1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,125 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,125 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:10,541 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:10,541 --> 01:00:11,791 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:12,083 --> 01:00:13,125 Now here is normally 6 01:00:13,125 --> 01:00:14,250 where I would be saying 7 01:00:14,250 --> 01:00:16,208 at a volume that today is 8 01:00:16,208 --> 01:00:18,000 hump day, but not today. 9 01:00:18,500 --> 01:00:21,250 Because today is quiet day, 10 01:00:21,625 --> 01:00:23,541 which encourages us to turn 11 01:00:23,541 --> 01:00:25,041 it down a little bit today, 12 01:00:25,416 --> 01:00:26,541 reducing the noise, 13 01:00:26,541 --> 01:00:28,541 both literal and emotional. 14 01:00:29,083 --> 01:00:31,958 So maybe today we whisper our opinions 15 01:00:31,958 --> 01:00:33,791 and mute at least one 16 01:00:33,791 --> 01:00:35,000 of those group chats. 17 01:00:35,666 --> 01:00:36,333 All right, well 18 01:00:36,333 --> 01:00:39,500 yesterday's trivia answer, A380. 19 01:00:40,125 --> 01:00:42,083 The largest Airbus plane is the A380. 20 01:00:42,916 --> 01:00:44,000 And now it's time for 21 01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:44,833 the essential vitamins 22 01:00:44,833 --> 01:00:46,041 in your morning cereal. 23 01:00:46,500 --> 01:00:47,500 It's today's quote, and 24 01:00:47,500 --> 01:00:48,625 it's from birthday boy 25 01:00:48,708 --> 01:00:50,916 turning 55 today, Sean 26 01:00:50,916 --> 01:00:52,208 Astin, who said, quote, 27 01:00:52,541 --> 01:00:54,333 "There is some good in this world 28 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:56,500 and it's worth fighting for," end quote. 29 01:00:56,958 --> 01:00:57,625 Actually, some of you 30 01:00:57,625 --> 01:00:58,833 might've noticed this quote 31 01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,083 from one of Sean's characters. 32 01:01:01,708 --> 01:01:03,208 This is some Lord of the Rings, 33 01:01:03,458 --> 01:01:04,833 Samwise level wisdom 34 01:01:04,833 --> 01:01:05,916 for you today, right? 35 01:01:06,750 --> 01:01:07,916 Sometimes we all need a 36 01:01:07,916 --> 01:01:09,083 powerful message of hope 37 01:01:09,291 --> 01:01:11,291 and perseverance against despair 38 01:01:11,291 --> 01:01:12,833 from our friends in the Shryer. 39 01:01:13,291 --> 01:01:14,541 And if you've never seen 40 01:01:14,541 --> 01:01:16,166 the movie or read the book, 41 01:01:16,166 --> 01:01:16,958 well, you should. 42 01:01:17,500 --> 01:01:18,625 Well, let's go ahead 43 01:01:18,625 --> 01:01:19,875 and hear from the experts. 44 01:01:20,125 --> 01:01:21,000 Now it's time to pour 45 01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:22,041 in some let them theory 46 01:01:22,041 --> 01:01:22,916 by Mel Robbins. 47 01:01:23,458 --> 01:01:24,333 Now, in the first 48 01:01:24,333 --> 01:01:26,375 part of this sub chapter, 49 01:01:26,416 --> 01:01:28,708 surviving heartbreak, Mel is 50 01:01:28,708 --> 01:01:29,708 acknowledging something 51 01:01:29,708 --> 01:01:31,458 many people try to rush past. 52 01:01:32,291 --> 01:01:33,833 Heartbreak is not weakness. 53 01:01:34,416 --> 01:01:35,166 It's neurological. 54 01:01:35,750 --> 01:01:36,708 She writes this, quote, 55 01:01:37,250 --> 01:01:39,041 "Heartbreak activates the same pain 56 01:01:39,041 --> 01:01:40,041 centers in your brain 57 01:01:40,458 --> 01:01:42,250 as physical injury," end quote. 58 01:01:42,666 --> 01:01:45,500 Now that's why it feels disorienting. 59 01:01:45,708 --> 01:01:47,083 You're not just dramatic. 60 01:01:47,500 --> 01:01:48,708 Your brain is actually 61 01:01:48,708 --> 01:01:50,166 processing this loss. 62 01:01:50,750 --> 01:01:52,000 Now, Mel explains that 63 01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:53,666 when a relationship ends, 64 01:01:53,916 --> 01:01:55,291 you're not just losing a person, 65 01:01:55,500 --> 01:01:57,541 you're losing the imagined future, 66 01:01:58,000 --> 01:01:59,708 the routines, the shared language, 67 01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:01,666 even parts of your identity. 68 01:02:02,291 --> 01:02:04,750 That layered loss, well, it makes 69 01:02:04,750 --> 01:02:06,291 heartbreak very complex. 70 01:02:06,791 --> 01:02:07,916 The temptation, she 71 01:02:07,916 --> 01:02:09,750 says, is to chase relief 72 01:02:09,750 --> 01:02:11,541 from the very source of pain, 73 01:02:11,916 --> 01:02:13,625 to text, to check social 74 01:02:13,625 --> 01:02:15,333 media, to look for closure. 75 01:02:15,875 --> 01:02:17,083 But Mel writes this, quote, 76 01:02:17,458 --> 01:02:18,500 "Closure is something you 77 01:02:18,500 --> 01:02:20,541 give yourself," end quote. 78 01:02:20,541 --> 01:02:21,625 Now that line shifts 79 01:02:21,625 --> 01:02:22,916 the power back to you. 80 01:02:23,375 --> 01:02:24,500 The let them principle 81 01:02:24,500 --> 01:02:26,041 becomes grounding right here. 82 01:02:26,333 --> 01:02:28,166 If they left, let them. 83 01:02:28,500 --> 01:02:30,500 If they choose differently, let them. 84 01:02:30,791 --> 01:02:33,041 If they're moving on, let them. 85 01:02:33,500 --> 01:02:35,708 Acceptance, it doesn't mean you agree, 86 01:02:36,000 --> 01:02:37,208 but it means you stop 87 01:02:37,208 --> 01:02:39,208 fighting the reality of it. 88 01:02:39,541 --> 01:02:40,458 In fighting reality, 89 01:02:40,666 --> 01:02:41,625 it drains the very 90 01:02:41,625 --> 01:02:43,625 energy that you need to heal. 91 01:02:44,208 --> 01:02:46,041 So, Mel also highlights 92 01:02:46,041 --> 01:02:47,583 the mental spiral, right? 93 01:02:47,583 --> 01:02:49,083 The replaying of conversations, 94 01:02:49,625 --> 01:02:51,250 rewriting history in your mind, 95 01:02:51,458 --> 01:02:53,375 focusing only on those good moments. 96 01:02:53,916 --> 01:02:54,916 Mel says this, quote, 97 01:02:54,916 --> 01:02:57,375 "Your brain prefers familiar pain 98 01:02:57,458 --> 01:02:59,958 "over unfamiliar freedom," end quote. 99 01:03:00,500 --> 01:03:02,000 And that's why we're tempted 100 01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:03,708 to return to what hurts us. 101 01:03:04,291 --> 01:03:05,416 Familiarity feels 102 01:03:05,416 --> 01:03:07,083 safer than the uncertainty. 103 01:03:07,833 --> 01:03:09,291 So, this section is about 104 01:03:09,291 --> 01:03:11,708 stabilization before strategy. 105 01:03:12,083 --> 01:03:13,791 Before the six recommendations that 106 01:03:13,791 --> 01:03:14,833 she'll outline next, 107 01:03:15,083 --> 01:03:16,083 and we're gonna cover that tomorrow, 108 01:03:16,541 --> 01:03:18,500 she focuses on perspective. 109 01:03:19,083 --> 01:03:19,958 Heartbreak is not 110 01:03:19,958 --> 01:03:21,500 proof that you're unworthy, 111 01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:24,833 it's evidence something wasn't aligned. 112 01:03:25,291 --> 01:03:26,708 Healing begins when you stop 113 01:03:26,708 --> 01:03:28,541 negotiating with what happened 114 01:03:29,083 --> 01:03:29,625 and you start 115 01:03:29,625 --> 01:03:32,000 grounding yourself in what is. 116 01:03:32,416 --> 01:03:33,541 All right, here is 117 01:03:33,541 --> 01:03:34,875 your hump day takeaway. 118 01:03:35,625 --> 01:03:38,250 Heartbreak heals when you accept reality, 119 01:03:38,250 --> 01:03:39,583 reclaim your power, 120 01:03:39,833 --> 01:03:41,250 and stop seeking comfort 121 01:03:41,250 --> 01:03:42,500 from the source of pain. 122 01:03:43,083 --> 01:03:45,166 So, on a quiet day, let 123 01:03:45,166 --> 01:03:46,708 yourself sit with what's real 124 01:03:47,166 --> 01:03:50,041 and trust that peace grows in acceptance. 125 01:03:50,791 --> 01:03:51,708 Now, the prize from the 126 01:03:51,708 --> 01:03:52,708 bottom of the cereal box, 127 01:03:52,708 --> 01:03:53,458 the morning cereal 128 01:03:53,458 --> 01:03:55,000 trivia question of the day. 129 01:03:55,000 --> 01:03:55,416 Here it is. 130 01:03:55,916 --> 01:03:57,375 Who has won the most 131 01:03:57,375 --> 01:04:00,625 WSOP bracelets in poker? 132 01:04:00,875 --> 01:04:02,625 It's World Series of Poker Bracelets. 133 01:04:03,291 --> 01:04:04,875 All right, well, thanks for listening to 134 01:04:04,875 --> 01:04:05,791 Morning Cereal today. 135 01:04:05,791 --> 01:04:07,291 We will see you back here tomorrow 136 01:04:07,541 --> 01:04:09,125 for the answer to the trivia question 137 01:04:09,500 --> 01:04:11,083 and for more sugar for the soul. 138 01:04:11,333 --> 01:04:14,166 And until then, have a fantastic day. 139 01:04:15,208 --> 01:04:16,791 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 140 01:04:16,958 --> 01:04:19,000 to the Morning Cereal podcast on the One 141 01:04:19,000 --> 01:04:20,291 Life Live It channel. 142 01:04:20,833 --> 01:04:22,500 You can find more episodes and videos 143 01:04:22,500 --> 01:04:23,958 by visiting our YouTube channel 144 01:04:24,166 --> 01:04:25,291 and the website at 145 01:04:25,291 --> 01:04:27,833 seaningless and at seaningless.com, 146 01:04:28,083 --> 01:04:28,916 where you can also 147 01:04:28,916 --> 01:04:30,375 follow our other podcasts, 148 01:04:30,666 --> 01:04:32,000 the Mr. and Mrs. Inglis podcast 149 01:04:32,458 --> 01:04:33,583 and the Life Happens podcast. 150 01:04:34,416 --> 01:04:36,541 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 151 01:04:36,541 --> 01:04:37,458 into everyday issues, 152 01:04:37,708 --> 01:04:39,000 self-improvement and well-being, 153 01:04:39,208 --> 01:04:41,000 business and finance, and we 154 01:04:41,000 --> 01:04:42,291 welcome special guests too. 155 01:04:42,666 --> 01:04:43,500 So, join us. 156 01:04:43,500 --> 01:04:44,833 It will be a good time, I promise. 157 01:04:45,500 --> 01:04:46,541 Thanks again for listening. 158 01:04:46,666 --> 01:04:48,208 Have a fantastic day and 159 01:04:48,208 --> 01:04:48,708 we'll see you tomorrow.