1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,583 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:13,041 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:13,041 --> 01:00:14,291 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:14,291 --> 01:00:15,458 It's hump day and you know 6 01:00:15,458 --> 01:00:17,000 Mike is excited about that. 7 01:00:17,625 --> 01:00:18,791 Well, if you weren't ready 8 01:00:18,791 --> 01:00:20,166 for the midweek, too late. 9 01:00:20,500 --> 01:00:22,500 It's Time's Up Day, which is a nudge to 10 01:00:22,500 --> 01:00:23,583 stop procrastinating, 11 01:00:23,958 --> 01:00:25,291 get things done, and mend 12 01:00:25,291 --> 01:00:26,791 those fences you've been avoiding. 13 01:00:27,625 --> 01:00:28,666 Not to worry though, you 14 01:00:28,666 --> 01:00:30,041 can finish your coffee first. 15 01:00:30,458 --> 01:00:31,125 I'll allow it. 16 01:00:31,583 --> 01:00:33,500 Here is a little wisdom now from 17 01:00:33,500 --> 01:00:35,250 everyone's homie, Patrick 18 01:00:35,250 --> 01:00:37,416 Mahomes, who said, "Every 19 01:00:37,541 --> 01:00:39,083 experience, good or bad, 20 01:00:39,333 --> 01:00:40,333 you have to learn from." 21 01:00:41,083 --> 01:00:43,416 So today's play, review, 22 01:00:43,958 --> 01:00:45,458 adjust, and run it again. 23 01:00:45,833 --> 01:00:46,791 This time smarter, 24 01:00:47,083 --> 01:00:48,583 bigger, better, faster. 25 01:00:49,333 --> 01:00:51,041 Alright, well today's news, facts, and 26 01:00:51,041 --> 01:00:53,125 birthdays are for September 17th. 27 01:00:53,208 --> 01:00:55,500 We're going to start back in 1787. 28 01:00:55,750 --> 01:00:57,375 That's when the US Constitution was 29 01:00:57,375 --> 01:00:59,125 signed by 39 delegates at the 30 01:00:59,125 --> 01:01:00,166 Constitutional Convention 31 01:01:00,750 --> 01:01:01,375 in Philadelphia. 32 01:01:02,166 --> 01:01:04,125 Then moving all the way up to 1972, 33 01:01:04,875 --> 01:01:07,083 renowned TV series, MASH. 34 01:01:07,416 --> 01:01:10,250 Well, it debuted on CBS and it ran for 11 35 01:01:10,250 --> 01:01:12,166 years, garnering 14 36 01:01:12,166 --> 01:01:13,958 Emmy Awards and 1 Peabody. 37 01:01:14,541 --> 01:01:18,250 Then in 1976, NASA unveiled its first 38 01:01:18,250 --> 01:01:20,250 space shuttle, the Enterprise, in 39 01:01:20,250 --> 01:01:21,208 Palmdale, California. 40 01:01:22,083 --> 01:01:25,083 Then lastly, in 1983, Vanessa Williams 41 01:01:25,083 --> 01:01:26,208 became the first black 42 01:01:26,208 --> 01:01:28,416 Miss America at just 20 years 43 01:01:28,416 --> 01:01:28,708 old. 44 01:01:29,333 --> 01:01:30,541 Well, happy birthday to you. 45 01:01:30,541 --> 01:01:31,416 Today is your birthday. 46 01:01:31,666 --> 01:01:34,166 You share a birthday with your homie, my 47 01:01:34,166 --> 01:01:35,500 homie, Patrick Mahomes. 48 01:01:35,791 --> 01:01:37,000 He's 30 today. 49 01:01:37,708 --> 01:01:40,083 And the Zen master himself, Phil Jackson. 50 01:01:40,333 --> 01:01:41,125 He's 80 today. 51 01:01:41,541 --> 01:01:42,333 Wait, what's this? 52 01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:44,500 This was just handed to me. 53 01:01:44,916 --> 01:01:45,708 It's also 54 01:01:45,708 --> 01:01:48,000 International Country Music Day. 55 01:01:48,791 --> 01:01:50,500 Well, I guess the new kids on the block 56 01:01:50,500 --> 01:01:51,041 are just going to 57 01:01:51,041 --> 01:01:52,083 have to wait another day. 58 01:01:52,541 --> 01:01:54,541 In honor of International Country Music 59 01:01:54,541 --> 01:01:56,250 Day, the number one song 60 01:01:56,250 --> 01:01:58,250 on this date back in 1995 61 01:01:58,625 --> 01:02:00,125 was, "I Like It, I 62 01:02:00,125 --> 01:02:01,500 Love It" by Tim McGraw. 63 01:02:01,958 --> 01:02:04,166 Now, this hard driving number one song 64 01:02:04,166 --> 01:02:05,500 was the lead single from 65 01:02:05,500 --> 01:02:07,250 McGraw's All I Want album, 66 01:02:07,708 --> 01:02:10,000 which became his third number one on the 67 01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:11,625 Billboard Hot Country Songs chart. 68 01:02:12,291 --> 01:02:13,541 Now, it held that top 69 01:02:13,541 --> 01:02:15,291 spot for five straight weeks. 70 01:02:15,375 --> 01:02:17,916 And if you were in a line dancing bar in 71 01:02:17,916 --> 01:02:22,083 1995 or any time 20 years after that, you 72 01:02:22,083 --> 01:02:23,041 know this song well. 73 01:02:23,416 --> 01:02:24,125 It's actually nice to have a 74 01:02:24,125 --> 01:02:25,083 country song on here today. 75 01:02:25,375 --> 01:02:26,000 I'm going to mix this in 76 01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:27,000 a bit more moving forward. 77 01:02:27,541 --> 01:02:29,208 Now, I know you're liking Kovey's habits 78 01:02:29,208 --> 01:02:30,583 and you want some more of it. 79 01:02:30,791 --> 01:02:33,250 So great timing because today we are 80 01:02:33,250 --> 01:02:34,041 talking about the 81 01:02:34,041 --> 01:02:35,791 sub-chapter Scripting Others. 82 01:02:36,416 --> 01:02:38,083 In Stephen R. Kovey's, the seven habits 83 01:02:38,083 --> 01:02:39,250 of highly effective people. 84 01:02:39,958 --> 01:02:42,708 And in this section, Kovey asks, "What 85 01:02:42,708 --> 01:02:45,000 part are you handing people to play?" 86 01:02:45,750 --> 01:02:47,750 He argues that many of us unintentionally 87 01:02:47,750 --> 01:02:48,916 hand out scripts, 88 01:02:49,833 --> 01:02:50,666 labels, and expectations, 89 01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:54,000 subtle cues that others then fulfill. 90 01:02:54,500 --> 01:02:56,666 The renewal move is to write better 91 01:02:56,666 --> 01:02:58,041 scripts, grounded in 92 01:02:58,041 --> 01:02:59,208 principles and potential. 93 01:02:59,708 --> 01:03:01,833 Here Kovey's story of a school class that 94 01:03:01,833 --> 01:03:04,416 was scripted as "capable is famous." 95 01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:07,000 When teachers were told falsely that 96 01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:08,291 their students were high 97 01:03:08,291 --> 01:03:10,666 IQ bloomers, those students 98 01:03:10,791 --> 01:03:12,916 actually performed better over time. 99 01:03:13,291 --> 01:03:13,541 Why? 100 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:15,041 Because the teachers' 101 01:03:15,041 --> 01:03:17,083 expectations had changed for them. 102 01:03:17,625 --> 01:03:19,166 More encouragement, richer 103 01:03:19,166 --> 01:03:21,166 questions, extra patience. 104 01:03:21,958 --> 01:03:24,083 Kovey's point here is, "Treat a man as he 105 01:03:24,083 --> 01:03:26,916 is and he will remain as he is. 106 01:03:27,333 --> 01:03:29,833 Treat him as he can and should be and he 107 01:03:29,833 --> 01:03:31,833 will become as he can and should be." 108 01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:34,208 The line he quotes 109 01:03:34,208 --> 01:03:36,375 captures the leverage of belief. 110 01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:38,333 But how do we do this without drifting 111 01:03:38,333 --> 01:03:39,750 into flattery or pressure? 112 01:03:40,416 --> 01:03:41,875 Kovey suggests specific, 113 01:03:41,875 --> 01:03:43,375 character-based affirmations. 114 01:03:43,833 --> 01:03:45,708 Notice integrity and initiative and 115 01:03:45,708 --> 01:03:47,833 kindness over vague praise. 116 01:03:48,500 --> 01:03:50,000 We also clarify roles 117 01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:51,375 and goals collaboratively. 118 01:03:52,041 --> 01:03:53,375 Then communicate trust. 119 01:03:53,750 --> 01:03:55,583 "I believe you can handle this. 120 01:03:55,833 --> 01:03:56,791 I am here to remove 121 01:03:56,791 --> 01:03:58,750 obstacles, not to micromanage." 122 01:03:59,500 --> 01:04:02,291 Accountability doesn't disappear here. 123 01:04:02,750 --> 01:04:05,583 It shifts from policing to partnering. 124 01:04:06,208 --> 01:04:07,416 When someone falls short, 125 01:04:07,416 --> 01:04:09,375 the new script isn't "blame." 126 01:04:09,541 --> 01:04:11,416 It's "What did we learn from this?" 127 01:04:11,416 --> 01:04:13,291 Or "What's our next right step?" 128 01:04:13,833 --> 01:04:15,000 What did we learn from this? 129 01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:16,375 What's our next right step? 130 01:04:16,791 --> 01:04:18,166 And Kovey warns against negative 131 01:04:18,166 --> 01:04:19,208 scripting too, saying 132 01:04:19,208 --> 01:04:20,500 things like, "That's just how 133 01:04:20,500 --> 01:04:22,083 you are," or the "That's 134 01:04:22,083 --> 01:04:23,208 just how you are" shrug. 135 01:04:23,791 --> 01:04:25,791 Those right roles no one wants and 136 01:04:25,791 --> 01:04:27,625 relationships no one enjoys. 137 01:04:28,833 --> 01:04:30,416 Renewal shows up in tiny edits. 138 01:04:31,041 --> 01:04:32,625 The benefit of the doubt question, the 139 01:04:32,625 --> 01:04:33,500 second chance, the 140 01:04:33,500 --> 01:04:34,958 check-in that treats people like 141 01:04:34,958 --> 01:04:35,791 whole humans. 142 01:04:36,666 --> 01:04:37,958 Families can do this at the dinner table 143 01:04:37,958 --> 01:04:38,625 with "What was your 144 01:04:38,625 --> 01:04:39,416 highest point of the day?" 145 01:04:39,416 --> 01:04:40,666 "What was your lowest point of the day?" 146 01:04:41,000 --> 01:04:42,750 Teams can do it in weeklies by 147 01:04:42,750 --> 01:04:44,041 celebrating small wins 148 01:04:44,041 --> 01:04:45,916 and naming values lived. 149 01:04:46,500 --> 01:04:48,291 As with every habit seven dimension, 150 01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:50,125 scripting others ties 151 01:04:50,125 --> 01:04:51,750 back to self-mastery. 152 01:04:52,125 --> 01:04:54,166 The scripts we write for ourselves set 153 01:04:54,166 --> 01:04:55,541 the ceiling for the 154 01:04:55,541 --> 01:04:56,791 ones we write for others. 155 01:04:57,541 --> 01:04:59,125 For instance, if our self-talk is 156 01:04:59,125 --> 01:05:00,666 principle-centered, courage, 157 01:05:00,875 --> 01:05:02,833 respect, and growth will author 158 01:05:03,000 --> 01:05:04,125 better pages for our 159 01:05:04,125 --> 01:05:05,750 partners, our kids, and our coworkers. 160 01:05:06,541 --> 01:05:08,583 Here is your hump day takeaway. 161 01:05:08,916 --> 01:05:09,458 That rhymed. 162 01:05:09,458 --> 01:05:09,875 I like that. 163 01:05:10,500 --> 01:05:11,708 Hand people scripts that 164 01:05:11,708 --> 01:05:13,750 assume growth and signal trust. 165 01:05:14,416 --> 01:05:15,625 Most people rise to the 166 01:05:15,625 --> 01:05:17,416 story they're invited to live. 167 01:05:18,291 --> 01:05:19,958 Times Up Day is your cue. 168 01:05:20,458 --> 01:05:21,250 Send the text. 169 01:05:21,458 --> 01:05:22,166 Make the piece. 170 01:05:22,791 --> 01:05:24,000 Write a better page for 171 01:05:24,000 --> 01:05:25,500 yourself and someone else. 172 01:05:25,958 --> 01:05:27,166 Hey, thanks for spending your morning 173 01:05:27,166 --> 01:05:27,875 with Morning Serial. 174 01:05:28,125 --> 01:05:30,291 We'll see you on the next rotation and as 175 01:05:30,291 --> 01:05:32,583 always, have a fantastic day. 176 01:05:34,083 --> 01:05:35,750 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 177 01:05:35,750 --> 01:05:36,458 the Morning Serial 178 01:05:36,458 --> 01:05:38,500 podcast on the One Life Live 179 01:05:38,500 --> 01:05:39,000 It channel. 180 01:05:39,541 --> 01:05:41,458 You can find more episodes and videos by 181 01:05:41,458 --> 01:05:43,125 visiting our YouTube channel and the 182 01:05:43,125 --> 01:05:44,750 website at seaningless 183 01:05:45,083 --> 01:05:47,291 and at seaningless.com, where you can 184 01:05:47,291 --> 01:05:48,541 also follow our other 185 01:05:48,541 --> 01:05:49,958 podcasts, the Mr. and Mrs. 186 01:05:50,208 --> 01:05:51,208 English podcast and 187 01:05:51,208 --> 01:05:52,083 the Life Happens podcast. 188 01:05:53,125 --> 01:05:54,791 And these other podcasts, we'll dive 189 01:05:54,791 --> 01:05:56,166 deeper into everyday issues, 190 01:05:56,458 --> 01:05:57,708 self-improvement, well-being, 191 01:05:57,958 --> 01:05:59,708 business and finance, and we 192 01:05:59,708 --> 01:06:00,958 welcome special guests too. 193 01:06:01,500 --> 01:06:02,208 So join us. 194 01:06:02,208 --> 01:06:03,500 It'll be a good time, I promise. 195 01:06:04,208 --> 01:06:05,291 Thanks again for listening. 196 01:06:05,291 --> 01:06:06,916 Have a fantastic day and 197 01:06:06,916 --> 01:06:07,416 we'll see you tomorrow.