Step into the evolving world of Dr. Stefani Ruper, a philosopher who journeyed from fierce atheism to exploring faith, meaning, and the power of intellectual vulnerability. Once set on a career in science and astrobiology, Stefani found herself questioning the limits of rationalism and discovering a richer, more complex relationship with truth, belonging, and belief.
In this conversation, Stefani shares how her early identity as a “rationalist” collided with the realization that dismissing the cherished beliefs of billions was its own form of arrogance. She opens up about her ongoing process of deconstructing and rebuilding worldviews, the emotional weight of aloneness, and the pursuit of safety and connection at the heart of human life.
We explore her concept of intellectual vulnerability — going beyond humility to actively invite others into reshaping our ideas — and how it can transform conversations, families, and even political divides. Along the way, Stefani reveals how storytelling, curiosity, and the willingness to say “I don’t know” can soften conflict and unlock deeper meaning in our lives.
Be inspired by Stefani’s radical openness, her call to celebrate not knowing, and her vision for a world where curiosity and compassion lead us closer to truth.
00:00 - Intro
02:08 - The Journey from Atheism to Faith
07:49 - The Quest For Meaning and Belonging
12:12 - Lessons from Religious Study
19:25 - Exploring Intellectual Vulnerability
23:20 - Approaching Conversations with Humility
27:33 - Intellectual Humility vs. Intellectual Vulnerability
28:33 - Rationalism and Its Limitations
35:11 - The Journey of Learning
36:55 - The Power of Storytelling
41:11 - Truth, Lies and Self Perception
45:51 - Untangling Beliefs and Self Discovery
50:52 - Frameworks for Intentional Change
57:45 - The Role of Belief in Interpersonal Relationships
1:03:38 - Embracing Uncertainty and Love
1:09:23 - The Last Thing Stefani Changed Her Mind About
1:13:03 - Where to Find Stefani