1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,541 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:14,708 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:14,958 --> 01:00:16,583 We've been waiting for it and it is here. 5 01:00:16,833 --> 01:00:18,458 And if your coffee tastes a little 6 01:00:18,458 --> 01:00:20,666 sweeter today, that's because it knows 7 01:00:20,666 --> 01:00:22,000 the weekend is coming. 8 01:00:22,500 --> 01:00:23,958 Well, let's ride that good feeling 9 01:00:23,958 --> 01:00:24,916 straight into our quote 10 01:00:24,916 --> 01:00:26,000 today from George Clooney, 11 01:00:26,041 --> 01:00:28,833 who said, quote, "You never really learn 12 01:00:28,833 --> 01:00:30,125 much from hearing 13 01:00:30,125 --> 01:00:31,541 yourself speak," end quote. 14 01:00:31,958 --> 01:00:33,708 Now, this is classic Clooney, right? It's 15 01:00:33,708 --> 01:00:35,833 charming, it's humble, and it's gently 16 01:00:35,833 --> 01:00:37,791 reminding us to be teachable today. 17 01:00:38,208 --> 01:00:39,750 Listening is underrated. I think what 18 01:00:39,750 --> 01:00:41,166 George is really trying to say here is 19 01:00:41,166 --> 01:00:42,500 that sometimes it's okay 20 01:00:42,500 --> 01:00:43,916 just to shut your mouth. 21 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:46,333 You know who I'm talking about, right? 22 01:00:46,708 --> 01:00:48,500 All right, well, hey, let's jump into the 23 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:49,291 four moments that 24 01:00:49,291 --> 01:00:50,000 matter for December 5th. 25 01:00:50,000 --> 01:00:53,750 Number one, back in 2001, "Ocean's 26 01:00:53,750 --> 01:00:55,500 Eleven," directed by Steven Soderbergh, 27 01:00:55,500 --> 01:00:57,125 starring George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Matt 28 01:00:57,125 --> 01:00:58,208 Damon, Julia Roberts, 29 01:00:58,208 --> 01:00:59,166 you might have heard of some of them. 30 01:00:59,500 --> 01:01:01,000 Well, it premiered in Westwood, 31 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:02,375 California on this date. 32 01:01:02,833 --> 01:01:05,083 Number two, today is International Ninja 33 01:01:05,083 --> 01:01:06,000 Day. It's the day we've 34 01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:07,166 all been waiting for, right? 35 01:01:07,375 --> 01:01:09,208 So get your ninja stars, get your 36 01:01:09,208 --> 01:01:11,916 nunchucks out. Today is our day. 37 01:01:12,375 --> 01:01:14,541 But on a serious note, has anyone else 38 01:01:14,541 --> 01:01:16,958 seen those reels of that larger guy? 39 01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:19,000 He's kind of grotty, he's jumping around 40 01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,291 doing back kicks. Man, he is great. 41 01:01:21,833 --> 01:01:23,291 All right, number three, number one song 42 01:01:23,291 --> 01:01:24,958 on this date back in 1985 43 01:01:24,958 --> 01:01:27,666 was "Separate Ways" by Journey. 44 01:01:28,041 --> 01:01:30,208 Now, what an intro to this song, right? 45 01:01:30,958 --> 01:01:32,291 Electronic keyboard into the beat. 46 01:01:32,583 --> 01:01:33,666 It has such a rocky 47 01:01:33,666 --> 01:01:35,583 training vibe, but it never was. 48 01:01:36,083 --> 01:01:37,250 All right, number four, "Happy Birthday 49 01:01:37,250 --> 01:01:39,000 to you. Today is your birthday." 50 01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:40,958 You share it with actress 51 01:01:40,958 --> 01:01:42,541 Paula Patton. She's 50 today. 52 01:01:43,208 --> 01:01:45,375 Music pioneer, the late Little Richard, 53 01:01:45,375 --> 01:01:47,083 was born on this date in 1932. 54 01:01:47,833 --> 01:01:50,166 And animation pioneer, the late Walt 55 01:01:50,166 --> 01:01:52,916 Disney, was born on this date in 1901. 56 01:01:53,750 --> 01:01:55,000 All right, well, let's jump into our book 57 01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:56,416 review of Mel Robbins' 58 01:01:56,750 --> 01:01:57,708 "The Let Them Theory." 59 01:01:58,208 --> 01:02:00,416 And today's chapter gets to the heart of 60 01:02:00,416 --> 01:02:03,333 why some friendships feel easy and why 61 01:02:03,333 --> 01:02:04,916 others feel out of rhythm. 62 01:02:05,458 --> 01:02:08,083 It's timing, okay? The second pillar of 63 01:02:08,083 --> 01:02:09,416 friendship is timing. 64 01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:12,041 Now, Robbins defines timing as the life 65 01:02:12,041 --> 01:02:13,416 season you and another 66 01:02:13,416 --> 01:02:15,000 person happen to be in. 67 01:02:15,333 --> 01:02:16,666 And she nails the truth here 68 01:02:16,666 --> 01:02:18,125 immediately, saying, quote, 69 01:02:18,125 --> 01:02:20,208 "A good friendship is really just two 70 01:02:20,208 --> 01:02:20,833 people whose 71 01:02:20,833 --> 01:02:23,041 timelines line up," end quote. 72 01:02:23,333 --> 01:02:26,041 Now, timing affects emotional bandwidth, 73 01:02:26,041 --> 01:02:27,125 your priorities, your 74 01:02:27,125 --> 01:02:28,416 communication styles, 75 01:02:28,708 --> 01:02:31,500 and how much space you actually have for 76 01:02:31,500 --> 01:02:33,166 connecting with other people, okay? 77 01:02:33,666 --> 01:02:36,250 Robbins explains that you can deeply love 78 01:02:36,250 --> 01:02:38,000 someone, but if one person is in crisis 79 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:41,083 and the other is thriving or one is 80 01:02:41,083 --> 01:02:43,125 overwhelmed while the other is free, 81 01:02:43,458 --> 01:02:45,083 the friendship is going to feel 82 01:02:45,083 --> 01:02:47,000 disjointed. It's not going to be broken. 83 01:02:47,375 --> 01:02:48,041 It's just going to be 84 01:02:48,041 --> 01:02:50,291 mistimed. She writes, quote, 85 01:02:50,583 --> 01:02:53,583 "Timing determines closeness more than 86 01:02:53,583 --> 01:02:54,958 love does," end quote. 87 01:02:55,666 --> 01:02:56,958 Whoo-hoo, that sounds 88 01:02:56,958 --> 01:02:58,583 tough, but it's accurate, right? 89 01:02:59,208 --> 01:03:00,416 Robbins urges us to 90 01:03:00,416 --> 01:03:02,208 remove guilt from this reality. 91 01:03:02,666 --> 01:03:04,041 If a friend can't show up 92 01:03:04,041 --> 01:03:05,000 the way that they used to, 93 01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:06,375 it may simply be 94 01:03:06,375 --> 01:03:08,083 because the season they're in. 95 01:03:08,625 --> 01:03:10,208 Instead of forcing that connection, 96 01:03:10,916 --> 01:03:13,166 Robbins encourages adjusting expectations 97 01:03:13,166 --> 01:03:15,500 with compassion and curiosity. 98 01:03:16,250 --> 01:03:18,333 One sound outline says this, quote, 99 01:03:18,583 --> 01:03:21,166 "Healthy friendships survive mismatched 100 01:03:21,166 --> 01:03:23,291 timing, but closeness 101 01:03:23,291 --> 01:03:25,916 requires syncing up," end quote. 102 01:03:26,500 --> 01:03:28,208 Now, this chapter helps anchor adult 103 01:03:28,208 --> 01:03:30,291 friendships in realism, not fantasy. 104 01:03:30,833 --> 01:03:32,625 People have jobs. They have families. 105 01:03:32,625 --> 01:03:33,000 They have responsibilities. 106 01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:35,500 There's inner battles people are 107 01:03:35,500 --> 01:03:38,083 fighting, and none of that is personal. 108 01:03:38,375 --> 01:03:40,875 When timing aligns again, the closeness 109 01:03:40,875 --> 01:03:43,291 often snaps right back effortlessly. 110 01:03:43,875 --> 01:03:46,208 Okay, here is your Friday takeaway. 111 01:03:47,041 --> 01:03:48,833 Timing shapes closeness. 112 01:03:48,833 --> 01:03:50,541 So honor the season you're in and give 113 01:03:50,541 --> 01:03:52,000 others space for the 114 01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:53,500 season they're in too. 115 01:03:53,916 --> 01:03:55,083 All right, well, happy 116 01:03:55,083 --> 01:03:56,916 Friday to you. You've earned it. 117 01:03:57,166 --> 01:03:59,625 Go into the day with Clooney-level calm 118 01:03:59,625 --> 01:04:01,625 and weekend-level optimism. 119 01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:03,375 Thanks for ending your week with Morning 120 01:04:03,375 --> 01:04:05,166 Serial. Enjoy your weekend. 121 01:04:05,166 --> 01:04:07,458 We will see you back here on Monday, and 122 01:04:07,458 --> 01:04:10,125 until then, have a fantastic day. 123 01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:33,875 We'll dive deeper into everyday issues, 124 01:04:34,125 --> 01:04:34,916 self-improvement, 125 01:04:34,916 --> 01:04:36,500 well-being, business, and finance, 126 01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:39,250 and we welcome special guests too. So 127 01:04:39,250 --> 01:04:40,250 join us. It will be a 128 01:04:40,250 --> 01:04:41,208 good time, I promise. 129 01:04:41,958 --> 01:04:43,250 Thanks again for listening. Have a 130 01:04:43,250 --> 01:04:44,625 fantastic day, and 131 01:04:44,625 --> 01:04:45,125 we'll see you tomorrow.