1 01:00:00,125 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,708 welcome to morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,750 --> 01:00:09,958 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:09,958 --> 01:00:11,500 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:11,791 --> 01:00:13,625 Well, if March is already feeling 6 01:00:13,625 --> 01:00:14,666 overwhelming to you, 7 01:00:14,916 --> 01:00:16,208 good news, today is 8 01:00:16,208 --> 01:00:17,375 simplify your life day. 9 01:00:17,666 --> 01:00:19,333 So at least try to 10 01:00:19,333 --> 01:00:20,541 reduce the number of browsers 11 01:00:20,541 --> 01:00:22,416 that you have open on your computer 12 01:00:22,416 --> 01:00:25,125 from maybe 47 say down to 25, 13 01:00:25,625 --> 01:00:27,458 or maybe just clean out that 14 01:00:27,458 --> 01:00:28,750 junk drawer in your kitchen 15 01:00:29,083 --> 01:00:30,250 that really closes now. 16 01:00:30,250 --> 01:00:31,291 You know the one I'm talking about. 17 01:00:31,541 --> 01:00:32,500 Just throwing out 18 01:00:32,500 --> 01:00:33,625 some ideas there for you. 19 01:00:34,250 --> 01:00:35,500 Well, the answer to 20 01:00:35,500 --> 01:00:37,458 Monday's trivia question, helium. 21 01:00:38,208 --> 01:00:39,458 Helium is the gas that 22 01:00:39,458 --> 01:00:41,041 makes your voice squeaky. 23 01:00:41,583 --> 01:00:42,416 And now the essential 24 01:00:42,416 --> 01:00:44,125 vitamins in your morning cereal. 25 01:00:44,125 --> 01:00:45,375 Today's quote, it is from 26 01:00:45,375 --> 01:00:47,375 birthday girl turning 56 today, 27 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:49,750 Julie Bowen, who said, quote, 28 01:00:50,041 --> 01:00:52,041 "I think happiness is a choice." 29 01:00:52,041 --> 01:00:52,416 End quote. 30 01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:54,208 Now your morning decoder, 31 01:00:54,708 --> 01:00:55,958 your emotional wellbeing, 32 01:00:56,125 --> 01:00:58,416 it's largely dependent on your mindset, 33 01:00:58,625 --> 01:00:59,875 your attitudes and 34 01:00:59,875 --> 01:01:01,416 your conscious decisions 35 01:01:01,583 --> 01:01:02,541 that you make every day, 36 01:01:02,750 --> 01:01:04,583 rather than these external circumstances. 37 01:01:05,291 --> 01:01:07,458 Well, let's hear from the experts now. 38 01:01:07,458 --> 01:01:09,625 It is time to pour in some Let Them 39 01:01:09,625 --> 01:01:11,416 Theory by Mel Robbins. 40 01:01:11,666 --> 01:01:13,750 Now today, almost sadly, 41 01:01:14,458 --> 01:01:15,875 we begin the final 42 01:01:15,875 --> 01:01:18,625 chapter of the book, chapter 21, 43 01:01:18,625 --> 01:01:19,291 which is entitled, 44 01:01:19,833 --> 01:01:22,541 "Your Let Me Era is Here." 45 01:01:23,041 --> 01:01:24,666 And we're gonna review it in two parts. 46 01:01:24,666 --> 01:01:25,750 This is gonna be part number one. 47 01:01:25,791 --> 01:01:27,583 Here, Mel opens the 48 01:01:27,583 --> 01:01:29,333 chapter with a powerful pivot. 49 01:01:29,708 --> 01:01:31,166 She explains that once 50 01:01:31,166 --> 01:01:33,125 you've mastered Let Them, 51 01:01:33,583 --> 01:01:34,708 letting others behave 52 01:01:34,708 --> 01:01:36,208 and choose and disappoint, 53 01:01:36,708 --> 01:01:38,375 maybe even impress or ignore, 54 01:01:38,916 --> 01:01:40,250 you then arrive at the 55 01:01:40,250 --> 01:01:42,541 next phase, the Let Me phase. 56 01:01:43,333 --> 01:01:44,250 She writes this, quote, 57 01:01:44,541 --> 01:01:45,791 "When you stop trying 58 01:01:45,791 --> 01:01:47,000 to control everyone else, 59 01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:48,000 "you finally have the 60 01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:49,625 energy to control yourself." 61 01:01:50,041 --> 01:01:50,333 End quote. 62 01:01:50,958 --> 01:01:51,958 Now that line alone, it 63 01:01:51,958 --> 01:01:53,500 feels like it should be stitched 64 01:01:53,583 --> 01:01:55,375 probably on some pillow somewhere, right? 65 01:01:56,041 --> 01:01:57,125 The first half of this 66 01:01:57,125 --> 01:01:59,500 chapter is about reclaiming agency. 67 01:02:00,208 --> 01:02:02,375 Let Me means letting yourself rest, 68 01:02:02,916 --> 01:02:04,875 letting yourself want more, 69 01:02:04,875 --> 01:02:05,833 letting yourself outgrow 70 01:02:05,833 --> 01:02:08,125 spaces you once prayed for, right? 71 01:02:08,416 --> 01:02:09,958 It's deeply empowering 72 01:02:10,125 --> 01:02:11,291 and it's also probably 73 01:02:11,291 --> 01:02:12,916 slightly terrifying to you. 74 01:02:13,333 --> 01:02:14,791 And Mel reminds us that, quote, 75 01:02:15,041 --> 01:02:17,333 "No one is coming to hand you permission. 76 01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:18,875 "You must give it to 77 01:02:18,875 --> 01:02:20,000 yourself." End quote. 78 01:02:20,666 --> 01:02:21,416 Now, does that hit 79 01:02:21,416 --> 01:02:22,791 especially hard, right? 80 01:02:22,791 --> 01:02:23,541 Especially for those 81 01:02:23,541 --> 01:02:24,958 high achievers of you 82 01:02:24,958 --> 01:02:26,375 who are still quietly 83 01:02:26,375 --> 01:02:27,625 waiting for validation? 84 01:02:28,416 --> 01:02:30,875 Now, Mel explains that the Let Me era, 85 01:02:31,125 --> 01:02:32,500 it isn't about selfishness. 86 01:02:32,750 --> 01:02:34,125 You said that before, it's 87 01:02:34,125 --> 01:02:35,625 about sovereignty, right? 88 01:02:36,041 --> 01:02:37,041 Instead of reaching to 89 01:02:37,041 --> 01:02:39,000 everyone else's moods, 90 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:41,958 expectations and chaos, you pivot inwards 91 01:02:42,125 --> 01:02:44,500 and you ask, "What do I want? 92 01:02:44,500 --> 01:02:45,500 "What do I need?" 93 01:02:45,958 --> 01:02:47,375 Now, there is also a 94 01:02:47,375 --> 01:02:48,791 subtle grief here, quote, 95 01:02:49,208 --> 01:02:50,416 because stepping into 96 01:02:50,416 --> 01:02:51,958 Let Me means accepting 97 01:02:52,125 --> 01:02:53,708 that some relationships, 98 01:02:53,708 --> 01:02:55,250 they might shift a little bit. 99 01:02:55,708 --> 01:02:57,791 Some roles they may dissolve, 100 01:02:58,083 --> 01:02:59,791 but she reassures us that 101 01:02:59,791 --> 01:03:02,875 growth requires release. End quote. 102 01:03:03,125 --> 01:03:04,333 Now, the first half 103 01:03:04,333 --> 01:03:05,916 sets the foundation here. 104 01:03:05,916 --> 01:03:06,708 It's about awareness, 105 01:03:07,291 --> 01:03:08,000 recognizing where 106 01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:09,583 you've outsourced your power, 107 01:03:09,958 --> 01:03:11,458 seeing those patterns and 108 01:03:11,458 --> 01:03:13,500 deciding calmly and firmly 109 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:15,625 to reclaim them, okay? 110 01:03:16,166 --> 01:03:17,416 All right, hey, here is 111 01:03:17,416 --> 01:03:18,458 your Tuesday takeaway. 112 01:03:19,541 --> 01:03:20,791 Stop waiting for permission. 113 01:03:21,208 --> 01:03:23,125 Your Let Me era begins the 114 01:03:23,125 --> 01:03:25,291 moment you decide it does. 115 01:03:25,541 --> 01:03:27,791 All right, so today, simplify something, 116 01:03:28,083 --> 01:03:29,166 even if it's just your 117 01:03:29,166 --> 01:03:30,833 reactions to other people 118 01:03:31,041 --> 01:03:32,166 or other drivers, right? 119 01:03:32,666 --> 01:03:34,625 And attack your Tuesday with clarity 120 01:03:34,791 --> 01:03:36,500 and just a little less noise. 121 01:03:37,125 --> 01:03:38,458 Now, the prize from 122 01:03:38,458 --> 01:03:39,458 the bottom of the box, 123 01:03:39,791 --> 01:03:40,791 the morning serial 124 01:03:40,791 --> 01:03:42,125 trivia question of the day. 125 01:03:42,125 --> 01:03:44,625 Here it is, how many tickets were sold 126 01:03:44,791 --> 01:03:47,291 for the movie "Avengers Endgame"? 127 01:03:48,083 --> 01:03:49,666 Here's a hint, there was a lot. 128 01:03:50,125 --> 01:03:50,916 All right, well, thanks 129 01:03:50,916 --> 01:03:51,791 for listening this morning 130 01:03:51,791 --> 01:03:52,541 to "Morning Serial." 131 01:03:52,791 --> 01:03:54,375 We will see you back here tomorrow 132 01:03:54,833 --> 01:03:56,250 for the answer to the trivia question 133 01:03:56,500 --> 01:03:58,125 and more sugar for your soul. 134 01:03:58,500 --> 01:04:01,500 And until then, have a fantastic day. 135 01:04:02,833 --> 01:04:04,375 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 136 01:04:04,375 --> 01:04:05,916 to the "Morning Serial" podcast 137 01:04:06,125 --> 01:04:07,916 on the One Life Live It channel. 138 01:04:08,375 --> 01:04:10,083 You can find more episodes and videos 139 01:04:10,083 --> 01:04:11,541 by visiting our YouTube channel 140 01:04:11,708 --> 01:04:13,625 and the website at seaningless 141 01:04:14,041 --> 01:04:15,625 and at seaningless.com, 142 01:04:15,625 --> 01:04:16,500 where you can also 143 01:04:16,500 --> 01:04:17,875 follow our other podcast, 144 01:04:18,208 --> 01:04:19,583 the "Mr. and Mrs. English" podcast 145 01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:21,166 and the "Life Happens" podcast. 146 01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:22,958 In these other podcasts, 147 01:04:23,250 --> 01:04:25,041 we'll dive deeper into everyday issues, 148 01:04:25,333 --> 01:04:26,083 self-improvement and 149 01:04:26,083 --> 01:04:27,666 wellbeing, business and finance, 150 01:04:28,166 --> 01:04:29,833 and we welcome special guests too. 151 01:04:30,375 --> 01:04:31,416 So join us, it'll be a 152 01:04:31,416 --> 01:04:32,416 good time, I promise. 153 01:04:33,125 --> 01:04:33,625 Thanks again for 154 01:04:33,625 --> 01:04:35,333 listening, have a fantastic day, 155 01:04:35,583 --> 01:04:36,291 and we'll see you tomorrow.