WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:05.330 --> 00:00:07.820 Lindsay: Welcome to the Lifting Lindsay podcast. 00:00:07.820 --> 00:00:11.420 I'm really excited for today's episode. 00:00:11.425 --> 00:00:13.820 I am here with Emilee Roberts. 00:00:13.990 --> 00:00:16.330 We just met on Instagram, didn't we? 00:00:16.330 --> 00:00:19.960 I feel like I meet the best people on, on social media. 00:00:20.675 --> 00:00:23.175 Emilee Roberts: That's where I find the best too sometimes. 00:00:23.395 --> 00:00:25.415 Lindsay: So that works that way. 00:00:25.420 --> 00:00:26.020 That's awesome. 00:00:26.920 --> 00:00:30.910 Well, it's interesting because you've been using my training 00:00:30.910 --> 00:00:35.830 app, and then I think that that's how I found you is you had shared 00:00:35.830 --> 00:00:37.570 something about using my training app. 00:00:37.570 --> 00:00:41.985 So I clicked on you and started looking through, and I just, loved 00:00:41.985 --> 00:00:46.635 what you stood for, what you were sharing, your positive attitude. 00:00:46.735 --> 00:00:50.155 I hate using the term before and after because I feel 00:00:50.160 --> 00:00:52.569 like that's not how it works. 00:00:52.569 --> 00:00:56.659 It's just like you made a transition and we're still learning and growing. 00:00:56.659 --> 00:01:01.579 There's no before and after in my mind, but I did see yours and 00:01:01.579 --> 00:01:03.589 I was just so, so, so impressed. 00:01:03.859 --> 00:01:07.339 So I want you to just kind introduce yourself, tell us a little bit 00:01:07.339 --> 00:01:12.229 about you and what your count is all about and what you are all about. 00:01:12.889 --> 00:01:13.129 Emilee Roberts: Okay. 00:01:13.129 --> 00:01:13.519 Well, 00:01:13.984 --> 00:01:17.569 I, I have been using your app and your, your training programs for 00:01:17.779 --> 00:01:23.179 probably about six months now, but before that, I couldn't get enough of 00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:25.729 your podcast, your Instagram content. 00:01:25.909 --> 00:01:28.879 I just felt like a sponge soaking everything in that you were sharing. 00:01:28.879 --> 00:01:32.389 I finally just was like, why am I not training with her too? 00:01:32.389 --> 00:01:34.579 So I made that transition and I loved it. 00:01:35.034 --> 00:01:40.764 I've always just felt very, connected to what you share on mindset, what you share 00:01:40.764 --> 00:01:42.924 on, I mean, whether you try to or not. 00:01:42.924 --> 00:01:45.234 I think that you talk a lot about confidence, which is kind of what 00:01:45.234 --> 00:01:46.224 we're gonna talk about today. 00:01:46.229 --> 00:01:48.119 I've been married for nearly 13 years. 00:01:48.119 --> 00:01:49.529 I have four kids. 00:01:50.369 --> 00:01:54.479 Oldest is 10, youngest is three, and he is, so three. 00:01:54.959 --> 00:01:57.899 Um, I have two redheads and for some reason the world 00:01:57.899 --> 00:01:59.609 thinks that's interesting. 00:01:59.819 --> 00:02:03.809 Lindsay: But it's interesting you have fiery redheads in your blood. 00:02:03.809 --> 00:02:04.409 I love it. 00:02:04.799 --> 00:02:05.129 Yeah. 00:02:05.129 --> 00:02:08.129 Emilee Roberts: My oldest and my youngest, I've got two little redheaded bookends. 00:02:08.229 --> 00:02:13.539 I live in a small town in like a farming rural community in southern Utah. 00:02:13.589 --> 00:02:19.499 I've worked in like the online kind of beauty space for like eight and a half, 00:02:19.499 --> 00:02:26.159 nine years, and that's kind of had to make me learn or relearn a little bit of where 00:02:26.159 --> 00:02:28.049 I really believe confidence comes from. 00:02:28.049 --> 00:02:33.419 And that's just kind of pushed zone and that comfort zone is always changing and 00:02:33.509 --> 00:02:35.879 has be changed in order for me to kind of. 00:02:36.749 --> 00:02:41.249 feel like I'm still growing as a person and it's ultimately I feel like been 00:02:41.249 --> 00:02:47.819 the thing that's urged me forward into a kind of this path of self discovery 00:02:47.819 --> 00:02:52.469 where I was, I'm still on, like you said, like not this before and after thing. 00:02:52.474 --> 00:02:57.119 It's just this constant transition of, of learning and growing and personal 00:02:57.119 --> 00:03:02.669 development and self-awareness and um, and hopefully somewhere along there there's 00:03:02.669 --> 00:03:04.469 a little sprinkled self-confidence. 00:03:05.624 --> 00:03:07.304 Lindsay: Well, you, you said something interesting. 00:03:07.304 --> 00:03:12.914 You said you had to relearn what confidence was. 00:03:12.919 --> 00:03:14.744 Speak a little bit to that. 00:03:15.649 --> 00:03:19.969 Emilee Roberts: I think that we correlate self-confidence as this, 00:03:19.979 --> 00:03:21.869 maybe like this one time grand event. 00:03:22.409 --> 00:03:27.269 That something happens and then I am confident I hit this 00:03:27.269 --> 00:03:29.789 goal and then I am confident. 00:03:30.449 --> 00:03:35.219 Um, but really what I've learned is that it's like this ever evolving and ever 00:03:35.219 --> 00:03:44.069 growing and this constant cycle of, of looking for it and feeling it and um, and 00:03:44.069 --> 00:03:45.839 searching for it and feeling it again. 00:03:45.839 --> 00:03:49.229 And maybe it comes to us in different ways, but it's never, 00:03:49.289 --> 00:03:51.299 it's never from a result. 00:03:51.689 --> 00:03:58.259 It's more from this process of becoming this process, of trying this process that 00:03:58.259 --> 00:04:03.639 includes grit, failure, tweaking, goal setting, planning, like all these things. 00:04:03.644 --> 00:04:05.169 But it's, it's not like this end result. 00:04:05.169 --> 00:04:10.089 It's not like this like huge climax where, oh, I did it today. 00:04:10.779 --> 00:04:11.409 Lindsay: You made it 00:04:13.289 --> 00:04:13.739 Emilee Roberts: relearn. 00:04:13.739 --> 00:04:16.439 But I of, oh. 00:04:16.829 --> 00:04:19.499 It's, it'll happen when, and 00:04:19.499 --> 00:04:20.249 that's the lie. 00:04:21.419 --> 00:04:22.829 Lindsay: That is so good. 00:04:22.829 --> 00:04:24.299 That is a huge lie. 00:04:24.389 --> 00:04:27.659 And I think that that's, you're, you're so right. 00:04:27.689 --> 00:04:32.819 People are waiting for the summit and they're waiting for that, that 00:04:32.824 --> 00:04:39.029 peak moment where, and, and people will often describe individuals as 00:04:39.029 --> 00:04:41.009 just, that's their state of being. 00:04:41.519 --> 00:04:42.659 They're confident. 00:04:43.169 --> 00:04:45.419 And I know that sometimes people say that. 00:04:46.394 --> 00:04:50.474 to me, I know I'm, I know I'm interviewing you, but I just wanna share a little 00:04:50.504 --> 00:04:56.424 story about my whole life people have been like, well, you're just confident. 00:04:56.724 --> 00:05:02.814 I'm like, you have no idea the storm that like rages inside of me 00:05:02.874 --> 00:05:06.204 and the amount of like self-doubt, 00:05:07.224 --> 00:05:08.694 I actually fight. 00:05:09.444 --> 00:05:14.694 And so when I started my podcast like a few years ago, it was the 00:05:14.694 --> 00:05:16.704 scariest thing in the world to me. 00:05:17.469 --> 00:05:22.779 And I knew I wanted to do it, but I was so scared and I kept putting it 00:05:22.784 --> 00:05:24.129 off, putting it off, putting it off. 00:05:24.909 --> 00:05:29.409 And every single time I would go to record, I was so consumed with this like 00:05:29.439 --> 00:05:33.909 fear of this is just another avenue, Lindsay, for people to pick you apart. 00:05:33.909 --> 00:05:36.819 Are you, are you sure you wanna do this? 00:05:37.719 --> 00:05:44.114 And I had to really dive deep into myself and I still don't know. 00:05:44.654 --> 00:05:48.914 Well, I had an experience that actually your religious person is, so I we're 00:05:48.914 --> 00:05:55.634 spiritual people, but I had an experience where I just prayed about it and 00:05:55.634 --> 00:05:57.134 God was just like, just record one. 00:05:57.794 --> 00:05:58.634 Just do one. 00:05:59.534 --> 00:06:02.774 And then after I was done with that, I'm like, okay, that wasn't so bad. 00:06:02.774 --> 00:06:03.824 And he is now do two. 00:06:04.349 --> 00:06:05.189 Now just do two. 00:06:05.429 --> 00:06:06.599 Like that's it. 00:06:06.599 --> 00:06:08.339 Just, it's one step at a time. 00:06:08.519 --> 00:06:09.419 Emilee Roberts: I love that. 00:06:10.259 --> 00:06:13.379 Lindsay: Well, I love what you shared that it's, it is this process. 00:06:13.379 --> 00:06:15.809 So let's dive into this process. 00:06:15.809 --> 00:06:22.709 'cause I do think some people do innately, it's like, I mean, you have four children. 00:06:23.294 --> 00:06:26.054 You can probably see this with your own children, that there are some 00:06:26.054 --> 00:06:29.744 that come into this world who are a little more sure of themselves, who 00:06:29.744 --> 00:06:33.164 are a little, maybe, let's put it this way, they're a little more, okay. 00:06:33.164 --> 00:06:33.674 Failing. 00:06:33.974 --> 00:06:36.884 It doesn't label them as a failure. 00:06:37.634 --> 00:06:43.214 They're okay failing, and some of my kids come in like that, and some 00:06:43.214 --> 00:06:48.974 of 'em, I have to teach them to dive deep and be okay with failure. 00:06:50.189 --> 00:06:55.559 What is this process that you said that you have to keep doing and over 00:06:55.559 --> 00:06:59.009 and over again and, and then you get a little bit more confidence and a 00:06:59.009 --> 00:07:00.449 little bit more, and a little bit more? 00:07:00.809 --> 00:07:02.489 What does that look like? 00:07:02.879 --> 00:07:06.239 Grand scheme and also day to day for individuals? 00:07:06.595 --> 00:07:12.565 Emilee Roberts: Well, I feel like for me, I am most confident when I am growing. 00:07:13.225 --> 00:07:16.735 I don't wanna make that sound like it has to happen at a certain pace or a 00:07:16.735 --> 00:07:20.635 certain speed, because there's times in my life when, when it feels faster, and 00:07:20.635 --> 00:07:24.895 then just probably much, many more times in my life where it feels a lot slower. 00:07:25.885 --> 00:07:27.115 Um, but. 00:07:28.135 --> 00:07:32.245 When I'm trying, when I'm doing something that is, is helping me 00:07:32.245 --> 00:07:34.165 grow, and it doesn't, for all of us. 00:07:34.165 --> 00:07:34.825 It looks different. 00:07:34.825 --> 00:07:38.185 It's, it can be in different avenues of growth, but when I'm doing something 00:07:38.185 --> 00:07:41.725 that I'm trying to grow and to progress and to become more, I, I get 00:07:41.725 --> 00:07:45.895 these little glimmers of confidence and, and along like the spiritual 00:07:45.900 --> 00:07:46.915 and the religious side of things. 00:07:46.915 --> 00:07:48.865 You know, sometimes I'll have a little voice that whispers, 00:07:49.135 --> 00:07:51.025 Hey, that, that was a good move. 00:07:51.175 --> 00:07:52.195 You could do that again. 00:07:52.615 --> 00:07:53.965 Or you're on the right path. 00:07:53.995 --> 00:07:56.995 Or maybe, maybe something that lets me know. 00:07:57.745 --> 00:08:00.355 That isn't worth your focus, that's not worth your time. 00:08:00.405 --> 00:08:05.445 When I'm consistently striving for some growth, knowing that I am not perfect 00:08:05.535 --> 00:08:08.055 and I never will be, that's okay. 00:08:08.145 --> 00:08:11.850 Kind of having also that acceptance of, of that fact, I 00:08:11.850 --> 00:08:13.440 wasn't put here to be perfect. 00:08:14.190 --> 00:08:17.910 No one expects me to be perfect, just like I don't expect the 00:08:17.910 --> 00:08:19.470 people around me to be perfect. 00:08:19.710 --> 00:08:20.850 So that's gotta be okay. 00:08:20.855 --> 00:08:24.870 I've kind of gotta like, get that weight off my shoulder knowing 00:08:24.870 --> 00:08:28.110 that that's just my simple truth. 00:08:28.710 --> 00:08:34.080 And when you accept that, I think that it allows you some freedoms to 00:08:34.080 --> 00:08:38.580 do what you had just said and to be okay with failing, not necessarily 00:08:38.580 --> 00:08:42.480 that doesn't make me a failure, but to be okay with, with failing. 00:08:42.850 --> 00:08:48.280 And while knowing that I'm imperfect and that it's okay to be imperfect, it's okay 00:08:48.280 --> 00:08:55.375 to at the same time, know that I am okay to strive for more, to want for more, and 00:08:55.375 --> 00:08:59.725 to push for more, in, in whatever aspect or whatever avenue that you're looking at. 00:08:59.725 --> 00:09:04.345 So I've been reading this book re like just, I just barely got it last week. 00:09:04.345 --> 00:09:07.945 it just released and, and I, I actually pre-ordered it in July. 00:09:09.130 --> 00:09:12.310 last year, in this book it's by Jamie Kern Lima. 00:09:12.460 --> 00:09:13.660 It's called Worthy. 00:09:14.050 --> 00:09:17.170 And it is, it couldn't, I couldn't have opened it at a better time than 00:09:17.350 --> 00:09:20.920 right before we did this, but it's going through a lot of the differences, 00:09:21.260 --> 00:09:24.350 between what self-confidence is and what your self worth. 00:09:25.790 --> 00:09:29.060 And the thing that I've loved about reading this book is she's not even 00:09:29.060 --> 00:09:35.360 meaning to, but it so perfectly aligns with my faith and my spiritual 00:09:35.360 --> 00:09:37.910 connection to my father in heaven. 00:09:38.600 --> 00:09:40.910 And it, it just completely has a light. 00:09:40.915 --> 00:09:44.490 Like what she is saying is, like depicting what I believe? 00:09:44.550 --> 00:09:47.850 She's not necessarily trying to do that, but, but that is what she's doing. 00:09:49.320 --> 00:09:52.980 And so she, she's forming a line to differentiate between 00:09:52.980 --> 00:09:55.200 self-worth and self-confidence. 00:09:55.500 --> 00:09:59.850 And one of the things I read from her book just, um, sometime last week was 00:10:00.090 --> 00:10:05.100 the people who succeed the most are often the same people who fail the most 00:10:05.280 --> 00:10:07.650 because they're the ones who try the most. 00:10:08.250 --> 00:10:11.790 And as a mom, you kind of, you kind of, um, talked about like 00:10:11.790 --> 00:10:16.440 watching your kids grow differently and, react to things naturally 00:10:16.500 --> 00:10:17.910 differently than, than the others. 00:10:18.480 --> 00:10:23.640 As a mom, the thing that I would hope that I can teach my kids is to try the most. 00:10:24.060 --> 00:10:28.230 You don't have to win the most, you don't have to be first place the most. 00:10:28.560 --> 00:10:34.230 You don't have to be the very best or like the, the star of the show the most. 00:10:34.230 --> 00:10:35.820 But if you will try. 00:10:37.350 --> 00:10:45.870 I think you're gonna find joy the most and contentment the most and that, I feel like 00:10:45.870 --> 00:10:48.270 is where they're gonna find confidence 00:10:48.510 --> 00:10:49.350 the most. 00:10:50.430 --> 00:10:51.210 Lindsay: I love that. 00:10:51.210 --> 00:10:52.650 That is so powerful. 00:10:53.040 --> 00:10:55.830 I feel like kind of going back to 00:10:56.685 --> 00:11:00.645 the conversation at the beginning where we think it's this end 00:11:00.645 --> 00:11:05.295 result, but it's actually through the process of development. 00:11:05.295 --> 00:11:10.845 And I think though that that's what you were saying too, it's this process of 00:11:10.845 --> 00:11:19.365 try fail or maybe not fail, but then again, what is, what is failure really? 00:11:19.365 --> 00:11:20.415 What is failure? 00:11:20.685 --> 00:11:22.905 If you think about it, it's. 00:11:24.015 --> 00:11:28.665 To me, I don't know if you have a definition in your mind, but to me it's, 00:11:28.725 --> 00:11:32.835 it really is not trying and no growth. 00:11:33.225 --> 00:11:41.565 It's that that damning of no growth in my mind, that is really failure. 00:11:42.585 --> 00:11:48.915 And so teaching our children to be able to try, try, try, push 00:11:48.915 --> 00:11:52.215 onto the, into the uncomfortable, but then loving ourselves enough. 00:11:53.750 --> 00:11:58.410 To push, push, push into that, uncomfortable, into that one. 00:11:58.500 --> 00:11:59.430 But it's not failure. 00:11:59.430 --> 00:12:02.970 It's not possible failure because failure's just not growing. 00:12:03.690 --> 00:12:03.840 Mm-Hmm. 00:12:04.085 --> 00:12:05.490 That's, that's what failure is. 00:12:05.730 --> 00:12:05.940 Yeah. 00:12:06.930 --> 00:12:09.390 So that's really powerful. 00:12:09.720 --> 00:12:11.460 I love what you just barely shared. 00:12:11.460 --> 00:12:12.990 And that quote, what was the book again? 00:12:13.770 --> 00:12:14.430 It's called 00:12:14.430 --> 00:12:17.670 Emilee Roberts: Worthy Jamie Kerm Lima. 00:12:17.700 --> 00:12:17.730 Okay. 00:12:18.090 --> 00:12:19.260 It's her second book. 00:12:19.860 --> 00:12:21.810 It's wonderful. 00:12:22.710 --> 00:12:23.490 Lindsay: That's, that's awesome. 00:12:23.895 --> 00:12:24.225 I'll probably 00:12:24.345 --> 00:12:25.095 Emilee Roberts: reference it a 00:12:25.095 --> 00:12:25.935 few times too. 00:12:27.030 --> 00:12:27.795 Lindsay: No, no, no. 00:12:27.795 --> 00:12:29.745 I, I just really love that. 00:12:30.315 --> 00:12:35.835 So I feel like the hardest thing for most people is you had the cutest 00:12:35.835 --> 00:12:42.365 reel on Instagram that showed, I'll be confident when I lose five pounds. 00:12:42.365 --> 00:12:42.605 Right. 00:12:42.605 --> 00:12:46.835 A lot of times people will attach, you know, the confidence to that, 00:12:46.865 --> 00:12:48.125 like we said, that end result. 00:12:48.125 --> 00:12:48.215 Yes. 00:12:48.725 --> 00:12:55.085 Um, I, what are some other ways that women feel I'll be confident when, yes, you can 00:12:55.085 --> 00:12:56.255 fill in the blank with almost anything. 00:12:57.485 --> 00:13:00.665 Emilee Roberts: I think, you know, people attach that to money. 00:13:00.935 --> 00:13:03.005 I'll be confident when I have a certain amount of money 00:13:03.185 --> 00:13:05.075 when I get into that house. 00:13:05.375 --> 00:13:11.165 When I drive that car, when I am in a certain pants size, when I 00:13:11.705 --> 00:13:16.715 hit a promotion, when I, you know, reach a certain level of success, 00:13:16.810 --> 00:13:23.165 I, I think that we attach those strings to I will be confident 00:13:23.195 --> 00:13:26.315 when, and that is, that is the lie. 00:13:26.645 --> 00:13:30.485 So I'm gonna go back to that book Worthy. 00:13:31.175 --> 00:13:34.895 It talks about how, and, and just teaches how. 00:13:35.720 --> 00:13:44.240 You do not have to earn your self-worth that was gifted to us when we were 00:13:44.245 --> 00:13:46.010 designed, when we were put here. 00:13:46.310 --> 00:13:49.190 Our self-worth is a gift from our maker. 00:13:49.520 --> 00:13:50.630 We don't have to earn it. 00:13:50.810 --> 00:13:52.070 We don't have to work for it. 00:13:52.130 --> 00:13:53.210 We cannot lose it. 00:13:53.270 --> 00:13:54.410 We cannot diminish it. 00:13:54.800 --> 00:14:00.650 That is something that I have believed my entire life now, that that is 00:14:00.650 --> 00:14:02.120 something no one can take from us. 00:14:02.120 --> 00:14:04.760 And it could, that's why I think it could maybe get a little bit mixed 00:14:04.760 --> 00:14:09.080 up with what self-confidence is because that can fluctuate and it's 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:13.670 normal and it's very natural for our self-confidence to fluctuate. 00:14:13.970 --> 00:14:18.830 Our self-Worth is more of like this internal knowing who I am. 00:14:19.610 --> 00:14:20.510 Who I am. 00:14:20.567 --> 00:14:25.307 One of my favorite affirmations is to say out loud, I was created by God Almighty. 00:14:25.607 --> 00:14:30.257 He made me on purpose for a purpose, and I say it every day. 00:14:30.937 --> 00:14:34.627 Now, even on days when I say that, some of those days I might be like, I. 00:14:35.107 --> 00:14:36.847 Rolling in self-confidence. 00:14:37.267 --> 00:14:41.717 Other days I, you know, it's a struggle, but I think that, the key 00:14:41.717 --> 00:14:46.067 is to finding some tools for you, what works for you, and maybe what works 00:14:46.067 --> 00:14:47.327 for me doesn't work for everybody. 00:14:47.327 --> 00:14:51.637 But I have found some tools that I feel like work for me that help me to raise 00:14:51.637 --> 00:14:57.597 my self-confidence and, and not let that, not let my high confidence day or my low 00:14:57.597 --> 00:15:01.387 confidence days like affect my self-worth. 00:15:02.182 --> 00:15:06.382 Let my self-worth be this, this, you know, it's anchored. 00:15:06.772 --> 00:15:11.932 It's anchored in my maker, it's anchored in my identity, but, and my, even if it, 00:15:11.932 --> 00:15:16.822 I'm having a low self-confidence day, that doesn't have to, it can't affect 00:15:16.822 --> 00:15:22.312 my self-worth because that isn't innate in me because of all the things that I 00:15:22.312 --> 00:15:22.852 believe. 00:15:23.045 --> 00:15:23.615 Lindsay: I love that. 00:15:23.645 --> 00:15:26.435 What are the tools that have worked for you? 00:15:26.675 --> 00:15:28.955 Because I feel like there's so many times when. 00:15:29.525 --> 00:15:35.405 When it's like women are told, love yourself, have confidence. 00:15:35.675 --> 00:15:36.995 Be yourself. 00:15:36.995 --> 00:15:41.135 You know, all of these, these great sayings that are like, yeah, that's great. 00:15:41.135 --> 00:15:45.575 And then there are some women out there who are like, well, how do I love myself? 00:15:45.575 --> 00:15:50.165 How do I have confidence in my abilities like that? 00:15:50.165 --> 00:15:55.670 Those are great ideas, but what does that look like day to day and 00:15:55.670 --> 00:16:00.740 what, what is like the trenches of discovering that for yourself? 00:16:01.077 --> 00:16:04.527 Emilee Roberts: Okay, I'm gonna start on kind of more surface level because maybe 00:16:04.527 --> 00:16:06.537 that's a little bit easier for most of us. 00:16:06.957 --> 00:16:08.727 I'm most confident when I do things that bring me joy. 00:16:09.477 --> 00:16:13.257 And the thing about that and confidence is what brings me joy might 00:16:13.257 --> 00:16:14.937 bring, not bring other people joy. 00:16:14.937 --> 00:16:18.897 You know, we're all very different in that, in, in what lights us up 00:16:19.077 --> 00:16:21.897 can be different and we're created, we're supposed to be that way. 00:16:22.017 --> 00:16:23.037 That's, so that's a good thing. 00:16:23.457 --> 00:16:26.907 But something for me, like I, I said I've. 00:16:27.307 --> 00:16:30.007 Almost nine years I've been in the beauty industry and not just like the 00:16:30.007 --> 00:16:33.637 beauty industry, but like the online social media, beauty industry, and that 00:16:33.637 --> 00:16:35.467 is really scary place to be sometimes. 00:16:36.007 --> 00:16:40.117 It would've been very easy for me to enter this space originally 00:16:40.417 --> 00:16:44.977 and to have have said, well, the only way I am beautiful is if I am 00:16:45.062 --> 00:16:49.022 I always put together and, and have my hair done, and I'm outta my 00:16:49.022 --> 00:16:51.632 yoga pants, and I put some makeup on, like I could have, I could 00:16:51.632 --> 00:16:54.872 have labeled that as my standard. 00:16:55.272 --> 00:17:00.162 But instead, I, I kind of used, started to make it a tool, like I, I started learning 00:17:00.167 --> 00:17:02.802 new skills and, and it wasn't like. 00:17:03.667 --> 00:17:06.337 makeup that started making me feel more confident. 00:17:06.337 --> 00:17:10.807 But it was the, the process, I think you used that word earlier too, the 00:17:10.807 --> 00:17:16.177 process of learning some skills that that brought me joy and I started to 00:17:16.177 --> 00:17:22.597 have fun creating, and I'm not a super artistic or creative person, but I was 00:17:22.597 --> 00:17:27.787 learning these skills that was allowing me to work on myself as this canvas. 00:17:29.042 --> 00:17:33.662 I mean, I've, I have come to learn that I am, I am beautiful when I roll out of bed 00:17:33.662 --> 00:17:38.642 and I have my bed head, and I, you know, haven't done a single thing for the day. 00:17:38.792 --> 00:17:39.962 That's, that's not my beauty. 00:17:39.962 --> 00:17:41.852 My beauty is more my self worth. 00:17:42.302 --> 00:17:44.522 My beauty was gifted to me by my maker. 00:17:44.822 --> 00:17:49.172 But my confidence can come from what can I do to just feel a little bit 00:17:49.172 --> 00:17:50.522 better and bring myself some joy? 00:17:50.522 --> 00:17:56.252 So I know for me, when I put on my favorite lipstick. 00:17:57.067 --> 00:18:00.937 That is me setting the intention to be confident that day. 00:18:01.567 --> 00:18:06.097 It makes me feel good, and I think that that is the important part of that. 00:18:06.102 --> 00:18:06.997 It's not the lipstick. 00:18:07.297 --> 00:18:11.677 I mean, I think it's fun, but the important part is my intention. 00:18:12.127 --> 00:18:17.377 I have identified something that I know when I do that. 00:18:18.052 --> 00:18:22.042 It, it me saying, I am intending to feel confident. 00:18:22.072 --> 00:18:23.542 I'm reaching for that tool. 00:18:23.812 --> 00:18:25.642 For me that brings me joy. 00:18:26.152 --> 00:18:31.432 For me, another thing that brings me joy is to spend some time in the sun. 00:18:31.552 --> 00:18:35.122 And maybe that sounds a little bit weird, like to be outside and in the sun and, 00:18:35.122 --> 00:18:39.592 oh, I'm feeling more confident, but it brings me joy and I've learned that 00:18:39.592 --> 00:18:44.152 when I am more joyful, I am simply more confident because I'm more content. 00:18:44.787 --> 00:18:48.382 And I think that there's some correlation between those, those 00:18:48.382 --> 00:18:48.892 words. 00:18:49.315 --> 00:18:49.885 Lindsay: I love that. 00:18:49.885 --> 00:18:51.175 That is so powerful. 00:18:51.235 --> 00:18:52.405 The setting intention. 00:18:52.405 --> 00:18:56.845 It's not the lipstick, it's the setting the intention. 00:18:57.175 --> 00:18:58.345 I think sometimes I. 00:18:59.350 --> 00:19:03.040 Individuals can look at somebody who maybe puts on the lipstick and be 00:19:03.040 --> 00:19:04.780 like, well, that's a superficial thing. 00:19:05.170 --> 00:19:07.810 So they're not, that's not real confidence. 00:19:08.320 --> 00:19:12.580 So I love the fact that you, you were very like, quick to say that's 00:19:12.820 --> 00:19:17.410 it's not the lipstick and it's actually whatever somebody chooses, 00:19:17.410 --> 00:19:20.200 it's not gonna be that thing. 00:19:20.630 --> 00:19:22.400 The setting the intention. 00:19:23.030 --> 00:19:24.380 That is so good. 00:19:24.410 --> 00:19:24.680 Okay. 00:19:24.680 --> 00:19:25.370 What else? 00:19:26.630 --> 00:19:28.520 do you feel like has worked for you? 00:19:28.570 --> 00:19:33.430 Emilee Roberts: One of the tools that I love to use is I, I feel the most 00:19:33.430 --> 00:19:36.310 confident when I keep my word to myself. 00:19:36.310 --> 00:19:36.340 I. 00:19:37.255 --> 00:19:41.365 So when I follow through with what I tell myself I'm going to do, 00:19:41.485 --> 00:19:44.335 or maybe even what I tell another person that I'm going to do. 00:19:44.785 --> 00:19:48.925 But when I follow through with that and when I stay committed to 00:19:48.955 --> 00:19:53.905 what I've set my intentions to be, it makes me feel more confident. 00:19:53.905 --> 00:19:58.915 It makes me feel like I can rely on me, rely so others can rely on me. 00:19:59.275 --> 00:20:00.475 You are in the fitness space. 00:20:00.475 --> 00:20:08.215 That's how I found you and I have gone through a pretty big transformation 00:20:08.215 --> 00:20:14.815 in my life with my habits, with like the physical, whatever, you know, but 00:20:15.295 --> 00:20:18.865 the, the real transformation that has happened with that has been internal. 00:20:19.225 --> 00:20:22.465 And I really believe with my whole heart that that came 00:20:22.615 --> 00:20:25.855 because I kept my word to myself. 00:20:26.485 --> 00:20:29.815 I followed through with what I said I wanted to do, and I don't 00:20:29.815 --> 00:20:31.345 want that to be confused with. 00:20:31.645 --> 00:20:34.705 I followed through to have this big result. 00:20:35.125 --> 00:20:39.805 It was more that I, I followed through on one day to get more 00:20:39.810 --> 00:20:44.785 steps in, to drink some water and to be mindful of what I ate. 00:20:45.085 --> 00:20:46.945 And it was like this one day at a time thing. 00:20:47.065 --> 00:20:47.965 It was the process. 00:20:47.965 --> 00:20:49.315 We've used that word several times. 00:20:49.795 --> 00:20:50.875 It was the process of. 00:20:51.730 --> 00:20:56.230 I stayed committed to the word that I made to myself. 00:20:56.230 --> 00:20:58.330 Like I said, I did what I said I was going to do. 00:20:58.630 --> 00:21:02.350 And again, not to be confused with this big, like, you know, wild result or 00:21:02.350 --> 00:21:07.600 transformation, but you know, I, I, I said today I'm going to move my body. 00:21:07.660 --> 00:21:08.290 And I did. 00:21:09.070 --> 00:21:13.090 I, that was a, that was a confidence booster, not because of a result 00:21:13.090 --> 00:21:17.020 that came from it, but because I did what I set out to do. 00:21:19.210 --> 00:21:19.840 Lindsay: I love that. 00:21:19.840 --> 00:21:22.480 I, I refer to that as having integrity. 00:21:23.080 --> 00:21:23.170 Mm-Hmm. 00:21:23.170 --> 00:21:31.240 You cannot, you cannot help but love yourself when you have integrity, when 00:21:31.240 --> 00:21:36.190 your beliefs and your actions start lining up, and the more they line up, the 00:21:36.190 --> 00:21:39.670 more confidence self-love comes through. 00:21:39.760 --> 00:21:44.560 And what's crazy about it is it's like your circle of 00:21:44.590 --> 00:21:48.055 influence, begins to just grow. 00:21:48.655 --> 00:21:49.135 It does. 00:21:49.135 --> 00:21:50.665 And people can like see it. 00:21:50.665 --> 00:21:52.345 Why do I feel drawn to her? 00:21:53.065 --> 00:21:54.655 Why do I want to be around her? 00:21:54.655 --> 00:21:58.615 Why do I want to step into, they don't even realize that they're doing 00:21:58.615 --> 00:22:03.805 it, but they're stepping into your circle of influence and that comes 00:22:03.930 --> 00:22:06.985 when, when somebody has integrity. 00:22:08.125 --> 00:22:11.695 And I all, I love that you brought up that it's not. 00:22:12.775 --> 00:22:14.275 It is not the outcome. 00:22:14.815 --> 00:22:20.425 I love watching movies, uh, like sports movies or like the Hero's 00:22:20.425 --> 00:22:22.795 Journey kind of movies like Thor. 00:22:23.245 --> 00:22:24.535 I love that movie. 00:22:24.535 --> 00:22:30.265 I love that you see this, this little boy 'cause he was a boy, like fall fail. 00:22:30.535 --> 00:22:34.135 And then the Hero's Journey or the sports team, it's like you 00:22:34.135 --> 00:22:35.935 see a sports team and they win. 00:22:36.310 --> 00:22:40.540 You see the end result and you're like, that's cool, but then when you hear 00:22:40.540 --> 00:22:46.570 the whole background story of all of these individuals, you realize that it 00:22:46.570 --> 00:22:48.970 wasn't the winning that was amazing. 00:22:50.020 --> 00:22:53.380 It was the journey that they, that they made. 00:22:54.370 --> 00:22:57.730 Yes, that was absolutely so amazing and you just love it. 00:22:58.105 --> 00:22:58.975 So much. 00:22:59.035 --> 00:23:02.185 And I do believe that you're right. 00:23:02.245 --> 00:23:06.235 I am in the fitness and health industry and it is really, really, 00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:12.065 really hard it's really hard to detach the results from the process. 00:23:13.325 --> 00:23:17.165 Because obviously the process will lead to the results, but people get 00:23:17.165 --> 00:23:21.755 fixated on the results being, oh, that's, that's when she loved herself. 00:23:22.415 --> 00:23:24.245 That's when she accepted herself. 00:23:24.245 --> 00:23:25.385 I'm like, actually, no. 00:23:25.775 --> 00:23:29.915 The real before and after was the journey through it, the process in 00:23:29.920 --> 00:23:36.200 which she began having integrity, doing the things that she told herself 00:23:36.200 --> 00:23:40.340 that she was gonna do and becoming the person who she always wanted to become. 00:23:41.030 --> 00:23:43.430 And it actually has little to do with the outcome. 00:23:43.920 --> 00:23:48.900 It has to do with the process and that the process was refined, the lifestyle 00:23:48.900 --> 00:23:54.510 was refined, and that's where the, the power of it really, really resides. 00:23:54.510 --> 00:23:55.170 I feel like. 00:23:55.464 --> 00:23:56.184 Emilee Roberts: I completely 00:23:56.184 --> 00:24:00.114 agree, and I think the reason that it's so important to stay 00:24:00.114 --> 00:24:03.684 focused and more attached to your process rather than the results, 00:24:04.584 --> 00:24:12.864 the danger in being so like, obsessed with the results and that end goal is that it 00:24:12.864 --> 00:24:15.624 is, it's honestly such a fickle thing. 00:24:15.799 --> 00:24:22.164 It, it can move anytime you hit a goal and then you think, oh, I 00:24:22.169 --> 00:24:23.394 guess that really didn't do it. 00:24:23.484 --> 00:24:25.434 I don't feel any better because it's not enough. 00:24:25.464 --> 00:24:26.334 I want that thing. 00:24:27.069 --> 00:24:30.579 And, and you know, like maybe, maybe you start by thinking, oh, 00:24:30.609 --> 00:24:31.809 I'm, I'm gonna lose 20 pounds. 00:24:31.809 --> 00:24:34.869 If I lose 20 pounds, that is it. 00:24:34.959 --> 00:24:36.369 I will have arrived. 00:24:36.879 --> 00:24:39.219 It will be all that I ever wanted it to be. 00:24:39.219 --> 00:24:42.069 And then maybe you, you do that and you realize, well, 00:24:42.069 --> 00:24:43.929 I, that didn't feel like it. 00:24:44.019 --> 00:24:45.969 I guess I don't look the way I thought I would look, or it didn't 00:24:45.969 --> 00:24:48.459 feel the way I thought I would feel, or I wish I could do more. 00:24:48.739 --> 00:24:49.939 That that's not enough. 00:24:50.509 --> 00:24:56.554 And so you, you find yourself in this dangerous trap of, the results will 00:24:56.554 --> 00:25:01.414 for sure bring me confidence, but then when they don't, then what do you have? 00:25:02.164 --> 00:25:07.804 You know, if, if you missed that beautiful journey that you just went on and you 00:25:07.809 --> 00:25:14.734 discredit the person you had to become to work for those results, and you discredit 00:25:15.034 --> 00:25:22.144 the growth and the, all the expansion that you had to go through to get there. 00:25:23.554 --> 00:25:27.094 Then you're gonna find yourself in this position where it will never be enough. 00:25:27.694 --> 00:25:34.054 And the results, no matter how big, you'll always find yourself wanting more. 00:25:34.714 --> 00:25:38.884 And I don't think, I don't know, there's this hard balance because 00:25:39.124 --> 00:25:44.584 I don't think there's, um, it's not awful to, to always want to be striving 00:25:44.584 --> 00:25:46.504 for more and to progress and to grow. 00:25:46.984 --> 00:25:51.394 But if you get so caught up with that result, then the danger is that. 00:25:51.799 --> 00:25:53.539 You will never find contentment. 00:25:53.539 --> 00:25:58.219 You will never find joy, and you will never feel that self-confidence that truly 00:25:58.249 --> 00:26:01.039 every person on earth deserves to feel. 00:26:01.489 --> 00:26:04.249 So it has to come from the journey. 00:26:04.819 --> 00:26:09.349 It has to come from that integrity of showing up and doing what you said 00:26:09.349 --> 00:26:12.799 you were going to do, and finding joy in the journey and joy in the 00:26:12.799 --> 00:26:15.979 process so that you get to feel that. 00:26:18.244 --> 00:26:22.354 And not just at that climax or at the peak of Everest. 00:26:22.834 --> 00:26:27.034 It's, it's not supposed to be saved for a finish line because you can 00:26:27.034 --> 00:26:28.564 move your finish line, anytime. 00:26:28.664 --> 00:26:29.474 Lindsay: It's always moving. 00:26:29.784 --> 00:26:30.234 Yes. 00:26:30.632 --> 00:26:32.612 Is 100% always moving. 00:26:33.452 --> 00:26:37.922 And I get people asking me that question, how, how can you be happy? 00:26:37.927 --> 00:26:39.962 Or will you ever be satisfied? 00:26:40.292 --> 00:26:43.562 That is a question that I get a lot and I'm like, oh, I 00:26:43.562 --> 00:26:44.672 think we're all confused here. 00:26:44.672 --> 00:26:46.142 I'm actually quite satisfied. 00:26:46.772 --> 00:26:48.152 Like, I'm quite happy. 00:26:48.812 --> 00:26:52.652 Um, anything more is just icing on the cake. 00:26:52.702 --> 00:26:57.682 I can always practice confidence, like you said, like that's something 00:26:57.682 --> 00:26:58.762 that always comes and goes. 00:26:58.762 --> 00:27:05.452 But I actually think that me going to the gym, it's no longer actually about a look. 00:27:05.662 --> 00:27:08.782 It may have started out that way, but it's not. 00:27:08.782 --> 00:27:12.172 It's every single day I like, testing myself. 00:27:12.592 --> 00:27:14.392 I like getting into the uncomfortable. 00:27:14.962 --> 00:27:16.072 I like pushing myself. 00:27:16.072 --> 00:27:19.012 I wanna see like what boundaries can I push today? 00:27:19.012 --> 00:27:21.292 What can I accomplish today? 00:27:21.922 --> 00:27:27.142 And that is so directly tied, like you said, to confidence. 00:27:27.352 --> 00:27:28.822 'cause it really is. 00:27:28.822 --> 00:27:28.882 I. 00:27:30.112 --> 00:27:35.182 It's not that I've reached it, it's no, every day I'm testing the waters 00:27:35.212 --> 00:27:37.852 and what else am I capable of? 00:27:37.972 --> 00:27:43.972 And I love that you brought up that self-Worth is not even in question. 00:27:44.062 --> 00:27:45.652 That's not even on the table. 00:27:46.372 --> 00:27:49.492 That was, that was established long ago. 00:27:49.882 --> 00:27:57.862 This is now just an exciting, fun journey of who can you become, what can you do? 00:27:57.892 --> 00:28:00.322 But none of that adds anything. 00:28:00.507 --> 00:28:00.627 I. 00:28:00.997 --> 00:28:02.587 To your worth as an individual. 00:28:03.217 --> 00:28:08.917 It, it's actually really cool to be at that place where you've almost let 00:28:08.917 --> 00:28:14.737 go of a desire to prove who you are to anybody, including yourself, because 00:28:14.742 --> 00:28:20.347 you already know your worth doesn't change, but yet you're, you love 00:28:20.347 --> 00:28:25.927 yourself so much that you're propelled to continue to push your boundaries 00:28:26.317 --> 00:28:28.207 and see what else can I accomplish? 00:28:28.567 --> 00:28:29.317 What else can I do? 00:28:30.127 --> 00:28:35.587 And I was thinking about this, you know, with me having my Instagram 00:28:35.587 --> 00:28:38.767 account all being all about fitness. 00:28:39.907 --> 00:28:44.767 Um, I think that people get the wrong idea that they think, I think health 00:28:44.827 --> 00:28:49.027 is just about nutrition and training. 00:28:49.687 --> 00:28:56.137 Um, but, but health, for me, it's about so many other things. 00:28:56.137 --> 00:28:58.957 It's about, um, my relationships. 00:28:59.992 --> 00:29:08.602 It's about like my emotional health, my spiritual health, um, my intellectual, 00:29:08.872 --> 00:29:14.002 like I, I think that all of these things come together and create health. 00:29:14.602 --> 00:29:20.842 And so if I can become a person who learns how to push my boundaries in one 00:29:20.842 --> 00:29:26.092 aspect, like going to the gym and being able to hit a new pr, that actually 00:29:26.097 --> 00:29:29.002 empowers me to take that confidence. 00:29:29.002 --> 00:29:29.032 I. 00:29:29.347 --> 00:29:34.927 Now into other aspects of my life that maybe I couldn't have a difficult relation 00:29:34.987 --> 00:29:41.557 or a difficult conversation with somebody, but I can pull a little confidence 00:29:41.562 --> 00:29:44.857 from what I do in the gym every day. 00:29:44.862 --> 00:29:45.182 Love that. 00:29:45.182 --> 00:29:46.462 I can pull a little of that. 00:29:47.617 --> 00:29:49.417 Emilee Roberts: I love that so much. 00:29:49.467 --> 00:29:51.267 Lindsay: I do wanna talk about your morning routine. 00:29:51.297 --> 00:29:51.597 Okay. 00:29:52.017 --> 00:29:53.367 But here's my thing. 00:29:53.787 --> 00:29:54.147 Okay. 00:29:54.207 --> 00:29:55.617 I have a morning routine. 00:29:55.677 --> 00:29:56.727 Well, I'm pregnant now. 00:29:56.727 --> 00:29:58.437 That morning routine is gone. 00:29:58.887 --> 00:29:59.577 It is gone. 00:29:59.577 --> 00:30:00.177 This is survival mode. 00:30:02.337 --> 00:30:04.257 It will be resurrected another day. 00:30:04.707 --> 00:30:07.977 But, so I do wanna talk about your morning routine, but I just wanna let 00:30:07.977 --> 00:30:14.427 other people know that I, there are, there's power in, in rituals in having 00:30:14.432 --> 00:30:15.897 these routines and these rituals. 00:30:16.937 --> 00:30:18.552 Emilee does it, uh, what time? 00:30:18.552 --> 00:30:19.782 What time do you get up in the morning? 00:30:20.412 --> 00:30:21.672 My alarm goes off at five 00:30:21.882 --> 00:30:22.557 Emilee Roberts: and I Okay. 00:30:23.052 --> 00:30:24.342 Don't push snooze. 00:30:24.582 --> 00:30:29.832 And it took me a long time to get to where I don't push snoo, but I know 00:30:29.832 --> 00:30:31.782 that everything is better when I don't. 00:30:32.442 --> 00:30:32.892 So 00:30:33.192 --> 00:30:36.312 Lindsay: everything, do you know what, that's the first, that's, 00:30:37.062 --> 00:30:38.502 that's the first hard thing you do. 00:30:39.312 --> 00:30:42.072 You start out the day doing hard things and then just like 00:30:42.072 --> 00:30:44.322 Emilee Roberts: you said, you can take a little confidence from that. 00:30:44.322 --> 00:30:49.122 I just did this hard thing and I can take that confidence into whatever other 00:30:49.122 --> 00:30:50.592 hard things I have to face that day. 00:30:50.712 --> 00:30:51.672 Lindsay: Yeah, because I already did one. 00:30:52.212 --> 00:30:57.192 Yeah, but but yours begins, you have this like ritual and I saw it on Instagram 00:30:57.192 --> 00:30:58.812 and I was like, I love this woman. 00:30:58.812 --> 00:30:59.232 Like. 00:31:00.022 --> 00:31:01.342 She's like my people. 00:31:01.552 --> 00:31:04.342 Um, 'cause I'm like, this is so, this is so powerful. 00:31:04.342 --> 00:31:08.752 But as you listen to Emilee talk, guys, I want you to keep in mind that this 00:31:08.757 --> 00:31:13.252 is hers that she's discovered and found probably with a, with trial and error. 00:31:13.642 --> 00:31:13.732 Mm-Hmm. 00:31:13.762 --> 00:31:18.892 And you're flexible and you don't, you all listening, you don't have 00:31:18.892 --> 00:31:19.912 to do it at five in the morning. 00:31:21.117 --> 00:31:24.792 Um, you do it when works best for you. 00:31:24.792 --> 00:31:27.012 You have to figure that out. 00:31:27.012 --> 00:31:30.792 But I do want you to share, okay, so you, the alarm goes off 00:31:30.792 --> 00:31:33.522 at five, you don't hit snooze. 00:31:34.092 --> 00:31:35.382 Walk us through your morning. 00:31:35.892 --> 00:31:38.832 Emilee Roberts: So it's, well, I guess I should back up. 00:31:38.832 --> 00:31:41.952 I really feel like it probably starts the night before I set out my clothes. 00:31:42.567 --> 00:31:47.007 And again, that's me setting my intention of what I'm going to do the next day. 00:31:47.217 --> 00:31:49.887 I set out my clothes, my workout stuff. 00:31:50.337 --> 00:31:54.417 I've looked through my app and I see what's coming up for my training. 00:31:54.807 --> 00:31:58.077 Um, and I go to bed knowing I already just know, well, this 00:31:58.082 --> 00:31:59.277 is what time I alarm goes off. 00:31:59.277 --> 00:32:04.107 I'm not gonna be surprised when I, it beeps at me and it's like, what? 00:32:04.107 --> 00:32:04.827 That's a five. 00:32:05.127 --> 00:32:06.717 No, I'm not surprised. 00:32:07.392 --> 00:32:11.292 Um, so it goes off, I get up, I get dressed. 00:32:11.532 --> 00:32:17.502 I, um, before I really start to do anything, um, well 00:32:17.502 --> 00:32:18.462 first, let me back up again. 00:32:18.462 --> 00:32:18.792 Sorry. 00:32:19.767 --> 00:32:24.117 I, I kind of have adapted this from, uh, practice, from a book 00:32:24.117 --> 00:32:25.077 called The Miracle Morning. 00:32:25.077 --> 00:32:25.137 Yeah. 00:32:25.317 --> 00:32:27.147 So maybe people have read that. 00:32:27.147 --> 00:32:30.897 Maybe they've heard it, but I've had, so that that's technically showing us what 00:32:30.897 --> 00:32:32.487 they call the perfect morning routine. 00:32:32.697 --> 00:32:35.487 And I have taken that perfect morning routine and made my 00:32:35.677 --> 00:32:38.067 Emilee's Perfect morning routine. 00:32:38.072 --> 00:32:42.177 So in that morning routine, it, it tells you to have some silence. 00:32:42.652 --> 00:32:45.832 And I'm sure that what that means is meditation. 00:32:46.252 --> 00:32:51.022 Now for me, my silence just looks like some little bit of prayer where me 00:32:51.082 --> 00:32:54.382 and God have a little talk to start the day, and I ask him for help. 00:32:54.387 --> 00:32:57.982 And I, and I, you know, tell, tell 'em what's on my mind. 00:32:57.982 --> 00:32:59.482 And so that's where I start. 00:32:59.782 --> 00:33:00.712 Um, after that. 00:33:01.607 --> 00:33:06.497 Walk into my office because that's a quiet space, and I'll sit and I 00:33:06.527 --> 00:33:08.897 will say my affirmations out loud. 00:33:08.957 --> 00:33:11.327 I I said one of them for you here. 00:33:11.477 --> 00:33:13.127 That I am created by God Almighty. 00:33:13.187 --> 00:33:14.927 He made me on purpose for a purpose. 00:33:15.197 --> 00:33:19.427 I have a list and I basic, I mean, I haven't memorized now, I've been using 00:33:19.427 --> 00:33:24.047 it for a few years, and anytime I find one though, I write it down on my list. 00:33:24.052 --> 00:33:24.917 I have it, I do. 00:33:24.917 --> 00:33:26.267 I have a physical list. 00:33:26.267 --> 00:33:27.887 I don't have to read it every day anymore. 00:33:28.432 --> 00:33:32.632 But if I, if I think of something or I read something and it feels like it 00:33:32.632 --> 00:33:37.222 belongs to me, I write it down and I will start including it in my list. 00:33:37.672 --> 00:33:41.272 After that, I'll sit and I'll just kind of visualize like, these are the 00:33:41.272 --> 00:33:42.922 things that I have going on today. 00:33:43.252 --> 00:33:45.082 This is what I hope my home feels like. 00:33:45.672 --> 00:33:48.192 This is what I hope I can, how? 00:33:48.192 --> 00:33:51.852 How I hope I can respond when my kids test my patients. 00:33:52.362 --> 00:33:56.922 This is how I hope I can respond to a surprise or something 00:33:56.922 --> 00:33:58.992 unexpected or something hard. 00:33:59.382 --> 00:34:02.802 This is what I'm visualizing for, like my goals, my future. 00:34:03.042 --> 00:34:04.992 This is what I'm working on with my husband. 00:34:05.907 --> 00:34:08.182 Our family, this is what I'm working on for me and my business. 00:34:08.567 --> 00:34:13.342 I, I focus, focus on and visualize what I am working on for my 00:34:13.372 --> 00:34:14.932 physical and my health goals. 00:34:15.202 --> 00:34:19.792 I like to run and I will often visualize, you know, what that's gonna feel like 00:34:19.792 --> 00:34:24.022 when I, um, cross the finish line of a next race or something like that. 00:34:24.447 --> 00:34:26.247 So that visualization is huge. 00:34:26.637 --> 00:34:30.657 The next thing I do is I, I'll pick up my gratitude journal, and over the years 00:34:30.657 --> 00:34:34.047 my gratitude journal has changed because you tend to fill up a journal when you 00:34:34.052 --> 00:34:37.707 write in it every day, which is probably one of my greatest accomplishments 00:34:37.707 --> 00:34:42.387 of my life, that I've actually filled an entire journal more than once. 00:34:42.947 --> 00:34:44.807 Because how many of us have started one? 00:34:46.007 --> 00:34:46.277 I know. 00:34:46.277 --> 00:34:49.727 Then we leave it and then we come back to it and we read it and we're so embarrassed 00:34:49.727 --> 00:34:55.457 by whatever it was that we wrote, but I, I, so I might have looked different. 00:34:55.457 --> 00:35:00.647 Like sometimes I've used ones that have prompts and I'm, I'm not, I'm not good 00:35:00.647 --> 00:35:04.577 at journaling, like, you know, depicting everything that's happening in my life. 00:35:04.577 --> 00:35:05.117 Right Then. 00:35:05.637 --> 00:35:08.007 But I, but I will just write down three simple things. 00:35:08.007 --> 00:35:12.057 I'm grad grateful for just three simple things, and I often repeat things. 00:35:12.207 --> 00:35:17.277 It will often say I'm so grateful for my bed because I always am. 00:35:17.277 --> 00:35:19.797 And if I can't think of something, I can always go back to that. 00:35:19.797 --> 00:35:25.047 And the reason I love this gratitude journal is whenever I face hard things, 00:35:25.047 --> 00:35:26.757 which is daily, we all do daily. 00:35:26.907 --> 00:35:30.447 Whenever something's hard, whenever I feel defeated, whenever I feel down, 00:35:30.447 --> 00:35:34.467 maybe even just whenever I feel that lack of confidence, I have this book. 00:35:34.887 --> 00:35:37.167 Is filled with my blessings. 00:35:37.647 --> 00:35:39.267 There is always something good. 00:35:39.837 --> 00:35:45.957 So in those hard moments in, in my trenches, I can always open that and 00:35:45.957 --> 00:35:48.657 I find something that reminds me. 00:35:49.287 --> 00:35:51.627 I am loved, I am safe. 00:35:52.737 --> 00:35:54.297 My life is okay. 00:35:54.447 --> 00:35:55.467 I will get through this. 00:35:55.767 --> 00:35:57.087 And I always have my bed. 00:35:57.627 --> 00:35:58.377 I always have a diet. 00:35:59.427 --> 00:36:02.097 I always have just whatever it is that might bring me joy. 00:36:02.097 --> 00:36:03.357 So my, my gratitude. 00:36:03.882 --> 00:36:06.912 Gratitude journal isn't always, um, deep. 00:36:07.572 --> 00:36:10.932 Sometimes it is, but it doesn't have to be. 00:36:10.962 --> 00:36:12.282 It sometimes can just be. 00:36:13.077 --> 00:36:15.177 I'm grateful for a Diet Coke and that's, 00:36:15.177 --> 00:36:15.507 Lindsay: yeah. 00:36:15.837 --> 00:36:17.427 I'm so glad that you brought that up. 00:36:17.427 --> 00:36:22.497 'cause I cannot tell you, I've done so many gratitude journals and you do, you 00:36:22.497 --> 00:36:26.277 kind of run out of things and then you give yourself weird expectations, right? 00:36:26.277 --> 00:36:30.567 Like this has to be like, my grandchildren need to be wowed by 00:36:30.567 --> 00:36:33.537 my, by my amount of gratitude here. 00:36:33.567 --> 00:36:34.017 Right? 00:36:34.227 --> 00:36:38.457 We set ourselves up with the weirdest expectations of. 00:36:39.327 --> 00:36:43.347 What it looks like to journal and to show up for yourself. 00:36:43.347 --> 00:36:49.767 But one thing that I'm, that I'm noticing is you are keeping things so simple. 00:36:50.907 --> 00:36:52.197 It, I mean this whole 00:36:52.197 --> 00:36:55.047 Emilee Roberts: routine, I mean, I've talked longer about it than 00:36:55.052 --> 00:36:56.247 it takes me to go through it. 00:36:58.252 --> 00:36:58.832 Lindsay: It simple. 00:36:58.852 --> 00:37:01.077 It doesn't take two hours for you. 00:37:01.107 --> 00:37:01.737 No, it doesn't. 00:37:01.737 --> 00:37:01.977 No. 00:37:01.977 --> 00:37:02.397 This is 00:37:02.397 --> 00:37:04.827 Emilee Roberts: like a 15 to 20 minute thing. 00:37:05.207 --> 00:37:09.587 The next thing I do is I will read and, and for me that's, um, I mean, you can 00:37:09.587 --> 00:37:12.437 pick whatever you wanna read, but I do think that there's a lot of power in 00:37:12.437 --> 00:37:13.997 saying, I'm gonna read and I'm gonna grow. 00:37:14.147 --> 00:37:18.727 For me, I like to study my scriptures and, wherever, whatever that might look like. 00:37:18.997 --> 00:37:20.557 But that's what I like to study when I'm reading. 00:37:20.562 --> 00:37:23.947 And that's maybe the part that takes me the longest is as far as what I 00:37:23.947 --> 00:37:26.077 do before I start to move my body. 00:37:26.317 --> 00:37:27.577 But that's what I finish it with. 00:37:27.577 --> 00:37:28.507 I, I will. 00:37:28.912 --> 00:37:32.332 Um, I work out at my house in my garage, in our little home gym. 00:37:32.332 --> 00:37:34.102 That's, it's, it's actually pretty great. 00:37:34.102 --> 00:37:38.902 My husband's done a really good job of, of expanding what we have for our space here. 00:37:39.292 --> 00:37:45.052 And, and then I, I go out and I, I either go for a run or I lift and, and it's 00:37:45.052 --> 00:37:51.262 like this, you know, pinnacle of, I've, I've prepped myself, I've prepped my 00:37:51.262 --> 00:37:57.352 heart, I've prepped my mind, and now I'm going to let my body do something that 00:37:57.357 --> 00:38:02.542 brings me joy and, and then at the end of this, that's like, I, I don't know. 00:38:02.542 --> 00:38:07.042 I just, I just feel a little bit more ready to take on a day. 00:38:07.132 --> 00:38:14.362 It, it's, it's set my intent and it's helped my mindset and it's 00:38:14.362 --> 00:38:17.482 one of the things that really does bring me confidence because I. 00:38:18.232 --> 00:38:23.812 I'm doing, it's the process of doing and becoming a version of 00:38:23.812 --> 00:38:25.822 myself that I'm excited about. 00:38:26.452 --> 00:38:31.342 I like the version of myself that stays committed to these little simple steps. 00:38:31.942 --> 00:38:36.082 And, and yes, I do it at five and no, you don't have to do it 00:38:36.082 --> 00:38:37.822 at five, but I've learned that. 00:38:38.557 --> 00:38:43.927 For me it, I need to do it before my kids get going, and someday all of my kids 00:38:43.927 --> 00:38:45.847 will be in school all at the same time. 00:38:45.847 --> 00:38:49.147 And then maybe I can adjust it and maybe I'll want to do it then. 00:38:49.147 --> 00:38:53.587 But right now, for me, I have to prioritize getting that done because 00:38:53.587 --> 00:38:58.807 I like the person I am when I do, and that person has to do it at five. 00:39:00.667 --> 00:39:05.047 Lindsay: That's, that is so, I love that so much and I'm, I'm really 00:39:05.047 --> 00:39:06.307 jealous that you can do it at five. 00:39:06.307 --> 00:39:07.867 'cause I loved my five o'clock. 00:39:08.167 --> 00:39:09.727 It, the, the house is dead. 00:39:10.447 --> 00:39:10.567 Yes. 00:39:10.567 --> 00:39:11.977 The kids are still asleep. 00:39:12.037 --> 00:39:12.517 Right. 00:39:12.727 --> 00:39:13.387 It's peaceful. 00:39:14.167 --> 00:39:15.727 It is so peaceful. 00:39:15.727 --> 00:39:17.617 And I always tell people I. 00:39:18.562 --> 00:39:20.092 I'm not reactive. 00:39:20.182 --> 00:39:24.622 I didn't begin the day reacting to everybody else and everybody's emotions 00:39:24.622 --> 00:39:26.152 and their needs and their wants. 00:39:26.152 --> 00:39:27.052 It's like, no. 00:39:27.052 --> 00:39:33.472 I actually began the day being proactive to my own health. 00:39:33.472 --> 00:39:33.532 I. 00:39:34.087 --> 00:39:34.627 I love that. 00:39:34.807 --> 00:39:38.047 I mean, you, you kind of ticked off all of those boxes. 00:39:38.497 --> 00:39:43.327 You know, your physical, your mental, your spiritual, your emotional, like, 00:39:43.897 --> 00:39:46.117 all of those things you ticked off. 00:39:46.117 --> 00:39:51.817 And I, I also love the fact that it's so, it doesn't have to be two hours. 00:39:52.207 --> 00:39:58.882 Where I have failed is when I try to make it this two hour big, thing. 00:39:59.332 --> 00:40:03.292 And um, I was listening to, oh, what is his name? 00:40:03.292 --> 00:40:05.392 Brandon Brouchard. 00:40:05.917 --> 00:40:06.817 Oh, Brouchard. 00:40:07.372 --> 00:40:07.552 Emilee Roberts: Yeah. 00:40:07.557 --> 00:40:07.977 Brouchard. 00:40:08.152 --> 00:40:08.737 Yes, I know him. 00:40:08.842 --> 00:40:09.082 Lindsay: Okay. 00:40:09.682 --> 00:40:10.552 I love him too. 00:40:11.812 --> 00:40:12.082 Yes. 00:40:12.202 --> 00:40:15.622 One day I will get his last name down, but I really do love him. 00:40:15.892 --> 00:40:19.492 I was listening to a book that he only has on Audible right now. 00:40:19.762 --> 00:40:23.752 In fact, I just barely shared it on Instagram and let me share it again. 00:40:24.607 --> 00:40:29.827 The name of it, because it's not a book, it is only on Audible and it 00:40:29.827 --> 00:40:32.077 is called The Six Habits of Growth. 00:40:32.677 --> 00:40:36.067 And he talks about there has to be a routine. 00:40:36.067 --> 00:40:41.322 It doesn't have to be in the morning, although, um, there's 00:40:41.322 --> 00:40:44.122 some really good research showing. 00:40:45.367 --> 00:40:46.987 15 minutes in the morning. 00:40:47.107 --> 00:40:48.277 That's all it took. 00:40:48.697 --> 00:40:50.587 That's all it took was 15 minutes. 00:40:50.587 --> 00:40:53.917 And he gave this this short little, or 15 to 20 I think. 00:40:54.247 --> 00:40:59.137 And he gave this short list of you've just gotta do these, these little tiny things 00:40:59.137 --> 00:41:01.237 just move, you've gotta get up and move. 00:41:01.417 --> 00:41:05.257 You do have to have the quiet and the, and then, um, reading. 00:41:05.437 --> 00:41:11.077 And for me, I actually do the, the reading and the, the moving at the same time. 00:41:11.647 --> 00:41:17.407 I do audible and I walk, so everybody, you guys can make this your own, but 00:41:17.407 --> 00:41:22.537 it, I, it is such a wonderful thing to do it and show up for yourself at 00:41:22.537 --> 00:41:24.007 the beginning of the day, especially. 00:41:24.997 --> 00:41:25.927 It's so powerful. 00:41:26.407 --> 00:41:26.767 It really, 00:41:26.772 --> 00:41:30.697 Emilee Roberts: it, it just, it sets my intention for the rest of the day 00:41:31.187 --> 00:41:35.712 I feel like I, I, you know, just that, that proactive or reactive, I, 00:41:35.717 --> 00:41:37.937 I react to challenges differently. 00:41:38.237 --> 00:41:42.497 I am more confident in my parenting. 00:41:42.587 --> 00:41:47.057 I'm more excited, more confident in my relationship with my husband because 00:41:47.172 --> 00:41:53.387 I'm, I'm doing something that is, is setting the stage for personal growth. 00:41:54.062 --> 00:41:57.032 And you know, when you're, when you've been married, I, I've been married 00:41:57.032 --> 00:42:01.187 for 13 years and you, you, you should grow in that 13 years as a, as an 00:42:01.187 --> 00:42:05.537 individual and as a partnership with your relationship with your spouse. 00:42:05.867 --> 00:42:12.077 And I don't know that I would have a lot of time to do that growth if I didn't 00:42:12.227 --> 00:42:14.567 schedule that time for that growth. 00:42:15.267 --> 00:42:16.047 Lindsay: I love that. 00:42:16.137 --> 00:42:17.127 That's so powerful. 00:42:17.727 --> 00:42:23.817 Okay, is there anything else, Emilee, anything else that you just wish women 00:42:23.817 --> 00:42:26.517 knew when it came to self-confidence? 00:42:26.997 --> 00:42:27.987 Any other tools? 00:42:27.987 --> 00:42:32.487 Anything we missed that you just kind of wanted to, to add to this discussion? 00:42:32.492 --> 00:42:33.297 I've loved this. 00:42:34.287 --> 00:42:34.497 I've 00:42:34.497 --> 00:42:35.127 Emilee Roberts: loved it too. 00:42:35.217 --> 00:42:35.697 Thank you. 00:42:35.747 --> 00:42:39.287 I think that I would, first, I just wanna go back to that self worth. 00:42:41.267 --> 00:42:48.827 And really, I would really want whoever listens to find a way to believe 00:42:49.187 --> 00:42:51.887 that your self worth is automatic. 00:42:53.057 --> 00:42:55.097 It is a gift. 00:42:55.757 --> 00:42:59.987 It cannot be taken away another's, another person's opinion 00:43:00.767 --> 00:43:02.027 cannot take that from you. 00:43:02.627 --> 00:43:06.437 Another person's judgment or criticisms cannot diminish it. 00:43:06.977 --> 00:43:09.047 Your self-worth is yours. 00:43:10.247 --> 00:43:19.067 It is for you, a gift for you, and your confidence is in a lot of ways this choice 00:43:19.067 --> 00:43:28.037 that you get to make of I'm going to choose to do and to be, and to act in the 00:43:28.037 --> 00:43:31.157 ways that bring me confidence and joy. 00:43:31.577 --> 00:43:34.577 So I'm completely free to choose that. 00:43:34.727 --> 00:43:38.357 It's not something that's saved for her over there. 00:43:38.702 --> 00:43:42.272 It's not something saved for somebody special. 00:43:42.692 --> 00:43:44.492 It's a gift for you too. 00:43:44.522 --> 00:43:49.022 You just have to choose to go through the motions that are going to bring 00:43:49.022 --> 00:43:51.812 you that contentment, that joy. 00:43:52.202 --> 00:43:55.952 And for me, those kinds of things are what leads to confidence. 00:43:55.957 --> 00:44:01.262 When I'm growing, when I'm keeping the promises I make to myself, when I 00:44:01.262 --> 00:44:06.692 am doing things that bring me joy, I will have these little moments of, oh. 00:44:07.817 --> 00:44:09.797 Maybe that is what confidence feels like. 00:44:10.097 --> 00:44:15.257 You know, that's, I I and it, you have to work for it every day. 00:44:15.617 --> 00:44:17.297 You don't have to work for your self-worth. 00:44:17.657 --> 00:44:18.437 You really don't. 00:44:18.557 --> 00:44:19.877 That's just yours. 00:44:20.267 --> 00:44:24.557 But the confidence that, that is something that we continually have 00:44:24.562 --> 00:44:28.937 to work on, you know, it's, it's a choice though, that we get to make. 00:44:28.937 --> 00:44:33.197 And if we choose to do those things that put us in that 00:44:33.197 --> 00:44:36.497 space and set the intention of. 00:44:37.457 --> 00:44:39.617 I, this, that's why I'm doing this. 00:44:39.707 --> 00:44:42.407 That's why I am doing this, is to feel confident. 00:44:43.007 --> 00:44:45.317 It's, it will come, it has to come. 00:44:45.377 --> 00:44:49.277 It has to start with the choice, and it has to start with the intention, but the 00:44:49.277 --> 00:44:51.347 confidence will follow the choice and the 00:44:51.347 --> 00:44:51.827 intention. 00:44:53.237 --> 00:44:53.957 Lindsay: I love that. 00:44:54.527 --> 00:44:55.007 Awesome. 00:44:55.007 --> 00:44:56.547 Thank you so much, Emilee. 00:44:56.567 --> 00:44:56.807 Okay. 00:44:56.927 --> 00:44:59.387 How do they, how do people find you? 00:44:59.387 --> 00:45:01.457 Is it mainly on Instagram? 00:45:01.457 --> 00:45:03.227 Do you have a website, anything like that? 00:45:03.722 --> 00:45:05.162 Emilee Roberts: Yes, it's mainly on Instagram. 00:45:05.162 --> 00:45:11.102 I have a Facebook business page that, um, honestly, that started as it's called 00:45:11.132 --> 00:45:13.112 Inside Out Beauty by Emilee Roberts. 00:45:13.472 --> 00:45:18.092 And that started as me just trying to show moms who we really don't know 00:45:18.092 --> 00:45:20.702 what we're doing with our makeup, but how they can do their makeup to 00:45:20.702 --> 00:45:22.172 just feel a little bit of confidence. 00:45:23.522 --> 00:45:26.852 It's not the makeup, but it's just that doing something creative that 00:45:26.852 --> 00:45:29.972 maybe if you at least like you kind of know what you're doing, then maybe, 00:45:30.302 --> 00:45:32.222 maybe you'll dare try something. 00:45:32.222 --> 00:45:35.672 So I have a Facebook business page and then my Instagram page. 00:45:35.672 --> 00:45:35.912 Yes. 00:45:36.632 --> 00:45:37.022 Lindsay: Awesome. 00:45:37.052 --> 00:45:37.322 Okay. 00:45:37.322 --> 00:45:41.402 We will link both of those in the notes so that people can find you. 00:45:41.672 --> 00:45:44.162 Thank you so much for coming on the show today. 00:45:44.462 --> 00:45:45.182 Thank you so much 00:45:45.182 --> 00:45:45.902 Emilee Roberts: for inviting me. 00:45:45.902 --> 00:45:49.772 This, I felt very inadequate to talk about it because it's still a journey. 00:45:49.772 --> 00:45:54.152 I'm on myself every day, but this was good for me to dive into. 00:45:54.152 --> 00:45:55.952 Where does that come from for me? 00:45:56.012 --> 00:45:59.192 And you're someone who I've looked up to for years, so I'm so 00:45:59.192 --> 00:45:59.642 Lindsay: honored. 00:45:59.642 --> 00:46:00.152 Thank you. 00:46:00.542 --> 00:46:01.352 Oh, thank you. 00:46:01.442 --> 00:46:03.002 Okay, we'll talk to you guys later.