1
00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,759
Welcome to the Energetic Radio podcast. This episode is brought to you

2
00:00:05,759 --> 00:00:09,440
by the school of play dotco, hosted by Dale Sibonham and

3
00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:13,255
Paul Campbell. Each week, we'll bring to you tips, strategies, and ideas

4
00:00:13,255 --> 00:00:16,535
on how you can bring more joy and happiness into your life and those you

5
00:00:16,535 --> 00:00:20,215
share with. Welcome back, everybody. This is episode

6
00:00:20,215 --> 00:00:23,975
number 335. My name is Dale Silebottom, joined by

7
00:00:23,975 --> 00:00:26,695
the one and only Paul Campbell. How are you, mate? Very well, mate. How are

8
00:00:26,695 --> 00:00:30,130
you? Good, buddy. Now, you've got a stat for us about number

9
00:00:30,350 --> 00:00:34,190
335. So it's 335. I got I got 2. I don't

10
00:00:34,190 --> 00:00:37,570
know if one's true or not. Number 1, 335.

11
00:00:38,190 --> 00:00:41,815
If you talk about the 335th day in a year, that'll be the

12
00:00:41,815 --> 00:00:45,595
1st December, potentially. It's like a 1% club. Yeah.

13
00:00:45,975 --> 00:00:48,695
We we do love that show. That'd be great. I might be a day off

14
00:00:48,695 --> 00:00:52,055
here, but the 1st December, people put their trees up. Oh, stop it. Nothing but

15
00:00:52,055 --> 00:00:55,620
joy and happiness. Let's be honest, there are people in the world out there that

16
00:00:55,620 --> 00:00:58,420
love to get that tree up as early as possible. They do. I'm not sure

17
00:00:58,420 --> 00:01:01,940
about your household, but in our household we wait for the 1st December to roll

18
00:01:01,940 --> 00:01:05,140
around to chuck it up. That's good. Not one word of a lie, mate, my

19
00:01:05,140 --> 00:01:08,280
kids the other day were asking if we can start When you pull up? Yeah.

20
00:01:10,015 --> 00:01:13,695
Jesus, real king. I'm not sure where they saw Christmas, maybe the shops

21
00:01:13,695 --> 00:01:17,535
already got that stuff out and about, but, and I might be wrong, listeners

22
00:01:17,535 --> 00:01:20,735
feel free to correct me, but 300 and 35th day of the year, that might

23
00:01:20,735 --> 00:01:24,260
be around the 1st December. Oh, I like that one. But then the fact that

24
00:01:24,260 --> 00:01:27,940
we know is true, so I looked up. The Dutch Sicily war

25
00:01:27,940 --> 00:01:31,240
lasted 335 years between 1651

26
00:01:31,860 --> 00:01:35,540
and 1986, but it had no battles or deaths. I'm so

27
00:01:35,540 --> 00:01:38,405
glad I know that. Thank you. That's a good that's a good war. Right? No

28
00:01:38,405 --> 00:01:41,765
battles or deaths. Let's have more of them, please. That'd be fantastic. Thank you for

29
00:01:41,765 --> 00:01:45,284
that, mate. Now, I've got the, I'm in your seat today. I've got the

30
00:01:45,284 --> 00:01:48,840
camera on me. If people are listening to this, and check out

31
00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:52,359
our Instagram at energetic radio. I've had the, fresh fade. The ears are

32
00:01:52,359 --> 00:01:55,960
lowered, looking sharp, I would say. I'm gonna give myself a compliment there. Now

33
00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:59,560
before we get into the second episode of the best of you series, which,

34
00:02:00,119 --> 00:02:03,795
we've really enjoyed. The feedback was really nice from, the first one.

35
00:02:03,955 --> 00:02:07,715
Little bit of a shout out for things we've got coming up. So, obviously, we've

36
00:02:07,715 --> 00:02:11,315
done our talks all around the world and, a lot of time they're just

37
00:02:11,315 --> 00:02:14,995
for private companies, corporate, schools, sports clubs. We are

38
00:02:14,995 --> 00:02:18,690
now branching out and we've booked some big theatres. So in

39
00:02:18,690 --> 00:02:22,230
October November, we've got shows in Shepparton, Parkdale,

40
00:02:22,370 --> 00:02:25,830
and Geelong. If you go to episode number 335,

41
00:02:26,930 --> 00:02:30,690
there'll be a link on that. I'm obviously speaking, you're gonna be emceeing

42
00:02:30,690 --> 00:02:34,394
Paul, and we've got Paul Watkins coming along as well. So on the link in

43
00:02:34,394 --> 00:02:37,435
the show notes, you can go and check out and have a read about the

44
00:02:37,435 --> 00:02:41,275
the evening. It's called elevate your life and really good for partners,

45
00:02:41,275 --> 00:02:45,114
friends, workplaces, kids, families, anyone to come along.

46
00:02:45,515 --> 00:02:49,210
Paul and myself, we've got different unique styles. You can see both our

47
00:02:49,210 --> 00:02:52,890
TED Talks on there. But essentially, we're trying to bring what

48
00:02:52,890 --> 00:02:56,730
we do to everybody to share that and have a really positive

49
00:02:56,730 --> 00:03:00,570
experience. So, they are big theaters where a couple of them are about half

50
00:03:00,570 --> 00:03:03,905
full, couple one isn't. So if you if you wanna,

51
00:03:03,965 --> 00:03:07,584
obviously, read more about that, go and check that out. But more importantly,

52
00:03:08,045 --> 00:03:11,805
let's go on with today. It is all about relationships and connections. Oh.

53
00:03:11,805 --> 00:03:14,605
A 100%. Love this cam boat. How good is it? So,

54
00:03:15,750 --> 00:03:19,110
yeah, second episode, the best of you series, we're going to bring 4 of these

55
00:03:19,110 --> 00:03:22,950
2, and it's all about relationships and connections. And let's be honest, right? I

56
00:03:22,950 --> 00:03:26,790
think that's what life is about. Like seriously, that's what life is about. And if

57
00:03:26,790 --> 00:03:30,585
we link back episode, you know, the first episode, the first episode in

58
00:03:30,585 --> 00:03:33,245
the series of the best of you, which was mindfulness and gratitude,

59
00:03:34,745 --> 00:03:38,105
let's be honest, most of the things we find that we're grateful for or the

60
00:03:38,105 --> 00:03:41,305
little snippets where we stop and smell the rose and that's awesome comes when we're

61
00:03:41,305 --> 00:03:44,959
hanging out with people and we have our connections and relationships and they come from

62
00:03:44,959 --> 00:03:48,400
enjoying them and spending them with people that we care about. Right. So if we're

63
00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:52,000
going to focus on mindfulness and gratitude, it makes complete sense to now really hone

64
00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:55,599
in and just plant that seed in listeners is about the importance of

65
00:03:55,599 --> 00:03:59,224
working really hard and striving to have healthy relationships and

66
00:03:59,224 --> 00:04:02,745
connections with those around you. And they take effort. They do. Like

67
00:04:02,745 --> 00:04:06,045
anything in life, I don't know. It's exactly what we spoke about last week.

68
00:04:06,985 --> 00:04:10,185
Nothing you can't take friends for granted. And I think if,

69
00:04:10,890 --> 00:04:14,730
it's not that I like doing this, but I I've always passionate, like, not passionate

70
00:04:14,730 --> 00:04:18,410
about I'm always curious about when people are dying, what they say is important to

71
00:04:18,410 --> 00:04:22,250
them. Mhmm. And it's always people, like, I wish I had worked not as hard

72
00:04:22,250 --> 00:04:26,065
and invested more time in my friends or family, or I spent more time

73
00:04:26,065 --> 00:04:29,264
and was more present, you know, because at the end of the day, that that's

74
00:04:29,264 --> 00:04:32,865
what really matters. Not what you own, how much money you have, like, your

75
00:04:32,865 --> 00:04:36,065
job title. Because when you're retired, no one cares what you did. Yep. Just comes

76
00:04:36,065 --> 00:04:38,625
back to are you a good person, and do you have good people in your

77
00:04:38,625 --> 00:04:42,360
life? Yeah. So I think it it it is one of those things that you

78
00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:46,120
don't wanna just cruise through life so focused and fixated on,

79
00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:49,560
you know, item status and and things like that that when you do

80
00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:53,215
realize that they don't matter anymore, it's too late. Yep. I think

81
00:04:53,215 --> 00:04:57,055
it's a currency it's a it's a currency that you can never invest enough

82
00:04:57,055 --> 00:05:00,495
time in. And the best thing about these currencies, it's free. 100%. And

83
00:05:00,495 --> 00:05:03,375
and I was a victim of it. I'm sure you've been a victim of it.

84
00:05:03,375 --> 00:05:06,655
I reckon 98% of the population would be a victim of it, is you go

85
00:05:06,655 --> 00:05:10,280
through the social norms. Right? Like you you go to school, you think

86
00:05:10,280 --> 00:05:13,319
about your career, it's jammed down your throat, you get your career, you focus on

87
00:05:13,319 --> 00:05:17,080
that and what you wanna become, get your house, your mortgage, etcetera, etcetera, cars, your

88
00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:20,919
holidays. And then you'll probably start to come through that once you've had kids and

89
00:05:20,919 --> 00:05:24,485
in your forties and you start edging through the Do you come through it?

90
00:05:25,025 --> 00:05:28,545
You might be, I'm sorry to interrupt. Sorry to interrupt. That's

91
00:05:28,545 --> 00:05:31,025
alright. No, I think you do. And I think the more you read, the more

92
00:05:31,025 --> 00:05:33,905
you learn, the more you realize that, you know, holy shit, I'm halfway through my

93
00:05:33,905 --> 00:05:36,660
life now. Let's just be honest. I'm halfway through it. And I think that's when

94
00:05:36,660 --> 00:05:40,340
the penny drops that you go, yeah, if you think about what, what you're going

95
00:05:40,340 --> 00:05:42,900
to think on your death bed, and that's such a powerful thing to think about.

96
00:05:42,900 --> 00:05:46,660
I know it's pretty morbid, but it does allow you to reset your mindset and

97
00:05:46,660 --> 00:05:49,380
you're like, man, if I'm on my death bed, what's going to be important to

98
00:05:49,380 --> 00:05:52,765
me. And you're right. It's not your career. Like, yeah, you might get, it might

99
00:05:52,765 --> 00:05:56,205
be fulfilling you to impact on people in a really positive way, but the things

100
00:05:56,205 --> 00:05:59,345
you're really going to care about is how you treated people,

101
00:05:59,885 --> 00:06:02,685
what you known, who you known as and who you known by and who you're

102
00:06:02,685 --> 00:06:06,330
remembered by as, and just, yeah,

103
00:06:06,330 --> 00:06:09,610
those rock solid connections you made along the way and how you treated those people

104
00:06:09,610 --> 00:06:13,450
that cared about you. That's the most important thing. It's not so much yeah.

105
00:06:13,450 --> 00:06:16,570
It's important for the people who you care about, but it's the people that care

106
00:06:16,570 --> 00:06:19,210
about you that you've really gotta work on and give to. And as you said

107
00:06:19,210 --> 00:06:22,305
before, don't take it for granted. And every one of us do it. Like, I'll

108
00:06:22,305 --> 00:06:25,104
put my hand up. Oh, we all do. We all get complacent. There's times you

109
00:06:25,104 --> 00:06:28,145
get complacent and you, and you take certain relationships for granted. They're always going to

110
00:06:28,145 --> 00:06:31,905
be there. Right. But let's be honest. Shit happens sometimes and

111
00:06:31,905 --> 00:06:35,690
they're not there forever. You know what I mean? So, yeah. So take

112
00:06:35,690 --> 00:06:38,729
this as a little moment in time if you're listening and you're in your ears

113
00:06:38,729 --> 00:06:42,490
and just to go, you know what, let's, let's put some effort in and

114
00:06:42,490 --> 00:06:46,169
not take anything for granted and, and reach out, reach out to someone you

115
00:06:46,169 --> 00:06:49,905
haven't spoke to for a little while. Think about those people

116
00:06:49,905 --> 00:06:53,425
that love you and care about you and have a think about how you're treating

117
00:06:53,425 --> 00:06:56,625
them. And that's, I've had to do a bit of reflection on that lately massively

118
00:06:56,625 --> 00:07:00,224
in the last year or 2, for sure. And I'm definitely

119
00:07:00,224 --> 00:07:03,824
striving to try and be, you know, better husband, better father, better mate, those sorts

120
00:07:03,824 --> 00:07:06,520
of things. And inadvertently

121
00:07:07,700 --> 00:07:11,540
when you do put a bit of thought into that side of things, I think

122
00:07:11,540 --> 00:07:14,260
once again, you feel proud of yourself and you feel a little bit better yourself

123
00:07:14,260 --> 00:07:17,785
that you are being a better person towards the others, and they get something out

124
00:07:17,785 --> 00:07:21,385
of it and gives back to you as well. Oh, so true. Now and one

125
00:07:21,385 --> 00:07:25,165
thing I love is it's always nice when you get messages on your birthday, and

126
00:07:25,225 --> 00:07:28,985
this is going out on Monday. It is your birthday, Canva. So happy birthday.

127
00:07:28,985 --> 00:07:32,430
We we're obviously prerecording this because we've got, a full week of

128
00:07:32,430 --> 00:07:36,270
workshops away all over Victoria. 1st week for you of a full 5

129
00:07:36,270 --> 00:07:39,230
5 road trip. Well, let's call it a junket. Let's get it. It's it's a

130
00:07:39,230 --> 00:07:42,190
road trip inside. I'm looking forward to it. It is a junket. But it is

131
00:07:42,190 --> 00:07:45,570
your birthday today. So happy birthday, mate. Thank you. 20

132
00:07:45,705 --> 00:07:49,544
7. Oh, I love you. You can you can stay, mate. You can

133
00:07:49,544 --> 00:07:53,305
definitely stay. It's patronizing and then there's bullshitting again. I know. And there was a

134
00:07:53,305 --> 00:07:56,104
time when people would say, oh, you still look like me in twenties and thirties,

135
00:07:56,104 --> 00:07:58,745
but I reckon the gray hair now that you're showing through. Oh, got a story

136
00:07:58,745 --> 00:08:02,450
before we talk about this. So Go for it. Last week, we're doing a, workshop

137
00:08:02,590 --> 00:08:06,430
together. And I'm asking me, I don't know why he told me this,

138
00:08:06,430 --> 00:08:10,190
but, we're we're obviously presenting together. And one of the students, beautiful

139
00:08:10,190 --> 00:08:13,310
student, obviously, very switched on. I was I could empathize with him. I thought, you're

140
00:08:13,310 --> 00:08:17,155
you're right. You've got things sorted. I actually said to Cambo, oh, is

141
00:08:17,155 --> 00:08:20,675
he your son? This is a true

142
00:08:20,675 --> 00:08:24,115
story, ladies and gentlemen. Let's just put things in line here. The grade 6

143
00:08:24,115 --> 00:08:27,715
student, right there doing our thing. We look the same. We dress the same.

144
00:08:28,275 --> 00:08:32,110
We're both idiots. And, and, yeah, this this girl grabbed

145
00:08:32,110 --> 00:08:35,089
me and she said, hey, is is he your son? And I was

146
00:08:35,789 --> 00:08:39,549
mind blown. I was like, what? And I said to the little girl, I said,

147
00:08:39,549 --> 00:08:43,265
is it my grey hair that that that made it? She she

148
00:08:43,265 --> 00:08:45,985
went, yep. That's pretty much it. Well, I love that you told me. I thought

149
00:08:45,985 --> 00:08:49,825
that I probably wouldn't have told you if that was yellow. But what I

150
00:08:49,825 --> 00:08:53,665
what I brought that up is, obviously, happy birthday, mate. But more importantly, don't

151
00:08:53,665 --> 00:08:57,030
just reach out to somebody when everyone else does. This is probably the thing that

152
00:08:57,110 --> 00:09:00,810
a long way around going about it. Do it just because.

153
00:09:00,870 --> 00:09:04,250
Do it because it's just a Wednesday at 9 AM. Do it just because

154
00:09:04,390 --> 00:09:08,150
nobody else is. It's always nice to let people know happy birthday, but

155
00:09:08,150 --> 00:09:11,835
on your birthday, predominantly, I'd say you feel pretty good anyway.

156
00:09:11,835 --> 00:09:15,435
Yeah. Because you're getting love from everywhere. Yeah. So my thing would be, try and

157
00:09:15,435 --> 00:09:18,955
do it when nobody else is doing it, and just have no agenda just

158
00:09:18,955 --> 00:09:22,475
because. That's when it's really powerful. Yeah. Because people aren't

159
00:09:22,475 --> 00:09:25,980
expecting it, You know? That I I think that's the biggest thing.

160
00:09:25,980 --> 00:09:29,500
Like, awesome that you send someone to ring them on their birthday, but let's be

161
00:09:29,500 --> 00:09:33,340
honest, they're probably getting 20 calls. I I shouldn't say that because maybe not everyone

162
00:09:33,340 --> 00:09:36,480
is. Don't just take that for granted, but maybe set aside

163
00:09:37,214 --> 00:09:40,735
every 6 months. Like, if you if you reach out so reach out to them

164
00:09:40,735 --> 00:09:43,855
on their birthday and then send a reminder for 6 months time and reach out

165
00:09:43,855 --> 00:09:47,615
again. Yeah. Say happy half year or something. I don't know. Like, just because

166
00:09:47,774 --> 00:09:50,415
And it doesn't matter if it's been 3 or 4 months. Like, I don't like,

167
00:09:50,415 --> 00:09:54,140
I think sometimes people worry, you know, like, ah, geez, I haven't

168
00:09:54,140 --> 00:09:56,460
reached out to that person for quite some time. And then it's just, then some

169
00:09:56,460 --> 00:10:00,220
Mexican standoff, right? Some Mexican standoff as to who does it. But I

170
00:10:00,220 --> 00:10:03,980
guarantee it, no one is going to think ill of your or be

171
00:10:03,980 --> 00:10:07,685
upset if that your name pops up in their phone screen. Never, you

172
00:10:07,685 --> 00:10:10,404
know, they're going to have a little sense of guilt or jib as I haven't

173
00:10:10,404 --> 00:10:13,605
contacted them, contacted them for a while either. Right? So 2 way street always takes

174
00:10:13,605 --> 00:10:17,225
2 to tango. But never feel

175
00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:20,680
concerned that you haven't reached out for a little while. You're actually gonna put a

176
00:10:20,680 --> 00:10:23,720
smile on their face and make their day, even if it's been 4 or 5

177
00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:27,080
months since reaching out and then it's kicked off again. Right? Then it's rekindled and

178
00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:29,480
then the ball's in their court, but it doesn't have to be in their court

179
00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:33,305
because you can It's not a game. No. It's not a game. But you're not

180
00:10:33,305 --> 00:10:37,144
the only one in this world who's hasn't reached out

181
00:10:37,144 --> 00:10:40,824
to a mate for a long time. I guarantee every single person is right. I

182
00:10:40,824 --> 00:10:44,345
think every group's got an elite mate that he's awesome at it. You know, I

183
00:10:44,345 --> 00:10:47,380
think think ours is is a bloke called Ace is always awesome at reaching out

184
00:10:47,380 --> 00:10:50,900
to everybody. But it doesn't matter if you're not that person

185
00:10:50,900 --> 00:10:53,780
just pick up the phone and give him a call, you know, leave a voicemail,

186
00:10:53,780 --> 00:10:56,660
send a text, whatever it might be. I received an awesome one the other day.

187
00:10:56,660 --> 00:10:59,140
I was telling you about, you know, maybe hadn't haven't spoken to him for quite

188
00:10:59,140 --> 00:11:02,205
some time. He shot me message, made my day. You know what I mean? It

189
00:11:02,205 --> 00:11:05,105
was awesome. And then we're back off and running. You know what I mean? So,

190
00:11:05,725 --> 00:11:09,485
now bite the bullet, be the one that that leads the

191
00:11:09,485 --> 00:11:13,005
cause, leads away, and reach out to someone. Yeah. Use this as a

192
00:11:13,005 --> 00:11:16,120
reminder to reach out to 1 person today or tomorrow. Love that. And it doesn't

193
00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:19,640
just have to be a text message or a call. And this is there are

194
00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:23,420
a number of different ways to do it. Obviously, they're pretty traditional

195
00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:27,240
sort of ways you can do it. One that, one of my roommates,

196
00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:30,955
Pico, does a lot is he would just send a picture of,

197
00:11:30,955 --> 00:11:34,795
like, me and him, like, doing something over the years. And, like,

198
00:11:34,795 --> 00:11:38,635
you don't even need words with it, but that picture not only reminds me,

199
00:11:38,635 --> 00:11:41,535
you know, how lucky I am to have him as a friend in my life,

200
00:11:41,595 --> 00:11:45,220
but it shows me that he's thinking of me as well. And I know he

201
00:11:45,220 --> 00:11:48,260
does that to all his friends. It's a it's a really similar one. I think

202
00:11:48,260 --> 00:11:52,020
that's the best thing about devices, our phones. They've got so many

203
00:11:52,020 --> 00:11:55,700
photos on them. Yeah. Just scroll like crazy and just randomly pick

204
00:11:55,700 --> 00:11:58,660
1, send it to that person, and let them know what they mean to you.

205
00:11:58,660 --> 00:12:02,255
Yeah. You're just right. Like, mate, miss, you remember this time, ta da.

206
00:12:02,255 --> 00:12:06,015
Whatever it is, but I find that's a really nice reminder of

207
00:12:06,015 --> 00:12:09,855
things you've done with somebody else that doesn't take a long time. Yeah.

208
00:12:10,095 --> 00:12:13,560
But like we always say with everything, you've gotta be intentional about it. Unless

209
00:12:13,560 --> 00:12:17,240
you set a reminder or have a time during the

210
00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:21,000
day where you do that, where you reach out to someone, what normally will happen

211
00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:24,680
traditionally is we are busy. Our lives go on and we forget about it, and

212
00:12:24,680 --> 00:12:28,404
you're like, oh, damn. I forgot to do that. Yes, you gotta be intentional

213
00:12:28,404 --> 00:12:32,005
with it. Like, you know, a podcast or a meeting, or you've got

214
00:12:32,005 --> 00:12:35,605
work, or kids swimming lesson. Like, you you don't just willy nilly do it.

215
00:12:35,605 --> 00:12:39,300
It's traditional thing you do each week or whatever it is. I I think this

216
00:12:39,300 --> 00:12:43,060
has to be the same. You've been intentional. And yet, especially as you age,

217
00:12:43,060 --> 00:12:46,820
right? Think about when you're younger, you're, you're in the mixer at school, you're surrounded

218
00:12:46,820 --> 00:12:50,660
by 100 of people. You naturally, you know, you've got a group of friends

219
00:12:50,660 --> 00:12:54,225
or whatever it might be early twenties, you sort of keep that group of friends,

220
00:12:54,225 --> 00:12:56,545
whatever it might be. But as you get a little bit older, it gets a

221
00:12:56,545 --> 00:13:00,305
little bit harder. Your friendship group definitely shrinks. And that's just

222
00:13:00,305 --> 00:13:04,145
part of life. It's human nature. It's completely fine. Especially when families come

223
00:13:04,145 --> 00:13:07,920
along. And so that's the time, you know, I think when you've got to go,

224
00:13:07,920 --> 00:13:11,600
right, I've got to be accountable. We were talking in episode

225
00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:15,040
1 about who you're accountable for your mental health and well-being, right? It's on you

226
00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:18,160
to, to make a change. Then you've got to be accountable for putting your hand

227
00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:20,485
up and going, right. I need to get myself connected. So if you're out there

228
00:13:20,485 --> 00:13:24,165
and you're not connected really well, and you feel a little bit isolated, then it's

229
00:13:24,165 --> 00:13:27,445
on you to get yourself connected. And today's day and age with, you know, the,

230
00:13:27,445 --> 00:13:30,964
the phones we've got and, you know, like I'm a member of the, of the

231
00:13:30,964 --> 00:13:34,690
Chelsea Facebook group and you can post on there and check on there.

232
00:13:34,690 --> 00:13:37,570
You know what I mean? Hey, anyone doing this on a Saturday or is there

233
00:13:37,570 --> 00:13:40,370
anyone I can catch up with to go for a bike ride or anyone keen

234
00:13:40,370 --> 00:13:43,570
for here to golf, whatever it might be. And what randoms? Yeah. And there'll be,

235
00:13:43,570 --> 00:13:46,050
there'll be people out there that will throw their hand back to you and go,

236
00:13:46,050 --> 00:13:49,315
Hey, we're doing this on this day and time, rock down. That's cool. That's awesome.

237
00:13:49,315 --> 00:13:52,535
Yeah. Even my local footy clubs, I'm still play over 30 fives footy.

238
00:13:52,915 --> 00:13:56,515
And we get new blokes down all the time that don't know people at the

239
00:13:56,515 --> 00:13:59,815
club. They rock down and they instantly feel connected

240
00:14:00,275 --> 00:14:04,055
to 30, 40, 50, 60 blokes. And they walk out of that first session

241
00:14:04,350 --> 00:14:07,390
loving it. And we generally see them back for session 2, session 3, and then

242
00:14:07,390 --> 00:14:10,990
they're hooked. Yep. Right. And I'm walking part of that. Like I started playing

243
00:14:10,990 --> 00:14:14,589
footy Parkdale, footy club and new 1 or 2 blokes. Now I've

244
00:14:14,589 --> 00:14:18,350
got 30 Heart and soul of the club. Yeah. 30, 30 new mates. You know

245
00:14:18,350 --> 00:14:22,155
what I mean? So, I feel more connected than ever. And when you do catch

246
00:14:22,155 --> 00:14:25,835
up with those people, it just absolutely fills your cup and it's unreal. But

247
00:14:25,835 --> 00:14:29,675
once again, it takes effort. Yeah. Right. You're going to train, you're turning

248
00:14:29,675 --> 00:14:33,435
up, you're committing, you're playing footy every second weekend. Yep. Cause I would

249
00:14:33,435 --> 00:14:37,210
say, I would say 50, 60, 70% of the people

250
00:14:37,210 --> 00:14:40,970
in the track finish work and go, you know, cannot

251
00:14:40,970 --> 00:14:44,330
be stuck getting there tonight. And I guarantee once they rock up and they feel

252
00:14:44,330 --> 00:14:46,970
the banter of the mates and they're around people and they're connected and they've got

253
00:14:46,970 --> 00:14:50,625
some relationships, they walk away going home feeling better

254
00:14:50,625 --> 00:14:54,464
themselves before they did. And they treat their families better. They're happier.

255
00:14:54,464 --> 00:14:58,065
They go to work the next day a bit better. Everything flows from there. Correct.

256
00:14:58,065 --> 00:15:01,500
Right. But it just takes that effort and energy to make it happen. Well, it's

257
00:15:01,500 --> 00:15:05,020
belonging. It it's being part of something. Yep. And I think I was reading a

258
00:15:05,020 --> 00:15:08,780
stat the other day that, like, loneliness, particularly between 18

259
00:15:08,780 --> 00:15:12,380
to 25 year olds, you know, it's like 40 40 to

260
00:15:12,380 --> 00:15:16,095
45% of those people feel lonely, feel like they've got no

261
00:15:16,095 --> 00:15:19,935
one in their life. They don't have one person that they could call at any

262
00:15:19,935 --> 00:15:23,774
time if something was going on. Yep. And that for me is that's so

263
00:15:23,774 --> 00:15:27,615
sad. But Isn't it? The the like, devices are great. We've spoken

264
00:15:27,615 --> 00:15:31,430
about them, you know, how easy is to reach out to somebody, but then they're

265
00:15:31,430 --> 00:15:35,270
not going to be the way to make you feel like you've got relationships. Yeah.

266
00:15:35,270 --> 00:15:38,410
Yes. You're talking to people, but you're not seeing them. You're not feeling their energy.

267
00:15:38,950 --> 00:15:42,710
If the pandemic's taught us anything, if you're feeling lonely, the best thing you

268
00:15:42,710 --> 00:15:46,505
can do is go and join any club or any

269
00:15:46,505 --> 00:15:50,185
community. You know, it might be a cooking class, sculpture, painting,

270
00:15:50,185 --> 00:15:53,705
rowing, running, rolling. I don't know what it is. Anything like you said footy. I

271
00:15:53,705 --> 00:15:57,225
remember when I moved down this way, I didn't really know anyone. I joined up

272
00:15:57,225 --> 00:16:00,665
at a gym, you know. Like, and you go each day and you see the

273
00:16:00,665 --> 00:16:04,290
same people. You know, and I've got lifelong friends because of it, but

274
00:16:04,290 --> 00:16:07,490
not and I suppose this is the thing, like, you know, we've spoken about a

275
00:16:07,490 --> 00:16:11,250
lot. None of these happen unless, you know, it it it is. Like, you feel

276
00:16:11,330 --> 00:16:14,930
you will feel anxious because you are stepping somewhere where you don't know

277
00:16:14,930 --> 00:16:18,545
anybody, but that's where the growth occurs. When you do put yourself in that

278
00:16:18,545 --> 00:16:22,385
situation and allow yourself to be vulnerable and meet new people, because we've

279
00:16:22,385 --> 00:16:25,905
all been there before. And that's what you've got to remember, like, if you're going

280
00:16:25,905 --> 00:16:29,585
into a new situation, everybody else that's already there was in your shoes at

281
00:16:29,585 --> 00:16:33,350
some stage. It doesn't feel like that now because, like you said, after

282
00:16:33,350 --> 00:16:37,110
2 or 3 trainings, you got 30 blokes. I still remember, like, because I was

283
00:16:37,110 --> 00:16:40,630
a PT, I run businesses, and I was walking to a gym, and I, like,

284
00:16:40,630 --> 00:16:44,355
I felt so nervous, but I should've felt comfortable, you know, like, that's that

285
00:16:44,355 --> 00:16:47,075
was where I spent, you know, 10 years of my life. Yeah. But now I

286
00:16:47,075 --> 00:16:50,915
was going into a completely new environment, and I've felt so nervous. Like,

287
00:16:50,915 --> 00:16:54,675
I was the shyest I've ever been. I was quiet. Now you walk in there,

288
00:16:54,675 --> 00:16:58,190
it's completely different. You know, I've been gone for 3 years, and

289
00:16:58,250 --> 00:17:02,010
got brilliant friends in the area. Our kids go to,

290
00:17:02,010 --> 00:17:05,690
like, daycare and kinder together. Yep. You know, catch up

291
00:17:05,690 --> 00:17:09,290
out of gym hours and that's just because like minded

292
00:17:09,290 --> 00:17:13,075
people that, you know, pretty similar, you wanna move your body, you you wanna look

293
00:17:13,075 --> 00:17:16,835
after yourself, you connect, you know, and those

294
00:17:16,835 --> 00:17:20,195
relationships worked because I feel there's no alcohol

295
00:17:20,195 --> 00:17:23,635
involved. Yes. Now when we catch up, I'd love a beer. We always have one

296
00:17:23,635 --> 00:17:27,369
and things like that, but you meet people outside of

297
00:17:27,430 --> 00:17:31,270
a a nightclub or a pub or something like that. You're moving your body, connecting.

298
00:17:31,270 --> 00:17:33,990
You got things in common like you were footy. Do you know what I mean?

299
00:17:33,990 --> 00:17:37,270
And then you allow those friendships to blossom, and then you can do other things.

300
00:17:37,270 --> 00:17:40,975
But, that would be my number one tip for anybody that, yes,

301
00:17:40,975 --> 00:17:44,414
there'll be people in your life that reach out to and, you

302
00:17:44,414 --> 00:17:48,174
know, old friends, lifelong friends, stay connected with them. But when it

303
00:17:48,174 --> 00:17:51,956
comes to, you know, our friendships do shrink, you know, and particularly

304
00:17:51,956 --> 00:17:55,789
when you're having kids and they're starting to make friends, and so you automatically

305
00:17:56,250 --> 00:17:59,470
become friends with their friends. And I hope my boys' friends'

306
00:17:59,850 --> 00:18:03,610
parents are cool. But if they're not, you know, I'll be understanding. But the

307
00:18:03,610 --> 00:18:07,355
thing is, like, you've gotta be actively doing things each

308
00:18:07,355 --> 00:18:10,875
day, I feel, that not only connects you with the people in your life, friends

309
00:18:10,875 --> 00:18:14,555
and family already have, but allows you to grow and put you outside your comfort

310
00:18:14,555 --> 00:18:18,225
zone. And, like, I I suppose I didn't do that for

311
00:18:18,225 --> 00:18:22,010
a long time, because I didn't have to. Because I just worked all

312
00:18:22,010 --> 00:18:25,210
the time, I was always meeting new people, but it was always on my terms.

313
00:18:25,210 --> 00:18:28,570
Yeah. They were coming to me. So people go, are you really confident? And things

314
00:18:28,570 --> 00:18:32,350
like, yeah, I am. But that's because I always I was always in control.

315
00:18:33,195 --> 00:18:37,034
So what I'm saying is it's been super rewarding when I

316
00:18:37,034 --> 00:18:39,835
had to do the like, take the shoes off and go on the other way.

317
00:18:39,835 --> 00:18:43,674
Yep. And it's been amazing because I actually got to feel what it

318
00:18:43,674 --> 00:18:47,470
was like. Yeah. And, yeah, it is a lot harder, but it's also

319
00:18:47,470 --> 00:18:51,230
a lot more rewarding. Yep. So, yeah, that would be my thing. I love that.

320
00:18:51,230 --> 00:18:54,750
And I wanna pull out one rip from that. I spoke for a long time.

321
00:18:54,750 --> 00:18:56,110
That's alright. That's alright. That's alright. That's alright. That's alright. That's alright. I was not

322
00:18:56,110 --> 00:18:59,155
in my listening. It's just that you feel their energy. You know what I mean?

323
00:18:59,155 --> 00:19:02,195
When you actually yeah. That's about the phone thing and and, you know, young people

324
00:19:02,195 --> 00:19:05,555
might say, well, we're more connected than ever. Yeah. You are. But let me tell

325
00:19:05,555 --> 00:19:08,835
you not because you're not feeling their energy. Correct. And we and we're made to

326
00:19:08,835 --> 00:19:12,549
feel energy of each other. And you know, Shelly, if you're a

327
00:19:12,549 --> 00:19:15,909
business owner, if you're a manager, if you're a leader of some form and you're

328
00:19:15,909 --> 00:19:19,669
running a meeting, whatever it might be, make sure here's another tip, like make sure

329
00:19:19,669 --> 00:19:22,230
you're doing something at the start of your meetings, at the end of your meetings

330
00:19:22,230 --> 00:19:25,370
or some aspect of your day where you're working to connect

331
00:19:25,785 --> 00:19:29,385
people in that workplace and actually connect them. You know what I mean? So don't

332
00:19:29,385 --> 00:19:32,825
just go in your meeting and, and start it right. This is what we need

333
00:19:32,825 --> 00:19:36,345
to work on. These are our KPIs, whatever it might be, etcetera, etcetera. Actually start

334
00:19:36,345 --> 00:19:40,000
the meeting with some sort of activity that allows people to share some

335
00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:43,200
stories with each other or, you know, some moments they're proud of. In a creative

336
00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:46,720
way, though. Not an awkward way. No. No. Not an awkward way, you know. And

337
00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:49,600
we do it all the time. We're full of these awesome little ideas and little

338
00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:53,280
games that we play that connect people and trick them into sharing their stories and

339
00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:57,005
those things. Cause once you do that and you create a culture at your workplace

340
00:19:57,005 --> 00:20:00,125
or at your school, wherever it might be in your mateship group, and you create

341
00:20:00,125 --> 00:20:03,905
a culture where people are open and sharing and a little bit vulnerable,

342
00:20:04,365 --> 00:20:08,030
it creates such better trust and better bonds. I

343
00:20:08,030 --> 00:20:11,870
promise you productivity is gonna go through the roof. Everyone's gonna love

344
00:20:11,870 --> 00:20:15,309
walking that door and the whole place is gonna There's gonna be a great vibe.

345
00:20:15,309 --> 00:20:18,429
And all of a sudden you're retaining your staff. People wanna stay, people wanna wanna

346
00:20:18,429 --> 00:20:22,195
rock up to work and it's catch 22, right? Everyone's getting something out of it.

347
00:20:22,195 --> 00:20:26,035
They're boosting their mental health and well-being. They're feeling bloody good about themselves. And

348
00:20:26,035 --> 00:20:29,555
lo and behold, your workplace is thriving. Oh, funny that isn't it? Yeah.

349
00:20:29,555 --> 00:20:31,955
So, you know what I mean? We set this up. We wanna give you guys

350
00:20:31,955 --> 00:20:35,315
tips and little yeah. We wanna talk candidly, but give you guys some tips and

351
00:20:35,315 --> 00:20:38,650
strategies. And there's another one. You know what I mean? So yes, use this for

352
00:20:38,650 --> 00:20:42,410
yourself, but now think about who's around you. Think about your employees, think about

353
00:20:42,410 --> 00:20:45,770
your work colleagues. You don't have to be the big boss to bring this in.

354
00:20:45,770 --> 00:20:48,090
You know what I mean? You can rock after the boss and say, hey, let's

355
00:20:48,090 --> 00:20:51,705
try doing this little activity. And if you're not sure reach out. Yeah. A

356
00:20:51,705 --> 00:20:55,305
100%. Honestly, if you're not sure if you're like, guys, what's one idea I can

357
00:20:55,305 --> 00:20:58,825
do? Like, you know, I love gratitude Pictionary. I do. Bloody love gratitude

358
00:20:58,825 --> 00:21:02,280
Pictionary. We play at the start of our meetings when we're at work. And, it's

359
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:05,800
a cracker and it's such a simple game that is so and it's not

360
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:09,640
intrusive. Yeah. So if you're not sure, reach out to us. We would happily

361
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:13,000
share some ideas with you guys, jump on our jump on the other school of

362
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:16,140
play Instagram. There's there's full of them. I think we released,

363
00:21:17,735 --> 00:21:20,555
gratitude paddocks the other day as a giveaway on Instagram.

364
00:21:21,575 --> 00:21:24,615
And that's a great, that's a crackle little activity you could do for 5 minutes

365
00:21:24,615 --> 00:21:28,375
to start a meeting or just rambling with a work colleague or even better yet

366
00:21:28,375 --> 00:21:31,755
just rambling with a mate. Yes. That's the other thing, right? Like

367
00:21:32,940 --> 00:21:36,779
we don't, I think we're getting better at it. How

368
00:21:36,779 --> 00:21:40,460
great are we as friends and family to actually sit down and

369
00:21:40,460 --> 00:21:44,059
talk about each other? I don't know. We talk about a lot of other

370
00:21:44,059 --> 00:21:46,460
people in your conversations, you know, a little bit of gossip, whatever it might be,

371
00:21:46,460 --> 00:21:49,745
what's going on other people's lives or, but but, yeah, how can you actually sit

372
00:21:49,745 --> 00:21:51,745
down with a mate and actually get a little bit deep and a little bit

373
00:21:51,745 --> 00:21:55,105
open and and really test the friendship out and get deep with it? And that's,

374
00:21:55,105 --> 00:21:58,945
yeah, that's another challenge is yeah. Challenge you at some stage get deep with

375
00:21:58,945 --> 00:22:01,710
the mate. Yeah. I think you need to I think it probably needs to be

376
00:22:01,789 --> 00:22:05,390
done through some form of play. Yeah. So you sorta and like you said before

377
00:22:05,390 --> 00:22:08,190
that trust and things, but you gotta feel safe. Yep. And if you don't feel

378
00:22:08,190 --> 00:22:11,309
safe, then that sharing is not gonna occur. Yeah. Or it's gonna be done in

379
00:22:11,309 --> 00:22:14,190
an awkward way, and it'll probably have a detrimental effect of what you're trying to

380
00:22:14,190 --> 00:22:17,725
achieve. Yeah. Going back to when you mentioned, gratitude

381
00:22:17,785 --> 00:22:21,625
Pictionary. So I've obviously used that in my keynotes for a long time. That's

382
00:22:21,625 --> 00:22:25,385
how we met. I still remember out of all those keynotes we did,

383
00:22:25,385 --> 00:22:27,705
you got up and I'd never get people to share, but you got up and

384
00:22:27,705 --> 00:22:30,570
shared, and you you had the trophy cause you just won it with Parkdale. And

385
00:22:30,570 --> 00:22:34,170
then I remember that, and then we bumped into each other and so forth.

386
00:22:34,170 --> 00:22:36,970
This is very true. You are spot on, mate. So I was in the room

387
00:22:36,970 --> 00:22:40,330
with what, 80 principals? Yep. 80 school principals in the room, and we and you

388
00:22:40,330 --> 00:22:43,914
played that game with us. And, yeah, and I drew a very average

389
00:22:43,914 --> 00:22:47,695
picture. I wanna judge it on a new picture. Very average picture

390
00:22:47,755 --> 00:22:51,434
of, of of us winning a flag. And and, yeah, it was

391
00:22:51,434 --> 00:22:54,235
brave enough to stand up and and and share that with the with the with

392
00:22:54,235 --> 00:22:57,470
the crowd. And and I love that that's something that you've remembered to me. Yeah.

393
00:22:57,770 --> 00:23:01,610
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's really You remember it's funny. You remember certain things.

394
00:23:01,610 --> 00:23:05,210
And when people are brave enough to stand up and do something, I think

395
00:23:05,210 --> 00:23:08,904
that brave is what we're talking about. You've gotta be brave to keep

396
00:23:08,904 --> 00:23:12,345
connections going, you know, like, particularly if you are the one

397
00:23:12,345 --> 00:23:16,184
that's often instigating it. You know, like, sometimes it can be hard

398
00:23:16,184 --> 00:23:19,865
work. Yeah. Yes. You wanna make yourself not hard work, but more

399
00:23:19,865 --> 00:23:22,710
importantly, you wanna do things that are memorable. Like, I didn't even know you then,

400
00:23:22,789 --> 00:23:25,770
and I still remember that. I've got quite a good memory, I'll be honest about

401
00:23:25,830 --> 00:23:29,590
that. But, it's funny what you remember when people share a

402
00:23:29,590 --> 00:23:33,110
personal story because you feel connected to it. Yep. You know, if you just had

403
00:23:33,110 --> 00:23:36,335
to go to 0 1 a premiership, like, yeah. But you I you'd say it

404
00:23:36,335 --> 00:23:40,175
parked down. I'm like, I know your coaches. And you build connections through that, like

405
00:23:40,175 --> 00:23:44,015
we said, because we know people. Yeah. You remember things

406
00:23:44,015 --> 00:23:47,855
like that. So I think, as you said, great for connecting with

407
00:23:47,855 --> 00:23:50,040
a friend, but in a workplace or whatever, like,

408
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,560
remembering things about people you work with or, you know, their

409
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:59,240
lives, that is a really powerful way to make them feel valued. More

410
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:03,044
importantly, give them a purpose to come work because they they they wanna be

411
00:24:03,044 --> 00:24:06,565
there. Yeah. And it's not a corny way of doing it Yeah. But it's a

412
00:24:06,565 --> 00:24:10,404
great way to remember it yourself. So, I I think that's a brilliant idea.

413
00:24:10,404 --> 00:24:14,245
Even what I say now, particularly with our student talks is, we get the

414
00:24:14,245 --> 00:24:17,600
students to do it, but then we challenge them to take it home. So, you

415
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,440
know, you talk about having an open conversation. This is one that anybody

416
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:25,280
can do tonight or whenever you pick it up. Give everybody a

417
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,720
piece of paper and a pen, and instead of saying, how was your day? Because

418
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:32,434
normally how was your day? Good. Rubbish question, rubbish response. How was your weekend?

419
00:24:32,495 --> 00:24:36,335
Good. Rubbish question, rubbish response. Change the narrative. Make it fun.

420
00:24:36,335 --> 00:24:39,394
So give everyone a pen and paper, say you've got a minute and a half.

421
00:24:39,534 --> 00:24:43,135
Think back over the last 7 days, what is one thing that's made you

422
00:24:43,135 --> 00:24:46,570
smile? Go. You're not allowed to write about it. You're not allowed to share it.

423
00:24:46,570 --> 00:24:49,210
You've gotta draw it. And then at the end of the one and a half

424
00:24:49,210 --> 00:24:52,970
minutes, no one's a good drawer in 1 half minutes, and that's key behind it.

425
00:24:52,970 --> 00:24:56,410
So the drawing's average, which allows you to be a little bit vulnerable and share

426
00:24:56,410 --> 00:25:00,075
something, go a little bit deeper. See what happens. It'll be amazing thing to

427
00:25:00,075 --> 00:25:03,675
do as a family, as a friendship group, or as a workplace. Instead of coming

428
00:25:03,675 --> 00:25:07,355
in on Monday, how was your weekend? Good. Do something different.

429
00:25:07,355 --> 00:25:11,035
Change it. Yep. That creativity and the fun element behind it,

430
00:25:11,035 --> 00:25:14,860
and that because the drawing's absolutely junk, it allows you

431
00:25:14,860 --> 00:25:18,300
to share and have a really nice meaningful conversation. Yeah. And before you share it,

432
00:25:18,300 --> 00:25:22,000
like, seeding, like it is gratitude dictionary. So try and guess

433
00:25:22,620 --> 00:25:26,460
what they've drawn first before they actually share it with you. Right? And any parents

434
00:25:26,460 --> 00:25:30,145
out there, I what I let me tell you this works. I play this

435
00:25:30,145 --> 00:25:33,365
without, with our kids around the dinner table. My kids are 6 and 4,

436
00:25:33,905 --> 00:25:36,705
and they love it. You know what I mean? They absolutely love it. And we've

437
00:25:36,705 --> 00:25:40,065
played it a couple of times and not once has it missed the mark. And

438
00:25:40,065 --> 00:25:43,185
it's a great little activity around the dinner table. It's unreal. I think, you know,

439
00:25:43,185 --> 00:25:45,860
you play at Christmas time, whatever it might be, that's a cool one to do

440
00:25:45,860 --> 00:25:49,220
it at. Yeah. So listeners out there, there's another there's a challenge we'd like to

441
00:25:49,220 --> 00:25:53,059
throw out to you. Literally have a go at playing gratitude Pictionary. Do it tonight

442
00:25:53,059 --> 00:25:55,059
with your family, do it with your mates, whatever it might be, have a laugh

443
00:25:55,059 --> 00:25:58,875
at it, be vulnerable. And it's just a really simple way to bring a little

444
00:25:58,875 --> 00:26:02,075
bit of joy into your, into your relationships, but also get a little bit deeper

445
00:26:02,075 --> 00:26:05,835
with people in a fun and intrusive way. Spot on. And

446
00:26:05,835 --> 00:26:08,475
that leads me into the next little thing I wanna think about before we wrap

447
00:26:08,475 --> 00:26:12,130
up is, relationships and connections are super

448
00:26:12,130 --> 00:26:15,570
important. We know that, but how what's the quality even like, and, and with all

449
00:26:15,570 --> 00:26:18,690
the knowledge we've got now around mental health and well-being and the importance of being

450
00:26:18,690 --> 00:26:22,450
connected, how are you going about

451
00:26:22,450 --> 00:26:25,990
creating a culture within your relationships, especially your friendships,

452
00:26:26,475 --> 00:26:29,535
We're not so much your family, especially friendships, a culture around

453
00:26:30,555 --> 00:26:34,315
being vulnerable and honest with each other. We suck at it early

454
00:26:34,315 --> 00:26:37,035
in life. We suck at it in early twenties. I think it's a bit taboo.

455
00:26:37,035 --> 00:26:39,915
I think we get a bit better at it during our thirties and forties. And

456
00:26:39,915 --> 00:26:43,630
I don't know what's coming in our fifties. But, I think

457
00:26:43,630 --> 00:26:47,309
the earlier you can create a culture within your friendship circle, that

458
00:26:47,309 --> 00:26:50,830
it's cool to be kind, and it's cool to open up to each other

459
00:26:50,830 --> 00:26:53,970
naturally be runnable and, and tell each other what's going on between your ears.

460
00:26:55,205 --> 00:26:58,565
The better off you're gonna be in the better off your friendship circle is gonna

461
00:26:58,565 --> 00:27:01,865
be. But it takes someone to be the catalyst for that. Right? It takes someone's

462
00:27:02,405 --> 00:27:05,765
gotta be brave. Someone's gotta be the catalyst for that and, and kick that off

463
00:27:05,765 --> 00:27:09,605
and, and, you know, be consistent with it and be purposeful with

464
00:27:09,605 --> 00:27:13,000
it. But I promise you that ripple effect will take will take

465
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:16,840
on and it will flow into the rest of your friends. And

466
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:20,200
you said before, you know, rubbish question, rubbish answer. Yeah. We're doing all the time.

467
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,600
Hey, mate. How you going? Yeah. Good. Thanks. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah.

468
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:26,105
That's great. And really that

469
00:27:26,105 --> 00:27:28,585
person's probably got a, you know, 2 or 3 things in their mind that they

470
00:27:28,585 --> 00:27:32,265
really wanna, you know, express and deal with, but they're bottling it up. So, yeah,

471
00:27:32,265 --> 00:27:35,885
try and work on your questioning with your mates and be vulnerable yourself.

472
00:27:35,945 --> 00:27:39,510
And as Dale said, you know, be the brave one that is the catalyst and,

473
00:27:39,990 --> 00:27:43,590
and create that culture within your friendship groups. That's that it's okay to speak up.

474
00:27:43,590 --> 00:27:45,910
You know what I mean? And I'd hope with all the things in society that

475
00:27:45,910 --> 00:27:48,790
are going on, we know that young people nowadays are doing so much work around

476
00:27:48,790 --> 00:27:52,150
well-being and mental health and well-being. There's so much knowledge being

477
00:27:52,150 --> 00:27:55,885
shared that will get better and better as that as a society.

478
00:27:55,885 --> 00:27:59,485
And I think we are, I know our mateship group is definitely getting better at

479
00:27:59,485 --> 00:28:02,385
it on a personal level. We're definitely opening up a bit more, which is brilliant.

480
00:28:02,605 --> 00:28:06,285
But it's taken us 20 years. You know what I mean? So, yeah, you know,

481
00:28:06,285 --> 00:28:09,830
some are quicker than others, you know, but I think, yeah, we're we're more aware

482
00:28:09,830 --> 00:28:12,870
of mental health. We're doing a lot of work on it, but I don't know

483
00:28:12,870 --> 00:28:16,390
if it's improving. I I think the number one thing you need to do, whatever

484
00:28:16,390 --> 00:28:19,750
you're doing with your mateship or your friendship or your family, it's gotta be fun.

485
00:28:19,750 --> 00:28:22,945
Yeah. But that's one thing we had, like a shameless plug that I think we're

486
00:28:22,945 --> 00:28:25,825
a leader that when we come into corporates, when we work with, you know, team

487
00:28:25,825 --> 00:28:29,045
building activities, when we work with schools and school groups and staff,

488
00:28:29,825 --> 00:28:33,665
a huge part of what we do in the, in our workshops is about

489
00:28:33,665 --> 00:28:37,080
connecting people, but getting them to be open up and be vulnerable and

490
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,039
share some things about them as a human being or what they're proud of or

491
00:28:40,039 --> 00:28:43,799
what's happening in their lives. And we do it through play. So it's, we sort

492
00:28:43,799 --> 00:28:46,360
of trick them into doing it right. They're playing games and they're having fun and

493
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:50,185
all of a sudden they're opening up to each other. So yeah. You know

494
00:28:50,185 --> 00:28:52,905
what I mean? If, if you're, if you're interested in getting us out, hit us

495
00:28:52,905 --> 00:28:55,545
up. We'd love to come and give you a hand with that. Or even if

496
00:28:55,545 --> 00:28:57,705
you're just one of our mates or not a mate at all, and you just

497
00:28:57,705 --> 00:29:01,385
want some ideas, please reach out to us. We would love to share

498
00:29:01,385 --> 00:29:04,045
some, some examples of how we do it and share some strategies.

499
00:29:05,010 --> 00:29:08,710
Yeah, that's what we're all about. 100%. And if you are in either Shepparton,

500
00:29:09,010 --> 00:29:12,690
Parkdale, or Geelong, check out the link. Obviously, episode number

501
00:29:12,690 --> 00:29:16,450
335. Really sort of cheap way to

502
00:29:16,450 --> 00:29:20,135
come and, see Paul and myself in action and the number one

503
00:29:20,135 --> 00:29:23,815
emcee in town. Great one to come along to, and it'll just be a

504
00:29:23,815 --> 00:29:26,875
really fun 2 hour evening that you come to. But more importantly,

505
00:29:27,495 --> 00:29:30,475
take away one thing from today. Try gratitude Pictionary

506
00:29:31,095 --> 00:29:34,330
with a group of people, your family, your friends, workplace,

507
00:29:34,630 --> 00:29:38,470
whatever it is, and just see what happens. The worst thing they can

508
00:29:38,470 --> 00:29:40,870
do is you have a laugh. Yeah. You know, and I think that's the best

509
00:29:40,870 --> 00:29:44,570
thing about it. Then that's better than going around a circle

510
00:29:44,885 --> 00:29:48,565
and having the limelight on one person where they feel anxious. At least with

511
00:29:48,565 --> 00:29:51,925
a drawing, they can have a laugh about it Yeah. Because it's no good. Yep.

512
00:29:51,925 --> 00:29:54,485
You know? And then you stick them up, and you got something to remember about.

513
00:29:54,485 --> 00:29:57,845
Oh, I remember Paul when you did that one. More importantly, it is your birthday

514
00:29:57,845 --> 00:30:00,840
today, mate. So reach out to Cam, but as I said, don't just do it

515
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,680
on his birthday, but reach out to him. We are in the car today

516
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,440
for a long period of time. Oh. So obviously, you have a little bit of

517
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:12,040
time. So if you are listening to this, hit pull up for a message. It

518
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,975
is his birthday today, and he's gotta spend 5 hours in the car with me.

519
00:30:14,975 --> 00:30:18,575
So he probably wants a lot of he probably wants a bit of a free,

520
00:30:18,575 --> 00:30:22,095
but, you like. And before I start off, just to all, you know, I'm gonna

521
00:30:22,095 --> 00:30:24,975
start off to all of my friends and family, you know, everyone who I've built

522
00:30:24,975 --> 00:30:28,299
awesome connections with, you know, thank you. I bloody love you. Honestly, I do. And

523
00:30:28,299 --> 00:30:32,080
I hope you feel that. And I'm very, very, very appreciative and grateful for the

524
00:30:32,299 --> 00:30:34,860
amount of care and love that I get back from all of you. I may

525
00:30:34,860 --> 00:30:37,899
never spoken to you for quite some time, may never reached out, may never caught

526
00:30:37,899 --> 00:30:40,380
up, but that's cool. You know what I mean? And just know that I bloody

527
00:30:40,380 --> 00:30:43,985
value the relationships and connections I've made along the way, and I'm

528
00:30:44,105 --> 00:30:47,705
can't wait for more to come. Oh, ditto. I love that, mate. Very well said.

529
00:30:48,265 --> 00:30:51,785
So, yeah, challenge. Reach out to somebody. More importantly, do it in a fun way.

530
00:30:51,785 --> 00:30:55,320
See what happens. And if it you've never done anything like this, then that's

531
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:59,000
perfect opportunity to start. So second episode of the best of you

532
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,760
series, we've got 2 to go. So strap in. If you're all

533
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:06,440
loving this, please share it with somebody else. I know this

534
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,794
podcast been around for 8 years, and it's had a lot of ups and downs,

535
00:31:09,794 --> 00:31:12,995
had a lot of guests, and all different things. But more importantly, it's been really

536
00:31:12,995 --> 00:31:16,274
nice to hear people reaching out saying they love the new direction and and the

537
00:31:16,274 --> 00:31:20,034
way we're going with it. So, yeah. If if an episode has resonated with

538
00:31:20,034 --> 00:31:23,880
you, then please share it with somebody else. But, happy birthday, Cambo.

539
00:31:23,940 --> 00:31:26,840
Thank you. Episode 335. Done. Take care.