1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,083 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,083 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:09,916 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:09,916 --> 01:00:11,500 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:11,958 --> 01:00:13,916 Not only are we celebrating the fact 6 01:00:13,916 --> 01:00:14,583 that we are getting 7 01:00:14,583 --> 01:00:16,000 into the meat of this week, 8 01:00:16,000 --> 01:00:17,875 but also today we are 9 01:00:17,875 --> 01:00:19,791 celebrating Chinese New Year. 10 01:00:20,250 --> 01:00:21,000 We're ringing in the 11 01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:22,500 year of the fire horse, 12 01:00:22,833 --> 01:00:24,250 which according to tradition, 13 01:00:24,416 --> 01:00:25,041 symbolizes 14 01:00:25,041 --> 01:00:27,333 independence, confidence and energy. 15 01:00:27,666 --> 01:00:28,750 All sounds pretty good to me. 16 01:00:29,291 --> 01:00:30,833 Well, the answer to 17 01:00:30,833 --> 01:00:32,041 yesterday's trivia question, 18 01:00:32,958 --> 01:00:34,083 1.6 kilometers. 19 01:00:34,750 --> 01:00:37,541 There are 1.6 kilometers in a mile. 20 01:00:38,208 --> 01:00:39,291 And now the essential 21 01:00:39,291 --> 01:00:41,083 vitamins in your morning cereal. 22 01:00:41,083 --> 01:00:42,250 Today's quote is from 23 01:00:42,250 --> 01:00:44,583 birthday boy turning 35 today, 24 01:00:45,375 --> 01:00:46,708 Ed Sheeran, who said, 25 01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:48,125 quote, "Be original. 26 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:50,500 Don't be scared of being bold." 27 01:00:50,875 --> 01:00:51,333 End quote. 28 01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:54,416 Now in the year of the fire horse, 29 01:00:54,833 --> 01:00:56,375 embrace your uniqueness. 30 01:00:56,666 --> 01:00:58,458 Be your authentic self, 31 01:00:58,583 --> 01:00:59,666 which takes courage to 32 01:00:59,666 --> 01:01:01,666 stand up and stand out, right? 33 01:01:01,958 --> 01:01:03,083 Rather than conforming to 34 01:01:03,083 --> 01:01:05,125 fit in or seek others approval. 35 01:01:05,916 --> 01:01:07,500 Be a fire horse. 36 01:01:08,041 --> 01:01:09,875 Well, let's hear from the experts now. 37 01:01:09,875 --> 01:01:11,791 It is time to pour in some Let Them 38 01:01:11,791 --> 01:01:13,000 Theory by Mel Robbins. 39 01:01:13,666 --> 01:01:16,541 And today is a review of chapter 19, 40 01:01:16,708 --> 01:01:19,166 where Robbins pulls everything together 41 01:01:19,291 --> 01:01:21,583 and challenges readers to rethink 42 01:01:21,750 --> 01:01:22,625 how they approach 43 01:01:22,625 --> 01:01:24,875 relationships at every level. 44 01:01:25,291 --> 01:01:27,500 The central idea of this chapter, 45 01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:29,416 it's simple, but it's powerful. 46 01:01:30,291 --> 01:01:32,458 Stop trying to manage people's behavior 47 01:01:33,041 --> 01:01:34,916 and start managing your own boundaries. 48 01:01:35,541 --> 01:01:36,250 Robbins explains that 49 01:01:36,250 --> 01:01:37,708 most emotional exhaustion 50 01:01:37,708 --> 01:01:38,875 comes from trying to fix, 51 01:01:39,250 --> 01:01:41,000 save, or convince others. 52 01:01:41,500 --> 01:01:43,375 When the only thing we truly control 53 01:01:43,375 --> 01:01:45,708 is how long we stay stuck. 54 01:01:46,333 --> 01:01:47,333 Now she writes, quote, 55 01:01:47,958 --> 01:01:49,458 "Let them be who they are 56 01:01:49,458 --> 01:01:51,000 so you can see clearly 57 01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:52,666 what you're dealing with." 58 01:01:52,666 --> 01:01:53,083 End quote. 59 01:01:53,750 --> 01:01:55,708 Now that clarity becomes the foundation 60 01:01:56,083 --> 01:01:57,375 for healthier choices. 61 01:01:58,291 --> 01:02:00,166 Now Robbins here revisits 62 01:02:00,166 --> 01:02:01,958 the patterns discussed earlier. 63 01:02:02,916 --> 01:02:05,375 Overgiving, chasing unavailable people, 64 01:02:05,416 --> 01:02:07,916 ignoring red flags, and explains 65 01:02:08,291 --> 01:02:10,625 how they're often rooted in fear. 66 01:02:11,458 --> 01:02:12,916 Fear of being alone, right? 67 01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:14,750 Fear of starting over, 68 01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:16,208 fear of being misunderstood. 69 01:02:16,750 --> 01:02:18,958 But she refrains fear as 70 01:02:18,958 --> 01:02:21,083 a signal, not a stop sign. 71 01:02:21,625 --> 01:02:23,750 So according to Robbins, quote, 72 01:02:23,833 --> 01:02:24,791 "When you stop 73 01:02:24,791 --> 01:02:27,083 interfering with people's choices, 74 01:02:27,083 --> 01:02:28,083 you finally get the 75 01:02:28,083 --> 01:02:29,541 information you need." 76 01:02:29,541 --> 01:02:29,958 End quote. 77 01:02:30,750 --> 01:02:33,208 This chapter emphasizes that growth 78 01:02:33,458 --> 01:02:35,708 often feels uncomfortable because it 79 01:02:35,708 --> 01:02:37,041 requires acceptance. 80 01:02:37,625 --> 01:02:39,833 Not approval, just acceptance. 81 01:02:40,416 --> 01:02:42,583 When you stop trying to change others, 82 01:02:43,208 --> 01:02:46,291 you reclaim your energy and self-respect. 83 01:02:46,875 --> 01:02:49,250 Now she also highlights how letting go 84 01:02:49,458 --> 01:02:50,875 doesn't mean you stop caring. 85 01:02:50,875 --> 01:02:53,625 It means you stop controlling, okay? 86 01:02:53,791 --> 01:02:55,708 And ironically, that's when relationships 87 01:02:55,833 --> 01:02:58,625 either strengthen naturally or they 88 01:02:58,625 --> 01:03:00,125 reveal their limits. 89 01:03:00,791 --> 01:03:01,708 And Robbins closes the 90 01:03:01,708 --> 01:03:03,208 chapter by reminding readers 91 01:03:03,208 --> 01:03:05,500 that choosing yourself, it's not selfish. 92 01:03:06,041 --> 01:03:07,166 It's sustainable. 93 01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:09,916 You can't build a fulfilling life 94 01:03:09,916 --> 01:03:10,875 while constantly 95 01:03:10,875 --> 01:03:12,458 overriding your intuition. 96 01:03:13,333 --> 01:03:15,541 All right, here is your takeaway. 97 01:03:16,208 --> 01:03:18,125 When you stop managing others, 98 01:03:18,125 --> 01:03:20,291 you finally start living your own life. 99 01:03:20,833 --> 01:03:22,791 So today, embrace your 100 01:03:22,791 --> 01:03:24,750 inner fire horse energy, 101 01:03:25,250 --> 01:03:26,916 bold, grounded, and 102 01:03:26,916 --> 01:03:29,000 moving forward without apology. 103 01:03:29,458 --> 01:03:31,458 Okay, but first, the prize from the 104 01:03:31,458 --> 01:03:32,666 bottom of the cereal box, 105 01:03:32,666 --> 01:03:33,750 the morning cereal 106 01:03:33,750 --> 01:03:35,708 trivia question of the day. 107 01:03:35,708 --> 01:03:36,125 Here it is. 108 01:03:36,708 --> 01:03:38,291 Who is the NHL's 109 01:03:38,291 --> 01:03:40,416 all-time top point scorer? 110 01:03:41,291 --> 01:03:42,208 Those of you in certain 111 01:03:42,208 --> 01:03:43,500 states, you might know that. 112 01:03:43,500 --> 01:03:44,791 You guys might know that from listening 113 01:03:44,791 --> 01:03:46,458 to the morning cereal this last year. 114 01:03:46,458 --> 01:03:48,000 It's been on here a couple of times. 115 01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:49,541 All right, well, thanks so much 116 01:03:49,625 --> 01:03:51,166 for listening to morning cereal today. 117 01:03:51,166 --> 01:03:52,750 We will see you back here tomorrow 118 01:03:52,750 --> 01:03:54,166 for the answer to the trivia question 119 01:03:54,625 --> 01:03:56,625 and more sugar for the soul. 120 01:03:56,958 --> 01:03:59,708 And until then, have a fantastic day. 121 01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:02,583 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 122 01:04:02,583 --> 01:04:04,125 to the morning cereal podcast 123 01:04:04,333 --> 01:04:06,083 on the One Life Live It channel. 124 01:04:06,625 --> 01:04:08,291 You can find more episodes and videos 125 01:04:08,291 --> 01:04:09,750 by visiting our YouTube channel 126 01:04:09,916 --> 01:04:11,041 and the website at 127 01:04:11,041 --> 01:04:13,583 seaningless and at seaningless.com, 128 01:04:13,916 --> 01:04:14,708 where you can also 129 01:04:14,708 --> 01:04:16,166 follow our other podcast, 130 01:04:16,500 --> 01:04:17,625 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 131 01:04:18,208 --> 01:04:19,375 and the Life Happens podcast. 132 01:04:20,208 --> 01:04:22,333 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 133 01:04:22,333 --> 01:04:24,291 into everyday issues, self-improvement, 134 01:04:24,291 --> 01:04:25,875 and well-being, business and finance, 135 01:04:26,375 --> 01:04:28,041 and we welcome special guests too. 136 01:04:28,541 --> 01:04:29,291 So join us. 137 01:04:29,291 --> 01:04:30,583 It will be a good time, I promise. 138 01:04:31,291 --> 01:04:32,375 Thanks again for listening. 139 01:04:32,375 --> 01:04:34,000 Have a fantastic day and 140 01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:34,500 we'll see you tomorrow.