You can't give in to the fear, because healing won't happen.
Susan Snow is a speaker, coach, and author of the book “The Other Side of the Gun”.
Susan describes the overwhelming shock she felt when her father - a Los Angeles detective - got ambushed and shot in front of her brother’s school on Halloween. Her world was painted black and her young teenage life was thrust into a world of pain and loss. The trauma of losing a parent in such a violent manner created deep psychological scars, affecting her relationships and her sense of security.
This tragic event set the stage for her lifelong struggle with PTSD, a condition that would go undiagnosed for years. She openly speaks about the nightmares, anxiety, and flashbacks that haunted her daily life, and how these symptoms were often misunderstood by those around her. The lack of understanding and support only compounded her sense of isolation, making it even harder for her to find a path to healing.
One more school shooting was the pivotal moment when she began her healing journey. Through therapy, she started to unpack the layers of grief and trauma. Susan talks about the coping mechanisms she developed, such as mindfulness and self-care practices, which helped her regain control of her life.
Her journey was not easy, but Susan found strength in her vulnerability. She began to advocate for mental health awareness, using her story to help others struggling with similar issues.
Notes:
👨👧 Susan’s father was killed in a drive-by shooting at her brother’s school in 1985: when Susan was only 17.
02:05☹️ Living with unaddressed trauma: struggling with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts without knowing how to deal with them.
08:15👮♂️ Thomas C Williams was a great dad, very present in his relationship with his daughter: Susan’s abandonment issues; her shattered her sense of safety.
11:23👨⚕️ Mom’s self-sabotaging approach to coping with trauma and grief: starting generic therapy paid for by the LAPD.
14:22🕶️ Susan’s rose-colored glasses shattered: moving to Colorado and being triggered by a school shooting.
19:29🤯 Her first real therapist realized instantly she had PTSD.
22:54.
✍️ Insomnia, and being terrified of sleeping: therapy, journaling and breathing work.
27:47🤗 Embracing vulnerability in her life and her book: not giving in to the fears.
32:26⚡ Everyone has trauma, and many fear vulnerability: healing is a way to reclaim your power.
36:10💜 Give yourself grace when you don’t have it: healing your younger self and validating yourself.
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