1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,083 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,083 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,958 --> 01:00:11,083 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:11,291 --> 01:00:11,750 We did it. 5 01:00:11,958 --> 01:00:13,083 We made it yet again 6 01:00:13,083 --> 01:00:15,083 and it feels oh so good. 7 01:00:15,416 --> 01:00:17,208 But be careful here, it may 8 01:00:17,208 --> 01:00:19,083 also feel a little tingly, 9 01:00:19,083 --> 01:00:21,583 even hot because today is 10 01:00:21,583 --> 01:00:23,583 International Hot and Spicy Day. 11 01:00:24,125 --> 01:00:25,250 A nice little reminder 12 01:00:25,250 --> 01:00:26,458 that some things in life 13 01:00:26,458 --> 01:00:27,958 are meant to wake you up. 14 01:00:27,958 --> 01:00:29,625 Whether it's food, conversations, 15 01:00:29,625 --> 01:00:31,791 or those darned uncomfortable truths. 16 01:00:32,625 --> 01:00:34,000 Well, the answer to 17 01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:36,416 yesterday's trivia question is 88. 18 01:00:37,250 --> 01:00:39,541 A standard piano has 88 keys. 19 01:00:40,333 --> 01:00:41,125 Now the essential 20 01:00:41,125 --> 01:00:42,833 vitamins in your morning cereal, 21 01:00:42,833 --> 01:00:43,958 today's quote, and it's 22 01:00:43,958 --> 01:00:45,458 from model and birthday girl, 23 01:00:45,875 --> 01:00:47,625 Kate Moss, who said, quote, 24 01:00:47,916 --> 01:00:50,083 "I want to live my life in a way 25 01:00:50,083 --> 01:00:51,208 "that when I get really 26 01:00:51,208 --> 01:00:52,958 old, I look back at my life 27 01:00:52,958 --> 01:00:54,875 "and I say, ah, I 28 01:00:54,875 --> 01:00:56,583 lived it, not survived it. 29 01:00:57,083 --> 01:00:58,708 "Now is a great time 30 01:00:58,708 --> 01:01:00,166 to choose to live a life 31 01:01:00,208 --> 01:01:02,208 "full of intentional action, right? 32 01:01:02,583 --> 01:01:04,375 "Meaningful experiences and fulfillment, 33 01:01:04,541 --> 01:01:05,666 "rather than merely 34 01:01:05,666 --> 01:01:07,500 enduring day-to-day existence 35 01:01:07,666 --> 01:01:08,416 "and avoiding risk." 36 01:01:08,791 --> 01:01:10,333 Hey, one live, live it. 37 01:01:11,125 --> 01:01:11,708 All right, well, 38 01:01:11,708 --> 01:01:12,791 you've heard enough from me, 39 01:01:12,791 --> 01:01:14,666 so let's pour in some of the Let Them 40 01:01:14,666 --> 01:01:15,958 Theory by Mel Robbins. 41 01:01:16,208 --> 01:01:18,791 And today's focus is the ABC loop still, 42 01:01:18,791 --> 01:01:19,875 and we're talking about 43 01:01:19,875 --> 01:01:22,708 step A, which is apologize. 44 01:01:23,333 --> 01:01:25,041 Then ask open-ended questions, okay? 45 01:01:25,583 --> 01:01:26,750 So, Robbins starts this 46 01:01:26,750 --> 01:01:28,375 section with a powerful reminder 47 01:01:28,833 --> 01:01:30,041 that conflict doesn't 48 01:01:30,041 --> 01:01:31,416 resolve through dominance. 49 01:01:31,958 --> 01:01:33,291 It resolves through humility. 50 01:01:33,875 --> 01:01:35,625 She explains that apologizing isn't about 51 01:01:35,750 --> 01:01:37,375 admitting fault for everything, 52 01:01:37,375 --> 01:01:39,375 it's about acknowledging impact. 53 01:01:39,833 --> 01:01:40,833 As she writes, quote, "An 54 01:01:40,833 --> 01:01:43,000 apology disarms defensiveness 55 01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:44,500 "and it opens the door 56 01:01:44,500 --> 01:01:45,958 to connection," end quote. 57 01:01:46,500 --> 01:01:48,541 So step A asks you to 58 01:01:48,541 --> 01:01:49,791 begin with ownership. 59 01:01:50,333 --> 01:01:51,000 Even when it's 60 01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:53,166 uncomfortable, a simple apology, 61 01:01:53,541 --> 01:01:54,875 I'm sorry for my part. 62 01:01:55,291 --> 01:01:56,666 And that lowers emotional 63 01:01:56,666 --> 01:01:58,708 barriers and signals safety. 64 01:01:59,500 --> 01:02:00,291 Robbins emphasizes 65 01:02:00,291 --> 01:02:01,708 that this isn't weakness, 66 01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:02,708 it's leadership. 67 01:02:03,375 --> 01:02:04,000 Quote, "The strongest 68 01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:06,416 people are willing to go first," 69 01:02:06,666 --> 01:02:07,125 end quote. 70 01:02:07,750 --> 01:02:09,375 Now, once that door is open, 71 01:02:09,708 --> 01:02:11,250 the second half of step 72 01:02:11,250 --> 01:02:12,833 A matters just as much, 73 01:02:13,416 --> 01:02:15,125 asking open-ended questions. 74 01:02:15,666 --> 01:02:18,083 Instead of accusations or assumptions, 75 01:02:18,583 --> 01:02:20,791 Robbins encourages curiosity here. 76 01:02:21,250 --> 01:02:22,000 Questions like, "Can 77 01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:23,083 you help me understand?" 78 01:02:23,750 --> 01:02:25,458 What was that like for you? 79 01:02:25,916 --> 01:02:27,750 Invite honesty instead of resistance. 80 01:02:28,291 --> 01:02:29,291 She explains that 81 01:02:29,291 --> 01:02:31,916 open-ended questions do two things. 82 01:02:32,125 --> 01:02:33,041 First, they shift the 83 01:02:33,041 --> 01:02:34,333 focus away from winning 84 01:02:34,541 --> 01:02:36,000 and toward understanding. 85 01:02:36,625 --> 01:02:38,208 And then secondarily, they 86 01:02:38,208 --> 01:02:39,833 give the other person space 87 01:02:40,333 --> 01:02:42,791 to feel heard, something Robbins calls 88 01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:44,791 a prerequisite for change. 89 01:02:45,166 --> 01:02:45,875 Quote, "People don't 90 01:02:45,875 --> 01:02:47,750 soften when they feel cornered, 91 01:02:47,750 --> 01:02:48,833 "they soften when they 92 01:02:48,833 --> 01:02:50,208 feel seen," end quote. 93 01:02:50,708 --> 01:02:51,916 So this step, it 94 01:02:51,916 --> 01:02:54,125 requires emotional regulation. 95 01:02:54,791 --> 01:02:56,750 You must listen without interrupting, 96 01:02:56,750 --> 01:02:58,000 without defending or 97 01:02:58,000 --> 01:02:59,833 preparing your response. 98 01:03:00,541 --> 01:03:02,416 And Robbins reminds us that, quote, 99 01:03:02,416 --> 01:03:03,125 "Listening is not 100 01:03:03,125 --> 01:03:04,833 waiting for your turn to speak, 101 01:03:05,416 --> 01:03:08,000 "it's choosing to understand," end quote. 102 01:03:08,500 --> 01:03:10,708 So step A isn't about fixing everything 103 01:03:10,708 --> 01:03:11,791 in one conversation, 104 01:03:12,041 --> 01:03:13,791 it's about setting the tone. 105 01:03:14,333 --> 01:03:15,333 When you lead with 106 01:03:15,333 --> 01:03:16,708 humility and curiosity, 107 01:03:17,000 --> 01:03:18,083 you create the conditions 108 01:03:18,083 --> 01:03:19,958 for trust, for progress, 109 01:03:20,416 --> 01:03:21,666 and long-term change. 110 01:03:22,125 --> 01:03:24,666 All right, here is your Friday takeaway. 111 01:03:25,791 --> 01:03:27,625 Apologize to open the door, 112 01:03:27,833 --> 01:03:29,833 then listen to understand, 113 01:03:30,291 --> 01:03:31,000 not win. 114 01:03:31,500 --> 01:03:32,791 All right, today, remember, 115 01:03:32,791 --> 01:03:34,458 a little heat can spice things up. 116 01:03:34,750 --> 01:03:37,041 Just don't burn bridges along the way. 117 01:03:37,583 --> 01:03:38,583 Well, now the prize 118 01:03:38,583 --> 01:03:39,666 from the bottom of the box, 119 01:03:39,666 --> 01:03:40,500 the morning serial 120 01:03:40,500 --> 01:03:41,916 trivia question of the day. 121 01:03:42,500 --> 01:03:43,500 The Genius Friday 122 01:03:43,500 --> 01:03:44,791 version, are you ready for it? 123 01:03:44,791 --> 01:03:45,291 Here it is. 124 01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:50,875 Up, down, top, bottom, strange and charm, 125 01:03:51,625 --> 01:03:55,875 are varieties of what subatomic particle? 126 01:03:56,708 --> 01:03:58,250 All right, thanks for listening to 127 01:03:58,250 --> 01:03:59,083 Morning Serial today 128 01:03:59,083 --> 01:04:01,375 and this week, have a great weekend. 129 01:04:01,875 --> 01:04:03,583 We will see you back here on Monday 130 01:04:03,583 --> 01:04:05,541 for the answer to the trivia question 131 01:04:06,125 --> 01:04:07,458 and more sugar for the soul. 132 01:04:07,791 --> 01:04:11,083 And until then, have a fantastic day. 133 01:04:12,250 --> 01:04:13,791 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 134 01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:15,333 to the Morning Serial podcast 135 01:04:15,541 --> 01:04:17,291 on the One Life Live It channel. 136 01:04:17,791 --> 01:04:19,500 You can find more episodes and videos 137 01:04:19,500 --> 01:04:20,541 by visiting our YouTube 138 01:04:20,541 --> 01:04:21,833 channel and the website 139 01:04:21,916 --> 01:04:24,833 at seaningless and at seaningless.com, 140 01:04:25,083 --> 01:04:25,958 where you can also 141 01:04:25,958 --> 01:04:27,375 follow our other podcast, 142 01:04:27,666 --> 01:04:29,000 the Mr. and Mrs. Inglis podcast 143 01:04:29,375 --> 01:04:30,583 and the Life Happens podcast. 144 01:04:31,416 --> 01:04:33,541 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 145 01:04:33,541 --> 01:04:34,458 into everyday issues, 146 01:04:34,708 --> 01:04:36,000 self-improvement and well-being, 147 01:04:36,208 --> 01:04:38,000 business and finance, and we 148 01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:39,291 welcome special guests too. 149 01:04:39,666 --> 01:04:40,708 So join us, it will be 150 01:04:40,708 --> 01:04:41,833 a good time, I promise. 151 01:04:42,541 --> 01:04:43,041 Thanks again for 152 01:04:43,041 --> 01:04:44,750 listening, have a fantastic day, 153 01:04:45,083 --> 01:04:45,708 and we'll see you tomorrow.