The Dad Manual

He had twins at 23, no money, and no idea what he was doing…

Jeff Speer has been Tony's friend for 15 years, and this episode is one of the most honest, candid conversations The Dad Manual has had yet. Jeff opens up about becoming a father to twins right out of college during a recession, navigating the friction of two people with different upbringings raising kids together, and what it actually takes to build trust with your children over a lifetime. This is a fatherhood podcast conversation for any dad who's ever had to apologize and mean it.

Key Takeaways:
  • Every kid is different — even identical twins need to be parented as individuals
  • Leaning on your partner's strengths isn't weakness; it's smart parenting
  • Being emotionally transparent with your kids models accountability
  • The goal is to raise kids who act for themselves, not for your approval
  • Conflict with your kids often reveals more about you than it does about them
  • "Effective communicator" and "good talker" are not the same thing
  • Letting go of control is a skill that takes years to develop
  • Apologizing to your kids — and meaning it — matters more than pretending you're perfect
  • Working hard and staying content are not opposites; Jeff's early years are proof
  • Your relationship with your partner is the foundation everything else is built on
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Creators and Guests

Host
Tony Cooper
Tony Cooper is the founder of Playing the Game of Business, a business coach, father, and podcast host.

What is The Dad Manual?

The Dad Manual is a fatherhood podcast hosted by Tony Cooper, featuring honest conversations with dads about the real, unfiltered journey of parenthood. This parenting podcast for dads explores everything from the excitement of being a first time dad to navigating the teenage years. As one of the best podcasts for expecting dads and experienced fathers alike, we dive deep into what it actually means to be a modern dad—the struggles, the growth, the mistakes, and the moments that change you forever. Whether you're looking for a new dad podcast or seasoned parenting wisdom, this family podcast delivers the honest guidance you won't find in books.