What does it mean to raise — or be — a “spicy one”? In this deeply honest and energizing conversation, Katy Bowman and author
Mary Van Geffen unpack what it’s like to parent strong-willed, big-feeling kids (and stay sane while doing it). They discuss how movement can support self-regulation and co-regulation, helping both parent and child navigate intensity with compassion and humor. Together, they look at the role of movement before, during, and after heated moments — as well as the art of knowing when to walk away. This episode offers practical wisdom for growing your “calm muscle” and showing up as the safest person in the room.
0:00 – Meet Mary Van Geffen – Parenting insights for “Spicy Ones”
0:05 – What is a “Spicy One”? – Understanding strong-willed, big-feeling kids
0:07 – Regulation & Co-Regulation – How parents and kids navigate intensity together
0:10 – Contagious Emotions &
Training your ‘Calm’ Muscle– Mirror neurons in action
0:14 – Quick Regulation Tools – Breathing, sensing, and self-talk
0:19 – Move to Regulate – Using movement before, during, and after heated moments
0:37 – Massage & Connection – Diffusing tension with touch
0:52 – Mary’s Resources – Books, classes, and meditations
0:53 – Meet Tyler Benner & Venn Design – Movement-friendly furniture and innovative tools
0:54 – Dynamic Furniture – Air Chairs and floor cushions that encourage motion
0:57 – Genius Energy & Archery – Aligning bones for power and precision
1:04 – Tyler’s Shot Trainer – Archery form and physics made simple
1:07 – Barefoot Cycling Shoes – The first foot-shaped cycling shoes designed for comfort and performance
What is Move Your DNA with Katy Bowman?
Although the world is becoming mostly sedentary, our bodies still require a wide variety of daily movements in order to work well. Many of us struggle to get regular exercise, but even that can fall short of nourishing the body from head to toe. How can we move more—a lot more—when we have sore, stiff parts and overly busy lifestyles?
Join Katy Bowman M.S., biomechanist, author, and movement educator as she combines big-picture lessons on biomechanics, kinesiology, physiology, and natural human movement with simple and practical solutions and exercises to get all your body parts moving better. Katy’s lighthearted and funny approach helps us all put the movement back in our lives, and the joy back in our movement!