kind of around midlife, 418 00:23:31,124 --> 00:23:35,624 that have put all of their focus into one area of their life, whether it be their 419 00:23:35,624 --> 00:23:38,564 family, their career, whatever it may be. 420 00:23:38,564 --> 00:23:42,724 And now they're ready for a more rounded experience. 421 00:23:42,724 --> 00:23:48,564 Or they've been through some life changing event recently, such as a divorce or 422 00:23:48,564 --> 00:23:50,488 moving to a new place. 423 00:23:50,488 --> 00:23:54,908 and they want to restart their life, but they want to restart it and do it right 424 00:23:54,908 --> 00:23:58,864 this time and have a full life. 425 00:23:58,894 --> 00:24:00,664 America, anywhere in the world? 426 00:24:00,664 --> 00:24:02,224 Who are you? 427 00:24:02,664 --> 00:24:03,064 I know. 428 00:24:03,064 --> 00:24:03,444 Okay. 429 00:24:03,444 --> 00:24:04,472 So from, sorry. 430 00:24:04,472 --> 00:24:07,344 audience is in Australia, the UK and the US. 431 00:24:07,344 --> 00:24:13,584 Okay, so basically American going through what can only be described as a midlife 432 00:24:13,584 --> 00:24:20,864 crisis or similar to and wants to figure shit out but prefers not to buy a new car 433 00:24:20,864 --> 00:24:23,244 or divorce my wife. 434 00:24:23,244 --> 00:24:28,224 That's basically, that's, hey, like that's a reality, right? 435 00:24:28,224 --> 00:24:29,832 Let's be honest. 436 00:24:29,832 --> 00:24:34,512 or if you do want to do that, come to us first and let's see if that's the right 437 00:24:34,512 --> 00:24:35,232 move for you. 438 00:24:35,232 --> 00:24:36,752 Because maybe it is. 439 00:24:37,060 --> 00:24:39,420 don't know if I agree with that. 440 00:24:39,420 --> 00:24:44,240 Maybe, but it's an expensive move, both the car and the divorce. 441 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:49,980 So I would definitely say talk to Eleanor first before buying an expensive car or 442 00:24:49,980 --> 00:24:52,840 the car will probably be cheaper in the long run. 443 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:56,540 Apologize for saying that. 444 00:24:56,540 --> 00:24:59,780 OK, so we understand who. 445 00:24:59,780 --> 00:25:01,518 Let's talk about the what. 446 00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:05,220 So clearly, you know, I'm going through something. 447 00:25:05,220 --> 00:25:06,410 I want to get out. 448 00:25:06,410 --> 00:25:09,840 I want to rethink and I want to refocus. 449 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:13,260 And I want to find basically the second stage of my life. 450 00:25:13,260 --> 00:25:16,400 I want to make sure that I'm getting the most out of it because I understand that 451 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,060 I'm halfway to the grave. 452 00:25:18,060 --> 00:25:19,020 Right. 453 00:25:19,020 --> 00:25:32,400 How do you do that? 454 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,788 What do I expect to go through in this retreat? 455 00:25:37,656 --> 00:25:42,506 So the skills that I teach, there's two main disciplines that I work in. 456 00:25:42,506 --> 00:25:50,436 The first is Emotional intelligence. 457 00:25:50,436 --> 00:25:56,156 Emotional intelligence is a very simple and important skill that people are not 458 00:25:56,156 --> 00:25:57,116 taught. 459 00:25:57,256 --> 00:26:03,636 Emotional intelligence is gaining control of your feelings in order to create your 460 00:26:03,636 --> 00:26:04,796 reality. 461 00:26:04,936 --> 00:26:07,330 And it's very simple to do. 462 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,380 but you've got to do it all the time. 463 00:26:10,380 --> 00:26:11,500 It's very simple. 464 00:26:11,500 --> 00:26:13,140 You need to feel your feelings. 465 00:26:13,140 --> 00:26:14,040 That's it. 466 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:16,060 That's how to be emotionally intelligent. 467 00:26:16,060 --> 00:26:17,430 You need to feel your feelings. 468 00:26:17,430 --> 00:26:18,060 That's it. 469 00:26:18,060 --> 00:26:20,600 Most people don't do that. 470 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:24,680 Most people repress their feelings or they express their feelings or they avoid their 471 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:25,380 feelings. 472 00:26:25,380 --> 00:26:27,080 That is not emotionally intelligent. 473 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:28,090 So that's the first part. 474 00:26:28,090 --> 00:26:32,240 The second part is the intuition, following your intuition. 475 00:26:32,360 --> 00:26:36,484 So on an experience at the Universal Healing Retreat, 476 00:26:36,504 --> 00:26:44,164 You will start by bringing awareness to what it is that's holding you back, 477 00:26:44,164 --> 00:26:48,664 bringing awareness to the limiting beliefs that are running your subconscious 478 00:26:48,664 --> 00:26:52,424 programming and eliminating them. 479 00:26:52,623 --> 00:26:54,644 That's the first step. 480 00:26:54,644 --> 00:27:01,224 The second step is then to identify what it is you want to be doing. 481 00:27:01,464 --> 00:27:04,858 And we can do this using intuition. 482 00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:09,400 So there are several skills that I teach on how to communicate with your intuition, 483 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:15,280 how to sort of awaken your intuition, because most of us have dumbed ours down 484 00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,980 by avoiding our feelings and by distracting ourselves. 485 00:27:19,980 --> 00:27:22,188 So most of us don't have a good relationship. 486 00:27:22,188 --> 00:27:23,408 killed, right? 487 00:27:23,408 --> 00:27:27,648 Like kids can do this and yet adults have forgotten. 488 00:27:27,648 --> 00:27:28,468 we're good. 489 00:27:28,468 --> 00:27:32,068 After that, after we start school, we're done for. 490 00:27:33,068 --> 00:27:33,920 So... 491 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:37,568 in itself, but that's a topic for a conversation for a different day. 492 00:27:38,136 --> 00:27:42,956 Yeah, when NASA did research into it in like 1967 and they proved that every like 493 00:27:42,956 --> 00:27:47,636 95 % of people have the capability of being a genius until they hit five and 494 00:27:47,636 --> 00:27:52,216 then the number steadily decreases until by the time you're 12, only 5 % of people 495 00:27:52,216 --> 00:27:56,036 are able to become geniuses, you know, whatever it is. 496 00:27:56,036 --> 00:28:00,056 Yeah, so we're like, we're forcing it out of people. 497 00:28:00,056 --> 00:28:02,946 And, and I want to bring it back. 498 00:28:02,946 --> 00:28:06,744 So, so we go through a process whereby we kind of 499 00:28:06,744 --> 00:28:12,624 unlearn these limiting beliefs, we bring awareness, we let them go, and then we 500 00:28:12,624 --> 00:28:18,064 relearn what it is we want to be doing or what it is we're here to be doing. 501 00:28:18,064 --> 00:28:23,514 Some people think of it as finding their purpose and then get you on that track, 502 00:28:23,514 --> 00:28:25,704 get you started with that. 503 00:28:25,704 --> 00:28:33,684 And that is where my experience, my crazy work experience from all over the place 504 00:28:33,684 --> 00:28:36,367 comes into play. 505 00:28:36,376 --> 00:28:42,576 Because my goal through these retreats is not to give people a tool and be like, 506 00:28:42,576 --> 00:28:45,556 hey, OK, now go away, create your dream life. 507 00:28:45,556 --> 00:28:50,196 No, I want to give you the tools, and then I want to get you started. 508 00:28:50,276 --> 00:28:56,236 And so I have big ideas about where this is going to go in the future in order to 509 00:28:56,236 --> 00:28:58,676 help people do that most effectively. 510 00:28:58,956 --> 00:29:04,824 And I want my own reality TV channel based on this. 511 00:29:04,824 --> 00:29:09,904 to allow people to get businesses started through creating audiences on social 512 00:29:09,904 --> 00:29:14,164 media, depending on what it is they want to do, of course. 513 00:29:14,164 --> 00:29:20,584 But with the end goal being when you leave, you know what you want to do, 514 00:29:20,584 --> 00:29:29,584 you're on a path to do it, and there is nothing that can get in your way anymore. 515 00:29:29,584 --> 00:29:31,284 everything about this. 516 00:29:31,284 --> 00:29:35,024 I want to take a pause and talk to the skeptics. 517 00:29:35,544 --> 00:29:40,644 Everything that you're talking about is incredibly based on science. 518 00:29:40,644 --> 00:29:44,924 There is a lot of research that is talking about everything that you're talking 519 00:29:44,924 --> 00:29:45,134 about. 520 00:29:45,134 --> 00:29:47,764 So I want to take a second to talk about it. 521 00:29:47,764 --> 00:29:54,324 So if you are a skeptic and you don't know anything about biases and cognitive biases 522 00:29:54,324 --> 00:29:58,928 that are stopping you and how your brain works and brain one and two, 523 00:29:58,928 --> 00:30:03,588 What I would recommend before you discount anything that Eleanor is talking about, go 524 00:30:03,588 --> 00:30:08,988 and read Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky. 525 00:30:08,988 --> 00:30:11,388 Go and educate yourself on the science. 526 00:30:11,388 --> 00:31:22,764 Go look up the articles that were mentioned and... 527 00:31:37,266 --> 00:31:40,926 because that's the basis for all the things we're talking about that are 528 00:31:40,926 --> 00:31:44,946 basically limiting yourself based on these shortcuts that your brain takes. 529 00:31:44,946 --> 00:31:50,450 And then the education that's been beaten into us, which is preventing... 530 00:31:50,450 --> 00:31:53,650 you know, all these, let's say characteristics that allow us to be 531 00:31:53,650 --> 00:31:58,690 successful because we're all kind of being trained to be factory workers to none of 532 00:31:58,690 --> 00:31:59,710 our fault. 533 00:31:59,710 --> 00:32:04,790 But taking the skepticism away for a second and allowing our audience to do 534 00:32:04,790 --> 00:32:08,570 their research offline, let's come back. 535 00:32:08,570 --> 00:32:12,170 So, so we're coming to this retreat. 536 00:32:12,230 --> 00:32:15,350 We are, we're not learning tools. 537 00:32:15,350 --> 00:32:19,110 We're practicing how to experience our feelings. 538 00:32:19,110 --> 00:32:20,530 We're practicing. 539 00:32:20,530 --> 00:32:27,490 how to build the self -awareness to learn from our mistakes and to become better and 540 00:32:27,490 --> 00:32:31,570 putting ourselves on a journey towards something that is very defined. 541 00:32:31,570 --> 00:32:35,110 We know we wanna go and we're on the path to achieving it. 542 00:32:35,110 --> 00:32:39,210 Is that a good, did I get it? 543 00:32:39,210 --> 00:32:41,070 Okay, wonderful. 544 00:32:41,150 --> 00:32:41,990 Anel, okay. 545 00:32:41,990 --> 00:32:44,750 So I gotta tell you. 546 00:32:45,650 --> 00:32:47,170 I don't know what the statistics are. 547 00:32:47,170 --> 00:32:50,630 I haven't researched this, but I feel like every single person that I know that hits 548 00:32:50,630 --> 00:32:58,190 40, 41, 42, sometimes before, they go through some version of realization that 549 00:32:58,190 --> 00:33:04,890 they are halfway through their proverbial midlife crisis. 550 00:33:04,890 --> 00:33:09,910 And I think that this is such an amazing thing to be able to, in a structured way 551 00:33:09,910 --> 00:33:18,348 based on science, to really choose what is the next part of your life. 552 00:33:18,348 --> 00:33:20,458 Yeah, that's how powerful is that? 553 00:33:20,458 --> 00:33:21,990 Simply to choose. 554 00:33:25,458 --> 00:33:27,418 people are allowing their... 555 00:33:27,418 --> 00:33:31,218 the most important choices in their life to be out of their hands, which is 556 00:33:31,218 --> 00:33:31,628 ridiculous. 557 00:33:31,628 --> 00:33:34,394 Like, why would we agree to that? 558 00:33:35,372 --> 00:33:37,912 We burden ourselves with obligation. 559 00:33:37,912 --> 00:33:40,812 We do stuff because we think we have to. 560 00:33:40,812 --> 00:33:44,062 And we do things only because we think we have to. 561 00:33:44,062 --> 00:33:47,892 Like most people work for money, right? 562 00:33:47,892 --> 00:33:53,172 You go looking for a job and you look what's gonna pay me the most that I can 563 00:33:53,172 --> 00:33:54,012 do. 564 00:33:54,012 --> 00:33:57,912 Why are we not looking for a job that we want to do? 565 00:33:57,912 --> 00:34:00,032 We don't. 566 00:34:00,192 --> 00:34:03,090 And every single decision in life is like this. 567 00:34:03,090 --> 00:34:03,910 That's right. 568 00:34:03,910 --> 00:34:05,950 But here's what our parents tell us, right? 569 00:34:05,950 --> 00:34:07,510 Like, you don't need to love your job. 570 00:34:07,510 --> 00:34:10,990 You need to make a living, you know, have a family. 571 00:34:10,990 --> 00:34:15,890 And, you know, if you're angry or upset, like, you know, push that far down. 572 00:34:15,890 --> 00:34:17,650 And, you know, nobody's life is perfect. 573 00:34:17,650 --> 00:34:21,750 And to quote Zootopia, I don't know if you saw the kids movie, it's like, you know, 574 00:34:21,750 --> 00:34:24,730 the two rabbits are talking amongst themselves about how to be happy. 575 00:34:24,730 --> 00:34:28,290 And then the both, they say, we settled, we settled hard. 576 00:34:28,290 --> 00:34:32,466 That's the secret in being happy, to settle. 577 00:34:32,466 --> 00:34:36,286 But that's what we've been taught, right? 578 00:34:36,286 --> 00:34:38,486 You settle for a partner, right? 579 00:34:38,486 --> 00:34:43,926 You settle for work, like your boss is probably gonna be not the best, but pays 580 00:34:43,926 --> 00:34:45,366 the salary. 581 00:34:45,366 --> 00:34:47,386 It's what we're taught. 582 00:34:47,386 --> 00:34:50,866 But you're saying there's an alternative. 583 00:34:50,866 --> 00:34:53,766 Okay, so going back to the skeptics. 584 00:34:53,766 --> 00:34:55,946 Tell me about the success. 585 00:34:55,946 --> 00:34:57,536 So clearly you're a success story. 586 00:34:57,536 --> 00:34:59,926 I mean, clearly you've lived through this. 587 00:34:59,926 --> 00:35:02,290 But tell us about other people. 588 00:35:02,290 --> 00:35:05,790 that have gone through a similar journey. 589 00:35:05,790 --> 00:35:09,170 Because you came to this realization not from nowhere, right? 590 00:35:09,170 --> 00:35:11,970 You've helped other people through the TikToks. 591 00:35:11,970 --> 00:35:15,370 Give us a little bit more context to what this actually looks like. 592 00:35:15,370 --> 00:35:19,820 What will be the experience, not during the retreat, but after? 593 00:35:19,820 --> 00:35:21,178 What happens? 594 00:35:22,220 --> 00:35:23,870 Okay, so I've got a great example. 595 00:35:23,870 --> 00:35:26,680 One of my first ever live coaching clients. 596 00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:31,780 So she was attending my live coaching sessions on TikTok and she had just 597 00:35:31,780 --> 00:35:32,410 finished school. 598 00:35:32,410 --> 00:35:35,100 She lived in Africa in a very poor area. 599 00:35:35,100 --> 00:35:38,700 And when she first heard about my retreats, because I was talking about 600 00:35:38,700 --> 00:35:41,480 them, she said, I want to come, I need to be there. 601 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:42,520 I need to be there with you. 602 00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:43,880 I'm going to figure it out. 603 00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,320 So I said, okay, great. 604 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:47,820 Here's what to do. 605 00:35:47,820 --> 00:35:51,264 You need to consult with your intuition on how you're going to do that. 606 00:35:51,340 --> 00:35:54,420 So I gave her some tools on how to do that and I sent her away. 607 00:35:54,420 --> 00:35:57,980 She came back the next day and she said, okay, I spoke to my intuition. 608 00:35:57,980 --> 00:35:59,520 I'm starting a business. 609 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:03,800 I'm gonna borrow my aunt's deep fat fryer and I'm gonna cook chips and I'm gonna 610 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,760 sell them at my old school. 611 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,830 And the following week she came back. 612 00:36:09,830 --> 00:36:13,930 She said, right, I've got the fryer, I've got the products. 613 00:36:13,930 --> 00:36:14,810 I'm ready to go. 614 00:36:14,810 --> 00:36:16,460 I'm starting on Monday. 615 00:36:16,460 --> 00:36:18,000 She started on Monday. 616 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,084 She came back. 617 00:36:19,084 --> 00:36:24,984 another week later, so two weeks after she had had the idea, and she said, I've 618 00:36:24,984 --> 00:36:27,984 already made back enough money to buy my own air fryer. 619 00:36:28,684 --> 00:36:31,184 And she said, we're having problems though. 620 00:36:31,184 --> 00:36:33,214 The electricity keeps going out. 621 00:36:33,214 --> 00:36:35,804 When the electricity goes out, I can't cook my chips. 622 00:36:35,804 --> 00:36:38,184 So we had another little session, coaching session. 623 00:36:38,184 --> 00:36:39,784 I said, speak with your intuition. 624 00:36:39,784 --> 00:36:41,584 Let's see what we can do here. 625 00:36:41,584 --> 00:36:44,784 So she did that and she's like, okay, I know what I'm going to do. 626 00:36:44,784 --> 00:36:48,076 I'm going to create some precooked foods. 627 00:36:48,076 --> 00:36:52,095 And so when the electricity goes out, I'm going to be the only one selling because 628 00:36:52,095 --> 00:36:53,616 everybody else has to shut down. 629 00:36:53,616 --> 00:36:54,846 I've got precooked foods. 630 00:36:54,846 --> 00:36:56,336 I'm going to be the only one selling. 631 00:36:56,336 --> 00:37:00,256 She came back another week or two later and she's like, I am killing it. 632 00:37:00,256 --> 00:37:01,476 I am making money. 633 00:37:01,476 --> 00:37:03,040 I am so happy. 634 00:37:03,158 --> 00:37:05,058 That is absolutely amazing. 635 00:37:05,058 --> 00:37:05,918 I love that so much. 636 00:37:05,918 --> 00:37:08,398 So she turned her problem into a competitive advantage. 637 00:37:08,398 --> 00:37:10,058 That's amazing. 638 00:37:10,578 --> 00:37:16,148 That's like, that is absolutely amazing. 639 00:37:16,148 --> 00:37:16,688 this. 640 00:37:16,688 --> 00:37:20,428 This is the thing, when you communicate with your intuition, you don't need to 641 00:37:20,428 --> 00:37:26,568 invest time and logic and like research into your answers. 642 00:37:26,568 --> 00:37:29,748 You ask your intuition, you get an answer and you do it. 643 00:37:29,748 --> 00:37:36,008 And it's going to be the best solution that there is for you at that time without 644 00:37:36,008 --> 00:37:38,668 any thought or any time delay. 645 00:37:38,668 --> 00:37:41,188 People don't do this. 646 00:37:42,162 --> 00:37:47,322 You know, it's funny almost every interview I have it's like I like but hold 647 00:37:47,322 --> 00:37:51,822 on what you're saying is so important and nobody's doing this like nobody gets it 648 00:37:51,822 --> 00:37:57,822 and It's like almost every time No, no, no, we're taught to be factory workers. 649 00:37:57,822 --> 00:38:03,082 It's it's it's a thing but but MBAs are not doing a much better job I'm MBA 650 00:38:03,082 --> 00:38:08,362 educated and you know, I'm not gonna not gonna not gonna talk bad things about my 651 00:38:08,362 --> 00:38:10,322 university, but but you know, I 652 00:38:10,322 --> 00:38:13,862 Higher education is not solving this problem either, unfortunately. 653 00:38:13,862 --> 00:38:17,902 Although they are teaching a lot of the science that does relate to what we're 654 00:38:17,902 --> 00:38:22,122 talking about today, but it's just the science part of it. 655 00:38:22,122 --> 00:38:25,162 Okay, Eleanor, you are an absolute delight. 656 00:38:25,162 --> 00:38:29,422 We have to have you back because I feel like I've written down so many notes of 657 00:38:29,422 --> 00:38:34,082 things that we need to talk about, but we just don't have the time today. 658 00:38:34,082 --> 00:38:36,302 So let's do this. 659 00:38:36,302 --> 00:38:39,282 I'm gonna ask you one thing. 660 00:38:39,282 --> 00:38:41,382 And that will be the last thing. 661 00:38:41,522 --> 00:38:46,962 If you had to give one last gift to our audience, one piece of advice beyond 662 00:38:46,962 --> 00:38:51,482 coming to your retreat, and I'm going to say definitely do that. 663 00:38:51,542 --> 00:38:56,642 I need to convince my wife how we come and visit you in Brazil because that is going 664 00:38:56,642 --> 00:38:58,553 to be amazing. 665 00:38:58,602 --> 00:39:03,862 But one piece of advice, free of charge, beyond come to my workshop. 666 00:39:03,862 --> 00:39:07,660 What would it be? 667 00:39:07,660 --> 00:39:14,340 The best advice I can give you to change your life is to feel your feelings. 668 00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:16,300 Feel your feelings. 669 00:39:16,300 --> 00:39:23,160 And what I mean when I say that is whenever you feel feelings come up and 670 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:28,160 ordinarily you would react in a particular way, whatever the circumstance is, catch 671 00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:33,960 yourself and take note of how your body feels. 672 00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,564 When you get, when you get... 673 00:39:35,564 --> 00:39:38,354 a reaction to something, a subconscious reaction. 674 00:39:38,354 --> 00:39:40,446 take note, what does that mean? 675 00:39:41,388 --> 00:39:46,948 What I mean is, let's say you get caught off in traffic and normally you would get 676 00:39:46,948 --> 00:39:48,448 really mad at the person. 677 00:39:48,448 --> 00:39:51,868 You would be beeping your horn, shouting out the window and being in a really bad 678 00:39:51,868 --> 00:39:55,348 mood for the next couple of hours, snapping at your coworkers, whatever, 679 00:39:55,348 --> 00:39:55,928 right? 680 00:39:55,928 --> 00:39:57,588 Take a second. 681 00:39:57,848 --> 00:39:59,688 You get caught off in traffic. 682 00:39:59,688 --> 00:40:05,228 You want to get mad, but you become aware instead and you feel the anger. 683 00:40:05,228 --> 00:40:07,728 You feel it in your body. 684 00:40:07,728 --> 00:40:10,956 Take away the label, angry. 685 00:40:10,956 --> 00:40:13,016 annoyed, frustrated. 686 00:40:13,016 --> 00:40:21,596 Remove the label and become present with how it actually feels in your body. 687 00:40:21,596 --> 00:40:24,396 Allow yourself to feel it. 688 00:40:24,396 --> 00:40:29,356 And no matter how hard you try, you can't hold onto that feeling. 689 00:40:29,356 --> 00:40:34,156 Most of us avoid feelings because we're afraid we're gonna die, right? 690 00:40:34,156 --> 00:40:36,186 Like, my God, no, it's too painful, I'm gonna die. 691 00:40:36,186 --> 00:40:37,572 You're not gonna die. 692 00:40:37,708 --> 00:40:43,168 the feeling will move through you if you allow it to, if you stop holding onto it, 693 00:40:43,168 --> 00:40:44,048 right? 694 00:40:44,048 --> 00:40:50,308 Allow the feeling to come up, reduce it to a physical sensation in your body with no 695 00:40:50,308 --> 00:40:55,908 labels, and just sit with it until it goes away and then move on. 696 00:40:56,082 --> 00:40:58,252 So, I mean, this is magical. 697 00:40:58,252 --> 00:41:03,302 And the reason why this works is because you can't get rid of something that you 698 00:41:03,302 --> 00:41:04,822 don't acknowledge. 699 00:41:05,022 --> 00:41:09,622 You can't get past something that you're unwilling to feel. 700 00:41:09,622 --> 00:41:16,142 And what happens is, and I use a similar technique by calling something out and 701 00:41:16,142 --> 00:41:20,942 saying, wait, hold on, let's take a moment to see where we are and what is happening. 702 00:41:20,942 --> 00:41:24,690 Because only when you acknowledge something, only when you accept it, 703 00:41:24,690 --> 00:41:27,990 then you're able to understand if you want it or don't want it. 704 00:41:27,990 --> 00:41:31,450 So it's such an incredibly powerful technique, what you've just described. 705 00:41:31,450 --> 00:41:33,490 And there is ample science behind it. 706 00:41:33,490 --> 00:41:38,250 So I'd advise people to go and understand the science working behind here. 707 00:41:38,250 --> 00:41:39,530 But it's so simple. 708 00:41:39,530 --> 00:41:40,390 Take a moment, right? 709 00:41:40,390 --> 00:41:41,050 That's what you're saying. 710 00:41:41,050 --> 00:41:42,390 Take a moment. 711 00:41:42,810 --> 00:41:44,410 Very, very powerful. 712 00:41:44,410 --> 00:41:45,360 Very, very powerful. 713 00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:49,590 And the second part of this that is incredibly powerful is this idea of self 714 00:41:49,590 --> 00:41:50,230 -awareness. 715 00:41:50,230 --> 00:41:52,562 And I would honestly say the same. 716 00:41:52,562 --> 00:41:57,262 I would say that the biggest gift that I could give somebody is self -awareness, is 717 00:41:57,262 --> 00:42:02,282 to be able to understand what you're going through, what you're feeling, what are you 718 00:42:02,282 --> 00:42:07,322 good and bad and uglies, and just to accept them, because that is part of your 719 00:42:07,322 --> 00:42:10,042 journey to get to where you want to go. 720 00:42:10,042 --> 00:42:13,202 And I feel like people who don't have self -awareness, they just stay in the same 721 00:42:13,202 --> 00:42:13,902 place. 722 00:42:13,902 --> 00:42:17,802 And then people who have self -awareness, they're on this infinite journey towards 723 00:42:17,802 --> 00:42:20,222 wherever they want. 724 00:42:20,222 --> 00:42:22,226 Eleanor, you are an... 725 00:42:22,226 --> 00:42:23,966 absolute delight. 726 00:42:23,966 --> 00:42:25,366 We're definitely going to have you back. 727 00:42:25,366 --> 00:42:27,266 This has been wonderful. 728 00:42:27,786 --> 00:42:29,146 Just give us one last thing. 729 00:42:29,146 --> 00:42:29,986 What's the website? 730 00:42:29,986 --> 00:42:31,466 How do we find you? 731 00:42:32,844 --> 00:42:35,874 So at the moment there's no website, I'm on social media. 732 00:42:35,874 --> 00:42:37,504 So I'm on TikTok. 733 00:42:37,504 --> 00:42:40,184 It's my name, elinor underscore mereles. 734 00:42:40,184 --> 00:42:41,732 And same on Instagram. 735 00:42:42,678 --> 00:42:48,018 We'll put the links to the Instagram and TikToks in the post. 736 00:42:48,138 --> 00:42:49,798 Otherwise, Eleanor, thank you so much. 737 00:42:49,798 --> 00:42:51,418 What an absolute delight. 738 00:42:51,418 --> 00:42:55,578 And I feel like the next session has to be in Brazil where we interview on site. 739 00:42:55,578 --> 00:42:56,738 That's the thing. 740 00:42:56,738 --> 00:42:58,238 That's going to be the next one. 741 00:42:58,238 --> 00:42:59,618 There you go. 742 00:42:59,618 --> 00:43:05,478 There you go. 743 00:43:05,478 --> 00:43:06,788 Eleanor, thank you so much. 744 00:43:06,788 --> 00:43:07,598 What a delight. 745 00:43:07,598 --> 00:43:09,674 And have a wonderful rest of your day. 746 00:43:10,034 --> 00:43:13,092 And I'll separate with saying, obrigado. 747 00:43:14,124 --> 00:43:17,266 Bye, thank you!