1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,735 Oh, guess what, guys. 2 00:00:01,735 --> 00:00:04,004 I think it's showtime. 3 00:00:04,004 --> 00:00:04,804 All righty. 4 00:00:04,804 --> 00:00:05,939 Hey, hey. 5 00:00:05,939 --> 00:00:09,442 What's Good with John and Joyce is sponsored by Woodwinds Wedding and Special Events 6 00:00:09,442 --> 00:00:13,446 Venue in Branford, Connecticut and Silvio's award winning Italian sauces, 7 00:00:13,546 --> 00:00:16,683 which you can buy anytime online at silvio's. 8 00:00:16,683 --> 00:00:20,620 Sauces.com that's silvio's sauces.com. 9 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:21,388 Hey, everybody. 10 00:00:21,388 --> 00:00:24,457 Welcome to What's Good with John and Joyce and I want to make sure 11 00:00:24,457 --> 00:00:27,460 I get this right, so I'm going to read it right off of here. 12 00:00:27,827 --> 00:00:31,431 Now, everyone, welcome to another episode of What's Good with John and Joyce. 13 00:00:31,431 --> 00:00:34,701 Today we're talking about something that really could change your life. 14 00:00:34,934 --> 00:00:38,938 Having a really good friend, not just someone to hang out with, 15 00:00:38,938 --> 00:00:41,941 but the kind of friend who sees you, support you. 16 00:00:42,042 --> 00:00:42,942 Laughs with you. 17 00:00:42,942 --> 00:00:45,945 We've been doing a lot of laughing before the taping today. 18 00:00:45,945 --> 00:00:48,548 Cries with you sticks around no matter what 19 00:00:48,548 --> 00:00:52,285 and whether you've got a long time best friend like my buddy here, JC 20 00:00:52,285 --> 00:00:54,587 or recently found someone you feel very connected with, 21 00:00:54,587 --> 00:00:56,423 or you're still searching for that someone, it's 22 00:00:56,423 --> 00:00:58,324 hard to believe that some people are still searching for that. 23 00:00:58,324 --> 00:01:01,327 One dear friend will be your friend, right? 24 00:01:01,428 --> 00:01:04,431 But we're talking about what really matters, and that's friendship. 25 00:01:04,497 --> 00:01:08,168 When you really break it down in life, it's all about friendship. 26 00:01:08,268 --> 00:01:10,537 You can have all the stuff out there, Joyce. 27 00:01:10,537 --> 00:01:12,238 We talk about that all the time, 28 00:01:12,238 --> 00:01:16,643 but when it's all said and done, it's about friends and and you know, I know 29 00:01:16,643 --> 00:01:20,080 you have a dear friend here, Sharon, who we go back pretty, pretty far as well. 30 00:01:20,447 --> 00:01:21,181 My bestie. 31 00:01:21,181 --> 00:01:22,382 Hey, we share a friend. 32 00:01:22,382 --> 00:01:23,483 Yeah we do share a friend. 33 00:01:23,483 --> 00:01:26,252 And now you have a new friend with my buddy James. 34 00:01:26,252 --> 00:01:27,187 Jim James. 35 00:01:27,187 --> 00:01:29,989 Talk about who owns the great Jkm and Gilford. 36 00:01:29,989 --> 00:01:32,625 The place to go if you want to look all nice and beautiful. 37 00:01:32,625 --> 00:01:35,462 And, he's just a great guy, but we'll hear more about him in a bit. 38 00:01:35,462 --> 00:01:38,231 But Joyce, we're a big believer in chivalry. 39 00:01:38,231 --> 00:01:41,534 You know that women go first, so why don't you go first? 40 00:01:41,534 --> 00:01:44,737 Joyce? I'm with my bestie, Sharon Hunt. 41 00:01:45,805 --> 00:01:47,574 We met and 42 00:01:47,574 --> 00:01:51,077 in 1983, you guys were born then? 43 00:01:51,478 --> 00:01:53,379 Yes. Really? 44 00:01:53,379 --> 00:01:56,382 The babes in the wood. 45 00:01:58,685 --> 00:01:59,486 That's good. 46 00:01:59,486 --> 00:02:02,455 I like this episode already. 47 00:02:04,224 --> 00:02:05,225 Work it out. So. 48 00:02:05,225 --> 00:02:07,527 Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 49 00:02:07,527 --> 00:02:08,094 Sharon. 50 00:02:08,094 --> 00:02:10,930 And, you know something? 51 00:02:10,930 --> 00:02:13,967 We actually met before we were friends. 52 00:02:14,534 --> 00:02:17,370 I was, a business school, 53 00:02:17,370 --> 00:02:20,073 and Sharon, which is the same business school 54 00:02:20,073 --> 00:02:23,042 and she came in to give a talk 55 00:02:23,042 --> 00:02:25,912 about what she was doing and what she was doing 56 00:02:25,912 --> 00:02:29,215 is that she was working in radio and WPA for her. 57 00:02:29,916 --> 00:02:32,919 And then a year later, 58 00:02:33,052 --> 00:02:36,055 I interviewed for a job there. Yes. 59 00:02:36,523 --> 00:02:42,262 And, I was actually so taken with you and what you had to say. 60 00:02:42,262 --> 00:02:44,797 I don't know if I ever said that to you, come to think of it. 61 00:02:44,797 --> 00:02:47,033 Oh, that as I was sitting. 62 00:02:50,403 --> 00:02:51,237 In the 63 00:02:51,237 --> 00:02:54,340 classroom and listening to you speak, I thought, 64 00:02:54,574 --> 00:02:57,944 I like a job like that, you know, I thought, she's. 65 00:02:58,244 --> 00:03:00,847 I thought you were just the coolest person. 66 00:03:00,847 --> 00:03:05,084 So little did I know that a year later, because I did get a job someplace else, 67 00:03:05,485 --> 00:03:10,723 that someone said, hey, there's this job opening and maybe you should apply for it. 68 00:03:11,257 --> 00:03:16,196 And then once I met you, it was like, oh my God, I know you. 69 00:03:16,863 --> 00:03:19,299 And we've been talking ever since. 70 00:03:19,299 --> 00:03:21,734 Wow, that is special. 71 00:03:21,734 --> 00:03:23,670 Yeah, special. 72 00:03:23,670 --> 00:03:24,170 Where are you? 73 00:03:24,170 --> 00:03:25,939 And she was in my one day. 74 00:03:25,939 --> 00:03:28,208 Oh, aloha wedding. 75 00:03:28,208 --> 00:03:32,278 And we've done a few things together. 76 00:03:32,412 --> 00:03:35,148 When you have two boys, I have two boys. 77 00:03:35,148 --> 00:03:37,450 Yeah. And, we had a coming up. 78 00:03:37,450 --> 00:03:40,220 We were really young when we had our children. 79 00:03:40,220 --> 00:03:42,322 Yeah, we were young moms. 80 00:03:42,322 --> 00:03:44,057 We were doing this work. 81 00:03:44,057 --> 00:03:46,392 So we had that bond right away. 82 00:03:46,392 --> 00:03:51,631 And Sharon has a way of kidding me that makes me laugh at myself. 83 00:03:52,432 --> 00:03:53,933 Two things so serious. 84 00:03:53,933 --> 00:03:55,034 And that's such a great gift. 85 00:03:55,034 --> 00:03:57,870 When somebody get you to laugh at yourself. Gives me so much. 86 00:04:02,875 --> 00:04:04,277 Right. 87 00:04:04,277 --> 00:04:06,012 I love hanging right. 88 00:04:06,012 --> 00:04:07,981 It's like a softball over the plate. 89 00:04:07,981 --> 00:04:08,381 Right? 90 00:04:08,381 --> 00:04:11,384 And baseball. 91 00:04:12,452 --> 00:04:14,687 It's a mistake. 92 00:04:14,687 --> 00:04:18,424 That's funny, but tell me how you met Jake. 93 00:04:18,424 --> 00:04:21,427 You know, we go back to 1982, don't we, brother? 94 00:04:22,362 --> 00:04:24,264 And, What? 95 00:04:24,264 --> 00:04:26,499 Yeah. Well, like, was it right? Early 80s. 96 00:04:26,499 --> 00:04:27,834 Early 80s. Yeah. 97 00:04:27,834 --> 00:04:32,739 And, we met at your salon, I think, for the first time, you know. 98 00:04:32,872 --> 00:04:34,674 And why don't you share that story a little bit? 99 00:04:34,674 --> 00:04:36,976 Well, I met your wife first. 100 00:04:36,976 --> 00:04:40,213 She was my client, and she came in one Saturday morning 101 00:04:40,847 --> 00:04:44,250 and, with a couple of her lady friends, they were all getting their hair 102 00:04:44,250 --> 00:04:46,786 done, and, 103 00:04:46,786 --> 00:04:49,255 she said, I went out with this guy last night. 104 00:04:49,255 --> 00:04:50,590 He's. 105 00:04:50,590 --> 00:04:53,593 He's just so big. 106 00:04:56,095 --> 00:04:59,098 You know, 107 00:04:59,565 --> 00:05:01,634 are we going to do the edited version of this podcast? 108 00:05:03,503 --> 00:05:06,172 Right. And, 109 00:05:06,172 --> 00:05:09,776 a short time later that, we actually met, 110 00:05:10,243 --> 00:05:14,714 invited you to over to my house soon afterwards. 111 00:05:15,148 --> 00:05:18,484 And, we've been many parties 112 00:05:18,484 --> 00:05:21,821 together, and, I remember probably one of the best things. 113 00:05:21,821 --> 00:05:26,693 And I think that really touched us off was when I had my high school reunion, 114 00:05:26,693 --> 00:05:32,598 I was my 25th high school reunion, and I hired him to be the DJ for it 115 00:05:33,132 --> 00:05:36,369 and brought the house down and was all the way out in Danbury. 116 00:05:36,369 --> 00:05:39,272 And we had such a party. Ethan Allen did right. 117 00:05:39,272 --> 00:05:42,675 I remember, I remember and, it was fabulous. 118 00:05:42,675 --> 00:05:46,112 Yeah. Everybody showed up and, enjoyed 119 00:05:46,112 --> 00:05:49,115 the entertainment more than you can imagine. So. 120 00:05:49,349 --> 00:05:53,386 And he's always done that since, I mean, after every party we've been together, 121 00:05:53,386 --> 00:05:56,422 whether or not he's, the deejay or 122 00:05:56,689 --> 00:05:59,625 just the dance party or something like that. 123 00:05:59,625 --> 00:06:01,894 It's always been great. Always terrific. 124 00:06:01,894 --> 00:06:04,764 I, especially love lately the, 125 00:06:04,764 --> 00:06:08,234 groups at Amarante on, the in the summer nights, 126 00:06:08,534 --> 00:06:11,537 watching the sunset and listen to some great tunes. 127 00:06:12,171 --> 00:06:14,707 He's always been that close. 128 00:06:14,707 --> 00:06:20,046 And, lately we've been having a lot of quality dinners together. 129 00:06:21,147 --> 00:06:22,982 He's introduced me to some friends. 130 00:06:22,982 --> 00:06:27,320 I've introduced him to some of my friends, and it's like one big, happy family. 131 00:06:27,954 --> 00:06:30,323 You know, it really is one another. 132 00:06:30,323 --> 00:06:33,025 Quite a quite a bit amazing. 133 00:06:33,025 --> 00:06:36,596 His wife and my fiancé are like buddies. 134 00:06:36,896 --> 00:06:40,600 They keep in touch pretty regularly, and, it's a great thing. 135 00:06:41,234 --> 00:06:45,738 And a thing I love so much about James is I feel totally at ease with him. 136 00:06:45,738 --> 00:06:47,607 I don't feel like I'm being judged. 137 00:06:47,607 --> 00:06:50,910 I mean, I can be myself with Jake and we can. 138 00:06:51,110 --> 00:06:53,312 We've laughed. We've cried together. 139 00:06:53,312 --> 00:06:55,848 You know, we just had so much fun over the years. 140 00:06:55,848 --> 00:06:57,350 It continues to be that way. 141 00:06:57,350 --> 00:06:59,519 But whenever Patty and I say, let's get together, 142 00:06:59,519 --> 00:07:02,855 we always think James and Nikki, James and Nikki, so many times 143 00:07:02,855 --> 00:07:06,359 we've we've gone on some trips together and we just really enjoy that time. 144 00:07:06,959 --> 00:07:10,363 But just to be with somebody where you can be totally yourself 145 00:07:11,130 --> 00:07:15,334 and that's so freeing, so empowering and that and James has been a real gift to me. 146 00:07:15,601 --> 00:07:17,537 And so many years, so many ways. 147 00:07:17,537 --> 00:07:21,407 I mean, to North Carolina, hahaha. Yes. 148 00:07:21,774 --> 00:07:22,809 Yeah, I think I, 149 00:07:25,178 --> 00:07:28,181 we're going to leave that out too as well. 150 00:07:28,948 --> 00:07:30,416 Oh my goodness. 151 00:07:30,416 --> 00:07:33,085 Showing up at 530 in the morning. 152 00:07:33,085 --> 00:07:36,055 Come on. We're going to get on the floor and do some exercise. 153 00:07:36,055 --> 00:07:38,691 I saw I don't know. Yeah. Push ups, sit ups. 154 00:07:38,691 --> 00:07:40,426 Forget about first thing in the morning. Yeah. 155 00:07:40,426 --> 00:07:41,594 And 6:00 in the morning. 156 00:07:41,594 --> 00:07:42,195 Then he's. 157 00:07:42,195 --> 00:07:43,563 And he's still friends. 158 00:07:43,563 --> 00:07:46,566 That's right. 159 00:07:46,799 --> 00:07:48,935 Yeah. 160 00:07:48,935 --> 00:07:49,168 Yeah. 161 00:07:49,168 --> 00:07:52,271 We've been through a lot of stuff together, and it's always been good. 162 00:07:54,006 --> 00:07:56,576 I've never had a problem where I want to say, 163 00:07:56,576 --> 00:07:59,545 what the hell is wrong with John? 164 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,916 Man, he's, He's my buddies, my friend. 165 00:08:03,916 --> 00:08:07,987 And, we've had a lot of highs and lows together. 166 00:08:07,987 --> 00:08:11,290 You know, we want more highs, that's for sure. 167 00:08:11,591 --> 00:08:12,258 Without question. 168 00:08:12,258 --> 00:08:16,496 Situations with, our families 169 00:08:16,496 --> 00:08:20,766 and, our also, I said our friends already. 170 00:08:20,766 --> 00:08:23,035 So, it's always been positive. 171 00:08:23,035 --> 00:08:25,905 Always been good. Thank you. JC now, what about you, Sharon? 172 00:08:25,905 --> 00:08:31,277 I mean, you think about it, and, we never had and, 173 00:08:32,545 --> 00:08:33,546 you know, I. 174 00:08:33,546 --> 00:08:34,580 Yeah. You know. 175 00:08:34,580 --> 00:08:36,949 Yeah, there's and that's 176 00:08:36,949 --> 00:08:39,018 it's unusual. 177 00:08:39,018 --> 00:08:42,021 Yeah. So. 178 00:08:43,055 --> 00:08:44,724 And, yeah, I know, it's, 179 00:08:44,724 --> 00:08:47,693 sometimes I hate to say women, 180 00:08:48,694 --> 00:08:52,598 if you watch, like, Real Housewives of catty, catty times, 181 00:08:53,099 --> 00:08:56,102 my mother used to say, no, two's company, three's a crowd. 182 00:08:56,469 --> 00:08:59,472 And sometimes, like, someone you know 183 00:08:59,672 --> 00:09:02,808 about the other night out there, we never met. 184 00:09:02,808 --> 00:09:04,944 I. I'm just. Someone might not be. 185 00:09:04,944 --> 00:09:05,678 Whoa. 186 00:09:05,678 --> 00:09:08,681 This is this is getting fun. 187 00:09:09,115 --> 00:09:09,715 No. Yeah. 188 00:09:09,715 --> 00:09:11,384 No. Well, 189 00:09:11,384 --> 00:09:13,853 we've had ways. 190 00:09:13,853 --> 00:09:16,055 Well, little ones, little ones. 191 00:09:16,055 --> 00:09:16,556 Yeah. 192 00:09:16,556 --> 00:09:20,493 Look, I know they're working for to sort it out. 193 00:09:20,560 --> 00:09:24,497 Yeah, but I want to tell you something that Sharon did when I knew 194 00:09:25,164 --> 00:09:29,001 that she was truly, like, one of my best friends. 195 00:09:29,535 --> 00:09:31,504 And I don't know if you remember that. That's. 196 00:09:35,207 --> 00:09:37,843 At a party at my house. 197 00:09:37,843 --> 00:09:38,578 Oh, okay. 198 00:09:38,578 --> 00:09:44,050 So it was, it was my Michael Bolton and and friends of his. 199 00:09:44,350 --> 00:09:45,785 But it was 1985, 200 00:09:45,785 --> 00:09:48,788 so it was before the world knew that he won the Grammy and everything. 201 00:09:48,788 --> 00:09:49,488 Sure. 202 00:09:49,488 --> 00:09:52,458 90 day back in the days of Michael Bolton. 203 00:09:52,458 --> 00:09:53,459 Yes, yes. 204 00:09:53,459 --> 00:09:56,462 Michael Bolton is, the blackjack. 205 00:09:56,862 --> 00:10:00,166 You know, it just came out as, this stand alone Michael. 206 00:10:00,433 --> 00:10:01,267 Right, right. 207 00:10:01,267 --> 00:10:06,038 And he had just left blackjack and then hit on their TV, fools game. 208 00:10:06,205 --> 00:10:09,175 Right? Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yes. 209 00:10:09,175 --> 00:10:09,942 He's there. 210 00:10:09,942 --> 00:10:15,081 And and other friends are there, and I have been, like, cooking all day. 211 00:10:15,715 --> 00:10:18,718 I was getting ill, 212 00:10:18,751 --> 00:10:21,220 and I could feel it like, 213 00:10:21,220 --> 00:10:25,725 I have asthma, but if I get a cold, it's that I can feel 214 00:10:25,725 --> 00:10:29,095 I was getting a little feverish and just thinking. 215 00:10:29,462 --> 00:10:30,496 You not feeling well? 216 00:10:30,496 --> 00:10:32,798 And I have all these people there now. 217 00:10:32,798 --> 00:10:36,135 And I was having difficulty breathing, and I went 218 00:10:36,135 --> 00:10:40,106 and I sat in a room and I was struggling with breath. 219 00:10:40,973 --> 00:10:43,476 And I remember you came in and sat 220 00:10:44,443 --> 00:10:46,345 and you said, 221 00:10:46,345 --> 00:10:49,348 none of these people here are your friends 222 00:10:50,016 --> 00:10:54,053 because they see you struggling and you keep asking you for things. 223 00:10:54,887 --> 00:10:58,391 I would get up into, but, I mean, I don't think you were paying attention. 224 00:10:58,391 --> 00:10:59,325 I'm never drinking. 225 00:10:59,325 --> 00:11:00,593 Go like that. Yeah. 226 00:11:00,593 --> 00:11:04,797 Going on and I, I was in a bad way. 227 00:11:04,797 --> 00:11:09,669 And you asked me if you, you kids wanted to take me to the hospital, 228 00:11:10,169 --> 00:11:13,205 and I said, like, I can't go to hospital with everybody here. 229 00:11:13,806 --> 00:11:17,009 But the next day, I did go to my doctor. 230 00:11:17,009 --> 00:11:19,745 He said, you should have gone right to the hospital. 231 00:11:19,745 --> 00:11:23,449 And then I had to have, you know, a nebulizer. 232 00:11:23,716 --> 00:11:25,484 Yeah, all of that. 233 00:11:25,484 --> 00:11:29,088 But I remember out of all those people there, there were not. 234 00:11:29,722 --> 00:11:32,658 You knew I wasn't doing well. 235 00:11:32,658 --> 00:11:35,828 And I remember you saying that to me, like, stop 236 00:11:37,263 --> 00:11:37,863 here. 237 00:11:37,863 --> 00:11:41,167 And you sat with me on my little bed. 238 00:11:41,267 --> 00:11:44,403 Yeah. And just let me catch my breath. 239 00:11:44,403 --> 00:11:49,208 And you even said, take your medicine, take the inhaler and all of that. 240 00:11:49,341 --> 00:11:51,444 Well, what a true friend who's going to tell you 241 00:11:51,444 --> 00:11:53,512 maybe some things you don't want to hear. 242 00:11:53,512 --> 00:11:54,847 Yeah, 243 00:11:54,847 --> 00:11:57,550 yeah, but I mean, you could tell 244 00:11:57,550 --> 00:12:01,287 by the people they would come in and out 245 00:12:01,287 --> 00:12:04,523 and and keep going and dancing and hanging out. 246 00:12:04,523 --> 00:12:08,027 And the person who invited you into their home 247 00:12:09,028 --> 00:12:09,462 isn't. 248 00:12:09,462 --> 00:12:12,465 Well, but it doesn't matter if you're not leaving. 249 00:12:13,499 --> 00:12:15,034 I didn't get it. 250 00:12:15,034 --> 00:12:17,803 That person who cared about you wouldn't, 251 00:12:17,803 --> 00:12:21,273 you know, they were there to have a good time. So. 252 00:12:21,774 --> 00:12:25,745 But if you're not having a good time now have a good time in the house. 253 00:12:27,947 --> 00:12:28,781 No brainer. 254 00:12:28,781 --> 00:12:30,316 Yep. Yep. 255 00:12:30,316 --> 00:12:31,517 You did. 256 00:12:31,517 --> 00:12:31,817 Yeah. 257 00:12:31,817 --> 00:12:33,886 And that's why you guys are best friends. 258 00:12:33,886 --> 00:12:38,591 And you're exactly right again because so many people out there 259 00:12:38,591 --> 00:12:41,694 I mean you know it's human nature many ways they want to be around you. 260 00:12:41,694 --> 00:12:45,798 Maybe because of your title or who you are or what maybe you can do for them. 261 00:12:46,031 --> 00:12:49,902 But a true friend is there when they know there's nothing they can really get 262 00:12:49,902 --> 00:12:50,236 from you. 263 00:12:50,236 --> 00:12:53,038 In a way, it's just it's unconditional 264 00:12:53,038 --> 00:12:56,308 and they will tell you the hard things at times that you don't want to hear. 265 00:12:56,809 --> 00:12:59,812 JC has done that with me in the past and I'm sure sharing you, Joyce, 266 00:12:59,845 --> 00:13:01,380 have done that with each other. 267 00:13:01,380 --> 00:13:04,517 And that's what that's what I'm unconditional friendship 268 00:13:04,517 --> 00:13:07,720 is about, and most relationships are based on being conditional. 269 00:13:08,754 --> 00:13:10,556 Very few are unconditional. 270 00:13:10,556 --> 00:13:12,458 Yours is unconditional. 271 00:13:12,458 --> 00:13:15,060 James of mine unconditional. 272 00:13:15,060 --> 00:13:15,795 Yeah. 273 00:13:15,795 --> 00:13:18,864 You know, there are a lot of friendships that are based on what I can do for. 274 00:13:19,165 --> 00:13:19,999 Yeah. 275 00:13:19,999 --> 00:13:21,500 And what it does for your health 276 00:13:21,500 --> 00:13:24,503 when you're with somebody who makes you feel good and you laugh, 277 00:13:24,670 --> 00:13:28,073 the endorphins, the serotonin, the dopamine, the good feeling chemicals, 278 00:13:28,407 --> 00:13:31,277 it's like when I think about JC, I smile right away. 279 00:13:31,277 --> 00:13:31,677 Right away. 280 00:13:31,677 --> 00:13:33,779 I could be at the gym. I could be having a tough day around. 281 00:13:33,779 --> 00:13:37,583 I think about James, my friend, and then we're getting together for dinner 282 00:13:37,583 --> 00:13:38,083 real soon. 283 00:13:38,083 --> 00:13:40,953 I get to see him over at Amarante House or an event. 284 00:13:40,953 --> 00:13:42,221 I feel good. 285 00:13:42,221 --> 00:13:45,224 Should I start laughing? 286 00:13:45,324 --> 00:13:47,026 That can go either way. Here. 287 00:13:47,026 --> 00:13:48,961 Yeah. Right. 288 00:13:48,961 --> 00:13:51,964 We've had some real positive times together. 289 00:13:52,631 --> 00:13:54,066 No complaints ever. 290 00:13:54,066 --> 00:13:55,467 No, no. 291 00:13:55,467 --> 00:13:57,770 Been to his home many times. 292 00:13:57,770 --> 00:13:58,571 He shares his home. 293 00:13:58,571 --> 00:14:00,005 It's a lovely thing. 294 00:14:00,005 --> 00:14:01,941 I feel very comfortable in his house. 295 00:14:02,908 --> 00:14:06,245 His kids, the, the cats, calling Ed. 296 00:14:07,046 --> 00:14:09,849 Ed. Yeah, yeah, my boys 297 00:14:09,849 --> 00:14:11,016 never had kids of my own. 298 00:14:11,016 --> 00:14:12,284 So my kitty cats, you know, 299 00:14:12,284 --> 00:14:15,287 I have a beautiful stepdaughter, but I've never had kids of my own, per se. 300 00:14:15,955 --> 00:14:18,190 But my kitty cats and my animals have always been my kids. 301 00:14:18,190 --> 00:14:19,391 My babies. 302 00:14:19,391 --> 00:14:21,961 We. You know, we were talking about our dogs. 303 00:14:21,961 --> 00:14:22,361 Yeah. 304 00:14:22,361 --> 00:14:25,564 We have had a small dog thing going on, right? 305 00:14:25,798 --> 00:14:27,166 Right. Yeah. 306 00:14:27,166 --> 00:14:30,202 It's short change. I'll see you then. Yeah. 307 00:14:30,202 --> 00:14:32,104 I wish 308 00:14:32,104 --> 00:14:34,039 I know what next time. 309 00:14:34,039 --> 00:14:35,441 Yeah. 310 00:14:35,441 --> 00:14:37,509 So, Sharon, tell us a little bit about you. 311 00:14:37,509 --> 00:14:39,845 Let's hear about a little about your story. 312 00:14:39,845 --> 00:14:41,914 Like the like kind of the Reader's Digest version. 313 00:14:41,914 --> 00:14:43,182 Right? 314 00:14:43,182 --> 00:14:46,185 My three years at Yale, you know. 315 00:14:47,753 --> 00:14:47,953 Yeah. 316 00:14:47,953 --> 00:14:50,155 I retired from there about nine years ago. 317 00:14:50,155 --> 00:14:52,825 Did some traveling with some friends, retired. 318 00:14:52,825 --> 00:14:55,828 She took an early. Yeah, I can't wait. Yeah. 319 00:15:00,399 --> 00:15:01,433 Yeah, I've 320 00:15:01,433 --> 00:15:04,403 I've actually been I have not worked in 321 00:15:04,703 --> 00:15:07,406 just about nine years. 322 00:15:07,406 --> 00:15:08,908 You okay with that. 323 00:15:08,908 --> 00:15:12,177 I never wanted to work a day in my life. 324 00:15:12,211 --> 00:15:13,712 Real, honest. 325 00:15:13,712 --> 00:15:17,316 I never wanted a job, but I had kids and, you know, 326 00:15:18,384 --> 00:15:21,387 like, most likely I had 327 00:15:21,420 --> 00:15:24,623 you also like jointly bought the house. 328 00:15:24,990 --> 00:15:28,060 So you're, I mean, you know, you check the smaller quarters. 329 00:15:28,060 --> 00:15:28,494 Yeah. 330 00:15:28,494 --> 00:15:31,497 You got a lovely daughter in law a lot. 331 00:15:31,697 --> 00:15:32,965 I love your son. 332 00:15:32,965 --> 00:15:35,701 He's incredible. 333 00:15:35,701 --> 00:15:37,102 And child, which you love. 334 00:15:37,102 --> 00:15:38,003 And he loves you. 335 00:15:38,003 --> 00:15:40,739 I mean, you got a full life there. 336 00:15:40,739 --> 00:15:43,242 I do, yes, but it's not work. 337 00:15:43,242 --> 00:15:46,211 I don't want to project. No. Right. Oh, yeah. 338 00:15:46,211 --> 00:15:49,615 Do that and come to work with you. 339 00:15:50,015 --> 00:15:52,618 And a radio station was. Yeah. 340 00:15:52,618 --> 00:15:55,721 Not only a radio station, but my own business. 341 00:15:55,721 --> 00:15:57,222 You came away with me. 342 00:15:58,223 --> 00:15:59,725 Oh my God. Yes. 343 00:15:59,725 --> 00:15:59,925 Because. 344 00:15:59,925 --> 00:16:02,695 Because I had a business called Phantom for you for 21 years. 345 00:16:02,695 --> 00:16:06,398 I worked with, you know, Mariah Carey, a lot of different people. 346 00:16:06,865 --> 00:16:09,435 And it was, it was really interesting, 347 00:16:09,435 --> 00:16:13,205 but it was work that we did it what we called hanging out with them. 348 00:16:13,739 --> 00:16:15,774 We were prostitutes. 349 00:16:15,774 --> 00:16:17,977 We were talking to the fans. 350 00:16:17,977 --> 00:16:22,414 We were, you know, if any fan wrote that had cancer or anything, 351 00:16:22,414 --> 00:16:24,550 we would never just sell them anything. 352 00:16:24,550 --> 00:16:26,919 We would pick them up, you know, with the celebrity. 353 00:16:26,919 --> 00:16:29,922 Yeah. So, first assignment 354 00:16:30,089 --> 00:16:33,325 was she first thing she made me do, 355 00:16:34,259 --> 00:16:36,495 I had to go get my hair done. 356 00:16:36,495 --> 00:16:39,498 Get ready. I told you, I'm going to. 357 00:16:39,665 --> 00:16:43,969 Oh. Is the best ever voice to me. 358 00:16:44,303 --> 00:16:46,038 Yeah, man. Yeah, 359 00:16:47,106 --> 00:16:51,110 I know a good buddy of mine is up there. 360 00:16:51,577 --> 00:16:53,245 Good buddy of mine as a Montana. 361 00:16:53,245 --> 00:16:55,914 Seeing that they're they're they're still back together. 362 00:16:55,914 --> 00:16:58,384 Got touring with New kids in the block. 363 00:16:58,384 --> 00:17:00,619 So they're, they're teaming up together. So. 364 00:17:00,619 --> 00:17:03,622 But now it's men's the men now boys. 365 00:17:04,089 --> 00:17:07,960 Well, what a great what a great, great group were they fabulous. 366 00:17:08,460 --> 00:17:11,463 Yeah. Yeah. I mean wow. 367 00:17:11,563 --> 00:17:15,734 You know, and Jason, I'm so excited because who was the opening. 368 00:17:15,834 --> 00:17:17,636 Oh yeah. 369 00:17:17,636 --> 00:17:21,006 And and we were sitting of course front row. 370 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:22,574 That's what. 371 00:17:22,574 --> 00:17:24,143 Right, right. 372 00:17:24,143 --> 00:17:26,445 We had you best. 373 00:17:26,445 --> 00:17:28,313 Oh good. That was my first. 374 00:17:28,313 --> 00:17:29,782 It was all of them. 375 00:17:29,782 --> 00:17:32,084 Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. 376 00:17:32,084 --> 00:17:32,851 Yeah. 377 00:17:32,851 --> 00:17:34,853 The problem was working with Sharon Sheridan. 378 00:17:34,853 --> 00:17:39,591 She would come into my office and we just would laugh and we wouldn't talk. 379 00:17:40,025 --> 00:17:42,528 And it was just how Sharon liked it. 380 00:17:42,528 --> 00:17:45,330 I don't want to work. Right? Yeah, yeah. 381 00:17:45,330 --> 00:17:46,331 Yes it is. 382 00:17:46,331 --> 00:17:48,534 It was more of that relationship. 383 00:17:48,534 --> 00:17:51,904 And then I think we both agreed this wasn't. 384 00:17:51,904 --> 00:17:53,439 This was. It wasn't. 385 00:17:53,439 --> 00:17:56,508 This was your wasn't one of our better, right. 386 00:17:56,508 --> 00:17:59,111 Yeah. Right. Back to you. 387 00:17:59,111 --> 00:18:00,946 What do you did. Yeah. 388 00:18:00,946 --> 00:18:02,414 I had not been to. 389 00:18:02,414 --> 00:18:04,616 Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. 390 00:18:04,616 --> 00:18:08,153 Well, it's good that you went to Yale because they treat you right with tension. 391 00:18:08,587 --> 00:18:09,822 I mean, they set you up. 392 00:18:10,823 --> 00:18:11,356 You up? 393 00:18:11,356 --> 00:18:14,359 Yeah. Yeah, I do that. Yeah, yeah. 394 00:18:14,860 --> 00:18:16,862 Now JC a little bit about, you know, your background. 395 00:18:16,862 --> 00:18:19,465 You have your own salon in Guilford, Connecticut, 396 00:18:19,465 --> 00:18:22,034 and you've been in the beauty industry for a long, long time. 397 00:18:22,034 --> 00:18:25,003 And what kind of led you from A to B? 398 00:18:25,003 --> 00:18:28,507 Oh, I got out of the Navy as a kid, and my father 399 00:18:28,507 --> 00:18:31,944 had me a job at the New Haven Register as a printer's apprentice. 400 00:18:32,611 --> 00:18:33,812 And I thought, great. 401 00:18:33,812 --> 00:18:36,815 You know, it's good future in the printing business. 402 00:18:37,116 --> 00:18:42,054 Well, the following year, we got our first computer, 403 00:18:42,488 --> 00:18:45,791 and this was this big thing in a isolated, air conditioned room. 404 00:18:46,325 --> 00:18:48,060 And I thought, this is so cool. 405 00:18:48,060 --> 00:18:51,763 You know, computer and computers renewed. 406 00:18:51,997 --> 00:18:55,000 It was 1980 and they were humongous back then. 407 00:18:55,434 --> 00:18:57,603 Many of them that were huge. Yeah, yeah. 408 00:18:58,804 --> 00:19:00,005 And it had to be a, 409 00:19:00,005 --> 00:19:03,909 an air conditioned, isolated room because it just had its air conditioned. 410 00:19:04,176 --> 00:19:04,643 Yeah. 411 00:19:04,643 --> 00:19:08,814 So and short time later they started talking about lasers 412 00:19:08,814 --> 00:19:12,017 and scanners and I thought, what the heck is that? 413 00:19:13,252 --> 00:19:17,156 I said, well, probably ten, 15 years from now, you may not have a job. 414 00:19:17,356 --> 00:19:18,290 Now here. 415 00:19:18,290 --> 00:19:20,726 I just got out of my time as an apprentice. 416 00:19:20,726 --> 00:19:25,097 I had a journeyman, card to work, but I'm still low. 417 00:19:25,097 --> 00:19:27,499 Man on the pole. 418 00:19:27,499 --> 00:19:30,002 So I had a brother in law 419 00:19:30,002 --> 00:19:33,605 that had, given up his job in the post office, 420 00:19:33,605 --> 00:19:36,608 and he went to hairdressing school, and he seemed to be doing okay. 421 00:19:36,608 --> 00:19:39,011 And I thought, heck, I could do that. 422 00:19:39,011 --> 00:19:42,014 I like girls, 423 00:19:42,581 --> 00:19:42,814 really? 424 00:19:42,814 --> 00:19:44,016 No idea. Yeah. 425 00:19:44,016 --> 00:19:47,519 I went to hairdressing school in 1987, 426 00:19:47,986 --> 00:19:51,123 86 or 87, 86, I think it was. 427 00:19:51,623 --> 00:19:55,994 And I was the only male in the class of 41. 428 00:19:56,428 --> 00:19:57,429 Oh, really? Yeah. 429 00:19:57,429 --> 00:19:59,798 And he said he liked girls. There you go. 430 00:19:59,798 --> 00:20:02,000 That part of it was cool, but, I was married. 431 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:06,004 I was newly married, and, we had a child 432 00:20:06,538 --> 00:20:09,474 and actually one on the way. 433 00:20:09,474 --> 00:20:12,544 So, I was working nights 434 00:20:12,578 --> 00:20:16,114 and going to school days and consumed me, pretty much. 435 00:20:16,114 --> 00:20:20,586 But, I enjoyed the, learning about the, 436 00:20:20,586 --> 00:20:24,556 hairdressing business, but I was the worst one in the class of 41. 437 00:20:24,556 --> 00:20:27,459 I was the worst one. I didn't know what gender called. 438 00:20:29,828 --> 00:20:32,598 Well, that's because you were distracted being the only guy in that class. 439 00:20:32,598 --> 00:20:33,699 That's probably what it was. 440 00:20:33,699 --> 00:20:36,702 Yes, but I enjoyed it. And, 441 00:20:37,569 --> 00:20:40,105 my first, position 442 00:20:40,105 --> 00:20:43,075 after that was, working with my brother in law, 443 00:20:43,542 --> 00:20:47,246 we started our own business, Grand Avenue, new Haven. 444 00:20:47,479 --> 00:20:51,516 And, I was there for about a year, but the place kept on 445 00:20:51,516 --> 00:20:55,854 getting burglarized, and, I didn't like that very much. 446 00:20:56,421 --> 00:20:59,791 So I went to another salon, in Hamden, 447 00:20:59,791 --> 00:21:04,062 one of the more sought after salons, in, the New Haven area. 448 00:21:04,630 --> 00:21:07,432 And, Vincent Farrell, Sally beauty studio. 449 00:21:07,432 --> 00:21:10,435 Legendary was my hair. Wow. 450 00:21:11,003 --> 00:21:15,040 And, I was with him for about eight years. 451 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,109 I was his manager when I left. 452 00:21:17,109 --> 00:21:19,611 So, it was. 453 00:21:19,611 --> 00:21:21,346 We were very involved. 454 00:21:21,346 --> 00:21:22,581 We did a lot of traveling. 455 00:21:22,581 --> 00:21:23,515 We did a lot of, 456 00:21:23,515 --> 00:21:28,220 platform work and educational programs to other salons and other hairdressers. 457 00:21:28,787 --> 00:21:31,590 And so, it was consuming my time. 458 00:21:31,590 --> 00:21:34,793 It was, taking a lot from my marriage, my relationship. 459 00:21:35,360 --> 00:21:39,998 So it was either move closer to work or move work closer at home. 460 00:21:40,766 --> 00:21:44,436 So I opted to move work closer to home. 461 00:21:45,037 --> 00:21:50,075 I moved to Gilford and, we lived in Clinton at the time, and, 462 00:21:51,143 --> 00:21:52,411 I, started working 463 00:21:52,411 --> 00:21:55,414 with a, a friend, on in Gilford. 464 00:21:55,414 --> 00:21:59,818 And I was there about a year before I started my business in 1980. 465 00:21:59,985 --> 00:22:04,690 We started JC and me hair salon, and, we rented a spot, 466 00:22:04,890 --> 00:22:08,160 on the Boston Post Road there, and it was good. 467 00:22:08,727 --> 00:22:12,898 All my customers that I had in Hamden followed me to Gilford. 468 00:22:12,998 --> 00:22:13,732 I says a lot. 469 00:22:13,732 --> 00:22:16,068 Some of them are still with me today. 470 00:22:16,068 --> 00:22:19,071 And, 471 00:22:19,404 --> 00:22:22,374 five years later, we found a building, 472 00:22:22,374 --> 00:22:25,377 and, we were attracted to it, and we bought it. 473 00:22:25,844 --> 00:22:30,248 The former owner was the owner of, Guilford Beauty Shop, actually. 474 00:22:30,849 --> 00:22:34,353 And, she called me and knew that I was looking 475 00:22:34,353 --> 00:22:37,356 for a new location because, where we were, 476 00:22:38,590 --> 00:22:41,693 was Anthony's, restaurant building was, expanding, 477 00:22:42,060 --> 00:22:45,063 and we weren't in his expansion plans. Oh. 478 00:22:46,164 --> 00:22:49,401 We started looking from Brantford all the way up to Madison 479 00:22:49,401 --> 00:22:50,936 for a new location. 480 00:22:50,936 --> 00:22:54,439 And, when this young lady called me, 481 00:22:54,439 --> 00:22:58,243 we looked into it, and, it was a good, good thing for us. 482 00:22:58,810 --> 00:23:03,148 They wanted us to lease with an option to buy. 483 00:23:03,648 --> 00:23:06,418 But my wife was pretty smart. 484 00:23:06,418 --> 00:23:08,653 She said, no, I want to buy it. 485 00:23:08,653 --> 00:23:11,656 I looked at her and I said, 486 00:23:11,757 --> 00:23:14,326 But back in the mid 80s. 487 00:23:14,326 --> 00:23:14,993 Yeah. 488 00:23:14,993 --> 00:23:17,996 The good Lord provides not only that, but the banks were very, 489 00:23:17,996 --> 00:23:20,999 very lenient with financing. 490 00:23:21,566 --> 00:23:24,169 So one of the banks, Bradford Savings Bank, 491 00:23:24,169 --> 00:23:27,439 which is no longer in existence, but not because of me, but 492 00:23:29,708 --> 00:23:32,677 had to clarify that. Yes. 493 00:23:32,677 --> 00:23:35,680 They gave us so long and the former owners held us 494 00:23:35,947 --> 00:23:38,950 the, papers on the second part, second loan. 495 00:23:38,984 --> 00:23:43,355 So, we bought the building, where we are today. 496 00:23:44,089 --> 00:23:45,357 Wow. We got it. 497 00:23:45,357 --> 00:23:48,427 It out to the bare walls. We, 498 00:23:49,928 --> 00:23:53,632 completely empty the place would close it down for six months. 499 00:23:53,865 --> 00:23:57,736 All new insulation, plumbing, electrical, everything. 500 00:23:57,736 --> 00:24:01,006 We bought all new furniture, and, 501 00:24:01,006 --> 00:24:04,009 we invested a lot in it, and, 502 00:24:04,910 --> 00:24:07,679 my, my wife was the, manager. 503 00:24:07,679 --> 00:24:10,682 She ran the business, and I stand behind the chair and, 504 00:24:11,149 --> 00:24:15,020 we had my first employee came a couple of years later. 505 00:24:15,687 --> 00:24:18,457 And believe it or not, that young lady is still with me. 506 00:24:18,457 --> 00:24:21,326 Wow. Karen? 507 00:24:22,394 --> 00:24:23,895 Yes, is, 508 00:24:23,895 --> 00:24:27,466 has been a, an asset to my life. 509 00:24:27,999 --> 00:24:30,469 And, 510 00:24:30,469 --> 00:24:34,105 we, worked closely together all these years, and it's been wonderful. 511 00:24:34,806 --> 00:24:37,809 Unfortunately, my wife didn't 512 00:24:38,009 --> 00:24:39,144 last a long time. 513 00:24:39,144 --> 00:24:42,147 She died from cancer back in oh nine, 514 00:24:43,448 --> 00:24:45,784 and, we had to, 515 00:24:45,784 --> 00:24:48,887 move on to, a new lifestyle. 516 00:24:49,554 --> 00:24:54,326 And so, we had moved at that point to, to Guilford from Clinton, 517 00:24:54,893 --> 00:24:58,296 and, things were going well, but, after 518 00:24:58,296 --> 00:25:02,033 she passed away, I was really kind of lost for a few years. 519 00:25:02,734 --> 00:25:07,639 And, but the business has thrived, and it's, still going strong. 520 00:25:07,639 --> 00:25:10,709 And I love what I do. It's not work for me. 521 00:25:11,076 --> 00:25:14,846 I enjoy what I do, and I enjoy people for the most part. 522 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,749 No plans and no plans for retirement. Right? 523 00:25:17,749 --> 00:25:21,586 Just like I saw Paul, like, about two weeks ago at the casino, 524 00:25:22,153 --> 00:25:25,156 and somebody asked him when he was going to retire, 525 00:25:25,223 --> 00:25:27,492 and he said, why should I retire? 526 00:25:27,492 --> 00:25:30,095 I love what I do, I enjoy people, he says. 527 00:25:30,095 --> 00:25:32,931 This is fun for me and people pay me. 528 00:25:32,931 --> 00:25:35,133 And I said, those are the same words I use. 529 00:25:35,133 --> 00:25:36,234 All right. 530 00:25:36,234 --> 00:25:37,602 Yeah. So here we are. 531 00:25:37,602 --> 00:25:40,605 I have no plans for retirement. Right. Yeah. 532 00:25:40,739 --> 00:25:45,443 Yeah I but I love hearing the story. 533 00:25:45,443 --> 00:25:48,446 I love hearing success stories about how businesses, you know, how 534 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:52,617 you've been able to go through the twists and turns and still make it resolve. 535 00:25:52,617 --> 00:25:55,620 It's all about resolve and belief. 536 00:25:56,221 --> 00:25:56,755 You know what? 537 00:25:56,755 --> 00:25:59,925 I know we have to wrap up this show, but we do. 538 00:26:00,392 --> 00:26:02,794 We're going to come. Come back with you. 539 00:26:02,794 --> 00:26:07,499 Oh we are To talk more about friendship and really more on a, 540 00:26:08,967 --> 00:26:11,102 a wellness 541 00:26:11,102 --> 00:26:12,671 and well-being. 542 00:26:12,671 --> 00:26:13,939 Why we need friends. 543 00:26:13,939 --> 00:26:17,275 Yes, that's that's a real good point as well. 544 00:26:17,275 --> 00:26:17,976 So thank you. 545 00:26:17,976 --> 00:26:20,979 So much for watching another episode of What's Good with John and Joyce. 546 00:26:20,979 --> 00:26:23,982 Sharon, really, really wonderful seeing you again as well. 547 00:26:24,282 --> 00:26:27,752 We worked at WPLG in New Haven back in the day to all three of us and 548 00:26:27,986 --> 00:26:29,487 Jake, so good to see you as well. 549 00:26:29,487 --> 00:26:32,290 But there will be it's going to be continued. 550 00:26:32,290 --> 00:26:35,093 But make sure you check us out on all the streaming platforms. 551 00:26:35,093 --> 00:26:40,632 You can catch us on YouTube, subscribe for free iHeart Radio Podcast Network 552 00:26:40,632 --> 00:26:45,036 I'm proudly wearing my radio shirt since I work at the River 159 and country 553 00:26:45,036 --> 00:26:47,105 92 five and all the other platforms. 554 00:26:47,105 --> 00:26:51,743 So until next time you know we we pray for you, bless you and your family 555 00:26:51,977 --> 00:26:55,547 and continued health and well-being and lots of love for you and your friends. 556 00:26:55,547 --> 00:26:56,815 Friends are so important. 557 00:26:56,815 --> 00:26:59,084 Catch you again. All the best. 558 00:26:59,084 --> 00:27:03,154 Bye. Hi, I'm John Cadillac Seville from the podcast What's Good with John 559 00:27:03,154 --> 00:27:08,760 and Joyce and your day with a smile, a happy thought and a grateful heart.