1 00:00:00,633 --> 00:00:02,966 So do we pay their medical bills the same way? 2 00:00:02,966 --> 00:00:04,766 I'm trying. We haven't figured. That out yet. 3 00:00:04,766 --> 00:00:05,433 We still have. 4 00:00:05,433 --> 00:00:08,800 And I think we still muddle through this 5 00:00:08,866 --> 00:00:10,466 every time. 6 00:00:10,466 --> 00:00:11,866 Yeah, every time. 7 00:00:11,866 --> 00:00:13,733 That's bad 8 00:00:13,733 --> 00:00:18,066 because our kids our kids are like, Do I ask Dad? Yes. 9 00:00:18,133 --> 00:00:20,400 Emergency room visit. Because. 10 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:22,800 And it's funny because the kids always ask. 11 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:25,266 My adult kids, they say, Is that deductible? 12 00:00:25,266 --> 00:00:26,066 Yeah. Yeah. 13 00:00:26,066 --> 00:00:28,833 Can you tell me if the deductible. Right. 14 00:00:28,833 --> 00:00:33,133 Yeah. 15 00:00:33,233 --> 00:00:34,266 Hello, this is Darren. 16 00:00:34,266 --> 00:00:35,233 And this is Paige. 17 00:00:35,233 --> 00:00:37,766 And this is where Lemonade. 18 00:00:37,766 --> 00:00:40,766 Where we talk about what happens when life through you, lemons. 19 00:00:40,766 --> 00:00:42,466 You make some lemonade. 20 00:00:42,466 --> 00:00:44,666 Maybe some weeks. It's lemons. 21 00:00:44,666 --> 00:00:46,800 Yeah, some weeks it's just lemons. 22 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:51,333 Yeah. 23 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:53,066 On today's episode. 24 00:00:53,066 --> 00:00:58,600 We are going to talk about co-parenting money and adult children. 25 00:00:58,666 --> 00:01:02,133 Sounds interesting. 26 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:03,733 Okay, We're we're at a stage 27 00:01:03,733 --> 00:01:07,933 in our lives where of the ten kids that we have, 28 00:01:08,033 --> 00:01:11,566 we have one child left. 29 00:01:11,666 --> 00:01:13,533 All the rest are adults. Yep. 30 00:01:13,533 --> 00:01:18,633 We have two kids at home, but one is 18 and one is 17. 31 00:01:18,700 --> 00:01:22,466 And he will be graduating in a month and a half. 32 00:01:22,666 --> 00:01:23,666 Yeah. 33 00:01:23,666 --> 00:01:27,966 So I know Paige is going to have a rough time. 34 00:01:28,033 --> 00:01:30,366 We're not getting a dog to fill the void. 35 00:01:30,366 --> 00:01:31,066 Not yet. 36 00:01:31,066 --> 00:01:34,300 No, not yet. 37 00:01:34,366 --> 00:01:37,066 So. So with with a lot of changes 38 00:01:37,066 --> 00:01:40,933 in our lives, we we, we've run into a couple of situations where, 39 00:01:41,033 --> 00:01:46,133 hey, co-parenting and money and then adult children to pay for things 40 00:01:46,133 --> 00:01:51,800 like weddings or college or even trips home to visit us. 41 00:01:51,900 --> 00:01:55,800 All these things are are things we have to deal with 42 00:01:55,866 --> 00:01:58,566 that most families don't have to deal with. 43 00:01:58,566 --> 00:02:00,866 When you've got co-parenting going on and things like that. 44 00:02:00,866 --> 00:02:02,566 So it can get a little tricky. 45 00:02:02,566 --> 00:02:03,100 It can. 46 00:02:03,100 --> 00:02:06,700 And, you know, do you do you still work with your ex on 47 00:02:06,766 --> 00:02:11,533 these things when your kids turn 18, or do you put the kids in the middle 48 00:02:11,533 --> 00:02:13,066 and go, well, I'm done paying for things, 49 00:02:13,066 --> 00:02:15,300 so maybe talk to your mom or talk to your dad about that. 50 00:02:15,300 --> 00:02:16,266 You know what I mean? 51 00:02:16,266 --> 00:02:18,533 It's a it can be a tricky thing. 52 00:02:18,533 --> 00:02:19,200 It can. 53 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:25,000 So you the research department of where is eliminate, which is paid? 54 00:02:25,066 --> 00:02:26,600 There's not a whole lot of information. 55 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:30,600 Usually I find several articles on what I want to talk about for our podcast. 56 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,600 And there was not several articles. 57 00:02:33,666 --> 00:02:37,500 In fact, the only article you found was a was a law. 58 00:02:37,533 --> 00:02:41,166 It was really a marketing thing. 59 00:02:41,233 --> 00:02:45,000 It was like call one 800 lawyer and we'll help you with these. 60 00:02:45,166 --> 00:02:47,400 And then it talked about why you would want to call them. 61 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,566 And you know, and it talked a little bit about 62 00:02:50,666 --> 00:02:52,133 you know, in their in their state. 63 00:02:52,133 --> 00:02:53,500 I don't remember what state this was in. 64 00:02:53,500 --> 00:02:55,566 You know, what what happens when a kid turns 18. 65 00:02:55,566 --> 00:02:57,566 So the only thing I could find was like, read it 66 00:02:57,566 --> 00:03:00,566 articles of people that were talking about it. 67 00:03:00,566 --> 00:03:05,266 But I didn't find any written published 68 00:03:05,366 --> 00:03:07,533 articles on this topic. 69 00:03:07,533 --> 00:03:10,633 So what spurred would spurred you to come up with this topic? 70 00:03:10,666 --> 00:03:13,566 Was it something on Facebook or was it our own experience? 71 00:03:13,566 --> 00:03:14,866 What was it? A Both. 72 00:03:14,866 --> 00:03:15,333 Both. 73 00:03:15,333 --> 00:03:18,733 We've had our own experience, which we will get into in a minute. 74 00:03:18,833 --> 00:03:21,833 And then I looked on our 75 00:03:21,966 --> 00:03:25,633 Facebook Blended Families group and people were talking about this 76 00:03:25,633 --> 00:03:28,400 and how do we handle this when the kid turns 18 77 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:31,266 and they still need things and they still might need, you know, 78 00:03:31,266 --> 00:03:35,166 financial support or, you know, how do you how are you dealing with this? So. 79 00:03:35,233 --> 00:03:37,933 So so it is a little different in each state. 80 00:03:37,933 --> 00:03:42,000 But most states have a child is still under 81 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:47,100 the parenting agreement, which means child support is paid and split 82 00:03:47,166 --> 00:03:47,866 costs 83 00:03:47,866 --> 00:03:51,233 on extracurriculars, whatever the court order is. 84 00:03:51,300 --> 00:03:54,266 But most of it is when they're 18 85 00:03:54,266 --> 00:03:59,266 and they graduate from college or a high school or 19 years old. 86 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:00,800 So yeah, you have to. 87 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:05,200 So we had one case where Julianne was 17 when she graduated from high school, 88 00:04:05,300 --> 00:04:07,133 so we still had to pay 89 00:04:07,133 --> 00:04:10,533 for her extracurriculars for a couple more months until she turned 18. 90 00:04:10,566 --> 00:04:12,133 Right. 91 00:04:12,133 --> 00:04:14,866 But in the case of many of our other kids, 92 00:04:14,866 --> 00:04:18,366 they actually turned 18 well before they graduated. 93 00:04:18,433 --> 00:04:21,433 But they were still part of the parenting agreement 94 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:23,333 until they graduate from high school. 95 00:04:23,333 --> 00:04:24,866 Yep, that is true. 96 00:04:24,866 --> 00:04:30,066 So when that happens to your kids, when your child graduates from high school. 97 00:04:30,133 --> 00:04:30,933 It's a party. 98 00:04:30,933 --> 00:04:33,200 Is that it? That's it. You're done. 99 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:34,100 You're done. 100 00:04:34,100 --> 00:04:34,766 That's it. 101 00:04:34,766 --> 00:04:36,633 Like, you know what I mean? 102 00:04:36,633 --> 00:04:39,633 Like, it's an interesting thing, so. 103 00:04:39,666 --> 00:04:42,933 Well, you this is something that maybe when you get divorced, 104 00:04:42,933 --> 00:04:45,400 when your kids are little, 105 00:04:45,500 --> 00:04:46,500 you do not think 106 00:04:46,500 --> 00:04:49,500 about putting anything about this in your divorce decree, 107 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:53,066 about what happens when your child turns 18. 108 00:04:53,133 --> 00:04:55,966 We we actually did in mine, 109 00:04:55,966 --> 00:04:58,200 we actually set up a 110 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:02,933 it was called an educational trust for the kids 111 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:04,866 because we knew they were we 112 00:05:04,866 --> 00:05:09,566 we had the benefit of one of our kids was already 17 when we got divorced. 113 00:05:09,566 --> 00:05:12,166 So we knew, hey, 114 00:05:12,166 --> 00:05:15,200 I got to pay for school or missions or, you know, weddings, 115 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:16,133 whatever the case may be. 116 00:05:16,133 --> 00:05:22,200 So we actually set up a trust and put money into that trust every month 117 00:05:22,266 --> 00:05:25,233 that later on got dissolved, 118 00:05:25,233 --> 00:05:27,233 which turned out to be good and bad. 119 00:05:27,233 --> 00:05:28,033 Right? Right. 120 00:05:28,033 --> 00:05:30,866 Because if the trust was still there, then there's no questions. 121 00:05:30,866 --> 00:05:33,833 When they're adults, the money's already been set aside. 122 00:05:33,833 --> 00:05:37,833 But in your case, everything in the trust was 123 00:05:37,900 --> 00:05:40,600 from your income, from your. 124 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:43,133 Well, because my ex didn't have an income. Right. 125 00:05:43,133 --> 00:05:45,566 But I'm just saying, you know, 126 00:05:45,633 --> 00:05:47,000 that changes over time. 127 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:47,933 Right. Yeah, that's true. 128 00:05:47,933 --> 00:05:51,400 So I was kind of glad when it was dissolved because, 129 00:05:51,500 --> 00:05:54,700 you know, then it was more of an equal balance. 130 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:59,800 But now every time there's an event like a wedding, 131 00:05:59,900 --> 00:06:00,766 you know, I'm 132 00:06:00,766 --> 00:06:03,966 not communicating with my ex how much money I'm putting on. 133 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,100 Right. 134 00:06:05,100 --> 00:06:07,266 Our kids get put in the middle. 135 00:06:07,266 --> 00:06:09,000 Yeah, they do. 136 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:10,033 Instead of saying, Hey, 137 00:06:10,033 --> 00:06:14,400 there's a certain amount of money allocated for weddings from the trust, so. 138 00:06:14,433 --> 00:06:14,866 Right. 139 00:06:14,866 --> 00:06:18,233 It's it's a double edged, you know, there's benefits and. 140 00:06:18,300 --> 00:06:19,966 And. Right. 141 00:06:19,966 --> 00:06:24,600 So do you think it would be beneficial to put something 142 00:06:24,666 --> 00:06:29,233 specific in the divorce decree for when your kids turn 18? 143 00:06:29,333 --> 00:06:30,966 I think so. Do you think that's a good idea? 144 00:06:30,966 --> 00:06:31,766 I think so. 145 00:06:31,766 --> 00:06:34,700 It would alleviate some of the awkwardness that happens sometimes. 146 00:06:34,700 --> 00:06:35,966 Yeah. 147 00:06:36,033 --> 00:06:37,766 Because like I said, when your kids are little, 148 00:06:37,766 --> 00:06:41,533 you don't think about, okay, so your kid turns 18, your kid goes to college. 149 00:06:41,533 --> 00:06:43,866 First of all, you have to decide who's paying for college is a kid. 150 00:06:43,866 --> 00:06:46,433 Pain is the mom pain? Is that pain, Evil pain. Right. 151 00:06:46,433 --> 00:06:48,333 Who's doing that then? 152 00:06:48,333 --> 00:06:50,333 How about health insurance? 153 00:06:50,333 --> 00:06:52,200 Is the person still paying for health insurance? 154 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:54,633 What about when your kid goes to the doctor? 155 00:06:54,633 --> 00:06:59,100 We will talk about this and have a huge bill. 156 00:06:59,166 --> 00:07:10,666 Are you splitting that? 157 00:07:10,766 --> 00:07:12,633 So, yeah, let's talk about health insurance, 158 00:07:12,633 --> 00:07:17,433 because this one, this one's an interesting one because of Obamacare. 159 00:07:17,500 --> 00:07:22,533 Now kids can stay on their parents insurance until they're 26 years old. 160 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:23,300 Correct. 161 00:07:23,300 --> 00:07:27,566 Now, because I have to carry insurance for the kids that are in the house, 162 00:07:27,566 --> 00:07:30,966 all the kids that are adults have just stayed on my insurance. 163 00:07:30,966 --> 00:07:33,533 That was in the court decree 164 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,500 for the for the parenting agreement 165 00:07:36,500 --> 00:07:41,233 that I had to provide health insurance for the kids. 166 00:07:41,333 --> 00:07:44,333 But when they turned adult, it didn't cost me any more 167 00:07:44,566 --> 00:07:47,333 to continue keeping them on my insurance. 168 00:07:47,333 --> 00:07:48,300 Right. 169 00:07:48,300 --> 00:07:49,766 So they just did. 170 00:07:49,766 --> 00:07:52,933 Yeah, but what that means is that's until they're 26. 171 00:07:52,933 --> 00:07:56,633 So if they do get a big bill 172 00:07:56,633 --> 00:07:59,633 and we haven't met our deductible yet, who's going to pay for that? 173 00:07:59,666 --> 00:08:01,100 Who's going to pay for that? 174 00:08:01,100 --> 00:08:04,900 So, yeah, these are all these are all questions that I like 175 00:08:04,900 --> 00:08:06,600 I said, when you're getting divorced 176 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:11,133 and you have little kids, you don't think about any of these things, 177 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:14,766 but it's going to come and you got to figure it out. 178 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:18,066 Well, but they're adults now. 179 00:08:18,133 --> 00:08:21,566 So because our child turned 18, they now have to pay 180 00:08:21,566 --> 00:08:23,566 for their medical insurance and their medical bills. 181 00:08:23,566 --> 00:08:26,400 And. No, but what about when they're 25? 182 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:28,200 Well, that's different. 183 00:08:28,266 --> 00:08:31,000 That's At what age is it different? 184 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:35,533 Well, we have always kind of had a for us, 185 00:08:35,633 --> 00:08:39,266 like we pay for the kids cell phone, even through college. 186 00:08:39,333 --> 00:08:40,133 We've paid for them. 187 00:08:40,133 --> 00:08:44,266 When for us, it was when you get married, if you're if you're 188 00:08:44,300 --> 00:08:47,966 responsible enough to get married, you can pay your own phone bill. 189 00:08:48,100 --> 00:08:50,000 Or when you graduate from college. 190 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:53,933 Or when you graduate from college, that's kind of been our boundary, right? 191 00:08:53,933 --> 00:08:55,400 Like we'll pay for your cell phone 192 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:58,766 and we pay, you know, obviously they're on our medical insurance. 193 00:08:58,833 --> 00:09:01,166 So do we pay their medical bills the same way? 194 00:09:01,166 --> 00:09:02,933 I'm trying. But we haven't figured. That out yet. 195 00:09:02,933 --> 00:09:03,733 We still have. 196 00:09:03,733 --> 00:09:07,000 I think we still muddle through this 197 00:09:07,066 --> 00:09:08,600 every time. 198 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:11,833 Yeah, every time. That's bad 199 00:09:11,933 --> 00:09:12,366 because our 200 00:09:12,366 --> 00:09:16,266 kids our kids are like, Do I ask Dad? Yes. 201 00:09:16,333 --> 00:09:20,933 Emergency room visit because and it's funny because the kids always ask 202 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,466 my adult kids, they say, Is it deductible? 203 00:09:23,466 --> 00:09:24,266 Yeah. Yeah. 204 00:09:24,266 --> 00:09:25,966 Can you tell me if the deductible. 205 00:09:25,966 --> 00:09:28,800 Right. Yeah. 206 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:32,766 So yeah, it's it's interesting. 207 00:09:32,766 --> 00:09:33,333 Okay. So, so. 208 00:09:33,333 --> 00:09:37,733 That's something we, we probably should have established with the kids up front. 209 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,366 Right. Look, will pay. 210 00:09:40,366 --> 00:09:45,700 I'll pay for your insurance, but I'm not paying for your medical bills or am intel. 211 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:47,533 But then is that a decent. 212 00:09:47,533 --> 00:09:50,533 Does that dis what's the right word? 213 00:09:50,700 --> 00:09:53,533 Demotivate them from finishing college. 214 00:09:53,533 --> 00:09:55,733 We say. 215 00:09:55,733 --> 00:09:58,566 I don't think so, but let's talk about that for a second. 216 00:09:58,566 --> 00:09:58,866 Okay. 217 00:09:58,866 --> 00:10:05,000 So something that happened with us so with us recently is 218 00:10:05,100 --> 00:10:07,433 our daughter who's in college. 219 00:10:07,433 --> 00:10:11,400 She was coming home at Christmas and your ex 220 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:16,000 said, can you please pay for half of her flight? 221 00:10:16,066 --> 00:10:17,100 Right. 222 00:10:17,100 --> 00:10:21,266 And so this was a this was an interesting one for us because we were like, 223 00:10:21,333 --> 00:10:24,333 normally we would be like, sure, no problem. 224 00:10:24,366 --> 00:10:27,833 But the flight had already been booked. 225 00:10:28,066 --> 00:10:29,233 We didn't have any input. 226 00:10:29,233 --> 00:10:32,233 You could have used points like, you know, all those things. 227 00:10:32,300 --> 00:10:35,100 We were like, do you know? I mean, like. 228 00:10:35,100 --> 00:10:38,466 So yeah, there was almost like this assumption, Well, you have to pay 229 00:10:38,466 --> 00:10:39,900 half, right? 230 00:10:39,900 --> 00:10:42,900 And I think it was just because I don't think it was anything. 231 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:44,233 It wasn't malicious. Malicious? 232 00:10:44,233 --> 00:10:45,966 No, It was just like, well, this is what we do. 233 00:10:45,966 --> 00:10:48,733 We split these things and then we were sitting there going, 234 00:10:48,733 --> 00:10:52,266 Well, you know, if, if I if we're going 235 00:10:52,266 --> 00:10:57,000 to be asked to pay for things which we don't have a problem with that, 236 00:10:57,066 --> 00:10:59,633 do we get some input on that type of thing. 237 00:10:59,633 --> 00:11:03,200 Do we get an input on how much the flight is? 238 00:11:03,433 --> 00:11:04,000 I could use. 239 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:06,633 Points or or when the flight comes in. Right. 240 00:11:06,633 --> 00:11:08,700 So we get it. Do we get any say? 241 00:11:08,700 --> 00:11:14,166 And then another thing that happened very shortly after that when we were still 242 00:11:14,166 --> 00:11:18,233 trying to decide if we were going to, you know, reimburse 243 00:11:18,300 --> 00:11:21,000 your ex, 244 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,366 that that same daughter went to. 245 00:11:23,366 --> 00:11:24,966 She she had an emergency. 246 00:11:24,966 --> 00:11:27,500 She had an emergency. She went to the she went to the E.R.. 247 00:11:27,500 --> 00:11:30,966 And of course, at the beginning of the year, when the deductible 248 00:11:31,033 --> 00:11:32,300 is zero, Right. 249 00:11:32,300 --> 00:11:35,233 Where we haven't got any part of the deductible. Yes. 250 00:11:35,233 --> 00:11:36,900 So she went to the E.R. 251 00:11:36,900 --> 00:11:42,400 and it was I think the total bill ended up being 500 and something dollars. 252 00:11:42,500 --> 00:11:46,600 And so then we were like, okay, so 253 00:11:46,666 --> 00:11:48,933 do we now ask your ex to pay for half of that? 254 00:11:48,933 --> 00:11:50,133 Do we just you know what I mean? 255 00:11:50,133 --> 00:11:53,133 Like, we were we were sitting here in this. 256 00:11:53,166 --> 00:11:53,766 Conundrum. 257 00:11:53,766 --> 00:11:57,866 Conundrum of and I think we've probably been in this conundrum before, 258 00:11:57,900 --> 00:11:59,866 but it's been because there was a such a big. 259 00:11:59,866 --> 00:12:01,500 Age, there's a six year gap. 260 00:12:01,500 --> 00:12:04,933 We have forgotten what we were what we did. 261 00:12:05,033 --> 00:12:08,033 Well, early part of me on the on the health insurance side, 262 00:12:08,066 --> 00:12:11,900 we always meet our deductible with as many people as we have on there. 263 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:13,166 Yeah, 264 00:12:13,233 --> 00:12:16,233 but that's not going to be the case coming up soon, right, Because. 265 00:12:16,366 --> 00:12:18,600 the less people we have. On it, we have on it. 266 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:21,600 So in the past it's like, well, we're going to meet the deductible anyway. 267 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:25,466 We might as well just pay it because we're going to hit the deductible, right? 268 00:12:25,466 --> 00:12:26,400 So right stuff. 269 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:29,066 But that's not going to be the case moving forward. 270 00:12:29,066 --> 00:12:29,800 Right? 271 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,400 Because so we kind of we kind of just made the decision that, 272 00:12:33,500 --> 00:12:36,800 well, if we'll pay the medical bill and even our daughter was like, 273 00:12:36,900 --> 00:12:38,933 she didn't want to ask us if we were paying. 274 00:12:38,933 --> 00:12:42,200 So she called and she was like, So I got a notice 275 00:12:42,300 --> 00:12:47,766 that this is overdue, so I need to pay that right. 276 00:12:47,833 --> 00:12:49,300 Our kids are so they're so funny. 277 00:12:49,300 --> 00:12:52,033 They won't just come out and say, Can you pay this? 278 00:12:52,033 --> 00:12:54,300 Or are you or are you paying this? 279 00:12:54,300 --> 00:12:56,700 You know, just are you going to pay this or do I need to pay this? 280 00:12:56,700 --> 00:12:58,833 So we told her, we'll take care of it. 281 00:12:58,833 --> 00:13:00,400 She's 18. 282 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:01,866 Of course we'll take care of it. 283 00:13:01,866 --> 00:13:04,866 So I think we decided that. 284 00:13:04,900 --> 00:13:07,433 If we decided on a case by case basis, case. 285 00:13:07,433 --> 00:13:09,533 By case, I guess I don't know. 286 00:13:09,533 --> 00:13:12,566 But we decided that we were not going to reimburse her ex 287 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:14,766 for the plane flight because we're still paying 288 00:13:14,766 --> 00:13:17,400 for medical insurance and the medical bills. 289 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:29,466 So we thought that was fair. 290 00:13:29,533 --> 00:13:30,500 I don't know. 291 00:13:30,500 --> 00:13:32,366 It's funny because nothing's written down. 292 00:13:32,366 --> 00:13:35,166 No, because this is outside the realm of the parenting group. 293 00:13:35,166 --> 00:13:37,833 Yeah. So that's a good question. 294 00:13:37,833 --> 00:13:40,500 I don't want to have anything written down. Right. 295 00:13:40,500 --> 00:13:43,566 Because that becomes some kind of legal I don't know 296 00:13:43,566 --> 00:13:46,566 if that was a legal contract, but there's expectations there. 297 00:13:46,666 --> 00:13:47,233 Right? 298 00:13:47,233 --> 00:13:48,733 So this one's. 299 00:13:48,733 --> 00:13:52,833 And dental, we still pay for dental for kids with college kids. 300 00:13:52,833 --> 00:13:55,100 We pay for their phones. 301 00:13:55,100 --> 00:13:57,733 So well, not. To a certain point. 302 00:13:57,733 --> 00:13:59,800 Then they they have to start reimbursing us. 303 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:03,266 They can see, you know, I'm saying in college, we pay for their phones. 304 00:14:03,266 --> 00:14:06,000 Yeah, yeah, we pay for their phones, we pay for their dental, 305 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,900 but yes, like we said, when you get married 306 00:14:08,900 --> 00:14:11,500 or you graduate college, 307 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:12,433 you got to start. 308 00:14:12,433 --> 00:14:14,466 But we're not paying for college. 309 00:14:14,466 --> 00:14:15,400 We do not pay for college. 310 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:17,800 We pay for one year of college. 311 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:19,433 Right after our kids get back from their mission. 312 00:14:19,433 --> 00:14:22,033 We pay for for a year of tuition for college. 313 00:14:22,033 --> 00:14:24,166 Yeah. So this is this one's a tough one. 314 00:14:24,166 --> 00:14:28,500 I wonder how the kids feel, because before all this stuff has been taken care of 315 00:14:28,500 --> 00:14:29,466 for them, because it's 316 00:14:29,466 --> 00:14:34,600 been part of the parenting agreement right now, there's a lot of foggy 317 00:14:34,700 --> 00:14:39,600 D things in the middle, and now they're in the middle trying to navigate this. 318 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:41,233 So I wonder how that is for them. 319 00:14:41,233 --> 00:14:44,366 I mean, our kids don't even pay for their own gas, which some of you may 320 00:14:44,366 --> 00:14:47,366 just be gasping right now, thinking our kids are entitled. 321 00:14:47,433 --> 00:14:48,633 They are. 322 00:14:48,633 --> 00:14:49,400 They are entitled. 323 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:53,500 But the reason why, especially for your kids, is 324 00:14:53,566 --> 00:14:56,733 we pay for we have the car, we pay for the repairs, we pay 325 00:14:56,733 --> 00:15:01,100 for the registration, and then your ex pays that pays for their gas. 326 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:02,700 Right. 327 00:15:02,766 --> 00:15:04,600 And that was that's an agreement that we have with. 328 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:07,800 Right. With my spouse in agreement And yeah. 329 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:12,033 So now like I can't remember what we did with our other we're not I mean I'm 330 00:15:12,033 --> 00:15:15,633 not I'm really not paying for their gas when they come home and use our cars. 331 00:15:15,700 --> 00:15:18,033 I read an agreement about that. Yeah. 332 00:15:18,033 --> 00:15:21,500 So this is an interesting one because I don't think any of our kids 333 00:15:21,500 --> 00:15:24,566 have come home after their first year for that summer. 334 00:15:24,566 --> 00:15:28,900 Most of them after their first year of college, they went off on a mission. 335 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,200 I'm trying to think so. 336 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:34,200 We have a daughter coming home this summer and she's going to be working. 337 00:15:34,366 --> 00:15:34,666 Yeah. 338 00:15:34,666 --> 00:15:40,366 And we don't have a car for her to use by herself. 339 00:15:40,366 --> 00:15:42,600 She has to share with her brothers. Yeah. 340 00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:43,566 So that out. 341 00:15:43,566 --> 00:15:44,400 They got to figure that out. 342 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:46,766 Yeah. She's not, she's not plan on the car. 343 00:15:46,766 --> 00:15:50,566 She's plan B on the car. Yeah. Right. Right. 344 00:15:50,666 --> 00:15:51,233 So this, 345 00:15:51,233 --> 00:15:54,100 this summer is going to be an interesting summer 346 00:15:54,100 --> 00:15:58,200 when it comes to figuring out who's paying for gas, who's paying for that. 347 00:15:58,266 --> 00:16:02,866 And yeah, there's a point where I have to say, well, you know, you're an adult, 348 00:16:02,966 --> 00:16:05,833 you're making you're using the car to go make money. 349 00:16:05,833 --> 00:16:07,533 You should be paying for your own gas. 350 00:16:07,533 --> 00:16:09,266 Yeah. I'm not going to make you pay for insurance. 351 00:16:09,266 --> 00:16:10,800 No, of course not. 352 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:13,000 Because they're. Using. One of our cars. 353 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:16,500 And I mean, that's up to her If she wants to talk to her mom about paying gas. 354 00:16:16,500 --> 00:16:19,066 Right. Like, but we're not paying for our gas. 355 00:16:19,066 --> 00:16:21,333 But yeah, so that's an interest. So yeah. 356 00:16:21,333 --> 00:16:24,333 And things like that, like, you know, if they need if they're. 357 00:16:24,366 --> 00:16:26,000 So what if she comes home. 358 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:27,733 Okay, She's 18, almost 19. 359 00:16:27,733 --> 00:16:31,266 She turned 19 next week and says my computer broke. 360 00:16:31,266 --> 00:16:34,266 I need a new computer. that's too bad. 361 00:16:34,266 --> 00:16:35,733 So she would have to buy her own computer. 362 00:16:35,733 --> 00:16:37,800 I'll help her. I'll help her select one. 363 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:40,333 But she's got to buy her own computer. She's got plenty of money to do that. 364 00:16:40,333 --> 00:16:42,533 Yeah, that's true. So? 365 00:16:42,533 --> 00:16:45,366 So if our kids have their own, if they have a good enough 366 00:16:45,366 --> 00:16:47,533 little pot in the bank. 367 00:16:47,533 --> 00:16:49,400 Well, and then the other side is 368 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:51,533 if they don't have enough money, then I'm like, dumb. 369 00:16:51,533 --> 00:16:53,333 Why don't you have enough money? 370 00:16:53,333 --> 00:16:54,733 You should have, you should have. 371 00:16:54,733 --> 00:16:57,300 You can use one of our computers, but not a laptop. 372 00:16:57,300 --> 00:16:59,400 You can use one of the computers in the kitchen or. 373 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:02,200 Okay, so like if our kids that are in high school, 374 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:05,700 we give them a right when they're whatever age we give them a phone. 375 00:17:05,700 --> 00:17:10,100 14 I think we give our kids a cell phone right. 376 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:10,500 And if 377 00:17:10,500 --> 00:17:12,266 it says if it's a really terrible phone, 378 00:17:12,266 --> 00:17:15,933 maybe we eventually upgrade them to something slightly better, 379 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:17,633 but nothing more than a couple of hundred dollars. 380 00:17:17,633 --> 00:17:20,800 I think it's I don't understand when kids, teenagers, 381 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:22,600 are walking around with 1500 dollars phones. 382 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:25,000 I don't understand that. 383 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:27,733 But most of the time we don't buy him a phone. 384 00:17:27,733 --> 00:17:29,833 They just use our old phones. Yes. 385 00:17:29,833 --> 00:17:34,000 And that's why I was saying, like Sam, his phone broke. 386 00:17:34,133 --> 00:17:37,033 He got into a hot tub with his phone 387 00:17:37,033 --> 00:17:39,733 and we said, okay, well, here's 388 00:17:39,733 --> 00:17:43,500 our old phones that you can choose from or you can go buy. 389 00:17:43,566 --> 00:17:44,700 Your. Own, your own. 390 00:17:44,700 --> 00:17:46,366 And he chose to go buy his own. 391 00:17:46,366 --> 00:17:49,600 I mean, it's not a great phone at all, 392 00:17:49,666 --> 00:17:50,766 but that's what. He chose. 393 00:17:50,766 --> 00:17:52,800 And that's what we would still do. 394 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:56,600 Like David right now, he also has a phone that is broken 395 00:17:56,633 --> 00:17:58,733 because he dropped it or something. How? 396 00:17:58,733 --> 00:18:02,166 And we were like, Well, here are your options. 397 00:18:02,233 --> 00:18:03,300 You can. 398 00:18:03,300 --> 00:18:05,600 He chose to just stick with what he has. Yes. 399 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:09,366 But he does he it's it's I think he's at the point of no return right now 400 00:18:09,366 --> 00:18:11,300 because it's not even charging. So he 401 00:18:11,300 --> 00:18:14,000 I think he wants your old phone about now because he doesn't want to buy one. 402 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:15,066 And we were like that's fine. 403 00:18:15,066 --> 00:18:18,233 Choose from the plethora of old phones we have here. 404 00:18:18,433 --> 00:18:20,866 So maybe that's what we do with our adult children too. 405 00:18:20,866 --> 00:18:24,166 If, if they need something, we're like, Well, this is what we have. 406 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:27,000 This is what we're offering. If it's not, you know what. 407 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:28,000 You have, It's not what you want. 408 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,000 Then go take care of it yourself. Yes, yes. 409 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:34,133 And we don't like to buy our kids computers, especially if they're 410 00:18:34,133 --> 00:18:37,133 going to go on a mission, because 411 00:18:37,166 --> 00:18:40,033 when that will get them a computer, when they get back from their mission. 412 00:18:40,033 --> 00:18:42,033 Yeah. Things change so quick. Yeah. 413 00:18:42,033 --> 00:18:43,333 And that's always kind of a present. 414 00:18:43,333 --> 00:18:45,266 We've got the kids when they get back from their mission, 415 00:18:45,266 --> 00:18:47,600 we do buy them a new computer 416 00:18:47,700 --> 00:18:48,533 anyway, so. 417 00:18:48,533 --> 00:18:51,800 Yeah, but car insurance, I mean, we we still pay 418 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:54,800 all the car insurance 419 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:56,100 well. 420 00:18:56,100 --> 00:18:59,100 And we pay car insurance before and, and then 421 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:02,833 we got reimbursed sometimes or No, we never did not Car insurance. 422 00:19:02,833 --> 00:19:05,866 No, never. No. No. I think that was injured. 423 00:19:05,866 --> 00:19:07,233 I think that was in your divorce decree 424 00:19:07,233 --> 00:19:09,966 that you would take care of the cars, right? No. 425 00:19:09,966 --> 00:19:11,933 it's not. It's not. We just did. 426 00:19:11,933 --> 00:19:13,200 We just did. Okay. 427 00:19:13,200 --> 00:19:14,533 Okay. Well, that's interesting. 428 00:19:14,533 --> 00:19:16,200 Yeah. So, yeah, we we. 429 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:18,900 So this is a tough one for for adults. 430 00:19:18,900 --> 00:19:22,300 And you know what? Frankly, I think 431 00:19:22,366 --> 00:19:24,566 our society today has been catering 432 00:19:24,566 --> 00:19:27,766 to these young adults too much 433 00:19:27,866 --> 00:19:30,133 because look at how many people 434 00:19:30,133 --> 00:19:33,333 their kids are in college and they still pay for everything. 435 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:37,366 So I can't imagine how it is with the co-parenting 436 00:19:37,466 --> 00:19:42,300 when you get that, because you have no there's no legal responsibility. 437 00:19:42,300 --> 00:19:42,866 Right. 438 00:19:42,866 --> 00:19:46,633 Once they're 18 and graduated from high school or 19, that's yeah. 439 00:19:46,633 --> 00:19:49,433 Ah, you don't have to pay for anything. Right. 440 00:19:49,433 --> 00:19:52,633 And like I said, I think that at times that puts the kids in the middle 441 00:19:52,633 --> 00:19:57,233 because they know that that legal responsibility is gone, is gone. 442 00:19:57,233 --> 00:20:07,233 And now they're like. 443 00:20:07,300 --> 00:20:09,000 Well, this can this can also 444 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:13,566 mothers have things like kids playing their parents against each other. 445 00:20:13,633 --> 00:20:15,966 Hey, I need $400 for this thing at school. 446 00:20:15,966 --> 00:20:18,033 And then they go to the other parent and ask for the same 400. 447 00:20:18,033 --> 00:20:19,900 Yeah. 448 00:20:19,900 --> 00:20:21,666 Well, good for them if they figure that. 449 00:20:21,666 --> 00:20:22,666 All right. 450 00:20:22,666 --> 00:20:24,233 You know, I'm going to I'm going to visit 451 00:20:24,233 --> 00:20:27,866 Mom more than dad because Mom's actually paying for things. 452 00:20:28,033 --> 00:20:28,866 That might happen. 453 00:20:28,866 --> 00:20:31,933 Well, it yeah, absolutely might happen. 454 00:20:31,933 --> 00:20:32,933 It might happen. 455 00:20:32,933 --> 00:20:35,000 But yeah, it's very interesting. 456 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:37,533 But we have to be very careful about putting kids in the middle, 457 00:20:37,533 --> 00:20:41,833 because sometimes you make decisions about 458 00:20:41,933 --> 00:20:45,266 are you making the decision because best for the child or are you 459 00:20:45,266 --> 00:20:49,533 making that decision because you're trying to still stick it to your ex? 460 00:20:49,700 --> 00:20:51,600 Do you I mean, be careful. 461 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:52,933 These are don't I know. 462 00:20:52,933 --> 00:20:57,300 But I'm just saying I think you can still get in the middle of that. 463 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:00,400 Your and do you know what I mean of that still like. 464 00:21:00,533 --> 00:21:03,533 Well just because they turn 18. 465 00:21:03,533 --> 00:21:07,700 Yeah you know flip of a switch even though legally Right. 466 00:21:07,766 --> 00:21:11,600 That was interesting so when I was told me they have a 467 00:21:11,700 --> 00:21:15,400 a nephew that is Down's syndrome. 468 00:21:15,466 --> 00:21:18,700 So when he turns 18, he's an adult. 469 00:21:18,766 --> 00:21:23,166 So the parents had to go to court to, 470 00:21:23,233 --> 00:21:25,633 to actually, you know, get rid of his. 471 00:21:25,633 --> 00:21:28,333 I know what's the right word. He can't take care of himself. 472 00:21:28,333 --> 00:21:29,700 So he had. Guardianship. 473 00:21:29,700 --> 00:21:31,000 So yeah, guardianship. 474 00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,333 So his parents had to do that when he was 18. 475 00:21:33,333 --> 00:21:37,300 Otherwise they had no say in what to me, that's, you know, interesting. 476 00:21:37,300 --> 00:21:39,800 Just on your birthday, all of a sudden 477 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:43,500 your parents have no guardianship over you at all anymore. 478 00:21:43,500 --> 00:21:45,700 Yeah, yeah, it's kind of crazy. 479 00:21:45,700 --> 00:21:49,866 So and then there's the issue of, like, 480 00:21:49,933 --> 00:21:52,200 David is is our last one at home. 481 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:52,566 Right? 482 00:21:52,566 --> 00:21:55,566 He he's going to be is he's going to be a senior next year. 483 00:21:55,733 --> 00:21:59,633 So we, we have you have always come up with the schedule Right. 484 00:21:59,633 --> 00:22:03,300 And then your ex approves it and and you know you you know we change things. 485 00:22:03,300 --> 00:22:06,300 As they. Negotiate 486 00:22:06,466 --> 00:22:10,333 and we were talking to our college daughter who's coming home. 487 00:22:10,433 --> 00:22:11,900 And you had mentioned her. 488 00:22:11,900 --> 00:22:15,000 You were like, yeah, I only have to do one more summer scheduled this summer 489 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:19,200 because then next summer David will be 18, he'll be graduated. 490 00:22:19,266 --> 00:22:22,866 And she was like, Why aren't you going to do a schedule? 491 00:22:22,933 --> 00:22:25,300 And you're like, No, don't have to. 492 00:22:25,300 --> 00:22:28,800 And she goes, That's just that's that stress. 493 00:22:28,900 --> 00:22:32,333 I think that stresses them out because if there's a schedule, 494 00:22:32,566 --> 00:22:34,166 then they're not hurting anyone's feelings. 495 00:22:34,166 --> 00:22:35,966 They're just going to follow the schedule. 496 00:22:35,966 --> 00:22:36,733 And well. 497 00:22:36,733 --> 00:22:38,700 In our adult children 498 00:22:38,700 --> 00:22:41,933 that are already out, they take advantage of that schedule 499 00:22:41,933 --> 00:22:45,800 that we have with the younger kids that are under the parenting agreement still, 500 00:22:45,900 --> 00:22:46,900 because they just follow it. 501 00:22:46,900 --> 00:22:50,666 They just do whatever the hell not. It's not as 502 00:22:50,733 --> 00:22:52,933 strict as you know. No. 503 00:22:52,933 --> 00:22:55,233 But the older they get, the less they follow it. 504 00:22:55,233 --> 00:22:56,033 But they 505 00:22:56,033 --> 00:22:57,900 I think they still appreciate that we had it 506 00:22:57,900 --> 00:23:00,900 and so that they could follow It makes things a lot easier. 507 00:23:00,900 --> 00:23:03,900 Like, okay, we'll be with you Monday and Tuesday and then we'll be with mom, 508 00:23:04,066 --> 00:23:05,600 you know, Wednesday and Thursday like that. 509 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:09,000 Just it makes things a little easier. 510 00:23:09,100 --> 00:23:11,000 So this is going to be very interesting next year. 511 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:14,333 Yeah, she said, she says, well she goes, if it were me 512 00:23:14,566 --> 00:23:17,366 she was, I would make up a schedule. 513 00:23:17,366 --> 00:23:20,066 I mean like just like, here's the schedule that I'm going to. 514 00:23:20,066 --> 00:23:21,433 So we'll see. 515 00:23:21,433 --> 00:23:23,566 We'll see what she does this summer 516 00:23:23,566 --> 00:23:25,800 because she doesn't have to adhere to the schedule that we come up. 517 00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:30,166 She doesn't I think she plans to mostly follow it, but but be a little. 518 00:23:30,266 --> 00:23:31,400 Flex, you. Know, flexible. 519 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,233 Yeah, I think that that's what she's. 520 00:23:33,233 --> 00:23:35,666 So this is an interesting transition for us. 521 00:23:35,666 --> 00:23:37,133 It really is. 522 00:23:37,133 --> 00:23:38,033 It really is. 523 00:23:38,033 --> 00:23:40,633 I'm excited about the transition. 524 00:23:40,633 --> 00:23:43,866 I think I've more excited than you are. 525 00:23:43,933 --> 00:23:44,533 Yeah. 526 00:23:44,533 --> 00:23:48,600 When we were just walking today and I said in five months, 527 00:23:48,666 --> 00:23:50,400 half the time we're going to be. 528 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:50,733 Empty. 529 00:23:50,733 --> 00:23:54,100 Nest, empty nesters, which I know a lot of blended families. 530 00:23:54,100 --> 00:23:57,700 You've been doing that for years and years while we've always had Sam full time. 531 00:23:57,700 --> 00:24:00,633 So we've always we've always had somebody here. 532 00:24:00,633 --> 00:24:03,066 So it's going to be new for us to be. 533 00:24:03,066 --> 00:24:04,266 And I'm just like. 534 00:24:04,266 --> 00:24:07,466 And then nine months later. 535 00:24:07,533 --> 00:24:10,233 David Yeah, or a year later, a year. 536 00:24:10,233 --> 00:24:10,733 Later, yeah. 537 00:24:10,733 --> 00:24:11,900 David David's going to be gone. 538 00:24:11,900 --> 00:24:14,766 Will be full time empty nesters. 539 00:24:14,766 --> 00:24:17,200 Yeah, well, our grandkids were coming to visit. 540 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:17,800 That's right. 541 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:21,100 And as you can see, if what you need to take away from 542 00:24:21,100 --> 00:24:25,100 this episode is we really don't have things worked out. 543 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,200 No. As we 544 00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,866 have told you in many of our episodes, we are not experts now. 545 00:24:30,933 --> 00:24:32,066 We are. Living free. 546 00:24:32,066 --> 00:24:34,633 We are just sharing our experiences as we're going through it. 547 00:24:34,633 --> 00:24:38,333 And as you can tell, even though we have done this whole 548 00:24:38,333 --> 00:24:42,600 adult thing, how many times we're still like, What should we do? 549 00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:43,666 How do we handle this? 550 00:24:43,666 --> 00:24:47,200 Like. Well, sometimes it depends on the kid. 551 00:24:47,300 --> 00:24:49,900 Yeah, yeah, for sure. Sometimes it does. 552 00:24:49,900 --> 00:24:51,000 So yeah. 553 00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,500 So we are just still trying to figure it out. 554 00:24:53,500 --> 00:25:06,800 Still trying to figure it out. 555 00:25:06,900 --> 00:25:07,333 All right. 556 00:25:07,333 --> 00:25:07,900 Or lemonade. 557 00:25:07,900 --> 00:25:13,433 More of the week has to do with a once in a lifetime experience, At least for me. 558 00:25:13,433 --> 00:25:16,066 This is something I've always wanted to experience. 559 00:25:16,066 --> 00:25:19,366 Yes. So, Darren, was he really wanted 560 00:25:19,366 --> 00:25:22,600 to go see the total eclipse now? 561 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:26,800 I was hesitant, Yeah, because 562 00:25:26,900 --> 00:25:30,533 we got back the week of the total eclipse or the week before, I guess. 563 00:25:30,533 --> 00:25:35,566 Anyway, we got back from Europe on a Tuesday night 564 00:25:35,666 --> 00:25:36,566 and you wanted to 565 00:25:36,566 --> 00:25:40,300 then leave on Saturday morning at 5:30 a.m. 566 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,133 to leave again to go to Texas to see the eclipse. 567 00:25:43,133 --> 00:25:46,133 And I was just like, 568 00:25:46,133 --> 00:25:49,633 boy. Well, I just want you to experience seeing a stack of rocks 569 00:25:49,633 --> 00:25:53,266 at Stonehenge and then seeing a big rock move in front of the sun. 570 00:25:53,300 --> 00:25:54,166 That's all I wanted. 571 00:25:54,166 --> 00:25:57,366 You know, 572 00:25:57,433 --> 00:25:58,300 exhilarating. 573 00:25:58,300 --> 00:26:00,033 Seeing the stack of rocks at Stonehenge. 574 00:26:00,033 --> 00:26:01,733 Exhilarating. 575 00:26:01,733 --> 00:26:04,700 Well, what about the big rock in front of the sun? 576 00:26:04,700 --> 00:26:06,266 That was cool. 577 00:26:06,266 --> 00:26:08,733 That was. That was actually very. That was. 578 00:26:08,733 --> 00:26:09,466 It was awesome. 579 00:26:09,466 --> 00:26:15,733 But I am I am glad that we decided to do it because it was so it was funny. 580 00:26:15,733 --> 00:26:19,666 We get there and, you know, luckily 581 00:26:19,766 --> 00:26:24,400 the total eclipse was in Austin, where our grandbaby is and our. 582 00:26:24,500 --> 00:26:25,566 Daughter, son and daughter. In law. 583 00:26:25,566 --> 00:26:29,033 And then we had another daughter and her husband coming 584 00:26:29,033 --> 00:26:30,600 because they wanted to see the eclipse. 585 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:35,100 So we were going to be visiting with them for the weekend. 586 00:26:35,166 --> 00:26:37,833 But the morning of the eclipse. 587 00:26:37,833 --> 00:26:40,600 It was cloudy. Complete cloud cover. 588 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,033 And we're sitting there going and our son in law said, 589 00:26:44,100 --> 00:26:45,766 we're not going to get to see it. 590 00:26:45,766 --> 00:26:48,000 And I you know, I was just like, you know what? 591 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:49,200 It's still been a great weekend. 592 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:49,800 We have been able 593 00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:53,600 to spend this weekend with her grandbaby is just about the cutest thing 594 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,500 on the planet. He's so cute. 595 00:26:55,500 --> 00:26:56,700 Now check out our website. 596 00:26:56,700 --> 00:26:57,766 You can see pictures. 597 00:26:57,766 --> 00:27:00,433 he's adorable. 598 00:27:00,433 --> 00:27:02,000 And we got to spend time with our kids. 599 00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:03,366 And so it was great. 600 00:27:03,366 --> 00:27:07,366 And then like 30 minutes before the total eclipse, 601 00:27:07,466 --> 00:27:11,766 the clouds part completely. 602 00:27:11,833 --> 00:27:12,366 Yeah. I was. 603 00:27:12,366 --> 00:27:16,300 Pretty angry until about 10 minutes after the eclipse 604 00:27:16,366 --> 00:27:20,266 clouds back like, 605 00:27:20,366 --> 00:27:21,133 It was 606 00:27:21,133 --> 00:27:24,166 it was much more moving than I thought it was going to be. 607 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,200 It was. It was it was really cool. 608 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:30,666 I mean, it got dark, The birds stopped chirping. 609 00:27:30,666 --> 00:27:32,566 It was cool. 610 00:27:32,566 --> 00:27:34,500 It was super cool. So cool. 611 00:27:34,500 --> 00:27:37,366 But even if we would have not have seen the eclipse, 612 00:27:37,366 --> 00:27:46,333 we still got to spend time with our family, play with that keyboard. 613 00:27:46,433 --> 00:27:48,566 If you like today's episode. 614 00:27:48,566 --> 00:27:52,200 Give us five stars on iTunes, Spotify, Google. 615 00:27:52,266 --> 00:27:54,666 And head to Facebook and like us. 616 00:27:54,666 --> 00:27:58,400 And check out our blog at wheresthelemonade.org. 617 00:27:58,500 --> 00:28:01,200 Where you can leave questions and comments. 618 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:02,700 Add. But most of all. 619 00:28:02,700 --> 00:28:04,866 Go out and make some lemonade. You betcha, baby.