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In this week's episode, FamilyLife staff Al and Val share that porn almost destroyed their marriage and what it looked like to choose to stay together and work on getting porn out of their home.
Show Notes
Welcome to episode #9! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt interview FamilyLife Canada staff, Val and Al. They share about how porn almost ended their marriage - and how they chose to fight and save their relationship!
Here is a brief summary of the episode.
Here is a brief summary of the episode.
Denial and hiddenness create secrecy and mistrust
Al and Val share how a veneer of secrets may keep the outside appearances looking okay, but a big secret like a porn addiction leaves a feeling of insecurity that can't be glossed over. It is better to tell the truth and build trust instead of trying to hide a secret that will lead to feelings of betrayal when exposed.
Al and Val share how a veneer of secrets may keep the outside appearances looking okay, but a big secret like a porn addiction leaves a feeling of insecurity that can't be glossed over. It is better to tell the truth and build trust instead of trying to hide a secret that will lead to feelings of betrayal when exposed.
Truthful conversations - while uncomfortable and at times painful - are necessary!
A truthful conversation may seem like something we'd rather avoid because potential conflict is never an easy option, however it is always the better option long-term. If we avoid necessary conversations like disclosing a porn addiction, the avoidance will almost always lead to much greater conflict and potential for marital breakdown. But with God's help, we can have difficult conversations that can be an opportunity for a deepening of trust and reconciliation.
A truthful conversation may seem like something we'd rather avoid because potential conflict is never an easy option, however it is always the better option long-term. If we avoid necessary conversations like disclosing a porn addiction, the avoidance will almost always lead to much greater conflict and potential for marital breakdown. But with God's help, we can have difficult conversations that can be an opportunity for a deepening of trust and reconciliation.
We need to lean on God in dealing with our pain and helping us to forgive
Following Jesus prompts us to choose to love one another and forgive as we have been forgiven. This process isn't easy - especially when pain and hurt exist in our marriage. Forgiveness is a choice that will lead to healing for both spouses. It is so powerful to forgive even when we don't feel like it and before we're fully healed from the negative effects of porn. Leaning into God will help us forgive and will help deal with our pain and trauma.
Freedom is amazing!
God wants us all to have purpose and vision in marriage. Porn hi-jacks your intimacy and takes your eyes off of your purpose. When porn is out of your marriage,you'll have deeper intimacy and you'll see God at work in your marriage and in the lives of those you're impacting as well.
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Next week, Braden and Matt talk about another "taboo" topic... masturbation. They discuss whether it is helpful or harmful! It will be another great discussion, so tune in and check it out!
Resources
Fight 4 Love Ministries: A biblical plan to get porn out of your marriage
Article on FamilyLife Canada: Getting porn out of your life and marriage
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Freedom is amazing!
God wants us all to have purpose and vision in marriage. Porn hi-jacks your intimacy and takes your eyes off of your purpose. When porn is out of your marriage,you'll have deeper intimacy and you'll see God at work in your marriage and in the lives of those you're impacting as well.
Share With Your Friends
Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.
Subscribe
Next week, Braden and Matt talk about another "taboo" topic... masturbation. They discuss whether it is helpful or harmful! It will be another great discussion, so tune in and check it out!
Resources
Fight 4 Love Ministries: A biblical plan to get porn out of your marriage
Article on FamilyLife Canada: Getting porn out of your life and marriage
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
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FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
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Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 12 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com
MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guy, David, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honored to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.
WHAT IS PURE VICTORY PODCAST?
Faith-based inspiration to win at sex, conquer porn and find purpose in staying free forever.
Creators & Guests
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Host
Matt Cline
Matt Cline is the founder and director of Restored Ministries, focused on leading men and women out of sexual bondage and into a life of impact and freedom in Christ. He is a leading speaker and coach in Canada on the topic of sexual brokenness and has seen countless lives radically changed all around the world. You can learn more about Restored Ministries at www.restoredministries.ca.
What is Pure Victory Podcast?
Faith-based inspiration to win at sex, conquer porn, and find purpose in staying free forever.