Dad Starting Over

Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.
  • They opened up more.
  • They communicated better.
  • They became more emotionally available.
  • They went to therapy.
And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.
In many cases, it disappeared completely.

In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.
We’ll talk about:
  • Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attraction
  • How anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desire
  • Why many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn’t healthy
  • Why dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting help
  • And why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationships
This isn’t about blaming women.
It’s about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.
If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home.

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What is Dad Starting Over?

Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.

I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books including "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" "Red Flags" and "REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com